EP 17 : Are you in Alignment? Signs your life is finally flowing

What does it really mean to be in alignment?

In this short, thought provoking episode, we explore alignment beyond the buzzword....... diving into what it feels like in your body, how it shows up in your life, and why it matters more than you think.

I share my personal definition of alignment as the powerful meeting point between your inner knowing, your actions, and the direction of your energy. When these elements move together, life flows. When they don’t… you’re “on the wobble.”

We’ll touch on the science of brain and heart coherence and what it means to truly resonate at the same frequency within yourself. You’ll learn to recognise the subtle (and not-so-subtle) signs of misalignment, as well as the grounded, expansive feeling of being fully aligned.

If you’ve been feeling off, stuck, or disconnected, this episode will help you tune inward and gently recalibrate.

✨ Inside this episode:– A clear, embodied definition of alignment– The concept of being “on the wobble”– Signs you’re out of alignment vs. in alignment– Simple, practical shifts to bring yourself back into coherence

This is your invitation to pause, reflect, and check in with where you are right now on your journey.

Are your thoughts, actions, and energy moving in the same direction?

If not..... this episode will help guide you back.

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00:00 Discovering alignment through personal experience and letting go
02:47 Understanding alignment: Head, Heart and the Scientific WOBBLE
09:26 Recognising Flow: Signs you are in or out of Alignment 
12:49 My trip to Sydney: Overcoming fear and finding alignment
17:19 Practical steps to bring yourself back into coherence
22:25 The truth about alignment: It's not Perfection, it is honesty 
24:45 SONG: Afraid To Die 

