A Truthful Lie

Having an effective plan in life-threatening situations can be critical to the lives of others. So, when it is said that, "what goes on in another man's home is not anyone else's business," well, I simply call this a truthful lie. In truth, your home is supposed to be your business and no one else's. However, it is also a lie because if there is ever a situation in which you know, hear about or suspect that your family member, neighbor or friend is being abused in their home then this is where your business is no longer just your business. 

The bottom line is that I believe most people are more than ok with what you do inside your home being only your business. However, when you cross a line inside the home that puts others in danger then it becomes other people's business. Case in point, a couple of weeks ago the former Lt. Governor of Virginia murdered his wife and then himself inside their home. Their 2 teenaged children were in the home at the time and called 911 but were not harmed. Those kids no longer have their parents as a result of the double suicide/homicide. Now, I believe in my heart that someone in that community, whether a family member, neighbor or friend knew that there were significant issues in the family. However, I cannot confirm whether anyone personally checked in on them or called for a wellness check at any point and time. I also cannot confirm if there are those within the family or community who are now saying they wish they would have done something sooner.

In any case, knowing of a truth such as this particular topic (A Truthful Lie) is quite interesting because it can quickly default into a lie when one turns the confines of his or her home into a level of chaos that becomes other peoples' business.

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Hey, hey, what's up out there again, everybody? I'm your host, Greg Mack of the You Better Plan On It Podcast. You can catch me every Tuesday at 12 p.m. Pacific Standard Time. Catch me on YouTube as well during that same time frame, or follow you by going to you betterplan on the podcast.budsprout.com. I appreciate you following me. So check me out. It's going to be a lot of fun ahead. Alright, alright, alright. Let's go ahead and get down to it. My podcast always talks about having a plan, an effective daily plan. But I'm going to talk about a subject just that I think is kind of interesting, you know. And uh the name of the subject is called a truthful lie. Again, the name of the subject is called a truthful lie. And I'll just start off by saying, you know, whenever you are a homeowner and you're the head of household, or whatever the case may be, if you are the person who's in charge of your home, you know, what you do in the confines of your home really is supposed to be nobody's business. You know, it's not for me to tell people about your household or you tell people about my household and so on and so forth. So, you know, most people say you need to mind your business when it comes to someone's household, you know. So what I thought about is, you know, how is it that we can truthfully say that within the confines of my household or your household, it's none of anybody's business. Is that really the truth? Well, if you ask me, that's a truthful lie. It is the truth that, yeah, within the confines of your household, it shouldn't be anybody's business. But when you flip it on his head and take a direct look at it, it's also a lie. It is a truthful lie. Again, yeah. It's your place, your family, whatever you do in your household, that's supposed to be your business. But check this out. Again, when you flip it over on his head, it's also a lie. So, case in point, uh, what I heard on uh last week was the former Lieutenant Governor of Virginia, the Fairfax, Virginia area, you know, in the household was him, his wife, and his two children, two teenage children up late. Now, he apparently committed a double homicide suicide. It was stated that he killed his wife and then he went upstairs and turned the weapon on himself. Uh the kids were not harmed, but they was in the house, and I believe it says the son called 911. So here's why I tell you that in truth, yeah, what goes on in your household should be no one's business. But that's also a lie. Because I can guarantee you, for that situation to happen with the former lieutenant governor killing his wife and then himself, there's no doubt in my mind that there's a lot more going on. And it talked about uh divorce and so on and so forth. I won't go any further into it, but listen, if I have a neighbor, or you have a neighbor, and there is some severe, crazy, loud screaming, yelling, uh, fighting going on, how can you sit there and say whatever goes on in the confines of your home or my home is none of your business or my business? That's why I call it a truthful lie. The bottom line is if you know something's going on, and you do when they're your neighbors and your family and friends, and so many cases have resulted in people being badly injured and maimed and even killed, just like what I just told you about. So why would someone believe wholeheartedly that, yeah, this is my house, this is my business, so mind your business. Okay. But if I know that you are abusing your family, you know, and it doesn't matter if it's the husband or the wife or the children, abuse can go multiple ways. If I know about it, it is and has become my business. I