Netflix Actor: Why You Overthink Everything & Feel Behind In Life | Brad Kentish

Chapters
05:43 — Why Most People Stay Silent In Big Rooms
08:48 — The Mistake That Makes You Miss Opportunities
14:09 — What Rejection Is Actually Doing To You
22:25 — The Pressure To “Make It” Before 25 
50:12 — What No One Tells You About Porn & Sexual Pressure
57:43 — From Lust To Discipline: Brad's Turning Point

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SPEAKER_06 0:00

How did you get the confidence to go up to the director and the writer and chat to them and be like, hey, can you give me a job?

SPEAKER_00 0:05

My mind I can't think of that now whenever.

SPEAKER_06 0:07

Pornography masturbation is something I see that's exposed to young kids, and then all of a sudden a joyful, expressive child is now very shy and doesn't talk as much. What age did you start masturbating?

SPEAKER_01 0:19

Young, I was very young actually. I was really young. Ten? Nine or ten? I was sexually active growing up. So I started when I saw it for the first time. People having sex with TV. It kind of turned me on a little bit. I was like, oh, okay. Over time, I started doing it when I'm thinking about somebody who I like. I was addicted to doing it. I was addicted to it, I'll be honest. Choosing not to do it has been very difficult. It keeps you on the right path. There's a lot of urges, but I control those urges. I'm not masturbating.

SPEAKER_06 0:46

What do you think is the biggest thing that really stops young people from being bold and pursuing what they want?

SPEAKER_01 0:52

Self-esteem. Like, people need help with self-esteem. You have parents that all sorts of nonsense to them.

SPEAKER_06 0:59

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SPEAKER_01 1:44

Uh basically, um how I got those opportunities was more like uh extra people thing. So it was more like extra people and stuff like that. And it was quite it was quite nice, it was quite um sweet and calm. And uh yeah, like um everything about it was really good, really amazing, and uh yeah, um it was quite fun actually, uh in itself to really gauge into. So yeah, I really did love um that whole world view of it. If that makes sense. It was quite fun, it was quite amazing, and it was really Yeah, getting into Supercell and visiting was amazing. And um, yeah, um me and Josh Telika are actually friends. Actually, one of the Glaze Taser and I actually friends. I even wanted to play his role myself, actually. I would have done a really yeah, I would have done a dip and take on it though. And uh I would have shown a bit more I would have been a bit more prideful. Yeah, I would have shown a bit more pride and a bit more personality, but I feel like Josh Chedaku's version is perfect, like really perfect.

SPEAKER_06 2:58

Like how he taser is is key, you get me, so yeah, yeah, he did a great job on that one. When you actually got on those sets, what was it really like being there behind the scenes? Like what was it like?

SPEAKER_01 3:13

Yeah, it was quite fun actually. So they'll they made everything look like King's Cross. Like when you see in season one of um Supercell, it literally looks like um it literally looks like season, like it looks like King's Cross. Like, but it's more like CGI green screen there, green screen there, and I even saw Sabrina going high. Like, you know, in the future scene, see her going high up there. I'm like, I s I'm witnessing all of that. Like I even saw I saw Michael Ward there once. Didn't speak to him, but yeah, I saw him there. It was actually crazy actually, yeah. And um I saw other people there too. And uh yeah, man, being behind the scenes is quite good because you get to like read people and you get to see that certain individuals aren't really who they portray on screen, if that makes sense. So you can see straight through people, you get it. So so yeah, so it was quite interesting to be in that space. And uh yeah, like I found it funny people going back and forth about who was but uh Chris Brown on MJ back in the day. Yeah, I mean it was quite funny seeing that on set though, but yeah, it was his jokes. Obviously, MJ's always the one, but yeah.

SPEAKER_06 4:37

Yeah, and like so were you able to like go up to the main leads and talk to like the directors and stuff like that?

SPEAKER_01 4:45

Yeah, definitely, yeah. Yeah, um, I spoke to Ratman, he was telling me how it's his own Marvel universe, which was quite cool. Yeah, and uh Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Like um, yeah, he's really he's a solid guy, actually. Yeah, I sh I even had my own scene actually, but it was cut. I was I was too I was too bad. I was too much of a bad boy.

SPEAKER_06 5:11

That's the worst. Nah, that's the worst.

SPEAKER_01 5:14

Yeah, but I I still get seen. I still get seen that's the important thing, and they know who I am, basically.

SPEAKER_06 5:21

Like, yeah, that's nice. So did you not ask them for a job or anything like that?

SPEAKER_01 5:25

No, I did actually. I even spoke to the writer and uh I even asked to even like be like maybe a I can probably play like Taser's dad in the past because we look similar in some state, like in the past, but as a you. Okay or or play like a rival of Taser, but from a different gang.

SPEAKER_03 5:44

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 5:44

Or even or the same gang, but somebody stepped up.

Why most people stay silent in big rooms

SPEAKER_01 5:48

You know what I'm saying? So I like that. Um, but yeah, um, but I still talk to them here and there, and um, I still try um I struggle, but I'm still making my way in the industry. And uh yeah, like um it's quite good. Um see yeah about speaking to them was quite good, and they're just like all of us. You get me? When you see people, like you can tell when people are just some people are living for popularity, and some people are real. So you see the real ones and the ones that are a bit up and down, up and down, you get me?

SPEAKER_06 6:26

So you can so how did you how did you get the confidence to actually like go up to the director and the writer and chat to them and be like, hey, can you give me a job here?

SPEAKER_00 6:36

Yeah, it's either my mind I can't think it was out of nowhere.

SPEAKER_06 6:40

Yeah. Yeah, because you know, I went so like I was able to go on a set as an extra, yeah. But they didn't tell me like I had no idea because they didn't tell you what the film is or what the series is, like they give you no information about it. They just well at least for me, I don't know about you, but for me, and I didn't they didn't tell me anything this whole secret code for the actual name of the show. Um, they just say like what scene I'm in, and so and so I had no idea what I was getting myself into, and it would be my first time on set. This was last summer, so like when I was yeah, 19. And like I went on set and I saw um what's her face? Are you Eddie Berry?

SPEAKER_05 7:32

Edgy Berry.

SPEAKER_06 7:32

Did I say her name?

SPEAKER_05 7:33

He's Edgy Berry.

SPEAKER_06 7:34

I'm a Nigerian, I'm not even saying it well, but like I saw her and I was like, oh my oh my days. Oh but I didn't think it was her, but actually it was her, and then she crossed past with me, and then um I really wanted to like go up to her and talk a bit more, but she ended up coming coming over to say hi, but it was only because she thought that she accidentally pushed me over when she didn't. Um but it was like I they put me in a scene, and there was a moment with the director where I almost could have like had a bit more of a conversation with him, and I just wanted to get his contact things either come on my podcast or for me to work with him more and be in a show or something like that. And I didn't ask him, and that's like one of my biggest regrets. Like, I didn't ask him, you know, when you're in that now or never this is like this could be like an opportunity that I take, and like it can either go really wrong or right because they were so fast-paced, they were like this, this, this, this, this, and it's like they just want you to to like go off like the the people who deal with the extras, it's like you're just kind of being escorted back and forth, isn't it? Um, so it's like when you're done, you're done, you know, you don't need to be staying or

The Mistake That Makes You Miss Opportunities

SPEAKER_06 8:48

hanging out. Um, so it was like I felt so now, you know. I was so angry with myself because I didn't ask him because it's like I just my mind went blank, I had no idea what to even say.

SPEAKER_01 9:02

Um Yeah, I I it's just it's just the energy of the room. So even like some of the actors, like even when I wanted to talk to them, I kind of felt like, yeah, like that person seemed a little bit, you know, I mean, because you see with me, I'm not scared to say names. Like when I saw Michael Wards, I can just see straight through him, like, yeah, this guy lives for popularity a little bit, you get me? And I'm thinking, yeah, like um, I have to be careful when I'm around him because obviously his energy is like his people. And the others are more like Taser, he's more talkative, like Josh Tedakou. I can talk to him because he's a great guy. The others, I can talk to them, but I have to talk to them by the level. Do you get me? So it's about the energy of the room. So like maybe it's more like Yeah, you probably wouldn't want to talk to that person, but you have to think of yourself am I not speaking to this person because of the energy of the room, or am I not speaking to them because I'm scared to say what needs to be said? You get what I'm trying to say? So it's more about should I speak to that person or not? Or is it because of how the person's moving? Do you get it? Like, let's say you know the Caprio, for example. Like, you know Caprio is cool, right? Cool guy, or even what I'll use Will Smith as more of an example now. Will Smith, yeah. My idol. But if his energy is a bit off, especially after the slap situation or whatever, yeah. If his energy's a bit, if I'm getting that type of energy when I'm around him, I'm not gonna talk to him. Because that's not my wavelength. Because if I speak to someone like that, I have to talk to them in a way that then that makes them comfortable, not myself comfortable. So it's more about can I speak to this person? Yeah, they might be famous, but what's the energy saying? Do you get it? What's their energy saying? Because there are a lot of people that I can name right now who are influencers or actors that I've probably seen, or even what people have told me, and their energy's off, you get me, so you have to check that. You get what I'm trying to say, because God's everybody is energy, like God's everyone's a part of God, innit? So everyone has that energy. So you have to use your discernment and think, hmm, what can I gain from it? You get what I'm saying? And yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. That's what that's my advice for you for next time if you choose. But if you choose not to, and always look to yourself and think, Why did I feel like I couldn't talk to this person? You get what I'm down though.

