Speak Up or Stay Invisible...It's Up to You!

You have been the one no one had to worry about.
 The strong one. The steady one. The one who did not ask for much.

But that silence has a cost.

If you have an open emotional center in Human Design, this is your wake-up call.
 Because when you are afraid of confrontation, you do not just avoid conflict. You avoid your own truth.

In this episode of The House of TAH, we break down how an open emotional center leads to self-silencing, how that trains others to ignore your needs, and how to start reclaiming your voice.

In this episode:

• How an open emotional center leads to silence and self-betrayal
• Why avoiding conflict leads to deeper exhaustion
• How to begin speaking from clarity, not chaos
• How Human Design helps you rebuild boundaries and voice

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Transcript

Hey y'all, welcome back to the House of T. I'm Dr. Naieema. And if you are new here, this is the place where high achieving women stop performing and start coming home to who they really are using human design. If you have been feeling like you are carrying too much, staying too quiet and holding it all together at the expense of your own peace. You are exactly where you need to be today. Let's get right into it. If you're anything like me, you have been the one, no one had to worry about. I always say the daughter, no one had to worry about. The strong one, the steady one, the one who didn't ask for too much. And now? Because you didn't ask for us too much. Because you performed strength, you are exhausted. Unseen. Bitter, and quietly unraveling. Thes, a part of your human design that makes this something that happens pretty easily, unfortunately. If you have an undefined or open, emotional center in human design, this can be how it shows up when you don't truly know how to work with the energy. In 50% of us have this, if you have an open or undefined emotional center, you look at your chart and your emotional center is white. You learn to swallow your truth to keep the peace. You learn that silence was safer than truth. But silence is not peace. You know that. Your body knows that. Silence is simply self abandonment. And what you might not realize is that silence is a habit, one that trained the people around you to ignore your needs. I know what it feels like to be the strong one. I know what it feels like to be the one who doesn't say much. who carries it all. Who makes sure everyone else is okay while you are quietly falling apart. I know what it feels like, because I've been there. Well, you have an open or undefined emotional center, you are designed to feel other people's emotions. That makes you emotionally intelligent in so many ways. But without awareness, you do more than feel. You absorb. You take on their grief, their anger, their disappointment. I've been there. And your silenced and you. And you silence yourself to keep the temperature in the room down. Over time, you forget where those emotions end and where yours begin because you just absorbing that the emotions of the people around you. You start shrinking your truth to make everyone else feel comfortable. You know? And here's the thing. Your body never forgets. That tightness in your chest. That inability to take a deep cleansing breath. the heavy weight in your chest, the exhaustion as sleep doesn't seem to fix. That shit's not random. That's swallowed truth begging. For center stage. Every time you wanted to say no, you said yes instead, your body logged that shit. Every time you wanted to speak and you say silence, your body logged it. So let me be real, frank. And here's the hardest part, because you were silent, you were steady, you were you looked apart. You trained them not to check on you. Every time you said, I'm fine, when you were breaking inside, you taught them. Every time you smile, when you wanted to scream, please help me. I don't know what kind of help I need, but I know I need some help. You taught them. Every time you swallowed your truth to keep the peace, you taught them, You taught them not to look too closely. You taught them not to ask if you were okay. And now you feel invincible. So I remember early I was saying, yeah, you know, this happened to me? Hell yeah. And for me, this started early. I remember my mother telling me, and maybe some of you have heard this before. You're the daughter I didn't have to worry about. You're the one I didn't have to worry about, Naieema. I was a young adult when she told me that. Maybe about 28. You're the daughter I don't have to worry about. And when I think back at my childhood, my mother really never checked my homework, not because she was a bad mom. She checked in the beginning of course. But when she seen how stellar I was, I mean, I was on top of shit. I was an age student throughout, I mean, through homelessness, through domestic violence, all things. I' I maintain my grades. And as a child, I thought, it was a compliment. Like, nobody has to check on me. I'm just doing good. I wore it like a badge of honor. I became the strong one, the one who didn't need, the one who didn't speak up. The one who handled everything on her own. But here's what I didn't see at the time. Every time she said that, and didn't check my homework and didn't ask me, you know, hey, Nema, you look a little disheveled today. Are you okay? It was also teaching me. You don't get to have needs. You don't get to fall apart. You don't get to ask for help. And that pattern followed me everywhere. Friendships, check, relationships, check, work, check. I kept performing strength, even when I was breaking inside. And the longer you do that, the more your body will show you the cost. That tight chest, that heavy chest, that tight throat, that was Zimmin that lives in your bones. It is all the places where you swallowed your truth to stay the one that didn't they didn't have to worry about. And if this is hitting, you're not alone. We're just given a name to your experiences. So what do you do now? This is all cute. We know what it is. I undefined emotional center, Other centers can bring this on to, you undefined ego slashw slash heart center can also do this. You don't swing to the other extreme. You don't rip open old wounds with rage. You don't reponize your voice. You learn to speak from clarity, not chaos. You learn to trust what your body is telling you. You learn that your voice is not too much. It is a map back to your needs. This is why human as eye matters. When you understand your open emotional center, your open ego, will centers, again, just wanted to throw it in there because you can see this with that as well. You stop taking on Well, that's not yours. You learn to feel without absorbing. You learn to speak without apology. You don't just wait until you're upset and start cussing people. I don't know, you speak up without apology. No problem. That's what this looks like. You learned that your voice is not too much. It's a map back to your needs. Period. I said that early and I'm going to say it again. You learned that your voice is not too much. It's the map back to your knees. Because you were never meant to shrink your voice to survive. So here's what I want you to sit with this week. You can start today. You can start tomorrow, because sometimes you need to just land this new information. Where have you been silencing yourself to keep the peace? Where have you been shrinking to stay acceptable? Where have you trained people not to check on you? And what would it look like to retrain that starting now? Hint, hint your body already. Nose. So if you're sitting heavy in a chest, your throat and your body, I want you to understand that you don't have to walk through this alone. Inside of the house of Ty, we are doing the work without apology. We're learning to use our voices fiercely. We're learning to honor who we are and come back home to self. As I always say, my many courses and my one-on-one sessions are here for you if you want to deep dive right now. But I also want to invite you to join the Wait list for the House of Taz More premium, more in-depth program for those who want more long-term support in a sacred container where you will feel like home from day one. Links are below in the show notes. One thing I haven't asked for, if this podcast has been really, really good for you. I want you to leave of a view. Go to your special, your particular podcast platform, Apple, Spotify, Amazon, however you listen to the podcast. And write me a review. I'd love to hear from you. I'm Dr. Naieema and I'm here to remind you. Your homecoming isn't out there. It's your rhythm. your clarity. your return. No fluff. It's time to come back home.