Permission to change the goal!

Welcome to another Made for More Monday on the Made for More podcast. Today’s episode is a reminder that growth doesn’t always look like sticking to the original plan—it often looks like having the courage to change it. We’re talking about what it means to adjust your goals as you evolve, and why giving yourself permission to pivot might be the very thing that leads you to more.

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Miranda 

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Hello, hello, friends. Welcome to the Made for More podcast, and welcome to another Made for More Monday. This is your space for very real conversations centered around growth, purpose, mindset, and intentional effort into us stepping into our more of who we are meant to be in this world. And if we haven't yet met yet, my name is Miranda, and I consider myself someone who loves diving into personal development and deeper thoughts that challenge us, thoughts that stretch us and ultimately move us towards a life of more. And I just want to take a second and say hello, and I want to say hi to a few new areas if you're okay with that. Hello to Honolulu, Hawaii, Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania, and Aniston, Alabama. I see you and I'm so glad you're here. I see all of you. So thank you so much. Today I want to bring you into a message that came to me while I was working out a couple of days ago. And I want to unpack this and let it lead us into a deeper conversation centered around goals and what it looks like to give ourselves the permission to allow the goals to change. So I'm going to share a story with you. I was training the other day outside. I was doing some cardio and I had a weighted vest on, and I decided to do a ruck, which is like a weighted walk walk, and I decided I was going to go up and down this pretty long hill, and I decided I was going to do it 10 times. And that felt like a great goal. That felt like enough. It felt super challenging. But somewhere in the middle of my training session, I had this thought. And the thought was, I think I can do more. So I let myself really lean into that. And I shifted the goal from 10 to 15. And when I got there to 15, I felt that feeling again, that like quiet nudge that was like, oh, I think you have more in the tank. Like, I think you can keep going. So then I pivoted again. I crossed through the 10, I crossed through the 15. And now I decided to set a new goal of 20 times up and down that hill. So I followed through with it. And I realized within that moment this thought. We are allowed to change our goals while we are in motion of the current goal. We are allowed to respond to who we're becoming within that process. And because of that, I didn't just hit my goal, I exceeded it by 10 more. I did double of what I intentionally set out to do. And that was pretty shocking. And I share this because I think a lot of us need this permission to do the same thing within our own lives and on our own journeys. Not just set goals, but permission to stay open to allowing them to change, to not feel boxed in by who we were when we first set those goals, but to allow yourself to reflect the person that you are becoming, which sometimes meaning allowing change, allowing it to evolve. So today I want to invite you into a conversation centered around your goals. And I want to invite you into the freedom that you have the ability to adjust them, to stretch them, or to even completely change them along the route that you're on. So what if the original goal that you maybe set out to hit is good, but if you stayed there, you would be settling because you know that deep down you have more in the tank? And could it be that the goal that you set out to hit that once seemed like a pretty big goal now might be too small for where you're actually being called to go? Are you still pursuing this goal because you truly want it or because you already started it? And are you settling for the original goal because you know that you could achieve it, or are you settling for the easiest route? Like I knew I could achieve those 10 laps up and down that hill. And ultimately that would have been the easier choice, right? But something within me was like, I think you have more. And listen, there's going to be a moment that happens when you're working towards something, when you're working on a goal and you are to the point where you can almost see the finish line, or maybe you've almost accomplished it, and you could take the easy route. You could check the box and say, Yep, I did it and I'm proud. But there's another option that not everyone always takes. That it's it's gonna be the less popular option. It's the moment where you pause and you start to think to yourself, wait, if I can do this thing, what else am I capable of? So what you do when that question pops in? Like what are you gonna do when that question pops in? Do you tend to settle in and just check the mark? Or do you say, I think I've got what it takes to push myself for more? And there are two moments that can actually feel very similar, but yet they're completely different moments. And so one of those is a moment where you know you're meant to pivot the goal and push for more. And the other moment is the moment where you know that you're supposed to stay the course and this is the goal that you're supposed to stay on. And if you don't know the difference between the two, you will either quit way too early or you're gonna begin to force something that is not really aligned. And I want to explain to you how you would know which is which and and which way to turn when you're goal setting. So when you're meant to push for more, the goal will still feel aligned, but it'll just feel a little bit more uncomfortable. You're gonna feel a little bit discomf of discomfort creeping in. You might feel some resistance, but you're not gonna feel disconnected from your goals. It might stretch you for more, but that stretching is going to continue to build something within you. You might feel deep down that you know you're capable, but the reality is you're probably just hesitating out of fear. So it might feel something like this. The goal might feel a lot like pressure, but it's productive pressure, right? It's calling something out of you and it's calling you into your more. But on the flip side, when you're meant to stay with your original goal, it's going to look like the goal very much still excites you and you're feeling proud towards that goal. You feel very grounded and focused, you won't feel scattered. Maybe when you're supposed to stay with the original goal, you might feel tempted to change out of impatience or boredom, but that's actually confirmation that you're meant to stay the course. Or maybe you realize you're chasing a new goal, but that's simply just because you're trying to avoid finishing the first one. So sometimes wanting more is actually you just trying to escape the discipline of finishing what you know you need to finish. So that's why it's important to understand the two differences between when you need to push for more and when you need to stay the course on your goal. And this isn't just about goals, it's about truly learning how to trust yourself, how to recognize and trust your inner voice, because the more that you learn the difference between the pressure that grows you and the pressure that's going to drain you, the more confident you'll become in all of your decision making. So wherever you are with your goals, I want to leave you with just a few more questions to consider as we reframe this together. Here are my questions for you. What if the version of you who set this goal didn't have the awareness that you now have? Have you grown in a way that your original goal no longer fits? What if you're not quitting? You're just being invited into something much bigger. If you gave yourself permission to expand this goal, what would that look like? You know, just like that moment for me on the hill, maybe there's something more within you. More than you originally planned for or set a goal for. But you'll never know if you don't allow yourself to have an open posture to adjust yourself and adjust your goals along the way. Look, you were made for more and you always have been. And sometimes that more looks like having the courage to evolve. Thank you so much for being here. I will see you guys next week. Keep chasing your goals.