Healing the Inner Child Through Friendship

Episode Title: Healing the Inner Child Through Friendship

Description:
Sometimes friendship isn’t just fun — it’s medicine. 💗

In this episode of Slightly Unsupervised, Jennifer and Jackie dive into how safe, loving friendships can reparent the parts of us that never got the care, attention, or validation we needed as kids. From being the “parentified child” to learning how to receive love as adults, this episode gets real about what it means to grow up too fast — and how friendship gives us a second chance to feel safe again.

They share stories from their Gen X childhoods, compare what it was like being the oldest vs. the youngest, and talk about how friendship has become their therapy — helping them rewrite old patterns, find support, and raise their inner children the way they always deserved.

Because when your bestie listens without judgment, celebrates your smallest wins, or holds space for your tears — it’s not just friendship.
It’s healing. It’s home.

In This Episode:
👧 How Gen X “raised themselves” and what it cost us [03:00]
💔 The emotional toll of being the parentified child [04:30]
🌱 Why real friendship feels like reparenting [07:00]
🧠 How childhood patterns show up in adult relationships [10:00]
❤️ What safety and support from your bestie really means [18:00]
✨ Bestie Rapid Questions: Inner Child Edition [23:00]

🎙️ Hosts: Jennifer & Jackie
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Transcript

Jennifer 0:00

Hey there, I'm Jennifer. And I'm Jackie. And welcome to Slightly Unsupervised. We're best friends, business partners, and the chaos behind testimony, a ceremony we created to celebrate the kind of soulmates who don't come with a marriage license.

Jackie 0:11

This podcast is all about that friendship energy, the deep stuff, the messy stuff, and the laugh till you snort stuff. So whether you're driving, holding laundry, or hiding in your car for some peace and quiet, you're in good company. Let's get slightly unsupervised. All right, today's episode, healing the inner child through friendship. Sometimes friendship isn't just fun, it's medicine. In this episode of Slightly Unsupervised, me and Jen explore how safe, loving friendships gives us a second chance to experience the trust, care, and unconditional love we missed as kids. Because when your bestie listens without judgment, celebrates your smallest wins, or holds space for your tears, it's not just friendship. It's reparenting your inner child, one honest conversation at a time, which is so true. It is so true. I totally agree with this one.

Jennifer 0:54

Yeah. We uh we talk about this a lot because and you'll if you've listened to any of our podcasts as we progress, we talk about a lot about how we were not parented the way that new generations are parented. Maybe there are other generations that were parented like us, but the generations didn't really have a place to have that. They didn't have a platform to tell us about it. So we kind of are on our own in that. So we call podcasting therapy, right? Childhood therapy too. Yes, I say it all the time. We go through a lot of things that we talk about that you don't normally talk about. It's just friends, you know, sometimes you get stuck on that. So we have dived into a lot of like subject matter that's like, you know, wow, we didn't have any of that. We don't have that. It's therapy for us to even just talk about it. And um, if you can get into a place sometime and listen to our podcast and maybe have honest friendships, conversations with your friendships after your besties after that, of just what we talked about, you're gonna find out that it's a lot of therapy.

Jackie 1:53

There's but and a lot of stuff that you thought you knew that maybe you didn't know. Yeah. You're learning more. I mean, we we know a lot. We know each other very, very well. But I still think there's been more stuff coming out as we talk more on these podcasts with each other.

Jennifer 2:07

Right, because there's subjects. Like we don't just talk about what we want to talk about, we have to talk about that subject. And so we get into more deeper into our psyche for each other or how we felt then or how we feel now or whatever. And it's really turning into like bestie therapy, right? That's what we say.

Jackie 2:25

It's like Yes, definitely. It's funny because you have the Gen X's that are comedians now and they kind of play it all off in their comedian way and tell jokes about it all, like it didn't really matter. But I think the way we're deal we deal with it, we're not comedians, so we I I can't get it out of my system that way.

Jennifer 2:42

Right.

Jackie 2:43

But I feel like by this doing this podcast and being more serious, we're actually getting that stuff out there. Yeah.

Jennifer 2:47

Yeah, that's true. There's a lot of there's a lot of Gen X comedians that talk about our childhood and And I like them.

