Why the Things We Love Control Our Emotions?

Relationships. Filmmaking. Sports. Three completely different topics... or are they?

In this episode of That's So Random, Doc Anthony Bravo explores how the things we're most passionate about have the power to shape our emotions and influence our daily lives. From learning to recognize the difference between someone's words and their actions in relationships, to encouraging aspiring filmmakers to stop waiting for permission and start creating, to breaking down why a single game can have us celebrating like champions or sulking for days, this conversation dives into the emotional connections we build with the people, passions, and teams we love.

Whether you're navigating your love life, chasing a creative dream, or living and dying with every score your favorite team puts up, this episode is packed with honest conversations, motivation, laughs, and a few random takes along the way.

🎙️ Topics include:

• Why actions will always speak louder than words in relationships
• Why filmmakers should stop waiting and start creating
• The psychology behind why sports can completely change our mood
• Why passion is one of the greatest gifts we have

Because at the end of the day, the things we care about the most don't just entertain us, they become part of who we are.

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Transcript

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Alright ladies and gentlemen, welcome back to That's All Random with Your Boy Doc Anthony Bravo. Now, have you ever noticed how one text message can ruin your entire day? One creative breakthrough can make you feel like you're on top of the world. And one sporting event can have you screaming at your television as if your life depended on it, or as if they can hear you. Now, why do we let these things have so much control over us? Today we're gonna talk about relationship, filmmaking, and sports. Because believe it or not, they all have something in common. The one thing they have in common is that we get emotional over them. We pour our emotions all over it. We emotionally invest ourselves into these things. Now, our first segment is about relationships. Stop falling in love with potential. You see, a lot of times we fall in love with the person they portray themselves to be. One thing I try to do myself and also when I give advice is lay everything out. Just be completely honest, be sincere, be transparent. Because if a person can see the positives and weigh that out with the negatives, and also see things that you're working on to be a better person, the relationship can be a lot better throughout the year that you're in this relationship that you're dating, you're getting to know each other. Also, getting to know each other is definitely one thing I highly recommend because every person you interact with in a potential partner situation, everybody is a salesperson, everybody's gonna try to pitch to you what their best qualities are in host that you invest in that, and once you do, then they start exposing their flaws, and it's up to the person to accept the flaws or realize that they got sold some snake oil and they didn't like the deal they had, and that's when that honeymoon phase is over. So when it comes to relationships, I just say invest your time wisely. One thing that you can never get back is time. So when you invest time in somebody, make sure it's time well spent because time is something you will never get back. Another thing that I've learned in life is that you gotta understand your partner, and sometimes you'll get a partner who can never let go of the past, no matter what, they'll always hang on to that one thing, whether it's a mistake you made one time, a situation where you look bad, and no matter how many times you say, Hey, let's move forward from this, whenever they're at fault, and whenever they have to take accountability, they're always gonna refer back to that one point in time, and it's up to you to ultimately say, you know what, you want to keep hanging on to that, then I can see there's no future in us because when it comes to you holding yourself accountable, you deflect on something I did years ago, something that I thought we buried that was dead and gone already. Another piece of advice is taking accountability. I can honestly say that if I'm wrong, I'm wrong, and I will apologize, I will say I'm sorry, I will let you know that I did wrong and I want to better myself by acknowledging that. Some people will never admit they're wrong. You can catch them red-handed, doing you dirty, and they will deflect, they will project, but one thing they'll never do is hold themselves accountable for their actions and their mistakes. So, with that being said, just choose your partner wisely. Now, my second segment of this show is filmmaking. A lot of times we invest so much time and we become obsessed with our projects, and the slightest inconvenience might change everything. When it comes to writing, the best writing comes from personal experiences, and that's what makes the story even more powerful, more emotional, when you can take from something that had an emotional effect on you. And if you are the filmmaker, if you are the director, you can help translate that and help it transcend from the page to the screen, and that same feeling you had in that moment in time in your personal life that you now wrote a story about, if you can translate that perfectly onto the screen, just know the whole audience will know what you felt and can relate, and that's what wins the audience over. If you can make them feel something they haven't felt before, or you can make them relate to what you felt and make them feel like they're not alone. And that's