"Pop-Ups, Pull-Ups & Perspective: From Boston Getaways to Family Drama"

The Feed Watchers are back! This week, Renita kicks things off with a spontaneous trip to Boston and inspires us all to just go. Special guest Lady A from the His & Her Perspective Podcast drops in to talk about relationships, healing, and launching her brand-new show. Then it’s time for some real talk — from picking which vocal powerhouse would sing you out of a locked room, to if Luther Vandross really trumps Gerald Levert (it got heated), to knowing when to put your pride aside and when to let people go. We also dive into the Shannon Sharpe situation, staying active through grief, minding your business during domestic disputes, and keeping your circle tight with uplifting energy only. This episode is full of laughs, truth, and a whole lot of perspective.

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SPEAKER_00 0:01

Welcome back to the Feed Watchers. We back for another week, y'all. Renita, what's going on? Check in with me. What's up? Nothing much. It's been a good week. Just been relaxing and stuff. And then Saturday, I tried a thing. I went to the airport with an overnight bag. And I went to Boston for a day and a half, yes. Really? Yes. So you tried a day trip. I did. How did that go? It went refreshing. Refreshing. Needed that, huh? Yes, I did. Needed that getaway. See, we tell people you got to just get up and go. Stop saying I'm going to. Stop saying I'm finna. Just get up and go. And Renita jumped out there and did that. Yep. All right. That's what's up. That's what's up. Well, this week we got a special guest. guests with us this week um from the his and her perspective podcast um we got uh lady a in the building um what's up lady a nothing much nothing much what's going on good people all right well tell us a little bit about your show Just give us some insights about the show. You know, what's it about? What you're going to be talking about on the show? Me and Coach J just going to be talking about life, relationships, exes, how to heal from bad situations, just overall life in general. Now, who is Coach J? Coach J. Coach J is a good friend of mine. Okay. All right. It's a good friend of yours from, okay. So you decided to jump in and get the show going with him? I did, I did. I think it's going to be a good thing. We got good chemistry. Alright. Alright. So yeah, y'all just did y'all first episode. It's going to be dropping this week. People can check it out. You excited for it? I'm excited. I'm excited. I listened to it the day at work and I like that. I really did. It's different hearing your voice. Yeah. So I was sitting at my desk like, wow, okay. All right. It was good. I'm ready. I'm ready for it to drop. It drops tomorrow. All right. And y'all heard that. Y'all go check that out. His and hers podcast. New show coming out for y'all. But we're going to get back into the feed watchers and get into this foolery for the week. Anita, you ready with some good ones for me? I'm ready, I'm ready. You're going to go first. I'm going to go first? Yeah, yeah. Well, you know, I got to start off with the vibe check question of the day. First off, you know we can't start off nothing without the vibe check question of the day. So, everybody, here we go. Y'all locked in? Y'all ready? The question is, you're locked in a room that can only be saved by one great vocalist. Who are you choosing to sing to make sure you get out of this room? Renita, who are you choosing? You got somebody, they say you got to get somebody that better sing their ass off to get you out this room or you dying in here. Okay, like are there any rules like deceased, alive? It don't matter. Dead or alive. Whitney going to sing me up out there. You think Whitney going to get you out of there? Yes, yes. I'm getting out there. We alive. You're good on Whitney. All right now, but this got to be obviously old school Whitney. This ain't later Whitney, you know. Whitney. You know. You know, crack is whack, Whitney. Whitney, even with that. Whitney, give me either Whitney. Either Whitney? Either Whitney. Oh, you got a lot of faith in Whitney. Yeah. Lady, hey, let me hear you. What's your thoughts? Who are you getting seeing you out of this room? I'm going to go with Renita or Whitney. I'm going to get Whitney to sing me out of there. Whitney? Yeah. Y'all got a lot of faith in Whitney. Old school, crackers, whack Whitney. Whitney wasn't all that at the end. Y'all remember, she was messing up a little bit at the end. That voice wasn't the same. She's still Whitney. Yeah, still Whitney. Still Whitney. Really? Who you going with? I'm going with Luther. I'm sorry. You can't lose with Luther. Luther Vandross? What? So you going when he was big Luther or little Luther? It don't matter. Either one. Either one is going to get me up out of there. Luther, you can't. Come on, man. No. Come on now. Be serious. I thought Gerald would have got you up out of there quicker than Luther. You thought Gerald LaVert was better than Luther Vandross? Voice wise. What? That can't be. You can't be serious. Dead. I'm serious. Luther Vandross. You just said Gerald LaVert was better than Luther Vandross voice-wise? Oh, God. You can't seriously believe that. Oh, okay. All right. Well, as y'all know, we bring the questions to the day for everybody. The vibe check questions of the day. Two questions, obviously, right now. Who you getting to send you out of that room? And Luther over Gerald LaVert? Come on, come on. That's an easy one, y'all. Please help me out with this one. Please school Vernita on something on this one. Because Gerald Levert, I like Gerald. He was a good dude. Hey, good singer. He ain't beating a Luther. That versus, come on, that's not even close. yeah y'all tap in on our Facebook page let us know what y'all think who's singing you out of that room who's the great vocalist that's gonna sing you out of that room somebody telling you hey you gotta get somebody to sing you out of this room who you gonna get y'all let us know tap in on our Facebook page the feed watchers and let us know alright Renita give us your first feed of the week okay so I'm gonna go with this one You ever put your pride to the side to call somebody and they didn't answer? No, because I don't. If you ain't calling me, I'm not calling you, so no. Phones work both ways, first of all. No, I'm not calling you if you're not calling me. I mean, I guess it all depends on the scenario or situation for why I would have to put my pride to the side to call you. But I'm not calling you if you're not calling me. For what? No. You putting your pride to the side to call somebody? You doing that? I mean, I have done that. Under what circumstances though? All circumstances. Even if they messed up? Yes, because sometimes... When I was younger, now with age comes wisdom. Like I just had a no, like I wasn't trying to hear nothing. You know what I'm saying? Like it's just once I block you out, you could be trying to, you know, discuss just a simple conversation. It's just once I'm over it, like that's it. Exactly. But it's like with age, you know, when you really care about someone, it don't have to be just relationship. It could be a family member. It could be a associate or whatever. You know, you have to learn like, okay, their point of view i won't say is important but like depending on the stats of the relationship between you and that person it needs to be heard too it shouldn't be like oh i'm pissed off with you you see what i'm saying if it's somebody that you you're gonna have to deal with i don't know if i don't know if i agree with that because even family can get it personally me personally hey if you you could be family and you could still get it i'm sorry if you Phones work both ways. Like I said, it depends on the situation. Even if we had an argument, it all depends on how that argument ended. If I feel like I was offended in that argument and that was the way it ended, you probably going to have to pick up that phone and call me because I'm probably not picking up that phone to call you and be like, hey, you know what? I'm going to be the bigger person and be like, you know, we shouldn't have ended it that way. Nah. I'll let that sit. See, I'm an Aries, so once I'm off, I'm off. For example, I'll give a perfect example. I had a cousin. He was a basketball coach. My son played on his basketball team. But my son wasn't getting any playing time. So I'm like, okay, what's going on? He's going to practice. I don't understand what's going on. So I told my son, okay, while you're there, try to talk to him. See what's up because he's your coach. Respect. He did all that, oh, I'm going to get you playing time, this, that, and the third. So I'm like, okay. So my son played four games. Didn't average not even four minutes of playing time. So I was like, all right, if you don't get no playing time, then what's the point of going to practice or whatever? So, you know, just talk to him about it. Long story short, he did. So... My son, you know, stopped playing, and he told him, you know, why. And he looked at my son, like, in front of other people. I was in prison, you know, and he told him, oh, what you telling me for? You know, and, like, they all started laughing and walked off. So, you know, me being me, when my son told me about it, I'm like, okay, well, let me try to reach out to him. You know, so that was me because my first instinct was, like, let me go over here and raise hell. But I'm like, no, don't do that. So I was like, let me try to call him, you know, and see, I called him. I text him, you know, trying to see, and he never responded. But he went and told other family members a different story. And that's been about two and a half years now. I still haven't spoke to that cousin. But it's like, I put my pride to the side because I was just like, you know what? Screw it. It ain't no big deal. You can play in your yard. It's not that serious. But then I was like, let me put my pride to the side and kind of see what was his perspective on why he was doing what he was doing. But he didn't answer. So it's like, He try to come and try to talk, you know, send messages. Oh, she don't talk to me. Oh, she's holding a grudge. No, I'm not holding a grudge. I'm just, like, over it. Like, I'm too grown to be, you know. Yeah. All right. Well, Lady A, what's your stance on this? How you feel? Like, you putting your pride to the side or you picking up that phone? It just depends on the situation. I got a big heart, so sometimes I'm going to pick up the phone. Sometimes I'm going to let you be. I'm going to let you suffer.

