Self Discovery while balancing family dynamics with Teresa Rosario

Exploring the intersection of personal growth and parenting adult children, this episode could highlight Teresa's insights on self-discovery while balancing the complexities of family dynamics. The discussion might delve into personal resilience, relationship evolution, and maintaining individuality as a parent.

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James Moffitt (00:01.506)
Hello and welcome to ABC's of Parenting Adult Children podcast. My name is James Moffitt and I will be your host. Today we have Teresa Rosario as our guest speaker. Hey, Teresa. I'm good. Thanks for joining us today.

Teresa Rosario (00:12.725)
Hello, how are you?

Thank you for having me. Appreciate it.

James Moffitt (00:19.128)
Hey, go ahead and introduce yourself to our listening audience, please.

Teresa Rosario (00:23.189)
Hi, well, as James said, my name is Teresa Rosario. I am the creator and host of Prosecco Queen's podcast, basically like friends having lunch over drinks and talking. And I am a single mom of two. One is an 18 year old child. And I'm also a professional in the outside world. I also juggle multiple jobs, including podcasters. So I'm out there just trying to do my thing, my life, raise my kids and do good.

James Moffitt (00:52.482)
Good. Well, it's interesting that you have your own podcast. So you're a host as well as a guest, and it kind of gives you a three-dimensional panoramic view of everything that's going on both sides of the microphone, which is great. I have two podcasts as a host, so I have decided that it consumes up enough of my free time that I don't need to be a guest.

Teresa Rosario (01:06.237)
Agreed. Yeah, definitely.

James Moffitt (01:21.494)
I'll just stick to hosting and.

Teresa Rosario (01:23.681)
I could imagine, I could imagine. I decided to start being a guest when I was looking at different ways because my podcast is growing. I've been doing it since 2022. And it helps get the word out there about it, get people to know you as well on a different spectrum than just as the host. And for me, it's been really a good learning experience as well to be on different subjected podcasts and also as well to just put myself out there a little bit. It's very cathartic as well.

James Moffitt (01:53.144)
Sure. That's a big word. What does that mean? It's like therapeutic. Is that therapeutic?

Teresa Rosario (01:55.745)
Well, it's comforting. You got it. Therapeutic, comforting. Yeah, yeah. Healing, really.

James Moffitt (02:00.49)
Okay.

James Moffitt (02:04.331)
I've heard the word before, I never really... I don't think I've ever used it myself or understood the context.

Teresa Rosario (02:08.713)
It's not one you would necessarily, yeah, it's not one you would use in everyday context,

James Moffitt (02:14.475)
Right, right, right, right. So for the listening audience or the viewing audience, hopefully you're on Spotify and you're actually looking at the video. I'm using Riverside for the first time, to record this podcast episode. And, I'm part of the, we are both part of the pod match, podcasting network out of, Florida, Orlando, Florida, I believe. And so there's a lot of podcasting subject matter experts.

And they they've been doing podcasting a long time. And so they give us a lot of pro tips on lighting and audio and video and how to use our editor and all of that stuff. So everybody in this podcast episode is a guinea pig starting now.

Teresa Rosario (02:58.625)
Wouldn't be the first time, I'm good.

James Moffitt (02:59.821)
So anyway, there you go. So, well, I'm hoping that it's going to increase the quality and quantity of the podcast as well. So, you know, I'm always looking for ways to make my life easier. And I'm also looking for ways to increase the quality of the audio and video for the listening audience or the viewing audience, whatever. Yeah, so...

Teresa Rosario (03:20.481)
Agreed. Same here. Yep.

James Moffitt (03:28.789)
ABC's of Parenting Adult Children, have a private support group on Facebook for parents. And if you go to facebook.com slash groups slash tough love, that'll take you straight to it. You just ask to join and all you have to do is answer three questions and voila, you're in like magic. It's private. Everybody on Facebook can see the group, but they can't see what's in the group or who's in the group or anything of any of the conversation because...

we keep the conversations highly confidential because we want people to feel safe. And you can also post anonymously there if you need to. And so we started it in 2015 and we had two teenagers back at that point and we asked, I asked my wife, said, hey, know, our teenagers were giving us a run for the money and...

Let's see if there's other parents out there that are dealing with these kind of issues. And we started out with 10 members and now we're up to like, I don't know, 1.6 thousand, something like that. So we have a ton of people in there. And so, so I was like, Hey, let's, let's add a, a new, audio video and a new, what's word I'm looking for?

Teresa Rosario (04:34.017)
That's wonderful. That's amazing.

Teresa Rosario (04:51.627)
component another piece yeah yeah

James Moffitt (04:53.313)
Yeah, there you go. A new component. wanted to, yeah, I wanted to add this for parents. I know a lot of people like, like listen to podcasts when they're driving to and from work, going to school, the gym, whatever. And so I wanted to have something that people could keep their eyes on the road and still listen to the podcast episodes. And they're going to get this, you know, a lot of the same content or maybe even better content. because a lot of these guests are not a part of our.

our online community, right? Well, when I say online community, the podcast, yeah, the podcast is part of the online community. So I just wanted it to enhance what people, the parents that are in the online community on Facebook, I wanted to enhance. And I also started a Reddit sub Reddit called parenting adult children. We have like 149 members there. Uh, I'm not getting

Teresa Rosario (05:26.352)
And that's amazing because I didn't know about that either.

James Moffitt (05:50.392)
hardly any engagement. I've gotten just a little bit of engagement on there. And so that's better than nothing. But so I have several social media portals for parents to join. so anyway, that's what we're all about. And we want to provide our vision or my vision and mission statement as to help parents who are parenting teenagers anywhere from

between 12 years of age up to 40. Right. So it's a wide, uh, swath of age group. It's large, large age group. so I would say 99.9 % of the people that are listening to this podcast are either, you know, parents of teenagers, preteens, or, you know, 18 to 26, uh, adults and beyond. Uh, and we have a lot of recurring themes.

like boundaries, like failure to launch, addictions and all sorts of things. we, you know, I'm, very blessed that I have quality guests through the pod match network that are subject matter experts such as yourself that can talk to and talk about the different aspects of transitioning from, you know, teenage being a teenager into being a young adult and all the

the problems and all the issues that they face during that transition. So I'm going to quit talking now and just let you take off with it.

Teresa Rosario (07:25.995)
Well, thank you, James. It's interesting because I have started over, right? Like a lot of families do. I had a relationship my 20s with my daughter's father. And then after that had dissolved, I got into another relationship a couple years later and I got married and had my son, right? Obviously my son. So I have children that are 10 years apart. I have a near nine-year-old and my daughter's 18.

