🎙️Nalee's Hypothetical Hotline - Episode 7 - The Wedding Switch (AUDIO ONLY)🎙️

This week on Nalee’s Hypothetical Hotline 📞… we’re walking straight into a situation that feels like a test of loyalty, boundaries, and emotional maturity all at once:

Your best friend is getting married 💍…
 and the person at the end of the aisle is your ex.

Yeah. Let’s talk about it.

This episode dives into the unspoken pressure to be supportive when your past is literally standing at the altar. Do you show up and smile? Set boundaries and step back? Or question the entire situation from the start?

We unpack the difference between being a good friend and being a pushover, the emotional weight of shared history, and how cultural expectations, family dynamics, and even children can complicate things even further.

Because it’s not just about attending a wedding—it’s about what you’re agreeing to by being there.

Can you genuinely support your friend without betraying yourself?
 Does history expire… or does it quietly follow you into the present?

And when roles start shifting—guest, best friend, godparent—where do you draw the line?

Takeaways that hit a little too close:

•  🤝 Support shouldn’t come at the expense of your boundaries 
•  🚧 Being understanding doesn’t mean accepting everything 
•  💔 Past relationships don’t always stay in the past 
•  👀 Intentions matter—but so does impact 
•  🧠 Navigating friendship and history requires honesty on both sides 

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Transcript

Cold Open And Hotline Setup

unknown 0:31

But everyone can play like a lot like a bumper.

Best Friend Marries Your Ex

NALEE 0:46

Ring, ring, ring, and hello. Welcome back to Nolly's Hypothetical Hotline. The show where I present you with a messy little situation and you tell me what you would do. Alright, well, today's question is a spicy one. Would you go to your best friend's wedding if the person they were marrying was your ex? Alright, so here's the scenario. You dated someone for three years. It didn't just end, it exploded. I'm talking crying on the floor, blocked on everything, the I'm never speaking to you again type of breakup. And about a year ago, your best friend starts seeing someone new. They're happy, they're glowing, posting cute date nights. And of course, you're supportive of it because that's your best friend. Six months into the relationship, they finally show you a picture. And well, lo and behold, it's your damn ex. You've comp you're completely blindsided. Your friend swears they didn't even realize it at first, and then by the time they did, they were already too deep into it. Time passes, you try to move on, things are awkward, but you keep the peace. Then one day they sit down with huge news. They're engaged, and the gut punch moment is that they grab your hands and say, Of course you'll be in the wedding. You're my best friend. It wouldn't feel right without you standing next to me. All right. So again, the central question of the situation is do you show up for your best friend, even if that means watching your ex at the altar? Or do you project your own piece? Project, do you protect your own piece and say no? And go.

Going Versus Protecting Your Peace

ANTHONY 2:33

Okay. So this was a messy one. This was there was a lot to unpack in this one. And the central question is, is do I show up for my best friend? Can you define that by showing up?

NALEE 2:49

Do you go to the wedding? Is what I mean. Do you go to the wedding? Okay.

ANTHONY 2:52

Yeah. I'll go to the wedding. I won't be in the wedding. And if I'm invited to be part of the wedding, I would politely decline.

NALEE 3:02

But that's what she's asking. She said, Of course you'll be in the wedding. You're my best friend. It wouldn't feel right without stand without you standing next to me. So she wants you to be a bridesmaid or a best man.

ANTHONY 3:13

A may a man of honor. No, I would politely decline. I will go to the wedding and I will support your choices, but I don't want to be part of it. And I don't want to be God willing. I don't want to be forever memorialized in, you know, the wedding photos and the group photos.

NALEE 3:37

Okay, interesting.

ANTHONY 3:39

Is that not the answer that you were looking for or hoping for?

NALEE 3:43

I wasn't hoping for anything, but in my opinion, I wouldn't go.

ANTHONY 3:46

You wouldn't go to the wedding?

NALEE 3:47

I would not go to the wedding.

ANTHONY 3:49

Why?

NALEE 3:51

Because it's kind of like what you said, but I don't want to be included in any of the photos. I don't want to be included in the memory of it. And yes, even if if it's my best friend, I would hope that she understands that I wouldn't want to come because that was my ex. You know what I mean? Like even if they are dating. But then again, it comes down to okay, like how long were we together before he became my ex? And you know, but I guess it doesn't really matter because he is an ex.

ANTHONY 4:22

Well, it does because you said it, you said it in the scenario. You were you dated him for three years.

NALEE 4:27

Yeah.

ANTHONY 4:28

That's a pretty long fucking time, especially for the way that it ended.

NALEE 4:35

Yeah.

ANTHONY 4:35

I mean, there wasn't a lot of details about how it ended other than it was messy and like heartbreaking.

