Robe Runs, Side Chicks, and $20 Gas Tanks

In this hilarious and unfiltered episode of Feed Watchers, your hosts dive into everything from controversial school drop-off fashion to the days when Walmart was open 24 hours and gas only cost $20. Eric and the crew talk side chick culture, love and loyalty in relationships, why men can't ask for money (apparently!), and whether or not you'd tell your spouse they only have 3 months to live. Oh, and would you eat at a food truck called “Side Chick” on a Sunday? We thought so.

This one is packed with laughs, real talk, and throwback vibes. Hit play and join the convo.

Transcript

SPEAKER_01 0:08

What's up, what's up? Welcome back to the Feed Watchers. We are back for another great episode for y'all. Renita, what's going on? What the check-in? How you doing?

SPEAKER_02 0:17

I am doing good. I'm doing good. All right, all right.

SPEAKER_01 0:21

What you been up to lately? How's it been going?

SPEAKER_02 0:23

Everything's been going pretty good. You know, it's just this weather. You know, it's like my allergies and stuff. The weather, yeah, you know, like it's warm. Then it's like in the 70s, you know, we in between that stage, you know, so.

SPEAKER_01 0:35

That's that COVID weather. Yeah. That's going back around. around here. You heard that, right?

SPEAKER_02 0:39

No, I have not.

SPEAKER_01 0:40

Oh, yes. Few people out there getting that COVID again. That's the thing going bad. And they saying it's way worse than the first time. This thing can take you out for real. So be real careful with that. Yeah, but yeah, definitely take care of yourself out here, man. Mask up if you feel like you need to. Definitely keep your hands sanitized on deck because I ain't trying to get sick for nobody right now. I ain't got time for that. But yeah, let's get into this question of the day this is an interesting one because I feel like as kids we all had to deal with this but this mom is catching hell for it so a mother is facing backlash for wearing a robe and a towel wrapped around her head to drop off her kids at school are people overreacting what you think Renee do you think people are overreacting to a mom coming to the school with the robe and the towel on

SPEAKER_02 1:36

that one I mean it kind of depends on the person me personally I wouldn't care because it's not me right but because I choose not to do something or go to my kids school like that I'm not gonna lash the next person because they choose to

SPEAKER_01 1:50

so you ain't never been that parent show up at the school with the robe it's still wrapped up no I have on some

SPEAKER_02 1:57

jogging pants and a t-shirt like literally I had on jogging pants and I still I got on like sweat workout pants now but my go-to relax jogging pants and t-shirt and I had it on before I came here my daughter was like mama you really gonna wear that like to the podcast

SPEAKER_01 2:12

I was like I ain't trying to impress nobody

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mama you really gonna wear that I'm

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like okay

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so let me put on something more neater it's about comfort so if that parent was comfortable hey that's what makes her

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comfortable and I'm we from an era of that used to be the norm if your mom showed up to the school especially if you done did something you had no business doing oh for sure if she got that calling had to come up to the school that's how she was coming just just to embarrass you just to make sure your friends would be like who mama is that yeah that's that's and you try to go hiding in the corner somewhere that ain't my mama i don't know that woman you know that woman that's your mama stop playing man somebody be that called you out one of your friends that know your mama be like ah that's that's his mama i know hold up your mama came up here like that but i don't think yeah i think people overreacting to it because it's like yes that's normal i see that you You know, in everyday life, that's still a thing. People still come in. People work. People have full-time jobs. Sometimes people just be getting off work before they got to drop their kids off in the morning. They ain't got time to be going and getting all fresh and dressed all up just to go drop their kids off to school. Ain't nobody got time for that. So, yeah, don't overthink it, people. It's not that serious. That's the norm. Like I said, we grew up like that. That ain't nothing too crazy for me. I don't think so. at least so yeah I think people just making a big deal about nothing so uh Renita uh what you got what's your first uh crazy thing you saw this week

SPEAKER_02 3:49

um okay the crazy thing I saw I was scrolling I saw this so if you knew that your significant other your spouse or whatever had three months to live would you tell them or would you like keep it to yourself

SPEAKER_01 4:05

so you know but they don't know

SPEAKER_02 4:06

yeah

SPEAKER_01 4:08

Would I tell them or would I keep that to myself? I would tell them I would think. I wouldn't want them to not know that. I feel like you'd be a messed up person not to tell them that. How you not tell them they ain't only got three months to live? What kind of sick person wouldn't tell their spouse that? You would tell your spouse that, I would assume, right?

SPEAKER_02 4:31

I would be the sick person and the messed up person that you were talking

SPEAKER_01 4:35

about. You really wouldn't

SPEAKER_02 4:36

tell them? No, but my reason is because, you know, like... I say this, like, worrying can kill somebody, too. You know, like, imagine if you, like, to your knowledge, you're healthy. Yeah. You don't have no life-ending situations. Right. And then, like, your spouse tells you, hey, Eric, you have... three months or less to live? Like, that one threw you off or, you know, that might kill you quicker.

SPEAKER_01 5:05

First question I'm asking, is this because of, am I sick or is this because you think in three months is about how much you can take left of me and you finna kill me in like three months? That's my first.

