Spiritual Dating

From Adjusting Spines to Healing Hearts: My Journey As a Spiritual Dating Coach

• Joe Amoia • Episode 2

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The path to purpose rarely follows a straight line. In my case, it meandered from treating spines as a chiropractor to healing hearts as a spiritual dating coach - a transformation that only makes sense when viewed through the lens of divine guidance.

After watching my father suffer through traditional medical treatment before passing away when I was just 15, I dedicated myself to becoming a different kind of doctor - one who truly cared. For twenty years, I practiced as a Doctor of Chiropractic, helping many but noticing a troubling pattern: some patients simply weren't getting better despite receiving identical treatment to those who improved. This discrepancy led me to discover the profound connection between physical ailments and unresolved emotional trauma.

Despite this insight, something still felt missing. I kept hitting an invisible ceiling no matter what I tried. The breakthrough came during a frustrated journaling session when I received what I can only describe as a divine download - a message from a Higher Power directing me to help others find love. At first, I resisted. What did I know about that? But the answer was in my own journey from a painfully failed engagement to a flourishing 24-year marriage with my wife Natalie - a relationship that felt like "swimming with the current" rather than against it.

God revealed that my personal experience had equipped me perfectly to guide others to in understanding what it really takes to turn the l've one desires into a reality. I developed a comprehensive approach addressing three essential pillars: practical dating strategies, resolving unconscious blocks, and nurturing spiritual connection. This final spiritual component completes the puzzle, allowing my clients to access divine guidance that leads them to partnerships they'd almost stopped believing were possible.

When I hesitated to fully embrace this calling, the universe sent a clear sign - a flood destroyed my chiropractic office, leaving me no choice but to dedicate my life fully to helping others find the love God makes possible.  Fifteen years later, I've witnessed countless transformations as clients discover the love they were created to experience by implementing these three powerful pillars in their lives.

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Joe Amoia:

So how does one go from being a chiropractor to being a spiritual, dating and relationship coach? Well, I want you to pay close attention because in this episode you're going to find out. Now. I got to warn you if you didn't believe in a God and a higher power before this, this episode is going to make you start to open up to the possibility that there is a divine source out there who is leading us, who is guiding us and helping us on our journey. So stay tuned. So welcome back to episode number two. Everyone, this is Joe Amoia and I'm your spiritual, dating and relationship coach. So, like I just said, as, I started off as a chiropractor. So how did I get here? Well, buckle up, we're going to go for the ride.

Joe Amoia:

So I went to school to be a chiropractor. Ever since I was little, I always wanted to help people. My dad got sick when I was in sixth grade I was about, I guess about 11 years old and he developed cancer, and so for the next four years he was in and out of the hospital until he passed away in 1981, when I was 15 years old, and I always had that desire to help people in my life and to be a doctor and watching what my dad went through and all the suffering and what traditional medicine did to keep him alive but not give him a quality life, made me realize that's not the kind of doctor that I want to be, and my family had some really, really horrible experiences with some very, very cold and unloving doctors and it's like that's not what I want to do. I want to be a doctor who cares and, long story short, I had an injury when I was in college and I went I actually worked in the hospital and I went to the emergency room and they did all these x-rays and these tests and they basically says well, you have a pinched nerve. And I'm like great, what do I do? And they're like there's really nothing. Take this medication and it didn't help. It actually made me sick. And now I'm upset because I have this problem and I don't want to be in pain and there's a reason why men don't have babies because we can't handle it Right. I had this little pinched nerve and I was going crazy and so family member says you know, why don't you go to this chiropractor? And I'm like I knew nothing about chiropractic really and I'm like all right, so I went and tried and the chiropractor took the same x-rays, put them up and go. Oh well, here's your problem. He's like your neck is backwards. Instead of having like a curve, that was like a C, mine went backwards. It went the opposite way. No-transcript to help people. I'm going to be a chiropractor and so I went to school to be a chiropractor and I got out and I practiced for about 20 years Now.

Joe Amoia:

In my chiropractic practice I was able to help a lot of people and it was very rewarding, but it was also very frustrating because I found that there were a lot of individuals that weren't getting better and I was treating them the same way I was treating those who were getting better, and it made me question things. At times. It really made me doubt myself too. It's like, am I really that good if I'm not helping everybody? And because I've always been into personal growth and development and I've always been a seeker, starting with why my dad got sick. Why did my dad, who smoked and had a stressful life, why did he die at 45? And yet other people who smoked more and who had more stressful lives and who drank, were still alive and well. It didn't make sense. So I'm always seeking, always looking for answers to uncover the truth in life. So, as I was in my practice, I started asking questions why aren't these people getting better? These people are, but these others aren't. And what I learned is that, for some individuals, a lot of the physical problems in their life were the manifestations of unresolved stress and emotions or emotional trauma in their life. And so I saw a direct correlation between the people who were getting better and the people who weren't. And that led me into this world of just understanding human behavior and the power of the human mind and who we really are.