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Much Love to all

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Transcript

SPEAKER_01 0:00

And I didn't realise just recently how far out of alignment I was until I let something go. Welcome to season one of Beyond the Human. Remember who you are. I'm your host, Hazel Way, singer, songwriter, experiencer, and messenger for those walking the edge of remembrance just like me. This is not a podcast to convince you of anything. Really, just take what resonates, leave what doesn't. This is a transmission, a call to the ones waking up, the ones remembering, the starseeds, the sensitives, the truth seekers, bridging science and spirit. If you're listening to this, you are ready. So let's remember together. Let's go! Welcome to another episode of Beyond the Human. I'm your host, Hazel Ray, and today we're going to be talking about alignment and what is it? And I didn't realise just recently how far out of alignment I was until I let something go. And so I really want to lean into that today. What is alignment? What does it look like? What does it feel like? What's misalignment? What does it look like? What does it feel like? And what does it feel like when you are in alignment? What things show up? And I suppose my little scientific theory understanding will blend all into that too. So let's start, let's get on this journey. So recently I just went through a breakup, and it's interesting because there was a knowing in me for quite some time now that just it felt like not that I didn't love the person, but that there was something not right about the relationship right now in this time, and I wasn't listening to it. And my heart would feel heavy, would feel blocked, and the things that would come with that are rumination, overthinking, and a real close energy. And because of the rumination and the overthinking, the things that I love to do: creativity, writing music, being on stage, sitting behind this microphone felt like a big ask. And so again, the things that I loved were falling away, and I knew that something had to shift. And once I shifted this, I cannot get over just the synchronicities, the opportunities, the energy shift inside of me that has happened. That there's a knowing that there's realignment. So for me, the alignment concept is when your inner knowing, your actions and your energy are all moving in the same direction. So whether it be about my work, for example, it's easier to do that. I remember about so last year, I actually didn't put on any shows. I think I in completely being transparent with you, I booked a show, I think it was February, and had sold some tickets, but I just wasn't feeling like that's where I wanted my energy to be going, and I hadn't started my podcast yet. And so again, the inner knowing is not the shows right now, but I love the shows, but not the shows right now, and then the action needed to be to cancel that and put my energy elsewhere, and then once I shifted that, everything started to move along again. Now, obviously, with this recent breakup, it's the same thing. Once I listened to the inner knowing and let go, and my actions were moving forward through that breakup, the energy that I was putting into holding on to this relationship was able to be pushed back right into me, and all the things that I obviously at this time are in alignment with me, and doors started opening, opportunities started flowing, meeting new people. Uh I I can't even begin to explain just what has happened in the last little while since the this change that is that is transforming my life and moving it into a more positive direction. And you can probably even feel in my energy that I'm more expansive, there's more light behind my voice, because the energy is directional, the energy is directional towards the things that I love, the things that light me up. Because remember, my saying is if you do the thing that lights you up the most in this world and you'll lose it yourself in the doing, you'll light up the world without even trying. So, again, we need to get back to those things that light us up, and the thing, you know, it doesn't necessarily mean it's a one size fits all, and just because now I've made this decision that yeah, all my life is perfect. No, no, no. There's living in alignment with certain parts of your path, and it's just really trusting, I suppose, when you've been sitting in misalignment, and then you finally let go of something which creates space for new things to come into, you begin to realize when moving through life when when misalignment is occurring. I hope that makes sense. So then the next time it starts to show up, as ugly as it can be, in whether it's your work, a friendship, a relationship, a decision on what to do for the day, you'll be able to listen more closely because you've had a bigger lesson somewhere else. So I started to term this concept of misalignment as being on the wobble, and I explained this a little bit scientifically. So let's talk about brain waves for a minute. So the wobble for me is when the heart and the head are in misalignment and they both hold frequencies. You see, if I was to put an EEG electroencephalograph on my head, we would be able to pick up on these brain waves, thought patterns. So we know that right now I'm in beta brain waves. We've sort of discussed this in earlier episodes, but welcome if you're a new person to the Beyond the Human podcast. So theta brain waves are high frequency, that's when you're thinking, problem solving, you're using your brain in high capacity, and then when we slow our brain waves ever so slightly, we move into alpha brain waves, which we actually pass the analytical barrier, so your analytical brain. Alpha brain waves are usually present when you're driving and you're sort of what we call off with the fairies, and you're using imagery and pictures, slow our brain waves down more, we're in theta brain waves. That's usually where we are when we're in deep meditation, or just before we enter the sleep phase, and then slow our brain waves down more, we're in delta. But what I'm trying to say here is that our brain has a frequency, and it is emitting this constantly, and our heart, if you had to put your hand on your heart, you hear boom boom boom boom, it has a rhythm, it has its own frequency. And the way I sort of see it is for me when I'm on the wobble, it's when my head and my heart are doing this, and I maybe I've had if you can't see me, my hand above my head is moving at a different rate to the hand in front of my heart, like a waves, and then with when they are in alignment, it's when the frequency they are in coherence, and what we know about frequency is when there's two frequencies that are in alignment, we get constructive interference where that frequency is amplified, and for me, that then shows up as what you're attracting because we know that every action has an equal and opposite reaction. So if you're putting out this really strong alignment with what you want in your life, with what you want it to look like, with the actions that you're taking, the energy, the directional energy that you're putting out there, that's going to come