NALEE 4:42

I don't know. I I still wouldn't go. I don't care if it's my friend, whatever. Well, I do care. I lied. Not that I don't care about her, but I think because this is such a sticky situation, I think I've talked about this before where you should never. Yeah, you you should never invite your ex to your wedding or to yeah, to your wedding. It brings back old memories. There's history there. And let's just say if things go down, like you don't want to be there. Let's say, you know, if they go to the altar and he's like, Well, I can't. I wanna, I I wanna be with my ex or whatever, and it was me who was the ex he's talking about. Like, I don't know, shit could just get real dirty and messy. That's all I gotta say. Don't invite an ex to a wedding at all.

ANTHONY 5:25

I would relish in that opportunity for him to stand her up at the altar because then I would pull. Yeah, I don't even know if you've ever seen the movie, but like Sex in the City, the movie.

NALEE 5:40

Yeah.

ANTHONY 5:41

Have you seen it?

NALEE 5:43

Yeah. Where Sarah Parker, she comes out and she's like, Hitting him with the bouquet of flowers. And then Charlotte's friends, no, no.

ANTHONY 5:52

I would fucking, I would totally be the one like, you get the fuck away from her.

NALEE 5:56

Yeah.

ANTHONY 5:57

Hell yeah. I would relish in that opportunity to put that motherfucker in his place.

NALEE 6:02

I w I thought you were gonna say something along the lines of like, that's what you wanted to see, like somebody getting stood up or somebody getting rejected. Because you're not like.

ANTHONY 6:11

Yeah, but not my best friend. I wouldn't want to see that happen to my best friend. And that would that would be ultimately the only reason that I would go to the wedding. Right? Okay. Because you are my best friend. I'm gonna support your choices. I'm gonna be there. But again, I'd step back. I'm not gonna be part like in the party. I don't want to be part of the photos. I'm gonna hang back away from the photographers. I'm not gonna do any of the I'm not gonna be caught on camera doing the chicken dance for your wedding.

Should Friends Date An Ex

NALEE 6:41

Yeah. I don't know. I feel like it's kind of there's too many things there. Like I feel like the mature me would be like, oh yeah, like, you know, yeah, you should never. How should I put this? Because I wanna I want to talk about the next point because it kind of is in relation to this. Like, is dating your best friend's ex ever acceptable? And I don't think it is. Because again, we've been together for three years. How are you gonna date him? Obviously, the mature version of me would be like, oh, you know what? Maybe he's she's better for him, maybe he's changed, maybe he's grown and he's good for her. That's the mature version of me, but the actual version of me.

ANTHONY 7:19

The petty version.

NALEE 7:20

Right. It's like, bitch, like you are my best friend. You should not be dating my ex. That's like girl code. That's girl code, guy code. I don't know about anybody else, but that's just like you don't date a friend's ex. That's it. And if you do, then you weren't my friend. And again, I feel like we talked about this kind of similar.

ANTHONY 7:39

We have talked about this because I'm bringing up the exact same point that I brought up before. And it doesn't say it in your scenario here. Were you friends when you were dating this ex? I would assume so. You're but you're assuming It says here you were completely blindsided.

NALEE 7:58

Your friend swears, they didn't realize at first, and then by the time they did, they were already in too deep. So she knew that he was my ex.

ANTHONY 8:05

After she was already in too deep. Okay.

NALEE 8:07

Right. So she knew about it.

ANTHONY 8:09

Okay. Well, what do you expect? You would expect her to break it off after they've been. I wouldn't expect her to break it off.

NALEE 8:17

Let's just say if they hit it off, good for them. But I probably would step away from the relationship, like from our relationship. From the friendship. Right. Like I wouldn't I wouldn't cut her off, but I would just like distance myself for a little bit and be like, okay, well, I need to reevaluate what I want what I want to do. Because clearly, this isn't about them, it's about me. And I need to be able to sit with that part of it. And if I can't, then you know, it's like it's me, it's not you, kind of a thing. Like I need to stay away from it because it's me, it's not you. And you guys go on and live a happy life, have kids, whatever the fuck. But as far as me, like I can't deal with it and I need to peace out. You know what I mean?

ANTHONY 8:58

Yeah. And I think that that's fair. I mean, if you're protecting your own peace, then that's really obviously that's that's number one, right?

SPEAKER_00 9:08

Yeah. Yeah. But I don't know.

ANTHONY 9:10

I have personal opinions about the whole like bro code and girl code. Like, I feel like there should there needs to be, or if there aren't already, like certain things in place. Like, I feel like it's one thing if it's like, oh, you and him just broke up and now you're best friends dating him two months later. But like, if it's like five years down the road, people change and somehow their paths crossed and they fell in love again. Like, there has to be like an end date on that that girl code and that bro code.

NALEE 9:47

I guess. I don't know. Maybe I'm just a petty type or I'm just a jealous type.

ANTHONY 9:52

Well, and again, this goes back to the conversation that we had previously about like if you live in a small town, everybody has dated everybody. What are you what are you supposed to do? You're just supposed to be like, well, I dated him, him, him, go out of town.

NALEE 10:05

So as my best friend, go out of town. Go out.

ANTHONY 10:08

90% of the town is off limits. You can date their dads.

NALEE 10:11

Go out of town.

ANTHONY 10:13

Go out of town.

