Color Shift: Fai

In this episode of Color Shift, host Nathan Choi sits down with Fai, a Vietnamese and White adoptee who grew up in small-town Pennsylvania as the only Asian kid around. Adopted at just one month old, Fai’s race and adoption were rarely acknowledged at home — leaving them to navigate questions of identity and belonging mostly on their own.

It wasn’t until college that Fai began to “come out of the fog,” confronting the realities of transracial adoption and beginning the process of reconnecting with their roots. Along the way, they’ve built a relationship with their birth father, faced rejection from their birth mother, and learned to hold both the pain and clarity that come with truth.

Now based in Pittsburgh, Fai co-leads a local chapter of Adoptees Connect, creating the kind of community they once needed — a space for adoptees to share stories, find belonging, and heal together.

This conversation explores what it means to grow up unseen, the complicated layers of reunion, and how connection and community can help us rebuild what was once lost.

🎧 Listen as Fai shares their story of identity, rejection, resilience, and the ongoing journey of self-discovery.

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Adoption competency-trained therapists: 
https://adoptionsupport.org/national-directory/
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