back to you tenfold. That's how my brain understands it, and it makes sense to me. But when you're on the wobble, you're miscommunicating with the universe as to what you're actually wanting to come into your life. Your head saying one thing, your heart saying one thing. We've heard this our whole life, your head and your heart, like the the battle between the head and the heart. But it's trying to understand sometimes who's talking. And for me, it's when you sit in meditation, you can really actually feel into the heart space. And if it feels really tight and squeezed, you're not listening, you know. It feels stuck, you feel blocked, and you're gonna have trouble putting your energy and your actions towards the life that you wish to be living, if that's the case. So, signs for me that my head and my heart are in sync, if you like, is that I feel calm, I have clarity, and I feel in flow. Things just seem to be coming easy, legit. I just was getting ready and setting up this, and I got a phone call because I was thinking to myself, oh, I probably need a little bit more income for the next term just to pay off XYZ. And I got a phone call from the teaching agency that I work for, and I haven't really been doing any work this term at all. I've been focusing on healing, been focusing on this and my music and creativity and getting my band back together, and then boom, he's locked me in for two days a week all of next term, and I just I giggle a little bit because I'm like, this is funny because I am in alignment, things just keep showing up, and then when you're not in alignment, it feels like tension, confusion, overthinking, rumination, waking up in the middle of the night, and just sometimes like someone is like sitting on your chest. It just feels yeah, it's tight. So that's my understanding of what I call the wobble is misalignment. But there's a silver lining in the wobble, and the silver lining with being on the wobble is that you're getting close to a breakthrough, some sort of lesson. And I suppose the signs now that you are coming back into alignment is that you are having these synchronistic moments, whether you know it is a job opportunity that you're looking for, and then you meet someone the next day that knows someone that is looking for someone in that job, and you kind of think to yourself, with this little smile, that's a little bit strange. I've spoken about synchronicities or synchronicities around signs that you're awakening. It's exactly the same with when you're coming into alignment again. Once you know, I had let go of this relationship. We had a bass player show up ready to go straight into our band. I had someone coming in to have conversations about potential management, and you know, someone now helping me create proper business plans, all these amazing things that weren't there before, but I didn't have space for them. I didn't even have time for these conversations for them to show up. So synchronicities are a big one. The feeling of the open heart, oh, like speaking into this one is really hard because it sounds so fluffy, but it's just it's like less tension on the heart, feels expansive, feels lighter. Yeah, like you can take a deep breath. You know what it feels like when you have anxiety and it feels tense and you feel yourself going like this a lot. Like taking a deep breath. I don't remember the last time I felt that I needed to do that because I feel relaxed in my body. So I've said the opportunities keep showing up, I feel more calm, and yeah, what I need just seems to be showing up. One example, I just I want to share this. I recently just went to Sydney. If you follow me on the socials, you would have seen I was performing at the Mind Body Spirit Festival, and with the state of the world, in Australia in particular, the petrol pri a little bit, the petrol prices have been rising, and I had to be driving because I have all this gear that I need to take to this festival. And I had a friend that was supposed to be coming with me, and we were going to be taking the caravan, and I was really excited about the trip. And then she got concerned about the petrol prices, because fair enough, we would be towing a caravan and we'd be on diesel, it would be really expensive, and then it was starting to become unfeasible, and so she sort of had a discussion with me and was like, I I don't think I can do it. And I was like, Okay. So then I rang my dad and I was having a chat to him, and he's like, Why don't you take my wife's car, which is a really small car that I'd be able to fit everything in if I was going on my own, and it's half the price on fuel. And I was like, Okay, maybe this is a sign I should be going on my own. And for those of you who don't know much about my story, from the age from from the first memories I have of like being alive, I was petrified of the dark, legit petrified, could not sleep on my own. My parents will vouch for this until I was the age of 32, and I went through my awakening. I wouldn't even sleep in my house that I owned on my own. So if my husband would go away at the time, I would ring mum or dad and I'd have to go and stay with them or have someone come and stay with me. I couldn't actually sleep in a house on my own because of what I felt around me, the things that I would see or hear, I was petrified of existence. And I lived in that fear majority of my life. My high school friends would remember too. I remember we went camping once, and I had to make sure I slept in the middle of the two of them because I couldn't be on the edge because of things that I would see happening or the feelings that I had. Anyway, so to go on a trip to tr to travel 10 hours across into another state, to be moving all my gear around on my own, to go and perform on a stage, to network and meet people and do that for three days in a row. Oh my god, it blows my mind. And so the silver lining out of that is just that I got what I needed, not what I wanted, and it all worked out so much more yeah, so much more magical than I could have ever imagined. And and I just want to share this really funny story that happened on the trip, too, that you guys might find funny. The night before I had to drive back, so I'm gonna be driving 10 hours. I went to bed at 10 o'clock, and I already knew I'd be a little bit anxious because I was only gonna I'd have to get up at 4 30, so I wasn't gonna have a lot of sleep. But I got woken up at 1.30 by some animal on the roof, and then automatically rumination, overthinking, because I was like, I've only got like three hours that I can sleep before I've got to get up. I couldn't go back to sleep, so I got up at three o'clock, got ready, and I left. And I was saying on my socials, I was like, there better be some sort of a magical moment on this trip that I'm woken up for, and again, it's being open to seeing these things and being grateful for what pops up into your world because some people will miss it. And at five o'clock, I was really sleepy, so I stopped off at a McDonald's and I've just slept in the car. I woke up about an hour and a half later, got back on the road, it was still pitch black. And by the time the sun was rising, I was going through