Joe Amoia:

So, that being said, I got to the point where I just started getting burnt out. It seemed that, no matter what I did, I kept hitting like a glass ceiling right. I just couldn't seem to break through it and I didn't know why. And again, I've always been someone who's been a seeker, always into personal growth, development, even therapy, different programs, different modalities to give me some clarity, some understanding, some more knowledge and wisdom in this crazy thing called life. And in the process of this, I was really stuck and I was frustrated. I just felt and like I just was blocked and I couldn't understand what it was.

Joe Amoia:

So this was around the time of the Secret. You know, if you remember, there was that movie, the Secret, which was all about, you know, the law of attraction. So one of the teachers in the Secret was a man named Jack Canfield who wrote the Chicken Soup for the Soul books seminar out in Arizona, scottsdale, arizona. So I'm like I'm going right. This sounds exactly what I need, because in his journey he was a therapist and he felt blocked. He felt like he should be helping more people than he was actually helping and so I'm like this resonates, I want to go listen to this man.

Joe Amoia:

So booked a flight and went out and spent a week in basically the desert in Arizona and went through this amazing, amazing, life-changing program and the biggest change that I got in there or out of this program was that the reason I felt stuck is because I wanted to help more people than I was currently helping and being in a physical office. If you're a chiropractor, you're a doctor, you're a dentist, you're a physical therapist, you're a massage therapist, you're limited on the number of people you can help. So if I got into my chiropractic office and I saw a patient, from the moment I walked in the door to the moment I left, I was limited in the number of people that I could see, but there was something in me that wanted to help more and that was my big aha in the seminar. It's that I walked away. Okay, cause Jack shared his story of how that's what he went through, and as soon as he said that, it was like the lightning bolts you know those movies where you know you hear that, oh, like God speaks to them, like he was speaking to me. It's like you just nailed what I've been struggling with for probably about two years. And so I'm like, okay, great, I meant to do something else. Now it's like, now what? Okay, and that put me on a journey to discover what it is that I was meant to do.

Joe Amoia:

And I tried different things. I tried a weight loss program because I had struggled with weight my whole life and I understood and I learned how my unconscious beliefs about food and exercise and growing up and the joy that food gave me, how that was basically working against my health and working against my fitness, so I was able to resolve that lose a bunch of weight. I'm like, oh, this is what I need to teach people. And I went and created this program called the weight is over thinking. Okay, you know why most people are struggling? It's because it has nothing to do with not knowing to eat better and exercise. It has to do with they don't understand what's going on at the unconscious emotional level which is stopping them from doing the things they should be doing, which is eating better and exercising regularly. So I'm like, okay, I was all excited to create this weight program and nothing.

Joe Amoia:

Then it's like, you know, I went in this program and took some other courses and it's like I want to help people become more empowered and I want them to live more powerful, more productive lives where they're being more of who they authentically are. And I became the empowerment guy and I created a work, a weekend workshop, and it was called the Life Skills Fun Shop, where I was going to teach you all these skills to get through life, to tap into your innate power, to be your true, authentic self. I want to lead and empower you. And it was wonderful and got some great results. But again, I just kept hitting a block.

Joe Amoia:

And then one day I was journaling because I'm like, all right, god, like WTF, like I know I'm meant to be doing something more. I'm trying, but what I'm doing isn't working. And what I received in my journaling, it was a divine download. It literally came from God, from the divine, from the higher power, and it said you need to help others find love. And I'm like, what the F? Do? I know about that? And it said look at your life, look at the relationship you have with your wife, natalie, look at where you had come from. You figured it out.

Joe Amoia:

Now, just to give you a little hindsight. There was a time in my life before I met my wife Now, just to give you a little hindsight, there was a time in my life before I met my wife, I was engaged. We were literally four weeks away from walking down the aisle and getting married, and most people who are getting married are happy and so looking forward to the future and can't wait. For me, it was the exact opposite. I literally felt like I was in an airplane that ran out of gas, that was spiraling towards the ground and I didn't have a parachute and it was just a matter of time before we were going to crash and I had tried everything I can think of to save myself and to save the plane and to save us and I'm not going to bash my ex because I think she was a beautiful person with a big heart.