SPEAKER_06 11:45

No, but the thing is the guy the guy was really nice. Like he even has he even has a daughter called Chloe as well.

SPEAKER_01 11:51

Like that was more of a time, that's a sign right there, then.

SPEAKER_06 11:54

I know, and I'm I was so upset with myself because like that was status alignment already, you know. You know, so and I'm also not the person like I don't really see oh, what's your energy like? Should I talk to you? I will talk to literally anyone and everyone.

SPEAKER_03 12:09

Like I'm very, very out there.

SPEAKER_06 12:12

Um, you know, so and especially when it comes to like opportunities, I try not to think like too selfishly, like I wanted him to come onto my podcast so that he could, you know, share some words of wisdom to the young people, you know, to help them confident and go for their dreams.

SPEAKER_05 12:27

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 12:27

Um, but it's like especially when it comes to opportunities like that, I make sure like I'm gonna ask you, even if you're gonna reject me, um, I'm still gonna ask you. And I didn't I feel like I just need to like deconstruct my mind so that I'm not viewing it as the person's rejecting me. It's just like it just wasn't we just weren't in alignment, you know. I believe that everything happens for a reason and I'm in God's will. So yeah, you know um that guy, what's his face? You know, School of Hard Knocks, you know that um guy called James D James De Moulin? I don't know. But he goes, he goes out in the streets and he's like, excuse me, sir, I have a question. When did you make the first million? La la la la la.

SPEAKER_05 13:09

Ah, bala.

SPEAKER_06 13:11

He just goes for it. That's that's what sales is. Like, you just have to go for it no matter what it's game at the end of the day. Um yeah, so thank you so much for that. Now I know like just go for it and just be like, hey, I like your energy. Can I have your contact and like to work with you? You know, just really going for it, even though you're really scared.

SPEAKER_05 13:36

Yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_06 13:38

No, so I respect you definitely. I respect you a lot for doing that and you know, going up to people and just speaking to them, even asking them for what you want. You just gotta do the ask, isn't it?

SPEAKER_01 13:50

Yeah, do the ax, go for it. Um yeah, it's always good just to talk to people, and it's just with me, it's just that sometimes I just try and read the room a little bit. That's why I said that. But I feel like it's good just to go for it. Is it sometimes people that don't recognize people don't

What Rejection Is Actually Doing To You

SPEAKER_01 14:10

recognize good things? People don't recognise when someone's generally being cool. But everyone always thinks that everyone's after for someone. I'm cool. Like, I'm thinking, why are you being so negative for like you know what I'm trying to say? Like, because you can just randomly give someone advice and then that person can think the opposite. Do you go on?

SPEAKER_06 14:31

Yeah. Yeah. No, it's that balance. I get what you're trying to say, but I feel like you don't really know until you just do the arts. There you go. And then that's you know the energy. Because imagine, like maybe someone's just having a bad day. Maybe someone's having a bad day, and like they just that's maybe that's why the energy seems off, but like when you actually go up to them, like I feel like that's when you're able to assess it a little bit better and just give people like a fairer chance, you know what I mean? Yeah. But anyway, so when you were on sets like Bridgeton, Supercell, Criminal Record, you know, did when you're on those sets, like, does it make the dream feel closer or does it sometimes create more of a pressure to succeed?

SPEAKER_01 15:16

I think closer, I think a bit of both sometimes. Pressure and closer. So me being there is like me getting closer and closer to my dream, but more pressure as and I gotta like. I have to keep on doing and doing and doing because I don't wanna because I've been an extra for about I had a game towards four years now, actually. Yeah, so I've done other stuff as well. Um I just last thing I did that was huge was game Game of Thrones, like a spin-up of Game of Thrones, which is quite cool.

unknown 15:51

Okay.

SPEAKER_01 15:51

Uh yeah, yeah, yeah, House of Dragons season three, which is called. Um yeah, so it's just about um yeah, I feel like it gives you more hope that yeah, you need to keep up with your path and keep staying on that journey, man. You get me? Yeah, the children's done. Like, yeah, go get it, man. Like go get that, go get it. You get what I'm trying to say. So it's more like the confidence to get up your bed in the morning. Go do that, you know what I'm trying to say. And the confidence to like Yeah, just know that you can still do it. And the fact that you're on it, like use it to your advantage. Because there's potential there. Potential only happens if you utilize it, but if you don't use your potential, it's just it will be anything but potential. Like it will never fester. It's like an egg never hatching or a caterpillar never becoming a butterfly. You have to has to fester somehow, but if you don't put in that effort, that's all that's gonna be.

SPEAKER_06 17:03

Yes, yeah. Like, yeah, definitely. When I when I did um do that extra job, you see, I can't even say what it was because I have no idea and it hasn't come out yet. Yeah, it's like I I still I wouldn't even know, like if it did come out, I wouldn't know what to say. Yeah, yeah. But I know it was an Apple TV show because I asked the people who's producing this. Um, but like I did get that feeling, like, yeah, okay, I'm on set. It's my first time on set, I'm so excited. Um but like for the whole day, like I was literally kind of just uh in the trailer with the other extras, just kind of on my phone. And like I feel like when you're an extra, like there's a tendency for other people who are extras to gossip, do you know what I mean? Or maybe complain or feel like and like you hear all the doubts and the limiting beliefs, like, oh I'm never gonna make it as an actor, no, you have to be like yeah rich, need to have already famous parents and stuff like that, and it can be so depressing and draining. Yeah, so like even though you're there on set super exciting, there's also it's like an up and down to it, you know. So I feel like I feel like that it's acting is so uncertain and competitive, you know? So what do you think like did you did you ever feel pressure to take a safer path instead of pursuing acting fully?

SPEAKER_01 18:43

Not really, not like acting has always been my job, like I've never thought of anything else. Like, I mean as I'm older, I'm now I'm looking at other options, don't get me wrong, there's options I can probably take. Like maybe like business studies or finance, like like entrepreneurship, crypto, currency, or whatever, or doing something in tech. You get me, like that's something I would like to do on the side now because of how I see how the world is growing up. But I'd say like I'll be real with you right now, yeah. I'll be so real with you, like I've never seen myself as anything but an actor at all. Like it could be a random one, I can never see myself being a plumber or a a fireman, a doctor, lawyer, typical African traditional stuff, innit? Like of what they want me to be. Like I've always thought myself up there with the with the big with the big boys. And uh you get me, one of the stars, superstars, you get me. So I've always wanted to put myself out there, but I just never knew. The only thing that I was worried about was this how am I gonna get there? Like my age, like I'm getting closer to 25. So it's kind of like I need to at least have done something. Before I'm 25 or after I'm 25, at least do something, like but look make myself certain before I'm at least before away before 30. Make myself certain, you know what I'm saying? Like, do certain good to understand? Like, even with RMPR, he didn't become well known until 2024 when he the lion came. Like my father, like, you get me, and he's in his 30s now, like from Brixton. So if he can do it, I can do it. But like I said, my pace might be different from his. I might get there a bit earlier than him or on the same pace in that job. So it's kind of like that's how I say, or even a a little bit later, you know what I'm saying? So some things happen in different sections, but at the same time, it's about the consistency. Say to yourself, I can do it, I will get there. And making steps to make sure it happens. So I have to tell myself I will get to that point, I will get to this person's level and that person's level, but at my own pace. And not to compare myself to other people, but I'd say like I can be if I can be like I'm Pierre, Michael Jordan or whatnot, mixture of both of them and how they operate, and see other people like John Vieger, Idris Elba, even Letitia Wright from Black Panther, who I met personally, and I've I've even been in one of our short players as well. Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 21:35

Really?

SPEAKER_01 21:36

Yeah, I love some top of them as well, you know. So like me.

SPEAKER_06 21:40

Letitia Wright is like, if I could pick my favorite actor, it's Letitia Wright. Oh my god. Letitia Wright's so much. Yeah, I love how bold she is with her faith. I love it. I love her um Premier Gospel Interview, that was amazing. Yeah. So you know, like the pressure of the acting industry, rejection or Like uncertainty about your future when that feels heavy, where do you personally find your grounding and like your strength and your meaning?

SPEAKER_01 22:14

That's a good question. Repeat that one more time for me, please.

SPEAKER_06 22:18

So when you feel the pressure of the acting industry, the pressure to be something, be

The Pressure To “Make It” Before 25

SPEAKER_06 22:25

someone, make it by the time you're 25, like that's already like in a few months, isn't it? So when you feel that pressure and when you face rejection or there's some sort of uncertainty, when that feels heavy, where do you find grounding and strength?

SPEAKER_01 22:47

Ooh, okay. Firstly, I'll be 25 in a year and a few months. Not this year.

SPEAKER_06 22:54

I thought you said you're 24.

SPEAKER_01 22:56

I'll be 24 in a few months in October. I still got time, though. I still got time.

SPEAKER_06 23:02

I'm still on the young side. No, I don't doubt I don't doubt that God can't turn your life around in a day. I don't doubt that. I don't doubt anything. But it's like when I feel like when you set deadlines, yeah, for yourself. There's pressure. Yeah, you put pressure. So and there's some like there's some like really like multi-millionaires. Yeah. And it's like when they have goals, they don't even put deadlines because they don't want that pressure on themselves. But with the acting industry, there is a pressure. There definitely is a pressure. And there's rejection. It's just so inevitable that you're gonna face rejection if if it's through agents, like not being able to find representation, or with the role with the role of auditions, but there's so much uncertainty. It's like when am I gonna get the next job? And it's heavy. So where do you go to to find grounding and strength? You know, it's very different to having a nine to five, but it's there's some consistent income. Yeah, the grounding, strength.