And it's really an interesting thing. have obviously then it's a girl and a boy. So in general, they've always been very different. So on top of mothering an 18 year old daughter, I'm mothering a little mother. Right. So a lot of times what I've seen and what what I've seen in my experience too, is trying to create those boundaries. And I fail many times I've had to have

plenty of therapy myself and a lot of help myself in learning the tools in order to have that open communication. We weren't raised, and I say we very, very culturally, but also very generationally to really speak to our parents, right? There wasn't a lot of, it was kind of you're here to be seen and not heard, right? And don't correct me in public, don't embarrass me, those kinds of things, right? Now, don't get me wrong. I'm also with my children very like, I will always have your back.

James Moffitt (08:40.591)
yeah.

Teresa Rosario (08:51.083)
but you make sure you are honest with me because don't embarrass me. Don't make me have your back and go to bat for you because I'll do that till I die. But make sure that I know everything. I know the truth. I know what I'm going into. You know what I'm saying? Have those boundaries where your kids can feel comfortable coming to you and having those conversations, even the uncomfortable ones, even when you're uncomfortable as well.

And what I've noticed over the years for me is that boundary is a little rough at times because it's like I have to sometimes say, yes, we can be friends and talk about this stuff as friends. want you to be open with me. But I also want to understand, I may not be happy about it either. I am still your mother. I am going to always have your back and I will coddle you when it's appropriate, but I'm going to give you that tough love when you need it as well, because I won't tolerate.

all constant whining and the woe is me all the time and everything else because the world's not going to allow that. So it's very interesting. It's something that's constantly a work in progress for me, but I'm lucky enough to be able to have that open communication where my kids are comfortable having and coming to me when they have certain issues or questions as well. And other times I have to be like, listen, especially with my 18 year old, you're going out into the real world.

I need you understand that there's no home without you in it that I have. But when you're going out to that real world, people aren't going to be as understanding, as comforting as mom. And I need you to be tough the way I raised you, but with so much empathy. So that's where the boundary lies. It's really an interesting situation to be in.

James Moffitt (10:43.063)
Yeah, I think that moms and dads have played different roles in parenting. Moms are very nurturing, very, very consoling, nurturing, healing. They're more focused on, I think, the children's emotional welfare and mental health. And like you said, coddling, they're going to do more of that. And I think the fathers, while they love the children fiercely,

they, their mindset is more in preparing the child for real life, right? And, and in real life, there are no participation trophies, you know, and in, in, real life, when you go out into the real world as a young adult and you get your first job, you know, they expect you to show up to work on time. They expect you to be dressed properly. They expect you to be groomed properly. They expect you to have, communication skills and be able to communicate.

Teresa Rosario (11:21.142)
right?

James Moffitt (11:39.778)
verbally with other adults and in a proper manner and Sadly enough we you know Gen Z and Gen X I have adult children that they don't want to talk to me on the phone They don't want to verbally talk to me They want to text me or they want to me a message on Facebook Messenger, know or snapchat or you know, whatever, you know and it's like We've had had several instances where my mother my not my mother my wife Who is their mother?

Teresa Rosario (11:40.821)
right?

Teresa Rosario (11:54.635)
Yeah.

James Moffitt (12:09.165)
You know, if something goes wrong in their apartment, well, we're like, call your landlord and tell them something's broke. Well, mom, can, mom, can you do that? I don't know how to do. don't know how to communicate with, I don't like good Lord. Just pick up the phone, go on, go, go onto the property management website and leave them a message and say, Hey, my garbage disposal or refrigerator or whatever the appliances is not working. Please come fix it. You know, and, and, pick up a phone and leave a voicemail or whatever.

Teresa Rosario (12:14.198)
Alright.

Teresa Rosario (12:23.189)
Yes.

James Moffitt (12:39.435)
But, and I would think in some ways our, our generation Z and generation X, kids, I want to call them kids because to me they are, I'm 63, right? I'm supposed to have grandchildren anyway. I think that, that, because they were raised in the age of technology, you know, they were

Teresa Rosario (12:55.904)
You

James Moffitt (13:06.295)
They were born with a smartphone in their hand or an iPad or any some kind of smart device that connects them to Google and chat, GBT and Snapchat and all these different social media portals. And they're teaching us old people, you know, how to use this technology. But, but when it comes to them being able to communicate in a analog world, right? person to person, they, they sometimes lack those skills.

Teresa Rosario (13:14.677)
Yeah.

Teresa Rosario (13:27.53)
right?

James Moffitt (13:34.601)
And so in that sense, the technology has kind of crippled them when it comes to interpersonal communications with not only, you know, their parents, but also, you know, with their peers and with teachers and coaches and, you know, anyway.

Teresa Rosario (13:50.497)
That's right.

It's true because I actually, you know, I'm across between I'm in my 40s. I'm across between Gen X and millennial. Like that really that last that last line of the first line of millennial and the last line of Gen X. Right. And so my daughter is Gen Z. My son is Gen Alpha. I that was crazy. I just learned that recently. I didn't know what that even meant. Gen Alpha. Like they almost. Yes. So any from anyone from 2016 and above is Gen Alpha, which I thought was so funny because I've never heard of that before.

James Moffitt (14:12.621)
Jen what? Jen Alpha.

James Moffitt (14:20.754)
wow.

Teresa Rosario (14:22.571)
What's interesting is, my generation Gen X were the last generations to have absolutely no technology, like really, and then boom, we had to learn and we had to learn everything, right? Look, all of a sudden it started coming out and it was something that we had to learn. What I've learned over the years and just we're talking the past 20 years, the amount of change has been so fast once it started that.

it's even hard for us to keep up. So for my daughter, for example, who is 18, she was obviously born in 2006. She also didn't have a lot of, she didn't have like iPads and all that stuff. She had like the little e-readers kind of thing, those like the really first ones, the little learning tools. And then she didn't get iPad tools. She was like 10, I think it was, something when it started to become more of a thing for kids. And what's interesting is I look at my son now and I look at how advanced he is, even more than my daughter.

James Moffitt (15:01.451)
Right? Right?

Teresa Rosario (15:17.875)
at 18, you know, because they have the social media, but he's more of the that the language like, you know, that that crazy that crazy slang and I sound like I really age myself when I say crazy slang, because I think of our slang in the 80s and 90s. I'm like, this was nothing like this. This is a whole nother language that even my daughter doesn't understand. He talks to us and we're like, I'm like, slow it down. It's like in English, please. Well, word.

James Moffitt (15:36.62)
Right?

James Moffitt (15:42.227)
like, like when they say, when I, when I say word, so just walk up to you and say word or, or YOLO or.

