“You Don’t Actually Want Peace Like You Say You Do”

In this Real Talk Friday episode of Chic in the Spirit, Sherita McShae gets honest about something many of us say we want… but our choices don’t always reflect—peace.

A lot of people say they’re tired of drama. They say they’re done with certain cycles, certain people, and certain situations. But when the moment comes to make a different decision, we often go right back to the same things that disturb the very peace we claim to want.

In this conversation, Sherita breaks down the truth about alignment, discipline, and personal responsibility when it comes to protecting your peace. Because peace isn’t just something you pray for—it’s something you choose through your decisions.

Using Proverbs 3:5-6, this episode dives into the quiet moments where we ignore what God already showed us… the small decisions that lead to repeated patterns… and the internal self-check that many people try to avoid.

This is a real, reflective, and spiritually grounded conversation about recognizing where we may be interrupting our own peace—and what it actually takes to walk in the life God is trying to lead us into.

If you’ve ever said “I just want peace in my life” but still found yourself stuck in the same emotional cycles… this episode will challenge you to pause, reflect, and ask the deeper question:

Are you really choosing the peace you say you want?

🎧 Chic in the Spirit with Sherita McShae

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Transcript

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Hello and welcome to Faith Unfiltered, Real Talk Friday, where the filter comes off and the faith gets real. I'm Srinam Mache and this is your space to breathe, be honest, and build. No fluff, just real talk and raw faith to help you finish the week strong. Let's talk about it. Hey family, it's your girl Srinam Mache and welcome back to Chicken the Spirit. And listen, before we get into anything, I want you to slow down for a second. Because this is not one of those episodes you can just press play on, listen halfway, and move on with your day like nothing happened. This is one of those conversations where if you're really honest with yourself, you're going to hear something that's going to make you pause. Not because it's new, but because it's something you've already been feeling, something you've already noticed, something you've probably already had a quiet moment about. But maybe you didn't fully sit with it. And I'm coming from a place of I got this all figured out because I had to check myself on this too. This is one of those topics where you can't just look at other people. You have to look at how you've been moving, what you've been choosing, and how those choices are showing up in your life. Let me say something, and I don't want you to react to it quick. I want you to really think about it. A lot of people say they want peace, they say they're tired, they say they don't want drama, they say they're done with certain situations. But if you really pay attention, their choices don't reflect that. And I'm not talking about what you say out loud, I'm talking about what you actually do when the moment comes. Because there's a difference between saying I want peace and actually choosing it when it requires something from you. And I had to sit with this in a real way because there were moments where I found myself saying, I just want peace in my life, and I meant it, like I felt it. I was tired of certain patterns, tired of certain feelings, tired of dealing with the same type of situations over and over again. But then I had to really look at my actions because in those same seasons, I was still entertaining things I knew didn't align with that. And I'm not talking about big, obvious things, I'm talking about the small decisions that we don't always pay attention to. Answering something I knew I should have left alone, going back to a conversation I knew wasn't going anywhere, giving energy to something that had already shown me what it was. And in those moments, I had to pause and really ask myself, why am I still choosing this? If I say I want something different, because at some point it stops being about what you want and it becomes about what you're willing to do. Alright, let's get into the word coming from the book of Proverbs chapter three verses five through six. Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways, submit to him, and he will make your paths straight. Now let's really talk about this in real life terms, not just reading it, but actually applying it. When it says lean not on your own understanding, what that really means is this there are going to be moments where what you feel like doing is not what you should do. And those moments are not always dramatic. They're usually quiet. They show up in those small decisions where something in you is telling you don't respond. Don't go back. Don't entertain that. But your feelings are pulling you in the opposite direction. And if we're being honest, a lot of times we follow what feels familiar instead of what we know is right. And that's where we step out of alignment. Because peace is not random. Peace is connected to alignment. Alignment with your choices, alignment with your obedience, alignment with what you already know God