Jackie 2:53

I love listening to them and laughing at them. I think they're great.

Jennifer 2:55

We laugh because it's so true. They're what they're saying is kind of in a funny way, like uh how it went and they're turning a spin on it. And we're all, yeah, that's exactly how it was. And um we were just how do you I don't even know how we raised ourselves. Like that's the other thing that's such a wild because of the experience we had, the Gen Xers, but like, how did we even know how to raise ourselves? Like nobody watched over us. Like, it's such a weird figure it out. Yeah, it's so weird. And and Jackie's the oldest in her family, and I'm the I'm the second. I'm I'm the middle child, kind of. I have a younger sister, but in my household, I was the youngest child. Um, and so I'm the youngest, and she's the oldest, and and that plays a dynamic in it all too. But we talk about a lot about being parentified child children that the oldest girl, it's just scientific studies, psychological studies, say that the oldest girl in both the granddaughter and the daughter and the families, whatever family, your side, my side of that is generally, you know, she just took on a lot of the parenting role for the generation we were raised in. That they took on. I mean, just talk about your life, Jaggy, because your life, my life and your life parallels, but you ran a household. You were the oldest child in that household, the oldest daughter, the oldest granddaughter. Scientifically, it's proven that you absorbed way more responsibility um in your life than most people can even conceptualize. You know, like you had two brothers. Like, give a little backstory on your belief.

Jackie 4:36

And we're only a year, we're all a year apart. But believe me, by the time they got, I guess, probably at the end of junior high and high school, I'm like, okay, I'm letting you go now. I'm not doing this anymore. I want to be away from the house all the time. Because I'm like, I am not parenting you and mom and dad. Right. You know what I mean?

Jennifer 4:54

People don't talk about that part, but we were, I was very acutely aware of my mother and her needs, like acutely aware to the point that if you I think we were more aware of what they needed than what than them knowing what we needed.

Jackie 5:09

That's true.

Jennifer 5:10

We were taught that their emotions and the way they felt was way more important than how we felt. No one ever cared about how we felt. Everybody, we are like I'm super my sensories or very acutely aware of people around me and the way they're emotionally feeling because I was in, I was taught to worry about how my mother felt. And my mother was married and then she was divorced, and then she was married, and then she was divorced. Like, there's a lot of emotional baggage that comes with all of that that came through my childhood that, you know, I know I worried about her a lot. I was always worried about her emotional well-being, her psychological well-being, her just her mental health. A lot of problems with my mother's mental health, dealing with all of that all those times. And you had parents that were married, um, they're still married, and still you learned to be the mother and the father, really, of your brother's. I saw it. You I was in that house with you. Like, I was over there a lot. Like you had the bulk of that responsibility with them. Yeah. Yeah.

Jackie 6:14

It made me grow up faster, which is a bummer.

Jennifer 6:17

Do you ever remember not being their parental unit? Like that you weren't in charge of making sure they behaved?

Jackie 6:23

I would say as a yeah, when they got older. Like I said, when they became like junior high and high school, I knew they could take care of themselves. It's like, okay, I don't need to do this anymore. I don't have to be there. I shouldn't be responsible for them anymore. Right. And I I start that's why I started just being gone more, you know, how we were always gone. Right. I just didn't want to be there taking care of everything and stressing out, like, is everything done? Like, is the house clean? Otherwise, dad's gonna be in a bad mood and then they're gonna get in a fight, and then we gotta deal with that all night. You know, it was that kind of stuff. And it was just like too much that shouldn't have been put on um a young person, you know? Right. That you were because you did do something. So that's why when I had my children, I said, yeah, I was just like, I want them to just be kids, have their friends over, do whatever they want to do. I mean, there's friends I wouldn't have had, I didn't have over because I was afraid something might, you know, my parents would break out in a fight or something. You knew them. Yeah. You were kind of going the same step I was. So it was kind of like, okay, she understands it. That's why we say we connect it's you know, there's a lot of similarities. So I wasn't so I wasn't embarrassed. You know what I mean? I had you be there for me. Yeah.