mean, let's just say you're out in your front yard on the front porch, and I'm in my yard on my front porch, and I witnessed my neighbor slap his wife multiple times, and I'm standing there. Is that not my business? Yet it's the confines of his home and his property, and I'm over in mine, so yeah. Is that really just his business? So we need to stop kidding ourselves and stop lying to ourselves by saying that you know what, what goes on in my house is my business and nobody else's business, so mind your business. That is definitely not true, which is why, you know, it is a dangerous time when you're at your home and you know that your neighbor is being abused, whether it be the husband, the wife, or the children or a family member, and you do nothing about it. You, my friend, are part of the problem. And then what ends up happening when someone gets shot or beaten to death or badly injured, then you sit in your home and say, I knew I should have said something. And I've heard that enough on a lot of occasions. Well, especially when you watch the news and people say, you know, we knew that there were things going on, but you didn't say anything. You didn't pick up the phone and call 911 and say, Hey, this is what I think is going on. Can you please do a wellness check? You know, you gotta pick it up and put it into your heart and let your mouth move. Do not be afraid to get involved. Yeah, I know it is not necessarily your business, but yes, it is your business. You know, but to tell me that that truthful lie, that you know, what goes on in the confines of someone else's home on their property is none of my business or your business, when you are the you really know that there's a whole lot more going on, especially spousal abuse or child abuse, you hear the arguments, and if it's something that's going on continuously, you know, and then what's the most interesting part of it? When then your neighbors come outside and you they talk to you like nothing is going on and nothing's ever happened, and especially when you have a friendship relationship with them. You hang out together, they come to your place for dinner, you go to their place. But then, you know, maybe there are those bruises on the spouse that are unseen until he or she shows you. And you, you know, you you hug them, you hold them, you tell them, hey, everything will be right. Do you need me to do something? And they tell you, no, please don't get involved. Well, you just put yourself in the situation so that truthful lie becomes a total truth because you know what's going on, so do something about it, you know, even if they do not want you to, because the bottom line is we are losing people over senseless suicides and homicides, you know, just like I told you. What was going on, you know, with that lieutenant governor? That he decided that, I mean, yeah, okay, yeah, she's gonna file for divorce or divorce proceedings or whatever the case may be, but is it really that serious if you are the neighbor of that family and you knew things were going uh sideways and getting worse and worse and worse, and you did nothing? I'm here to tell you. I for me, I can't do that. And maybe you might think I'm wrong. Please give me some feedback on it if you think I'm wrong, but you need to get involved. I'm not saying go over there and get yourself shot, killed, hurt, anything like that, you know. But get involved. You know you can call the police and ask for a wellness check. Because I'm telling you, you know we we've gotten to that point where things are really getting worse and worse and worse in a lot of these situations. But we get afraid to get involved, or we don't want to get involved. Hey, listen, especially you in the neighboring, you say to somebody, hey, this is going on, hey man, I don't want to know. I don't want to get involved, that's none of my business. And then when something happens, you're crying and boo-hooing because it happened. The community is just in an uproar and everybody's sad and hurt. Man, why didn't anybody do something? Well, you knew and you didn't do anything. And I'm not pointing fingers at anyone, but if I'm talking to you, just as if I was talking to myself, if I know something is going on or I suspect something is going on, you know, you gotta pay attention. Now you have two teenage children without a mom and dad because of a very violent situation. Total tragedy. So that truthful lie, when someone tells you it's none of your so-and-so business what goes on in my home. Well, sometimes people make it your business. So I just encourage you to get involved. Think about what you need to do, plan on it. Hey, I know this situation's going on, especially if the individual has shown you what's been happening to them, the unseen bruises. You know, there's nothing out front where you can see it up front because the clothing they they wear and all that other stuff. But then they show you or they tell you about it and they're afraid, but they don't want you to get involved because they're in fear for their life and in fear for your life. If you do get involved, but then you need to step it up and get involved. But plan it the right way. Sit down, call someone and say, hey, this is going on. Don't tell them it's your neighbor necessarily, but say, hey, this is going off if you need to talk to somebody. Hey, this is going on, and I'm just trying to think, what should I do? Because it's gonna eat at you and