Spiritual Dating
Welcome to The Spiritual Dating Podcast – Where Faith, Wisdom, and Love Align
This podcast is dedicated to strong, successful, spiritually grounded single women who deeply desire a loving, healthy, and committed relationship — but are no longer willing to settle. If you're ready to stop settling and start dating with intention, heart, and hope — this podcast is for you!
Spiritual Dating
Why Your Faith Matters More Than Your Dating Strategy
Ever wonder why dating feels so difficult despite knowing you're a great catch? The missing piece might not be another dating strategy, but something far more fundamental—faith. Not just religious faith, but a deep belief system that powers every aspect of your dating journey.
As your spiritual dating coach, I've discovered that three specific types of faith form the foundation for attracting the love you truly desire. First, there's faith in men. After heartbreak or disappointment, it's natural to become cynical about finding a good partner. Yet this protective cynicism creates an energetic barrier that repels the very men who could prove you wrong. While many men might lack the emotional availability you seek, quality men do exist—and you only need one.
The second essential faith is in yourself. This goes beyond affirmations into bone-deep knowing of your worth. When your actions, boundaries, and standards align with your self-worth, you naturally stop accepting disrespectful behavior or making excuses for emotionally unavailable men. This authentic self-faith creates a powerful energetic signature that attracts men who recognize and honor your value.
Most crucial is your faith in God or the divine. Many of us were taught that God is distant, granting relationship wishes arbitrarily if we're "good enough." But true spiritual connection means understanding you're one with divine source—"God is the ocean and we are a cup of that ocean." This connection provides intuitive guidance throughout your dating journey, revealing red flags and illuminating the path forward.
When these three faiths align, dating transforms from frustrating to flowing. You recognize challenges as growth opportunities rather than punishments. You listen to divine guidance instead of fear. You trust that the right relationship isn't about luck or timing, but about energetic alignment with what you truly deserve.
Ready to strengthen your faith muscles and experience this transformation? Join our spiritual dating community through the link in the description. Remember, the love you desire isn't just possible—it's your birthright. God placed that desire in your heart for a reason, and with the right foundation of faith, you can turn it into reality.
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Would you like a secret weapon which would make dating easier and more enjoyable and would give you the power to turn the love you desire the love you really want into your reality? Well, if so, pay attention, because this episode is for you. Welcome to the Spiritual Dating Podcast, where spirituality, psychology, psychology and successful dating strategies come together to help you turn the love you desire into a reality. I'm your host, joe amoya, your spiritual dating and relationship coach. If you're a spiritually grounded woman who has almost everything you want except a great guy to share your life with, you're in the right place. A great guy to share your life with you're in the right place. If you're done settling, tired of the dating merry-go-round, and ready to attract a high-quality, emotionally available man who will love you the way God created you to be loved, this podcast is for you. I'm here to show you how to date smarter, love deeper and create the kind of relationship your heart desires and truly deserves. Hello, beautiful souls, welcome back to another episode of the Spiritual Dating Podcast. Tell me if this sounds familiar. You know you're a great catch. You know you have so much to offer. You've put yourself out there. You have no problem getting dates. You're meeting guys regularly. You're going on dates and you've had relationships, but they're just not turning into anything substantial that lasts, that stands to test the time, and you're kind of just getting frustrated with this whole process. Right, you want to go. Maybe it's just not in the cards, maybe it's not God's will for me. If it's meant to be, it'll happen. Does any of this sound familiar? Well, if so, you were definitely in the right place, cause there was a time in my life where I felt the same way, except that I wasn't looking for a man. I was looking for that special woman to share my life with. I knew I was a great catch. I knew I had a lot to offer. I had everybody in my life trying to set me up because they knew I was a good shot and they wanted to see me with someone trying to set me up because they knew I was a good shot, and they wanted to see me with someone they knew I deserved someone special to share my life with. But for some reason, it just wasn't working out. And fast forward, I was able to meet that person, not because I was lucky, not because God finally decided okay, it's time for you. It's just because I wasn't doing what I needed to do on my end, and the reason why I wasn't succeeding is because God was trying to get my attention to see that I had to make some changes. I had to let go of some things, I had to do some things differently. And once I let go of those things and once I started doing some things differently, that's when the love of my life showed up. So today I want to give you a secret weapon that will make dating so much easier, so much more enjoyable, and it will give you the power to turn the love that your heart desires, that you know you deserve, into your reality. So what is this secret weapon? Are you ready? It's faith.