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Okay.

SPEAKER_00 10:12

it just depends on the situation definitely family included definitely definitely family included i got a cousin i spoke to in almost three years when i reached out she didn't respond and now she's reaching back out on you know i wanted to respond three years ago it's dead now fair enough yeah like i said phones work both ways people I'm going to keep saying that. People always assume that you're supposed to be the one to call. I ain't heard from you in forever. You don't ever come around. I don't see you. Phones work both ways. If you want to see me, you know my number. It ain't changed. I had the same number for the last 10 years. If you want to see me, all you had to do was call. All you had to do was shoot a text. Hey, we need to talk about something. It's that simple. But I'm not going to feel like I have to be the one to always make that move, make that jump, make that leap. Cause that ain't fair to me. So now it's, it's sometimes you just, you can't put your pride to the side for certain people or certain things. You gotta, it's time and a place for certain things. And I feel like that's one of those under certain circumstances, you can do that. But most of the time you really just got to stick to your guns on that one and say, Hey, if they not saying nothing, I'm not saying nothing. So I'm just leave that be where it's at. But, yeah, I like that. That was a good one. That was a good one. So let me get into this next one. This one, it's been in the news lately over the last week or so. Oh, Onk, Shanna Sharp. They fired Onk from ESPN behind this lawsuit he's got with his ex-girlfriend who accused him of rape. Even though he's denying these allegations, he did have a settlement. with this young lady. And apparently ESPN saw that as enough for a reason to fire him and let him go from having him as a commentator on ESPN anymore. Lady A, how do you feel about Shannon Sharpe? I have my own strong opinions on that, but I want to hear the females' opinions real quick. How do you feel about the situation going on with Shannon Sharpe? I don't like to dabble too much in people's personal lives. So that man business. But if he did it, then he did it. And that's why he lost his job. I thought when I read it that he didn't settle as far as money-wise. I know he settled. He paid her. And that's crazy because I'm never going to give you something. If I said I didn't do it, if I didn't do it, you got to stand on business about yourself and say, OK, well, I didn't do this. I'm not paying you. But if he paid her, he did something. I agree. He did something in order to dish out the money, because now I guess what I'm seeing is he gave money. But it's not disclosed on how much money he actually gave. That is true. We don't know how much exactly he gave. It was enough for her to delete her OnlyFans. It must have been a lot. It must have been a lot. Uncle Shay Shay over there throwing out the big bucks. Renita, what you think? How you feel about that? What you think about that Shannon Sharpe situation? You think he should have gave her any money? Do you think he should have got fired? I don't know. I'm going to piggyback what she said. It's his personal situation, and I feel like he shouldn't have got fired. I mean, people don't deal worse. Way worse. You know, so I feel like, I mean, at the time when it happened, no one knew. And my thing with these kind of situations is like, okay, why not say something right then? It's like, why try to blackmail or hold something over someone's head? Like, it was okay for you then. It worked for you then. Like, unless that person had you, like, tied up in a room or, like, threatening you with death, then why? You know, it's almost like the diddy situation like you were with this man in a relationship so I mean now you're traumatized if that the case every woman has been traumatized because at some point in every female's life we've been in a toxic situation it don't have to always be abusive it could be verbally it could be sexually it could be emotionally so we all got cases around here I think the only thing that makes it okay for Hollywood is because they have money you know but every woman go through it Oh, man, not every woman got cases. That's not good. I don't want to think about it from that standpoint because, wait, man, like, hold up, man. Every woman don't have cases. Like, men do some stupid stuff, but everybody don't do that far of, you know, Shana got caught on tape saying stuff he ain't had no business saying on no tapes. Yeah, I feel like that's what led to him getting fired was that stuff that they heard him saying on tapes. And let's just – Call a spade a spade. This is a white girl. Shannon Sharp is very what? Black. He was involved with a young white lady. Had he been involved with a young black lady who was making these accusations about him, he probably would still have a job right now. Nobody would give a damn. But because it was a young white lady who came out and made these allegations against him, that's why he no longer has a job right now. They not letting him get away with you did this to this little white girl and you made all these threats and said all these god awful things on tape and then you paid her. for something you say you didn't do. Yeah, you got to go on about your business, bro. We don't want nothing to do with you over here. So, yeah, let's just be clear about this. It sucks, but it is a race thing. I feel like it's a race thing. You know, there's been a white guy that had the roles reversed, and this was a white guy who did this to a black woman. Do we think we'll be even having this conversation? No, not really, because they wouldn't have cared, honestly. But because, like I said, he's a black man. This was a young white girl. They definitely was quick to get him out the door when they found that out. So, yeah, like I said, it sucks. But at the end of the day, I'm sure Shannon Sharp ain't hurting for nothing. He still got his podcast going. I mean, he's still, you know, he's still probably making a good off of that Cat Williams interview. So, I mean, he ain't worried about no money right now. That didn't hurt his pockets. Not one bit. But, you know, it's sad that it went down that way. And we know why it went down that way. But, you know, not a whole lot of people will come out and say that for sure. Renita, what's the next rule you got? Come on, give me the next one. Motion keeps you out your feelings. You got to get active. So, okay. Elaborate what you feel that means. For me, I just feel like staying busy keep you from like pretty much thinking about certain things. I can relate. I lost my mom in 2019 and I just, you know, stay busy, you know, like I didn't like, you know, just stop. And I feel like for me during that time, like me just keep going. to just keep doing something like keep working like just something to try to take my mind off it now granted that's not permanent because at some point I'm not a robot you have to stop and then all those feelings come back so I think it's like a temporary fix Very much so. It can be. But, yeah, I agree with that statement that if you stay active, it will keep your minds off of certain things. But at the same time, those things are still going to be in the back of your mind. Like you said, the loss of a parent, same with me, with my dad. I stay very active, stay very busy, but I still have my moments even when I'm working where stuff just creeps in, stuff just pops up, and you just don't want to be expecting that you have your moments. So you can try to stay as