Teresa Rosario (15:49.717)
Well, those are a little more around us, but when things like they'll say something like, first of all, sometimes he'll call me bruh, which I think is historical. like, excuse me. No, I'm not bruh, I'm mom, you know, or mommy, or it'll be that, like something is sus, which to me, obviously it sounds normal. Like I would understand something is sus, but it's not a normal language. And there's like 15 other things he'll come out and he'll say, and I'll go and have a conversation with his friends. And I'm thinking, was that a sentence? Right?

James Moffitt (15:59.948)
Right. Right.

Teresa Rosario (16:19.649)
The problem with this is when he's out with his friends, and this is my daughter's generation as well, as to your point, they have a lot harder of a time communicating face to face as they do over the fortnight, over the tablet, the Facebook messenger, all those things that they're on, they're able to have no problem talking. I've worked with a lot of Gen Z. I also have my daughter who's a Gen Z and was with a lot of her friends. And there are times that I'm like,

You're in the same room together. Why are you not even looking at each other? And it's awkward to me because I hang out so with my friends, we think about we were their age and we were doing fashion shows and taking pictures and having fun and playing games, you know, because we kept ourselves occupied, but we were together. So it's a really interesting difference to see how they can't communicate like you had said, person to person.

James Moffitt (17:03.17)
sure.

Teresa Rosario (17:17.907)
If you work with them like I do, there's a lot of hard time, somebody looking you in the eye when they're speaking to you. There's a lot of face down or, I didn't know that I should say good morning. I'm like, I taught you manners. Where's the good morning? So one thing that I, it's crazy. So one thing I've been teaching my kids to help combat this little bit is to, especially my daughter, since she's doing, she's her senior year of high school, there's a lot of changes.

Things like when she says she has a severe allergy so she has severe egg allergies, right? So if she was little she'd be like mom I'm gonna order food. I don't want to tell them I have an allergy I'm like absolutely not mom. Can you tell them like you were at say can you can you tell them? No Absolutely, not you're not I'm not gonna be with you everywhere you go for the rest of your life You need to speak up or you will get sick Right. It's things like that

James Moffitt (18:00.504)
Right.

James Moffitt (18:04.695)
You need to be an advocate, your own advocate, right?

Teresa Rosario (18:06.121)
your own advocate when you are in the hospital god forbid or you are driving in your get pulled over whatever the case may be you need to be your own advocate yes i like i said i will be your ride or die but i can't be there for you in every situation i can't be your voice when they have to which has to send emails to schools to to recruiters to whoever it is to teachers mom what should i say absolutely not you you say it you can read it back to me we can correct it together i can tell you so we can talk about tone

But it's not my job anymore unless God forbid there's something wrong with you to do that. This is on you. And I think that's a big disconnect. I think sometimes there's too much gentle parenting and then the kids are raised with, I don't know how to do anything versus there's got to be a boundary between that tough love, got to get you out of the nest the right way versus I can still coddle you and be a gentle parent. It's not an easy road, you know, and sometimes I feel a lot of guilt.

James Moffitt (18:40.257)
Right. Right.

Teresa Rosario (19:05.567)
Sometimes because I just want to wrap them up, put them in the closet. This world is scary enough. Just leave them in there, you know?

James Moffitt (19:11.615)
Right. Exactly. And we want as much as possible as parents, we want to protect our children from the harsh realities of life. And, and, and, you know, our, our dream and our hope is, is that, is that we can teach our children, effective communication skills, effective, coping skills, etiquette, all of the things that will help them to be successful in real life.

Teresa Rosario (19:19.136)
Yes.

Teresa Rosario (19:35.211)
Right?

James Moffitt (19:41.71)
And we want to, we want to be transparent as possible with them and let them know, Hey, when I was 26 years old or whatever age, my twenties, I was a dumpster fire. Well, what do you mean? I'm a liar. I was a dumpster fire. I was, you know, I didn't, I did have good communication skills because I was taught that I knew how to read and you are right. And you had to communicate, but I didn't really have.

Teresa Rosario (19:57.153)
That's right.

James Moffitt (20:09.643)
Really good coping skills. really didn't understand, the harsh realities of adult life, right? Kids have no clue. They're like, I had no clue when I was a teenager. My food was provided. My Trent, my transportation was provided. My clothes were provided. My schooling was provided. I had access. Well, in the eighties, I didn't have internet. I had access to library books. You know, my mother took us to the library as kids, you know, during summer vacations, you know, all my.

Teresa Rosario (20:20.222)
Nope.

Teresa Rosario (20:31.553)
All right.

Teresa Rosario (20:36.161)
That's right.

James Moffitt (20:39.275)
peers were out at the lake partying and drinking and having sex and doing all the things that they're not supposed to be doing right. And, but my parents, they didn't allow us to run wild. They knew exactly where we were at all times. And, there's a flip side to that as well. but anyway, we want our, we want to share and be as transparent as we can, with our children so that they will.

Teresa Rosario (20:55.476)
Yes.

James Moffitt (21:07.839)
understand that, you know, mom and dad don't know everything. And mom and dad had to learn through the school of hard knocks. And you try to impart all this wisdom on them. And so, and one of the things that my parents taught me and my sister was think before you act. was one of the biggest things that they, yeah. They, want to do a well, before you do it, before you open your mouth, before you make a foot of one step forward.

Teresa Rosario (21:25.003)
I am a proponent

James Moffitt (21:38.416)
before you respond, how are you going to respond? Why are you doing what you're doing and think of the consequences of what you're doing before you do it? Because guess what? If you don't think about it and you just go off half cocked, you're gonna, you're gonna step into it and you're going to be like, shit. now I don't, now I'm in a mess and I don't know how to get out of it or I don't know how to. Yeah, absolutely. One, one felony arrest.

Teresa Rosario (21:59.966)
And you could change your life forever. One decision without thinking could change your life absolutely forever. That's right.

James Moffitt (22:07.789)
One drunk driving charge, one theft charge, you know, a felony charge will follow you for the rest of your natural life. And you'll have to explain it over and over and over. Every time you turn in a job application, you're going to have to provide documentation that says, well, I got, I had a felony arrest, but I got no billed. They didn't indict me and I didn't get, didn't, I wasn't convicted, you know, but

Teresa Rosario (22:33.729)
That's right.

James Moffitt (22:35.041)
But you have the embarrassment of having to share that information with everybody. And if you would have just stopped and thought about what you were doing before you did it and recognize the negative or the positive consequences of those actions, then you wouldn't have to be doing that.

Teresa Rosario (22:54.593)
I tell my daughter that all the time. saying, look, to me, you're still a kid. To society, you're still a kid, right? 18 is a kid. 18 doesn't mean anything. When I was 18, when I was 15, 16, oh, I was leaving. 18, I was leaving. I couldn't take it anymore. I grew up in Catholic school. I grew up in the Bronx. I had very, very, very strict parents. My mother was the strict, really the strict one and the hammer down one, right? But when I was in my teen years, everything you're talking about, I would run wild because I was rebellious, right?

