“Unfiltered Vibes: R. Kelly, Apple Spying, and Raw Relationship Truths

Eric and special guest host Niana Renee hold nothing back as they tackle taboo topics, tech surveillance, and the hard truths of love and lust.

Transcript

SPEAKER_00 0:07

Yo yo yo, what's up? Welcome back to the Feed Watchers podcast. It's your boy Eric checking back in with y'all this week. Got a special co-host in with me this week. Got my girl Nayana Renee back in the studio with me. What's up, Nayana?

SPEAKER_05 0:21

Hey. Hey, everybody. I'm happy to be here.

SPEAKER_00 0:26

Yeah, I'm glad to have you here. Thank you for coming in and joining on with the show today. No problem. Have a little bit of fun. Jump back in. Yeah. Do a little, you know, it was very interesting the last time he was here. Okay.

SPEAKER_05 0:37

Yeah, and see, this is different because I was a guest last time. So now, you know.

SPEAKER_00 0:42

Yeah, we're gonna let you do a little bit more this time. We're gonna put you to work this time. You got some topics you're gonna bring this time. Okay. We're gonna put you to work a little bit this time. And already, keep it, keep it good. Interesting. Keep it interesting, yes. Yes, all right. Bring me flavor.

SPEAKER_05 0:57

You know, kick it up a little nice. I'm gonna be gentle. I'm gonna be gentle.

SPEAKER_00 1:02

I don't nothing about you. It's gentle right now.

SPEAKER_05 1:05

My body is gentle. Like, I I have the softest skin. Like, I I am so obsessed with my skin. Um, you know, because I feel so soft, like buttery soft.

SPEAKER_01 1:15

Oh, okay.

SPEAKER_05 1:16

Like Charmans.

SPEAKER_00 1:17

Charmin. Don't squeeze the Charming. I remember that phrase.

SPEAKER_05 1:25

Oh, yeah. I can't really say Charming because I don't want nobody wiping their ass with me. But if I was into that type of stuff, yeah. If I was into that, there are some people that are into that kind of thing now.

SPEAKER_00 1:34

You know that, right?

SPEAKER_05 1:36

I I know because I don't know what my algorithm, it just kind of jacked up. But I ran into a lady fucking her dog.

SPEAKER_00 1:43

Like why?

SPEAKER_05 1:44

I don't know. And I'm like, how did I get here?

SPEAKER_00 1:47

On your timeline?

SPEAKER_05 1:48

Yes.

SPEAKER_00 1:49

Oh, okay.

SPEAKER_05 1:50

Yeah, that's it's some white people shit.

SPEAKER_00 1:52

Yeah, clearly. I don't think I hope that was some white people shit. Yeah, it was nowadays because you never know these days, people be in anything, so yeah, horses.

SPEAKER_05 2:02

I feel like somebody needs to come take her dog.

SPEAKER_00 2:05

Somebody will. Yeah, that's definitely a beach.

SPEAKER_05 2:09

Anybody out there who are having intercourse with a dog, please just get toys. I I I give y'all a list of them where y'all can go. You got the spikes.com.

SPEAKER_04 2:19

You can get them both.

SPEAKER_00 2:21

We ain't plugging people on pay.

SPEAKER_02 2:24

Okay, yeah, yeah. We can't tell them.

SPEAKER_00 2:26

We are not endorsing nobody that don't pay us on this show. Okay, yeah. Okay, show you. Send us a check. Yeah. Send us a check. Give us a check. She'll give you the names. She can send us a check and you can get the names.

SPEAKER_05 2:38

I'm super excited to be here.

SPEAKER_00 2:40

I appreciate you coming, really. I do. All right, we're gonna jump into it with the vibe check question of the day, right quick. Um, this is a good one. I saw on my timeline. It says if R. Kelly got out of prison today, honestly, how many of y'all going to his concert? Are you going to R. Kelly concert if he got out today?

SPEAKER_05 2:58

I mean, honestly, I would. Because I know how to separate Robert from R. Kelly. You know, and although R. Kelly is a talent, you know, to me, he he he's a talent person, talented person. And you can't take away from the talent. Nah. As fucked up as he is uh in the decision and choices that he allegedly. But I mean, I feel like he did it. He he got in his song. Yeah, did you ever hear the song Vibe?

SPEAKER_00 3:28

I mean, a lot of his songs are telling.

SPEAKER_05 3:31

But yeah, with Vibe itself, it was talking about really hitting up this lady who got it, who got her body banging. And he even said, even little Aliyah got it. Why are you looking at somebody so young and and seeing them in that way? You know what I mean? So at the end of the day, it's very, very telling.

SPEAKER_02 3:47

Yeah.

SPEAKER_05 3:48

Um, and and men like that groom young girls at a young age, and it usually ones with daddy issues, you know, that end up coming um victim to that type of circumstances. That's very true. You know what I'm saying? That's very true. Um, and thinking it's cool.

SPEAKER_00 4:05

Um But that's becomes a thing.

SPEAKER_05 4:07

But that was his personal right.

SPEAKER_00 4:09

Can't that's what I was about to say. Can you separate the art from the artist?

SPEAKER_05 4:12

I most definitely can. I most definitely can.

SPEAKER_00 4:15

Yeah, because I mean he may have made great music. He made great music.

SPEAKER_05 4:19

And so I would I would support the concert for the simple fact because we don't have as many of our greats um 90 era. Oh, yeah, RB, yeah. No, we're gonna be able to do it. R B people actually touring and stuff now, you know, Mary out there, but I know she's doing it because her husband a dickhead. Um and she sus just looking like she tired, you know. But around the time when they was actually doing something back then, I actually um was too young to actually go to those concerts. Right. But now I'm able to really come to those concerts. Right. Um, I would love to see, you know, the ones that still live in from that area. Oh, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 5:00

Like I said, that they don't make that kind of music anymore. And the artists that are out today, yeah, those concerts are big sellers. Of course, Chris Brown's right now, he's on tour doing his thing and he's shutting everything down.

SPEAKER_05 5:11

But he did it with R. Kelly. Like I love that remix.

SPEAKER_00 5:13

But all of those guys learn, Usher, Chris Brown, they learn that from R. Kelly. So, I mean, you can't take away from R. Kelly and what he did as music-wise. Um, as a person, hey, cool. But you know, I mean, musically, he's a great he's a genius, musically.

SPEAKER_05 5:30

Yeah, I most definitely feel like I would go um just because you gotta think how many things we actually support that don't be for us people.

SPEAKER_03 5:40

Exactly.

SPEAKER_05 5:41

That we don't even know. If if things didn't come out, and the thing is we have a lot of different things that come out late. You know what I mean? And it's like our emotions have to be changed because we was vibing before we knew any of this, we was vibing to it. So then it's like now that you see something happen, it's like it's changing your perspective. I can't say, Oh, I don't like that song. Right. Like ever since then, I never not still played it.

SPEAKER_00 6:08

You know, come on, everybody's still on the channel.

SPEAKER_05 6:10

Kitchen was still on my thing. In the kitchen, brother butter rules, you know what I'm saying? Yeah, you still gonna play that, you know, that beast side of that table. You trying to smack them cheeks.

SPEAKER_00 6:20

Yeah, you can't, you can't, come on, man.

SPEAKER_05 6:22

Be the bedroom genie, you know.

SPEAKER_00 6:23

Exactly. You in the bedroom, you're putting on tomorrow Kelly. Yeah, sorry, that's what gets a big thing.

SPEAKER_05 6:27

You're not gonna think about, you know, oh, it's about a little kid.

SPEAKER_00 6:31

You're gonna think about the person exactly.

SPEAKER_05 6:34

You're gonna think about um the person that you're actually in the room with.

SPEAKER_00 6:38

So that stuff ain't crossing. And even like even like you said, if you're in the car and you just vibing out and you just in that type of mood and that song comes on the radio, you're not gonna skip that song at time.

SPEAKER_05 6:47

But most definitely not taking nothing for the victims because I'm a survivor myself. So I would never you know take away from that um from that at all. But as an artist, I would most definitely go to support the artistry because I enjoy the music. Okay, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 7:04

So I appreciate I can agree with you.

SPEAKER_05 7:07

I wouldn't see myself going to you know his trials and support him and holding up free art. If I'm not doing that shit, yeah, exactly. You see what I'm saying? Yeah, that's out of the siege is on for that. Exactly. Listening to the music, you know, I might not buy no merchandise, but I'm gonna go buy a ticket. You know, these things.

SPEAKER_00 7:26

Hey, this thing just says if he got out of prison, how many of y'all going to the concert? Nobody said nothing about what the concert was for. It could be a concert to support. To give back, give back to the victims of stuff like that. Who knows?

SPEAKER_05 7:37

But you know, they that's okay, because you know, there somebody will find an issue with that as well. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Truthfully, yeah. We in the era where where you can't you have to police everything. Yeah. What you say, what you do. Oh, for sure. Everybody wants an explanation.

SPEAKER_00 7:55

You know, this Jimmy Kimmel just learned that lesson the hard way. Messing with the president. Keep on. Oh wow.

SPEAKER_05 8:05

That tell you how much I stay in tune because I don't.

SPEAKER_00 8:07

Oh, you didn't hear about that? Jimmy Kimmel said.

SPEAKER_05 8:09

I'm trying to think who the hell I know who Jimmy Kimmel is. Like, I'm I'm like I'm like Kiki Palmer. Um, I have never seen this man in my life. I wouldn't know who this man is if he approached me today.

SPEAKER_00 8:20

He's a late night uh host. Uh he has the late show, one of the late shows that comes on and uh he makes it on light TV. Yeah.

SPEAKER_05 8:27

Okay, that explains it. I don't watch nothing. No. All I watch is Special Victims Units.

SPEAKER_00 8:32

Same here. I don't do regular TV either, but I know he is a host, but yeah, he got some trouble for some comments he made about the uh guy that got killed um recently and uh the president and like his comments and got him pulled off the air for a couple of days. Wow. So yeah, don't be messing with the president right now.

SPEAKER_05 8:49

He he don't want He messed with everybody, but don't, you know, that's that the pop he's the president crazy word.

SPEAKER_00 9:00

All right, so we're gonna go into the uh next one I saw this week. Um it says Apple said we a little too grown to be sending news. So apparently Apple has this new feature in the new iOS OS 26 update where you cannot FaceTime or send new pictures. Um if you try to send a do a FaceTime and you have any nudity in that FaceTime, it will send you a message telling you that there's explicit content in this feed, and it'll either stop the feed or it'll basically kind of block it some kind of way. So um I thought that was interesting because I was like, um that would mean somebody's watching my phone to know when I'm sending new pictures or sending doing a new doing something with nudity in the FaceTime to know this, I would assume. But they're claiming Apple is claiming that they do not watch this. It's just settings that they have set up in the phone themselves that can detect these things. Um, how do you feel about that now?

SPEAKER_05 10:06

I feel like if I want to send my man some titties and and a pussy pig, I'm I have every right to want to do that.

SPEAKER_00 10:11

Right. And most women are gonna agree with that. Most men are gonna definitely agree with that.

SPEAKER_05 10:17

No, I just feel like at the end of the day, if you're sending something of that nature, then you're doing it for a purpose. Right. And you know what you're doing. We're now I will respect it. Now, what I would say I would like it to be if it was on underage users. I can get that. You know what I mean? Because I feel like that would keep a lot of child pornography from getting out, and it would keep a lot of underage girls from exposing themselves too soon when they don't even realize what they're doing and having to live with that memory forever. So I feel like stay out of grown folks' business, right? But being them kids, them teenagers who have all these devices, because that's who you really advertising to, let's be honest.

SPEAKER_00 11:08

Yeah, oh, for sure.