busy as you want, but – It just it's not going to be enough all the time. So you always going to have your moments and you can remember that you got to just take your time and take those moments and just, you know, let that and sit with that sometimes. Yeah, it's good to stay busy, stay active and everything like that when you got a lot going on and a lot on your mind. But you got to sit with things sometimes and let them sink in and just process them. That's another part of the grief process in itself is just processing things. So, yeah, staying active and it will help you keep certain things off of your mind. But it also depends on the situation. If you're not talking about a grieving situation, it could be a relationship that you're trying to get over. Staying busy and staying active might not be the way to keep you going. from thinking about that relationship and how you trying to end it. Trust me. It's, you know, there's going to be little things that's going to stick around. It's going to make you constantly think about that. So, um, lady, let me get, give us your take on it. What you think about that? Staying active, keeping, keeps your mind clear. You think? Yeah, it definitely helps. Um, You know, I don't know. Sometimes it's crazy. You can just be all in your motions and trying to keep everything moving. I lost my stepdad five, six years ago. My cousin got killed two years ago. So sometimes it's just crazy. You know, I'm sitting, I'm thinking, I'm trying to stay busy to not think about it, but... It's the least little thing. I can pull up a video or pull up Facebook and there's her son running around or just whatever. But definitely staying busy does help. Okay. Okay. Yeah. So like I said, it's a time. Sometimes it'll help. Sometimes it won't. It's going to hit you in different ways, different moments, different feelings. So it's a good way to think. Staying active is always a positive way to think anyway. So I just feel like staying active is just a good part of your daily routine anyway. Stay active. Don't get stagnant. Keep moving. Keep pushing. Do things. So that's always a good thing to do anyway. I like that one, definitely. So we're going to jump to the next thing. When your neighbor's fighting in the front yard and you don't condone criminal domestic violence, but you're naturally born to stay out of the way, what you doing? What you doing, Renita? Your neighbors out in the front yard, they tearing each other up. They whooping each other's ass. You jumping in that fight or you going to be like, that ain't got nothing to do with me? I'm staying out of the way. I was raised see and don't see, hear and don't hear. So you're not snitching. You're not going to at least call the police and be like, hey, they'll be kicking each other's ass. No, because now, correct me if I'm wrong, people will fight and fall out, especially relationships. Mm-hmm. Be done damn near kill each other. Mm-hmm. The next day, next week, next month, whatever on their terms, they good. So don't mingle in people's stuff. That's true. That's very true. Oh, man. Lady A, what you think? You jumping in that? You getting in the middle of that? You staying out in the people business? Yeah, yeah. I'm minding my business. Bulletin ain't got nobody damn name on it. Won't shoot me. Yeah, that's true. Listen, they arguing for a reason. I'm going to let them folks get their argument in. If he got to kill her, she got to kill him. That shit ain't got nothing to do with me. But you don't feel like that's good? getting that point to escalate and somebody might die you don't feel like you might need to jump in I might call the police but then again I might not even call the police because it's like Renita said when they back on good terms oh you call the police and we was just out there just having a meltdown for a moment and we all good and now my neighbor's mad at me and I can't borrow no damn sugar I'm gonna mind my business get my black ass in my house and lock my door no oh man I feel like I don't don't know what I had neighbors one time when I stayed in my first apartment and they used to argue fight like knock down drag I swear I I don't know what it sounded like it was like they moving furniture every day I'm like damn what is going on up there that boy's up there kicking her ass but I mean and I felt bad for the girl but I was like that's not my business I guess really but But I did feel bad for her because, like I said, he sounded like he used to be up there whooping her ass. And part of me wanted to go up there and be like, hey, man, you need to chill out. Like, that's not cool. You up there beating the hell out of this girl. We can all hear you. Like, the whole building can hear you beating the hell out of this girl. But it's like, yeah, a bullet don't have no name. You right. That man getting shooting and carrying on and all that. Hell, I don't want to get caught in a crossfire for something. I ain't got no parts in. But, like I said, you just feel bad for the other person. in that situation so yeah you want to as a good person but society unfortunately tells us we can't get involved in stuff like that we gotta just stay back and just mind our business unfortunately but yeah if you have some good people that will jump in and you know say to hell with society I'ma just do it you know I'ma do what feels right to me And, you know, shout out to those people. But, yeah, none of us here apparently seem to be any of those people. We staying out the way. So, y'all, whatever y'all got going on out there in them streets, don't be looking for one of us to come save you because we ain't got you. We don't have your back. I'm sorry. We ain't got you. Y'all got to fix y'all stuff on y'all own at y'all own time. Renita, what you got next? Give me another one. Okay. Your circle... should be tight-filled with people who uplift you. Okay, I agree with that, yeah. Negative energy is, yeah, I'm all about staying away from negative energy. So if you're surrounding yourself with positive people, you will more than likely stay positive yourself. So, yeah, I definitely agree with keeping your circle tight, close, small, Don't, you know, don't just go out there and call any and everybody your friend because them ain't your real friends. Them is just people you be around. Keep your tight circle and keep positive energy around you. That's definitely, you know, a way to live. How you feel about that? Keep positive people around you, Renita? Keep small circle and positive people around you? Yes, I mean, I feel like if you... around a certain group of people it should be uplifting they should be encouraging you they should want to see you like do better strive better whatever your goals or you know what you're trying to do in life it should be positive like and don't get me wrong i mean i got some negative people too you know you know that i but you gotta you know the majority should be positive because that negative will just overtake you right you know so yeah i agree yeah um lady what you think They keeping positive people around you all the time? All the time. All the time? All the time. I won't even answer my phone for the people who always got a problem. I just can't. I don't respond to text messages depending on what they say because every day can't be a bad day. You got to have good days sometimes. If every day you call me and it's a bad day, you got to be a bad person. That makes you a bad person? Wow. Bad energy? I mean, definitely. I can't do the bad energy. I have enough going on that I don't need the negative energy every day. No day, actually, around me. Okay.

UNKNOWN 25:46

All right.