SPEAKER_01 24:03

That's a good thing. Like I say, I think sometimes it's my youth, so sometimes I look at my youth and be like, ah, I got time, man. Like, because I because at least I'm not 30 thinking about this. I'm in my 20s, I'm 23 thinking about it. So I still got time. You get me? So I know that how can I say if I there's people my age, Josh Teleki, you know, Taser from Super Soul, his level boom. You get what I'm trying to say? He's there, like he's the John Viego of our generation. You know what I'm trying to say? Like he's already doing stuff, but I can be the Aaron Pierre of our generation or the Michael B. Jordan of our generation and do my own thing, you get me, by putting myself in places. But I know for a fact that if I'm pulling in the work and you find groundness in God as well. In God, that's where you found ground. If you know you're putting in the work, then nothing can go wrong. And even if they don't go for you, at least you can at least you can know that you've done your best. You've done your best by going to theatres, doing plays, speaking to people, networking. I network all the time. I network this person, that person for representation. This person asking them, oh, have you got a job? Who's your people? Could I meet you up for coffee? X, Y, and Z, X, Y, and Z. So, because I know people in the industry, there's my that's my way in. So, that's what I'm trying to say. Like, and obviously there's other I mean like modeling, modelling can get you into acting as well. So, you know what I mean? Like, you've got a nice clear skin yourself, so you can get into it as well. And so, yeah, like literally, so like we can both get into it and just see what I'm gonna like try and focus on. Do you get what I'm saying? Like, it's just like when you're making jollofrice, right? You have to let it marinate. You have to let it marinate. You can't just rush. Do you get what I'm trying to say? Because imagine if you rush, you crash and burn, then what? But if you take your time, you will get better. Do you get what I'm trying to say? So, because the thing is, God wouldn't give you this gift for a reason. God gave you the gift of acting for a reason. Give me the gift that's a for a reason, gave you the gift of acts of a reason for a particular purpose. But you have to understand, you have to say to yourself, what is my purpose? What is my purpose exactly? What is my actual purpose? So I can be sometimes you have to align yourself with positivity and do things that make you happy. Like try and do something new. Do you get what I'm trying to say? Like go to a comic con. Go some of your friends, and then do something else afterwards. Um, do try new things as much as you can. Like try new things, stay grounded, stay confident within your energy, like do things that benefit yourself and other people. So it's kind of like you get what I'm trying to say. It's like it's it's like going for a job. Like, waiting for that one person to say, you got the job. Do you get what I'm trying to say? But but make sure that you have your show rules done. You've got show rules done, you've got everything done. But it's just about meeting the right types of people. So if you know people in the industry you can talk to and be like, I've got this show rule. I was wondering if your people can see that. Go to drama school and stick around long enough for them to think that you're an option. Do you get it? Like, you just have to learn how to play the game, be in places, go to theatres. Go to theatres every week. If you go to theatres every week, I guarantee you would get one actor that that's famous. You get one chance every day.

SPEAKER_03 28:17

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 28:18

If you if it has to be consistent. So if you're consistent with it, then you're good to go. But if you're not consistent with it, you're gonna fail. So you have to be consistent with it. So this about consistency, because I got a friend, I've got a friend that's that's doing things. Imzy, you know my friend Imzy.

unknown 28:41

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 28:42

Oh yeah, I know MZ.

SPEAKER_01 28:43

Yeah, he's a cool guy.

SPEAKER_06 28:44

Shout out, Imzy.

SPEAKER_01 28:45

Yeah, shout out to Imzy. And uh so he is in the best position possible. So when I look at myself, I'm thinking, I need to get to his level, he's my friend, I need to get to his level. But at the same time, I have to understand he's at his pace, I'm in mine. So I have to say to myself, Imzu's your boy, he but he's doing his thing. Your thing is different than his. You can learn from him, be at a similar pace to him, well similar, similar level. But I think you have to understand that you're not him, I'm not Imzu, Imzu is not me. So our paths are different, even though they do align in the same category, which is super stardom. You get what I'm trying to say? So even with me, I've got I'm doing I'm doing things, I I got I got a screen thing happening. Like my friend my friend, I've got a friend called Joyce Bethana, who is a remarkable young woman who's doing a studio production, and it's quite good, and I'm gonna be like the main character. So it's gonna so if I've got things that I'm doing, I can tell these people from Superstar, you know, I've I've got this thing happening, you know. I've got this thing that I'll I've I've got this thing happening, yeah. Come through, like, come through, you know, like and then that way if they come through, they can see that I've got potential.

unknown 30:05

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 30:06

So them knowing there you go.

SPEAKER_01 30:08

Them know them knowing me is not enough. So if you know people, need to add value.

SPEAKER_06 30:13

There you go. You need to be an asset, isn't it?

SPEAKER_05 30:20

There you go.

SPEAKER_06 30:20

Right, okay. Thank you so much for staring. I want to get into the nit the you know the f the fears, the insecurities. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. So I want to ask you, was there a time when fear of people's opinions, judgment, or not being taken seriously, just looking like a fool held you back from fully going after acting?

SPEAKER_01 30:48

All the time, like, all the time, sometimes it's always, sometimes it's people, like sometimes you fall out with people in life, especially in the acting industry, and you have to understand that everyone knows a competition.

unknown 31:02

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 31:03

Everyone's trying to throw you off. Like I've been in situations where like I had to stand my ground until somebody, I'm not the one. I'm not the one. Like But sometimes you have to learn when to leave spaces, even if it's an acting space. You get what I'm trying to say? Because sometimes it's a case where if you're not feeling valued, then your acting's not gonna be valued either. Because you're not gonna do your hardest in something that you're not interested in or putting effort in. You have to leave the nest.

unknown 31:40

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 31:41

You don't want to put value in it, you're not gonna feel it. If you're not feeling it, you gotta cut. That's how you should move. Because when you're not feeling certain, so that's why in certain situations, I just leave and I'll be like, nah. Bye-bye, cool. Nice knowing you.

SPEAKER_06 31:57

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 31:58

Bombay.

SPEAKER_06 32:00

Yeah, because no, with acting, like it's creative and you need to be in that flow, you need to be in alignment with the people because it's acting. It's not like you're doing it's not like you're doing like an admin role where everything is standardized. It's acting like you need to be able to have the freedom to truly like express that creative flow and let the juices, the creative, it's not gonna, especially with screen where you can pick up everything, you know. Yeah, enjoy the process as well. You need to be relaxed, yeah. That creates really flow. So facts. Um, can you like can you give like a specific fear that you had, a specific fear that showed up that kind of held you back from fully going after acting? I don't think something that you needed to pursue. Like I've I've I thought about basic on social media, like, is there a specific fear or something like that?

SPEAKER_01 32:59

I think nothing nothing ever scared me of going for acting. I've always wanted to go for acting. Unless it uh the only thing that I had trouble was just getting along with people that were also actors as well. People not understanding my vision, my purpose. People that tried to put me down, make me feel less than I am. So it's kind of like people that are trying to hold me back, make me feel a certain way. Sometimes, like when I look back in the situation, I'm thinking, ah they really put me down, you know. They really tried to put down a young black king, you know.

SPEAKER_06 33:38

Speak to that, tell speak speak to that, tell us about that. Give us that scenario briefly. Yeah, what happened to make you feel?

SPEAKER_01 33:47

Yeah, so there've been instances where people have said nasty things, cast me down.

SPEAKER_02 33:54

Like such as what?

SPEAKER_01 33:56

Nah, just like just in general, kind of like um just people just saying things to me like like, yeah, like how can you be an actor if you can't remember lines, like put putting the work, like not even trying, and stuff like that. And sometimes you could even be outside. Sometimes it could be a case where someone can just go bizarre and just say nasty things or try and put you down. But the thing is you have to understand that everyone's in competition with each other, so people are gonna say things to put you off. Like, I've had people I have I've I've even stood up against people that are older than me that have tried to threaten me and say, Oh, like watch, watch, watch. And then I could tell them, watch what you're not even here. Like, you get what I'm trying to say, and I had to tell that person who I am that you try to take down a young black king. You knew that's gonna make more money than you in the long run. So it's kind of like well for me, it's like I had to I had to see that, hmm, this person knows I'm gonna be it. This person knows I'm gonna get there.

SPEAKER_06 35:22

So I've had I've had a lot of people try and say some things like, yeah, like just give us one specific example. Give us one specific example. The one that hurt you the most.

SPEAKER_01 35:34

Hurt me the most. You just thought about yeah, that one okay. Wow. Ooh, okay, that's a good one. That's a good one.

SPEAKER_06 35:47

It's relatable, you know, so it's really Yeah, take your time, think.

SPEAKER_01 35:51

Damn, okay. I like it when you said hurt the most. Actually, so I have to dig deep.

SPEAKER_06 36:02

Obviously, don't don't say what you're not comfortable saying, obviously.

SPEAKER_01 36:06

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 36:06

But so it's relatable so that we can understand where you're coming from.

SPEAKER_03 36:11

Okay. Okay, yeah. Um, I'd say Yeah, I'd say um.

SPEAKER_01 36:29

Do you want do you want past or present? Because there's there's two.

SPEAKER_06 36:35

I think you can I think pick the one that um it's up to you. Just like the the one that resonates with you and you think will resonate with an audience who has also felt like hurt by other people, you know?

SPEAKER_01 36:50

Okay.

SPEAKER_06 36:51

To help them, just to help them.