Joe Amoia:

I would have never asked her to engage, to get engaged in the first place, if I didn't see something in her. But she had a lot of unresolved emotional issues that she wasn't dealing with Now. She was aware of them, she just wasn't dealing with them them. Now I thought it was my role to love her, to be there for her, to show her how powerful having a loving, supportive partner person in your life can make such a difference. And as much as she wanted, that, because of her unresolved emotional stuff with her dad that she didn't heal, she didn't resolve, it became a block that wouldn't allow her to truly open up to having a happy, healthy relationship. So she had a lot of layers that she needed to heal and I wasn't able to heal them, which I thought my love was supposed to do right, because when you love someone, you're supposed to be there and you're supposed to be their rock and help them through it. Well, one of the things I've learned is that your love can't heal someone if they're not doing their own work, and that was a huge, valuable lesson, I'm sure if you're listening to this you can probably relate. So, long story short, we called off the engagement.

Joe Amoia:

Now, after that, I took a good look in the mirror. I call it mirror time. You're going to hear me refer to that a lot of time through these podcasts and so I took this mirror time and I said what the hell just happened? Why is it that I was so unhappy and yet I continued to try that and make this relationship work? What role did I play in this? Because I know I could have blamed her and I could have said she lied to me and she wasn't being honest and she misled me and all that stuff. I could have done that if I wanted to. But I had a family member who got divorced when I was younger and she played the role of victim and it basically ruined her life. And I'm like I don't want to be a victim in life. I don't want to blame my ex. I could I have enough evidence. If we went to a court of law, I could probably get her convicted. But that's not my gig. I don't want to do that. I want to release her with love and I want to go forward and I want to create the relationship that I desire in my heart and so, ultimately, as a result of that, asking myself some important questions and making some changes.

Joe Amoia:

A little over a year later, I met my wife, natalie, and from the second we met, it was easy, it was enjoyable. We were on the same page, we worked together, we communicated. It literally was like I use the analogy with Natalie, it was swimming with the current With with Natalie, it was swimming with the current. With my ex, it was swimming against the current. And that's what I said to myself after my engagement ended with my ex. I said I don't ever wanna be in another relationship where I don't have the relationship that my heart desires and that's an easy and enjoyable. I don't want a relationship that I have to work hard at to make work Didn't mean that you're going to have some issues and challenges in life where you have to work together. But I didn't have to work on the relationship really hard to make it work. You know it was like having a square peg fit in a round hole. I didn't want that. I wanted the round peg that was going to fit in the round hole and that was easy and natural. And that's what we're going to talk about. Again.

Joe Amoia:

In some of these episodes we're going to talk about manifesting and what needs to happen, because I truly manifested that relationship. So, long story short, I met Natalie. We fell in love, we got married and at the time of this podcast, we're together 24 years. Okay, we've been married 24 years. We've been together, 26.

Joe Amoia:

And so, when I was journaling, what God revealed to me is that you have what other people want. You want you have the happy, healthy, committed partnership where you are best friends. You are true partners in life who are committed to each other, committed to your own growth as individuals and growing as a couple, and that's the kind of relationship that I created people to have and that I want people to have. And so, as you did it, as you did it, you know how to do it. So I want you to teach others how to do that as well. Now, at that moment, I'm like, okay, I get that, but why? And it said another reason, because I said, well, why me? I said another reason is that you are going to be the poster child for the type of man that women are looking for. So what I took that as is that there's nothing special about me. I'm not like, oh, you got to be like me. But you are the type of man. You don't have a problem with commitment. You don't have a problem with monogamy. You know how to put your needs on the back burner, to be there for your partner. You know how to make your partner feel safe. You know how to give your partner space where she can feel open, to communicate, to be vulnerable, and you're going to love her. You're going to honor her, you're going to respect her. That's the kind of woman, that's the kind of man that women want. That's the kind of man that I created for women to have. So you are going to be the example of what that is like, and I'm like all right, cool. If you're telling me this, I've tried all this other stuff, I'm going to go give it a shot Now.

Joe Amoia:

Again, I was a practicing chiropractor at that moment. So it wasn't like God told me to go be a dating coach and a love coach and I'm going to close my office because I still had a wife, I mean, I still had a family, I still had mortgages, I still had responsibilities, I still had patients. I couldn't just close the door. So I started slowly transitioning and then I saw that hey, there is a need for this, it is helpful, it's working, I'm making a difference. And then, after, I think, about two years of slowly transitioning, god said you're not moving fast enough. And God created the opportunity to completely block me. We had a flood in my office. Everything was destroyed. So God's like, okay, you got to, you got to jump now and I'm like, okay, and that's when I went full in and that was about 15 years ago. So for the last 15 years I've been doing this dating and love thing.

