HOW To Build Momentum: New Stacking Method That Works Even Without Motivation | Grow With Kepo Ep. 3

Stop Waiting to Feel Ready: The TRUTH About Taking Action

What if motivation isn’t the missing piece? In this solo episode, I share the real reason you’re stuck and the proven strategies that actually help you get moving, especially when you don’t feel like it.

Whether you're stuck in a job you’ve outgrown, avoiding that big pivot, or just tired of waiting for the “right time,” this is your wake-up call. I’ll show you how to break big goals into bite-sized action, generate energy on demand (morning, afternoon or night), and build momentum starting today.

If you’re tired of thinking about it and ready to finally do something about it, hit play.

💡 You’ll learn:
• Why motivation is NOT the key to progress
• How to build consistency without burning out
• A practical energy-reset routine for morning, afternoon, and evening
• How to use stacking to get things done even when you’re tired
• The simple habit that rewires your brain for momentum

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Transcript

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Waiting around to feel ready is the biggest delay tactic to your progress in life. You cannot go home for six hours or one week and then pause for the next three weeks and expect to see progress. You now need to pick, okay, out of all of these things, what is the first. Small step that I can take. Remember, you are not gonna feel like it. You just have to do it, and then your feelings will follow. Every time you want to do something, you need to change your, here is something you need to hear. You are not lazy. You're just misaligned. I'm Keppel. I help high performers get un stock by taking bold, aligned action, and this is Grow with Keppel, where we speak with influential trailblazers who've made their mark and found the clarity that changed their lives. This is where we get clear realigned and move toward a life that actually feels like yours. Welcome to the show. Hello. Hello. Welcome to episode three of Grow with Ke podcast. I am super excited about this episode. I know I said that my last episode, and you probably hear me say it again. Why? Because I like to get into the details of things. I don't like it when I listen to. Maybe a podcast or read a book or something like, okay, thank you. You just finished outlining all the problem, but how do I actually solve it? Like give me practical, tangible things and I'm all for that, you guys. And that's what we're getting into today. So the first one, when we talked about. Why you'll never be ready. Then we now went into the mental blocks, right? That make us believe that we are not ready when we truly are. And then today it's okay. Despite all these mental blocks, despite not feeling ready, how do you actually do it? That's what I'm getting into today. Very quickly, I want to give you a quick win, and what's that quick win is the fact that waiting around to feel ready is the biggest delay tactic to your progress in life. This idea that we have bought into that we need motivation to do anything. Is the biggest lie that we've all bought into. It is a lie. It doesn't really work in real life. It's not practical. Why? Because motivation ebbs and flows, whereas the things you need to do to get results is actually taking consistent action day by day. Small or big. You cannot go home for six hours or one week and then pause for the next three weeks and expect to see progress or go for six hours, and then the next day you're like two days later, three days later. It doesn't work like that and waiting around to feel motivated. It means that that is what you're going to be doing. You're going to be doing this thing where you spike. And then you crash again for a long time, and then you wait around for the next motivation. You spike, you calm down again. You cannot lead your life like that. Imagine your life is you taking a trip somewhere, right? And you are driving, you're in the driver's seat, and you accelerate so quickly to one stop sign, and then you stop there for a long time. In fact, you even park on the side road. For a while, and then, uh, maybe later on in the afternoon you're like, okay, I'm gonna quickly accelerate to like the next block, and then you stop again. When are you actually going to make it to your destination? Maybe never. When you arrive, you'll probably just feel like, oh my gosh, I could have been here sooner if I just went on this steady pace. Right? A lot of people pass you by when you are just chilling at that stop sign or on the side road. It's the same thing with Life soho. Stop waiting around for motivation. I'm not saying motivation is a bad thing, but thinking that that is the one thing that you need to take action. You are doing yourself a disservice. It's not going to happen. I'll tell you what you need. That's what we're going into in this episode. That was all in true. You're welcome. Number one is thinking of your big audacious goal. In terms of bite-size actions. Number two is generating the energy to actually do it when you don't feel like it. So there are two parts to this. There is the little itty bitty activity step that you need to take, and then there is the getting yourself to actually take the step, and I'll go into it. Right now. Now let's maybe use an example and you can think of the example for your own personal life, but I'm going to use a specific example'cause it comes up a lot. Maybe you are not happy in your current job. You know you're made for more or you're not sure, okay, you're kind of comfortable in this particular job. There's some things you don't like about it. You just know there's a better life out there for you and you don't know where to start. Right. You don't know how to really upgrade your life. You're just, you're feeling kind of stuck. Well, that's a massive project. That is a big thing. There is so many actions to take there, but it only starts with one tiny action. Right. Okay, good. So that's the example that we're using. And then there is the. You have your whole life that you're living, and you somehow need to find the energy you need to actually take action consistently to change that thing and to do all the big, big and small things that you need to do in order to change your job or to change your career. Okay, great. So the number one thing that you need to do is almost creating a mind map or just a brain dump. Right. Okay, you want to change your job, write down on paper what are all the things that you feel you need to do in order to actually do that. Maybe you need to figure out what you're good