SPEAKER_01 36:53

Okay, I you know what I'll do? I'll say one that resonates and then I'll say something that happened in the most. So I'd say like there was a time when I went to this place called Chicken Shed, and um the people there were they were meant well, basically, um I went to a college, yeah. And um, yeah, and then um it was kind of like they kicked not kicked, well, okay, I'd like to say they kicked me out. And I went to this other college, right? And uh, yeah, and the people there were it slowly deteriorated a lot. It slowly deteriorated and it slowly became very um hurtful, and it was kind of like even somebody who was from my um secondary school, he was there as well. And um there was a lot of there was a girls group, so it was kind of like so yeah, so with me it was like I was trying to like fit in, I was trying to like start somewhere. But I feel like because of I feel like they felt intimidated by me because of how I was acting, and um, and it was a case where I tried to show kindness, but it took my kindness for weakness, if that makes sense. That's what the thing was. So so yeah, so in I do it bit by bit actually, so in college, it was just more of a case of like um yeah, people were talking a lot of nonsense about me behind closed doors, and um just because of how what happened between me and that particular girl, and um she kind of felt very, you know, like I violated her, even though I didn't violate her. And she kind of turned everybody against me. So when you're in when you're in these drama classes, it's difficult because people are still silly and childish, even if they're actors, and they and words bred fast. So it's kind of like in college, you're always gonna be in places where you have issues with people that will chat nonsense about you, make you look bad. And yeah, and I I feel like when it came to opinions, so that was one, and then I feel like from that moment forward everyone started seeing me differently and seeing me as a bad guy.

unknown 39:27

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 39:28

You know what I'm trying to say, and I feel like Yeah, it it it wasn't good, you know. It wasn't good, you know. It wasn't really good, and I feel like um that moment it kind of Yeah, it just made me feel yeah, it just made me feel really off. And um I almost got into a fight with a bunch of girls actually that were trying to like get on to me just because I told them the truth about how relationships are about how about how girls tend to go for men who are on road for bad boys and stuff like that. And they kind of s yeah, they were just being really childish about it and tried to like say, also you think everyone does that. And I was thinking it's really not that deep. And one of them shouted at my ear and I told one of them to shut up. I was like, just shut up, like why are you shouting at ear for? And then, yeah, and I told her I didn't mean to say that, you know. And then she said, Alright, cool. And then um, these girls, they tried to fight me, actually, which was crazy. And uh, yeah, I stood my ground like crazy. I was like, yeah, like you need to chill, like and it was even what's even worse is that my friend who I was friends with in school, he was chatting nonsense about me too being behind my back the entire time. So it was kind of like there was there's a lot of snakes in the acting industry. So I was in a position where not only in a place where I didn't feel truly aligned with myself, but I was in a place where I couldn't I couldn't be myself because I felt the energy of everybody else. So there were other people in classes that were being rude, that got on to me for no reason, and I didn't understand why. And it was like yeah, and it was just a case where I had to be in a situation where I had to stand my ground and tell people I'm not the one. And it was really difficult because it was like because I didn't get along with this person, this these people didn't like me. And it was like, you know what I'm trying to say? And uh yeah, that's what happened, really and truly. And uh and um yeah, it was just a bunch of people just talking badly about me just because of one material.

SPEAKER_06 42:03

What was the specific thing, what was like the one thing someone said that hurt you the most?

SPEAKER_01 42:08

The one thing that someone hurt me.

SPEAKER_03 42:11

The one thing they said that hurt you the most. What is it?

SPEAKER_01 42:19

Okay. I mean, I would say it, but I don't want to swear. That's the thing.

SPEAKER_06 42:25

You have to say the swear word, but be like, you know when it's like S.

SPEAKER_01 42:30

Okay. Okay. Um that's a good question. Yeah, that's a good question. I think I think the thing that that I wouldn't say hurt me, but it kind of pissed me off a little bit was when a particular person compared me to Puff Daddy just because of how I was trying to control the room. And um, I feel like with what what she did was really out of order and um she was someone I was close with. And um because she did that, it kind of yeah, it kind of changed my mindset a little bit, and it kind of made me feel a bit unease. And uh when she said that, it kind of changed the whole trajectory of the room because everyone can feel our disconnection. And um what she because um I was I did a play about Win Rush, yeah. And this person compared me to Puff Daddy, only in the case of like how controlling I was, and if I don't sort out, I'll go down that road and that kind of ticked me off. And that kind of like just because I was trying to manage the people that were in in it. Because I did a play that was about um how families are nowadays from the Rin Rush, how events from the Rin Rush. So I played a like a a misguided bad breed in it.

SPEAKER_02 44:07

Okay.

SPEAKER_01 44:08

And uh this bad breed was very prideful, like his grandad, what used to be when he was younger. And uh yeah, like yeah, and I couldn't.

SPEAKER_06 44:19

So that repeated.

SPEAKER_01 44:20

Yeah, there were those people just trying to Yeah, they were just getting on to me, so it was just So this person who I was close with, when she made that comment, it really pissed me off. And what pissed me off the most was just how it affected me in the long run. There was even people who I thought because I was closer to I was close to her family as well. And her family members they treated me differently after that as well, which didn't really which wasn't nice. And um even they they looked at me like I was the bad guy to get what I'm trying to say, which wasn't right, trying to manipulate things and stuff. So you kinda so you kinda see how how sometimes your gift can shine bright to the point where people are threatened, which you know what I'm trying to say. Like, and uh yeah, and I feel like another time was when like um there was a time where my friend and I someone knew my friend and this person um got on to me trying to say that because I told because basically um this this individual uh wanted to knew my friend, right? And uh this guy, yeah, yeah. He uh yeah, he um he didn't like the fact that I spoke to her about him, even though I have no loyalty to him. And um I spoke and the thing is is that my friend wasn't interested in doing films with him and stuff. And uh yeah, and I spoke to her and I just told her what's going on, how come you don't want to do it, basically. And uh yeah, and then obviously that kind of spiraled because she spoke to him and she didn't like the fact that he was talking badly about her to me.

SPEAKER_02 46:29

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 46:30

And then but then he spoke badly to me after. And that what led me had to put him in his place and tell him I'm not the one to to play with, like, you need to step down. Because how he was coming at me was very Yeah, it was very um Yeah, it was just yeah. It wasn't it wasn't nice, like you were very shady, he didn't keep putting his place. And he tried to try to say some things like, Oh, are you a woman and stuff like that? And I kept thinking to myself, you're calling me a woman, yet you're arguing with me over a girl. Make it make sense. Like you're trying to like in my head, I'm thinking, yeah. So I kind of like, and I'm thinking to myself, this person is full of all sorts of nonsense, like, and it was shady the way he was moving as well, but I had to tell him, yeah, I ain't the one. Like you came for a for a young black king, and you felt young brother, yeah.

SPEAKER_06 47:45

So much respect for that, like just to keep things like concise, like how did those things make you feel? Those experiences make you feel.

SPEAKER_01 47:54

I'll be real, it it didn't make me feel away. It made me feel away, it did hurt me a little bit because of how the the timeline, how you know, how it affected me, how it made me see people differently. It made me a bit more vigilant of how people are, so and so, and uh how shady and snakey people can really be in the industry. But it kind of gave me more confidence to to set the standard, to be strong and to not allow what they've done to put me off track. Do you get what I'm saying? Because the best karma is by thriving and by eating the So yeah, so with me I just I don't care the fact that I got kicked out from that place, this place, or that place. All that I care about is that I'm on my journey, and these people are nothing but obstacles that were trying to keep me at at bay, but they can't keep me at bay because by the time I'm up there there'll be nothing but ants.

SPEAKER_03 49:05

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 49:08

Thank you so much. Yeah, because part of this podcast, right, it's about helping, you know, these experiences you've talked about are like bullying experiences, yeah. And it's helped young people go from bullied to bold, you know. So it I feel like there's a lot of things that happen in young people's childhood when they start experiencing experiencing the things that you experience, they don't they don't even have the boldness to even stand up for themselves and to keep going and to have that mindset where they just keep going for their goals. So, you know, what do you think is the biggest thing in today's society that really stops young people from being bold and pursuing what they want? Because my story, I'll be transparent with you. My story includes topics like being exposed to porn and mutilation, playing sexual games and mimicking adult behaviour as a kid with friends and cousins, abandonment issues, my dad left, and like these experiences, they I yeah, you know, like these experiences, it really

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SPEAKER_06 50:17

did impact my confidence and my ability to be bold growing up before Jesus helped me, you know what I mean? So these are real life issues that so many young people are experiencing today, but they're suffering in silence. They are, you know, a expressive child can just quickly become shy or silent because of experiences like this. So, do you relate to any of these topics and like how did it impact your ability to be bold?