James Moffitt (23:09.387)
Me too. Right.

Teresa Rosario (23:24.223)
My daughter's, because I was raising myself, I didn't have that stability that I felt that I needed or the trust in my parents. literally school of hard knocks, right? So I made a lot of decisions that I look back now and I tell my daughter, my daughter didn't have a lot of those experiences yet. And sometimes she goes, well, mom, some of my friends are, I don't feel like I'm normal. I'm like, actually you're the majority. There's no reason to rush.

certain things. said, to be honest, if I could go back, I would focus more on my schoolwork and less on all the other stuff I was doing. know, hindsight is 20-20. So with my kids, I look at her and I say, to me, you're a baby. You know, you have never had experiences because, to be honest, I think that's a blessing that certain experiences you don't have. said, but now you're 18. So society, legally, you are an adult.

See, before that when you're 17, it's like, you know, technically, even though your brain at 18 until you're 25 is not developed yet fully, it doesn't matter. Legally, you do something wrong, anything wrong, you can have a conviction. When you're 17 and under, they can they close it, it's a closed thing, it's, you know, whatever, you don't see it again, it's juvie. I said now anything you do at 18 and up will follow you for the rest of your life. So just a second, a split second before making any decision, say, can this change my life?

what can happen? I mean, it takes a split second, right? Give yourself two seconds, three seconds, just to say, you know what, this is not for me. Or I say the same thing with driving. I'm like, when you're at that red light and it turns green, give it a second or two, just because you don't know what's come flying through there, right? It's the same idea. A split second can literally change your life if you're just thinking ahead of time. And a lot of times that critical thinking is really lacking because it's this instant gratification.

James Moffitt (24:53.463)
Sure.

Teresa Rosario (25:18.857)
all the time. So there's no need for critical thinking. You want something, you have it in front of you from food to drinks to Amazon to Walmart plus to, you know, your Fortnight. So anything you want is immediately sent to you. And for us too, it's becoming, it's becoming almost too easy in a way to get the things that we want instant gratification. We kind of forget about those critical thinking skills we need.

to realize even the depth of the changes that have taken place in our society.

James Moffitt (25:54.862)
Well, one of the dangers that our young people face, that we as parents faced, is alcohol and drugs and mind-altering chemicals that impair us and keep us from making great decisions and good decisions. you get drunk or you're high or you're taking some, God forbid, whatever kind of drug that you're taking.

Teresa Rosario (26:03.553)
Mm-hmm.

Teresa Rosario (26:14.058)
right?

James Moffitt (26:23.371)
When we tell our children, do not do drugs, do not drink, you know, don't especially don't drink to access, you know, and, and.

Teresa Rosario (26:31.477)
Mm-hmm.

James Moffitt (26:36.545)
When our young adults, and we see it around us all the time, we see adults that are, we work with people in our jobs that are full functioning alcoholics, right? And they mask a lot of that because they know how to cope and they know how to communicate and carry on in such a fashion that you don't really, unless you're an alcoholic yourself, you probably don't even know that they have that problem.

Teresa Rosario (26:48.033)
purely. Yep.

James Moffitt (27:05.653)
The problem with drugs and drinking is that it's a mind-altering substance that impairs you and keeps you from making great decisions and good decisions. And you're not able to think clearly, you know? And so that's why we always tell our kids, no to drugs, no to drinking. Don't practice. Don't develop...

Teresa Rosario (27:14.772)
us.

That's right.

Teresa Rosario (27:23.509)
right.

James Moffitt (27:32.838)
a behavioral pattern that's going to impact you for the rest of your life. Right.

Teresa Rosario (27:37.501)
Agreed, agreed. you know, again, as a teenager, we all, again, it was a different time also, we all tried different things. A lot of times what I've noticed, maybe it's just, you know, my daughter's friends and stuff. And actually a lot of it, I'll be honest with you, started since COVID. A big part of it was that separation from COVID where people couldn't be together, right? To me, I saw that it was twofold. One, I found out that my soon to be ex-husband was an alcoholic, right?

Earlier than that, saw signs of things, but it was nothing that was so obvious. But COVID, the depression of COVID, you know, that all brought out old demons, right? That he thought he had kicked tons of old demons. I didn't know because we had started over. It was a whole different time of our life. So was it something that was around when we had gotten together? So on top of that, I've noticed with COVID because there was such

James Moffitt (28:20.429)
Sure, sure.

Teresa Rosario (28:35.239)
depersonalization of everything from schooling to work, right? That some of the things for teenagers weren't as like, I guess, there wasn't as much exposure to those outside sources as they were when we were younger, right? I could go to a party when I was younger. A stranger could hand me a blunt of some sort. I would take a hit of it and keep going. Didn't think nothing of it. This person could have gotten those anything from anywhere.

James Moffitt (28:40.717)
Mm-hmm.

Teresa Rosario (29:04.651)
didn't matter, was just something you did. Somebody handed you a beer, that thing came from who knows where, it was already open. Nowadays, the first thing I'm like is you never leave your drink open. If you have a drink, you take it with you. You get a cover that tells you, watch the straw color, things like that. Because there's so many things now that we're more hyper aware about that at the time we took for granted, right? And we put ourselves in positions that weren't very bright. And I laugh sometimes, I talk to my friends, I'm like, God, you think of all the times that we just...

James Moffitt (29:19.468)
yeah.

Teresa Rosario (29:33.845)
gone to a car with somebody and it could have ended up really, really bad, right? But it wasn't things at the time, not that you didn't know right from wrong. It's just, that was just society. That's just what we did, right? Nowadays we have the, people in Uber drivers that I'm telling my daughter, you make sure you're on the phone with me the whole time, or you check the license plate, you check the driver's picture, you know, all these things. So it's a really, in a way it keeps you hypervigilant, but it's also kind of a blessing and a curse. When it comes to the alcohol and the drugs, one thing that

you know, I always worry about because I have on my side there's alcoholism. I barely touch this stuff. I don't like really much of the taste anyway. I love me a Prosecco. Don't get me wrong. But that's every once in a while, you know, and that was because I had been exposed to it at a younger age. I never thought, now I look at my son and I have to be careful, you know, and I'm gonna have to know and learn the signs of things like that as he gets older because his father, you know what I'm saying? And there are things that I didn't know about his father.

You know, with my daughter, was more about, I never worried about drugs and alcohol. With her, I worried about her mental health because of things I learned later on about her father as we got older. We were kids when we started dating. So there's things that, you know, you don't realize could have a profound effect. And I'm a huge supporter. I'm also active in the mindfulness, the mindfulness approach to things, right? Is to be self-aware. Learn who you are because you're like you said.