SPEAKER_05 11:09

I mean, I just kind of upgraded my phone and I think I got uh 12 now. And when the 17 came out, you know, I still buy it I still got me uh, you know, I still got my old Android in the car and it still works. It's a S7 edge.

unknown 11:26

Damn.

SPEAKER_05 11:26

Yeah, so I would've still had my flip phone because you know them flip phones back in the day, them things where you could drop them in water, drop them off a building, and them things it'll work, you know, the screen ain't never broke.

SPEAKER_03 11:40

Right about that. The forward tough, right?

SPEAKER_05 11:44

Exactly. So I feel like they engaging with these upgrades and stuff for kids, so just make sure you're making the things for kids, but stay out of grown folks' business.

SPEAKER_00 11:54

Yeah, because this was a uh married woman who posted this, and she said, you know, this was a FaceTime between her and her husband, and she was like, Why how y'all policing what I send to my husband? Like, that is crazy.

SPEAKER_05 12:04

And that lets you know that they watching. They have to be. Yeah, I don't agree that they're not gonna be able to do that. They always watching everything that you do. That's the thing.

SPEAKER_00 12:12

Yeah, I think that's some lies and trickery they're trying to hide behind saying they're not watching it. It's the phone itself picking up on that. Nah, I don't believe that.

SPEAKER_05 12:19

They be watching, um, because it's if they I feel like they're watching, and I feel like that, and maybe it's just me being a conspiracy theorist, but I really feel like they part of the black web, honestly. Because somebody keeping it running. Oh, yeah, for sure. Ain't that much encrypting all this new era. Now, if you would have told me this was going on in the 90s, yeah. Because we didn't have you know, but now we have a lot of come on, yeah. I mean, and that's they watching, they listening. Cause you could say, hey Siri, hey Alexa, they always, you know, exactly why they stay on go. Right, exactly. The kids don't listen that damn much.

SPEAKER_00 12:59

Not at all. Not at all. But I mean, that's a serious invasion of privacy, if you ask me personally, from Apple's part. I don't think, you know, I feel like that's people make that Samsung versus Apple debate all the time. I don't feel like Samsung would travel that road ever in life.

SPEAKER_05 13:16

They wouldn't even go down that path because they know it's or maybe they have, and you know, the phone is just so old that you don't really pick it up. There's new Samsung phones.

SPEAKER_00 13:26

I don't know. I don't know why you still have the oldest one in existence, but there are new Samsung phones.

SPEAKER_05 13:32

And look, it still works. I think I had a fine in 20 in 2021. I I came across a lot of things. Look, I came across I was on something back then. Um look, listen, I I was able to create an ebook from something that I had put in an idea memo from 2021.

SPEAKER_03 13:50

Wow.

SPEAKER_05 13:51

And now that I got Chat GPT, I ended up putting that idea in there and she created it for me.

SPEAKER_00 13:57

That's crazy.

SPEAKER_05 13:57

So I'm like, all these years I done been sitting on this idea because I didn't really have the patience to do it. And now I just woke up and it's done. Like I'm right. It made me like, dang. So yeah.

SPEAKER_00 14:09

Maybe want to go dig up one of my old phones. If I can have access to one of my old phones, I shudder to think what I find in there.

SPEAKER_05 14:16

I listen to a lot of things. It it was, yeah. Okay. It's good to go back in the archives. It's kind of like a time council. Yeah, you're right. Yeah, but back to the topic, yeah. Most definitely feel like it should be for kids. It should be 18 and you know, under that should be something parents sets up more so thanks. In the safety settings, right? Right. Okay, I gotta agree with that.

SPEAKER_00 14:39

Agree with that, okay.

SPEAKER_05 14:40

Or if um you send it and protect against um, what is that, revenge porn? Oh, yeah. You know, like you, yeah, if you send it to somebody and you don't want them to send it to nobody else, right? It's blocked, like you can't send it as you're not the original recipient. You know what I mean? I got you.

SPEAKER_00 14:57

I really feel yes, I can agree with that now for sure.

SPEAKER_05 15:00

Yeah, yeah. We might need to create that. That might that'll we'll make some money here.

SPEAKER_00 15:04

Have to come up with the app. There you go.

SPEAKER_05 15:06

Hey, I'm down blocked from you know, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 15:09

I'm down with that one. For real, yeah.

SPEAKER_05 15:11

I'll be coming up with something like this.

SPEAKER_00 15:13

I like I'm liking it. Yeah, I'd be making ideas exactly. That's a good one.

SPEAKER_05 15:18

You know, people got only fans and need to keep their money, you know what I'm saying? Right. Because people read screen record sessions or they take the pictures and they pretend, you know how many people that are stopped from catfishing people. Oh, you thinking you getting that sexy young thing, and she pull up to the house looking like Freddie Jackson.

SPEAKER_00 15:40

Freddie Jackson. Oh my god. No, but that would also protect dudes too. Cause I mean, it's not just females that dudes sometimes uh men are reckless too with it because men will send just reckless ass dick pics. Yeah, I ain't gonna lie.

SPEAKER_05 15:53

Me and my my my friend group y'all share.

SPEAKER_00 15:56

See that that will protect. Look at what he sends me.

SPEAKER_05 15:59

Are we like girls?

SPEAKER_00 16:05

See that that right there, man. This would this app will help y'all as well. We're gonna help, we're gonna develop this because we're gonna help my bros out. All right, Naya, give me something you came up with. What you see on your feed this week that was interesting.

SPEAKER_05 16:21

Um, so this one is more so on a deeper level. It says, I almost lost my mind trying to get someone to understand how I feel. Now I am quiet.

SPEAKER_00 16:34

Okay. So how do you feel about that? Like, do you feel like you talk to people sometimes and they're not really listening?

SPEAKER_05 16:42

Um, I with me being a Gemini, my sign is in communication. You know, so it's in Mercury and I'm big on communication. That's to me, that's top tier. Right. A partner that can understand and overstand you and listen, right. Listen to understand, not listen to respond, that's that's top tier. So when you're actually communicating your feelings to someone and they don't hear you, but they hear what they want to hear and they take from it the bits and pieces that they want to argue with. It kind of makes you quiet, yeah, you know, because it makes you like, okay, see, now I I can't express to you how I feel. And I feel like it's it's a little easier with women, but I feel like the challenge is with men a lot. I feel like men tend to shut down once they feel like they're not heard or seen.

SPEAKER_00 17:43

Oh, for sure.

SPEAKER_05 17:44

You know, I feel like we could come back and bounce back a little bit, um, and we do it differently, and then later we might, you know, but men once I feel like once you done had a man who can open up and you get him to open up in that moment and you kind of shut it down, you're you're less likely to to get that moment from him again. Honestly, that's just my experience.

SPEAKER_00 18:07

Yeah, and that's that's a 100% should agree because I'm the same way. If I feel like I'm it's hard for me to open up. So if I'm really feeling you and I feel like I can open up to you and say things to you freely without having to overthink or over uh just be too over stimulated while I'm thinking about what I'm trying to say to you, and then I feel like you're disregarding my feelings about what I'm saying, like you said, picking it apart and only taking the parts that you feel is necessary to be heard, then it's gonna make me really just shut down and just be like when you asking me questions about myself or asking me things about myself, then I'll start to feel like, nah, I can't I don't even I don't even have the time to talk to you. You don't even want to listen to what I really gotta say anyway, so it's it's unimportant to me anymore. I mean, it's not important to you, so it's not important to me. It'll start making me feel like my feelings aren't valid or being heard in a relationship, so I don't really have a place for feelings in a relationship, so I'll just carry on with the relationship, but I'll just leave my feelings out of it and just kind of handle you as you basically ask you know, basically just do the basic, the bare minimum, and then you know, the feelings aside from all of that. So yeah, that I think that's and that's a lot of men I feel like they do that, they kind of get to that point where they feel like um that's uh their reality, unfortunately, in a relationship.

SPEAKER_05 19:30

I feel like communication is the biggest thing that you can really have. You know, a lot of people think of whenever they want someone, they always look at the material part. Oh yeah. But everybody miss the communication.

SPEAKER_00 19:45

Yeah. It's easy to buy things, it's easy to, you know, do things and show love, but is it easy to express love through words, communication, like you just said. For some people it is, some people not so much. And it I feel like it does have a lot to do with um upbringing, surroundings, things of that nature, stuff like that has it factors into it a lot of times. If a man grew up in a house and he didn't necessarily so see people around him showing love and communicating with each other properly, he's not gonna grow up with that mindset of knowing how to do that. So that's how he's gonna continue in his life.

SPEAKER_05 20:22

And it's funny how you said that because that brings me back to my second one. Um, so it kind of piggyback on each other. But it was one where I actually seen a lady talking about it. She said, Men don't protect your essence, they protect what they want from you. They protect, you know, they're not protecting you. Yeah, they're protecting what they want from you. So when you're thinking that they're protecting you, they're not protecting you. It's up for you as a woman to protect your own essence because the man is gonna protect what he's interested in. Right.

SPEAKER_03 20:59

Right.

SPEAKER_05 21:00

And that was a hard pill to swallow because it's a woman saying this, and she says, Uh, I I don't I don't do things for men because I know that they're not protecting me. It's for me to protect my own essence. And I'm like, well, dang, you know.

SPEAKER_00 21:15

But you'll never hear a man say that because a man will never admit that it's he will always say, Of course I protect you. Oh, yeah. Of course. In our minds, we think we're being protective of our woman. We're overprotective sometimes. But you're protecting the asset. But you're like you said, it's the asset. It's the I want this and I want this to keep going. I love this person, I love them being in my life. I love having them, their presence around me. I love what they provide for me, you know, physically, emotionally, whatever. And I want to keep that. But as far as, like you said, their essence, as you know, their well-being, their overall well-being, do you all do we do our best and our you know damnedness at all times to protect that? No, not at all. Not if we're being 100% honest.

SPEAKER_05 22:01

But see, I love the honesty. Yeah, because most men like, yeah, we pretty, you know, and it's like, okay, but then to me, that allows you to know it's my response. So it goes back to that self-esteem when you can't say, bitches, say self-esteem.

SPEAKER_00 22:18

And that's the way it comes. You have to have that. If a guy sees that in a woman where she doesn't, she has kind of like low self-esteem. That's why they take advantage of that. Because it's like, you know, you don't even see in yourself your worth, basically. So I'm gonna take advantage and get what I want out of this and get what I need from this.

SPEAKER_05 22:37

While protecting the asset while protecting the asset, and I'm gonna make you and see, that's that's one of those things where I feel like it's a it's good to be honest. It is, you know, people can't be honest. Because you gotta think it's a lot of vulnerable women out of everybody, not them strong, outspoken women.

SPEAKER_00 22:58

That's not me.

SPEAKER_05 22:59

I'm gonna give you everything up up front. You're gonna get I think we had a conversation. I gave you my whole life in what 30 minutes to hour?

SPEAKER_00 23:07

Yeah, my whole life start just but you can't do that with everybody because people will pick that apart and oh I can't.

SPEAKER_05 23:14

See, my thing is it's in my book.

SPEAKER_00 23:16

Yeah, exactly.

SPEAKER_05 23:16

You know, I feel like everything that I ever share with anybody so soon, you can read about it if you get my any of my books, if you listen to me speak, if you look, you know, sometimes I share right because I'm so transparent and I'm so comfortable in who I am. I'm gonna let you know what you get yourself into. I don't want you having this, you know, fantasy or this um persona of me and that ain't me. I'm gonna tell you, like, yeah, they ain't yeah, that ain't me. Like I think the lady, the lady that said that, she said, I'm not worrying about um learning how to suck dick good. Cause I'm okay, I'm boring. I don't, I love that about me.

SPEAKER_00 23:56

But she's honest about it.

