The Visible(ish) Podcast

For the brilliantly messy humans ready to show up as themselves!

Tired of the "post every day, be everywhere, hustle harder" visibility advice?

SAME.

This is where we get real about what it actually takes to show up in business when visibility feels stretchy, imperfect or just plain hard.

No filtered perfection here. Just honest conversations about building sustainable visibility that works with your brain, your energy, and your beautifully chaotic life.

Whether you're a seasoned business owner who's been hiding behind the scenes, someone managing ADHD or fluctuating energy or you're just bloody tired of feeling like you should be doing visibility differently, this podcast is for you.

Join photographer, video producer, visibility coach and fellow recovering perfectionist, Melissa Howard, as she shares the messy behind-the-scenes reality of building authentic business visibility.

From mindset wobbles to technical tips, boundary-setting to body acceptance; we're covering it all with zero fluff and maximum realness.

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The Visible(ish) Podcast

Matching Your Inside and Outside: Unlocking Congruence and Confidence on Your Terms - The Visible(ish) Podcast Ep.4

June 12, 2025 • Melissa Howard

Matching Your Inside and Outside: Unlocking Congruence and Confidence on Your Terms - The Visible(ish) Podcast Ep.4

In this powerful episode, Melissa Howard sits down with transformational coach Washington Ali to discuss congruence, authentic visibility and the moment a pair of shoes changed his life.

In this powerful episode, I sit down with transformational coach Washington Ali (instagram.com/becomealive.washington) for a deep conversation about congruence, authentic visibility and personal transformation.

Washington shares the pivotal moment when his mother presented him with a choice between his worn-out Vans (representing his troubled past) and a new pair of Air Force Ones (representing a different path) - a metaphor that changed the course of his life.

This episode explores:

What true congruence means - matching your internal self with your external expression
Washington's journey from addiction and mental health struggles to becoming a coach
How to shift from "What I do = who I am" to "Who I am = what I do"
Why small, consistent shifts (15% improvements) create lasting transformation
Building confidence through intentional exposure to discomfort
The freedom that comes when you stop performing and start expressing

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Washington Ali

01:57 What "Visible-ish" means to Washington

03:09 Defining congruence - matching internal and external

04:45 Washington's powerful shoes story

12:37 The period of torment and "survival mode"

18:41 Transformation and healing

22:36 Finding a new path through meditation and support

28:01 From culturalistic to counter-culturalistic equation

36:39 How Washington helps others find their voice

43:04 Finding confidence through exposure

48:46 The power of giving "roses" to others

55:19 Creating a confident, brave, and happy world

01:01:47 Where to find Washington and his tour

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