Jennifer 7:28

Yeah. Or I was like, I think your mom's mad, we better get the hell out of here. Yeah, exactly.

Jackie 7:34

Shit's about breaking over they say we can't do anything.

Jennifer 7:39

Right? Because I was used to monitoring my mother over. I was like, oh, your mom's in a bad mood, we better go. Like, this shit's gonna blow up in a minute. Like, you know, like it. It's true though. It's like so funny. Yeah, we we were very like, I I don't know. We I think the generations now are overcoddled. Sorry, I just do. You need a little bit of toughness in your world and you need a little bit of no safety nets, you should fall, you know. Like, I know I did that with my children. I mean, I in fact, I had this conversation this conversation with Michelle. I think it was yeah, Michelle, one time I was like, look, I'm a bulldozer. If I want something done, I'll get it done. I will bulldoze to get it done, and I will take and I will make sure my children get to where they need to go. And that is the wrong method to do it. Like, I've got to learn to back off that bulldozing is my my strength. And all I'm doing is teaching them to be weak because I am a bulldozer that can bulldoze and get this stuff done. And I've taught them nothing about how to stand up for themselves or do what they need to get done because I had to do it, therefore I'm good at it. But the reality is that me doing it always for them, because that would be how I would heal the part of me that didn't get it as a child, would be to make sure they didn't have to do some of the stuff we did, was really just weakening that.

unknown 9:00

Yeah.

Jackie 9:00

Yeah. And I was that way when they were younger. I wasn't, I and probably like I said, with my brothers got to a certain age, I was like, okay, I don't have to do this anymore. This is my parents, they gotta deal with it, you know? Oh, my one younger brother who was like two years ago, me oh, we didn't come home last night. Well, okay, do something about it. Like, why are you telling me? It's like not my job. Don't put it on me. If it was meme, you'd be figuring out where I'm at. You know what I mean? It's like, come on. So um, my boys, I think I did do it to a point where I'm like, okay, they they can take care of themselves. Like, I even had I pushed my son out at one point, my oldest son. Um, he was he was out of high school, he was working, but he was living in my roof, and I he got mad at his dad, his real dad, and put a hole. I heard him like banging, threw something in his room and put a hole, and I said, No, this we're not doing this. Right. You're too old to be doing something like this. If you're gonna do that, do it at your dad's house if you're pissed at him. So, you know what? You got a weekend, you need to go. All right. And he's like, What? I'm like, You you need to find a place to live because you don't want to follow my rules. Yeah, I haven't. And my funny is my my ex was home, I was gone, actually. And he came home and I was like, Travis is moving out. He's like, What? Like he had no clue. He's like, Okay, she's gotten some backbone now with these kids. Tell him. Right? Because he was like, Okay, yeah, because he had to fix a hole in the wall.

Jennifer 10:18

But he's gotta do that or pay for it. I was tough on my kids too. Like, like I said, I was raised boys, and you raised boys too. We both raised boys, but it's like you don't wanna make them. I heard it a lot because I had my son young. And everybody always said, Oh, he's gonna be a mama's boy. He's gonna be a mama's boy because uh it was just me raising him, right? It wasn't his father wasn't in the picture. So it was just me. He's gonna be a mama's boy. You're gonna have a mama's boy there because he's, you know, your girl and he's whatever. I may have been a little tougher on him, maybe because so many people told me that. And I was like, no, he's not gonna be a mama's boy. I'm not gonna make my son a mama's boy. He's gonna think for himself and do for himself, and he's not gonna be this overly coddled thing that can't think for himself. Like he's gonna be tough, and you know, and he had to learn to do it because boys have to be tougher than girls because boys pick on boys. I mean girls have to pick on girls pick on girls emotionally, we terrorize each other. Boys pick on each other physically and they beat each other up. And so he had to learn, he had to learn some of that too. So, but I'm like you, I kick my son out too. I'm like, it's time. You need to leave.

Jackie 11:24

And you know, he and then he came, actually told me that was the best thing I could have ever done for him. It made him have to grow up, but he was living at a little shacky little place of one of his friends' parents' little house on there, but he paid his rent and stuff and had to figure it out. Yeah. And he's like, Well, now that's best thing you could have done. And plus for our relationship too. I'm like, good, right, good. Yeah, because he was glad I did that.