Joe Amoia:

But when I first started it was basically as a dating coach, because I met my wife online. So I knew how to do the online dating thing. I knew how to write a profile and how to get dates, how to communicate, how to screen Like all. I talked about the strategies in a strategy pillar. I was able to figure all that stuff out relatively quickly. So I didn't invest time or energy on women who weren't right or in relationships that lasted forever. I was able to figure it out like really really quickly and identify who was worth investing in, who wasn't, when I needed to walk away and when I needed to invest more time. So figured that out. So I'm like, okay, because everybody was talking about online dating so difficult, so hard and I'm like, no, it's really not. So that's what I started and that was great and helped a lot of people find love that way.

Joe Amoia:

But, just like in my chiropractic office, there were still people who were struggling. So I'm like, okay, why are these other ones struggling? Why are these people doing what I'm telling them to do and they're succeeding and the other ones don't? And then I started realizing again the same thing, like chiropractic those people who were struggling had unconscious blocks, unconscious beliefs. They were creating energetic resistance that was preventing them from attracting the man and relationship that they desired in their hearts. So I'm like, okay, great. So then I started implementing law of attraction, stuff and beliefs, and then all of a sudden, half those people started getting better results. But then there were other people who were still struggling and I'm like, why are these people struggling? Now? Identity and unconscious, subconscious identity and subconscious behavior and subconscious blocks, which are different from unconscious blocks, right, so it helped me figure that.

Joe Amoia:

So then I started doing that and incorporating that and the more people started getting results and I thought, even with that, there were still some people who weren't getting results and I'm like, why is that? And that's when the spiritual dating component, the last pillar, came into place. So if you look at the journey, it was God was giving me piece by piece to say, yes, this part works, yes, this part works, but there's still a piece missing. And why the spiritual pillar is so important is because without the spiritual pillar, you're trying to do it by yourself and, as I said in the first podcast, if you're doing it the hard way, by yourself, it just takes a lot longer and it's much more difficult and the chances of getting what you want decrease dramatically. But when you introduce the spiritual pillar and develop and nourish that relationship with the divine, with God, that part of you that is connected to God, that is the missing piece, that is the missing link. And so that's how I got here and that's what we're doing now.

Joe Amoia:

So if your goal is to have a happy, healthy, long lasting, fulfilling relationship with the right partner, with a man who's going to love you, honor you, respect you and be 100% committed to you and the relationship as much as you are, these three pillars are your answer and in the upcoming weeks we're going to dedicate time to each of these pillars and we're going to be sharing experiences and sharing stories. I'm even going to bring on some clients who have succeeded, who are in relationships, who were once where you were, who are now happy, fulfilled with in the relationship that they always wanted but didn't believe that they could have, with the relationship with the man who they believe was out there. But they wondered and they were afraid they were never going to find it. And all that is gone now and they're experiencing the love that God created them to have. So I'm here to tell you it is possible, you can have it, you will have it, but there are things that you're going to have to do, things you're going to have to let go of, things you're going to have to change. And if you can open your heart and open your mind to the possibilities, then you're going to get a lot of value out of these podcasts. So that's it. That's my story. That's how I went from being a chiropractor to being a spiritual dating and relationship coach.

Joe Amoia:

So if this resonates with you, I'm going to ask you to do a couple of things. Number one is share it with someone. If you have a single friend, family member, colleague who is struggling and you know she's a good person. She deserves a good guy. She's a good person, she deserves a good guy. Well, go ahead and share this with her Again. Like and subscribe to the podcast. The powers that be will promote this more and get this out there and help us spread the love the more they see that there are people interacting and sharing and engaging in the podcast.

Joe Amoia:

And, lastly, if you have any questions, if there's anything on your heart, anything on your mind, anything that you're struggling with, anything you have any questions. You know if there's anything on your heart, anything on your mind, anything that you're struggling with, anything you want to see covered in a future podcast episode, please feel free to reach out Again. You're going to see all the information in the notes of the podcast. So, before we wrap it up, I just want to take this time again to thank you for taking time out of your life to listen to this podcast. I know that there are a lot of things that you could be doing with your time, and the fact that you've decided to dedicate your precious time to listen to this really means a lot to me and I want you to know I'm humbled, I'm honored and privileged to be sharing this time with you, and I'm grateful for your presence. I'll see you next week. Have an amazing week, much love.