NALEE 10:14

Can we just take a moment to like take a look at you? You look so fucking skinny, y'all.

ANTHONY 10:21

Stop. No, we're not gonna be. You look so good. Uh at all.

NALEE 10:25

No. Anthony looks so good, y'all.

ANTHONY 10:28

And I can't even see you right now because it's just for some reason it's blurry on my end.

NALEE 10:33

I don't know. It's blurry on mine too, but I'm sure it'll turn out fine.

ANTHONY 10:37

Yeah, it'll it always turns out fine.

NALEE 10:39

Yeah, so it's because I'm a blur, okay? It's exactly what I am. I'm a blur. But back to the situation on hand.

unknown 10:50

Yes.

NALEE 10:51

Oh, thank you. They always look good, I think. But I don't know. I feel like I don't know. I'm the jealous petty type. Like, bitch, don't date my boyfriend, my ex. If you date him, whatever. I mean, I guess there's a difference too. Like for me, if he was a shitty person and you were to date him, I don't think I would feel bad. I'd be like, eh, he was a piece of shit anyways.

ANTHONY 11:14

But if you get what you yeah.

NALEE 11:16

Right. But if he actually was somebody who I was like, damn, I poured my heart and soul into this, and you know, I obviously loved him and whatever, then to me, I would be like hella bitter. I would be like, oh, so you can make it work for this bitch, but you can make it work for me.

ANTHONY 11:33

Even if it was like five years later or seven years later.

NALEE 11:36

Yeah, there's always gonna be that. There's I think there's that thing of like, once you love somebody and once you've been in a relationship and once they know everything about you whatsoever, there will always be that feeling of love and that feeling of attraction, attraction towards them, no matter how long it's been. Just like sweet home Alabama, you know, like she was gone for a long time, she came back and they got it together. You know what I mean? So it's just kind of like that, where time really isn't a thing when there it really is true attraction, I feel like, in my opinion. So yeah, I feel like, yes, even if I try not to be petty, I probably will be petty about him.

ANTHONY 12:18

Okay, so I have a question for you. So let's say you're dating a guy for three years. You guys break up this exact scenario. You break up and it was a horrible breakup, and then five years go by and you're going to yoga. I don't fucking know. I'm just making shit up right now.

NALEE 12:42

Do that look like I'd go to yoga?

ANTHONY 12:44

Yes.

NALEE 12:45

Let's make it a little more relieved.

ANTHONY 12:46

I can totally picture you doing yoga. Okay, fine. Five years later, you're at the ice cream store, ice cream shop.

NALEE 12:53

McDonald's, hello?

ANTHONY 12:55

McDonald's, and you end up somehow befriending a woman, and you guys like really hit it off. You become friends, you change, you exchange numbers, and then you're like, oh, we're gonna go. I'm not gonna say go on a run together. You're gonna start going to the gym. You're gonna start going to the gym working out together, and you're like, you guys are taking classes together, and then like after like five months or something, I don't know, you find out that she's dating your ex. I'd be fine.

NALEE 13:27

I wouldn't cut go ahead. Go ahead with your own. You'd be fine.

ANTHONY 13:30

You'd like you'd maintain the relationship, you'd and stay friends with her.

NALEE 13:34

No, I would not. Even if I didn't know her, I wouldn't.

ANTHONY 13:38

Oh, I thought you just said you'd be fine with it.

NALEE 13:40

No, I wouldn't be fine with it.

ANTHONY 13:42

Oh.

NALEE 13:43

Yeah. I should have waited for you to finish your a your question.

ANTHONY 13:47

I'm putting I'm trying to put plot holes. Are you okay?

NALEE 13:50

Yeah, I hit my tattoo. I wish I did. I'm gonna. I'm just kidding. Anyways. Yep, that one. Exactly. But yeah. Okay. I don't think I would know. I don't think I would be mad at her. Obviously, I have no right to be mad at her because I she didn't know him while we were dating. But if I found out that, oh shit, like that's my ex, I probably would tell her. I don't know if I would tell her, but I would be like, oh yeah, like I don't think we should be friends anymore. And then if she does ask me, then I would be like, Well, you're getting married to my ex. You know what I mean? But if she doesn't ask me, I would just be like, peace out.

ANTHONY 15:31

No, but if they were just dating, what if they're not getting married? They're just dating. Does that change anything?

NALEE 15:36

Yeah, I'd still be like, bye.

ANTHONY 15:38

Really?

NALEE 15:39

Mm-hmm.

ANTHONY 15:40

That's unfortunate. But I'd be like, You're holding what he did to you over somebody else.

NALEE 15:48

No, the thing is because I feel like when when it's situations like that, the ex, whoever on which side, is the bad one. It's always the bad one. You know what I mean? So let's say if he was talking to her about me, saying that I was crazy, blah, blah, blah, blah. And then come to find out we end up being friends, then if she finds out that I'm his ex, she's gonna be like, oh shit, she's fucking crazy. I shouldn't be her friend. And regardless, she probably will not want to be my friend either if she found out that I was the ex. You know what I mean?