Jennifer 11:45

I get very uh children get very accustomed to living off of you and won't make changes. I know that, you know, we have that we had that discussion with one of your other children that was there too, and how to deal with that. And I'm like, you gotta just put a timeline on that bad boy and just say, you got this long to get this figured out and then you gotta go. Like it's the best thing for them, right? It pushed them out. Because our as parents, we always thinking, at least our generation, because we weren't coddled, that we maybe got pushed out. We got pushed out way early.

Jackie 12:16

We left as soon as soon as we were le out of high school, we were out of there. Yeah. Because at that time I was also taking care of my grandmother, remember? My grandma, then all of a sudden my grandmother moved in, she had cancer. So I was working, and actually they trained me to take care of her, feed her through the you know, the outside. You're in night school and this is going on. Yeah, this is cool. And I was I was taking care of her. I was ready to get out. I mean, there I have good stories too. Don't get me wrong. There's some, there's a lot of good stories, but it's just that's how, like we said, that's how a lot of the parents raised us back then. And if you didn't get that, damn, you're lucky. And I hope you tick it, you know, you're really appreciative of what you got, right?

Jennifer 12:58

Well, we talked about that. I know one person that had that, you know, sort of fairy tale from childhood. I don't, I don't have a lot of people to give you reference that didn't that had that. Like I've got one, and you know who I'm talking about. That's the only person I know that was like that. Yeah. And that was even a little weird situation. It wasn't all nuclear. The family was a nuclear family. There was, they were split up a little bit, but you know what I'm talking about. She at least got that support and love. Not us, not us. We did not get that.

Jackie 13:26

Yeah, because you could go to her mom and talk to her mom, and we couldn't go to our own moms and talk to our mom. Like you could go to her house and talk with her mom and you know the the sisters, but you couldn't do we couldn't do that. No.

Jennifer 13:39

We were just I sucked that up to the most I could possibly find on that. Like the mother would talk to me in the morning, the friend was my therapist in the afternoon, like that family was like my family for a long time. Like I 100% I'm so thankful for that because even though it wasn't my life, I got to live it a little bit by just being around it. So yeah. I mean, do you have anybody in your friendship world? You have different friends than me sometimes, but did you have anybody that didn't have, besides the one person we're talking about, you know too, but that did have this sort of childhood that we would consider the beaver cleaver, let's leave it to beaver or whatever. Mom's mom's at home, dad's working, and she she just makes cookies and stuff.

Jackie 14:22

Well, yeah, not about that. But I think we have some for other friends that their family seem like a pretty good units, you know what I mean? Mm-hmm. But like we were just talking about. I don't know how many mom I don't know how many moms that stayed home.

Jennifer 14:35

I don't remember many moms that stayed home. I don't either. I mean, maybe they had really good families, of course, but still, did they if you talk to them, would they still say, yeah, I was kind of left to my own to figure it out. I don't know if we have there's not many people in that generation that didn't get raised. I think once the tone was set that that's where the children would be doing, every parent followed suit. Now they can take care of themselves. Now they can take care of themselves. And that's it's just snowballed. Everybody took care of everybody.

Jackie 15:05

Where now your mother's shamed if you don't overcoddle your child to a point exactly stifling them on a hundred percent of and you know I know people have little kids and they're already saying, Well, you know, it's now normal for just the kids to live with their parents forever. No, it's not. Where did that come from? Why are you thinking that? They're they're little kids right now. I know. You're already. How is that gonna help them in life? And don't say that in front of them. Don't you want them to go? You're supposed to push them out of the nest. I mean, you're gonna make sure they're safe and you're gonna, you know, let them be seen and safe and loved and all every all that that you're supposed to do, but you're also gonna be like, you know, you want to get out there in the world. You wanna, you know, do those. Go to college. You want to do something. You know? Don't you're not gonna stay in my house.