at, what you're not so great at. You need to figure out where you've excelled in the past before, what you are interested in as well, what you're passionate about, and then find the types of careers that actually. Speak to you at where you can actually use your biggest strengths. Um, you maybe you need to network with people in those different career paths and you need to talk to them. You need to find out what jobs are available, uh, you know, in what format are you looking for a remote, hybrid, or full-time in person? Like is it a completely new thing that you need to. Skill up for like, what is it? Like so many things to do. Then you have, then you have to, um, fashion your resume or your portfolio and build experience there, and then you have to now put yourself out there and actually apply or try it out or launch it, whatever it is. There's a lot to do. Write it all down, dump it down on paper. You now need to pick, okay, out of all of these things, what is the first small step that I can take out of all of these things? If I were the person in this particular category, the first now I even want to think about is, okay, well, let me even assess myself. What do I like? What do I not like? And based on that, what is out there for me that I could explore? Right? Okay, good. So I've decided that that is the one small step that I'm going to take. Great. Now I actually need to do it now. I'm going to break it down morning, afternoon, evening, so that whatever time of the day it suits you that you actually want to do it. I'm going to give you tips on how you can actually. Generate the energy to do it. I didn't come up with this idea of generating energy. I heard it from Brendan Bouchard. If you haven't, if you don't know of Brendan Bouchard, you really need to check him out. I love his content. Anyways, back to our topic here. So you need to generate the energy, right? Let's say it's in the morning and you are the kind of person that you want to get it done in the morning before. All the other things that require you on your A game. Start, let's say maybe you want to get it done before you dress up the kids for school, or before you pack their lunch or before you get ready for work, you know, whatever it is. Or before you go and help your mom, your dad, your friend, your cousin, whoever it is, with that thing that you, problems that you do first thing in the morning, you want to. Do that thing for yourself first. That's fine. Okay. Let's say it's Tuesday morning. You get up and you're like, Ugh, the dread of a weekday. I have to get up, I have to do this, blah, blah, blah. You are running through everything that you need to do in your head. Well, when you wake up with that kind of energy and you start the day with that kind of energy, how do you expect to to do anything for yourself? That is even meaningful. You are just gonna be going through the day with dread. There's no point when it's in. If it's in the morning and you want to get it done, you get up and you change your state. Every time you want to do something, you need to change your physical state. When you change your physical state, you change your physiology. When you change your physiology, boom, you are ready to actually take action. What does that mean tangibly? I. Say you get up, it's Tuesday morning. You really don't feel like it. Remember, you are not gonna feel like it. You just have to do it, and then your feelings will follow. Knowing that you get up and you move your body, you move your body. Don't overthink it. I'm not asking you to get dressed and go to the gym or do a full blown full body workout at home, even though honestly, deep down one of those two things is what I would love for you to do. But that's okay. We're all different. Five minutes of stretching. Active stretch. If you don't know what active stretching is, or you know, full body stretch, YouTube, it's free type, active stretch for the morning, energizing stretch for the morning, five minutes, knock it out, jogging spots, jumping jags, like, you know, arm swings, all of those things. Uh, what else? Walking outside without your phone going, going out for a nice walk. Oh, Keo is cold, and eh, whatever. If you had to go for a hot date or go to a nice place and it's cold, you'll not give that excuse. You put on your jacket and you'll go, there's no such thing as bad weather. It's just wrong clothing, bad clothing. Change your clothing, get out, walk outside without your phone and. Get some fresh air or however fresh it is in your neighborhood, get it, and then it changes your state. Then come back, and this is where the magic happens. Set a timer for 20 minutes. No more, just 20 minutes, and get to doing that small thing. So in this case, we set the timer for 20 minutes. Hey, quick break. I want to invite you to something powerful. If you're a high achieving professional who feels burnt out, stuck, or like you've checked all the boxes, but still feel unfulfilled, I've been there. That's why I offer free strategy sessions to help you reconnect with purpose. And get clear on your next bold move. I would love to support you. Just hit the link in the description to book your call. Now, back to the episode. Me personally, this is how I would go about it. I'll go to charge GPT, our new best friend these days, and I'll put in, Hey, charge GPT. These are my strengths. These are the things I like. See the attached document for my resume. These are the things that I've done in the past. Blah, blah, blah. These are things that I did not like to do based on all of this. Brainstorm for me 10 different careers in the corporate world that I could do that play to my strengths and 10 other businesses or business ideas that I could do that play to my strengths. Let your GPT help you and I'll do that and read up on all of that for like 20 minutes. The timer is going right,'cause I set the timer. Another important thing is I removed all distractions. I put my phone on airplane mode. And if you live in the house with other people, if there's no quiet space, go to the closet, lock yourself in the bathroom, the guest bathroom or whatever. Go somewhere. Go inside the car. For those of you that are coming up with all kinds of excuses right now, go inside the car. There will be somewhere, a corner of the place that you dwell where there is no one to distract you. Eliminate all distractions and get into it. And this is what usually happens. You get into it and you actually achieve what they call flow state because all of a sudden you're so engrossed in what you're doing, you are nowhere. You are no person, and there is no time, and you're just in it. And before you