Speaker 1:Now, I know you may be listening to this going, but, joe, I have faith. I go to church, I pray regularly, and it's still not working. Yes, we're going to talk about that today. And it's still not working. Yes, we're going to talk about that today, because if your goal is to turn the love you desire into a reality and have the love that I believe God wants you to have, then you're going to have to strengthen your faith muscles, not just in God, not just in the divine, and we're going to talk about that Faith in yourself and faith in men and I know you're going, joe. You want me to have faith in men.
Speaker 1:Do you know what my ex did to me? Do you know what all these knuckleheads that I've been going out on dates with have been saying or doing? You know what? The guys that I meet online, the crap that they're pulling the text, the inappropriate texts that they're sending? I get it. I get it. I get it. Trust me, I get it. But that's one of the reasons why your faith is wavering because you're basing your faith on your past.
Speaker 1:You're basing your faith on what you're experiencing now, which is a reflection of what's going on within you at the unconscious level, and until we start shining the light on that and help you see what's going on at the unconscious level, you're going to continue to struggle, and it's not because that's what God wills for you. Like. Let's be honest, do you think you haven't struggled enough in your love life? Like God's waiting for you to struggle more before the light goes on so he can send you the love that you were created to have? Do you really think that's what God's will is? No, you haven't suffered enough yet you haven't struggled enough. No, come on, let's be real, let's be honest. That's just not how it works. I believe God says I'm waiting for you, I want to send you the right guy and I will do everything on my end to send you that right guy, but I can't do your pushups for you.
Speaker 1:You've got to make some changes, you've got to do some things differently, you've got to let go. And that's why I want to share with you the secret weapon to beginning to make those changes is faith, and so there are three major areas where your faith needs to be strong, and you need to be willing to have a faith that's in alignment with the love that you desire and that which God wants for you. Okay, so we need to start with that, because part of the fear of the human mind is we've got to do things perfectly. So if you're listening to this, it's like, oh, I've got to have the perfect faith before I can attract the love of my life. No, there is no perfect faith. As long as we're in this meat suit right, we're in our human form we're going to have worries, we're going to have fears, we're going to have doubts. That's just part of the package, but it's how much we focus on those things and how much energy we give to it in our thoughts, our words and our actions that ultimately determine whether we struggle or whether we go forward and succeed. And so that's why I want to talk about the three aspects of faith that need to be in place for you to turn the love you desire into reality and to make dating easier and more enjoyable, because I understand that dating appears to be a struggle.
Speaker 1:Okay, again, I'm not ignorant. I don't live with my head in the sand. I totally get what dating is like in 2025 for quality single men and women right, I totally get it, but it doesn't mean it has to be. In fact, I know with 100% certainty it doesn't have to be, and it can be easier and more enjoyable. And there are things that you absolutely can do and must do to put yourself in position for that special guy to show up in your life. And when you do that and when you are doing your part, god will know exactly when and exactly how to put that person in your path. And once that person is in your path, as long as you continue to show up and be your true, authentic self, the right person will see that you are the only woman that he wants to spend the rest of his life with.
Speaker 1:I share quite openly and honestly about my relationship with my wife, natalie it's that there is no other person I want to spend the rest of my life with, as long as the woman that I've known for the last 24 years continues to show up as the beautiful, amazing soul that she is, a woman who has so much love in her heart and has such a wonderful personality and just balances me out so perfectly. Because I can be a pain in the ass, I'll be the first to admit it, but she knows that I'm a pain in the ass and she loves me and she accepts me, but she also calls me on it when I'm being an asshole. My wife is confident enough to say that look, that's your stuff and I'm not going to tolerate that and you need to step up. And because she does that in such a loving, kind and caring way from her heart not to make me wrong, not to criticize me, not for any other reason other than that's not the man that I know you are and when she does that from her heart, it's like a swift kick to my solar plexus. It's like you know what. You deserve better, and I deserve better, because that's not who I want to be and that's how the quality guys roll.