Jennifer 15:51

Don't always don't already make excuses for the child so that the child learns that that's the excuse, and that's why I don't have to do something, right? That's the excuse to you give is that it's too hard. My children, I push them both out in the world and they both are fine and have been successful in their own ways about all the things that they own homes, they own, they have their jobs, they have cars, like all the things that you would think are an impossibility because society has now told you that it's an impossibility for you to go out in the world and make something of yourself because it's just too hard. If you allow them to think like that, then you will find that that will be the the what will occur. But if you don't give them that solution, if you don't give them that excuse, and I don't give my children excuses, like you can do it. I did it. That's that is my fading's line. You can do it. I did it.

Jackie 16:40

My son just had a baby. But then do you think sometimes? But do you think back that that now you're that you're being like your your mother? No. No? I could No, I don't think so because I mean I know the differences, but I'm just saying, like when you're doing that, do you sometimes think like that that you're maybe using doing some of you learned some of the stuff that she did and now you're using that also but not really realizing it? It's just in a different way.

Jennifer 17:04

I don't think so.

Jackie 17:05

Does that make sense?

Jennifer 17:07

My children came home. Like they both left and I said they came home. They were welcomed back in, they got a moment to talk about too. Yeah. And um got a got to gather their breath. There were some rules. If you're gonna live here, you're gonna do these things. And then at some point, you know that they become too dependent on the system. And then you're like, nope, you're not going, I'm not taking care of you the rest of my life. Like, I've already done my job. The job's done. Now you've got to go figure it out and push them. Now, would I ever let my child fail? Probably not, but I might let him get pretty close to it before I jump into it because you have to build up your own ability to to make mistakes and to heal from those mistakes and to move on from those mistakes without my band-aid all the time. You know, you probably would do that now. Mm-hmm.

Jackie 17:56

Some point like I know I I know my parents had never well, I didn't know that because the kids had friends over all the time. Like you said, that they come back all the time. But here's another thing I talk to them almost every day. Still, I can't. The last time I called my parents and actually heard their voices, they were tired. They just did their horses. So they're gonna be like, okay, give me a call back when you get a chance. Well, let's just let me, it's gotta be months right now.

Jennifer 18:23

Right.

Jackie 18:23

We text, we text and you know, all that, but it's not talking on the phone and hearing each other. It's not, and it's really too bad. And but they never were. The only one thing that I do remember, it was so positive when it comes to phone calls was we always had to say love you when we hung up.

unknown 18:40

Right.

Jackie 18:41

That was a big thing because my parents would be at work or something. So they'd be getting off the phone, say love you. Otherwise, you know, you didn't say love you.

Jennifer 18:47

Right.

Jackie 18:48

But that's the one thing like talking and it wasn't a lot of like, yeah. I'd sit and talk to my kids. Like just have a full con I don't remember a lot of conversations except what I had to, you know, do. I gotta make clean the house, do this, do that, and take care of your brothers. You know what I mean?

Jennifer 19:05

Oh, I know, you gotta just full list of things. You still do that. Um, I both my sons recently actually got into like a little bit of um issues with work. One was work, one was a different situation, but both needed my attention. And of course, I'm gonna jump in full throttle, do all the things I could possibly do to help both of them during that crisis of their crises. And repeated phone calls on the computer, we're talking, we're having conversations, we're we're making a plan on how this is gonna go, all those things. So it's not that they've been abandoned on their issues, there haven't been, but on the backup to the first call of what to do. Like, at least have some thoughts about what you could do to solve some of your problems because I like I said, I'm a bulldozer, I get it done and I can, and I can throw money at something and I can make something happen. When my son was in college, I remember that called me one time, he's gonna fail a class or something. And I'm like, get a tutor. I don't okay, let's get the tutor. He's like, no, no, I'm just gonna, you know, study. I'm like, let's solve the problems. The problem right now is like, we got to get through this class to get throw everything we can at it, let's get it done because you can't fail this class because it holds you up for all the other classes you need behind it. It's in college, it's a little different. But he's like, No, I think I can get it done. I'm just gonna, you know, he comes to his own solution on it. But if I had told my mother that I was failing a class in college, the first thing my mother would say to me, I'm not kidding you about this, are you going to school? I didn't know. Like, I'm sure that would be the question.