know it, the timer goes off. It's been 20 minutes and you're like, oh my gosh. Like I was just getting into it. And if you have more time, you'll be like, you know what? I can talk on another 10. And then you go. But when you are done right there, before you close out, decide what is the next step I'm going to take, the next small step I'm going to take, write it down, schedule it, set an alarm. Tomorrow morning, we're gonna get up again and we're going to do the same thing. These are the things that you've done for yourself. Number one, you have achieved what I call a small win. You celebrate that I finally took action. I did it. You did that. Number two, you have just given your brain evidence that, hey, look. We can actually do what we said we would do and we can actually take action towards this thing. Wasn't that fun to receive the dopamine reward for actually just getting something done? Don't you want to do it again next tomorrow? Brain and brain is like, oh my gosh, yeah, that felt good. Let's do it again tomorrow. So now you've given yourself, you've proven to yourself that, ah, I can actually do this. You don't have to do 20%. Every day, 1% each day. When you do that, every day for 3, 6, 5 days, you get a three x increase. There's so much power in just that. Starting small in starting small and just like getting it and. I highly recommend this book called The Slight Edge. If you guys haven't read it, that book is one book that when you read it, you, you'll wish you read it before the book was even written. I highly recommend it. Check it out. It goes into detail about the small, little, little things and how it adds up. It can add up in your favor, or not in your favor, but back to what we're talking about. So there's a little thing that you're doing and then there's generating the energy to do it. Super powerful combination. Okay. I'm not a morning person. Couple please. I like, all right, no problem. Let's say it's afternoon. Uh, say you work from home, or you're working from home that day, or you're not working, or you just go back from work. That way, it's, it's not quite the end of the day yet. It's just somewhere there in the middle. So by this time of the day, you've used your, a lot of your brain power, right? You've, uh, talked to people, you've engaged with people, people have taken from you. Um, you're feeling a little depleted and just like, then the only thing that you want to probably do is something that, where you don't have to think and you just wanna do this. Press, double tap. Oh, let me share this in dms. Well, let me go into my dms. Oh, let me see. Who liked that post? Oh, look at who is looking at my stories. Uh, scroll. Scroll again. Ooh, that is hilarious. Oh my gosh. Lemme go into the comments. Da da. That's what you want to do. And that has helped people and changed lives. Said no one. So how do you. Do the other thing that you know is actually going to move the needle rather than scrolling or just sitting around doing nothing. You generate the energy for it. Well before that. You first need to remember that you are likely not going to feel like it, and you have to make yourself feel like it, and that you need to take action before your emotions will then follow. So knowing that, honestly, just knowing that you guys has been very powerful for me because sometimes I sit and I'm like, God, and then I realize, oh yeah, the energy's not coming. I have to bring it up myself. I have to, I. And I dunno if I mentioned that already, but I got that from Brenda Bahar. This is not my thing, but I have been implementing and it's been so great. So mid afternoon or late afternoon folks, this is how you generate your energy. Again, you change your physical state. When you change your physical state, you change your physiology. You can do a quick workout. Careful. Really? I said I'm tired. I asking you to do a quick call. Yes, I am. Yes, I am. I'm asking you to just get up and do a plank for 30 minutes. Sorry. 30 seconds. Woo. 30 minutes. That would be something. Do a plank for 30 seconds, or again, go outside and walk without your phone. Let your brain roam free without you being tethered to this thing. Just let it roam free. And think and hear your own thoughts again. Get in some fresh air. Get some steps in for the day. Drink water, hydrate. If you haven't eaten anything nutritious for the day, eat something and make sure there is color green on your plate. If none of that is your sin, then try something a little more quiet. Try to meditate. I highly recommend the Insights Timer app. It's free. Lots of different meditations there, breath work, whatever it is. At any point in time you need to realize that I can always take back control when your brain is going into 10,000 places. That is what the, I think I swung my head a little too hard there. My neck hurts anyways. When your brain is going 10,000 different places. You always have the power at any given time to just come back to yourself, let your drop back into your body. You just meditate. Close your eyes. Mm, and just breathe. Breathe and let it go. It's okay. Come back to your breath and just breathe. Like whatever it is that will help you to reset and just change this thing so that you can finally do that thing for 20 minutes, you do it. For some people, it might be as simple as just taking a shower that will just like, okay, it wakes you up in a different way. Those are all the things that you can do. You can play music and dance. To it. You know, you can even change your physical environment like, okay, you know what, I'm going to light a candle. I'm going to burn some incense. I'm going to put on some nice background music and just get in the mood all for this 20 minute thing. But don't worry, it's worth it. When you've done that, then you can finally again, set 20 minutes on your phone, remove all distractions, and go to town. And it's the same thing, the same process of going to town, doing the thing, and your brain knows that, Hey, you know what? We're just doing this for 20 minutes. Nobody's asking us to sit down for three hours. Nobody's asking us to give up Netflix. Nobody's asking us to give up, talking to anyone on the phone. Just 20 minutes. And your brain like, okay, I 20. In that same sitting, you write down what's the next thing you're going to do, and that is how you finally get it done. That's how you finally make progress. How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time. Okay. Kapa, it's not me you're talking to because I don't have time for all these things until evening when I've put the kids to bed. Or my work is very demanding and I really don't have time

