Ep.36 The Unspoken

The Unspoken...

Song by Bob Sima - No mud No Lotus

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Link to Bob’s Music 

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Transcript

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Welcome back to the Gen I podcast, where we have conversations about the human experience. Well, hello there. Welcome to this episode about the unspoken. So much of what shapes us doesn't arrive through words. It arrives through silence held too long, through feelings that never found language, through truths that were sensed but never spoken out loud. And over time, the unspoken doesn't disappear. It it kind of organizes itself inside our lives. And it becomes a pattern. It becomes protection. It becomes distance. But the unspoken is not only absence, it is also information. It is memory stored in the body. It is love that didn't know how to land. And it's a wound that never had space to be witnessed. And when we begin to notice it, really notice it, we are no longer living inside the cycle. We are standing at the edge of it. Now that's powerful. Because what is unspoken can be carried for a lifetime or it can be brought into language where it begins to change form. Today is an invitation into the unspoken. Not to force everything, but to become honest about what has been quietly shaping the story beneath the story. And as we close, I invite you to stay a while. The song I've chosen today is by Bob Sima. No mud, no lotus. Let it meet you where you are. Let it remind you that what has been difficult is not separate from what is becoming. The unspoken is a doorway, a portal. And once you begin to see it that way, you realize it has been moving through your life the entire time. The unspoken arrives as an invitation or as a wound. Sometimes both. Vulnerability is where it begins. Vulnerability can arrive as an opening or something that can no longer stay contained. When the unspoken wants to be expressed, it may be coming from fear, protection, protection for yourself or someone else, a place of shame, regret, or love unexpressed. And in that moment, it asks something of us to stay present, not defensive, not to fix or not to predict an outcome. That's just mind layered over mind. Just to be present. This past weekend, I met Bob Sima in person, attended an intimate gathering performance and workshop he hosted. A dear friend came along for the ride. The days leading to this weekend and following were moments where you say, You can't make this shit up. The word unspoken kept appearing and then reappearing again and again. It became a signpost. And in that space, at that workshop, Bob facilitated, I spoke an unspoken. And witnessing others express theirs. And I can feel it clearly. The unspoken can free us from what has been held too long inside the body. It can also create unease when it is not expressed from grounded awareness. When we just have no language for what we've experienced. Sitting with what is without judgment. The unspoken can be unexpressed emotions, stored as thoughts, memories. The unspoken we carry is often a longing, a desire to be seen, heard, witnessed, and unconditionally loved. It can be something simple that was never said, or something that has lived in silence for years. And the unspoken is not limited to pain, shame, or guilt. It can also be love that never found expression. Sometimes what we think is ours is actually generational. Wounds are echoes, an imprint, a stamp of the past. We don't speak about that. Keep it to yourself. Do those words sound all too familiar? And over time that becomes the way we show up. Silent, not feeling supported to show up authentically. The unspoken is not always personal. It can be collective, cultural, generational, a belief system that shaped what you could and could not express. In Bob's song, No Mud, No Lotus, he references a quote. Part of our transformation begins when we no longer judge the wound or question why it's there. Not all unspoken are called to be expressed. Just as not all thoughts and ideas are meant to be put into action. If we acted on every thought and idea we had, there would be no space to sit in the in-between to feel and allow life to unfold without our doing. Silence and solitude, the space where growth happens. In this space, we can use discernment on what we put in motion. The unspoken can burn bridges and it has the power to build one. When expressed from a place of pure intention, it can free you from the fracture line it created on your heart. It can mend what was broken. When we resist it, it can also create further fractures if the intention is not grounded. If the unspoken is spoken from a place of needing to be right to shame or punish another, it creates further distance and reopening of old wounds like salt that are added to a wound. Between truth, illusion, and the healing process are the unspokens. The unspoken express can also lead you to the work you are meant to do in this life, your dharma. It can be a feeling, a memory, an experience, something you are too shy to express. It may be something you see in someone, a quality that they may not see in themselves. The unspoken is not limited to pain. It can also be what uplifts, transforms, and reconnects. And sometimes it closes a chapter to create space for what comes next. The unknown. Ah, those unknowns. And that's another episode. Where does the heart come in all