SPEAKER_02 5:15

It's because like you're sick

SPEAKER_01 5:17

or something. Cancer or something like that, you know? I'm gonna joke about it. I'm gonna be like, you trying to sell me something? You finna kill me or something like that? What's going on here? Like, it's premeditated murder, you know that, right? Hey, but nah but I get what you saying yeah you do want to like live every day like it's your last anyway but at the same time I think I would want to know like I would definitely want to know so I can make sure I got all my stuff in order like I got you know everything taken care of and make sure things that are handled business and stuff is handled before I leave here I don't want to just be gone and not have things taken care of that really need to be taken care of so yeah that's my reasoning for not to not know. But I get what you're saying as far as not telling the person for, you know, not to have them stressed and worrying about it and everything like that. But like I said, there's just things that need to be handled. There's things that need to be taken care of, put in place and stuff like that. So you want to know, I would think. But like I said, I get where you're coming from with not wanting to tell them. Definitely. Definitely feel you on that one. Let's go to the next one. This one said, we had 24-hour Walmart's $5 foot loans and $20 full tanks of gas. $1 McChickens and 99 cent stores. Man, we had it all. What happened? I was riding by Walmart the other night and I was like, man, I remember when Walmart used to be open 24 hours. You could just go in there and get whatever you wanted at 2 o'clock in the morning. If I just wanted to go in there and get me some apple juice, I could go in Walmart at 2 o'clock in the morning and get me whatever I wanted. But nowadays, that's gone that's just that's just that's just gone they just went away COVID killed all of that now they just never brought it back and I'm just like I missed that you know and then the prices on everything is going up now so with prices on everything going up so high it's like everything that we used to enjoy I don't think we appreciated it enough especially like them $5 footlongs and you know with $20 just to get you a full tank of gas we definitely didn't appreciate that for sure so like how you feeling like you miss those things you miss the you know the cheaper days so to speak

SPEAKER_02 7:34

yes I do and especially like I was one of those who that will always go to Walmart I will be like the late person going to Walmart because it was less crowd everything was stocked up you know I could go in and out right so I do miss because I'll be one of those ones that go to Walmart like one or two in the morning or

SPEAKER_01 7:51

that was me I stayed in Walmart like all the time in the middle of the night for no reason because I'd be up couldn't sleep I'd be like I'll just go to Walmart just because it's open you know so yeah I definitely miss those days and those things but you know with our economy going the way it's going it ain't getting no better and we no closer to getting back to any of those things so I don't foresee us ever seeing another $20 full tank of gas with the president we got sitting in the office so yeah we just missed out on we just gotta live with the memories now I guess so Renita what's next feed or feed you had.

SPEAKER_02 8:32

Uh-huh. Okay. I am not a football fan, but everybody's excited about, like, college football. The season is starting, the tailgates and all those things going on.

SPEAKER_01 8:43

You're not a football

SPEAKER_02 8:44

fan. I'm just not. I'm not a football fan. But, you know, my family, my uncles, you know, my brother, my mom was, you know, so it's like. But I'm not. I just. It's never itchy. Nah. But, you know, everybody's talking about it, you know.

SPEAKER_01 8:58

Of course. That's big. Yeah. You know how long I've been waiting for the NFL season to start back. But you know, the main reason people are talking about it now too, outside of just being a fan, being a big fan of it. Sports in general as a whole is a big thing for betting and gambling. But when it comes around for football season, that's a whole different type of people betting on these football games like crazy. And they win a lot of money off of that. So they excited to get back that opportunity to start betting on these games again too.

SPEAKER_00 9:30

So

SPEAKER_01 9:31

they trying to get back out there and you know get these bets going you know prize picks and you know underdog all these different places they be putting up big money to people that sit there and bet on them games so but I mean the excitement of the game too a lot of people are true fans of the game I'm not like a super fan of football like I gotta sit there and watch a whole entire game but I got my teams that I like to watch you know I'm a Green Bay Packers fan so if the Green Bay Packers playing I'm gonna definitely be watching college I'm not so much into definitely don't get into the college games like that. But, yeah, you know, it's just – it's something different about when football season comes around. It's just a different vibe. It's a different feel. Like when basketball season starts, nobody's really like super excited like that. It's like, all right, it's the NBA. You got – it's going to be going for the half the year. But when football season comes around, it's almost like you already know like – It's a short period of time that we got to enjoy these games, and we got to enjoy it while we got it, because once it's gone, you're going to be missing it. Yeah, so that's what that is. Since you don't get into football, that's what it's about. I get that you hate that popping up on your timeline, but just enjoy it and get used to it for the next few months. Yeah. So speaking of football, there's a football player who decided to put a post out there and he said, hey, hear me out. I'm going to create a food truck that sells chicken sandwiches, and I'm going to park it next to a Chick-fil-A, and it'll only be open on Sundays, and I'm going to call it Side Chick.

SPEAKER_02 11:15

That's funny.

SPEAKER_01 11:17

So, Renita, you going to Side Chick? Would you go to a restaurant called Side Chick?

SPEAKER_02 11:23

I would. You know why? Because now it's just like social media, it's attracting. So the name itself.

SPEAKER_01 11:29

Mm-hmm.

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And it's hilarious.

SPEAKER_01 11:31

It's definitely

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hilarious. That's like out in Atlanta, like slutty vegan. So it's like the name grabs people. It's catchy.

SPEAKER_01 11:40

Right. It's definitely. I don't know where he. These guys be thinking. They think too fast with that one. I was quick thinking right there. But it's only going to be open on Sundays. That's crazy. Open on Sundays right next to Chick-fil-A and we're going to call it Side Chick. That's marketing genius at its finest right there. I'm telling you. was thinking right there. I mean, how many people out there would go and support this man in his quest to open side chick? Because I feel like some females are going to be like, I ain't going no place called no side chick. I ain't no side chick. I'm a man.

SPEAKER_02 12:14

The whole time be a side chick.

SPEAKER_01 12:18

Well, I mean, some people don't know that they're side chicks. I

SPEAKER_02 12:22

mean, nowadays men out here treating side chicks and manes the same. Only difference is the mane just dealing with it more like side chick really the main chick because the side chicks don't have to deal with none of that extra rah-rah and they get the same treatment, the same pleasure. So, I mean, side chicks be winning.

SPEAKER_01 12:39

You might be on to something there. That's kind of true. I kind of agree with that in some ways. Like, that's very true. Like, yeah, the dudes, y'all kind of got the game messed up a little bit because side chicks was supposed to be like y'all say, like the word says, something on the side.