SPEAKER_00 25:46

I can see that, yeah. I definitely don't want negative energy around me. I don't think the person's a bad person. They just got a lot going on, and they just need somebody to vent to sometimes. But not every day. My personality too big and bubbly for that every day. It's that Leo spirit. I like to laugh and have a good time. Every time you pick up the phone, oh, Lord, let me tell you, my light bill doing it high, my water bill high. Ooh, groceries. That's a whole different conversation there. That's not negative energy. That's people that's trying to... Well, not necessarily. I mean, they might not want nothing from you, but every day they call you and it's a problem. Something going on. The kid's bad. You know, something wrong with them and their relationship. Take care of your own badass kids. I don't want to hear about your badass kids. It's like... got my own badass kids to deal with I ain't got time to be dealing with yours I mean I mean that's not that's my response to that if somebody was to call me and say you know this is what I got going on I ain't got time for that I ain't trying to hear that But yeah, like I said, negative energy is no place for that. I do agree that there's no place for it. You got to have your positive energy fed into. And if you're not feeding into my energy and keeping it positive when I'm trying to keep it all positive, then I ain't trying to feed into you with my energy and be around you and grace you with my presence, so to speak. Definitely, definitely. I want somebody to encourage me daily. Right. Oh, have a good day. I say, good morning, beautiful. Yeah, something, something. And get me right for the day. Don't call me telling me about that light beer shit. My light beer high, too. What's next? Everybody's light beer. Yeah, let's have a good day. What we gonna do to have a good day? Hey, hey, okay, right? So I feel like we should boycott paying lights right now. How about y'all on it? What's up? Y'all down? We gonna send a letter to the light company and just tell them, hey, we ain't paying y'all no more. I can't afford to be in the dark now. I'm gonna pay my light bill. Hey, look, if enough of us get together, right, and say, look, we not paying y'all no more, they might just have to hear us out. I don't know about that. You don't think so? I don't think so. Renita, you don't think so? No. We're going to be in the dark following you up. No, thank you. I'm definitely going to pay that light bill. I'm going to pay the light bill and buy groceries. Oh, and I'm going to pay the internet because I got a seven-year-old. That's what I'm going to do. Y'all weak, man. Y'all should take chances sometimes. Sometimes you got to book the system. Not them kind of chances. A lot of things I'm going to play around with. I don't think the light's going to be one of them. The light's still in the water and the Wi-Fi. We got to have them. Got to have them. Got to. I guess I'm on my own on now. Might have to send that letter on my own to see how that goes. I don't know if the lights stay on now. It won't. All right, I'm getting to my next question. So here's a good, this is for the ladies for sure. So if a man flies a woman out, is she obligated to have sex with him? Ladies, what do y'all think? No. If a man flies you out and he say, hey, I want you to come out. I want you to come see me. I'm going to take care of everything. I'm going to pay for the ticket. I'm going to pay for the hotel. All you got to do is show up. You obligated to sleep with that man? No. Not at all? No. Why not? Why? Because he flew you out? You're supposed to sleep with him? I mean, no. Hmm. But some men, you know, that's the expectation. I spent this money on this plane ticket. I spent this money on this hotel. I might have bought you some dinner. Well, since we go in there, my opinion is pussy don't have a price. Yeah, it does. No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. I disagree with that one OnlyFans pages with big to differ that it's women out here making millions of dollars on OnlyFans it's ongoing because there's no set price it's more than that but like I said it's no set price but like I said there's no ceiling either though so I mean come on like pussy has a price Lady A what you say If a man fly you out, is the expectation sex? I don't want anybody to expect anything from me unless you are my man. If you are my man, you can expect the moon and the stars. But I wouldn't be flown out by, or flew out as they say, by just some random... So that he can whine and dime me. I'm supposed to give you my good stuff? No, you got to be connected to me. We got to be in something. You're either my man, you're my husband, fiance, you're something. Not just a friend that's going to fly me out. He's trying to be more than a friend. He's going to have to be more than a friend before we go. Before we go, we're going to establish this. I'm going to always put my cards on the table. Now, this is what we're doing because, you know, you can take me out, but this don't mean I'm going to sleep with you in the end. So if you expect then... because you bought a plane ticket. Hell, I could have bought my own plane ticket. You know, that's just like, you know, somebody at that, you know, you in the club and, you know, the man buy you a drink. So, am I expected because you bought me a $10 damn drink to give you my pussy? No. No. Definitely not. So, you got to figure that out with somebody else. There's a lot of dudes in the club every weekend expecting that $10 drink to go a long way. I'm going to pray for them. It ain't going to happen this way. Oh, damn. So you flew me out and I'm supposed to put out. Yeah. I mean, that's prostitution. Well, I mean, yeah, in some cases, that's kind of why Diddy's in trouble right now. He did it alone. Yeah. In the eyes of the law, yeah. So to answer the question, no. I would not. The expectation... could be expected but it would definitely be a no for me unless we are on that level if we're on that level meaning that you are my boyfriend you are my husband we in a we in a relationship not because you you know got a little money and you decided to fly me out so we gonna sleep together no if that was the case i'd have slept with you Okay, okay. Well, guys, I'm going to just go ahead and say that what y'all seeing online, because I see a lot of this on feeds and stuff like that, all these girls getting flew out and stuff like that. Don't really take that to heart because these women obviously are not all about that. They ain't all going for that. So you ain't going to be flying these girls out and think you're getting some... That actually stemmed from a story I believe a basketball player or a football player did that recently for a young lady. Flew her out and was expecting something that she didn't put out. And he was highly upset about that. He was pissed off. He was like, what the hell you mean you ain't giving it up? Like, oh, if I done spent all this money, you ain't going to give it up to me? So yeah, guys, as you heard from these two young ladies, that ain't always the case. You can't be expecting these women to put out just because you spent a little bit of money on them. $10 drink ain't going to go a long way like you thought it used to back in the days. That late night in the club, the lights coming on, you think you about to buy that one last drink and go home with her. Ain't going to happen no more, buddy. Those days is over. I know when you're getting drunk for free and going home. That's messed up. Getting drunk for free. Yep. Y'all kill me with that. Y'all sit there and let a man buy y'all all them drinks knowing full well y'all not even about to so much as give him a number or the right number at least. Y'all give him a number. It ain't going to be a number that's going to connect to you. But he'll give him a number. But y'all sit there and take all them drinks from that man and then sit there and go right home with your friends and be like, all right, now you have a good night. I see you around. Yeah, that was nice of you to buy me all them drinks. Thank you. That's cold-blooded. No, I mean, why? Because you give something, you have to get something. I don't feel like you should have to get something, but I mean, at this point, I think everybody is so... open and out there with their expectations, especially younger people. And I know I'm making myself sound old with this, but younger people talk differently. On the first time of texting or calling a female, most of these young guys is already like, so when we hooking up? Like, so they jump to the point. They don't, you know, they don't beat around the bush. Like, guys just take time with older people that call it court women, right? Guys don't do that too much no more. They don't sit there and take time to get to know a girl. They just like, hey, so I done took you on like two dates now. I done spent some money on you. I'm supposed to be getting draws by now. Like, what's up? That expectation is there. So it's real, you know, it's a difference in the culture and, you know, with the kids coming along and they process things a little bit differently. So I guess that's why the expectation is there a little bit to an extent. But I don't agree with it. I don't think you should