the most beautiful part of the drive, which is this dividing range, and there's a big open lake, and the sun started to rise, and just as it starts to rise, there's a lookout like 500 metres up the road, and I start laughing, and I pull into this lookout, and I just stand there. Oh I'm getting buzzed, stand there and watch this sunrise in the most peaceful setting, this most expansive landscape. And I had a tear in my eye, I was on my own, and I felt just so empowered in that moment. That's alignment. That is alignment. I couldn't stop laughing. I was like, you go, universe, you you do you, and I'll just admire and be grateful. So coming back to the wobble, I did say before the wobble isn't a bad thing, the wobble is a sign that you're just ready for a breakthrough. It's just before alignment. There's just got to be a lesson learned before alignment can happen again. So the last part before I wrap it up, I want to talk about so how do we move back into alignment? So we need to be listening, even if it's uncomfortable. And this one's really hard to actually action for anyone because no one wants to move into uncomfortability. I don't even think that's a word, but no one wants to be uncomfortable. That's why I do things like cold therapy, especially, so like ice bathing, because it teaches you to be comfortable in the uncomfortable, so sitting in deep, sort of cold water that's painful to the skin. And what's really cool about cold therapy is it can be really painful, and then after about a minute and a half, the pain goes away, and you get this really euphoric feeling because you've got you know your endorphins flowing, adrenaline, epinephrine, all these really beautiful, feel-good hormones in the brain being released, and you feel like you've achieved something, and so for me, it's been a real big help in being able to make choices and push my edges because we all have edges, and the edges are we're in this comfortable zone, and we have an edge, and when we start to get towards the edge, it starts to feel uncomfortable in the body, and we start to have a bit of fear. And a lot of people that's where they stop and they come back inside, but that's where you have to question is it healthy to then push this edge? Push this edge. If I get through this, will I have a breakthrough? You know, could this be better for me? And when you push through that edge, and you feel yourself move back into alignment or ease or more calm, less tension, then it was all worth it. The lesson's been learned, and we're able to get back off the wobble. So uh you need to be able to let go of what no longer is serving you and being able to sit with yourself, listen to your thoughts to even understand what isn't serving you. So I know for me, I I think I avoided journaling, which is really not like me, for about two months. Because I knew I just didn't want I didn't want to face it, I didn't want to look at it. And a lot of people avoid journaling because they don't want to sit with themselves. And some people will sit here and listen to me and be like, I don't even know what to journal about. If that's you, just so you know, I do actually sell these mind cards and they're journal prompt cards, and you shuffle them intuitively, and then you can pull out a card, and maybe that's what you need to focus on for the day. Just trust, you know, not no different to spiritual cards. So if you're interested in that, I'll put the link below to where you can potentially get them. However, what I'm trying to say is you need to be able to sit with yourself, whether it's doing yoga, sometimes you can have thoughts drop in in yoga. Meditation and journaling, I think, are the fastest ways to sit with yourself onto what it is you need to be letting go of. And you're not going to want to journal or meditate if you're out of alignment, because it's you're just not going to want to sit with yourself. So they're a really good sign that you are in misalignment, but they're also good things that to be doing to find out what it is you actually need to let go of to get back into alignment. And those things can bring our mind and our body back together because a lot of the time when you're ruminating or overthinking, you are out of the body, and when we want to come back into alignment, we need to bring our mind and our body back together, and those activities can do that. And the other things that you can potentially do is sit with yourself when you're looking at the whole letting go of whatever it is, is to make yourself a list of things that are in your control and not in your control, because sometimes we can get overwhelmed about making a decision and these what ifs. And at the end of the day, if you deep down know that making a certain decision and whatever it's to do with relationship, friendship, business, you know, um not going to a a wedding, I don't know, I'm thinking of ideas. Whatever the The gravity of the situation is you need to ask yourself, yeah, what is in your control and what is not. And you need to focus on the things that are in your control every day. And slowly your life will get easier. You'll feel empowered that you have your back. And things will start to feel wonderful again. And something that I wanted to finish on, which I think is really powerful. Alignment isn't about being perfect. It's about being honest with yourself. So don't think for a second that being in alignment means that you're then living this perfect existence with no pain and no suffering and no grief and no loss. No. It's being honest with yourself that when something isn't in alignment, you're not going to let yourself sit in that. You're going to identify it, do the work, let go, and allow what's for you to come back to you. I hope you enjoyed this solo episode. If you did, please share it with someone who is like-minded and that might get some benefit from this episode who might be showing signs of being in disalignment. If you're watching this on YouTube, please subscribe. If you're on Spotify, please follow. And uh I have music out on Spotify as well. That is all of what I call the conscious pop genre. And it is designed and is there for you to help. I suppose it's a frequency, it's a transmission, it's for all of you, for everyone. It's my gift to the world. So please go and check that out. There'll be links in the information below. So I always put a song on the end of my episode, and today is no different. And I really want to play Afraid to Die because it is a song all about surrender and reminding us that we are at one with the universe. And therefore, it really sort of sits with that alignment piece where nothing that is for you will pass you by. So if you continue to surrender and let go of the things that are no longer serving you, you'll live a more you know heart-led joyful existence, and it makes the being in the uncomfortable a lot easier because you're you know that something beautiful is just around the corner. Alrighty, thank you very much. See you next time.

SPEAKER_00 25:36

So why we afraid we're so afraid to death butterflies transform from the cocoon and fly away. So afraid. So afraid to die. And it's time to accept it's part of I let them say goodbye.