PTSD and Triggers

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Now, I've been around people that have had PTSD triggers or something else that triggers them emotionally, but I've never been in a relationship with somebody like that until now. Um, I I'm not gonna give too many personal details, but today, and this is the second time it's happened. Um so today, me and my girlfriend were, you know, wrestling around in the kitchen, and her hand slipped and she jawjacked me. It was fine, no harm, no foul. And I told her she's like, I'm so sorry. It's like, uh, it's no big deal. We laughed about it. Well, a few minutes later, you know, we were just joking around, and and my son said she pimp slapped me. So everybody's just having a good time. And I told her, like, you got one freebie the next time I fight back, and she's like, just don't get my ribs, and I was like, don't worry, and I don't remember what I said, and she broke into tears and ran into a room, and it sucks because this is the second time that I've done something or said something that has triggered her PTSD. Or I don't even want to know if it's PTSD, but I triggered I triggered an issue in the past, and I I just it blows my mind how some people can treat other people. Her last relationship was not the best. It did get violent, and and now I'm getting the side effects of it, which you know, I told her, you know, I understand, and I do, I completely understand. I just don't want to feel like I'm walking around eggshells around her because I don't want to upset her, even though, you know, we're just playing around, just that sudden instant and she's triggered, and I felt horrible, you know. I would never sorry, I keep getting dex messages, but I just don't understand how why people treat people like they do, it's why do relationships have to get physical? Why is it appropriate for a man to hit a woman? Now, granted, if the girl wants to throw hands, and I'm not a guy that hits females, but if you blast me like a man, why shouldn't I be able to blast you back? I know it's it's mean, but I'm not a fighter. I I was a fighter when I was younger, we've already established that. But why why do you feel like you need to put your hands on a woman? I don't get it, and I never will. And now because what her ex did, now I've got to learn with it, and I've got to learn to understand it more, which I do understand it. You know, I'm not I was not mad at her, you know. I I didn't know how to help her, and that was the worst thing, is I don't know what I can do to help her. We've had a great two months. I mean, it's been absolutely perfect, but there are some times where, you know, we're playing around or horse wrestling and she gets triggered about something from her past, and it that good time ends up being a bad time. And unfortunately, there are too many people out there like that because they've either been in an abusive, whether it was abusive emotionally or physically, and unfortunately, my girlfriend went through both. And now I don't want to say I'm picking up the pieces, but I'm trying to glue the pieces of her heart back together, and I treat her like a princess, I really do, like, not like I buy her everything in the world, but I do I do spoil her, and I do try to show her that I'm not her ex. And it's I know it's gonna take time, but it it sucks because when she was in her emotional state, she said something to me that kind of crushed me, and she said, You don't deserve this, and to me that was a kind of a low blow, but I get what she's saying, you know, but she's not as messed up as what she thinks she is, and people that struggle with PTSD or trigger outbursts, they're they think that and they're wrong because it just takes that special somebody to calm that bad part of their brain down, and that's what I'm trying to do, and it sucks. Um it sucks more because I don't know what to do to help her, and it sucks because a lot of people struggle with PTSD and they don't know how to deal with it, and sometimes that leads to them unaliving themselves, or it ruins what could be a really great relationship. And I just wish that there was a way I could help her, and I the only way I can help her is to show her, continue to show her I'm not her ex. I'm nothing like her ex. And it's just gonna take time. So if you struggle with PTSD or triggers, and you have a partner that you know doesn't understand it, you know, don't give up on that person because when they're going through those moments, that's when they need you the most. And when she has those triggers, that's when she needs me the most. And I'm just gonna hold her. So just hold your partner. You know, just understand it's not your fault. You didn't do anything wrong, you just did something to trigger it. And I don't know a lot of Lindsay's past relationships because I don't ask. It's none of my business. Now we have talked some when I first dealt with one of her triggers, and I it saddens me how hard my language, but how fucked up her ex was and what he did to her, and I'm not saying Lindsay's a saint, because she has a mean side, what girls don't, but no woman deserves to be beaten. And if you think you're a man because you beat your woman, you're a pussy. You are a downgraded pussy. Don't ever put your fucking hands on a woman. I I don't care if she jaw jacks you, I don't care if she pimp slaps you, you don't ever put your hands on a woman. And unfortunately, there's too many guys out there that do it. And honestly, you need to be shot. Like, that's my pet peeves. Children and women. Like, children don't deserve to die at a young age, and women don't deserve to be beaten. And I don't know if we'll ever do an episode on how I feel about kids getting killed, or it that's just a touch of shepherd for me. I school shootings piss me off so bad. Like, why does it have to be a school? Why does it have to be a building full of children? I don't know if we'll ever get into that episode. We might. I don't know. But, anyways, that's not the topic of this week's episode. Honestly, what I need to do is I need to research PTSD more. There's only been one other situation that I've been involved with, and it was God, years and years ago, one of my ex-best friends just came back from the army, and he was hanging out at my house, and a car out in the parking lot backfired, and he jumped behind the couch. That was an encounter with PTSD, and you know, I've been in the fire service for as many years as I was, you know, PTSD in the fire department is huge. PTSD and EMS and police and even medics, you know, that's a big thing. And I need to do more research for myself because I'm never gonna understand what she's going through if I don't understand it myself. If you or somebody you know has PTSD or has these same triggers, don't stay silent. Get help, talk to somebody because it can pr it can hurt you in the long run. And I don't want to see that happening. You know, I want everybody that has mental illness or PTSD or any of that. I just want you to get help. I hate hate seeing posts from my local scanner because I I follow a couple scanner pages, and there's been so many mental health-related calls in my county and surrounding counties. It's mental health is huge. And I don't want you to be scared to ask for help. I don't want you to do something that is gonna end up changing your friends and family's lives. Un and alive yourself isn't going to fix it, it's just gonna put the burden on your family and friends. So please get help. Also, you can call 988-the suicide and crisis hotline. There's somebody available 24 hours a day, seven days a week. Go to the hospital, go find a therapist, just please get help. I do apologize for the language in this episode. Some things just get me riled up. But anyways, I hope you guys have had a great week. I've hope you guys have had a great weekend. I hope you are all staying positive and working hard to achieve your goals and conquering them. I hope you guys have a great week. 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And if you also struggle with PTSD and triggers, again, please get help. Go talk to somebody because you're worth more than what you think, and you're worth more than your PTSD and your triggers. I love you guys, and I'll see you guys next week.