have to put up. Women, you put out at your own time. Men, you give it up. Don't think that just because a girl take you out on a date, you got to give it up because you don't. Because that can happen to women do sit there and have expectations of their own where they sit there and say, hey, I treated you nice and I did some nice stuff for you. So I think I need you to give me something now. I need some return. And it's like, okay, but I might not be ready for that yet. So, yeah, guys, that goes both ways. Don't let these girls be out here taking advantage of y'all. Ready to give me your next one. Okay. Don't let anyone pull you back to a place you've already grown beyond. That's a deep one. That's a deep one right there. Yeah. So. At the end of the day, if it's your past, it's your past for a reason. So I don't believe in bringing things from the past into the future. I must say that I'm a strong believer in that. What you once knew is your past. is not going to be the same for your future. I can say that. And from that perspective, so some things do need to be left in the past. I just don't, I just don't think that it's healthy or a positive thing. If you're trying to live a positive lifestyle and move in a positive way, I don't think it's healthy to bring your past into your future. And I definitely agree with that statement by saying, you know, keep those things in the past. So, Renita, how do you feel about that? Um, I feel like once you tell yourself, okay, I'm past this or I'm mature past a certain way of acting, talking, caring yourself, you shouldn't rewind. Mm-hmm. Like, you should just stick to that because it's like, once you, it's, to me, it's harder to move up, go forward. Mm-hmm. But it's easy to backslide, get back into that. And it's like once you get back into that, it traps you. You know, so it's like, what's the point? Right, right. And you definitely don't want to fall under that trap because that trap is a mother. Oof, that trap is a mother. Lady A, what you feel about that? How you feel about leaving things in the past? You got to leave the past in the past, man. You got to move on. People try to come back and they done done you wrong, screwed you over, shit on y'all kind of ways, and then boom, you know, here they come. I love you. I miss you. You know, whatever they can do to try to get over on you, they'll try it. So you got to be stronger than the program and lead people where they at. Keep it moving. Keep it moving. Never let a person shit on you twice. That's my thing. I always say cut them off at the head and leave them for dead. You only get one time. If you screw me over, it's a 100% chance you'll never get to fuck with me again. A 100% chance. 100% chance. You agree with that, Renita? 100% chance somebody screw you over and ain't never getting to you again? Yes and no. Uh-oh. Yeah, yes. What's the no part of it? I mean, no, it's like, it's hard, like, If you've been dealing with somebody for like a long, long time, like it's hard. Like it's hard. It's hard. You know, it's the hard part. I know, it's the hard part. Why let somebody just keep digging and keep digging and keep digging and keep digging and keep digging and keep digging? They're trying to dig, all right. That's exactly what she wanted, that digging. Yeah, you got to let that go. You got to let that go. You can't keep remembering when the times was good when most of it was shitty. You got to keep it moving. You can't let nobody keep screwing you over now, Renita. Yeah, yeah, that's true. You got to cut them off and keep it moving. Hey, the screwing part is, I ain't even going to do that. You know, definitely, especially if it's a relationship, the screwing part is definitely probably what they miss the most. But then you got to say, is that moment enough? You really want to ask that to some people? I mean is that moment enough You know the true answer to that right For some people It's enough but You know But when that moment's over And you're just laying in the abyss Of the mess The bullshit has returned So do you return For that glorious food moment stuff I mean a good 10-15 minutes 15 minutes damn That's about what it takes Two? I don't know. You know, a good 10, 15 minutes and then it's over. I mean, if two is what it is, then, you know, then that's just what it is. But I'm going to give them 10 or 15 and when it's over, it's over. So then what are you doing from there? Two. I don't know. You stuck on that too, but I'm just saying 10, 15. Get what you get. You better hurry up. Two pumps and a grind. 15 minutes, you and they trying to do some work. That's a workout. What is it? Two pumps and a grind. Two pumps and a grind. That's what he said. Two pumps and a bump. And then you got to go back to the nonsense. Nah, it ain't worth it. Now they're worth it. It ain't worth it. So 15 minutes is worth it, but two minutes for sure. 15 minutes ain't worth it. It ain't worth it. You heard what she said when she cussed you off. That's it. There's no, listen, anybody that know Lady A knows that you're one and done. I cannot. I will not allow anybody to come in and just mess with my mental on a regular basis. I got you. No, it's not fair. You should. It's definitely not fair. It's all jokes over here. Yeah, definitely. Definitely. Two minutes, guys. Two minutes. Don't be in there trying to do gymnastics in that month. Two minutes. Well, they say I'm in it. Yeah, I'm in it. Yeah. Two minutes. Oh, two. And they're doing gymnastics and shit. What's wrong with y'all? You got to jump off the ceiling a little bit. No. Hey, look, I can't even look at ceiling fans this way because I had a guy tell me a story one time where he was saying he was doing it with this girl one time and he ended up trying to do this all new special move on her and somehow he lifted her up the wrong way and her head hit the ceiling fan and he knocked her out cold in the middle of sex. He must have had a low ceiling fan. This motherfucker said he left his own apartment. And left her knocked out cold in his own apartment. Because he thought he killed the chick. I said, damn, that's pretty damn cold. So every time I see a cello man, I think about that. And I'm like, yeah, nah. He probably recorded that. Nah, I don't think he did. I think he, that was just a regular, he wasn't expecting that, you know. On cold. Yeah, man, when you leave your own apartment, man, that's, oh my God, that's pretty bad. alright man this one this question right here this one's y'all chance to give somebody a shout out a big shout out in a big way this one says everyone needs a friend that they probably shouldn't be allowed to sit next to at a serious function Renita who is that friend for you who is that person you can't go to nothing serious no wedding no funeral or nothing like that and be sitting next to that particular friend

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Thank you.

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It's crazy because I told you I don't really have friends. Oh, man. I'm solo. I be by myself. If I'm not with my dude, I be mostly by myself, real talk. But you and your dude could go and you could sit there and be serious? Mm-hmm. Okay. Yeah. Some people with their partners, that's the worst person to be with is their partner. That's when it's going to really get deep and it's going to get, yeah, the serious event, nah, can't do it. Lady A, what events you came to? go to with a serious serious event you can't go to with a friend what friend is that for you who is that for me I got a cousin I can't go no way with that pertains to anything serious we can be in a funeral and that joke is gonna make fun of the singer so it's just like nah I'm gonna I'm yeah she can't go no way with me I love her to death but when we go some it don't matter where we go she she just over the top she gonna say something crazy and I can remember us being at a funeral sitting side by side and I'm holding her hand I thought she was crying and she just bust out and say God they sound terrible and I said and I mean we both sitting there snickering and laughing and the funeral going on everybody else sad and we just sitting there just y'all laughing at the funeral yes we was laughing at the funeral I kind of creeped to the back because you know it was at our church and I went ahead and walked on walked on downstairs because it just laughing at a funeral yeah and she started talking about the singer and The singer was kind of off a little bit, but she just, she ain't had to see it. She ain't had to see it. So we don't go many places that are important together. Okay. Well, my friend that I can't go anywhere serious with, uh, is my co-worker partner here at the studio. Yeah, he definitely don't get to go nowhere with me and this be a serious event because this dude, he don't, ah, my God. This guy ain't serious about nothing. And so if it's something to make fun of, he gonna make fun of it. If it's something to be inappropriate about, he gonna usually try to throw me under the bus and make an inappropriate situation of it. in my name so he gonna say something yeah you know like we was talking before we started the show about the pause he's very heavy with the pauses and he will and sometimes he will say pause worthy stuff and set it up and leave it