Jackie 20:36

Like, are you in school? You know, I'm laughing with you, not at not because I can so see that. I can see it. I can hear it. I can never do it.

Jennifer 20:47

Oh, I didn't know. That's just that's a shame. I hope you get that solved. Like, that would be the solution for me. Like, I hope you figure that out. My solution is to figure out the solution. Like, let me help my children figure this out. Let's get what how it needs to get done done so we can go on to the next thing. But those are the that's a the real difference between it and having these friendships that people that are in your life that understand that you know and I know. So there's kind of a a thing you all like to tease me about with my mom and stuff. And it's like that comes from childhood. That comes from and and I've said that lately. I'm gonna tell you this. I've said that lately too, because I know my mom doesn't listen to this, so I'm not gonna be too worried about it. But the thing that you guys always tease me about when I'm the mom, which I'm not gonna say specifically, but you know what I'm talking about. Right. Something my mom always did helps me. Yeah, but it helps me because I look at my life now and I'm starting to get to that point where it's like taking account of all the things that happened to me, all the trauma that happened to me. I know I had a baby when I was young, that's my trauma I created myself. Those things are my problems I've done. There's a lot of trauma before that that I don't even talk about because I was never taught to talk about my problems. You know, you're probably the same way. We never say what's wrong with us because we were taught that if It didn't matter what was wrong with us. It wasn't actually a problem. It was their problem was bigger than our problem. It was dismissed. They always dismissed us. Or whatever our problem was. We don't have, you know, and sometimes I look back at my child and goes, That wasn't normal, was it? You guys are like, No, I wanted my parents didn't do that. I'm like, like to actually have a permission, a place in my life to go, it wasn't. I had some jacked up shit there, and I don't remember it. If you don't have somebody that can go back and be like, Yeah, that happened, I remember that. Like it's so important for you to have these friendships that, and it's not just, you know, one of you, it's this everybody has the same story, but yeah. That it's such a nice thing to now as adults go back and be like, it was fucked up, wasn't it? Was I fucked up? Did I something happen to me? Like it gives you a little bit of like a place to feel vulnerable because we didn't get it, and nobody else, you could say it now, I could say it to my children. So, like, well, you know, it is what it is, mom. And I'm like, okay, like again, abandon myself to not feel bad that I had that childhood or that those things happened to me or whatever. But to be to my friends, I'm like, do you guys remember that? Like, yeah, that's right. That's exactly what happened. That's that's exactly what went on. Like and to allow me the permission to maybe feel at least slighted a little bit that I didn't get the what I would consider a really solid supportive friend uh childhood. That it's okay that I feel that it wasn't that way because it wasn't, right? You guys remember the same thing.

Jackie 23:33

I'm just glad that's why we all had each other, you know. That's what helped us. I'm positive. Yeah. I mean, it's probably what gave gave us made us uh like try harder too. We wanted more, I think. Um and you know, changes as parents probably. We had to do more, we didn't have a choice.

Jennifer 23:51

Okay, who's more likely to cry first uh during a deep talk? Probably you. Yeah, it would be me. I'll cry. I cry too though. Yeah, you do. But I think you're just we've both cried today. We did cry today.

Jackie 24:06

Yeah, we both did. Okay. All right, go ahead. What's the most inner child thing your bestie still does? Inner child thing. Abandon yourself or other people. That's how I think. I would say that's both of us. Yep. I was just gonna say jinx.

Jennifer 24:24

Sometimes I'll be like, don't do that. Now don't do that. We're doing it again, but I think we do it anyway. So all right, who's the better comforter when things are falling apart? You. Probably me, just because you are yeah. It's just that I do it more for you than you do it for me because sometimes, you know, I don't I've abandoned myself so long that I don't even feel bad when I feel when I should feel bad, because it's like it doesn't matter what I it's wrong with me because all that matters is everybody else is okay. So we both do it.

Jackie 24:52

So, anyways, go ahead. Who starts the giggles that turn into full tiers?