You're going to be a different person in your 20s. You're going to be a different person in your 30s, 40s, and so on and so forth. But learn who you are fundamentally so you can handle triggers in more of a healthy way as opposed to the ways that we were never taught, know, the ways we were taught to just drink it or smoke it away or, you know, whatever it was. So it's really, it's really an interesting dichotomy that we're living here right now between the generations.

James Moffitt (31:17.815)
Sure.

James Moffitt (31:26.731)
Well, one of the, one of the drugs that, is a killer in America is fentanyl. And, and, and, you know, that's, that's the message we need to be sending to our young adults is if somebody hands you a blunt or somebody hands you anything, you know, I don't care what form it's in. you've got to be very careful that it's not laced with fentanyl because fentanyl can kill you instantly. And, and,

Teresa Rosario (31:32.587)
terrifying.

Teresa Rosario (31:50.785)
That's right.

instantly.

James Moffitt (31:57.314)
You know, and our kids are like, you know, you're just so super vigilant and you're just so paranoid about everything. And it's like, you know, some of this stuff is life and death, you know? And so we really want to, we really want to protect our young adults from as much danger as possible, you know?

Teresa Rosario (32:07.859)
Instantly it really is it really is

Teresa Rosario (32:16.501)
I agree because it is a different, it's definitely a different world. You know, that fentanyl crisis is terrifying. You know, I knew a lot of people coming up that actually, you know, including my daughter's, my daughter's uncle when he was young of drug overdose, just, just heroin speed, those kinds of overdoses. Now you're hearing of people dying of the fentanyl and it's literally in anything from marijuana that you buy. That's if you're just getting it off the street.

James Moffitt (32:32.95)
Right.

Teresa Rosario (32:41.183)
to a pill. When I was a kid, one thing I never took was strange pills when I was a teenager, because I was always scared for some reason I'd be the one that would drop one ecstasy pill and that'd be the one that would kill me. You know what I'm saying? And so I never did those hard things because that was always terrified way before my years, way before fentanyl became a thing or even a word that we knew of. I was always terrified from just way before my years that that would be the one time I'd be the one person that would take something, you know, laced with something else.

James Moffitt (32:51.766)
Right? Right?

Teresa Rosario (33:08.805)
And it always steered me clear of all of that hard stuff. But nowadays, it could be anything. It literally could be anything. You can touch it on a doorknob. could kill you. You know what I'm saying? So it is really a scary world, especially with that run rampant for sure.

James Moffitt (33:19.457)
Right. Sure.

James Moffitt (33:27.277)
Hey, so I'm gonna ask you one of your questions off your profile. How has navigating single parenthood shaped your approach to parenting? And single parenthood is something that I want to explore on the podcast because it's not really spoken about a whole lot, you know? So talk about single parenthood and how it shaped your approach to parenting.

Teresa Rosario (33:32.481)
Sure.

Teresa Rosario (33:45.481)
Amen. It's not.

Teresa Rosario (33:51.041)
Well, I'll start by saying nobody, 90%, and again, when I say that, because some people actually decide I'm gonna be a single parent, right? Like on purpose, they're like, I'm done waiting for my significant other. I wanna be a parent, I'm gonna do this, right? In my case, not one time did I go into a relationship actively looking to be a single parent, right? And fortunately, it's happened both times. I was in very long-term relationships.

James Moffitt (34:00.606)
Of course. Yeah.

Teresa Rosario (34:21.189)
One thing I explore on my podcast is, you know, one of the things that people talk about a lot is there's always a shame, right? And more towards mothers than if you had a single father. You know, if you have a father, it's like, my goodness, you're such a good dad. But if it's a woman, it's like, there's a stigma. If you're a female, it's like, so she had two kids with two parents, know, two fathers, two men, whatever. And I'm like, wait a second, are women allowed to start their lives over again to women are allowed to have more than one long term relationship. And sometimes a child

James Moffitt (34:36.087)
There's a stigma, right?

James Moffitt (34:47.085)
Sure.

Teresa Rosario (34:50.379)
does come from that does not mean that they're choosing to say, know what, I'm gonna you know, in 10 years, this is all gonna fall apart. You're not thinking in those right?

James Moffitt (34:59.263)
No, no, nobody just makes the decision. I'm going to have a failed relationship.

Teresa Rosario (35:03.541)
That's exactly correct. And you can't control other people and other people's actions, right? Just how you react to them. And for me, I refuse to have and allow more toxicity in my house around me and my children, because it was making me physically sick. It was affecting my children. A lot of times people say, well, isn't the nuclear household better? Absolutely not. When you have two parents who literally cannot be in the same room together, that's doing more damage than it is good in any direction.

James Moffitt (35:32.457)
Absolutely. Yes. Right.

Teresa Rosario (35:33.515)
then there's no communication when there's nothing but screaming and yelling. I was raised like that. And there were times that when I got a little older, I was like, wow, my parents really should have gotten divorced. That wasn't cool because that distorted my view of relationships as well. You know what I'm saying? You can have, it can really distort a child's view on relationships. As a single parent, mother or father, if you're the custodial and you're full time, you really are the mother and the father, which is why I say I have to.

James Moffitt (35:46.475)
Right. Right.

Teresa Rosario (36:01.803)
bridge that gap between tough love all the time and my kids can come to me and they can come to mommy and they can cuddle them and they can sit with me and hug me and that's my comfort too, right? And it's hard sometimes because the burnout, the guilt, know, the other day I had this, there had been like three weeks of just pure stress around my daughter's life. And I realized, I'm like, why am I so calm about all this?

I couldn't figure out why and I had to have like an emergency session with my therapist. said, I don't understand why I haven't broken down about all this yet. And she said, because you've been in shock. And I was like, wait, what? And she was like, you've been in shock. I said, she's like, you didn't have time to freeze or flight or anything else. You have been in shock. And I said, wow, I thought I was just numb. She says, no. She says, but be careful because it could be, then there could be the straw that will break the camel's back and that'll be the thing that you need. That's going to release.

what you didn't realize you were feeling. sometimes we don't realize as parents, parents as a couple, single parents, I will caveat this by saying, let's be real, in every relationship, whether it's two parents or not, there's always a primary parent. 95 % it is the mother who is taking on the brunt of every piece of schedule, appointments, school emails, lunches, groceries, housekeeping, everything, right?

James Moffitt (37:29.517)
think that's just our culture here in America.

Teresa Rosario (37:31.317)
That's exactly it. That's exactly it. And we take that on because we just think that's our role to do, right? And a lot of times we then build that resentment around our partner or for example, in my case, the fathers of my children who are out there living their lives, doing whatever, they get to come in every other week and be the fun parent, you know, we get to go and I have to be the hard ass because I have to be like at home, homework, beds, baths.