SPEAKER_01 50:48

I always say to myself, is me being quiet doing myself a favor or them a favor? That's why I always ask. And it's a case where it's like kind of like in the case of what we spoke about about God. Learn when to take action and when not to take action. Learn to pick your battles more wisely, but if a battle comes to you, you have to be prepared for it, whatever it may be. And always have confidence to say, not today, sir, not today, sir. You get what I'm trying to say? Because I I struggle with it as well. I always struggle with knowing when to take action and when not to take action. I always struggle with it all the time. When to take action, when not to take action. But but sometimes it's like how does it make me feel? Because sometimes I do get pressure, I do not get stressed out sometimes, but I feel very like I don't want to feel stagnant until I do it. Do you get what I'm trying to say? So it's kind of a case where it's self-esteem. It's the self-esteem within you. You get what I'm trying to say. So what you have to do is is that you have to say to yourself, I can do it, I will win, I will conquer, I will succeed. Do you get what I'm trying to say to you? So you have to always a rat surround yourself with great people that can lift you up. But I think what it is is that especially with men and women, is that it's just respect. Like you have to command your respect. If you know that something you've already stood your ground and said what needs to be said, then I don't think there's any need to really go back there. Even if you feel like it. But you have to understand for yourself is that what's going on for you in here, what's making you want to go back. Do you understand? And I feel like people need to learn how to set boundaries. And because people think that just because you're going to a drama class, it's gonna be alright. You have to always keep your guard up when it comes to certain individuals. Keep your guard up when you gotta certain individuals. Always respect yourself, always try and be a leader, not a follower. Because um, we've all got stresses. I've you I got stressed sometimes. I do have ups and downs. But as long as I'm here, as long as I'm in this earth, I'm gonna do what needs to be done, and no one's gonna stop me. You have to always you have to surround yourself with people that put positivity in. Like learn lear learn when to say, is this worth it? Learn when to leave things alone and when to take action. That's what I'd say. And I'd say that the reason what today struggle with is just self-esteem. Like people need help with their self-esteem. People don't have the right parents around them. People have parents that talk all sorts of nonsense to them. So they they need to be around people who are positive, not people who are negative. So it's like you need to be around people that speak positivity within you. When you're down, like when you're feeling upset about something, right? You need to lift that person up. Do you get what I'm trying to say? When you're around people, you need to like lift this person up and try to like um always lift this person up, but always try to understand your role and all this. Also look at yourself and think to myself, what is it that I portray that makes people think that I can be taken for an idiot? So you have to say to yourself, not me, not today. I'm not this person. And you have to always say to yourself, these people don't matter. All of these people, they don't matter because at the end of the day, I'm gonna be up there and they're gonna still be down here. They're gonna be in level one, I'll be in level 1000. You know what I'm trying to do. So you always gotta speak wisdom within yourself, and if you can't speak wisdom within yourself, then you lean on somebody that can. Lean on somebody that is already strong, that can support you, that can give you that wisdom, that strength. Do you get what I'm trying to say?

SPEAKER_06 55:33

Yeah. I get what you're trying to say, and thank you so much for your input. I'm not sure I would a hundred percent agree. Okay, because like personally when you're when you're living a life dedicated to Christ, yeah. Yeah, in the Bible, it does say we need to love our enemies. That is hard, that is so difficult and nearly impossible. Like, how can you love like you need to love those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who spitefully use you and persecute you. That is diff that's more or less impossible. Like, how can you love your abuser, for example? How can you love someone who just like speaks words of death over you? That's hard, you know, and more or less impossible, but with God it is possible. So when you say like lean on others for strength, the only thing like the reason why I would disagree is because number one, like only if you come, only if you can't, yeah, because people, it's like you may not have those people to lean on, like you may not have anyone in your life that you can actually lean on to for strength.

SPEAKER_03 56:48

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 56:49

And then also, even if you do find someone who does seem quite strong spiritually, emotionally, mentally, they are a limited and flawed, mere mortal.

SPEAKER_05 57:01

Yeah, that's true.

SPEAKER_06 57:02

Just like they have their ups and downs, just like you. They will let you down, they will disappoint you. Because they're human beings. The only person who will never disappoint you is God. The only person who will never disappoint Jesus Christ. Oh my goodness. He he has strength, he has strength. Never sinned in his life. I think that's some strength there, and you know, I think God is so good that you can actually you can lean onto him, you know. So I think that really helps to like solve the problem when you don't have anybody to lean on, you know what I'm saying? You know, and then I also feel like I've been in situations where like even family members like are against the type of things

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SPEAKER_06 57:44

that I know I've been called to do, you know, such as sharing my like sharing my story, like I did with you, you know, my family members against me talking about pornography and masturbation and um the sexual games inappropriate touching with cousins and friends as a child, you know, that happened from three to eight years old, and that is rampant. That is so rampant. Like I saw there was a statistic here that was done, there was a report done, and they saw how one in ten children have viewed porn by the age of nine years old. Do you know what that exposure does to every child's brain? You know, so it's sad to speak up about it. But the thing is, with God, like He calls us to be compassionate, but that's hard. But when you were saying things like, um, like when you when you like because you know, you know that you are born for greatness and success. Yeah. So you're like you'll be on level 100 then, like level two, you know. I feel like I feel like it's really easy to have that mindset to like kind of make us feel better about ourselves and like to just move on from the past and nasty to us. But it's like but the Christ-like way though, is actually to forgive that person, feel that hurt, and say, God, I surrender this hurt to you, and feel God's love for them in your heart to try and forgive them, you know. That's difficult, that is so hard to do, but it's actually for your for your benefit, it's for your benefit. Like, instead of saying like, oh yeah, you'll be like an ant because I'm gonna be up there, it's like actually having compassion. That person in order to say a nasty thing to you, in order to say words of death over you, they must be suffering. They must be suffering. Because you yourself, you can think, why would you ever like that wouldn't come out of your mouth? Imagine seeing someone who's actually ambitious, inspiring, yeah, they have big dreams, they want to go for it, and you tell them nasty stuff to bring them down. That wouldn't even that's inconceivable to you. Why would you say something like that? You wouldn't, you know. So for someone to say that about you, for someone to say that about you, like they must be suffering, they must have really limited beliefs, you know, and that's just that's slavery. So that's how you have passion for people. Do you know what I mean? The way that God asks us to. You know what I'm saying? So thank you so much for sharing. Like, with this um report I shared about how one in ten kids have viewed porn by age nine years old. Um, I feel like pornography masturbation is something I see that's exposed to young kids, and then all of a sudden a joyful, expressive child is now very shy and doesn't talk as much, you know. So, is that something that you resonate with um in terms of like things that happened in your childhood that kind of just you felt kind of pulled you back?

SPEAKER_01 1:01:01

No, I feel like yeah, I mean, yeah, definitely. Like, um, yeah, definitely. I'd say like um Yeah, I'd say with me, like I don't really I was already I don't really watch porn, to be fair. Like I'd be real, I've never seen porn in my entire life. I'm not even lying for camera, so I'm interested. Never been interested in it. Yeah, I mean masturbation, every guy has masturbated growing up. Even with me when I was younger, I'd say I did. But that's because of like, you know, out of because sometimes as a guy you think to yourself, yeah, like I like this girl, I like this woman, and then it just happens to go undone. So I've never actually seen porn or done it. I know people that have done it. I'm not gonna say their names for camera's sake, but would you mean done it?

SPEAKER_06 1:01:58

Like actually acted in porn, or you just mean like what seen it, yeah.

SPEAKER_01 1:02:04

People do certain things because of how they feel and it's kind of like because of sexual desires and stuff like that and how things are all about it. So when I first um had intercourse for the first time, I didn't feel like I didn't feel like the need to really I just felt like masturbation wasn't really a thing because it's kind of like in my head I kept thinking, okay, I don't really have to do it. Like why do I why am I doing it? Like like if I've already been intimate with someone already, there's no need for me to do it, if that makes sense. But it's kind of a case, but in my mind, but then I kind of have to understand that that lust doesn't go away because uh there's still guys that still do even after sexual intercourse. And um, yeah, I feel like yeah, like I've heard reports of of boys doing it and then they've damaged themselves, and I've heard of a lot of people that have acted out of impulse to do stuff which is not nice. So it's been a so it's kind of like I feel like people do it, people masturbate and watch porn as a coping mechanism and which is understandable because men are attracted to the opposite sex and women are attracted to us as well. So it's kind of natural for us to do those things. It's natural, but it's not natural to abuse it personally. As I feel like like people should people I feel like people should experience certain things, but not abuse it. Like people shouldn't be sleeping with everybody, which is not right, which is not right. Because of energy, because I always think about energy. Do you know what I'm saying? So when you're with someone, you have to read their energy, like what's the energy saying? Like how are they individually? Do you know what I'm trying to say? Because some people sleep with whoever they think is pretty, which is not always the case, but someone could be pretty on the outside, but ugly on the inside. So it's kind of like you have to be aware of certain energies that people carry. The toxicity. People are very toxic. So it's kind of like, okay, the toxicity can corrupt me. So I just feel like I feel like pornography should be banned, personally, because it's destroying a lot of people's minds. I feel like parents should speak to parents should speak to kids about sex when they get to 12 years old. Especially when they get to get seven. Because that cause that's because you learn it in schools. So I feel like teachers should be teaching people these things from young.

SPEAKER_02 1:04:54

Hmm.

SPEAKER_01 1:04:56

I had I had to tell my younger brother about it when he was younger, so he understands it so that people don't manipulate his mindset and make them think that this is how it's it's not like that. You have to be smart with it, not careless with it.

SPEAKER_06 1:05:11

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SPEAKER_01 1:05:27

And people don't. And the thing is that fornication is where people don't like eating, people don't use protection, people do it rectulously, it's it's all nonsense.

SPEAKER_06 1:05:39

Yeah, explain what fornication is in case someone doesn't know what fornication is. What's that?

SPEAKER_01 1:05:44

She had to teach me this. Um, fornication is when you have sex outside of marriage. Yeah. Which a lot of people have done.