SPEAKER_05 23:57

Exactly. And she said, I'm not about to do extra.

SPEAKER_00 24:00

And you know, I don't I don't care every dude needs that. Like, not every dude needs that.

SPEAKER_05 24:06

Oh, that's a whole nother conversation. We're gonna we're gonna go to we're gonna piggyback on that one.

SPEAKER_00 24:11

I'm telling you, that's that there women sometimes their expectations are what they feel like their expectations have to be in a relationship are not really it. You can really simplify for some men. Some men don't need all of that extras. I promise you, they don't.

SPEAKER_05 24:26

I don't know. We gotta get some collars in here. Yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 24:31

Good luck with trying to get something to actually agree to that on air.

SPEAKER_05 24:40

Maybe we need to do that's the word on the street, like Marty Mar.

SPEAKER_00 24:44

We go ask that question on the streets, yeah. Okay, like they ain't gonna be honest with that either. All right. So while we on relationships, I saw this one and um I thought about um for people who are of a certain age, I guess. It says, I'm single till you're serious. I'm too old for let's see where this goes. This is not a road trip. Um I'm I'm at the age of 41. I I don't look at relationships as just we we chilling, we hanging out, we we kicking it. That's hard to do in your 40s. I mean for me personally, I just don't I just feel like it should be more than that. I don't know why I've been married once, so maybe that has something to do with it, but it just in my 40s, I just I don't like the idea of, oh, that's just my friend, or that's just my homie, or you know, I don't like that term really. I I feel like if it's somebody I'm spilling a great deal of time with, that's somebody that's a little bit more than a friend, a little bit more than a homie, just somebody I'm kicking.

SPEAKER_05 25:48

I feel like it's a little more serious.

SPEAKER_00 25:50

I feel like it should be. I mean, that's when it was that's like I think back to like teenage years when I'm thinking like, you know, homeboy, homegirl, kick, you know, just kicking it with somebody. In your 40s, that's just sounds weird when you just introduce to somebody. Oh, that's my friend, or that's my homie.

SPEAKER_05 26:06

I'm I guess I'm different. And the reason why I say that, because I need to make sure that you can handle all of this. Because I come with a lot of personality. Gotcha. I need to make sure you're not insecure because I can't deal with nobody insecure. I I can't I want to care about you, but I don't want to have to care so much that I have to dim my light in order for me to make sure you're okay with my brightness. Right. You know what I mean? Or my outspokenness. Like you see, I this is the personality. Now, if I had an insecure person, why are you you know, talking like that on the radio, that's not you know, that's yeah, that's it. You know, so I really would like to vet that person. And I want to see you in all your seasons, all your phone, you know, all your phases. I want to see you in every place possible before I could say, Yeah, I want to be exclusive with you.

SPEAKER_00 27:01

Okay, and I get it.

SPEAKER_05 27:03

Because I can like you right now and we connect and you know, we link up, we link up because we grown and everything can be good, but then how are you when the job called you off?

SPEAKER_03 27:14

Right.

SPEAKER_05 27:14

And your check was short.

SPEAKER_03 27:16

Right.

SPEAKER_05 27:16

And I still want to hang out, you know, and and your money not always, you know, right. Yeah. Um and I still want to do something. Like, are you creative? Can you think on your feet? Can you go, you know? And that's important to know these things before I say, oh yeah, we together. Because sometimes you could tell somebody, yeah, we, you know, you my you my friend, you know, we're dating. People feel some type of way. I don't feel no type of way because I want to be able to um be a friend. Like I recently met somebody and I just let them know straight up how I am. And they told me that, yeah, somebody might feel some type of way if I see, you know, if I take you out. And I'm like, but you're saying you're not in a relationship, you know what I mean? So you have to set those boundaries. Like, if I'm not exclusively with you, you should not feel no type of way about me eating or sitting with somebody else that I'm getting to know. You know, I have no, I would say, Hey, how you doing? You know, y'all have a good evening, you know what I mean? But everybody's personality isn't like that, you know. Everybody feels like it's mine, and you know, it might be because how you just said, you not on that friend, you know, stage. If I'm spending all this time with you, like you mine.

SPEAKER_00 28:32

Exactly. You know, that's how you're gonna be able to do it.

SPEAKER_05 28:34

If I'm investing in you every day, I'm coming to the house, we going out every day, we're on the phone all day. I'm telling you, you know, you're doing all these relationships in the morning, you know. And I and I can get that. Yeah, I can understand, but it comes with back what we were speaking on, communicating, yeah, and expressing to each other what it is that we intentionally want. You have to be intentional.

SPEAKER_01 28:59

Oh, for sure.

SPEAKER_05 28:59

I'm 40 now, and I'm just like, I want to be intentional in everything that I do. I don't want to settle, you know what I mean? I don't want to settle because you're cute, yeah, exactly.

SPEAKER_03 29:08

We have a good time, right?

SPEAKER_05 29:10

I can call you, you know, just because you are you're reliable, yeah, you you resourceful, you know, you are a good asset. Like, even like men protect the asset, shoot. I'm interested in the asset that you bring, you know, and you allowing me to be who I am, I feel comfortable, but can it withstand the time enough for us to develop a relationship that is long lasting so that you can know that you get in one because I don't want to mess up a good thing in you because I got in a relationship prematurely because I didn't want to hurt your feelings.

SPEAKER_00 29:44

No, that's respectable because most women would just say, I'm hey, we in the here, we in the now, uh I'm enjoying this time, I'm enjoying this. What are we doing?

SPEAKER_05 29:53

Talking to Eric and we together, but then I'm texting Steve when Eric goes to the bathroom. See, that's where. I'm telling Eric, nah, you can't have this coochie now, but see shit. I can't wait to put this on your face, daddy.

SPEAKER_00 30:07

Exactly. Yep. See, that's that's where the problem comes in, right there.

SPEAKER_05 30:11

And see, that's why I like to be friends as I love being grown though. I love the I love the ability where we at it, being grown and just being honest.

SPEAKER_00 30:21

But see, that's the that's where I was gonna come back to. It's gotta be honest. It's gotta be that honest communication. If we friends, we just friends. Right. You seeing other people, I'm seeing other people. We make that known.

SPEAKER_05 30:30

And when we see each other, we just seeing each other.

SPEAKER_00 30:33

Exactly. But if we together, we're together. That don't mean we're we friends when we sometimes out and we want to say we friends, and then other times when we alone together, we together. Like, no. Nah, we exclusive. We gotta make this one or the other. Now it can't be both sides.

SPEAKER_05 30:50

And I get that. And that comes from you being intentional. When you meet a woman, you need to let her know, like, look, this is I'm 41. I done been married before. I would like to get married again one day, and I'm actually dating intentionally to find my wife.

SPEAKER_03 31:06

Right.

SPEAKER_05 31:08

If you don't feel like you're dating right now, you're in a place of dating to get married eventually, then I would just, you know, that person should give you that go-ahead and saying, hey, well, you know, I respect you, I respect that, but that's not where I'm at. Exactly because I would hope they won't come into your life to just delete you on. That that is just, you know what I'm saying? That is just my thing. And I have done that with guys. I was like, I listened to that. I it was God was like, Yeah, I just need me a good woman. Well, I said, Well, you know what? What you looking for? Because I could find, you know, I I know he was hitting at me, but I'm like, baby, I am tired right now. I don't um I don't feel like your values and my values meet. And I I don't want to do it because you feel like, oh, I'm getting older. No. Yeah. And I'm getting younger.

SPEAKER_00 32:00

I am outside. Right. Yeah, you definitely gotta be careful with that. Cause you you it's a meant it's a mental thing. It's where you're at mentally. And I do feel like um, mentally, like you said, if you're not ready for a relationship or a real serious relationship, don't date. Don't sit there and tell people, oh, I'm interested in dating or I'm interested in getting to know people. Don't do that.

SPEAKER_05 32:22

When you just want to have sex, because if we at this grown age now, it is okay. And I'm telling every woman out there now, if a man judge you because you're a direct about your sexual preference and your and your need to be pleased, then you might need to think twice about engaging and uh getting to know that type of thing. Oh, for sure. Because if he's gonna judge you on that, don't judge his mama.

SPEAKER_00 32:47

Dang, not his mama. Yeah.

SPEAKER_05 32:49

And if she took and if she did, dig up and and judge her.

SPEAKER_00 32:52

Oh my god.

SPEAKER_05 32:53

Oh because you know, I just hate when it you know it'd be that stereo something.

SPEAKER_00 33:01

Yeah. We all know the stereotype. Women in the streets, they gotta be a man can go out there and knock down ten women in one day and he ain't no hoe.

SPEAKER_05 33:09

A woman can't only get pregnant once at a time.

SPEAKER_00 33:11

Right.

SPEAKER_05 33:12

Men can have multiple. Multiple women. Exactly. So who's the hoe?

SPEAKER_00 33:15

Yeah, exactly.

SPEAKER_01 33:17

When you put it in those terms, I'm just saying, who's the hoe?

SPEAKER_05 33:22

Because somebody fucking a man.

SPEAKER_00 33:26

Well, I mean, depends on how you look at it. God, not like that, not those. No, I'm just saying. No, because men, I would hope the men are doing the never mind. That's a whole nother, that's a whole nother topic. Uh give me your next um, give me your next one that you saw. Cause oh god, you just started something. Open a whole new can of worms.

SPEAKER_05 33:50

I know, my fam. It's okay.

SPEAKER_00 33:52

It's okay.

SPEAKER_05 33:52

Okay. Okay, and it's a good one. It goes, it kind of rolls into I'm loving how everything is kind of flowing together. Yeah. So this one says, fuck buddies definitely seem to last longer than relationships. I'm guilty of that.

SPEAKER_00 34:08

No comment. God. Ooh, I've had some.

SPEAKER_05 34:12

Yeah, I had some that last like 15 years.

SPEAKER_00 34:16

Yeah. Been there, done that. So yeah.

SPEAKER_05 34:19

But you know, but you know what? And I'm and I'm I'm gonna say this is why I feel like because you don't have to pretend with your fucking.

SPEAKER_00 34:27

You don't. That's the thing. I don't have to pretend the honest relationship you will ever have. I promise you.

SPEAKER_05 34:33

I know that I just want to hop on you. And um we eat, fuck, and do it again, and uh, we might laugh, I might be there for you, we hang out, you know, but we ultimately know where we stand.

SPEAKER_00 34:52

Yes.

SPEAKER_05 34:53

That's the most concrete understanding of where we stand. It seems like everything else gets so much complicated, like you said, where we at, where we stand. But with the fuck, but it should you just it just flow.

SPEAKER_00 35:05

Some of them now, some of them will start catching feelings now.

SPEAKER_05 35:09

Oh yeah, they do, and you put it in on, man. You just and when you get that grapefruit, oh that's okay.

SPEAKER_00 35:14

That's time COVID. I don't know nothing about the grapefruit.

SPEAKER_05 35:19

Ten out of ten recommends.

SPEAKER_00 35:21

Jesus Christ. But nah, like, but for real, they do they they do have those, you know, relationships, or I guess you can call a fuck buddy a relationship, um, that do tend to catch feelings for some reason. They they they just it's been if it's been a long ongoing years-long process, sometimes they will get to that point where they'd be like, Yeah, we've been doing this for some years. And I love you.

SPEAKER_05 35:42

And I love my fuck buddies. I tell them all the time I love you. Shout out. I was supposed to be in Orlando with one now, but shout out to you.

SPEAKER_00 35:49

Oh my god, shout out Orlando.

SPEAKER_05 35:51

Um, I love you still. You still are wow.

SPEAKER_00 35:59

Okay. Well, I mean, but you know, you but it's so easy to even with that word, like the L word is a tricky word to use.

SPEAKER_05 36:06

What's the L word?