of this? The matters of the heart are not always from blissful encounters. The stairway to the heart is through the root, being grounded, acknowledging the times you lived in survival without judgment and knowing there is another way. Allowing yourself to feel what you feel and releasing its grip on influencing your decisions and thoughts. When unspoken is held too long, they become stored. Thoughts, patterns, ailments, and illness. Sometimes they become masks, a way of being perceived in order to remain safe or accepted. The mask of expectation, the mask of protection. The mask of who we think we need to be. And you know what? It may not even be our mask. We may even borrow a mask from an archetype to survive or to be courageous and thrive. The unspoken may go against cultural, religion, political views, or inherited belief systems that hold no truth to who you are. And yet, when expressed from a healed heart, it can still be hard to hear on the receiving end. This is where we break the cycle. You may be the first in your family to break the cycle of silence. The unspoken can come from a place of love and still require courage to express unspoken. It can be emotion calling to be expressed, released and let go. Riding that emotional wave, finding a grounded space to allow it to flow freely from your lips, not doubting what you feel called to express without feeding the past narrative. Relax and release. A shift is taking place globally. Some may feel life is in acceleration mode or a liminal space. Wherever you are, ride that wave and just trust the process. Please, please trust the process. Commit to the inner work. Being grounded becomes a foundation for knowing what is ready to be expressed and what is meant to remain within. The unspoken is part of this evolution, standing in truth, creating change, becoming the change we want to experience. When an unspoken is expressed to you, it may be a truth you are unwilling to see or sit with, or it may not even hold factual truth. Remain open to receive all of it and thank the moment for showing you that the inner work is truly never complete. The invitation is to receive it with acceptance, through compassion and non-judgment, shifting from resistance and control into presence, because not all unspoken are meant to be spoken, expressed. And not all are meant to stay silent forever. Practicing discernment in your expression is the bridge to your empowerment. After listening today, I request of you one thing, just one thing. Start with reaching out to someone and express the unspoken. What do you admire about them? What do you appreciate about them? It may be something they don't see in themselves. You are so loved. One of the qualities I noticed about you, dot dot dot, it may be a difficult conversation you've been putting off, avoidance, a pain you've been carrying, or a destructive pattern you recognize in someone you're close to. And if the person has transitioned no longer in physical form, entertain writing them a letter. You may be the first in your family to break the cycle of silence. The ripple effect of creating change in our lives reaches many. It's entanglement. No matter the distance, we are all connected. And this past week, experiencing the synchronicities around the unspoken and the connections, again, you can't make this shit up. When we witness someone express an unspoken, it can become permission for others to do the same. To be courageous, vulnerable, authentic, to express theirs too, even if it may be a bit messy. The unspoken we carry is a longing. A longing to be seen, to be heard, to be witnessed, to be unconditionally loved, not just by others, but by ourselves. To unconditionally love ourselves. And maybe the real question is not whether it should be spoken, but whether we are willing to listen when it arises within us. Thank you for being here today. For showing up. This episode was inspired by a flood of knowing, the information that just came through to me this morning. It was continuous, endless writing. There was no pause between words, between sentences, between paragraphs, between pages. And the information as I was trying to get ready for work this morning, it just came coming in with my toothbrush in my mouth. I ran out of the washroom to find my journal to continue writing these insights. The clarity that just hit. And as I drove my daughter to the gym this morning, the insights and knowings kept coming. I was driving. I couldn't write. So I asked her to write it for me. So she wrote down what came to me. And as I arrived at work, I pulled out the sticky notes and continued to write. Shortly after arriving to work, the insights and the knowings started to slow down. I knew in that moment when I was driving to work and remembered that today's date was June 26th, a date of great significance in my life. That this was something that needed to be shared, shared with you. So thank you for listening. And if you feel called to connect, reach out to the Genipodcast at gmail.com. Oh, also, don't forget to check out Bob's website for his tour schedule. He may just be coming to your neck of the woods this summer to do an intimate performance and host a workshop. And as promised, here's Bob closing us out with No Mud, No Lotus.

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Haven't you noticed the patterns of pain in your past? It made you wait. Also awoke you to the questions you needed to ask.