James Moffitt (37:54.562)
Right?

Teresa Rosario (37:59.751)
schedules, chores, right? All those things. And mom, please. So then they go with their fathers and it's like a mini vacation. You know what I'm saying? So it's really an interesting every day. That's exactly it. And so every day to navigate it is it can be very difficult. It's a very, it's a very windy road. We have things thrown at us. It's a completely mentally and physically exhausting. If I could say the amount of times I don't have trouble falling asleep. I pass out like if I am drunk.

James Moffitt (38:09.421)
Two sets of rules.

James Moffitt (38:19.936)
exhausting.

Teresa Rosario (38:28.017)
Staying asleep is the problem now at my age, but falling asleep, I fall into bed. thank God every night. Okay, we're safe in our beds. Everybody's home. We're good. And then I pass out and then I'm up three hours later like, hmm, what are the 17 things I have to do today? And I'm like, you still have four hours sleep. Go to bed, you know? So it is that that road is, it's not easy. I wouldn't necessarily change it because I know at one point in my life, if God gives me life, I'm going to miss the craziness of it all. But

James Moffitt (38:31.393)
Right, right, right, right.

Teresa Rosario (38:57.535)
there are times that it would help to have someone to kind of take away some of that stress a little bit, yeah.

James Moffitt (39:04.69)
sure.

James Moffitt (39:07.991)
Can you discuss pivotal relationship lessons relevant for parents of adults?

Teresa Rosario (39:14.721)
Mmm.

James Moffitt (39:15.085)
Pivotal relationship lessons relevant for parents of adults. And I will say that one of the recurring themes of the podcast is transitions, transitioning. Not only are teenagers transitioning into adults, but parents are transitioning from a parent-child relationship to that of a mentor, right? And so both people in the equation are

Teresa Rosario (39:39.041)
That's right.

James Moffitt (39:44.213)
are pivoting into a different transition.

Teresa Rosario (39:47.435)
That's a good point. That's very interesting, especially, you know, especially when it comes to people don't realize. Let's say it this way. How many transitions there are in parenthood? You know, my mother will say the same thing. She's like, I'm in my, you know, I'm in my 40s. My mother's in her 60s. And she's like, listen, she's like, I still worry about you and your sister every night that I go to bed if I don't talk to you, whatever. She's like, still, she's like, you're still my babies regardless, right? So there's always those transitions all the time.

You know when your kid feels pain doesn't matter how old doesn't matter how old you get and your kids get you're gonna feel that pain and you don't want pain for your children right and you would take it away if you could I think part of the transition or part of the pivotal moments in transition is I'm learning that Again, it comes down to certain boundaries for example with my daughter my son obviously is little so I want him to just feel comfortable comfortable coming to me and saying mom I have a question whether it's biological

James Moffitt (40:23.969)
Right? Right.

Teresa Rosario (40:45.173)
right, psychological, whatever it is, that he can come to me and I can explain it to him without shame, because that's a huge one. We cannot shame our kids. We were so shamed. Everything was to be ashamed when you were growing up, right? Don't do this. You could be ashamed. I don't want my kids to be ashamed to come to me and say, listen, I may have a problem. I may need help with something. I have a question about something. And then we can take the next steps for whatever that is, right?

James Moffitt (40:56.79)
Right. Right.

Teresa Rosario (41:09.793)
For my daughter now at a certain age, I obviously want the same things for her because I've been training her. Training her. Teaching her that. That's pretty funny actually. Training her. I'd love to say that was the case for her entire life. But now at 18 and her looking into the next phase of her adult life or her young adult life, I get to the point where I can now tell her certain things about when I was around the same age that I wouldn't have told her when she was younger.

So, you know, a lot of times they're like, you don't understand me. I'm like, how could I not understand you? I was not only that age, I was worse. I was like, but I can now at your age, tell you certain things for you to show. Know that I can only relate to you. I've been there, whatever it is, relationships, school, sexuality, whatever it is. Right. But in this particular world, we have to have more of an open mind because there's a lot more things that come out because they have more access to things that we didn't that.

We have to be you won't you will be very surprised some of the questions that get asked, but how you can relate them to your own upbringing to your own life. So that's a big one for me being able to let go of some of the some of the ideas and the things I want her to know based off of me for her to understand. You're not alone. And actually my dream for you is to do better and you are doing better. Right. Like.

That's I think a parent's biggest dream, no matter what it is to all the transitions, is to have and want your kids to do better than you did in all those areas of their life. So pivotal is definitely not just transitions. My other point of that about pivotal moments are for the parents. Understand you are going to need to grieve the moments before, the dreams you may have had before.

James Moffitt (42:36.482)
Right.

James Moffitt (42:43.776)
yeah.

Teresa Rosario (43:04.435)
That takes so much self-awareness and acceptance and that's a really hard thing to do. For example, my daughter, I've been blessed, she's been amazing at school. She got into every college she wanted, she got tons of scholarship opportunities. And the past couple weeks, some other stuff came up that we realized we're going to have to go another way for a couple years before. And for me,

I didn't realize I was going to have to grieve the fact that I had finally started to accept she was going to be going off on her own in a way. Right. I'd finally start to come to grips with my baby's leaving the nest. I'm going to have to restructure me and my son's whole life. I'm going to have to accept the fact I can't see her every day. I started to finally come to grips with that. And now everything was flipped up on its head. And now I have to have an entirely different plan.

James Moffitt (43:40.055)
Right?

Teresa Rosario (43:57.985)
and an instant plan, right? Because we're talking within the next couple months, right? Like a whole instant plan. And so a part of that is me trying to not just accept as a mother that those plans have changed. I am now grieving all of the plans and the acceptance and the trauma that I had around that. I think we have to be more open-minded as parents and we can't be stuck. We cannot be stuck in old mindsets. We have to evolve and change with our children through every phase of life.

James Moffitt (44:00.642)
Sure. Right.

James Moffitt (44:30.157)
Well, and one of the difficulties for single parents is that, especially when there's a 10-year gap between age groups, you've got a 10-year-old daughter, an 18-year-old son, they're both transitioning differently. And you as a parent, a single parent, you have to be able to seamlessly...

Teresa Rosario (44:47.457)
That's right.

James Moffitt (44:56.725)
understand those transitions that they're going through and how to approach those. And, and it's mind boggling to me to even think about that, but you know, it's a, being a single parent is, is tough. And, I have not been a single parent. well, my first divorce, I guess you could say I was a single parent when I had my son every two weeks or every other week or whatever you want to call it, you know, visitation rights. And, so guess when I had him.

