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Playing The Fool
Welcome to the PLAYING THE FOOL Podcast, I am your host Jarna Saunders.
I am a proud as fuck Life and Relationship Coach and personal development nerd, with a HUGE passion to get every single woman in the arena of their own lives.
I have over 10 years’ experience coaching 100's of women and couples.
I've been where you may be right now: for years I sat on the side-lines of my life, stuck in fear, in my head, in the past of that ONE TIME I was put back in my corner and I let it cripple me with fear.
That was until one day when the PAIN of staying hidden was too much to take and I made the choice to get my butt in the ARENA of MY OWN life.
To take the risk of looking like a beginner, looking silly and GOD forbid looking like a FOOL.
My promise to you is to show up here in all my parts and seasons with my heart proudly on my sleeve, gate keeping nothing but asking us all to WALK OUR GOD DAM ARSES out of the corners we were never born to exist in.
Let's Play.
Playing The Fool
Episode 33: The Accountability Gap: Navigating "The Gap" in Relationships
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In this episode of Playing The Fool, I try something new and answer relationship questions sent in by my incredible community.
I start by talking about the “accountability gap” a dynamic where one partner is expressing the emotional impact of something while the other is focused on defending their intention. When this happens, couples often end up having two completely different conversations, leaving both people feeling unheard and in deep frustration.
I also explore how defensiveness in relationships can often come from shame, not a lack of care. For some people, hearing that they hurt their partner can quickly translate into feeling like they are the problem, which can trigger justification or shutdown instead of understanding.
I share insights from my work with women and couples, and why healthy relationships require two people willing to reflect, take accountability, and grow together.
And as always we keep going back into the EGO, what it is, what it isn’t and how we all have one.
Relationships are so challenging for so many of us as we were often never modelled what healthy and safe adult communication looks like in the home. If this feels like something that you struggle with and would like support to learn how to show up for yourself in a more effective way then have a look at the way we can work together in Tender and Relation Ship Coaching.
It really is life changing when you say YES to DOING this work.
If you’re ready to create something deeper, safer and more honest I would love to work with you inside Tender or through Relationship Coaching.
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