SPEAKER_02 12:56

They're not here falling in love

SPEAKER_01 12:58

with side chicks. Yeah, I don't yeah that's I don't know about that one guys we got to do a little bit better a little bit a little bit but we got to do much better oh so you basically saying stop cheating basically that's what you just

SPEAKER_02 13:15

stop falling in love with the outside

SPEAKER_01 13:16

oh so you okay with the side no I'm

SPEAKER_02 13:18

not okay with me but it happens you know it's like you have to learn I think with growth you have to learn that you can't like control nobody you know what I'm saying so it's like if a person and this goes I know we're talking about men but it goes both ways ways if a person wants to go out there and have a side chick side man side piece they're gonna do it so it's like you can't even you wouldn't even know unless they tell you or somebody else tell you

SPEAKER_01 13:44

I'm gonna let you know right now Renita all of our male listeners are about to be all in your posts all in your timeline all hey everybody about to be coming at you because they was like all they heard and everything you just said was you okay with me having a side chick. I

SPEAKER_02 14:00

am not, okay. No, I'm not okay, but what I don't know not gonna hurt me. I mean, whole time you could be with somebody and then they got somebody on the side, you wouldn't even know it. And it's like, this been going on since your grandma and them. Granddaddy and uncle and them. But it was done different then. Exactly. But you don't find out until somebody die or until they way old. It's like, why this boy look like? You know, so it's like whole time.

SPEAKER_01 14:23

That side kid is a whole different ballgame.

SPEAKER_02 14:26

Exactly. So it's like, you don't even know, but that's what comes with it because these men out here falling in love they not just it's not no side thing that's they women too you

SPEAKER_01 14:34

know I've been thinking about that actually one of the coldest scenes I've ever seen in a movie you ever seen that movie Fences with Denzel Washington no oh my god you gotta watch that movie oh my god talking about side pieces Denzel there's a very cold scene where he basically brings a kid around at after the mom the kid's mom passes away and he just brings him this kid into his house one night and just gives him gives the baby to his wife and it's just like okay we raising her now and I was like that is the coldest shit ever like dude that's a whole side baby you just bought a hand just gave to your wife and she didn't like how you was talking about like how the old days she didn't cry about it she didn't make no fuss about it like who the hell is this baby like nothing just okay this our baby now

SPEAKER_02 15:29

and she was a real

SPEAKER_01 15:31

one hey y'all stay out of Renita Post I'm telling y'all right now y'all stay out of she don't mean these things she is saying right now I'm just being real stay out of Renita Post she don't mean this stuff what's the next one you got we getting off of side chicks oh my god Renita is not a side chick y'all stop it and she ain't okay with you having side chicks if you try to holla at her no stop it what's the next one one. What are we going to next?

SPEAKER_02 16:02

If they don't appreciate your presence, make them appreciate your absence.

SPEAKER_01 16:07

Sure. Yes. 100% agree people take you for granted I will say they will play in your face all the time and not appreciate the things that you do for them to have done for them continue to do for them even after you've been done wrong by them and sometimes you just gotta you know cut them off cut them right off and let them have to live without you and the things that you provide for them and give to them even if that's just time and energy not necessarily money or anything financial or anything of any value but that could just be time that could be energy you have to cut them off from those things and let them miss that for a while and then they'll truly start to appreciate it I feel like how do you feel about that

SPEAKER_02 16:55

I agree like you don't appreciate my presence like will we like cut it off and that goes for anybody any kind of situation like you have to do that because sometimes you'll get caught up like as far as especially when you kind you got a good heart you know it's like people basically what you were saying they start to take advantage of that so it's like are you gonna continue to just allow it and just go with the flow like come on man you can't do that

SPEAKER_01 17:21

you can't because people will walk over like you said if you got a good heart people will walk all over you and use you abuse you and throw you away like you ain't nothing but then if you turn on turn do the same thing to them and basically just be like well I'm out I'm not taking this no more and you the bad guy all of a sudden so nah I don't I I think you definitely shouldn't make people miss you and they'll then learn to appreciate your absence and appreciate your presence for what you were or given to the situation when you were around and then by that time more than likely you'll be moved on to the next thing and it won't even matter to you anymore if they want you in their life or want you around anymore at all because you just like hey I'm tired of it I gave everything I had to give to it I'm not giving no more so yeah I definitely agree with that statement for sure um so on to the next one um this one says boys to men had 90s kids crying like their marriage just ended over someone they only held hands with once Renee do you have somebody crying over you had somebody crying singing boys to men songs to you back in the day you ever had that oh she thought of somebody you ain't gotta say the name you thought of somebody no no no Nobody? Nah. nah we did used to do that though for real we used to be sitting there listening to doggone radio crying our eyes out to boys and men songs thinking about some particular person that broke our heart and it wasn't I mean when we was young like that we wasn't dating nobody to be sitting there crying about no doggone girl but yeah definitely different times now cause now dudes just be on some damn YN stuff and they just get money laughing And then why ain't they

SPEAKER_02 19:17

crazy

SPEAKER_01 19:17

Like How do we go from crying over girls Who we was holding hands with To fuck bitches get money Like how did that transition so quickly That escalated fast

SPEAKER_02 19:28

This generation though

SPEAKER_01 19:31

you know But is it that so many Is it because of the fact that we was sitting there Listening to those songs crying our eyes out Y'all didn't really care And y'all was just like oh I'm over here with This person person I don't even care about you over there crying in that corner right now I

SPEAKER_02 19:46

think it's more so like the way music is done I think we talked about this on a couple shows way back now it's just like you got the auto tone you got you know it's not even like it is real music I'm not taking away from no artist but it's not the same yeah it's not the same so it's like this generation you know they grew up listening to that type of thing you know they seeing it in the videos they probably seeing it you know in real So it's like That's all they know

SPEAKER_01 20:14

So It's like Where do you know Get fuck bitches Get money from Like where Why is that a thing The music and stuff

SPEAKER_02 20:21

Yeah The music and stuff Cause you gotta think Like these Most celebrities now That's what they doing I mean even the females Talking about it Fuck niggas get money Like so it's like It's just That's the era

SPEAKER_01 20:32

That hits a little harder When females say it Yeah I don't know why But that's the thing A lot of

SPEAKER_02 20:36

females Now move like men

SPEAKER_01 20:37

They do Unfortunately Unfortunately I hate that God don't say I hate that. But, yeah. Yeah, man. Go back to the days when dudes were singing love songs, man. Like, go bring that back. Not saying necessarily you need to be over there crying over no female. God knows. Definitely not saying that. If she broke your heart, she broke your heart. Move on, bro. But, you know, go back to love songs. Bring the love back in the songs. Don't be sitting there, fuck bitches. It'd be an R&B song and they'd be talking about love. Like, come on, man. This is different times. Like, wow. We evolved Let's get to the next one.