out there for me to follow said thing and then wait for me and look at me like oh so you're not even gonna pause that So it's like, OK, man, I got you. I see how you do me. And it's like we'll be in meetings like actual business meetings. And this dude will sit here and bring up the most inappropriate inside jokes in business meetings and sit there and just be looking at me smiling. And like what was the problem? You didn't get you don't understand. I understood exactly what you was trying to do over there. Oh, you want to jump in on this? You want to try to defend yourself, sir? Oh, okay. I didn't think so. I want him to come on and tell me about pause because I was a little stuck. We'll get the pause on another episode. Once again, that's a New York thing. All New Yorkers use that. So we're going to go ahead and let the New Yorkers keep their pause and we'll get into that on another episode. But yeah, that's my friend, y'all. We don't do nothing. We do serious things together, but I don't know why. Because We never get through him because he's going to be an asshole most of the time. Yes. Renita, what you got next? What's the next one? Next one. My next one. So, I literally met my man one time and we've been together ever since. Wait a minute. Met him how? Like... On like Facebook dating? No, no, no. Like in person. How y'all met? How we met? It's weird. Like I met him at a mall and like, you know how you like out and about and somebody trying to like talk to you. I didn't like pay him no mind. And then like four weeks later, I went out with some girls from work and I was just vibing or whatever. And somebody came up to me and it was him. So me and him started talking, you know, laughing, joking or whatever when I'm dating. It's like, I'm like, oh, you look for me. I remember you like a month ago. You look from the mall. So it was like so funny, you know, like we cracked about it or whatever. We literally like been together ever since. And y'all happy? Yeah. Yes. Okay. All right. So, uh, I guess you know I've never been in a situation where I met somebody and y'all basically started off from that first meeting and just went straight on well no like the first meeting is like I said I didn't like well yeah yeah but like after that yeah because it was like man that's crazy like I wasn't like because I we didn't exchange numbers like when I first saw him or nothing so it was like crazy you know how long was the second meeting in between the first like four like four four or five weeks okay so some time in between and even then like it's like I really didn't like know it was him like I said I went out with some co-workers no I didn't even think about it but then like we sitting there like talking laughing chilling you know and I'm like wait a minute you look familiar so then it was like oh my god it's like I can't you know it was just funny so it was like wow it was meant to be lady A you ever met somebody and just felt like hey this guy this might be this might be cool and it was just like a one time just interaction and you was just like alright I know this might be the one Unfortunately, yeah, I did. Oh, unfortunately. This is the dark side of the story. Don't listen to this one. Renee, this don't pertain to you. Don't let her ruin your happy home. You're good over there. A few years ago, I'm working and had to call in. Some reinforcement at my old job. And he comes through. He helps. And, you know, we exchanged numbers that day. And we were inseparable for a good seven or eight years. I actually married him. And it was all good for a hot minute. Now, we went through it. You know, it was, you know, met him and we were inseparable literally that first meeting after that. Maybe, I don't know, six months later, we married. Married in Jamaica. Yeah. It was good while it was good, but when it was over, it was over. But, you know, it definitely can happen. Renata, don't listen to that end of the part. Don't listen to that one. Don't let her ruin your happy moment. You good. You met yours, and he's solid. Y'all good. Hold on to him. There ain't a lot of solid dudes out here. There you go. You stay with that, man. You solid. But that's sweet. That is a real sweet story that y'all met, and y'all still together. How long y'all been together? Almost 18 years. Wow. Almost 18 years. Okay. Okay. 18 years plus. Wow. That's really good. Yeah. Yeah. That don't happen too often. I was at the mall. Where you met him at? At the mall. Yeah. The first time. First time. You know, at the mall. Then I went out. And I was always like, you know, I wouldn't like go out. Like, I would be the person that would drive for the people. Like, oh, we want to go get turned. You know, like, we need to drive because we know you're not drinking. Right. Like, come drive. I'm like, cool. I ain't got nothing going on. I'll come drive. So, I'm in, you know, and I was not drunk. Didn't have no drinks or nothing. You know, just in there vibing. Right. And they... playing music, and I told one of the girls, I said, man, I'm sitting here. I've been sitting here all night. You in here tipsy. Man, I'm ready to go. And so then she's like, no, you need to go get a drink. And I'm like, all right. So as I'm walking to the bar, this guy stops me. And the craziest thing, it wasn't even him. It was somebody that was standing behind him. So we're dancing. I'm dancing with the other guy because it's like, OK, I'm here. Whatever. And so then he comes and, you know, it's just like, you know, starts talking to me and like, you know, grab my hand. I'm like, OK, OK. He blocked that man. Bless him. That man had it. Hold up. Hold up. Hold up. Plot Dickens here. Hold up. You was dancing with a whole nother dude. Did that man buy you a drink? No, like I said, I was on the way to the bar because I was like, I was that one that was like, they would call me like the party crush. I was only supposed to be like the driver. I'm like, man, I'm ready to go. Oh, you know, you just sitting here like in a funky mood. You don't even want to be here. Just go get a drink, you know, relax, relax. I'm like, okay, whatever. So on the way to a bar, they started playing. This is like 2007. So it's like, um, hot in here. You know, so I'm like on the way to the bar, you know, how it is in the club. You know how it is in somebody, you walking out like even right now lady A can you know she can relate you can it don't even gotta be a bar you can go to happy hour somewhere and I guarantee you somebody gonna you can know the person or not know the person a man gonna be like hey what's up girl you know like you might choose the interstate cause me I'm not like stuck up you know what I'm saying so I'ma talk that don't mean it's gonna go anywhere you see what I'm saying but it's just for a coincidence me and him at the time I wasn't planning on it going I was like okay my home girl is right I'm already out I might as well have a good time you know I'm here And I'm going to be here. So make the fun because I'm that kind of person. If I go out, I'm going to have fun. Whether that's drinking or not drinking. Like if I'm going to go to the club, I'm going to dance. You know, I'm going to dance. That's just what I'm going to do. And I'll dance with anybody. I don't care. It could be the weirdest looking guy. Not the weirdest dude. Yes. Not the old man. Look at that little girl. Come on over here and dance. Come on there and shake a leg. I haven't been out in like eight years. But the last time I went out, me and one of our girl that I knew me and her were out and we was just chilling or whatever. I'm like, you know what? I'll go get the dude getting no attention. It was a little weird looking white dude. I'm going to go over here and dance with him. Not the Jeffrey Dahmer dude standing in the back of the club. They're going to be so excited and it ain't going nowhere. You know what I'm saying? No expectations. Until he's sitting on your doorstep when you get home waiting for you to get there. Just going out and having a good time. That's definitely me. Okay. Y'all like to take risks. Okay. I might not dance with the weirdest person, but I'm going to dance after a couple of drinks, you know. I'm definitely going to. Y'all like to live dangerously. I'm going to turn up. I'm out and about. I'm going to have a good time. Might as well. Might as well. Okay. All right. Well, since we're on the topic of relationships and, you know, like you said, you've been in a relationship 18 years, so you could definitely relate to this, Renita. Yeah. Once you start calling her baby in the relationship, you can never call her by her birth name again because apparently that's an insult. You agree with that? Well, no, because I'm not, like, the mooey, mooey person. So, it's like, I ain't one of them people that, like, don't call me babe, you know what I'm saying? So, y'all don't have that pet name stuff? Nah, but, you know, he does have a nickname for me, but it's not baby, you know what I'm saying? But if he called you anything outside of your nickname? Oh, yeah, I know he may, or he feeling some type of way. Like, if he calling me by my government, like, if he calling me Ronita, like, I know, okay, you and your feelings. What is this about?

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Yeah.