ANTHONY 16:16

You think so?

NALEE 16:17

I think so, because that's kind of how girls are. Especially, let's say if she found out that I was the ex and then I knew that I was the ex and I didn't tell her, she would be like, oh shit, like this bitch has been trying to play me this whole time to get close to my to get close to my man. And in reality, it c it may not even be that. You know what I mean?

ANTHONY 16:35

Yeah.

NALEE 16:36

So I don't know.

ANTHONY 16:37

Yes.

NALEE 16:38

That's just how I that's just how I see it. But yeah, no, I don't think I would be friends with her. But I will say to her, if y'all don't like end up together, like hit me up, I'll still be your friend. But if you continue to like, you know, be with him, like I hope you have a good relationship with him. I wouldn't wish her anything bad. I would just say, you know, like, I hope you guys have a good life. I hope he loves you, blah, blah, blah, blah. And then I'd move on with my day.

ANTHONY 17:04

Wow. Okay. I guess I just like to think that everybody can be like, I'm not an adult when it comes to relationships. Wow. Wow.

NALEE 17:15

Hey, at least I could be honest about it.

ANTHONY 17:17

Yeah, at least you're honest about it. I'm not gonna hold that against you. And so I, if anything, I appreciate that more that you're strong and or you're standing strong in your convictions. Stand by your guns. And I'm gonna have more respect for you.

NALEE 17:33

Exactly.

unknown 17:34

Okay.

NALEE 17:35

Point blank period.

ANTHONY 17:37

What else you got for me with this hypothetical mamped?

Supportive Friend Or Total Pushover

NALEE 17:39

Okay, so now I'm gonna push back on what you I mean, what you said. So do you think you attending would make you uh attending the wedding would make you supportive, or are you a pushover?

ANTHONY 17:49

Say that again.

NALEE 17:51

So would you attending the wedding make you supportive? I don't know what that was. Sorry.

ANTHONY 17:56

Do you need to go check that out?

NALEE 17:58

No, it's probably something you're not being robbed, are you? No, it was something in my sink.

ANTHONY 18:03

Oh, okay.

NALEE 18:04

Yeah, it was my pile of dishes from two days ago.

ANTHONY 18:08

Boy back.

NALEE 18:11

Yeah, they're soaking. They've been soaking for a week. I'm just kidding. Um, so does the amount of time sorry, wrong question.

ANTHONY 18:21

I can't right now.

NALEE 18:23

I can't either. That shit got me stirred up. Okay. Would attending the wedding make you supportive or a pushover? That was my question.

ANTHONY 18:32

I think it would make me supportive.

NALEE 18:34

I think it would make you a pushover.

ANTHONY 18:36

Why? How is it making me a pushover? Because I'm making the decision to attend to support my friend. If now I would say I would be a pushover if my friend was like, please be in the wedding party. And I was like, okay, that would be a pushover. But by me standing my ground and saying, you know what, politefully, I'm gonna decline your invitation to be part of the wedding, but I will come to support you. That's supportive. That's not being a pushover. Because my friend is not getting what they want by me not being in their wedding party.

NALEE 19:10

Okay. Boom, bitch. Okay. Good point. I don't know. I was just saying that to see what you would say. So good for you. Good for sticking with your guns. I wouldn't be there, so I don't think it would matter if I was supportive or not, because I ain't going.

ANTHONY 19:26

Well, you're not being supportive by not being there, and you're not being a pushover by not being there.

NALEE 19:31

Yeah, so it is what it is, is what it is. Do you think then the friend that the friendship would survive if you refused?

ANTHONY 19:40

Refuse to attend the wedding or refuse to be in the wedding party?

NALEE 19:43

If you refuse to in the be in the wedding party. Because they want you in it. You can show up, but they could still like see you differently from then. Because they're like, oh, this bitch don't even want to be a part of this.

ANTHONY 19:55

I think the friendship would survive from my end. Now, if the friendship were to not survive solely because of that, I'm gonna I'm gonna push all the blame on my friend. That's gonna fall all to my friend. Because if you can't see why I wouldn't want to stand up in your wedding party, that's all on you, boo.

NALEE 20:17

Okay. Valid, valid point blank point blank period. Okay. All right. Well, yeah, I don't, I don't know. I feel like it would. Now, on the flip side, I guess you would be then in agreement that if you invited your friend and she didn't want to be a part of it and she didn't want to come, you would be understanding of that. That because it was your ex, you don't want to come. Or would you be like, it's just my ex, or it's just your ex. Like, why is it such a big deal?

ANTHONY 20:46

Say that again. You got you had me confused because it sounded like you were asking me if like the roles were reverse, but then you said my ex.

NALEE 20:55

Yeah, so today's a fucking bust. It's been a it's been a long S day, y'all. I'm sorry, I'm spacing out.

ANTHONY 21:03

It has been a long S day.

NALEE 21:04

Okay, so my question was, fuck, I look so fucking stupid. The question was if you were the friend who was asking, so if you're asking me to come to your wedding, would you be understanding of the fact that I don't show up or that I don't, I'm not gonna involve myself in the wedding? Or are you gonna be like, well, he's just your ex. Why is it such a big deal?