SPEAKER_04 1:05:53

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 1:05:54

And uh it's not it's not perfect, but I feel like if someone is going To do it, like at least do it with someone that you love and that you have good energy with, and that and someone that is at least spiritual, like Christian, like or goes to church, but you both understand the same level and understand how things are personally. And I feel like um I feel like what it is is that like people should um people shouldn't do it with all types of people. If you know that someone's bad for you, then don't indulge in that. If you're if you're able to resist it and say it to manage, that's good. Because not many people can. Not many people can, just like how people are addicted to porn and stuff like that. People are addicted to sexual desires. But I feel like people should um I think people should understand that if you do stuff, there's always consequences. You have to understand the consequences of your actions, and if you are gonna go there, at least do it in a way that doesn't deter you completely as an individual, if that makes sense. Do it in a way that do it in a way that that keeps you safe at the same time, and I'd say whoever you choose to fall in love with, because sometimes when you love someone, things just happen instantly, make sure that person is pure. Like make sure that person is good if you get what I'm trying to say. In a corrupt world like this, if you know what I'm trying to say. Like always find the right person for you, energy-wise and mentally as well. I see.

SPEAKER_06 1:07:48

Alright. I kinda like I have a few things to say about what you said.

SPEAKER_05 1:07:53

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 1:07:54

No, but thank you for for your transparency. I love your transparency, it's so refreshing. Thank you so much. Thank you. Right. Um, so like let's start in regards to masturbation. So, what age did you start masturbating?

SPEAKER_01 1:08:09

Um, I was young. I was very young actually. I was really young. I was quite young, actually, yeah. I was young.

SPEAKER_03 1:08:14

Around what age? I'm guessing three teens.

SPEAKER_01 1:08:19

I think I was like, I think I was like, I think maybe ten, nine or ten.

SPEAKER_06 1:08:28

Mmm, same. I was like, I was like, I just know it was before year seven. It wasn't, it was in primary school. Yes, like year six. Yeah. I think. No, that's when I first saw porn. Like someone someone showed me porn when I was ten, and I think I now learnt how to masturbate when I was like 11, 12. 11, 12, yeah. But like what was the experience, and only say as much as you're comfortable saying, but what was the experience that led you to like masturbate? Did something happen, or was it just like oh, this you know what happened?

SPEAKER_01 1:09:11

Yeah, it wasn't poor, bro.

SPEAKER_06 1:09:12

I think the only reason and the only reason why I'm asking, I'm not asking to intrude or because I'm like unnecessarily curious. I honestly think in my life, pornography and masturbation was lit was like, what's the word? It's not Achilles Hill, but it's no, it's something that the devil used to lit try and destroy me. And I think the one thing, like the not the one thing, but the main one of the major things, one of the top ten things that our generation that is holding our generation back, it's lust. It's lust. It's because it's linked to your own sexual desires. That's what it is. That's really what it is. And it starts with these little things, they seem little, like when you first start masturbating. Because it's like, it's just like before you don't before you don't realize it's there, and then something's unlocked, and then it can just lead you to go deeper and deeper and deeper into your own destruction. This is why I'm asking. So, was there something that happened if you're comfortable sharing? Is it something that happened?

SPEAKER_01 1:10:19

I'd say I was sexually active growing up, and I'd say like I feel like it first started when I saw it for the first time growing up. Um, people having sex on TV and stuff, and it kind of turned me on a little bit. I was like, oh okay. So I was like, alright. And then I feel like over time I yeah, I started doing it when I'm thinking about somebody who I like, so and so, and that kind of made me think, yeah, like okay. So yeah, and I thought it yeah, it yeah, I was addicted to doing it. I was addicted to it, I'll be honest. Like many people, not to porn, but I was addicted to doing it, and I feel like I feel like me choosing not to do it has been very difficult. And um, but it's but it keeps you on the right path, if that makes sense. It keeps you on the right path, because I choose not to go back. And uh there's a lot of like urges, but I control those urges but not masturbating, even though masturbating is good, but people but you have to think to yourself like it's you have to think to yourself like the damages it can do to you, how it can affect you, and you have to think to yourself you have to s you have to say you have to put more love within you to say to yourself that I love myself, I will find someone that will love and care about me, and that's it. And it's not uh masturbation isn't worth it, it's not worth it. Because that's love, like it's not worth it to get what I'm trying to say. So it's kind of like yeah, you might find this person attractive, but don't allow yourself to like go get it. If you like if you find someone attractive, go get that person. Don't don't do it. Like go take action, go to that person and be like, hi, how you do, what's up, and see what happens. And if she's not for you, then you can erase her from your mind and find somebody else.

SPEAKER_04 1:12:39

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 1:12:40

And I'd say like masturbation is it controls a lot of man's mental state and ego. And masturbation could stop you from actually taking action as well, it can stop you from because some because masturbation makes sometimes I've heard this theory that masturbation if you masturbate way too much, it could do something bad to your tadpoles downstairs, like you're trying to have children. So you have to understand that if you have a wife and kids and stuff like that, but you're not able to like perform sexually, then it's kind of it's gonna damage you in the long run. If that makes sense.

SPEAKER_02 1:13:27

I see, okay.

SPEAKER_01 1:13:28

And so you have to think to yourself it's like when you're smoking, yeah. If you're smoking, selling drugs, think about the long run. You can die by smoking, you can die by selling drugs on on the streets, get shot down by another rival. You have to think to yourself, this is addicting. But is it improving me or is it lowering my self-value or my self-purpose? Because addiction is a powerful thing, and addiction addiction is the true enemy and the true devil that's in in disguise. That's what I would say.

SPEAKER_06 1:14:13

Yes, yes. No, thank you so much. Thank you. I oh, this is so good. This is helping somebody right now. Like, yeah, thank you so much for that transparency. I honor you so much. You know, um, it's very interesting that you said it was more of the masturbation and like no porn at all. Yeah, that was the same for me, but like I knew about masturbation from porn, you know. So it almost like taught me, oh, that's what happens. And um it was really interesting. It was more more masturbation, less pornography. But I like to make pornography because they go hand in hand for me, and then also um, I want to say it's so interesting how you said, like, with the masturbation, you're thinking about somebody, like you're talking about it from the standpoint of like okay, you're thinking about so with me. I was just masturbating because I'm stressed out and I need some quick relief. The low-key, like, it wasn't um sexual, yeah. Like, I was yeah, but the thing is it's inherently sexual, isn't it? So it's very interesting. I'm very intrigued by your stances because you're coming like it's you've said many things. You said masturbation is good, but then you've also said I it it almost seems like your problem with masturbation is that because it was like habit forming, it was like addictive, and you didn't it's like addiction is kind of like slavery, so that's kind of do you think masturbation is a sin? Like what is your standpoint on it?

SPEAKER_01 1:15:53

I think it is in disguise. I do believe that it is, and I do believe that people need to stop. It's like just like cheating is a sin, addiction. So I I like to see cheating as a sin in itself, because you're going out of your way to do something with somebody else.

SPEAKER_03 1:16:11

Yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_01 1:16:12

But it's kind of like but then sometimes when I see how the real world is, sometimes people can be miserable in the relationship, it's miserable in the you know sometimes someone out there could be in an abusive relationship. Like someone out there right now could be in an abusive relationship, and she's seen as a way to get away from that. Some people just need that that release, which I get because sometimes it can kill them, and they're doing it as a way to keep them whole because sometimes people do things because they feel like it's the only thing that's keeping them standing, but the right thing to do is leave that relationship, leave this bathroom. Learn when to cut. That's the most powerful thing to do, and sometimes you the thing is is that sometimes it's like the Bible's good, but I feel like people sometimes even me think that some things in the Bible is sometimes it doesn't apply to how today's society is because things do change in the society, and um to the point where it's like there's certain things that you can't do because everybody's sexually active, children are sexually active, kids are sexually people are just choosing to only do it if they're in a relationship, if that makes sense. People are choosing how to do it if they're cast with somebody else instead of married to somebody else, because there's a lot more people, there's a lot more parents, single parent households, there's a lot more parent households that aren't married.

SPEAKER_03 1:17:54

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 1:17:55

So there's a lot of cases where you have to be married to do certain things, you have to be married to do other things.

SPEAKER_06 1:18:01

So it's it meant to have sex, you're saying that's not relevant. What exactly are you saying?

SPEAKER_01 1:18:07

No, no, no. What I'm trying to say is how people are nowadays, like how they think.

SPEAKER_03 1:18:13

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 1:18:14

Because it's kind of like you don't want to marry for sex, you want to marry someone because you love them. But sometimes somebody wants to get intimate with somebody in order for them to understand how much that is. But at the same time, you have to say to yourself, is is that how can I how can I cope with it? Do you guys it's like when you're taking medication, if you have you know, um, if you're bipolar, like you take your medication because it helps you balance that out. So do you have to I feel like people have to do things to balance it out?

SPEAKER_06 1:18:55

Like how you're saying someone like maybe someone is I don't know, I I I I don't know, correct me if I'm wrong. Are you saying like someone is so horny that they just need to get it out of their system? What are you actually saying?

SPEAKER_01 1:19:09

Yeah, that's what I'm saying. A lot of people are like that. A lot of people are like that. A lot of people are fishing about this because male and female were created to do that, to procreate, to procreate, yeah. So that's why a lot of people are doing a lot of things.

SPEAKER_06 1:19:32

I feel like people are they're not leaning on God to uh to give them the self-control.

SPEAKER_00 1:19:36

That's true, that's true, that's true. That's that's that's what I'm trying to say.

SPEAKER_06 1:19:39

So I feel like sometimes people back in the biblical days, you know, yeah, people were people were having sex, so it's not necessarily that like it's like human beings have always been like that. Do you know what I mean? Yeah, human beings have always been like that. Um, so it's not necessarily like like not that the Bible isn't relevant. I think the spiritual laws are still very much Yeah, spiritually, yeah.

SPEAKER_01 1:20:08

Yeah, that's what I thought about energy. People have to be careful, yeah.