SPEAKER_00 36:08

The L word.

SPEAKER_05 36:09

What is the L word? Say it, Eric. Use your words.

SPEAKER_00 36:14

Love is founded at what to you.

SPEAKER_05 36:17

Why is it so hard for you to say that?

SPEAKER_00 36:19

Because if you you don't say that unless you mean it. You definitely you do not say that word unless you mean it.

SPEAKER_05 36:25

Yeah, y'all ain't watching the inline between love and hate. You better not say it unless you mean it.

SPEAKER_00 36:32

Like you said, what fuck buddy? It's easy to say that to them, and it's not no feeling. Like you can have that feeling and emotion attached to them, but you know it's not like that.

SPEAKER_05 36:42

Like the but why isn't it? Because I literally, I literally love my fuck buddy. Like I know nigga, I love you. Please don't take this dick away from me. Like, I love you. You know, like no, but you need some flowers, some car candy. You can have it be like that though, for real. Like, I love you, but I don't love you enough to say I want to be exclusive with you. Exactly.

SPEAKER_00 37:05

That's easy.

SPEAKER_05 37:06

I love. I love what yeah. I love I love you. I love that I feel safe with you. I love that I can just take uh his name ain't Arlanda. I'm not gonna put his name out there. I don't mind, cuz I have nothing to hide. He knows me and I know him. We've been at this a long time. 15 years strong.

SPEAKER_01 37:40

Oh, dang.

SPEAKER_05 37:41

But when but the thing about us is I respect when he's interested in somebody. And um, in a sense, if you want to really put it out there, I feel like we kind of called it our own unique poly relationship because our love for each other is strong, and I, you know, I really have feelings for him. Um would I marry him or anything like that? No, but I can I can be in what we have for a long time. You know what I'm saying? Um, but I respectfully, if I was to get with somebody that I was passionate and in love with, then I take that moment to really see if that's really something. And I know when it's really something, when I find my way, I can't reach out to him. You see what I'm saying? So if I find myself still reaching out to him while I'm involved with somebody, then I know that it's not really so to me, that really tests to see if you're really serious.

SPEAKER_00 38:38

So the man that's gonna lock you down is gonna have to completely replace him all together.

SPEAKER_05 38:42

Yeah, yes.

SPEAKER_00 38:43

He's gonna have to be like, all right, I don't even think about you no more.

SPEAKER_05 38:46

We gotta be able to communicate, because I can I can talk to him. Like how we talking, me and him literally talk like this. He talked to me about his relationships. If he in a relationship with somebody and he needs some a safe space, he knows he can reach out and talk to me. See, that's the best thing. And I would correct him and I'll be like, well, maybe you need to see it from her. You know, I don't try to make it seem like because I'm not a pick me person. You feel me? Yeah, I'm genuinely that person, like, okay, I I'm be mad that you know the dick gotta get taken away. Right. If she don't suck it right, you know, I can leave a tutorial. You know what I'm saying? Like, I help sis out because you really she seemed like a good girl. So, like, I'm a you know, I'm rooting for her. Like, don't leave her because of sex wag. I could teach her that, you know, share this class, you know. Like giving tips to yes, to keep her man because baby, I need you to keep him because he he's a good she will see you as a threat.

SPEAKER_00 39:37

You know the thing.

SPEAKER_05 39:38

I know this, I know that, but then it's like baby, I'm not because he he he he loves me to a certain point, he loves the asset that we have developed, he loves our transaction. Okay, you know, our relationship is transactional, um, and the love built from that transaction. You got what I'm saying? It's like having the love of your deposit always hit in your bank account, you know. You love to know that every Monday or Friday that it is gonna hit. You know what I'm saying? It's a transactional thing, but on the moments that it's not a transactional period, you have those people that you feel, you know. And it's it's okay to feel somebody that's not a transactional situation, and I will root for that person because I literally want you to be happy. I'm always that person, even with the ex or whatever. If I'm not the best thing for you, I'm not gonna stop you or block you from that. That's that where it goes back to being intentional and making sure I'm getting with somebody who understands this. Of course, I can't bring to a dude like, yeah, I had a whole 15-year, you know, but buddy shit with somebody that I got. But I would tell them in the beginning and say, Well, you know, I don't mind ending it if this is well where we at. You know what I'm saying? If we ever got exclusive and I'm telling you I'm just completely for you, then I'm for you. And then me, I don't mix, you know, I don't mix bodies.

SPEAKER_03 41:07

Right.

SPEAKER_05 41:07

You know, I don't I don't mix bodies. That's good. I don't like to mix bodies. So it's like if I'm having sex with you, and it's only you that I'm having sex with, I can be in that's respectful. I can be talking to a whole lot of people, but ain't nobody getting it but you. You know what I mean?

SPEAKER_00 41:22

A lot of women don't feel that way. So I don't know. Because I don't like condoms.

SPEAKER_05 41:26

I'm I'm I'm gonna tell you, pull up that my chart. I wanna I I get tested before I go in a relationship. Right. I get tested when I get out of a relationship. Because I want to know what's going on exactly.

SPEAKER_00 41:38

So it's sad that it has to be that way, unfortunately.

SPEAKER_05 41:40

But I still want to do that for the simple fact I'm coming into this new, I'm meeting you. If I know that I was dealing with him, you know, like I said, if I already went to Orlando and I came back and then I met somebody, I would have to cut it off with him. I would make sure I'm tested before I start sleeping with the local person. Right that's just me. I'm just being real. And that's respectable.

SPEAKER_00 42:01

That's very respectable.

SPEAKER_05 42:02

But I would have to tell my friend, like, yeah, I can't be flyed out or flew down to come jump on it because now I got local D and it's just as good and I like it. It's just as good and I like it. I'm I'm I'm one of the honest people that you ever gonna meet.

SPEAKER_00 42:22

You definitely are.

SPEAKER_05 42:24

You know, some people be ashamed of their whole stages. I used to love mine. Ho's was my best story.

SPEAKER_00 42:32

Not the whole face. Yeah, oh, I got a story. Oh my god.

SPEAKER_05 42:37

And he's a local DJ.

SPEAKER_00 42:39

Oh, we not uh nope save that story. You tell this story right now. I don't know if you're still gonna be on that podcast.

SPEAKER_05 42:50

Nah, we laugh, we laugh about it all the time. He said the one in the background telling.

SPEAKER_00 42:56

Uh-uh. I ain't confident he liked to start trouble. Don't let him.

SPEAKER_05 43:00

Nah, it was really a cut up moment for me. Cause yeah. It's a story. We we look, you we gonna.

SPEAKER_00 43:08

If we got time at the end, we'll tell you.

SPEAKER_05 43:09

No, no, no, no, no. So what I'm gonna do, I'm gonna just I'm gonna do you one better. I'm gonna tell him, I'm gonna say, you know what, you should be a guest on this show, then I'm gonna be a guest on one day. And we should be here together and just tell that story.

SPEAKER_00 43:20

You're gonna surprise him with that story?

SPEAKER_05 43:22

Yeah, no, but we had talked about it. Me and him, he was gonna put together a podcast and we was actually gonna talk about it.

SPEAKER_00 43:27

Okay.

SPEAKER_05 43:27

But it's one of those unique stories, like, and I I I still to this day, it's funny now. We're funny in me.

SPEAKER_00 43:37

All right, we're gonna have to get him on the show. We're gonna get y'all to tell this story. This interesting story.

SPEAKER_05 43:42

Oh, oh, listen. I I feel like I'm a guy in woman form at times. A guy would kind of be cow. But because you have a vagina.

SPEAKER_00 43:58

Jesus.

SPEAKER_04 43:58

Men just be all in their feelings, but they do it all the time. They do it all the time.

SPEAKER_05 44:07

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 44:07

All right. Well, we go, I'm waiting to hear that story.

SPEAKER_05 44:10

I'm it's it's it's interesting. I'm I'm gonna have to hit him up. I'm gonna tell them come on.

SPEAKER_00 44:15

All right, we're gonna get him on here and we'll hear that interesting story, guys. Um, all right, my next one that I saw. Um, this young lady, Alicia Davis on Facebook. Uh she posted this story about she plead, she has a plea right now going on for her rent that is $4,000 past due because she decided to go and splurge on floor seats to the NBA Young Boy concert. Now she's facing eviction with her kids and asking for her over 7,000 friends on Facebook to cash up her a dollar so she can catch up on her rent. How do you feel about that?

SPEAKER_05 44:54

Priorities all fucked up and that is not. Girl, you better go get you a nate. I mean a fine night. See, that would that would they get?

SPEAKER_00 45:02

I mean, come on now. You let's break this down. Yeah, that would that would they get $5,000 past rent.

SPEAKER_05 45:09

But my thing is, why would you go for a concert? My thing is, was you planning on getting okay, let me reword this because I gotta make sure my thoughts are are running rapid. So basically, my thing is, sis, I will only invest, make that investment if I know for a fact that I was coming back with a bag. Lest you be real if I knew, you know what I'm saying, are I was going to get some money because I would I I just bag me a boiler, baby. Yes, but don't don't you what they what does the saying go, Eric? And I know you know it. You gotta spend money to make money, baby.

SPEAKER_00 45:55

But that was cheap.

SPEAKER_05 45:56

Nah, don't you mess that off if you ain't making it.

SPEAKER_00 45:59

Yeah, that was not that was not a bit a good business investment.

SPEAKER_05 46:04

She better see Nate.

SPEAKER_00 46:06

She better see somebody within these 7,000 friends.

SPEAKER_05 46:09

I got a plug for her, you know, that'll that'll get that off her hands now.

SPEAKER_00 46:13

That 4,000?

SPEAKER_05 46:14

Huh? Yeah. She's gonna have to give him 2,000 though.

SPEAKER_00 46:18

Wait. She already in the hole, 4,000.

SPEAKER_05 46:21

She comes up with 2,000. He'll pay that for. He gotta he got the other half.

SPEAKER_00 46:25

I don't even want to know.

SPEAKER_05 46:26

You might have to rub some nuts, but he got the scratch. He ain't got no hands. So he ain't gonna stop it. Wait.

SPEAKER_00 46:37

What are we talking about here? What kind of deep black hole of the internet?

SPEAKER_04 46:43

We just you know enable men need love too.

SPEAKER_00 46:46

I don't know that site. I don't I don't frequent that site. But nah, this girl. Oh, so see, you was 4,000 in debt, and you chose to spend money on uh floor seats for NBA. I don't know what those are.

SPEAKER_05 47:03

Hold on. So was it her or did she do it for a guy? See, that's another thing too, because you gotta think, did she spend it because she liked him, or did she was she trying to impress the dude, right? And then it went wrong. Because let's be real, yeah, sometimes I'm guilty of that shit too. See, I'm I'm gonna be honest. See, most women ain't gonna say, oh nah, dude, nah, dude done finessed me before, baby. I done been in I done been Lulu and then and the delusional and me going out trying to prove, you know, pick me, you know, when I want to be a pick me chick. Right. You know what I'm saying? So I have spent some money to impress the guy before. You know what I mean?

SPEAKER_00 47:43

That would be that would be silly though. You in debt already and your dude. But you gotta say to take him to a concert?

SPEAKER_05 47:49

Listen, it's a reason why it's dudes out there don't pay no bills and living on these women.

SPEAKER_00 47:55

That's a that's a bigger problem.

SPEAKER_05 47:58

They got that, don't need to pay no rent, dick.

SPEAKER_00 48:00

I don't care. Hey, if you No, I mean I'm not a female, so yes.

SPEAKER_05 48:05

I'm just saying, look, listen, I done seen it. I have seen it.

SPEAKER_00 48:10

That's crazy.

SPEAKER_05 48:11

Have been around a long time. I have seen, I have seen it every it really exists. We got some dudes that are homosexuals, uh, and they do exist.