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So that's an insult, basically, if you call me anything other than your nickname. Yeah. Okay. All right, lady. How you feel about that? You in a relationship? Yeah, definitely. Y'all got pet names. Definitely. It's an insult. It's an insult. Don't call me by my name. Once you establish that I'm bae, damn it, I'm bae. Oh, you can't go back from bae, huh? No, he can't come back from bae. He start yelling out what my name is, then we got to. Yelling it out all the way. We might be got a problem. Hold on, that might be something different. different though if he yelling it out he might hey you don't feel like calling ebay in that moment you gotta hit you with the government so you let you know what he feeling over there I understand that two minutes 15 the only thing I have a problem with you know pet names is cool and all that but I just don't like if we dealing with each other first if we sleeping with each other let's put it all out there on the table if we are sleeping with each other Do not call me bro. I hate that shit. Do not call me bro. I'm not your bro. We fucking, no. I can't be your bro. That's some sick shit. No. Don't be calling me bro. Like, no. No, hell no. First of all, why do women do that, ladies? I don't do that. I don't do that. I mean, this is why you just shouldn't sleep with anybody. But, I mean, you bro. You know, we trying to, you know, most times trying to friend zone them. But if you're already sleeping with him on a regular basis, you should not be calling that man bro. But if you're friends and you're nothing else, then that's just what it is. You're bro. Listen, I don't know. I don't agree with that one. What do you want to be called if you're not in a relationship and you just start screwing somebody? Not bro. But what do you want to be called? Anything else. I ain't saying you got to call me bae. Maybe call me Find another nickname. You don't need a nickname because you're not. Oh, damn, I'm not relevant. Damn. Well, just tell me about it, why don't you? That's why you can't mix that up. And when you start mixing that up. Oh, my God. So who are you? You're definitely not bae because we ain't there. So, you know, listen, bro, what up? Bro, I hate that, though. That irritates me. But you want to say, what's up, my nigga? No. That's just like calling me bro. So just call him by his name, then. You can call me by my name. I'll take that. Because if we're not in a relationship, I don't have a pet name yet. So call me by my name. It's fine. I won't take offense to that. But bro. But you're going to take offense to bro? Yeah. Why are you going to take offense to bro? Bro, like I said, I don't sleep with relatives. That's some down south country, Mississippi back country shit. I don't do that we don't do that over here we ain't kissing cousins over here I guess I can see it you get what I'm saying when you out in public with somebody and you saying bro like that and y'all together not really together but y'all done been together y'all done been intimate with each other that's gonna hit a little different that's like if a dude that you been intimate with start calling you sis you ain't gonna be okay with that right I don't know. If that's all we got, then that's all we got. What's up, bro? Because I might just speak back. I mean, I don't know how you would. I don't know how. Renee, are you going to let the dude you've been answering my way call you sis? I mean, he can call me whatever, you know, because it's like, it's no feelings. You know, you got to learn like, okay, boundaries. I think that's just breaking the rule. I wouldn't even want him to call me. Yeah, let me call you when I need you. That's cold. That's cold. Bro, I'll hit you when I need you. See what they just did there, fellas? You might be on to something. See what they just did there, fellas? I don't even want him to call me. I ain't calling you nothing. Yeah, let me call you, bro. I'll call you when I'm ready to holler at you. You see what they just did there, fellas? Oh, my God. I don't even want him to call me. I ain't calling you nothing because you ain't got no business calling me. So. So, yeah, shut all that down. Oh, my God, that is horrible. All right, last one, guys, before we get out of here. This is, you know, we do a hot take of the day. And I feel like this is a good one because we've been talking about friendship a little bit here today. So, ladies, I'm going to have to rephrase this one for y'all. But if one of your homegirls is on a date and she says she don't have enough to cover the date and the dude just ain't going to pay for it, Y'all sending her some money to get her out of that situation? Or y'all just going to tell her to make that man man up? I'm sending my friend the money and telling her ass to run. Don't ever go nowhere else with this motherfucker again. Leave. Go. Do not collect $200. Just go. I'm sending you, but I'm only sending her enough money for her bill. Oh, so you ain't sending her enough for the whole bill? Hell no. What you ate? That's messed up. I'm only feeding my friend. What if she invited him out and she just didn't have enough to cover? Nah, then she on her own then. Okay. If she invited him out and she knew she ain't had enough money to cover both of them, she on her own. Don't call me. Renee, do you help your friend out? What you doing? Nah, because those kind of things, I feel like they should have had that established before they went on a date. They should have had that shit together. Because, you know, like most women, like nowadays, like we real. So it's like we want to take you out. Come on. I'm taking you out or whatever. We're going out. Let's go hang out. You know, so. That's already established. It should be. I already know what my pocketbook is. It's not always. I already know what my pocketbook is. Y'all leave y'all pocketbooks behind on purpose. Don't do that. I don't. I leave my pocketbook everywhere I go. Don't do that. Y'all sit there and get on the date and be like, oh, yeah, so we going half on this? Oh, I forgot my wallet at the house. Oh, my God. Yeah, I know we said we was going half on this, but yeah. I'm going to cash app it to you. Yeah, that's that other favorite one. Yeah, I'm going to just cash app you my half. Yeah, don't worry about it. I can carry my weight. I can carry my weight. I invite somebody out to dinner. I can cover the tab. You can cover the tab? I can definitely cover the tab. All right. Well, me, if it's my homeboy and he hit me up and say, look, man, I got this girl out here and I ain't got no money to pay for this date, man. She done ordered steak and lobster, everything on the left side of the menu. I can't pay for all this, man. I need a couple dollars. I'll probably help my homeboy out, man. They should have ordered from the two for 20. Should have went to Happy Hour. Yeah. Look, you never know what's going to happen in those situations, man. You sometimes go on to a date and it expect the order from the two for 20 but the girls looking at you like nigga your cheap ass better not so he trying to you know it's a date he trying to impress her he trying to do his thing I'm gonna have to help my boy out now he can't make a habit of this now we ain't gonna be hitting each other up ever don't be going on dates every week looking like hey I know you just got me out of that jam last week but I got a new one on deck this week bro and uh you know longhorns is looking kind of good right now my nigga you're pushing it my nigga come on And I don't know, I'm going to ask him what he ordered Because if your ass know you ain't had enough money for the both of y'all Then one of y'all should have ate cheap Man, I should have went to Popeye's and had three for five What? In those types of situations as a male I will say, you're trying to impress the female But you just unimpressed me But they know If you come out to dinner Or you ask them out to dinner And you go out there and you say Oh, I just want a salad I want some water and a salad They're going to be looking at you like, oh, this broke nigga here. This broke nigga done invited me out on this date. Uh-uh, hell nah. What the hell is he doing? So you got to order something. I ain't saying go break your pockets, but you got to order something to be like, okay, yeah, that's normal for, you know, a dude to eat. So, yeah. What if your ass ain't got no money? You shouldn't be ordering her shit like that. You better stay on the outside. Yeah, you better ride. Okay. So let me say, I don't think I'm going to get me a little dip. Oh, yeah. What you want? So, you know, you kind of letting them know, listen, okay, Nasa, I even do that with my kids now listen shit okay I got the menu now and now if I'm ordering from the 99 cent menu I need you to take heed that we need to order from the 99 cent menu like I said these dudes trying to impress women they ain't trying to be looked at and talked about in these streets oh that nigga ain't got no money he took me out on a date and this nigga was eating salad so that brings a side question too of um If, where is a respectable first date for a guy and a girl? A first date, just, you