SPEAKER_06 1:20:11

But people, I feel like because of the lack of parents, people are not taught these things from young to actually Why do you think parents you said that parents need to be talking to their kids? Why do you think parents are not talking to their kids about it? Do you think it's because the parents are literally guilty of the same sin?

SPEAKER_01 1:20:29

The fact that they're they've been guilty of it is more reason for them to talk to their kids. And the thing is because there's more children nowadays that are being born out of wedlock, more baby fathers, more baby, that's that proves that we live in a society of people that are sinful and are horny and want to get out of there. That's why I'm trying to fear that more parents should talk to kids more, especially from young, not when they're 18 or not, that's way too late. You say late.

SPEAKER_06 1:20:57

15, 16. I 12 is not even when I was three years old, I was already playing like sexual games. You know, like mums and dads, you know, like when you're three mums and dads.

SPEAKER_01 1:21:08

Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Something like that.

SPEAKER_06 1:21:10

It's like it's like you play mums and dads, but if you're a mum and a dad, okay, mums and dads, now you have to kiss each other. Now, like you pull your trousers down. You know, when it just kind of goes a bit too far, and you're playing it with people who are a bit older than you.

SPEAKER_03 1:21:25

Yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_06 1:21:27

Like that happens, and it's so common in America. They call it house, you know.

SPEAKER_01 1:21:33

Yeah, I thought you, you know, when you say that.

SPEAKER_06 1:21:37

And it's like, but from three, it's like it's even like I know that this is not really right. Deep down. You know, in your conscience, you have a conscience. So it's like when you're when they're born, you just need to tell them, don't allow anyone. I wish someone could have told me if you're uncomfortable, if you like, if you're in a situation you don't know what to do, just scream help, you know what I mean? Like honestly, you just need you need to tell your kids what was happening to you when you were their age. Yeah. I think. I think you just need to keep it real like that. You need to keep it real, you know what I mean? Anyways, right, let's just keep going back to I'm gonna ask you rapid fire questions now because I'm conscious for you.

SPEAKER_05 1:22:20

Yeah, go on. Go ahead.

SPEAKER_06 1:22:22

But you so there were some things that you said where it's like you were like, wait, may I ask you, so you you you're trying not to masturbate now.

SPEAKER_01 1:22:33

Yeah, I haven't masturbated in a while, so I feel like it hasn't been easy, but I feel like with God I have to like give something up. And I feel like masturbation is something I have to give up. I've been bat I've I was baptized actually. So I was baptized last year to refresh my mind. So I feel like I had to give up something that I can have control over, and I feel like masturbation is something I could overcome and let go of. And I feel like masturbation is a way that I can just release and just leave it. Because masturbation is something I can really get past, and I feel like it it got to a point where when I do it, it's like it's draining my energy. I always feel bad about it. Like some people have been doing it from young, and not many men would admit it. People might even be laughing, but I don't care what people think. I'm doing it for me now. So yeah, I just feel like yeah, I just feel like masturbation is difficult, man. It's difficult to let go of. But I feel like it needs to be done in order to have a peace of mind with yourself, and in order for you to become more stable and sharp-witted in your head. Like, you need to be sharp-witted. Like, I would even say it's the same thing with a woman who who probably use vibrators or whatever, like I just feel like you have to have self-control and not do it. If you like I said, I would rather be intimate with somebody than masturbate. Yeah, because masturbation would it causes a lot, do you get what I'm saying? Because it can cause a lot of stress.

SPEAKER_06 1:24:30

I don't understand. Why does masturbation cause stress in and you being like you actually having sex with a whole other human being who has their own issues and their own spiritual demons attached to them wouldn't cause you stress? Do you get what I mean?

SPEAKER_01 1:24:51

No, I mean I mean I mean like like intimate with someone that is I'm married to. Like if you're not gonna be able to.

SPEAKER_06 1:24:57

Oh, sorry. Thank you. Thank you for the specificity.

SPEAKER_01 1:25:01

If I'm married to this person, so it's kind of like um, but then again, even if you are married, that person will still have their demons. Do you know what I'm trying to say?

SPEAKER_06 1:25:10

Well, hopefully you would marry someone who's equally yoked to you, yeah.

SPEAKER_01 1:25:14

Yeah, definitely. In life, you have to be with someone that's I'm not marrying anyone who's got demons, sorry. But the thing is, is that um the thing is with me, is like um it's because when you sleep with somebody, like it kind of when you're sleeping with someone that you're married to, it's actually healthy because it actually lifts off confidence. But when you're masturbating, it doesn't really it might satisfy you for a little bit, but it does something to your testosterone system, which is not good. And there've been a lot of cases where men have actually suffered because of the amount of masturbation they have done. Yes, and it's causing them to like do yeah, because it cause masturbation actually it does a lot, it does a lot to your genitals, then you realise like it's not good, like because I've heard a lot of paces and stuff like that. But when you're sleeping with somebody that you're married to, the only thing that you have to worry about is pregnancies, her getting pregnant, or or if she's not gonna be able to do that.

SPEAKER_06 1:26:32

There's nothing to worry about. I personally think there's nothing to worry about. It's your spouse that you love. Um what I was gonna say, I think it's really good that you've mentioned this because um this is something that God's been helping me with. Like he's helped me to um pornography and masturbation by the grace of God.

SPEAKER_03 1:26:50

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 1:26:51

However, it's so interesting that it's really good that I think it's good you think it's a bad thing because I didn't know masturbation was a bad thing. I had no idea, I had no clue. Like I just thought it was a normal thing that people did, and then no one told me it was bad, no one told me it was a sin, because I didn't have a Christian influence in my life at all. It's when my mum and I both decided to become Christians, and then um uh we were reading the Bible, and then it was one day like after I went and did my masturbation thing, and then afterwards I I just had like a disgust, and I had never had a disgust before, ever. Ever. And um it was just like it was like a revelation that this isn't it just you know when something no longer matches your identity anymore, yeah. And it's like this belongs in the past, yeah. It was just like a revelation, so it's really good that you know you have reasons why that you no longer masturbate and why you think. It's not a good thing. Right. Next.

SPEAKER_03 1:28:03

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 1:28:04

Uh you said no So you so you said Wait, so are you celibate now? Like do you still um have sex outside of marriage?

SPEAKER_01 1:28:15

I've been celibate for three years, so I haven't yeah. Yeah, I'm that's me again. Yeah, so I haven't really done it, but I'd but I'd rather be around somebody that's very spiritual aligned and someone that's has good energy. Because there's a lot of people out there that carry a lot of demons. So I'm very careful and selective of who I'm around and who I'm attracted to. I'm someone that's really because it's a it's an energy thing. So that's why I'm always careful of who I talk to and who I don't talk to. And I always read people's actions and how they move and operate, if that makes sense. So because it's a very dark world for people in our generation these days. You know what I mean? So it's kind of like even people in church like like you don't know what demons they carry. So it's kind of like you just have to be careful with who you speak to and who you go to bed with personally. But I feel like people should always people should understand like when you look into somebody and you can tell this person is very toxic and very you that's how you know you can't do nothing with that person and be in that person's vicinity because of how toxic they are.

SPEAKER_03 1:29:44

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 1:29:44

You know what I'm gonna say? But when you can see that someone is good, they might be bossy, but they're good energy. You can tell that you can be this is someone that I can marry, someone I can have kids with, because that person is structured, that person has a good life, that person has parents that put greatness in them. That's how you you know. Do you get what I'm trying to say?

SPEAKER_06 1:30:12

Yeah, I understand.

SPEAKER_01 1:30:13

So yeah, it's all about the person, the individual. So you have to look at what's in here, but more than what's out here, because like I said, like someone could be pretty in the outside but ugly on the inside. So you have to be aware of that notion.

SPEAKER_06 1:30:32

Very, very true. Yeah, so I'm just curious, like, why are you so concerned about energy? I think you said if someone's gonna do it, make sure you do it with someone you love and you have good energy with. But personally, I feel like energy, I feel like that's way too vague. Um so like and I don't think anyone really should be having sex outside of marriage.

SPEAKER_01 1:30:56

Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Of course, no, no one should. But if they choose to, but if they choose to, I'm I'm just saying because there are people that do do it, but I'm just saying if they do choose to do it, then do it in a way that's that's safe. Like don't do it in a way that's very sinful, if that makes sense. Like seeing it.

SPEAKER_06 1:31:16

But it's in there, it's inherently sinful, like it's cool outside. But yeah, sorry, but yeah, I feel like that's already a fact. I feel like people already know that deep down. So I'm not trying to shame anyone here. I think what I'm just gonna guess at is you said it has consequences. Is there a specific scenario you found yourself in where it's had consequences? Because I think that's very interesting you've said that. Personally, I never knew there were consequences to masturbation. I never knew there were consequences to having sex outside of marriage. I just thought that's what people do, you know what I mean? Um, I didn't have a dad when I was younger, and you know, my mum would go on dates, and like I knew my mom was sexually active, do you know what I'm saying? I just thought that's something you do with your boyfriend, you know. Why makes you say there are consequences to having sex? There are consequences to well, I understand masturbation, but consequences to having sex, especially with someone that you think is quote unquote pure, as you said. What made you say that? Is there a specific circumstance that's happened to you?

SPEAKER_01 1:32:24

There's consequences as in people who are like I think consequences as in people who um so when you're like I said, when you're masturbating, like like I said, it can put down your testosterone system. So you have to be careful as in like if you always masturbate, you won't be able to perform sexually to your wife if you well you if you do get married in the future, and it might make you struggle with like you know children and stuff like that, possibly speaking.