SPEAKER_00 48:20

That is insane.

SPEAKER_05 48:21

They will they will hump you and and they prey on the women who self-esteem isn't there. That's true. They prey on the women who all they want is love, right? You know, and and want it from wherever they can find it because they don't feel it within themselves. That's true, and it's so many different situations, and you got some that don't mind tricking. You know, it ain't tricking if you got it. They might have it and they don't mind tricking, right? You know, it's some women that just all you gotta do is take care of she clearly doesn't. You watch all the queens men?

SPEAKER_00 48:49

Some of it.

SPEAKER_05 48:50

Okay, so like a baby face, for example. You got the Miss Tandys out there who got the wealthy women, got a husband's insurance policies that live where they got a lot of money, they lonely. Oprah did it with stamina, you know what I'm saying? So a lot of times you run into those type of situations, but she may have portrayed herself to have some. Because one, another thing is why are you paying $4,000 in rent? I would want to get, you know, I don't know where I don't know where she lives. Yeah, I don't know where she lives.

SPEAKER_00 49:23

So maybe it's not $4,000.

SPEAKER_05 49:24

Maybe it's uh Okay, maybe it's a few months.

SPEAKER_00 49:27

It's a few months behind.

SPEAKER_05 49:28

Yeah, because if you evict it, yeah, that first month, they they give you at least what 30, 30 days. I think 30, 60 days. I don't know.

SPEAKER_00 49:35

About 30 days, yeah, somewhere in there.

SPEAKER_05 49:37

I always like to pay. I don't play, I don't play by my own phone in my head, so I don't know, I don't know how long.

SPEAKER_00 49:41

Yeah, what the simple I don't know how you get 4,000 back. Yeah, past due rent rent. Uh that's kind of high. But yeah.

SPEAKER_05 49:49

But my thing is if you chose not to pay your rent to go to a concert, and this me being serious now. I'm always serious, but this is really being serious. Um, as a mom, I can't see myself doing that. No, I would have had to, I would have had to afterpay those tickets.

SPEAKER_00 50:06

Yeah. Something, yeah, put it on something.

SPEAKER_05 50:08

Even flex, flex actually is an app where you could use. I'm plugging everything, ain't it?

SPEAKER_00 50:13

Stop giving these people plugs when they're not being able to do that.

SPEAKER_05 50:15

But you know, I might I might be helping somebody who just about to be, you know, eviction. But you know, they got apps with that can actually help you pay your rent. They will pay your whole rent and you just pay them. You know what I'm saying? Like you would do after pay, but it's for your rent. So it's a lot of different things out there. But for her to just I ain't paying my rent, I'm about to go see MB. What is MBA?

SPEAKER_00 50:39

NBA young boy. I don't know.

SPEAKER_05 50:41

I don't even what songs he got. See, I'm gonna be up on now. Tupac girl, yes. I probably know. Is he the Tupac of this area?

SPEAKER_00 50:49

Uh he calls himself that, I think. Oh, yeah. Is that the one that says he's just like like the new Tupac or something like that? I think I can't remember.

SPEAKER_05 50:57

I believe ain't nobody the new Tupac.

SPEAKER_00 50:59

Only person I could say These young disrespectful Y N's close to Tupac. They're just saying some of the most disrespectful things sometimes when I come.

SPEAKER_05 51:08

He said he the king guys. Yeah, exactly. Nah, you can't answer.

SPEAKER_00 51:13

They they say some of the most disrespectful things, and I just I I just black it out because I'm like, that's just noise. I don't know.

SPEAKER_05 51:19

Yeah, I just feel like priorities just was in the wrong place.

SPEAKER_00 51:23

All the way wrong. Um, like I said, I just call Nate.

SPEAKER_05 51:25

Girl, just call Nate. I wouldn't, I don't think I would even publicly say that. I would have honestly back in the day, the women that I knew, the aunties, if we needed stuff, I ain't know how Auntie done getting it. All I know is she left with a bag, she came back the next morning, and she had what we needed.

SPEAKER_00 51:50

She didn't ask no questions. You just accepted that for what it was. And now it's the same thing now. It's just a little different, but yeah.

SPEAKER_05 52:00

It's on the OnlyFans. I mean open that OnlyFans real quick. Not saying, you know, and I know a lot of people are like, oh my god, that's degrading. No, it's not. You can't I would rather privately make my bag instead of publicly putting myself out there and then letting thousands, millions of people share it, and then think about who you may have lied to. People don't realize when they make posts on social media, so think like this. You might have finesse a dude, you know what I'm saying? The simp in your life.

SPEAKER_02 52:35

Right.

SPEAKER_05 52:35

And now you got viral, baby. You done lost your simp that done been paying other stuff for you.

SPEAKER_00 52:43

Oh, you just spent my money on some young boy tickets.

SPEAKER_05 52:45

Oh, that's what we do. I thought you were paying the rent. And now you gotta fuck up the vet. Because you know some women listen.

SPEAKER_00 52:52

You're right, not thinking. Yep, you right.

SPEAKER_05 52:55

That's why you can't post everything.

SPEAKER_00 52:57

Kate posts everything.

SPEAKER_05 52:59

Don't post everything.

SPEAKER_00 53:01

Okay, uh 7,000 friends on Facebook. Wow, that's insane. But uh Yeah, a dollar for everything. If you want to her friends on Facebook, give her a dollar. You gonna give her that dollar?

SPEAKER_05 53:13

I mean, I would give her a dollar, but I'm gonna talk shit in the in the pass out when they say four, your dumb ass mistake.

SPEAKER_00 53:23

You go make her, you can make her feel that dollar.

SPEAKER_05 53:25

Yeah, you gonna eat that dollar. I'm gonna put a dollar fifty. Just to make it a matter of fact, 52, because that's my two cents. Just to give my little two cents. 152, baby.

SPEAKER_00 53:40

Well, at least you would be a good friend to give her a dollar, you know.

SPEAKER_05 53:43

Yeah. Good Facebook friend. I'm not a friend. I don't feel I feel like a friend shit. You don't feel like a real friend. She ain't got no real friends.

SPEAKER_00 53:51

Yeah, real friend.

SPEAKER_05 53:52

Because a real friend be like, take that down. Girl.

SPEAKER_00 53:57

What do you think a real friend would let her get in that position in the first place?

SPEAKER_05 54:01

If I knew I had a dumb friend make some dumb move like that, I'm already as her friend. Like you already know. We're gonna have a master plan. If this, I'm the person who's gonna have a plan A, B, C, and have a Z, A, why I'm gonna have all them plans. So if A didn't work, I'm gonna go to Z. Right. Z didn't work, I'm gonna go up to B. You know what I'm saying? And I'm gonna ask everybody. So somebody's gonna be.

SPEAKER_00 54:22

I'm saying before it even gets to that, before she even goes to the ball. No, no, no. Before we even go to the concert. If she comes, if your friend comes to you and says, Hey, you know I'm behind on my rent, but I'm thinking about going to this concert real quick.

SPEAKER_05 54:35

I'm gonna say you might want to rethink your priorities unless you know you about to get on this bag. And if you're about to get on this bag, baby, we gotta get slayed. We gotta walk in there all day. Like we the baddest ishes, and we about to come up. You know what I'm saying? Like, yeah, you can't it yeah, you gotta spend money to make money. That is that is as a real friend.

SPEAKER_00 54:55

I would probably tell my friend, uh, yeah, you don't need to go to that concert. You already know.

SPEAKER_05 55:00

As a dude, you're gonna tell your homeboy, like, bro, you know, dudes do it all the time. Let's be real. Yeah, but I mean dudes be dudes be spending money in the club, throwing it up in the club, and they're like, bro, you ain't even paid your child support, but you throwing up in the Nah, I'm I'm checking my homeboy. Now, if we in the club and you know, we probably had Purple City last night, just throwing it up.

SPEAKER_00 55:21

Not with me, baby.

SPEAKER_05 55:22

You 2,000 behind in child support and you throwing up these ones to come.

SPEAKER_00 55:25

When them people, and I'm gonna be sitting right there next to you looking at you. When them people come get you, don't call me, homie. Because I ain't coming to get your ass up. I ain't got nothing for you, homie. Then people come get your ass, you be sitting right in there. Because I'm telling you, you know you're wrong for this one, homie.

SPEAKER_05 55:39

And I think that's one, and that leads me to my thing. I think that's why I don't go out like that. Because I feel like going out, you you spend about a thousand dollars just going out these days. Oh, yeah. You go outside. It's like everything is so costly.

SPEAKER_00 55:55

Exactly.

SPEAKER_05 55:55

And it's and it and you know what your bank account looks like. Right. And you ain't gotta sit there and flex for no you can pretend like you go out. I do all the time. My snap look like I'm always somewhere. I drive to the airport just to walk around the airport with a bag, like I done went on a flight.

SPEAKER_03 56:12

No, you don't do that.

SPEAKER_05 56:13

Oh, yeah, I have done that.

SPEAKER_03 56:14

Why wouldn't you?

SPEAKER_05 56:15

Just to get back at somebody like I'm going out of town. I had if I'm a lie, I'm gonna lie, Eric.

SPEAKER_00 56:19

That is the pettiest shit I have ever heard.

SPEAKER_05 56:21

I'm gonna fucking lie. Listen. That is the pettiest shit.

SPEAKER_00 56:25

Did you just say you go to the airport just to walk around and make it look like you're going somewhere?

SPEAKER_05 56:31

Eric. And I would go in on people's bathroom. That is the petty and like ready to board my flight so you can hear flight such and such. Yes. Oh my god, that is so petty. That is the petty. And look, it go to a hotel, that's nice. Because I got a cousin that works at the hotel, and I'll just go visit my cousin while she's cleaning the room.

SPEAKER_00 56:55

Take patty to a hotel. I swear.

SPEAKER_05 56:59

Oh my god, if I'm gonna lie, I'm gonna go, baby, I'm lying.

SPEAKER_00 57:03

I hope this ain't a dude you getting back at because he's somewhere crying in a corner. You doing all of this. I done did that before. And he isn't there believing.

SPEAKER_05 57:10

Yeah, I done did, I done did that before. He is hurt, he probably is hurt. Him or her, because I like them both. So ain't they both hurt who I was lying to.

SPEAKER_00 57:21

They hurt.

SPEAKER_05 57:22

But see, that's why I'm so honest because I lie so well. Now you understand why I'm so honest. This is why I'm honest, Eric.

SPEAKER_00 57:29

Because put somebody in a middle hospital.

SPEAKER_05 57:31

Yeah, messing with me. You're gonna be a mental patient for real.

SPEAKER_00 57:36

I have your if I saw that, I'd be sitting there just, oh, oh my gosh, she is what she she really going.

SPEAKER_05 57:44

I didn't think she was hold up, she in a room?

SPEAKER_00 57:46

What where that? Hold up.

SPEAKER_05 57:48

Waiting on him. I have my flowers and everything. Yes.

SPEAKER_00 57:52

You're gonna put somebody in the same style for real.

SPEAKER_05 57:56

And look, I come with my props in my bag, just stage it.

SPEAKER_00 57:59

Oh my god, that's horrible.

SPEAKER_05 58:01

Two glasses.

SPEAKER_00 58:03

Two glasses.

SPEAKER_04 58:04

He did that.

SPEAKER_00 58:06

That is horrible.

SPEAKER_04 58:11

All right, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 58:13

No, we about to get into we got uh the first story time of the day today. We're gonna do it. We're gonna let Naya read us our first story of the day. It's story time, y'all. Come on, listen up for Nia.

SPEAKER_05 58:25

Okay, story time. Niggas these days, people are so gullible. I had my husband and my ex-boyfriend in the same chat and told them I was pregnant. They know they don't want to lose me, so I got both of them to send me money for an abortion. But guess what? Who ain't pregnant? Me and my girls in Miami time.