SPEAKER_02 21:18

Yeah, my next one. So I saw something that I thought was pretty cool. I don't even know. I don't know if it's true because I did not look into it. You know, you can't like believe everything you see. But so apparently rapper Jadakiss has launched a black owned coffee brand with his father and son. Yeah. Yeah. So I need to look into that. I

SPEAKER_01 21:36

think I haven't heard anything about it in a while, but I think he did that a while ago. But I remember about it like I don't know if he's still doing it it was like an adventure I thought that was pretty dope because he was doing it with his dad and his son and so I thought that was pretty cool but you know a entrepreneurship is always black a black business let's support our black businesses we have a lot of local black businesses around here that are opening it up and stuff like that we need to support our black people and you know do things you know get into doing things with there's nothing wrong with doing things with your kids you know get into doing stuff with your kids and start like that show them the power of actually investing their money and actually starting a business and building a brand like I feel like that was a very powerful lesson for him to teach for his son hey we gonna start this business together and I'm gonna show you how to you know get this money so you don't have to go out here work for nobody and you know so and then to have his dad involved in the process as well too is that's all well-rounded business plans I like that that's pretty dope thing I agree with that no I hope that business is done doing good I hope like I said um hope that business is doing well as well and like I said you know shout out to all the people who are doing their own businesses and stuff like that starting them up and doing different things in the business world um my homeboy give a homeboy a shout out real quick soul craze um shoes um yeah the shoe store up in Columbia called soul craze um shout him out real quick yeah definitely getting this thing it been going strong and I definitely want y'all to support that man and their brother's doing real good things with the shoe game. So, yeah, go check him out up there in Columbia. He's so great. Let's go jump into the next one. This one says, niggas that ask for money, money is so unattractive. Do you agree with that statement, Renita? Is a dude asking for money unattractive?

SPEAKER_02 23:35

Yes, yes.

SPEAKER_01 23:37

Even if it's your dude?

SPEAKER_02 23:38

Yes.

SPEAKER_01 23:41

Elaborate, please. Your dude can't come to you for money.

SPEAKER_02 23:44

Why though?

SPEAKER_01 23:46

He might be a little bit down.

SPEAKER_02 23:49

Okay, well give me your bank card so I can give

SPEAKER_01 23:52

you. He might be down, so that means He ain't got it.

SPEAKER_02 23:56

I'm going to lift you up in prayer.

SPEAKER_01 23:57

Damn. That's cold. y'all supposed to be in a relationship it's a partnership y'all partners so when he don't have you supposed to you know help build him you know it's a partnership no

SPEAKER_02 24:15

I'm too old for that the age where I'm at in my situation you gotta always be okay you always gotta be okay when it comes to that like you should not be coming to me now in my younger days yeah I could you know I could rock with what you're saying but at this age

SPEAKER_01 24:37

you can't

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ask me for nothing prayer

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god damn prayer oh god it's a you know sitting in the couch just chilling all day at your house

SPEAKER_02 24:49

yeah we can yeah we can do that but I'm like that's different from you asking me for money

SPEAKER_01 24:53

no that's what I'm saying that's might be the reason he ain't got that's what I'm saying you expect if you if he's your man he gonna be working somewhere because if he don't he ain't gonna be making no he ain't gonna have no money

SPEAKER_02 25:03

yeah working working for yourself doing something you got some kind of income I mean like we were talking about in this world like there's no more five dollar footlongs there's no more dollar stores completely you know so it's like you have to have some type of

SPEAKER_01 25:19

so you agree it takes two incomes to run a household at this point now

SPEAKER_02 25:24

yes unless one of us is rich and I'm rich in health and spirit but financially yes it takes two Oh,

SPEAKER_01 25:34

man, that's horrible. Even in our relationship, I cannot ask you for money.

SPEAKER_02 25:42

No, you know, see, relationship and life is all about stages. You know, so younger girls, you know, they can, you know, vibe with that. Me and my age, I can't vibe with that. Like, I can't be building nobody, helping nobody. No, we growing now. So you got to come with something. You can't be coming to me asking me about no money for no money. No, we can't. We ain't be doing that.

SPEAKER_01 26:04

Can't get a little help on the lights. No. A little bit on the rent. I mean,

SPEAKER_02 26:07

that's different. You know, if we live together, we sharing the household. Yeah, that's. That's different.

SPEAKER_01 26:11

Okay, so that. That's

SPEAKER_02 26:13

paying bills together. Now, paying bills together is different than.

SPEAKER_01 26:17

So, if he say, I want the new Jordans.