ANTHONY 21:28

Okay, so there's multiple facets. There's multiple facets to those questions because one, yes, I would be upset if you ch if you chose not to come at all. I would be more understanding if you were to say, you know what, he's my ex. I'm I'm not I won't stand up in your wedding party, but I will show up to support you. I would be more understanding of that. And if you were to say, Well, I'm not gonna come to the wedding at all because it's my ex, I would respond with he's just your ex. So they're just your ex. I'm not asking you to marry them. I'm not asking you, okay, fine, you don't want to be part of the wedding party, but at least come to support my decisions. Because that as a friend, I would expect you to do is to support my decisions in my life.

NALEE 22:20

Okay.

ANTHONY 22:21

Because otherwise, what kind of friendship is it if you're not gonna support my decisions?

Godmother Logic And Cultural Differences

SPEAKER_00 22:26

Okay. Interesting.

ANTHONY 22:29

So does that mean if three years later we have a child, you're not gonna and I I want to choose you to be the godmother, you're not gonna be my child's godmother because they're your ex?

NALEE 22:43

Are you asking me that, or are you saying it like a rhetorical question?

ANTHONY 22:47

Both. I mean, yeah, I'm asked no, I'm asking you. I'm asking you.

NALEE 22:50

Oh, okay.

ANTHONY 22:51

In this situation, if you were to say, I'm not gonna come to your wedding, it's my ex, it's messy, I don't want to be there.

NALEE 22:57

Yeah. I wouldn't go still, even if she's felt like that. I would let her know, though. I feel like you should understand that because it's my ex, I'm just not comfortable coming. However, I support your decision in marrying him. If you have kids, of course. I'm not gonna be like, I'm not gonna do anything with that child. Like, even if she is still with my ex, I think regardless, I would still be the godmother if that was what it was. But I'm not I just don't want to like I think like when you the thing too is here's the thing a wedding is a very emotional like celebration it's a very emotional like I don't know milestone whatever it's called because people are getting married and you you I don't know I don't know about other people but when people get married you kind of reflect on your life it's just kind of something that happens and so then you know let's just say if I was to go to it like I could be you know if I got if I got drunk I could be Miss Messy Boots and fuck everything up you know like I would prefer to stop I don't know I don't know how to say it but I just think again bottom line is I understand it's your best friend and it's her wedding and obviously it's her ex and that's her choice it's your ex and that's her choice but at the end of the day like bottom line is no matter if you're my best friend no matter if you're my sister whatever cousin if it's my ex and you're asking me to go I'm not gonna go because it's messy I don't think it's a good idea for me to be there and if anything I'm doing it for your sake not mine because things can happen like I like what what's gonna happen you're gonna I don't know maybe hurt in the coat room or that could happen or feelings come back again there's history there's that attraction where he's like he could be like oh shit like she's here like you know what I mean I'd rather just not be there to cause any kind of rift I would just be like congratulations I'm really happy for you obviously it's not that I'm not supportive of you but the situation is a sticky one and I'm I'm just not gonna be there for your wedding I'll send you a wedding gift if you guys have kids I will be the godmother I'm just not coming to your wedding wedding okay so I have multiple problems with that that I'm gonna raise red flags for okay okay so the first is so you would if asked to be godparent you would accept that role so you're showing up for a child but you wouldn't show up for your best friend on their wedding day. Yep Okay So that was the first thing Do you have any other comments or concerns about that?

ANTHONY 25:44

Well I mean I could go down the rabbit hole of that I I Okay it's that's sad to hear.

NALEE 25:51

How's that sad to hear? I could be supportive of her wedding in ever in any other way rather than other than just showing up how my question is is how is the wedding different from being godmother to their child?

ANTHONY 26:03

Because you're saying that you don't want to go to the wedding because it's your ex, but now you're gonna be godmother to the child of your ex. What's the difference? Where are you drawing the line in the sand that one is okay and the other isn't because I ain't gonna be seeing him smush her up.

NALEE 26:18

I'm not gonna see him at the altar doing stuff that I wanted in what I wished for. I don't want to see that.

ANTHONY 26:25

If you're married You don't think you're gonna see that when you're when you have to have like a ceremony like announcing you as godparent or godmother and whoever the godfather is and then you're in this ceremony you're going to see your friend with your ex at the ceremony.

NALEE 26:43

Okay so that's the thing is that we have we live in different cultures though that's the thing if I was a godmother to one of the ch children we don't have a whole last celebration we just say oh okay but let's let's use me as an example then because I don't have the same type of celebration as you okay and yeah in that situation I don't know I don't know because when it involves a child I'm sensitive to that's what I'm saying. Yeah that that's why it's different for me like it's different. I don't know I don't know how to explain it I don't have I I clearly don't have any logic whatever well in my opinion it's logical but I if it's a wedding I'm just not showing up but if it's involving a kid and it's a celebration or whatever then yeah I would go but the thing in reality is I don't even think they're gonna ask me to be the godmother you know what I mean like I don't think that's gonna happen.