SPEAKER_00 58:50

Wow.

SPEAKER_05 58:52

To me, first of all, that that's kind of diabolical to have them both in the same chat. Cause if one text and you saying that and two people responding like, is it mine? You know, that's gonna be weird. So maybe she meant to say she was texting both of them simultaneously at the same time. I want to think that she might have meant that she was texting one and then texting the other, because I have done that before too.

SPEAKER_00 59:16

No, I believe she meant exactly what she said. So she had both of them.

SPEAKER_05 59:21

She had them in a joint chat. Yeah, she don't care. Like that's disrespectful as hell. Well, in that case, you ain't gotta tell 'em. See, this be unnecessary line. Okay, let me school them. Baby girl, come to come to the front. Center stage. Okay, I had to teach my best friend, shout out to Tania, how to lie back in 2003 at JCSU in the Fairy City. Yeah. I had to teach her how to lie to get out that one guy's room because her booth thing came and they was in the same dorm, and I had to lie. And she was trying to tell him the truth, and I had to come come quick, come save her and you know, tell her. A good lie because she wasn't good at lying. So let me clearly, she's not good at lying either. So when you lying, the whole point of lying is because you can't tell the truth. So if you got a chat with them, you're already basically halfway in there telling the truth. Y'all basically in a poly relationship, baby. So why not just tell them you and your girls want to go to first of all? If I have to do that type of scheming in order to get money to go somewhere so I can enjoy myself with me and my girls, I don't need them in. You got two of them, and you can't come and say what you want. That that to me, nah. You can't be my man if I can't honestly tell you what it is that I need from you. Right. And you be generous partner that I thought I signed up. I don't want to have to lie to get in your pockets. Right. First of all. Even though I have done that. Look, this is me. That's why I'm able to speak on it. Because I know you, man, I done had about five abortions, fake abortions.

unknown 1:01:02

God damn it.

SPEAKER_05 1:01:04

I done told I think I done told five dudes. I was pregnant before.

SPEAKER_00 1:01:08

Oh man.

SPEAKER_05 1:01:09

And I just, you know.

SPEAKER_00 1:01:10

So you are the person in this story just.

SPEAKER_05 1:01:12

No, I'm not the person in that story because I said that because I was trying to see what type of dude they was.

SPEAKER_00 1:01:19

Oh. You didn't get nothing out of them.

SPEAKER_05 1:01:21

Yeah, I got money for diversion. You know? I brought my kids to my live kids. I mean, go turn up in my hand. I done said that though. I mean, you know. But listen. What I told you, Eric, when I lie, I lie, right?

SPEAKER_00 1:01:42

Uh yeah. Okay. So this is a real story time.

SPEAKER_05 1:01:45

Okay.

SPEAKER_00 1:01:48

That's gonna hit a chord.

SPEAKER_04 1:01:50

Okay, so it's gonna be short and sweet. I literally I can't believe I I can tell the story now.

SPEAKER_05 1:01:58

Shit, this shit about 20 years old. I actually my homegirl was pregnant and she was actually about to go get abortion. So I was keeping her secret. So I was like, girl, I told this dude that I was pregnant. So now I gotta prove to him I'm pregnant. So I took her P. I went and got on wick. I actually uh I took I I went to the health department, I got on wick and all y'all. I got a due date. And I took the paper to his mama's house. Because you know they gonna believe their mama and mama always wanted. So I went in there and I had an empty pregnancy says I still had girl P with me. I went in the mama's bathroom and I said, see, now you could really tell your son that I'm pregnant and here go my due date information. And then I told him I just decided to have an abortion.

SPEAKER_00 1:02:48

Yeah.

SPEAKER_05 1:02:49

So I got the money.

SPEAKER_00 1:02:51

So you just got the money, and you know. But you did responsible things with the money, so I and I got my wick for for good.

SPEAKER_05 1:02:58

If you, you know, and to this day, like I remember going to the health department when I actually I hope the government's not listening. Look it's it's okay. The um statute of limitations.

SPEAKER_00 1:03:13

I don't know.

SPEAKER_05 1:03:15

But no, I literally got yeah, I got my wig. I got my wig for it. Because I had I had to prove I just couldn't see myself lying, you know, and getting nothing offline. Right. And I said, guess what? I should go to his mama house and pee on a pregnancy test and show her that I'm pregnant so she could convince her son that I'm pregnant. So I can get disappointment for the baby that's not existing. Yeah, the non-existent baby, that's the biggest That was I mean, I ain't saying it was good, but I'm saying, sis, if you gonna lie, at least lie, like right for the right reasons or something.

SPEAKER_00 1:03:57

Yeah, not for a trip.

SPEAKER_05 1:03:58

But see, he was lying to me, he was playing and he was talking about he wanted to be with me. And you know, the quickest way to see if a dude is really for you back then was either to tell them you're pregnant or tell them you need some money and to see how fast they gonna go. You know what I'm saying? You you kind of so we don't know that, you know.

SPEAKER_00 1:04:19

Uh she said her husband and her ex-boyfriend, but uh so there's the uh I feel like was she she still messing with both of them? I'm a yeah, I'm gonna.

SPEAKER_05 1:04:29

She was she was in a poly relationship. Cause she in the same chat, because why is your husband and your ex unless the ex-boyfriend and husband getting together to meet, like why are they in the same chat?

SPEAKER_00 1:04:41

I feel like she must have been going to Miami to find number three. I I don't know what I don't know. It's because this is confusing though.

SPEAKER_05 1:04:49

I don't think, see, I don't I I just feel like I would have told them the truth that I was going to Miami.

SPEAKER_00 1:04:54

Yeah, I mean, especially why can't you just tell your husband?

SPEAKER_05 1:04:57

Because I was in my 20s when I was playing them dumb ass games.

SPEAKER_00 1:05:01

I would hope this ain't nobody in this of age.

SPEAKER_05 1:05:03

But see, that's playing with your life too. Like, all jokes aside, that's really playing with your life. That's why I was like, it's best to just be honest. Oh, yeah, you know, these days. You know, a lot of people ain't blessed to play them games. I knew the dudes I was dealing with, they weren't no killers for real. But y'all be trying to play them games with these Y Ns.

SPEAKER_02 1:05:22

Great killers.

SPEAKER_05 1:05:23

They be trying to play these games with the game.

SPEAKER_00 1:05:25

Multiple bodies. Y'all gonna sit out there and play games.

SPEAKER_04 1:05:27

You see them tear drops on his face and you playing, nah.

SPEAKER_00 1:05:30

A husband, that's the one I'm worried. Yeah, that man, why couldn't you go to your husband and just ask him for the money to go to Miami? I'm just trying to figure it out.

SPEAKER_05 1:05:39

Or maybe he didn't, maybe she going with she saying her girls turn, but then I don't know.

SPEAKER_00 1:05:45

Yeah, that's that's too many.

SPEAKER_05 1:05:47

It's too many. We need we need her on the show to explain this. Like I just explained my story. She need to come to the front, explain, explain.

SPEAKER_00 1:05:56

All right, well, you thought this was okay to do. Yeah, you got a husband and the ex-boyfriend. Why are you still talking to your ex-boyfriend if you got a husband?

SPEAKER_05 1:06:03

Yeah, exactly. That because marriage is legal prostitution. We talked about this.

SPEAKER_00 1:06:07

That is true.

SPEAKER_05 1:06:09

We talked about this. That is true. That's an example of you know how it's a transactional relationship. Let's be real. You can actually enjoy it, love it, and value it. You know what I mean? And some people really enjoy love and value being married, right? But it's doesn't it doesn't alleviate from the fact that it is transactional.

SPEAKER_00 1:06:30

Right.

SPEAKER_01 1:06:30

That is very true.

SPEAKER_00 1:06:32

That is very true. Oh, yeah, that was a good story. Good good story to start off with story time. Um, give us your next thing you saw on your feed, real quick.

SPEAKER_05 1:06:42

Okay, so this one says, I'ma just stay single. I don't feel like explaining why I took a two-hour nap. You know, that's real.

SPEAKER_00 1:06:52

I was just having this conversation with somebody the other day.

SPEAKER_05 1:06:54

Oh, do tell.

SPEAKER_00 1:06:55

Actually, with my therapist the other day.

SPEAKER_05 1:06:57

Okay, shout out. Can we get an applause for that? Black men going to therapy. Yeah. Thank you.

SPEAKER_00 1:07:03

Gotta do it. Please stay on top of your mental health, black men, black women, black everybody. Stay on top of y'all mental health.

SPEAKER_05 1:07:10

White people too, because I think you got some white listeners.

SPEAKER_00 1:07:13

I think white people are more into it. We don't have to express that to the white folks. They're looking at us like, oh, y'all don't do that already.

SPEAKER_02 1:07:21

Right.

SPEAKER_00 1:07:22

Yeah, so yeah, but yeah, for sure. But I was talking to my therapist about this the other day, as far as like, you know, since I've been single, um, how much I feel at peace now when I get home and I just I used to come home and not to say that you know my ex was clingy, I guess, so to speak, but it just would be that feeling sometimes when I come in the house, I'd just be like, You here? Like I was kind of hoping you'd be somewhere else, or maybe not here right now. I could have a few minutes to myself. And now when I come home and it's like I know nobody's gonna be there, it's like the best feeling in the world. Like I know I can just come in there, get comfortable, do whatever I want to, and not have that, you know, person there to just carn in the breeze, right? Exactly. Just, you know, what we eat for dinner tonight, or what we cooking, or what we, you know, what we doing. Well, let's do so, you cleaning up this, you taking out that, you do you need to fix this. I don't have all of that over me now. So that feels so much better. But at the same time, I do have those feelings where I'm just like, dang, I'm sitting in here, I'm all by my damn self.

SPEAKER_05 1:08:25

That's when you gotta call that fuck buddy.

SPEAKER_00 1:08:29

But see, that was the conversation that went deeper because it becomes uh, you know the real conversation of that, which me and him talk about all the time, is right now, while I'm not dating, you know, I have an agreement that I'm just not gonna date right now because I know I'm not in a place to take a relationship serious, not to get to a deeper level. And I know more people are gonna wanna get to a deeper level and try to so hold up.

SPEAKER_05 1:08:55

So that means you can't, because I remember we went back to if we seeing each other every day, that goes back to that first conversation. So that means you're not gonna so basically you will still hang out with people, but you ain't gonna you just not gonna get sexually involved. Because you know that time without it, that would grows the intimacy. Intimacy is it stops way, it starts, sorry, not stop, but starts way before the bedroom. So you're you know you're creating that platform for the intimacy anyway. Right. And that person gonna gravitate to that.

SPEAKER_00 1:09:27

I'm just doing it for the reason of I feel like once you get to that physical level of things, it takes things, it forces things in that direction. And a relationship. Yeah, it even in a friendship. Some people can't separate the physical from the yeah, exactly. They they that's when that question definitely comes out. Like where we at that now we where we at. Where you know, now we gotta claim each other because we've had sex.

SPEAKER_05 1:09:51

I mean, I ask people that. I was like, so where we at? Are we doing this again, or this just was one night thing? So I know do I need to delete your number now? You know, some people I just like to know that you're more free spirited.

SPEAKER_00 1:10:01

Because I don't want to, I don't want to hit you and say, Yeah, you're more free-spirited when you can accept accept that if he says, hey, you know, yeah, this was a one-time thing, or maybe we can we can you know roll back and do this one more time, but we'll see. Some women will be like, We'll see. What the fuck you mean? We'll see. No, no, no, no, no, no. I just gave you a few.