SPEAKER_02 26:20

What? See, mine don't even wear no Jordans. Oh,

SPEAKER_01 26:22

okay. No. I need some rims for the car real quick. No. None of that. No, none of that ain't flying. Got this new chain. This dope ass new chain. Oh, no. You better. No. Work it out Oh dang Yeah My birthday coming up though I mean

SPEAKER_02 26:39

I mean birthdays Yeah birthdays I do birthdays I do Father's Day I don't do Christmas Or none of that But birthdays Father's Day Yeah you gonna get a little

SPEAKER_01 26:46

something Just not Nah Not just cause I'm on I seen that And I like that And I want that You ain't gonna get that

SPEAKER_02 26:53

No you can't ask me No But like the kind of person That I am Like in my relationship So of course I know what you like Anyway as far as like If it's a type of cologne Or I might see like A cute shirt shirt or something like that I'm gonna just get that if I'm out getting for myself or the kids or even if we're together but as far as you coming to me like babe or honey or whatever can I get a hundred dollars can I get no you're not doing that

SPEAKER_01 27:17

if he ask you for a hundred dollars you're not you gonna question it or you're not gonna

SPEAKER_02 27:20

question

SPEAKER_01 27:20

no you're just gonna say no right I'm

SPEAKER_02 27:21

just look at you like you you know not to even do that first off so

SPEAKER_01 27:27

hey bro

SPEAKER_02 27:27

you know better yeah

SPEAKER_01 27:29

I'm praying for you too, bro. I feel sorry for you, bro. You can't give your man a couple of dollars. What if he was asking for that because he wanted to grab something to eat real quick. He said, I got $20. Let me get a little quick $20 real quick. He wanted to grab him something to eat.

SPEAKER_02 27:49

He got it.

SPEAKER_01 27:52

I'm praying for you, brother. You know what you got next.

UNKNOWN 27:59

God. So...

SPEAKER_02 28:00

Prayer, prayer, we all need prayer, but not. Okay, so I thought this was funny because I can relate. No pre-workout needed, just flashbacks of betrayal and things I let slide. Like when you're working out and stuff, I can't. And I haven't now. I haven't worked out heavy like that in years. But when I used to, like I did not do pre-workout. Like I would use like instead of like something would have me mad. So instead of like doing something crazy, saying something crazy or acting out on and I would just go work out yeah and burn off that energy like it became like and I miss it so much it just it lets off steam I tell people that for me that

SPEAKER_01 28:39

is so healthy of you no

SPEAKER_02 28:41

it's not because I haven't I'm telling

SPEAKER_01 28:43

you but that was so evolved of you to do that at that time because I could have never like if I'm mad about something the last thing I'm thinking about is going to work

SPEAKER_02 28:50

out you gotta try it though because when you work out like most of the time that's one of the reasons why I haven't been like in a long time because for me I have to have my mind on it so I might say yeah I need to go to the gym and then I go to the gym but if my mind is not like on working out or I don't have like a reason as far as like that motivation because I don't do pre-workout then I'm just going to be in there bullshitting you know what I mean so it's like I could have stayed home because you

SPEAKER_01 29:16

ain't doing nothing but I feel like I'll do that though if I go in there and I'm mad about something I won't be able to focus on the workout

SPEAKER_02 29:21

you won't try it you got to try it and we have this conversation I'm telling you you're going to be like man I don't

SPEAKER_01 29:26

know but were you one of those 10 people that would go to the gym like before work though like Yeah, I prefer the morning time. See, I can't do that. The reason

SPEAKER_02 29:33

why I don't like the afternoons and evenings and stuff because, like, I'm one of the person, like, the gym, like I said, when I was going, it gives me, like, energy. So I would feel good getting up, going to the gym, come back, take a shower, and go to work. Because, like, I'm the kind of person I might get sidetracked as far as, like, okay, I might say I'm going to go to the gym today when I get off work. But then something comes up by the time, you know, dinner, you know, a little tidying up, the kid's like, man, it's 7. I'm not going to no gym. And I wouldn't go. So I know, like, if I can get myself up and go in the morning, I knock it out, I'm done.

SPEAKER_00 30:07

Right.

SPEAKER_02 30:08

But I had, like, friends, you know, associates that I worked with in the military, they loved the evening because they feel like, well, you know, I done ate today or, you know, whatever. And it was the reversal for them. Like, they felt good going in the evening. It helped them sleep. But for me, give me that early morning each time.

SPEAKER_01 30:26

First of all, I like getting up in the morning. So that's... the first part of that second part of that is if I got something to do afterwards I'm not gonna I'm not gonna I thought I leave the gym I'm usually not good for nothing else for the rest of the day so like I'm no I can't I don't see how people go in and get like a two-hour working out and then go do a 12-hour shift at work like that's crazy that's insane to me I mean I guess if you really that motivated to do you know you got a weight loss goal or something like that you're trying to reach and you really motivated to get get to that that could be a thing but that's just never been my thing going to the gym and working out super early in the morning like for me I would have to probably go like it'd be a 24 hour gym where I could go like late at night maybe like you know in the middle of the night 12 1 o'clock in the morning something like that but like you know going first thing in the morning 5 6 4 5 o'clock in the morning nah that's that's crazy that's insane to me but yeah I mean I might have to try this so going to the gym and working out and thinking about the thing that's aggravating me at the time and actually being in the gym working on it at the time you know that's something I'm about to try I don't know if I'll be able to focus on it enough to be able to get through the workout but I'll try that out and see how that goes and let you know I'll come back to you on that one now getting back to this we just was talking about the money thing this was another one I saw about money so this This one says her money is her money. My money is her money. That's how a real man moves. What do you think about that statement?

SPEAKER_02 32:11

No.

SPEAKER_01 32:12

No? No. You don't agree with that one

SPEAKER_02 32:15

either? No. I'm going to tell you what I think. I think this is how I look at it.

SPEAKER_00 32:19

Okay.

SPEAKER_02 32:22

My money is my money. Your money is your money. Okay. And then we have our money.

SPEAKER_01 32:28

okay

SPEAKER_02 32:30

did I lose you

SPEAKER_01 32:31

a

SPEAKER_02 32:31

little bit okay so what I'm saying okay so my money like basically I have my account you have your account and then we can have a joint account or however you want to go about it as far as like ours

SPEAKER_00 32:40

okay

SPEAKER_02 32:41

you know that we both put into and it's like you were talking about earlier okay if something comes up or whatever the case may be then we have the ours so it's not just like you're giving me or I'm giving you or let's say you put $8,000 into this and now I'm down bad or in between jobs or sick or whatever and I got to go dip into this money that only you put in. You know what I mean? It's like, it's an effort thing.