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00 PM or something. I have to have dinner with my husband. You know, we try to do this as a family. No problem. I got you, honey. Whatever excuses you want to bring out of that purse or that briefcase or that wallet, I got you. Evening people, this is what you do, is what I call stacking. Stacking is. Let's say there is some. There is always that one thing that we want to get to that we actually truly enjoy, that we always make time for no matter what, even if it is this scrolling thing, right? Stacking is, all right, I'm gonna do this thing first for 20 minutes, and then as a reward for getting this thing done, I'm going to get this other thing done. I really want to do, it could be as a reward. Maybe you, you stuck it with something that is useless, like scrolling, or you stuck it with something that. It's super urgent and you, you know, that I really need to get to this thing, and it is, it is, could easily distract you from, oh, because I need to get to this thing. I can't do this important thing for 20 minutes. You stack it. It's like, okay, you know what, if I sit down for 20 minutes and actually get this thing done, then I reward myself by doing this urgent thing. Like for example, say the other day I had to call the airline. Because there was an issue with my ticket. It's urgent. It's very urgent. But instead of just going straight to that, I could say, okay, you know what? Before I do that thing, let me do this thing for 20 minutes and then I'll reward myself by doing this other thing. And that way you actually kill several birds with one stone. It might not be something that serious, it might just be that, ah, your cousin, your sister, your brother. Your mom, whoever it is, was gist you. That gist was so sweet the day before and you couldn't get to it because maybe they had to get off the phone or whatever. Or you have something very interesting, you want, you want to tell them, guess what, I'll do it when I've done that stuff for 20 minutes. But this is, this is the. Wonderful thing about this thing. You set your time off for 20 minutes and then it goes off and you're like, wait, wait, wait. I'm just getting started. Another 20 minutes and then another 20 minutes. And before you know it, you spent an hour getting that thing done. Checking off that list of finally saying, okay, these are the, these are the jobs or the kinds of careers that are available to me. Hmm. Okay. This is giving me something to mull over. Okay. So tomorrow, maybe the next thing I'll do is to actually narrow it down to maybe five things I'm gonna go after and that will determine who I'm gonna talk to next, or blah blah, blah. That is how you make progress. And because you got that first thing done that you might actually feel like doing the next one again. But if you don't feel like it, you know how to generate your energy at night. I have found the best way to generate energy is with reward, is with stacking. Okay, full disclaimer, you guys. I literally just coined the term stacking here because I realized that that is what I have been doing. I never actually called it stacking, but that's just what I've been doing, and maybe even you have been doing that in other areas of your life. Well, guess what? It is now a tool that you can use to get things done in the evening when you are tired. You are welcome. Okay, you guys. The next episode, I have a very special guest coming because we're still attacking this whole why you'll never be ready thing, the fears, the blockers, working on yourself, all of that stuff. I'm so excited about this special guest that I'm bringing on. It's gonna be so good. So, so good. So if you are just catching me on this first episode, I'll invite you to actually go to the very first one and then the second one, and then this one, so that you are prime and ready for the guest episode coming up the next time. If this really helped you, make sure you share it with someone you know that's going to help. In other words, pay it forward, like subscribe so that you don't miss the next episode coming up. Thanks for watching and I'll see you next time. Bye. Thanks for tuning in to grow with Kepp. If this episode sparked something for you, subscribe, share it with a friend, and keep growing.