Jennifer 24:56

Both of us. Both of us. Yeah. For sure. Like bring up a story or laugh about something to make the other person like feel better and to poke fun of it, right? We do poke fun of everything, so it's good. It's sure. And we make light of our situation a lot. So all right, who what childhood snacks still feels like comfort food? Fritos and bean dip. I liked Fritos and Bean dip, isn't that weird? Yes, I do. I think that's right. Remember? Oh, or anything with a taco bell or consistent order. That's something that's you know, it's comfort food.

Jackie 25:31

But yeah. Like if I'm going on a vacation or something, I was like, oh, I gotta get Fritos and Frito laid bean dip in a can. It's the worst thing ever.

Jennifer 25:42

Which like it feels like comfort right there. I feel ya. It's weird, uh I know. It is what it is. Costnectic, I I eat a lot of junk food still. I grew up on junk food, and at three o'clock, I will dive into a head full of sugar, and I eat it, and it feels comforting to me.

Jackie 26:01

It's like back to And then she crashes and goes to bed by six.

Jennifer 26:05

I was thinking about that because at three o'clock is when I like to have my my sweets or whatever, and I was thinking about that. It's like the end of school. Like when you got off school, like you went home and ate, you know, something that was like, and that I still have that pattern in my life. I go home at three o'clock or at three o'clock, I want to have something sweet or something to eat. Like, I think that's a pattern that came from my childhood that makes me feel good that I get to have that and then I go on the rest of the afternoon and then on tonight. Um that's kind of what primary problem is.

Jackie 26:33

Okay. Who's more likely to say, let's just run away for the weekend? Probably both of us. Like we should both of us. I mean, you probably would say it more, but I I think both of us do. Yeah. I think we both like to sneak away and get away.

Jennifer 26:51

Well, get away. Get away from our lives for a while. Which is always good. I don't think people should make people feel bad for that. That there's nothing wrong with running away with your girlfriend and spending a few days. It's a whole new regenerate your system. It makes your body relax and it's good for the soul. I 100% think that people should do that. Okay. Um, if your inner child inner child could thank your bestie for one thing, what would it be?

Jackie 27:13

Thanks for your friendship and loving me and loving me for who I am and being there for me.

Jennifer 27:18

Yeah. I would say my but my inner child would thank you for just being a loyal friend. I knew that you would stick up for me no matter what, because you were a lot more feisty than I was back then, and I'm a lot more feisty than you are now. But it changed, but it's the truth. Like, you know, I didn't have to worry about if you were my friend or not. So I want to thank you for that because I think in if you could have anything in that world when it was so uncertain to know that that one person would stick up for you, especially because in our childhood, I don't think our parents are stuck up for us, right? We're just always in trouble. So we wouldn't get that. To have that is a really it's a it's a blessing. So thank you.

Jackie 27:55

Thank you. All right, mine's next, right? Who's more likely to give mom energy when the other needs nurturing?

Jennifer 28:02

You have the mothering nursery. Yeah. You grew up taking care of all these kids. You're prime for mothering. I was a the little child, so I was always being mothered or uh dominated over. So you have it much more than I do because of that. Okay. What's the one thing your bestie makes you feel like that your childhood didn't support it? Yeah, that's a good one. I'll go with that one. Yeah, did owe that. Support it. Yeah. When we didn't really have that as children. So supported is a huge thing, and I don't it's it's vitally important in your life. And I hope you have a bestie that makes you feel that way because it's it can change your what's your friendship's favorite kind of play?

Jackie 28:42

Adventure, creativity, or chaos? Okay. We're in chaos, it seems like all the time. But I think the kind of play we should be having is adventure. Does that make sense?

Jennifer 28:55

Yes. Sometimes we run into adventure and it turns into chaos, or sometimes we're in chaos and it runs into yeah.

Jackie 29:01

We want it to be adventure. We're trying to move it over that way.

Jennifer 29:04

Yeah, yeah, yeah. We can't always be chaos, but we try. But yeah, I think that's true. Adventure for sure.

Jackie 29:10

So we're hoping you could take away from this. Friendship can't change our childhoods, but it can rewrite the way they live inside us. Every time we love each other better, or our inner child learns, this time it's safe. Absolutely. Yeah.

Jennifer 29:23

Good to do that.

Jackie 29:24

Thank you for that too.

Jennifer 29:25

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Jackie 29:29

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