Teresa Rosario (45:06.057)
Yeah

Teresa Rosario (45:21.857)
Right.

James Moffitt (45:26.421)
I was a single parent at that point, but I still had his mother to lean on if I needed to. It's not like she was not, it's not like she was totally out of the picture. more, it was more of a case of she was more in the picture than I was. And I had to fight for my rights as a father to have visitation rights with my son. But that's a whole new story. That's a, yeah, absolutely. And she had the benefit of her living with her parents. So she had.

Teresa Rosario (45:28.097)
Alright.

Teresa Rosario (45:32.449)
Right.

Teresa Rosario (45:46.881)
And she did the heavy lifting, right? Because she was with him the whole time. Yeah, yeah.

James Moffitt (45:56.302)
You know, my son, Jeremy had his mother, he had his grandfather, he had his grandmother, he had his niece, you know, or his aunt or whatever. I suck at genealogy. So I kind of get those. I get all that wrong, but anyway, yeah.

Teresa Rosario (46:05.985)
Ha

That's alright.

Teresa Rosario (46:12.553)
It's true and it's really important to have a support system if you can. I am blessed with that because I do have my parents. My mother works full time but my dad's retired. So at times during the weeks when I have to be in the office or I have to work my second job, some nights when my daughter's not around, I have to be like my dad luckily is able to help me out with my son. And that helps a lot. Yeah, that helps a lot. I'm like, dad, can you pick him up from school today? He has specific days.

James Moffitt (46:37.239)
That's great.

Teresa Rosario (46:41.397)
He knows that that's part of his responsibility. He doesn't do anything else. So he's like, I have a responsibility these days to pick up my grandson. So it does help to have a support system. If you're able to, really do. My heart breaks for someone who doesn't really have a support system because it does take a village. It is really hard and emotionally again for a parent as well to not be able to have an outlet. It's really a terrible feeling after a while.

James Moffitt (46:45.687)
Right.

James Moffitt (47:09.035)
One of the things that I advocate for for single parents and couples that are parents is self-care. We get so wound up and involved in our children's lives and the emotions, the mental, emotional, psychological, environmental, there's so many things going on and we get so consumed. We can get very consumed with all of that. And if we don't set

Teresa Rosario (47:17.278)
Amen.

James Moffitt (47:37.708)
boundaries for ourselves as parents and and you know find that support system or find a therapist or talk to your preacher your pastor pastoral care or whatever whatever shape form or fashion that self-care takes on as parents we need to to recognize that we need that we and just to keep our sanity and to to get centered you know and and to take a breath and

be able to step back, step back from the battle and the fight and go, okay, I need some me time. You don't need, I need to go to you, to the bathroom and shut the door and read a book or listen to a podcast or do whatever I need to do. Leave me the hell alone. I need some me time.

Teresa Rosario (48:17.589)
Yeah. And not have somebody banging on the door. That's right. That's right. You know, I'm so I get it. And I'm such a huge proponent of that huge advocate because people hear self care and they think one of two things they think, it's just a glass of tea if I'm lucky or it's a face mask at the end of the day. Don't get me wrong. I love those things. I think they're wonderful things. But as parents,

Also, this happens in relationships as well. I talk about this a lot because it happened to me We get so tied up in their identities. We lose our own I Spent 20 plus years of my life actually I saved my whole life because I didn't know who I was as a kid either and I went through a lot of Identity crises I guess as a kid too, but it took me nearly 40 years before even as I got to my 40s to start to learn who I am How to use my voice how to take care of myself, right? You cannot be

James Moffitt (48:53.687)
Right.

Teresa Rosario (49:14.745)
a helpful parent in the way you should be if you are not taking care of yourself first. We get to a certain age, we end up having to take where we were about our parents, we worry about our kids, right? They call that that sandwich generation, right? Where your parents are getting older and you're like, you're having constantly to worry about, okay, are they gonna fall? Are they okay at home? Are they working and driving? You know, all these things. And then you got kids.

Doing the same stuff now. They're home by themselves. They're driving, know, you are stuck in this and this area where you will completely lose yourself and self-care like you said means taking time whatever that looks like for you and clearing your mind Grounding yourself. I'm a huge advocate for going outside into nature if you can ground yourself with nature. Some people say it's so kitschy No, it's absolutely not

James Moffitt (49:44.482)
Right.

Teresa Rosario (50:09.453)
If it's reading your favorite book, if it is having a glass of tea and your favorite book when they when the kids go to bed, do that. If it's exercising, exercising is huge. Drinking your water, doing the things that we were not taught, we were taught that you were not successful unless you killed yourself. Killed yourself, right? But your job can replace you faster than your obituary comes out. You see what I'm saying? You Yeah, like you need to make sure you are taking care of you first.

James Moffitt (50:33.249)
Yes. absolutely.

Teresa Rosario (50:38.313)
because mentally you can only handle but so much, anybody can only handle but so much, and eventually your body is going to follow that suit. So self-care is just utmost importance, no matter what that is for everybody.

James Moffitt (50:55.713)
Yeah, we have to, we have to be self-aware and we have to be aware of our mental health, our emotional health, our physical health. like you said, drinking water, hydrating, eating the right foods, getting the right amount of exercise. You know, you have to, our kids consume so much of our energy and time, but you still, as an individual, you still need to practice self-care and self-care is not a, marmy, schmarmie.

Teresa Rosario (51:14.945)
Mmm.

Teresa Rosario (51:25.129)
Right. Right.

James Moffitt (51:25.751)
fuzzy wuzzy word. Self-care is about just being an individual and taking care of yourself. That's what self-care is. It's not some super pseudo psychological crutch. It's take care of yourself so that you can take care of others, right?

Teresa Rosario (51:39.381)
Right.

Teresa Rosario (51:44.091)
exactly it. therapist just told me again I haven't I graduated from therapy like a year and a half ago but every once in a while you know you're like you know what I need to just have like a pick-me-up right and because of how the past four weeks have gone down I'm like you know what I need to just I need to just get this out I need to speak to her and she said to me she says Teresa she says you go into the office again I said out two days a week she said you know what when you're not rushing home to go to your second job

She goes, you know your son is safe at home with your dad and your daughter and everything else. She says, just take a couple minutes extra. Don't rush home. Go walk in a store if you need to, go sit in your car and listen to a podcast, listen to some music, read some of your book, whatever it is. She's like, take a nap in your car if you need to. Those kinds of things. She says, take a few extra minutes where you're not, because she's like, because the second you get in your house, here it goes.