ANTHONY 27:39

Well yeah I mean I guess you're right especially if you don't go to their wedding you're gonna be the last person they ask.

NALEE 27:44

Exactly so it wouldn't even matter.

ANTHONY 27:47

Okay so let's go back to the whole wedding thing.

NALEE 27:50

Okay.

ANTHONY 27:51

So you couldn't even consider meeting in the middle and being like I won't go to the ceremony but I'll go to the reception.

NALEE 27:58

See that's the thing too we don't have that it's just a big wedding celebration.

ANTHONY 28:01

So if it was like an American wedding if it was your wedding this is your friend this isn't your wedding yeah I would go to I wouldn't go no I wouldn't wow yeah wow so don't date my ex point blink period and then going back to you're like what if I go and I get drunk and I get sloppy bitch that's on you. You a grown ass fucking woman control your liquor don't get drunk that's all I'm gonna say on that.

NALEE 28:30

Good. I mean that's a good point but at the same time Yeah I know I'm full of I'm not gonna I'm not gonna that's why I'm I'm not gonna you're not gonna control yourself no that's why I'm gonna go home get drunk on the day that you get married and do it all at home in my own my own little home get crazy on my own do be my own duluness and then leave it at that okay but yeah I'm not I would not go to an ex's wedding even if you are my best friend. Again if you're my best friend you shouldn't be dating my ex. Unless you didn't know them I would give you the leeway but I ain't showing up doesn't mean that I hate you doesn't mean anything against you I'm just not coming. You should not bring your exes to your wedding because the thing is what if he ends up leaving with me? See?

ANTHONY 29:14

Okay that brings me up to the last point that I wanted to say and then we can move on to whatever other questions you have.

NALEE 29:20

Okay.

ANTHONY 29:20

But you had made the comment like what if I go and feelings you know rehash and he wants to get back with you. If anything fair fair completely understandable and would be much appreciated but if anything if that were to happen ultimately aren't you saving your best friend from making a horrible mistake because if he's if he's that willing to be like oh I know we dated for three years and we broke up you know how many years ago and now I'm thinking about you if you don't go to the wedding what's to stop him from marrying your best friend and then in two years being like oh and and cheating and having an affair.

NALEE 30:07

But why is that my responsibility? I'm not saying it's your responsibility but I'm just saying that if that's something that you're thinking about in your mind that could be a potential outcome from you showing up to the wedding then at the end of the day you're doing your best friend a favor by saving them from you know finalizing the I does again I don't think that's my responsibility I I'm not saying it's your responsibility like I get it it's my I get it it's my best friend and yeah I would save her from getting married but the thing is whether or not she gets married to him because he's like that or not who knows he could be fucking a bridesmaid. You don't know that if he's gonna cheat he's gonna cheat so why would why would I put myself in a situation because at the end of the day what if she ends up getting mad at me where she's like well you should have never came then or blah blah blah blah you have all the more reason to be like you fucking invited me you wanted me here. Yeah no I'm not coming goodbye this situation this is a closed case this is a gas chamber case like this is a gas chamber case yeah like I'm not coming I whether or not you know it was fresh or whatever if you're dating my ex, I'm not coming um if you have kids and you decide to stupidly tell me to be your godmother or their godmother or whatever I will support the child but at the same time I don't think that's gonna happen because if I didn't show up to your wedding you're you would be stupid to make me their godmother. And on top of that like if me not coming because he's my ex ruins your relations or like makes you feel some sort of way, I understand I'm not gonna hate you for it but at the same time I feel like you shouldn't hate me for it either. I feel like you should understand that oh I get it. You know what I mean? I'm not gonna hold you to it kind of a thing. But yeah that's that's just how I see it.

ANTHONY 32:12

I get it. I hear you and I get it. But where what I'm having a problem with is the fact that this is and I'm not trying to change your mind I'm just I'm asking questions because I want to know what your thing is what your thought is. Yeah but where I'm struggling is here I am your best friend, right? We're such good friends and I'm having this monumental moment in my life and you won't be there to support me for it. Like I feel like that's one of those things where it's like you a friendship or a relationship can't come back from that. Like that's gonna do damage. Because you can't you're you're essentially choosing yourself over your friend. Like you're not able to put your pride you're not able to swallow your pride and show up to support your best friend.

NALEE 34:02

Hmm that's a good point but I think I'm still gonna stick to my guns I don't think I'm yeah thank you very much.

SPEAKER_00 34:11

Thank you very much.

ANTHONY 34:12

Have a day yeah exactly thank you come again um yeah I don't think I don't think I would come regardless so then my follow-up question is or I'm gonna turn your question around back to you do you think the friendship is gonna survive by you not going to your best friend's wedding?

NALEE 34:29

I think it would survive but there's there would definitely be a shift in the relationship for sure.