SPEAKER_03 1:33:01

Yo, I can't even list that.

SPEAKER_01 1:33:03

Yeah, like like like scientifically proven, if you masturbate a lot, it can because you know people have like when so so obviously you know how scientifically speaking, how like children are born and stuff, women, but at the same time the men actually is what like it actually comes from the man because of the seed, yeah. So it might actually make your seed, you know what I'm trying to say. So everyone here is one in a million, right? Yeah, I'm saying, like, of tadpoles, like one in a million, but it might but you masturbate might loosen it a bit down. So your testosterone system has to be good. Do you know what I'm trying to say? It has to be healthy because you masturbating is not healthy. It's not it's not it might help you would get it might help you, it might help relief, but it won't help. It won't actually you get what I'm trying to say. That's why I said before someone having sex is more healthier than masturbation. Because masturbation can lower your testone system, having sex might actually make it go up, like it actually might help it go up. With your partner, of course, your your husband or wife, right? But that's what I'm trying to say. And I'd say, like, consequences for having sex outside marriage, you can get sick, you can get diseases, you can get someone pregnant, and uh yeah, those are the types of things of consequences like when you're sleeping with somebody, you can get demons and energy. When I say energy, as in you might get that person's energy, like bad vibes, bad energy will get into you. And it makes you and you might start acting like them or thinking like them. So you don't know what what they carry. So you have to be careful with like that's why I said that's why I told people, like, you need to be careful, like you have to be careful with who you invite or who you invite into your space. You get what I'm trying to say? Okay, you have to be careful with who you invite into your space because I'm telling you right now, sometimes, yeah, it's better safe than sorry. Like, it's just better safe than sorry, to be fair. Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 1:35:25

Yeah. Alright. Think um what makes you say kids are sexually active? Why what what what do you mean?

SPEAKER_01 1:35:33

Because they're addicted to porn, pornography a lot more. Social media is a lot more prominent, and there's a lot of things that are sexualized, like music videos, films and stuff like that. So kids are more prone to that and more to seeing all these things. You know what I'm trying to say. Just like when kids say 6'7, 6'7 is not a good word to say. Like someone even told I don't even know. Someone even told me that it's very sinful to say that. Someone actually told me that it's Satan. If someone says 6'7, that's what somebody told me. And uh, it's not good. I mean, I thought it was like something that a basketball player did, but it's actually, yeah, it's not saying 6'7 is not good. That's what someone told me actually not too long ago, but yeah, but I feel like a lot of the reason why I say sexually active is because there's a lot more young baby moms, kids born out of wedlock, there's a lot more people that are born out of wedlock and born in wedlock. So that's how I know that generation after generation, kids are a lot more um sexually active than they were growing up because they were more disciplined in the house. But because it's like generation is following the same pattern, it's becoming worse and worse. So that's why people need to learn when to calm down and stop. You know what I'm saying? So people need to learn what to like say enough is enough, I have to make a change. And yeah, and if I had kids of my own, I'd probably tell them the same thing, like, wait until marriage. Wait until marriage. That's why I'd probably say to them, wait until marriage. But if they choose to go down a different route, I can't I can't control what they do, but I'll just tell them, like, if you're choosing to sleep with somebody, at least do it with somebody that's a good person. If you're choosing to go down, I'll tell them not to do it because I'm their dad. And I'll tell them, nope, nope, wait until marriage. But at the same time, I can't control people. I can only do so much. Because kids are always gonna do what they want to do at the end of the day. So I probably tell them, look, if you're gonna do it, at least stay safe and do it with somebody that's a good person and that has good morals. Like if they choose to go down that road, which I hope they don't, but yeah, you know what I'm trying to say.

SPEAKER_06 1:38:05

My kids were never my kids will never go down that road. I will do everything in my power to ensure they don't. When you're saying like when you're saying, Oh yeah, have sex with like if you're gonna have sex outside of marriage, do it with someone that's a good person. Uh or you said the girl in a relationship. Yeah, yeah. Um, that's pure. You use the words pure, yeah. I don't think any human being is good or pure. No one. Yeah, no one's good. No one is good, you know. No one is good. Because if people were good and if people were pure, we wouldn't like there would be no reason for Jesus to die on the cross for our sins. There do you know what I'm saying? Because there will be no sins for him to be dying for. So like no one is good. Everybody, myself, I'm flawed. Like, I don't want anyone to look at me and think 10,000, you know, she's I'm just a human being who's flawed, and like I'm trying every day. It's our first time living life, as is everyone else's. So I can't blame parents, I can't blame people for shunning me, shaming me. Yeah, of course, not telling me, you know, because no one told me. No one I'm my first time. I read the Bible and I was like, oh my gosh, I've just been living my life wrong, you know. And um, there's a certain revelation as well. You need to accept that you've been doing life the wrong way and just to do life God's way, you know, there's a certain humility that comes with that that human beings are not even capable of. You need to ask God to give you that humility, so it's kind of like for me. I I've learned do life God's way or do life your way in sin and then face the consequences of your own actions, but don't blame God for it. You know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_01 1:40:00

Everyone's yeah, because everyone has free will, yeah, exactly.

SPEAKER_06 1:40:04

Yeah, so thank you so much. You have been like so far, I'm not gonna lie, you've been my favorite guest. I'm not gonna lie, you've been my favorite guest. No, honestly, thank you. I have never done a podcast for over one hour, 30 minutes in my life before. I've never done an episode this long, you know. So much for such a fire episode. Um, before we close, we like to end in a prayer. So let me know. Um, I'll say prayer, and then you can also end um say a little as well, because obviously I know you're again. Is there anything you need prayer for? Anything at all? Let me know. I can get it for you because I have Jesus in me.

SPEAKER_01 1:40:48

Just more abundance, more clarity, more understanding of why things are the way they are in my life, and more clarity that I'm gonna succeed. And anything that I try to pray are manifest into my life will happen, and the steps I need to take to make it happen, to take action, and um, yeah, just to learn to kind of what you said earlier about the negativity, feeling like the need to prove something and stuff, and yeah, and wherever I go, God will always put me in the right direction, and make me see right and wrong, whatever area that I'm in, or whoever I surround myself with, or yeah, I think and that I will become an actor. Just like just like those strong black men before me that I mentioned before. Yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_06 1:41:51

You already already are an actor. Thank you.

SPEAKER_01 1:41:54

Thank you.

SPEAKER_06 1:41:54

All right, right, let's pray. In Jesus' name, Heavenly Father, thank you, Lord, so much for your incredible, wonderful, so wise, transparent, bold, courageous, and fearless son, Brad. Heavenly Father, your son has asked for your guidance. Lord, I thank you, Jesus, because you are guiding him so well in your word. It says, No eye has seen, no ear has heard, no human mind has conceived of the amazing plans that you have for those who love you. And Brad loves you so much. To thank you for the guidance and the direction that you're giving him. I thank you so much because you have set him on the path of righteousness. Thank you, Lord, because anytime he may be enticed to take shortcuts, I thank you, Lord, for bringing him right back onto the path of righteousness. Thank you, Jesus. Remind him that he's on his own journey, not to look left, right, at other people's journeys. He's on his own journey with you, and that's the that's the best journey for his life. Thank you, Father. I pray, Lord Jesus, that the reason why you've placed Bradley on this earth, I decree and declare that it must come to pass in Jesus' name. His purpose, his life mission, what you've put inside of him will manifest in the mighty name of Jesus. And he is like a volcano that will erupt, and when he erupts, oh he will touch every single person that you've intended for him to touch, for their hearts to be touched, and for for so that when people see Brad, they see your glory, Lord. I thank you, Lord, so much that you have placed greatness within him. And I thank you, Lord, for helping him to ensure that that greatness comes out, but in according to your will. And I thank you, Lord, that you've taught Brad how to pray in a way that is in alignment with your word in the Bible, so that he can have confidence that anything and everything he prays for will come to pass because he is in alignment and living in alignment in holiness, righteousness, and purity with you. In Jesus' name we've prayed.

unknown 1:44:08

Amen.

SPEAKER_01 1:44:09

Amen. Thank you.

SPEAKER_06 1:44:11

Oh, and Brad, before we close, my final and wonderful message for you is that you are bold and Jesus Christ loves you so much.

SPEAKER_01 1:44:24

Thank you. Like Christ. Thank you.

SPEAKER_06 1:44:28

Thank you so much. Oh, and I also I just pray for healing and protection over you, every type of healing, emotional, mental, physical, spiritual healing, from the top of your head all the way down to the tips of your toes. In Jesus' name. Amen.

SPEAKER_01 1:44:41

Amen. Thank you.

SPEAKER_06 1:44:43

Amen. Hallelujah. Thank you so much, Brad. Keep in touch, okay?

SPEAKER_01 1:44:48

Always, always, always. I pray that everything that you want in your life will come to pass, and that you're always strong, wielded, and that nothing can pull down the lioness that you are, no matter who may laugh or criticize your journey of what you've spoken about this very day. And I pray that you keep speaking your truth no matter what people think, and that God will always show you how strong and how powerful of a lioness that you are today. Amen.

SPEAKER_02 1:45:23

Amen.

SPEAKER_06 1:45:24

Thank you so much, Dad. Thank you so much. God bless you. It's been a really good one. Thank you again. Have a blessed day, okay.

SPEAKER_01 1:45:35

Yep. Hope you'll catch up soon in the summer.

SPEAKER_06 1:45:37

Yeah, yeah, yeah. Definitely.

SPEAKER_01 1:45:40

See you later. Bye. Bye. See ya.