SPEAKER_01 33:08

But see, that's why I don't agree with joint accounts for one because joint accounts are not always fair and balanced in my personal opinion and personal experience. Most of the time, joint accounts are not. I've only had a joint account one time and it was not a fair and balanced situation. I was usually the one putting more money into the account than the other but the other person was taking out more money from the account and that's

SPEAKER_02 33:33

why I said what I said see I have my account you have your account and then we have ours as far as like it's kind of like a goal like and that's a part of like a relationship marriages or whatever you have to communicate you have to act so we say okay we each gonna put a hundred bucks per paycheck into our joint and we do that and we stick on that then that's how you can be sure you see what I'm saying like

SPEAKER_01 33:57

my thing is you can go into it with that thought process but what happens when y'all are putting that same hundred dollars in and then like you said this is for bills and it comes times to pay the bills and the other partner has pulled out money from that account so now you have to go back and replace that money that they done put out of the account

SPEAKER_02 34:18

that's like a disloyal partner you know it shouldn't be like that because it should be like to me how I do it how we do it is like the ours is just their from that you know like emergencies or whatever or you might say you know what we ain't done nothing in a while like nothing like that or with the kids you know we can go into that the bills don't even get messed with from that you see what I'm saying so it's just like that's how I look at it I don't feel like no person and I'm not going to be biased and say oh men like the statement oh you shouldn't give the men all the money or whatever women we can be that way too we can be some little leeches and money hungry too I feel like in a relationship this is just my opinion so don't come for me in the comments now

SPEAKER_00 35:04

that

SPEAKER_02 35:05

it shouldn't be that way it should be you know equally like okay nobody should be given more like I don't have no rights to your money just because you're my man you know what I mean like some people some women do feel that way they do feel that

SPEAKER_01 35:16

way I've dated women who have said hey I'm gonna just run your pockets if I need something and you got it in there I'm gonna just run your pockets me

SPEAKER_02 35:22

personally I don't feel like that's right and that's just my opinion so I say that to say this it's the same way I don't feel like my money is your money

SPEAKER_01 35:32

so I can't run your pocket no yeah

SPEAKER_02 35:35

and I'm not gonna be biased you know and be like oh I'm gonna run your pockets but you ain't running mine either way I'm not running your pockets you're not fair enough

SPEAKER_01 35:43

I can respect that as long as it's equally balanced and they know yeah I can run yours all day but you better not touch mine yeah like and you know so yeah okay well but you know like I said overall statement of you know that make that being the key to being a real man you don't agree with that for sure or how a real man moves you definitely don't agree with her money being her money and his money being her money being the overall statement of a real man at all is what you were basically getting down to and we both can agree that that's not a solid statement that doesn't make you a real man if you allow your woman to make you feel like all money should be her money basically is what that overall statement is saying is that all money should be her money. So, yeah, that's definitely an interesting one. I think a lot of people are probably going to probably chime in on that one, hopefully. You know, let us know what y'all thoughts are. Give us y'all opinions on that. Y'all feel like in y'all relationships it's equally balanced or y'all feel like, hey, it's all one-sided. It's either I'm taking all the money and I'm doing my thing or he getting, you know, how y'all balancing this thing out in y'all relationships. Let us know. Y'all hit us up on the Feed Watchers Facebook page Leave something in the comments for us. All right, Renita, go ahead and give us the next one.

SPEAKER_02 37:02

Okay, my next one. You glow differently when you have a good man, and I'm going to throw this in here, or a woman taking care of you. Because I've got to represent for the men, too. I can't just be all. Yeah,

SPEAKER_01 37:13

of course. Yeah. Oh, yeah. As far as for the women's side of that, yes, you do, I guess, glow. I don't know what that means for a man to glow.

SPEAKER_02 37:27

Men can glow.

SPEAKER_01 37:27

Yes, men can glow. Men can glow. I don't think no man need to be running around here glowing.

SPEAKER_02 37:34

Yes, men can glow. Why can't a man be like their skin be, you know, good and they be smiling from ear

SPEAKER_01 37:41

to ear? The only glow I know is soul glow for me.

SPEAKER_02 37:43

No, no. Men can glow. Men can glow. When you have that right lady in your life, you'll be glowing. You'll be glowing. I don't even know you'll be glowing. How? Like, what is it? You smiling. You know, you got your fresh, you have your little fresh line up, haircut, you know.

SPEAKER_01 37:56

Oh, I only get cleaned up and I got a good one.

SPEAKER_02 38:00

You know, like women, we love for our men to look good, you know, and be, you know, where we're free, you're glowing. I'm going to tell you right now,

SPEAKER_01 38:07

the one thing about me, I'm the same person in the relationship as I am out of it. So if I don't feel like, if I feel like walking around with a nappy head during the relationship, hey, I came into this this way, you're going to take me as this one. I'm in this relationship with you. I ain't getting all cleaned up just to impress you. Hey, I done won. You the prize. I done won the prize now. I don't have to do no impressing no more I don't have to keep that whole status of oh yeah I gotta look good and always be looking all fresh and dapper nah you here now so I'm good nah I can be me this is the real me this is what you get so yeah like I don't know about that one now the glow for do you feel like as a woman I guess that y'all have a glow when y'all get a good man

SPEAKER_02 38:57

yeah Yes, yes, yes.

SPEAKER_01 38:59

It's definitely a glow. Yes. Okay. All right. It's just a feeling? Is it just like a...