Speaker 1:And that's why I'm sharing this with you, because the reality is there are knuckleheads out there. There are guys who are emotionally unhealthy, who are selfish, who don't have the skills and tools to be a loving relationship partner. That's just the reality of it, and I'll even go out on a limb and say probably the majority of guys at this stage fall into that category. But that's the beautiful part is, you only need one of the good guys, one of the quality guys, and it's not your job to figure out how there are things you can do, but to know exactly where to go and what to do. There are absolutely things you can do to increase your chances and put yourself in position, and when you do that, that's when God takes care of the details. Right? I call that the divine love pathway. Right, there's a path and steps you must take to put yourself in position, and that's your job, that's your responsibility, and when you do that, god will fill in the blanks.
Speaker 1:But just sitting back and just continuing to try things and do things or do nothing and crushing your fingers and saying some prayers, hoping that it's going to happen. That's just not the way it works, and I'm not here to burst your bubble. I'm here to love you to the truth, so that you can see where you need to make the changes and do some things differently. So let's just get right into it. Again, there's three aspects of faith that will help you make dating easier, more enjoyable and put yourself in position to attract the love that your heart really desires and that you know you deserve. So the first one is that your faith in men.
Speaker 1:Again, let's be honest, based on your experience, you've probably been married. You signed up for a lifelong marriage with someone you thought was going to be your true life partner and somewhere along the line you learn that wasn't true and your world was probably rocked Right and you had to go through some emotional healing and you had to experience certain things to continue to go forward. And it was like a tug of war where you wanted to go forward, you wanted to have a happy, healthy relationship. But after what you experienced, your faith in men kind of got rocked, and I get that experienced. Your faith in men kind of got rocked, and I get that.
Speaker 1:But what you must understand is that since the dawn of time, there always have been men who are not worthy of being in a relationship. They're not emotionally healthy, they're not emotionally available and they're so focused on themselves and their needs and you know what I'm talking about that they will never love you and be the partner that God wanted for you. That's just the way it is. But there are lots of quality men who do have the emotional availability, who do have the emotional health, who do have the skills, the tools, the awareness and the love in their hearts to be the partner that you desire and deserve. But you have to put your faith into those guys and focus on those guys. And that's one of the most difficult challenges of this whole dating journey is when you are experiencing the men who just aren't good relationship partners, and that's again the majority I'd probably say about 85% of single men fall into that category.
Speaker 1:It's really hard to build your faith, to have faith, but that's what you must do. That's where you need to do your pushups to build your faith muscles and to focus on the guys that are emotionally available and emotionally healthy and do your work to put yourself in position to meet and attract those kind of guys. So we've got to start off with, like taking that mirror time and saying you know, where are you with your faith in men? Because if you believe that there are no good men out there and they're all taken or they're all gay or whatever else, everybody else is saying that's what you're putting out into the universe. Right? I am a firm believer that this universe is a giant system of energy that God created and it works a specific way. And when you align yourself with the intelligence and the organization of the universe, that's where magic happens. But we're just not taught that. So what we do is we try and go and figure it out on our own, thinking we know better than God, and we just make it the journey more difficult than it needs to. And the same thing happens when it comes to men, right?
Speaker 1:It's imperative that you start putting your focus and energy on the faith that good guys do exist and they are out there, and there is one out there, and your job is to put yourself in position to attract that kind of guy. And then, when you attract that kind of guy, to screen and identify if it's the right guy, the type of guy you want to have a relationship with. And then, if you're having a relationship to identify, is this the person you want to spend the rest of your life with? That's your job, that's part of the divine love pathway. Right, and that's your job, that's your responsibility.
Speaker 1:But if you're lacking that faith of men, you're just making it difficult and God's like how do you want me to send you the right guy? You don't believe they exist and God can't violate your free will. That's just the way it is. So your free will, you must use it to align with what you want. And I know you're saying but, joe, I did, I truly believed and I trusted. And look what it got me.
Speaker 1:Yes, I understand, but what you must understand is there was a reason why you experienced that and there was a reason why you went through that and maybe you thought he was Mr Wonderful. You thought he was the right guy and maybe you thought he was Mr Wonderful. You thought he was the right guy, but maybe you were missing red flags or maybe you jumped into that relationship too soon and you were BSing yourself because you didn't want to accept God's truth that he may have been a good guy, but he wasn't the right guy, and so it's really important that you understand that and you take that mirror time, Okay. So that's the first one is you got to develop your faith in men, or I invite you. You don't got to do anything, it's your journey, it's your life, but I invite you to develop your faith in men.