Boom, you have two ears, you'll have five conversations going in and out of each one. And mom, need this, mom, I need that. Mom, did you hear this? How was that? And the thing is, she's like, you'll walk in, how were the kids today? How was school? What'd you have for lunch? Do you have homework? All of a sudden, you go into a mode without even realizing that you're in that mode. And it goes until bedtime. And then the kids are down and they've had a great day. They are knocked out and you're laying in bed like, well, now got 94 more things to think about for tomorrow.

Right. So it's like, when do you have that mind calm? When do you have that time to just relax? The other piece of this is a lot of us and I'm sure I'm sure dads do it too. But for moms, I know a lot of us, we I forgot what they call it. They call it like late night punishment or something like that, where we see, we have maybe an hour or two where we should be going to bed after the kids are asleep. But we're like punishing ourselves because that's the only time a day that we had to ourselves.

James Moffitt (53:04.363)
Yeah.

Teresa Rosario (53:29.793)
So that's what we're sitting and we're trying to get all this stuff done. And then we end up in bed way too late because now we're like, I want to watch this show or I want to drink my tea. I want to read my book. I want to exercise all this stuff that you're trying to squeeze in to like maybe an hour. And next thing know, you're losing four hours sleep because it's the middle of the night. And you're like, I have to work tomorrow and do this again. You know, it's just a balancing act.

James Moffitt (53:48.333)
Sure.

James Moffitt (53:52.43)
It's all about finding a balance in your life. I'm going to give you three minutes to give an elevator speech to single parents out there. What is your message to single parents that are listening to this podcast?

Teresa Rosario (53:56.883)
Yeah, yeah, agreed.

Teresa Rosario (54:11.265)
Well, I'm going to start by saying it's not easy. Keep in mind, you're not alone. So many of us suffer in silence. We sit around and we say to ourselves, I can do this, I can do this, I can do this. Some people refuse help. There is no way you can be an advocate for your children, an advocate for yourself, the best healthy version of yourself without some type of help. I know that sounds easier said than done. But find a community.

There's communities of parents out there who want to help others. Look in the schools, look in your churches, look in your community, talk to other parents. I have a big issue with that. I am not weirdly enough the most, I'm the best introverted extrovert you'll ever meet. So I can go outside and I'm very happy putting my headphones on, sitting on a bench and not talking to anybody. But other times I realize I have to say, you know what, if you need me, I'm here because I'm hoping as well. So we'll say if you need me, I'm here.

And I've been lucky enough every once in a especially with my son, I learned very differently with my son than my daughter. You just gain wisdom as you get older. Take the advice, heed the advice. You don't have to use it. You definitely don't have to use it, but make sure that you're listening to other points of view. Open your heart up, have that empathy. Understand that your children need you and the universe needs you.

So as hard as it is sometimes to get up in the morning and say, we go again, get up in the morning and say, thank God I can do this again. Thank the universe, I can do this again. know, again, I know it can sound kitschy, right? It can sound like, whatever, I'm just used to doing this. No, every day that we are six feet above ground is a good day regardless. And we have to make sure that we are giving our kids the best chance because

The outside world is not doing that. They're trying to strip them away more and more and more every day. Let's take care of our well-being. Let's take care of our mental health. Get help if you need it. There is nothing wrong with asking for help for therapy. There's a million self-help books out there. We have the million podcasts of people that have been there where you are and live it every single day as well. Find community, find help, and know that if anything else, there's a million of us out there going through the same things.

Teresa Rosario (56:37.813)
Don't be afraid to reach out when needed.

James Moffitt (56:41.389)
Thanks, Teresa. I appreciate you sharing that. I appreciate you being on this podcast episode with us. And yeah, absolutely. And so to the listening audience, I'm going to say thank you for the privilege of your time. You can watch this podcast episode on Spotify. And it's a video episode and you can, there's a website that I created and I'm going to share. I'm going to try to share my screen.

Teresa Rosario (56:45.813)
Thank you so much.

James Moffitt (57:09.165)
What am I, where am I sharing screen?

entire screen and I want to go to here. I want to share that and I want to get that out of the way. So here's, can you see the website? Okay. So, so the URL is parenting hyphen adult hyphen children dot podcast page dot IO. I know you probably can't see this if you're watching the podcast, but if you, if you go to Spotify and you go to the about page on the Spotify, uh,

Teresa Rosario (57:27.766)
Yes.

James Moffitt (57:46.124)
ABC's parenting adult children. You'll see this link. It will say website link and it's got, you know, a list of episodes, that you can go down and you can listen to, about just talks about me. I have blog posts where I go in and leave messages for you guys to understand what's going on or what to expect. Reviews is huge. If you listen to a podcast episode, please.

like on Apple podcasts, I think all of the hosting providers, you can actually leave a review. if you go to Apple podcasts or Spotify or any of the other reviews, they'll pop up here and you'll see them. Contact. can contact me via email. You can leave me a voice recording and I'll respond. so I would highly recommend you give visit. you could visit our website and leave a review. If you listen to a podcast episode.

And you like it, leave a review and that'll help other people that are thinking about whether they want to listen to the podcast or not. And so you can also listen to us. I already told you website provides contact information, upcoming show schedule place to leave a review for the podcast episode. You can also listen to the audio version of the podcast on Amazon music, I heart radio, Apple podcast and public radio. I try to release a new.

episode every Friday at 8 a.m. And Teresa, thank you for being such a wonderful guest and I appreciate your insight of what it's like to be a single parent and all the different struggles and challenges that happen there.

Teresa Rosario (59:23.329)
Thank you, I appreciate you having me on this platform.

James Moffitt (59:26.699)
Yeah. And tell, tell the viewers about your, are you able to share your podcast? Do you have a share button on your riverside FM?

Teresa Rosario (59:34.517)
I do, I don't actually have it up in front of me, but yes, I would be able to share. But what I can say for sure is my podcast is called Prosecco Queen's Podcast. Like I mentioned earlier, it's kind of like ladies lunching or having brunch with your closest friends and your family. It's discussions about life.

love relationships dating sex parenting spirituality and the gamut. I do everything from book reviews to smaller episodes where it's just me talking about my experiences and how to help and how I've been helping healing from different traumas, parenthood, relationships and so on and so forth. It's really a self help, self awareness, hope. And that's what I really try to, and empowerment I try to put out there. That's at Prosecco Queen's podcast. It's on TikTok. I'm on Instagram.

James Moffitt (01:00:14.039)
Gotcha.

Teresa Rosario (01:00:22.537)
Also on YouTube at Prosecco Queen's podcast where I show my videos. also have a small video of the recordings as well for each episode. So please like subscribe clips exactly. Please like and subscribe. Follow me, my community as well. and I appreciate it. Thank you.

James Moffitt (01:00:31.213)
clips.

James Moffitt (01:00:39.126)
All right, not a problem. Thank you for sharing all of that.