one thing that I love about being a filmmaker. With comedy, you can make them laugh. With romance, you can make them believe in love. With drama, you can make them feel like they're not alone in situations that they've dealt with that is relatable to the story that you're telling. Now, one thing I like to emphasize on when it comes to writers, a lot of times us introverts stay home and just like to read and write and create some marvelous stories, but you need to find it in you to find the courage to put yourself out there because somebody out there needs to hear the story that you're working on, and they're never gonna hear it if you keep the stories locked up in the four walls of your house. So, to anybody out there, any creator out there, you have a vision, you have a story, you have a script, you have a message you want to send to the world, don't be afraid. Find the courage within you to start getting involved in writing workshops, networking, find a theater, find a writing community. Just put yourself out there, let somebody hear your stories because you know what? Eventually, you'll surround yourself with your tribe, and you will get far, and those stories that you've been hiding will finally be heard by the world. Now, the last part of our segment is about sports actually. Why is it that sports affect our mood so much? The reason being is because you get behind your team and you root for them like they're a member of the family, and when they start doing good and they start elevating to the next level and move on to another round, to another stage of whatever competition they're in, it feels like you're walking a tightrope at this point because at any moment they can lose and it's all over, so you're emotionally invested. Obviously, in the last few episodes, I've spoken highly of the New York Knicks and how much I love that team and how often I always fell flat, got my heart broken because we would make it so close and never cross the finish line. And now, after 53 years, they finally did it, they won their championship. And hey, till this day I'm still celebrating, I'm still saying Knicks and five, baby, you know, and same thing with my New York Yankees, they haven't won since 2009, but I still have faith that they eventually will cross that finish line. Now, one thing about me that is probably taboo or frowned upon in the sports community is when you have two teams to root for. In baseball, you have the National League and the American League. I grew up with family members who love the Brooklyn Dodgers. The reason why some of my family members love the Brooklyn Dodgers is because they had a player back in the 40s and 50s, they had a player they can see themselves in, they had a player that they can relate to, and that player was Jackie Robinson. Obviously, my family being Afro-Latino back in those days, if you look black, you were identified as a black. Jackie Robinson represented them to this day. I still have old school Brooklyn Dodgers memorabilia. So obviously, my love for the Dodgers still carried on in Los Angeles. Then, years later, in the 1980s, they get a Mexican-born pitcher named Fernando Venezuela, me being Mexican, and if you've been listening to this show for a while, you know I'm a pretty proud Mexican-American. I am very proud of my heritage. So obviously, the Dodger love continued because then my Mexican family could relate to them. Born and raised in the Bronx, my heart is always gonna be with the New York Yankees, but I'm always gonna have love for the Brooklyn slash Los Angeles Dodgers with the career that I'm pursuing. Because that's where I want to be making my productions and making my career flourish. So yeah, as much as it's frowned upon and tabooed, I'm always gonna love it. Obviously, there's other relationships there in the fact that in the sand lot Benny always wore the LA Dodgers hat, and Benny was the cool dude. So obviously, you want to be like the cool dude, and the whole crew actually, they all had cool hats. You had the Los Angeles Dodgers, you had the California Angels at that time, you had the New York Yankees, and you had the Negro League, the Kansas City Monarchs, which Jackie Robinson played for. The stand lot had a big influence on me, hence why I love the teams that I do. We get so emotionally involved. But not only do we get emotionally involved, but in the sports world, especially with the World Cup recently, you saw the fellowship and the camaraderie that two countries can have, and what brings them together after that game between Mexico and South Korea, like we were having a blast together, we were having fun. Same thing with New York City when the Knicks were on that run and eventually won that championship. New York City was one united place. Crime went down, and New York City isn't the perfect place, it's gonna have its crime, but when our team that we love and grew up rooting for is advancing and getting close to the prize, yeah, we're gonna stop acting a fool and we're gonna watch our team achieve what was seen as the impossible, and that's why sports is one of the greatest things that can unite this world, not just the country, not just the city, the world. Well, that's my time, ladies and gentlemen. I appreciate all of you for listening in. Um, thank you so much for tuning in whenever I get to put on an episode because my life is so crazy and hectic in between being a father, working on my career, working on my projects, writing my scripts, my 9 on 5 job. I try to put out episodes as much as I can, and I appreciate all of you who come back to come check me out. Once again, thank you for stopping by and checking out That's So Random with your boy Doc Anthony Bravo, aka Doc One. And until next time, DJ, play my music.