SPEAKER_02 39:05

It's a feeling, you know. It's kind of like a sense in a way because, you know, women, we worry a lot anyway, and we're very emotional. Yeah. So it's like you could tell like when a woman is not like... The first thing, and y'all probably going to laugh, but I'm going to be real. You know, when you see a woman that's like... always in like a ill mood or like you know face always like you like man she ain't got no man like she's she missing somebody in her life like you can tell

SPEAKER_01 39:36

or something else that I won't say yeah but you get what I'm saying you can tell when like a woman is yeah you know like when I was growing up

SPEAKER_02 39:43

he was like oh he got hers from smiling grinning from ear to ear like you you are jippery you know but it's like

SPEAKER_01 39:49

that's the old folks used to say somebody got her nose wide

SPEAKER_02 39:51

open exactly you can tell and it's the same way for men

SPEAKER_01 39:55

yeah yeah we definitely get that that nose wide open as soon as we start start talking to a female and smiling a little bit too much that's what the first thing someone to say oh so who got your nose wide open running around here it ain't that serious I mean yeah if you got a good person around you you definitely it definitely gives you a different feeling you definitely get a sense of just like happy you happy a lot I will say you're a lot happier and you have a lot more things that you feel like you enjoy about life in general when you have a good person in your life so yeah I feel like you know that partially is true but I don't feel like overall as like you know on a day to day it's like because some days you know you're not going to be happy all the time so you're going to have some bad days there so that glow ain't going to always be there but you know sometimes yeah I feel like yeah it's a little bit of a like I said I used the word glow loosely when I'm talking about us as men but you know that's more for the women side of things but yeah we definitely are a lot happier more jovial I'll say in a way when we get a good person in our lives so yeah I'll go with that we'll take that I'm gonna go to this next one and it says I'm pissed my sister said my sister said her baby daddy got jumped by two people but I know I paid for three oh Renee What you think? You paid for three people to beat up your baby daddy. What's going on? Only two people showed up. That's

SPEAKER_02 41:36

funny. It's real funny. I wouldn't do that. I would just beat him up myself. God damn it. God damn it. I'm going to try. Correction, baby. Correction, baby. I'm going to try.

SPEAKER_01 41:50

Renita's a thug. God. She said I wouldn't even need the three people because I'm going to just do it my damn self.

SPEAKER_02 41:56

Yes,

SPEAKER_01 41:56

yes. Okay, say you did not want to catch charges and you decided you was going to hire these people to do it. And you paid for three people, but only two of them show up. You going to feel cheated and be like, hey, I need some money back?

UNKNOWN 42:13

Okay.

SPEAKER_01 42:14

She can't think past that because she knows all she think about is I'm just going to fuck them up myself. I don't care. I don't

SPEAKER_02 42:21

need them three

SPEAKER_01 42:21

people. Exactly. I'm going to feel cheated because first of all, I'm not putting my hands on them. See,

SPEAKER_02 42:25

that's how men is. Most men ain't going to put their hand on a

SPEAKER_01 42:28

woman. On a woman? No, no, no. Yeah, I'm going to have to pay for it. If we talking about a female situation, I done got into it with female. Yeah, I got to pay some females for that anyway. Hey, yo, I'm going to need you to go take care of that. But I got cousins anyway, so I don't have to pay nobody necessarily. But if I did have to pay for it. somebody if you know no incriminating evidence here if I was to procure the services of somebody for taking care of an action of how do I say this right where's my boy Jeff when I need him if I was to get somebody to take care of a situation for me and I paid three people to take care of that situation for me and only two of them were at the time doing it and evolved in the situation. I'm going to feel a little way because I'm going to be like, hey, I paid for three. Where's the third person at? What's going on here? Like, I need my money back or something. I need a little bit of something back because everybody wasn't there. Like, what's going on here? Or I'm going to just pay Renita to do it for me. So she, you know, thug it out and I'll just call Renita. And I'll just say, hey, Renita, I need you to take care of something for me. So she'll just take that fight head on. Jesus Christ. Give

SPEAKER_00 43:45

me your next one. Oh,

SPEAKER_02 43:51

God. So outside this, stay single if you love hard. People don't value that kind of love no more.

SPEAKER_01 43:59

That's true. That's very true. I feel like people who put their whole heart into a situation very early on, there's some people that still believe in love at first sight. I think that's kind of a tricky one to beat. I can't tell nobody how to feel, and I just tell you to proceed with caution if you think like that, because I feel like love at first sight, that's very one-sided nowadays, and you can be all in love with this person to see this person just be like oh that's the one and that person just looking at you like I'm still trying to figure that out I don't know just yet so yeah yeah people just ain't built like that no more to where you can put your feelings out there 100% right up front in the very beginning you kind of got to let things take their course take you know time and let things build because if not you'll mess around and get your feelings hurt real quick how you feel about that you think that you know people can still you know you believe in that love at first sight stuff and that people can still put their heart wear their heart on their sleeves so to speak

SPEAKER_02 45:13

I mean I don't believe in love at first sight I think it's more like lust at first sight but I don't believe

SPEAKER_01 45:19

in love at first sight you've heard stories of people who saw people and just been like I knew from the moment I saw her I was gonna marry her I

SPEAKER_02 45:28

hear that but me personally I don't believe in that and That's my opinion That's my opinion Fair enough But what I do believe in I do believe that There are still You know Good people That you can fall in love with You know like

SPEAKER_01 45:44

Some

SPEAKER_02 45:45

Yeah some That's why I said That you can So I do believe that Okay Somewhere There's a person for you You know like That you can Love Open up And give yourself to I do believe in that I don't believe that Everyone is

SPEAKER_01 46:00

But do you think You need to take your time or do you just think whenever it happens, it happens?

SPEAKER_02 46:05

I feel like... you don't need to take your time. You know, you can't really put a time on love because I might say I fall in love in a week. Another person might say they fell in love at first sight, but I don't agree with the at first sight. Like I can't see somebody like and say, Oh, I'm in love with him. I want to marry him. You know, like not that. No,

SPEAKER_01 46:26

not for my

SPEAKER_02 46:29

opinion.

UNKNOWN 46:33

Okay.

SPEAKER_01 46:33

Oh, God. Well, I mean, hey, it's for different people. Yeah. Different strokes for different folks, I guess. But I don't know. I feel like love at first sight still exists. I believe that there's still love out there for people, you know, and they find that person and they just look at that person and just know that that person is that one for them. So, yeah, I still believe in love at first sight for sure.