Speaker 1:The second is to develop your faith in yourself. You got to know you're a freaking rock star. You got to know you're a freaking rock star. You are an amazing divine creation who has so much to offer and is so worthy of a man's, of a man, a quality man's love, and you deserve a man who's going to respect you, who is going to honor you, and you must have that faith in yourself. I'm not talking about BSing the world. Oh yeah, I know I'm worthy, I know I'm valuable, I know I have so much to offer, but yet when a guy disrespects you, you allow it.
Speaker 1:When a guy isn't honest, you put up with it. When a guy isn't emotionally healthy or emotionally available, you make excuses and you look for the wonderful parts in him that you see every three weeks and you ignore the fact that every other day he's showing up as a selfish, narcissistic, egocentric guy who really doesn't know how to be a healthy relationship partner. And just because you feel chemistry and have some things in common doesn't mean that is the man that can love you the way you desire to be loved and when you truly have faith in yourself. You have such clear boundaries, you have such clear standards. You have no problem being upfront, honest and vulnerable because you know that you're safe and you know that you're smart and you know that you can protect yourself, and not only that you can protect yourself.
Speaker 1:God is going to protect you and he's going to let you know that's what your intuition is right. He's going to let you know that's what your intuition is right. He's going to let you know that, hey, that guy that you feel amazing chemistry with, the guy that you're drawn to, the guy who's ghosting you and not treating you like respect you deserve better than that. But God, you don't understand. I'm drawn to him when he's not being a narcissistic jerk. He's really got some wonderful qualities and God goes okay, you want to settle, go ahead, knock yourself out, but I really got something better for you. But because I love you and I give you free, will you get to decide. And that's why having that faith in yourself at your core is so important, because if you don't have that faith in your in yourself, you're going to make choices and decisions that are in direct opposition to what you want.
Speaker 1:So it's kind of like this god says all right, you want a great guy, prove it. All right. He's not calling me, he's disrespecting me. He's leading me on, he's not calling me, he's disrespecting me. He's leading me on, but he's not following through. He's treating me like a convenience and not a priority. And God says okay, that's what you want, keep going. But don't be surprised when you don't experience the happiness, the joy, the peace in your heart, because that's what I want for you.
Speaker 1:But because you don't truly believe in yourself and have faith in yourself and know your value and know your worth, you put up with that crap. And God says so. You're sending mixed messages. And that's because God says it doesn't matter to me, you have free will. I'm just going to match your will energetically, vibrationally, and you're going to attract based on what you're putting out into the universe consistently, not just on a Sunday consistently.
Speaker 1:And that's why you may not be attracting the right guy is because, underneath it all, you've lost that faith in yourself. And maybe it's because you've given a hundred percent and you've given your all and it didn't work out. And instead of looking that it didn't work out because you chose the wrong guy for the wrong reasons, you've doubted yourself and now it's done a number on your confidence or your self-esteem. I see, you know, we all know what gaslighting is right. There's so many guys out there who will turn around and make it seem like it's your fault and it's like no, if you showed up and you love the man with all your heart and it didn't work out, it probably has nothing to do with you individually, other than you just invested in the wrong guy for the wrong reason. But what happens is the narcissist is going to turn around and blame it on you and he's going to destroy. You're going to give him the power to destroy your self-confidence, your self-worth and your self-esteem.
Speaker 1:Why? Because you didn't have that faith strong enough in the beginning. You didn't have that foundation of faith Because if you truly did, when the narcissist pulls his crap and starts gaslighting, you're just like you're a freaking idiot. You are so focused on yourself and what your ego thinks is true and right that you're not willing to see the truth and instead of taking responsibility for it, you're trying. Willing to see the truth and instead of taking responsibility for it, you're trying to project it onto me. But you know what, dude, I'm smarter than that and I'm not going to let you get away with that crap, because I know who I am, I have faith in myself, I know my value and I know my truth, and so you know what? Now you can go pound salt. That's how it works when you have faith in yourself.
Speaker 1:Okay, so let's talk about the last one, which I believe is the foundation of it all. All right, if you're building a house, what's the most important part? The foundation? Well, your faith in God, your faith in the divine, is where it all originates. Because if you're trying to do it by yourself, on your own, without an instruction manual, this journey is going to be so much more difficult than it needs to be. Dating is going to suck. Dating is going to be horrible. You're going to attract the wrong guys. You're going to get frustrated. You're going to get confused. You're going to get frustrated. You're going to get confused, you're going to get lost. All of that because you don't have the faith and the connection. And that's what really faith is.