SPEAKER_05 1:10:19

Now, if you're saying you love, because I actually had a conversation with somebody, and you know, they was drunk and they was like, I love you, say it back. I said, I'm not saying it back. And I was like, so I hit them up when they was sober and I was like, you know, you said you love me last night. I'm like, Yeah, I remember saying that. I said, Oh, drunk, you know, tongue speak a sober mind, I guess. But then when I they said, Oh, I tell everybody they love you. I said, Well, you can't just be throwing that type of stuff out there, you know, like that. So, because somebody is gonna like oh old girl told Jody, they be believing your ass. You telling the girls you want to have your ass, they be believing, you know what I'm saying? But I'm not the type to because I don't feel him like that. You know what I'm saying? I like him, you know, he got good weed, but I just be telling shit. I swear, I don't care. They know, but they it isn't nothing that that would make me me to be honest, Eric, because it's nothing that I'm saying that they don't already know.

SPEAKER_00 1:11:18

They don't already know, right?

SPEAKER_05 1:11:19

So it's not for that baby part, but hell, he married and he with somebody else, so and he ain't it, it is what it is.

SPEAKER_04 1:11:28

I I had your money, it's okay.

SPEAKER_05 1:11:31

The kids was good, they had a good year, you know. But I don't like to have to tell nobody that either because I have guys who we just okay, I'll meet somebody, but they expect them to be on the phone with me all the time. Baby, you ain't letting my cash out go off. You ain't fed me today, you ain't said nothing. Why do you feel like you need my undivided attention?

SPEAKER_03 1:11:53

Right.

SPEAKER_05 1:11:54

We're getting to know each other, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 1:11:56

But know each other.

SPEAKER_05 1:11:57

I ain't about to explain nothing to you on nothing that you don't pay.

SPEAKER_00 1:12:00

Right, exactly. And that's that's where I get where it's like you want people around sometimes, but especially when it's your place, like you be like, we always gotta come to my place. Why we can't go to your place or whatever. Because maybe somebody else is going to their place. Yeah, well, that's all.

SPEAKER_05 1:12:18

And you can't really go out in public these days because when you start being out in public again, people assume things, yeah. Because listen, I had one of my, you know, like I said, he got good we I took him to the barbershop. He asked me if I want to come in. I sat in a barbershop while he got his haircut.

SPEAKER_03 1:12:35

Oh, yeah, that's a girlfriend thing.

SPEAKER_05 1:12:36

Exactly. But to me, I know, you know, I ain't with come. You know what I'm saying? I get what you're saying. Me, I know this because he never established that. Right. But to somebody else, that's gonna look away. Yeah, exactly. And I done pick him up from his job. Oh, yeah, yeah. You know, know where the job at, know where your new house is at. You you got what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_00 1:12:59

Gotcha.

SPEAKER_05 1:12:59

That's to me, guys. Need to realize that a lot of times it's not always what you say, it's your actions. Oh, for sure. And we do pay attention to the actions, but because I'm intelligent enough and within my know enough, and I listen to also what he says, I know we are not on that level.

SPEAKER_00 1:13:21

Right, right.

SPEAKER_05 1:13:21

You know what I'm saying? I know we just was kicking it.

SPEAKER_00 1:13:24

And that's where the understanding comes in, where like I said, you have those.

SPEAKER_05 1:13:30

So you see how the mind controls differently. And you know it's tricky.

SPEAKER_00 1:13:37

That's what I'm saying.

SPEAKER_05 1:13:37

And the sex is okay, but had he had, you know, Orlando sex, okay. Had he had Orlando sex, then I would have like, we together. We go together. Tatum Hoes, we go together. We go together.

SPEAKER_00 1:13:53

Back to the topic.

SPEAKER_05 1:13:54

I would've I would have said that. We go together. But yeah, I just feel like when you in the butt they need to hear that because y'all be leading people on. No, y'all do be leading people on. Not a deep. But you see how that was. Yeah. And you see how I said if it was the key thing, now that gesture mixed with good dick, we go together. Do you not understand it?

SPEAKER_00 1:14:20

That's why I say you gotta take that out of the equation. You gotta take that out of the equation good wood, Eric. You gotta take that out of the equation.

SPEAKER_05 1:14:28

And so, and you're giving them good wood. You don't mind being out in public with them. You actually, you know, and and you're attentive, because when I was here, you know what I'm saying? You made sure I was comfortable as a as a guest. So I can imagine what you do when it comes to, okay, and and and I get the side eye, yes, you too. But but intentionally, but without intentionally, if I already know this is how you are and you or your position with me, I can see why they will feel that way.

SPEAKER_00 1:15:02

But I think the physical out of the equation, so I'm not leading it. All the time. All the time. So you celibate. Recently.

SPEAKER_05 1:15:10

So are so you basically okay. I ain't gonna say celibate because you're not celibate. You're not celibate. No, you're not celibate. To us, you masturbate.

unknown 1:15:18

No.

SPEAKER_05 1:15:19

You're not celibate. I just no, this is somebody had told me this because I usually use that word, and they be like, you're not celibate if you masturbate and have any kind of I was I say, Oh, so if I get hit, I'm not celibate. And I was like, Yeah. I said, okay. They say you just managing your coochie well. And I was like, okay. So so basically you're just managing your penis.

SPEAKER_00 1:15:42

Fair enough.

SPEAKER_05 1:15:43

Okay, you see what I'm saying? I guess. So now you're managing, you're learning to manage your penis because of the things that you experience, because you realize your penis got you in trouble.

SPEAKER_00 1:15:53

It does, it gets me in trouble.

SPEAKER_05 1:15:54

Because your personality and the way you are attentive to the needs of a woman, it they gravitate to that. Because your energy is you have a loving energy, but I respect you for going to therapy and saying I am not in a position to take dating serious and go to that next level because I'm healing me.

SPEAKER_00 1:16:16

Oh, yeah.

SPEAKER_05 1:16:17

That takes a man to really do that. Yeah, you know what I mean.

SPEAKER_00 1:16:21

It took me a long time to get to this point, trust me.

SPEAKER_05 1:16:24

Because you have needs and y'all have desires, fire and desire.

SPEAKER_00 1:16:28

Sometimes you gotta let the needs kind of just, you know, you gotta put them on the back burner sometimes and actually get yourself together.

SPEAKER_05 1:16:35

Yeah, mental mentally.

SPEAKER_00 1:16:36

Get your mentally self together.

SPEAKER_05 1:16:38

And now that you're mentally ready to be in a relationship.

SPEAKER_00 1:16:40

No, I didn't say that.

SPEAKER_05 1:16:43

No, I'm talking about after all is that is done. Not right now.

SPEAKER_00 1:16:46

Definitely not right now.

SPEAKER_05 1:16:47

So now that you're mentally ready to be in a relationship, the relationship is gonna withstand the test of time. Oh, because you're ready. Oh, don't sorry.

SPEAKER_00 1:16:54

Yeah, yeah. That's the that's the that's the goal, basically, is overall goal. But yeah, I do, like I said, going back to your original quote was basically, you know, in when you're in a relationship, you'll sometimes get that lonely feeling, but you can't act on that necessarily. Not all the time.

SPEAKER_05 1:17:13

Or some people need explanations for everything because okay, uh you text me at 4 05 and I probably been asleep for two hours, and then, you know, I probably ate and did something else. So by the time I saw your by the time I seen your text, it's probably like 11 o'clock and I'm responding, and then now you got an attitude, and I'm like, Well, why you got an attitude? Oh, so you ain't seen me text you. I text that way earlier. Okay, I'm responding now. What's the problem?

SPEAKER_00 1:17:38

Exactly.

SPEAKER_05 1:17:39

Now, I don't even like that in a relationship because I feel like people don't give people enough time to really reset. Like you was just stating, right? You need that if you have a person who's like, okay, I'm not gonna bother you until you I always used to tell people when you first get off work, take a moment for yourself to talk. Even if you want to feel like you want to have a conversation that's gonna be heavy, give that person space to recruit. Because if as soon as they come in the door, you're hitting them with stuff, you don't know what they went through.

SPEAKER_03 1:18:14

Right.

SPEAKER_05 1:18:15

And a lot of men don't communicate that they going through something. Oh my god.

SPEAKER_03 1:18:21

Especially at work now.

SPEAKER_05 1:18:22

Yeah, work, not even work, shoot. Somebody could have something could have happened on the way. True, you know, your homeboy could have had something going on. You can't even tell your woman because then it's going against what you know the bro code. Exactly. So then now you you in a you know thought process. You ain't thinking about the argument y'all had last night. Exactly. You know what I'm saying? Or you're not thinking about oh, you you forgot you told her something else. You know, you would hope that he remember, but a lot of times, you know, it stuffs in people's minds. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 1:18:54

These are not perfect humans. We can't be perfect all the time.

SPEAKER_05 1:18:56

I feel like people people argue argue too much about Kool-Aid issues.

SPEAKER_00 1:19:01

Right, right. And I agree completely. And that's where I think that's the part I don't remiss about being in a relationship. Yeah. The stupid arguments, the arguments that had absolutely nothing to do with nothing. And me too.

SPEAKER_05 1:19:13

I don't, I don't miss. I I love probably going a whole day and not talking to nobody.

SPEAKER_00 1:19:19

Right.

SPEAKER_05 1:19:20

And just going, you know.

SPEAKER_00 1:19:22

Yeah, sometimes you just need that piece, that space to just clear your mind, get your thoughts together.

SPEAKER_05 1:19:26

But it does get lonely, like like you say, because you know, sometimes I be looking at my like, dang, my phone dry as hell. Every time my phone goes off, it's fashion over. The coup that I done been on, promotional thing, ammunition, like crazy shit.

SPEAKER_00 1:19:41

Start calling people just to see if your phone's still working. Like it's just still on.

SPEAKER_05 1:19:45

You calling all your homegirls, and you know what you doing? Like you or or I go through this phase where I just I don't know what I be doing. Whoever ends up with me, they gonna have a time of their life, baby, because you're gonna date about six people with me. I ain't even about to play.

SPEAKER_04 1:20:04

I'm not gonna lie.

SPEAKER_05 1:20:06

You're gonna have six different relationships just in this one me for sure. Um that's my disclaimer for sure. You dating six of us. Like you didn't nah. Literally, you're gonna be dating six of us because I might block you and I'll be like, dang, why didn't I block them? I was upset. Oh, I was going through an awakening or I had a selfie.

SPEAKER_00 1:20:28

That's most females. I'm telling you, that's not just you. I promise you, it's not.

SPEAKER_05 1:20:32

I'm like, you know what? I don't want to be having casual sex somewhere.

SPEAKER_00 1:20:35

I've Yep. All of a sudden now you want a relationship.

SPEAKER_05 1:20:39

But then the next No, no, no, not even saying I want a relationship. I just like I don't want to have casual sex. Like it has to, you know, I have to intentionally know that we're gonna eventually become something.

SPEAKER_00 1:20:50

Yeah, but then the next day or two afterwards, then you write back the no, it's it's probably months with me. Oh, okay. Uh you're a little bit better than something.

SPEAKER_05 1:20:59

But then I have been off and on doing this with people.

SPEAKER_04 1:21:02

I I love I love the guys that never got in a serious relationship with me, but get me so much and and value they peace enough not to ever get in a relationship with me.

SPEAKER_02 1:21:15

But they understand my shenanigans.

SPEAKER_05 1:21:18

I am that person um who would just out the blue hit you up after I done block you for months.

SPEAKER_00 1:21:27

See, that'd be the craziness.

SPEAKER_05 1:21:29

Yes, that but hey, they look they gotta be crazy too. Cause they ask his answer. I'm the hey, I'm they answer and they and they come back to just talking to me like ain't nothing happening. Like we ain't so we ain't gonna dress.