UNKNOWN 47:03

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 47:03

So let's go to the hot take of the week. This is an interesting one. It's a story again. You know, story time. Yeah, it's a good old story time. So let's get into the story this week for the hot take. So this one says, so my best friend's wife told him that he can no longer talk to me because when she called him on FaceTime, he was sitting on the sink while I was in the bathtub. Mind you, I've been friends with him with this man for 10 years we've messed around a few times but that was before her I kept a rag over myself the entire time he was in the bathroom with me I just think that's insecure and of her to come between our friendship I've done I haven't done anything to disrespect that woman for her to make him end our friendship my best friend and I have always had our bathroom talks way before she came along to expect us to change something would have been doing we We've been doing is insane She needs to understand that I knew him Before her he even turned The camera towards me so she Knew it was all innocent And the girl completely snapped for no Reason Renita Who's in the wrong here The girl or the boyfriend

SPEAKER_02 48:24

I mean I feel like They both are in a way because The boyfriend I'm pretty sure he told His girlfriend you know that he had dealings have been intimate with this young lady so you know she's not wrong in reacting that way if she's and I wouldn't call it insecure it's just I'm the kind of person like you can't be friends like we talked about I don't think you can be friends with somebody you slept with that's just me I mean for some people it works but me personally I don't I just I don't feel like that's a thing you know so that's probably all cause like me me as a woman unless you if I even think my man or even wants to know or even it would just it's gonna I'm gonna go off you know so it's like because I know you already you know like you can't undo that right like you can't undo sleeping with somebody

SPEAKER_01 49:18

so put yourself in the I guess girlfriend shoes your man is at his female friend's house and he FaceTime you he in the bathroom and she's in the tub and he's showing you she in the tub and we just sitting here and I'm just sitting over here minding my business fully closed and I'm just talking to her we just having a conversation and I say hey I'm gonna hit you right back we're gonna finish up this conversation I'm gonna hit you right back when I get ready to leave here how would you

SPEAKER_02 49:42

feel you know you just stay there y'all together now that's your priority so we ain't you don't gotta hit me up later we good there's gonna be some more bleep bleeps behind that not

SPEAKER_01 49:59

the bleep bleeps oh man I this is a tough one for me first of all dude I'm gonna just say no matter what you told your wife beforehand about this young lady there was never any point in time where you should have taken that camera and turned it on and pointed it at that young lady in a bathtub naked and say this is all just innocent and we just chilling just having a conversation it was all gonna go bad from there from that point on when you turn that camera on it was all going bad but I mean even hearing the conversation even if he was trying to have that conversation over the phone it was gonna go bad either way just the way it sounds doesn't even sound good but yeah for her to see it and then for this young lady to sit there and say well the wife is wrong because she's trying and she's insecure and She's trying to take my friend from me and all of this. That's silly. Stop it. You know doggone well what you... You antagonizing this woman. You trying to at least antagonize this woman and make her feel silly because... If you was in that wife's position as the girl, as the friend, it was in that wife's position, I'm pretty sure she wouldn't be okay with her man sitting up in that doggone bathroom. She's not going to be cool with that. So, I mean, why are we going to sit here and get mad at this woman and say, oh, she trying to ruin our friendship. All this been happening since way before she been around and all that stuff supposed to go out the window once y'all become married. Once we became a married man, all of that whatever y'all was doing all of that was supposed to go out the window y'all wasn't supposed to be doing no stuff like that now if y'all want to sit around and have lunch or have coffee or whatever in the morning and talk about work and kids and all of that type stuff that's cool but you in a bathroom with her while she's in the tub naked like that's totally different and that's crossing all kinds of boundaries as a husband as a man in a relationship period that you shouldn't be crossing so I don't yeah I'm disagreeing with the woman I'm not taking your side on this I don't think this woman was being insecure I think she had every right to ask you ask for you to be removed at least she wasn't like Renita said and told him hey you can stay right there the wife was at least telling him hey I don't mind us I'm okay you did that that wasn't cool but you just don't need to ever do that again don't deal with her no more you can't be around her no more she's disrespect in our marriage she giving him chances but you know he said he would just stay there he just go ahead and pack his stuff and call him move in with the girl at least the wife like I said was a little bit like hey this is my husband I'm gonna stick it out and he just made a mistake but I mean yeah the wife like I said she gave him a chance and he is the balls in your court at this point homie you got to know is your wife more important to you than your best friend I would hope your wife is more important to you than your best friend especially just a best free girlfriend who you used to sleep with from time to time like obviously that didn't go nowhere not sure if it was intended to or if it's a situation ship or what it was but I mean clearly didn't go nowhere because you married somebody else so I mean yeah there's no reason to hold on to that friendship any further than what you have right now. I mean, and you got a wife that's sitting here giving you a chance, man. You better take this chance to go ahead and get everything straight at home and leave that girl alone because that girl's being messy as hell right now, just being honest, bro. And so, like I said, I'm definitely not going to say it should go to the extreme or need to sit and kick him out, but definitely do need to think really carefully about his next move and, you know, really not be putting his priority of his wife making her less of a priority than his female best friend I definitely don't agree that he should definitely make this woman his priority as his best friend and prioritizing that friendship definitely put in the comments and let us know what y'all think for this one for sure give us y'all advice what y'all think how y'all feel about this one would y'all be okay with y'all man sitting around in the bathroom with a woman who's in the tub and they just so-called just having a conversation. Y'all going for that? Let us know. Hit us in the comments. Let us know how y'all feel about this one. Renita, this was a good one this week. How you feeling? You got anything before we head out of here?

SPEAKER_02 55:09

No, no, no. I just want to shout out Digital Base Media Group.

SPEAKER_01 55:13

Thank you. Thank you. Yep. Definitely want a shout out. the Embrace the Great podcast and the His and Hers podcast, Perspective podcast. Two great shows y'all need to go and listen to. Check them out when you get a chance. Definitely going really good for those two shows. Definitely want to shout them out because they're doing big things over there. All right, y'all. This has been fun. We're going to check in with y'all with some more messiness next time. And we'll get back at y'all. This has been the Feed Watchers. We out.