Speaker 1:And I gotta tell you, I went to catholic school for 13 years, from kindergarten to the day I graduated high school, and I was taught, you know the our fathers and the Act of Contrition and the Apostles' Creed and all that stuff, and I would pray, but I had no idea what true faith was, because how I grew up in my religion, in my culture, the Italian culture, is that God was up there somewhere and when you had trouble or you wanted or you needed something, you'd pray to God and if it was his will, he would answer you and give it to you. If it wasn't his will, oh well, you're SOL, shit out of luck, and you just had to accept it because that's what God's will is. And so I didn't truly understand what faith was. Faith is a true knowing what and who God is and who we are in relationship to that. So now the faith that I have today, as a 59-year-old man, is completely different than the faith I had years ago.
Speaker 1:Completely different than the faith I had years ago, because now I understand that God is the loving creator that I am one with, and this is how I see it. God is the ocean and we are a cup of that ocean. So just think of that. God is the creator, the divine source that everything originates and comes from, the infinite possibilities. That is God's divine nature and we are a cup of that. Our bodies is the cup, the inside, the water inside. That's our soul, that's our divine connection to God. So we are one with God, we are a part of God, we are God's creation. That comes from the original source and so all the properties of God we possess and we have within us and we are always connected to.
Speaker 1:But because as humans we go through this journey and I'm not going to go into detail, we don't have time for that that's like a whole course, a college course, to understand all of that. But for now, the Cliff Notes version is that we are connected to that divine source and we are one with that divine source. And that divine source is there to love us, guide us and here's the key to make us happy. God wants us to be happy. That doesn't mean that we're not going to have adversity and we're not going to have challenges, but those challenges are divine to help us grow and ultimately get back to a place of peace, of harmony, of joy. That's why they're there to help us grow and evolve.
Speaker 1:But we don't understand that, we don't know that we see those challenges and the adversity as something that's happening to us where God's like. No, it's happening for you. There's a divine purpose and reason. And so if you can see that and you can understand that and you can embrace that and do your work, you're not only going to get past it, you're going to get through it and you're going to come out on the other side and experience the miracles of whatever happened. And so developing faith in God is a true understanding of the role God plays in your life and in your relationships and in dating.
Speaker 1:And so when you understand what and who that really is, and who you are in relationship to that, then you become unified, then you become one, then the divine power of God is within you and you can tap into it, you can use it and, more importantly, you can listen to it. That's what your intuition is, that's what your gut instinct is, that's the voice of God communicating to you, guiding you on your journey. But again, you've got free will. You can listen or you can ignore it. And if you listen and work with it, dating is gonna become easier, more enjoyable and you're gonna turn the love that you desire into reality. If you don't, it's just going to be much more difficult. That doesn't say that you can't have a relationship, you can't get married, but is it going to be the relationship that your heart truly desires and you know you deserve, and that God wants for you, or is it going to be the relationship that your ego, that your human mind, is hoping for because it's afraid that it's not going to find what it really wants?
Speaker 1:I'll leave you on that note. I really hope this resonates. If you have any questions, anything is coming up for you, anything you're struggling with when it comes to faith in any three of these areas, please feel free to reach out and send me an email, or you can join our Facebook group and send me a private message. All right, I love and appreciate you. I'll see you next time. Much love.
Speaker 1:Thanks for spending this time with me on the Spiritual Dating Podcast. I truly hope today's episode helped you to feel more hopeful, more empowered and more connected to the love that you're meant to have. If this episode resonated with you, please make sure to follow the show so you never miss an episode. And if you really feel inspired, I'd be so grateful if you left a review or shared it with another amazing woman who you know deserve to have a great guy by her side to share life with. And if you're ready to go deeper and get real guidance on your spiritual dating journey, come join me in our private Facebook community. Just grab the link in the description of today's episode. Until next time, remember, you're not too old, it's not too late and the love you desire is absolutely possible, because God didn't put that desire in your heart for no reason. This is Joe Amoya, your spiritual dating coach, reminding you that true love is your birthright, so let's make it your reality.