know, you just getting to know this guy, girl, and yes, a respectable first date. Renita? I feel like any public setting, so like a happy hour, a restaurant, I mean, a park, just somewhere public. Okay. Like if I was dating, I wouldn't want to just meet somebody, like go to their house right away. I wouldn't want to do that. So no Netflix and chill for Renita No not on the first date That ain't no Netflix and chill That ain't what we doing Not on the first date Alright lady Where's a respectable first date for you Like Renita said Anything public We can go grab some ice cream We can go to a restaurant and get something to eat We can go to the bar But I'm definitely not coming to your house on the first date For you to you know netflix and chill nah i'm i'm a pass you're gonna pass on the netflix all right well i mean hey you know so i mean respectable first dates i mean i feel like um fast food restaurants don't equate in my mind to a respectable first date and I'll say that just from well why not because because if that's all you can afford yeah but if that's all you could afford you probably shouldn't be dating just hey just putting that out there just being honest you need to be reevaluating your situation it might it could be like my favorite spot yeah like somewhere I'd like to grab me a fish sandwich or whatever the case may be you can take me to Zaxby's I'ma be I'ma be you can take me to Bursky's a little bit more upscale than McDonald's or you know Burger King no McDonald's all right with me. I'm going to get me a steak and egg bagel combo with a sweet tea for breakfast and a little fish sandwich for dinner. Nah. Some things don't have to be as hard as the new generation is making it out to be. So you think that's a generational thing? I do. I do. dating at an older age, you learn more lessons and start to see the value in, you know, simpler things versus younger kids that are looking at it from a balling out. Absolutely. Take me to Bojangles. Six piece boat bike. I might want the biscuit, but I'm going to be fine with some biscuits. Chicken tenders and fries Chick-fil-A Chick-fil-A is not That don't qualify as fast food I'm sorry, I don't care The Lord's Chicken does not qualify as Yeah, I call it the Lord's Chicken Hey, they don't even open on Sundays, that's the Lord's Chicken I had a co-worker, Jonesy Jonesy used to always say That is the Lord's Chicken, they closed on Sunday So that's the Lord's Chicken If you call Chick-fil-A the Lord's Chicken I've always called it the Lord's Chicken Ever since then But Yeah, Chick-fil-A is not qualified as fast food. I don't think. That's upscale fast food if you ask me. So I don't know about that one. It depends on the people. I'll say that. It depends on the people. The person that you're going out with? Yeah, absolutely. So it depends on how you vibing with that person. So if you vibing with that person, you might be able to look down or look at their circumstance a little bit different if you vibing with them. You might not have it this week. So, you know, you're going to try to take me to Hall's Chop House to eat. a steak that I don't eat, really. Or you're going to take me to the tax office and let me get some chicken bacon ranch fries and lemonade for $13. And I'm just as happy. Make me a little sandwich, too. What? A fried bologna sandwich. A little mayonnaise on both sides, a little mustard. We can go back to the house and Netflix and chill and I can fry you up a bologna sandwich. Bring that when you come to the park. Bring it to the park. And we can run over there to the convenience store and get me a little soda. Is Netflix and chill dead? Is it dead completely? I think Netflix Netflix and chill is more for like established relationships. That's my point of view. No. I understood Netflix and chill to work. So you meet a chick right now. Uh-huh. And you're going to take her like invite her to Netflix and chill. Depends on how we met. On the first date? Yeah. The first date can be a Netflix and chill. Depends. Like you said. Okay. Just like how y'all said. It depends on that personality of that person, right? For where they can take you out on the date, right? As far as like if you'll go to like a fast food restaurant with them. It depends on the personality and how the vibe feels of the conversation when we talking. So a first date, you would do that? If they seem like they would be on board with it, they might be a homebody. They might be a person that don't really like to go out. They don't really, you know, like to do public things and be out in public and stuff like that. And they might be more comfortable chilling at the house. What a stranger. I mean, everybody's a stranger. He's trying to clap cheeks. He's trying to clap cheeks. Yeah, definitely. Definitely. And she's trying to get clapped. Right. Because you're going to somebody's house for the first night to watch a movie you don't even know. There's a lot of good movies out right now. At least go to a hotel. But see, now that's totally different. See? No. See? Netflix and chill. Okay, come on. Who Netflixing and chilling at the hotel? If you go to a hotel, you going to the hotel. You know what you're going to the hotel. But that's what's going to happen after Netflix and chill? Not necessarily. Some people go to Netflix and chill. I've heard stories. Netflix and chill. You get somebody over there. Y'all ain't going to finish the movie. Maybe. Not no grown people. If it's a good movie. They ain't going to offer them something to drink or something. With a roofie in it. Whoa. Whoa. Whoa. Whoa. Whoa. Whoa. Whoa. Whoa. Whoa. Whoa. Whoa. Whoa. Whoa. Whoa. That's a big no. People do that. A lot of people do that. A lot of people do that. They do. They do. Some people have sex on the first date. Yeah. You know, whatever floats your boat, whatever makes you comfortable. If you're comfortable enough with someone that you just met, you can go to their house. And Netflix and chill. Then just do it. Sometimes Netflix and chill can't be just chilling, y'all. It can be, but not on the first date. What does it matter? First, second, third? I ain't making it through no movie. Well, see, that means you came in there or something. No, it's just like, but you got to think about two grown people. I'm listening. Me and my dude, we ain't watching no movie together. So y'all can't just... If it's a good movie, man. There's some good movies out right now. Y'all can't make it through a good movie? Y'all just can't hold that in. And then if we go to the movie theater, I'm going to go to sleep. I ain't making it through no whole movie at the movie theater. I ain't even going to the movies. That's my least favorite place in the world to be is the movies. But if we home, uh-uh. Yeah, it's going down. It's going down. but that's your man though so that's different that's a different setting different situation me as a single woman I wouldn't have a man over my house on the first date to watch a movie I don't know. I'm not inviting nobody to my house on the first. But you'll go to theirs. I don't know. I don't know no people. Hey, first of all, y'all try to make it seem like men is the only crazy ones out here. Why they crazy too? Hell no. I ain't going to no random woman house. No, no, no, no. First of all, if I do go to some random woman house, you can best believe I'm protected very heavily. I'm not going in there alone. So. no not no condom so he's unpretentious no trust me I'm strapped up but it ain't like that it ain't that type of strap I can promise you that so yeah I don't want to go to Random's house without no kind of protection. Now, that ain't going to happen. Yeah, we not doing that at all. Yeah, dude. But, yeah, I mean, I don't know. This depends on who you ask. Different people going to have different. Give us y'all perspective on that out there. Hit us up on Facebook. Let us know what y'all think. Is it okay to go to a female's house, male's house, first date, Netflix chill? You know, do you think as a couple, y'all can make it through a Netflix? That's the better question. As a couple, if you in a relationship, do you think you can make it through a full movie if y'all trying to just do a Netflix and chill scenario? Or do you think it's just going to go down? I ain't no need to try to say we about to sit here and try to watch this movie. Let us know what y'all think. Give us your responses and let us know on Facebook, on the feed watchers Facebook page. All right, guys. That has been our show for today. We want to thank our special guest, Lady A, for stopping through. Lady A, give us another shout-out for your show. Come on. It's in her perspective. Me and Coach J, tune in. It's definitely going to be. Some good stuff. What days are your shows? We will put out on Wednesdays. We record on Sundays. All right. All right. Renita, what you got? Any shout outs before we get out of here? Yes. I would like to shout out Digital Bays Media Group. There you go. That's what I'm talking about. Yeah. All right, guys. It's been fun. We had a good show this week. Check back in with us next week. We'll have another good one for y'all. Some more reals coming. Thank y'all for listening. We out.