ANTHONY 34:34

Yeah. Because I'm I'm wondering how do you maintain that relationship so you don't go to the wedding because he's your ex. Are you gonna go over to their house for house parties knowing he's your ex and they're married now? Or are you just gonna exclude yourself from all of those events too? Probably yeah so basically the friendship's over unless the two of you hang out away from her yeah yeah pretty much that sounds like a sad situation but again don't date my exactly you'd be willing to throw a relationship probably yeah yep y'all could judge me it's okay no judgment this is this is a judgment free zone I'm just trying to understand yeah I don't think I would but again I'm trying to give you food for thought for like Yeah I don't think I would those are really good points.

NALEE 35:22

Thank you so much for asking me those questions politically correct.

ANTHONY 35:27

Thank those are really good points.

NALEE 35:30

Thank you so much for I think at the end of the day my my answer is still gonna be that I'm not gonna come to an ex's wedding even if you are my best friend. My rebuttal to that is yes your wedding is a monumental moment for you but we're gonna have plenty of other monumental moments.

ANTHONY 35:49

So yeah but that's like God willing that's a once in a lifetime thing.

NALEE 35:55

Show me pictures when your wedding's done and I'll I'll be so happy for you. That's it.

Revenge Jokes And Hard Boundaries

ANTHONY 36:00

You're gonna look at those pictures and you'll be like oh shit I didn't get a piece of that delicious red velvet looking cake. Exactly oh shit I didn't get that free open bar I didn't get to get drunk for free you bitch here's what you do you here's okay I'm gonna tell you here's what you do. This solves everything Okay what? You go to the ceremony No not the ceremony I'm sorry you don't go to the ceremony you go to the reception okay especially if it's an open bar you just get fucking hammered and then you fuck your ex's dad I'm dead or or his brother or his best man.

NALEE 36:40

Interesting there.

ANTHONY 36:42

I said it I don't want anything to do with their family if he's my ex I don't want anything I'm not asking you to have a baby I'm asking you to fuck his dad so you could be like I fucked your dad now your mom's getting divorced from him. You could be like you don't fuck like your dad Yes exactly or you could walk up toxic what's going on after you get drunk and you fuck his dad in the coat room you walk up to him and your best friend and you say you look at him and you say your dad's a better fuck than you and then he'll be like my Uber is here and you leave.

NALEE 37:19

Okay but then that points out that's like you also trying to sabotage your friend's marriage though. You know what I mean?

ANTHONY 37:25

Like how is that sabotaging their wedding their marriage? Because the thing How is you fucking his dad fucking up their relationship.

NALEE 37:32

Because it's probably gonna make him jealous and then there's probably gonna happen something's gonna happen and then your best friend is going to end up crying and they're gonna end up divorcing.

ANTHONY 37:40

No well they probably will end up divorcing because what's gonna happen is he's gonna be so self-conscious that he's gonna never be able to get an erection again. They're never gonna be able to have sex again and they're never gonna have kids.

NALEE 37:50

Exactly I don't want to do that. And she can't but your friend can't blame you for that.

ANTHONY 37:55

Oh no bottom line you were at a wedding you were at a wedding you got drunk and you got your kitty licked you got your kitty tickled you got your kitty trained I don't give a shit what you want to call it she can't hold you hold that against you the kitty wants what the kitty wants I don't know and what the kitty wants is not coming. That's what the kitty wants who knows maybe the kid the kitty did come.

NALEE 38:19

I don't know maybe the kid maybe the kitty came okay thank you so much for trying to convince me to come to your reception and your wedding but if you date my ex, I'm not coming. That's bottom line. Regardless I'm a that's a hill I will die on I will die on that I disagree with that I disagree with that.

ANTHONY 38:39

That is not a hill you would die on because just 10 minutes ago you said depending on if they knew that it was my ex. Yeah that's it so let's just say it let's say it's me.

NALEE 38:49

Let's say it's me my situation was if I found out that they were like the distance or the time like the Pilates lady or the yoga lady you're talking about right my friend Yeah okay I'm still answering the same thing. I will leave that relationship. I would be like okay bye he's my ex. I don't want to be involved in that sorry gotta fix my boobs and then same thing with same thing with the wedding if you're my ex if I have to see him I'm not gonna do it.

ANTHONY 39:17

Okay so question for you. Bottom line Okay you date trying to make me see my ex No I'm just trying to ask this because I'm genuinely trying to understand your your logic here. Yeah so let's say you date a guy from 2010 to 2013 three years you break up in 2013 2014 you make a new friend let's call her Patricia even better Patricia you meet you make a new friend named Patricia in 2014 okay you're both single let's say come 2020 six years later she meets somebody she starts dating somebody you have no idea who it is in 22 or no 2000 2021 the math ain't mathing the math ain't mathing 2021 you meet your friend Patricia's new beau that she's been dating now for a year and it's your ex. So you dated the guy for three years almost 10 years ago seven years ago you haven't seen him in seven years and you've been friends with her now for four what was it four years?

SPEAKER_00 40:36

No six years.