has shown you. So when you keep choosing things that go against that, it's not that peace is being taken from you, it's that you're stepping away from it. And that's the part people don't like to admit. Because now it's not about what's happening to you, it's about what you're choosing. Let's open with prayer. Lord, thank you for the clarity that you've already given us, even in the moments where we try to act like we don't see it or don't fully understand it. Help us to stop overriding what we already know is right just because something feels easier in the moment, and give us the strength to actually choose differently, even when it's uncomfortable. Let this not just be something we hear and agree with, but something that actually shifts how we move after this. In Jesus' name we pray. Amen. Let's get into the message. Let's really sit in this because peace sounds good when you say it. It sounds good to say, I just want peace. I don't want to deal with this anymore. But what people don't always talk about is that peace requires discipline. And not the kind of discipline that looks good on the outside. I'm talking about the kind of discipline that shows up in private decisions. The kind that shows up when nobody else sees it. Because peace is not about avoiding everything, it's about how you respond when something presents itself. And this is what I mean. You can say you want peace, but if something shows up that you know is going to pull you back into confusion and you still engage with it, you didn't choose peace in that moment. You chose what felt familiar. And that's where people get stuck because familiarity feels comfortable, even when it's not good for you. So now you're in this cycle where you say you want peace, but you keep choosing what disturbs it. You say you're tired, but you keep going back to what drains you. And over time that creates frustration because you're not seeing change, but your decisions haven't changed, and that's the hard part to sit with. It's time for some real talk. Let's be real. Some of y'all are not lacking peace. You're interrupting it. And I'm not saying that to come at you. I'm saying that because once you recognize it, you can actually change it. Because if you really trace it back, you can see the exact moment where things shifted. That moment where you responded when you knew you shouldn't have. That moment where you entertained something you already knew wasn't right. That moment where you revisited something you already experienced before, and you might say it was just small, but small decisions create patterns, and patterns create outcomes. So now you're dealing with something and wondering why it feels the same again. But if you go back, you'll see where you chose it. And again, that's not judgment, that's awareness. Because once you see your part in it, you also see your power to change it. So now I need you to really sit with this. Not quickly answer it, but really think about it. Where in your life are you choosing things that go against what you say you want? Where are you entertaining situations that you already know the outcome of? Where are you going back to something that you already said you were done with? And if you're honest, what is it about that situation that keeps pulling you back? Is it comfort or is it emotional attachment? Because once you identify that, you start understanding your own patterns. And here's the truth in all of this. Peace is not something you wait for. Peace is something you build through your decisions. It's built in the moments where you choose not to respond. It's built in the moments where you choose to walk away. It's built in the moments where you choose what aligns over what feels good temporarily. And that takes consistency. Not one time, not when it's easy, but over and over again. Here's our faith confession. Say this with me slowly. I choose peace in my decisions. I will no longer entertain what disturbs me. I trust myself to walk away from what I already know is not right. I choose alignment over comfort. Let's close with prayer. Father, thank you for showing us where our choices have not aligned with what we say we want. Give us the discipline to choose differently and the strength to follow through on what we already know is right. Help us not just to want peace, but to actually live in it. In Jesus' name we pray. Amen. Alright, family, listen, you don't find peace, you choose it, and until your actions line up with what you say you want, you're going to keep experiencing the same cycles. So be honest with yourself and start choosing differently. And if this episode spoke to you, if you felt this in a real way, or you have a testimony, something God brought you through, or even something you're currently navigating, you can always email me at Chick in the Spirit Podcast at gmail.com. I will love to hear from you. Remember, it's your girl, Sharita Mache, and this is Chick in the Spirit, where we keep it real and we keep it God. I'll see y'all next Friday. And that's it for this Real Talk Friday. Take what spoke to you, pray on it, and walk it out. Faith isn't always pretty, but it's always powerful when it's real. Catch me next Friday, right here on Chicken the Spirit. Until then, keep it real, keep it rooted, and let your life speak louder than your doubt.