SPEAKER_00 1:21:41

Why do we just sit there with somebody we ain't let hit us up in months, even years? Pop back in and be like, hey, what's up? Like, hey, what's going on with you? Nothing. Hey, y'all's life.

SPEAKER_05 1:21:53

Maybe because how I say it. And I don't be knowing if they in a relationship with that because I just shouldn't.

SPEAKER_00 1:21:57

Don't even get to that part. Yeah, I just should start talking with them.

SPEAKER_05 1:22:00

I'd be like, dang, I want my ass ate. And it was like, you uh, you up early with it, ain't it? I'm like, yeah, and then that one there, hee hee hee, lol, you already know how I get down, you already know me. I'm like, how you been though? How life treat you? You still single?

SPEAKER_00 1:22:21

We get to the still single all the way up, all of that. Delete that, yeah, exactly. Like, hope you still single. Jesus.

SPEAKER_04 1:22:32

No disrespect, Queen.

SPEAKER_00 1:22:38

Oh man. Alright, we're gonna do this last story time, and we're gonna get out of here after this one.

SPEAKER_05 1:22:45

Okay, my roommate had a bottle in the fridge, so me and my man poured us a cup. She went to grab a drink and realized it was only a swallow left. This girl had the audacity to ask me to replace it. How you so broke you can't even replace something you brought in the first place? I guess she forgot I put everybody in jail that even think about touching it. First of all, I feel like this. I'm gon' ask. I'm gonna ask before I touch anybody's shit. And if I touch something, I'm gonna replace it. And second of all, for you to call her broke after you took her shit, she probably ain't broke, but she that was her um, you know, that was her budget money for what she wanted to spend on her vice. You know what I mean? And you made her and you put her in a position to not have what she paid her money for. And why isn't your man bringing over the bottle? Right if your man wanted a drink. Cause if you coming over and you, my man, my man, my man, you're gonna at least ask, you know, uh what we what we doing. You know, you need something to drink, you need something, or even if we just, you know, kicking it, most guys ask, hey, you want something to drink? Cause they already know they wanna they wanna smash. Right. So they gonna try to get you nickel up. Right. A dude gonna bring a bottle. I ain't never met no dude that wasn't willing to bring a bottle unless he don't drink.

SPEAKER_00 1:24:13

Well, there's been a common theme in these stories and these topics that we've been talking about. Some of these dudes seem to be a little, we've been talking about a lot of broke ass dudes. Yeah, really an easy.

SPEAKER_05 1:24:23

But that goes back to what I was telling you. Broke dudes with good dick.

SPEAKER_00 1:24:27

Apparently.

SPEAKER_05 1:24:28

That's all you need these days. Seems like with some women.

SPEAKER_00 1:24:32

Seems to be the common thing.

SPEAKER_05 1:24:33

Not me. I need you to have money and good dick. And good heads.

SPEAKER_00 1:24:38

I mean, come on. You I've had uh, let me see, two roommates in my entire life. Okay, and both situations were luckily I got no thankfully, they were two dope guys, really thoughtful, very, you know, and they replaced whatever y'all did. Yeah, we didn't touch each other's stuff, we didn't bother, you know, asked.

SPEAKER_05 1:25:02

But women, women are different. I'm not, I'm I'm not gonna do that. I'm gonna ask. I'm saying, ooh, girl, I and I'm gonna cash app you. That's the thing. Like, girl, I don't the stove had clothes, you know what I'm saying? Yeah, here, I'm gonna cash up you. Or I'm gonna make it, I'm gonna say, here, my this my homegirl bottom. Like, I feel like but if I'm cash app in her, it don't necessarily mean it's my money. You know what I'm saying? I could have cash app her because you know, he he don't need her cash out. You feel me? So yeah, we ain't doing that now. I'm I'm just feeling like you know, I told you, Eric. That's how you that's how you mess up your good eaters. You be sharing them, giving your friend, you know, oh she's so cool. He nah, he gonna be smashing as soon as you pass out. That's that's like all us drinking together on her bottle. Yeah, I pass out. He's horny. You yeah, he done took that honey pack.

SPEAKER_00 1:26:02

You done already told us you you be on the ultimate get back. So yeah, that you're right. That could be the ultimate get back situation. Yeah, yeah. I done smashed both of y'all in one night, and I got a good story to tell. So that's a dude. So I mean, yeah. Yeah, and she's that type of girl, she might be that mad about it and be like, I got to replace my bottle. I got you.

SPEAKER_05 1:26:22

Exactly.

SPEAKER_00 1:26:24

I don't know.

SPEAKER_05 1:26:25

So, you know what I'm saying? So she should have just because now she, you know, now now she out for you over a bottle, and then you want to threaten to fight her. Um, no, she threatened to fight you over a bottle, but all you had to do is replace it because now you not only that, you made your home uncomfortable.

SPEAKER_03 1:26:43

That's true. Yeah, that's true.

SPEAKER_05 1:26:45

Why would you put yourself people don't think because why would you put yourself in a situation, you know, sometimes you gotta you gotta think, is this worth it?

SPEAKER_00 1:26:53

Exactly.

SPEAKER_05 1:26:54

We don't think it's stuff be worth it. You know what I mean?

SPEAKER_00 1:26:56

That girl wasn't thinking about nothing but one thing when she took the city. That's it.

SPEAKER_05 1:27:01

But as because to be considerate. And if you call yourself a friend, whether it's friend or roommate, because at some point you gotta be something to be a roommate.

SPEAKER_00 1:27:09

These two clearly were not friends. Yeah, and let's be a strange.

SPEAKER_05 1:27:13

This is that's that's weird as energy to me. Yeah. Because I need to know who I wouldn't know.

SPEAKER_00 1:27:20

I watch for my men and Fatal Attraction, baby. Yeah, nah, I'm not doing that. Yeah, I know people do it out of you know, different reasons and convenience and all that type of stuff. But I just save money, but ain't that money.

SPEAKER_05 1:27:37

I I'd rather be like oh, I'd rather call Nate to pay that four thousand dollar rent. Pay that four thousand dollar rent. Oh my god. Before I mean, maybe old girl needs to be her roommate. They can they mean they the one from Miami. With the Miami, the the one, all three of them should be roommates. How about all three of them? The one who went and spent her money on NBA young boy, they had no rent. She needs to get with the girl who get abortion money from her husband and and her ex-boyfriend. You know, she needs to get with her because sis know how to secure the bag, apparently. You know what I mean? And she needs to get with this girl who clearly just fucking old boy because he got good dick and she calling people broke because they can't afford a bottle that she's drinking out of. Because clearly, all of all of them should be roommates, like the golden girls. Yeah, for sure. They would be out.

SPEAKER_00 1:28:26

I would watch that show.

SPEAKER_05 1:28:29

Ratchet Golden Girls, we might need to come out with that. Oh my god, Golden Girls. Listen, if they can create all this other stuff, why can't we?

SPEAKER_00 1:28:38

You're right, you're right. We gotta get more creative again.

SPEAKER_05 1:28:41

If they took if they took the whole concept of living single and made friends, that's true. Why can't we take the concept of golden girls?

SPEAKER_00 1:28:51

Yeah, you're right. Well, I mean, we we take pieces from each other here. I can see ratchet old ladies. Ratchet, ratchet old, not old ladies, yeah. Man, you must ain't been there. That's right. I don't get out much.

SPEAKER_05 1:29:06

You ain't been around Florence.

SPEAKER_00 1:29:08

I don't get out much.

SPEAKER_04 1:29:12

You gotta see some of them grannies in the club.

SPEAKER_00 1:29:15

Well, the granny, you gotta understand the granny, grannies when I was younger with grannies, 80s, you know, 90s.

SPEAKER_05 1:29:22

No, they had they had that little house coat.

SPEAKER_00 1:29:24

Yeah, exactly.

SPEAKER_05 1:29:25

Now now granny You know the flowers on it, and they had that little flower on the hand yielding them biscuits. It was grannies there.

SPEAKER_00 1:29:33

Now grannies are, you know, 40-year-old women. That's grannies. Hey, I mean, you know.

SPEAKER_05 1:29:40

I don't look like a grand. I don't know. You don't look like a granny. Everybody tell me I look like I'm 28. You know, don't do that. Don't give me. Let's wrap it up because you're giving me that side eye like baby. I done had so many people tell me that you can't take that from me. I look 28.

SPEAKER_00 1:30:01

I agree with you, man. I'm on your side.

SPEAKER_04 1:30:04

Thank you. Oh, thank you so much. Oh, now you're nodding your head. Okay. L be hating in the background. He need to get on the mic. All the hating he be doing.

SPEAKER_00 1:30:18

Oh, pause. He can't say things like that about that. He doesn't like that. He don't like that. He doesn't like that kind of talk.

SPEAKER_05 1:30:24

What's wrong with the mic? The microphone. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 1:30:27

Oh my God. You gotta pause when you say things like that.

SPEAKER_05 1:30:30

Y'all means in these pausing.

SPEAKER_00 1:30:33

What is so we're not getting into that. Okay. Yeah, you gotta put a pause in front of stuff like that. You can't just say, you know, on the mic like that. She's really going in. Okay. All right. Pause. Nah, go ahead and put what you got coming up? What you got going on that you got coming up late in the news?

SPEAKER_05 1:31:00

Okay, so I actually am working on I'm trying to decide if I want to make um it an actual book. But I actually came up with a um e-book and it's actually gonna be um it's like uh it was biblical inspired. Even though, you know, I'm a spiritual but I have named the book she and it's a sacred text of pleasure, power, and prosperity. And it it was kind of like this thing, I was like, you know what, we need pussy affirmations, we need things that we need to be able to say to, you know, our vagina and understand as women how sacred and powerful we are. You know, yeah, I wanted to create a few of those and have a collection of pussy affirmations, and it has like ones for self-love and confidence manifesting and attracting, you know. Like I can just give you a few um of the affirmations. One is my presence turns heads and open hearts. Another one is my pussy is a magnet for love, luxury, and generosity. I really shame and calling sacred wholeness. I am the altar, my pleasure is an offering. So it's things you could say because a lot of times, um, and I know I say it a lot, pussy, and I talk about sex because I'm so free and open to it because I have found my wholeness within it. Um, my views on sex is totally different than mainstream views and the normal person's um understanding of what sex is. To me, it's an amazing energy, it's a powerhouse and people just abuse it. It's one of those things that is labeled dangerous, but it's actually very, very, very beneficial if you use it in the right way.

SPEAKER_00 1:33:12

Exactly.

SPEAKER_05 1:33:13

So, yeah, so I'm gonna end up puddling that out. It's gonna be an ebook, so yeah, stay tuned. Follow me on Niana Renee on all platforms, Instagram and Facebook. And yeah, it's a pleasure to be in here with you, Eric, and the co-host. It was a pleasure to have you today. Yeah, this is most definitely a little different.

SPEAKER_00 1:33:34

Yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_05 1:33:35

Shout out to your co-hosts, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 1:33:37

Shout out to Renita. Sorry, she couldn't be here today with us to join us. She'll be back with us soon, hopefully. And definitely shout out Renee for come on today.

SPEAKER_05 1:33:48

Anytime you need to come feel in, um I'm just make sure I got that plate right. Yeah, feed me, yeah.

SPEAKER_02 1:33:57

I love the fee.

SPEAKER_05 1:33:59

I am a look, I am a foodie. That's the best way to my heart. Feed me. That's a love language.

SPEAKER_00 1:34:10

We back on that one. Yeah. All right. Well, I might as well close out the show with that one. Um, but yeah. Thank y'all for listening this week, man. Shout out to Digital Based Media Group for hosting us today. Shout out to the Feed Watchers podcast. Y'all make sure y'all tune in and listen up for new episodes weekly. Uh, we're gonna get out of here. Take it easy.