ANTHONY 40:37

You've been friends with her for six years now seven years you've been friends with her for seven years. Well I'm trying to do the math in my head I don't have the st okay so you dated a guy 2010 to 2013 you met somebody in 2014 became best friends with them from 2014 to 2020 in 2020 Patricia started dating a guy okay that's six years that's six years okay in 2021 seven years after you've broken up with the guy Patricia finally introduces you to the guy and the guy turns out to be your ex you're ending that friendship because she's dating your ex or will you go to their wedding when they get married?

NALEE 41:13

I don't know.

ANTHONY 41:14

That's a tough one boom mic drop stump the I don't think I would go stump the hoe I don't think I would go you wouldn't go to the wedding I don't think so which in turn from our conversation 15 20 minutes ago you said the relationship wouldn't survive if you didn't go to their wedding yeah so now you're ending a seven year friendship with somebody because they're dating they started dating your ex that you dated for three years I don't know I think again I think it was seven years ago.

NALEE 41:45

It would depend on how much I like the guy it would depend on how much he impacted me. So let's say again if he was a dirt bag if it it was just like shitty or if it was just like eh he had a small dick anyways then yeah you know what more power to her I'd show up hot as fuck and be like yeah it's me hello but if it's somebody who I really really liked somebody who I really like try to put everything into it and it just ended then I don't I don't know if I would or not I think I would think about it I think I would think about it but I wouldn't be certain if I would go or not yeah there's my answer. So and I don't know. But you would maintain okay wedding aside would you maintain the friendship with her there is no wedding they're just dating they've been dating for a year if they're just dating I don't think I would cut her off but if they do get married I would just be like oh okay but I feel like within those time frames I would have had at least known who he was because girls talk. So if at that point before it even hits that seven years excuse me. Wait.

SPEAKER_00 42:55

No she's only been dating him for a year.

NALEE 42:58

Yeah so I don't know I don't know what I would do. That's a that's a good question. You stumped mid there I stumped the fucking hoe yeah you stumped the hoe on this one. I don't yeah I don't know if I would go or not but I don't know if I would say no either if it's that situation.

ANTHONY 43:16

It's like Vec one of those Vecna things are above my head I'm sorry.

NALEE 43:19

Yeah I can see the flower the flower creature squirrel just kidding excuse me it's been a long day it has been a long day all right well there. Yeah regardless I don't think I would attend an ex's wedding yeah well do you have anything else to add any more stumping the hoe you need to do?

SPEAKER_00 43:40

Hope that if I ever end up dating one of your exes that you'll come to our wedding good luck thank you very much I don't think that's ever gonna happen because I don't think my exes are your type no but yeah no have you even seen my exes I've seen one of them I mean I know you've seen one of them but have you seen the other ones?

Listener Prompts And Goodbye

NALEE 44:04

I don't think so no but you know what I want you to send me a picture of the guy who t who tasted your thigh I don't think I could find him on Facebook I mean I haven't tried it send me his name I'll find him yeah I haven't tried send like his name is really common I haven't tried finding him but if I do I'll send it to you it's probably like Robert Johnson or something. William Johnson Data Johnson he was Mmung. We don't have Hmong Johnson's Okay first of all ma'am that is unfair for you to expect me to know that Johnson is an American name how is that not like obvious so is fucking Tom you shouldn't be saying his name all right well I don't know first names are fine last names I have something in my mouth last names are kitty hair yep you kitty hair what do you mean kitty hair exactly you're just like answered without even like it's penis hair I'm just kidding dick hair dick hair yes I'm just kidding so yeah I don't I think when it comes like first names it's it's I don't know it's all the same. It could be American whatever but last names you don't have last names that are American unless you're married to an American person. But that's besides the point do you have anything else to add into this scenario before we close it out? That's a whole lot of math I don't want to get into no it's like no not about this no okay well let me think if I have anything else to add bring us home Nolly yeah I don't think we do in my honest opinion again don't invite exes to your wedding clearly Anthony's fine with that Wait wait a minute that's two completely different stories said don't invite exes to your wedding or don't go to your ex's wedding I don't know same thing.

ANTHONY 45:56

Bitch are you drunk?

NALEE 45:58

No I'm not why do you say that every time you're like are you drunk? No I just that's just I'm hoping one of these times that you say yes because then you'll have a reason Wow bitch all right well hotline callers it's your turn are you showing up to that wedding smiling in the photos and pretending everything is fine Or are you protecting your protecting? Are you protecting your peace and staying away from that reception? Amen. We need to know what you would do. Please leave a comment below or let us know. Write us a prompt. Write us a message. Let us know what you'd do. Do you agree with Anthony? You'd go and be uh make a fool of yourself, or would you stay home and get messy at home?

ANTHONY 46:48

Timeout. When did I say make a fool of myself? I thought I would go to support. I wasn't the one getting sloppy ass drunk and sleeping with my ex's dad.

NALEE 46:58

Hey, you said no judgment here. I wouldn't do that. We wouldn't do that. I think.

ANTHONY 47:04

No, we wouldn't.

NALEE 47:05

We wouldn't. We're classy anymore. Yes. All right, let us know. See you guys two Wednesdays from now. And bye.