I Have Some Questions...
Most people know the headline of a leader’s story. Few know the path it took to get there. This podcast goes beyond titles, book launches and business wins, to explore the lived journey behind the thought leader.
Through deep, unhurried conversations, we uncover the moments that shaped them—the doubts, pivots, convictions, and quiet breakthroughs that built their body of work.
Each episode features authors, coaches, executives, and bold thinkers who have forged their own path. Instead of rehearsed talking points, they’re invited into a space where thoughtful questions unlock something more human. The result is a layered conversation that reveals not just what they preach, but how they became the kind of person who can teach it.
Because we believe the best stories aren’t always told—they’re revealed. And when brilliant people are given the right questions and the room to answer them fully, what emerges is insight you can feel, frameworks you can apply, and a deeper understanding of what it truly takes to lead, create, and contribute at a meaningful level.
I Have Some Questions...
208: "Navigating Through Uncomfortable Ceiling Talks" ft. Alli Murphy
Use Left/Right to seek, Home/End to jump to start or end. Hold shift to jump forward or backward.
Erik and Alli unpack what it feels like when a leader realizes a person might be at their ceiling. They compare different coaching approaches, including changing assumptions about the role, using outside perspective, and running short “experiments” to replace gut-feeling with confidence.
🧭 Conversation Highlights
- Erik frames the moment of realizing someone may be at “the ceiling” as uncomfortable, doubly so because leaders worry they could be wrong or be the problem.
- Alli shares her own example: she suspected a direct report had hit capacity, but she later discovered the issue was role fit and the person rose after adjustments.
- They discuss how to diagnose the real situation: Alli emphasizes mentorship, peer feedback, and mapping what the role actually needs against what the person does well or not well.
- Erik adds a practical approach: create a time-bound experiment and ask, “Why do I believe this will ever be different?” so the leader can act from reality, not fear.
💡 Key Takeaways
- Before you act, separate role fit from capacity. Sometimes the ceiling is really a mismatch between what the job demands and what the person is wired to deliver.
- A first step can be admitting the possibility to yourself (and only then, as needed, to others). It’s intimidating, but avoiding it usually keeps the problem hidden.
- Short, structured tests beat vague optimism. Build an “experiment” that answers whether improvement is likely within a reasonable timeframe.
- Even if someone cannot grow into the hardest parts of the role, that doesn’t automatically mean exit. Think about how to keep them in the work they do well, with honest expectation-setting.
❓ Questions That Mattered
- Is this person genuinely at their ceiling, or are they in the wrong role for what they do best?
- Am I the one getting in their way, or have my expectations and feedback been unclear?
- What evidence do I have that change is possible in a short, meaningful timeline?
- If they cannot do the top requirements, what is the right long-term plan for how they contribute?
🗣️ Notable Quotes
- “We rise to our highest level of incompetence.”
- “Fun fact of the day: you never surprise people in a performance review.”
- “If you're willing to acknowledge that... what if I'm wrong? What if I'm the problem?”
- “Why would I believe this will ever be different?”
🔗 Links & Resources