eat at you and eat at you. And I've known some people and talked to some people in those various situations that didn't do nothing about something and people were badly injured and killed. I I've been down that road talking to people. Now, I've never personally been through it myself. Well, I take that back. When I was a kid, I had some neighbors down the street, and it would be some very violent fights going on. But as a kid, you know, eight, nine, ten years old, you know, to me, I thought it was kind of funny, you know, and now that I look back on it, it's rather stupid. And just being ignorant to the fact because, you know, it just looked like knock'em sock'em robot going on out there, and I go home and say, oh man, they get into a fight, and then the other kids run up there and we go watch and try to witness it, but we didn't think much of it. And then there were a couple of times where, you know, blows were thrown and blood came out, and then now you freak out and you go and tell someone. But when you're an adult, an older teenager, just older people, whatever the case may be, you know, we have to be smart about trying to help people. You know, that truthful lie really is a truthful lie. Because, yes, I I can agree that it's a truth, that that's so-and-so's home. They do what they want to do in the confides of the home because it's their home, their property. I understand all that. But then the lying part of it is when you know that something's going on or suspect something that's going on, or you've seen it and witnessed it, and you do nothing about it. So, yes, it is a truthful lie, period, cut and dry in the story. And it is incumbent upon all of us to help our fellow neighbors and family members and friends. And then a lot of you have family members who are going through it right now and you haven't said anything about it, or you talk about it, but you do nothing about it. But when it hits the fan and someone is hurt or killed, now we got to go through that part where it wears and tears on you and beats you down because you did or said nothing about it. Now, where I live right now, I haven't had any experiences thus far. And I'm thankful to the good Lord that it hasn't happened. But I can assure you, because of the type of person I am, if I know that something's going on or suspect something's going on, I have no problem with picking up the phone and calling the police and requesting a wellness check. Period. It's not that hard to do, just request one. You don't have to get so deep-winning and say crazy stuff, because especially if you don't know, but if you suspect something, especially if you have the foggiest awareness of it to say something ain't right and you just want to ask for a wellness check, then do so. You may be saving someone in that family's lives. Because lately, you know, tragedy continues to strike in different homes where things that you would never would have expected to happen, boom, they happen. And then the mortuary folks come. And you're like, oh my god, I can't believe this happened. And I'm sure that people are in just a state of shock with what the former lieutenant governor did, and then leaving the kids without a parent. So, my friends, loved ones, even if I have an enemy out there, come on, man, let's step up our game. Let's not live in a truthful lie. Let's just abolish that period when you know that something is going on in someone else's household. And you know this is not supposed to be any of your business, but you know something is going on. It has become your business. Sit down, carefully think about what you should and need to do. An effective plan will help you do the right thing, and you can pray on it. If you do nothing else, pray on it and let the good Lord guide you through it. Because I tell you, it is a hard deal to want to get involved for most people, because you don't want anybody getting involved in your business, and I understand that, and that's okay, but you know, for me, I'm sorry. If I learn about something, especially if I know that it's true, and if I even suspect that it's true, or if I'm shown something or hear something, somebody tell me something specific and you know it sounds a certain way, I'll ask questions and I'll think about, okay, what's the best way to go about this? And I don't mind picking up the phone and talking to someone. Or even approaching my neighbor and go, hey man, what's going on out there? How's it going? And just see how the conversation goes and see if you can feel out that things seem a little off, you know. But, you know, we're at a point now where danger time is danger time, and we have got to do better in helping our neighbors, our loved ones, our friends, our kin folks, and whoever else is out there. So again, I say you better plan on it. Because you might be in that very situation, and I know without a doubt in my mind, even though you might say you don't want anyone to get involved in your business, yes, you do. Trust me, I know you do. So with that said, I'm gonna close by saying thank you for your time. Again, you can catch me every Tuesday at 12 p.m. Pacific Standard Time, you can catch me on YouTube at that same time, or you can go to www.budsprout.com and follow me there. I would appreciate it. Take care of yourselves out there, and always remember: a plan that succeeds is a plan that can fulfill one's needs. God bless you. Stay safe, always plan on it, simplify, and hoorah.