You Don’t Even Like That… So Why You Doing It?

In this raw and eye-opening Monday episode of Chic in the Spirit, your girl Sherita McShae is getting real about something most people don’t talk about—the quiet ways we start tolerating things that no longer align with who we are.

This isn’t about obvious wrong decisions… this is about the subtle shifts. The moments where you realize, “This doesn’t even feel like me anymore”… but you stay anyway. You adjust. You keep going like it’s normal.

Sherita breaks down how we slowly conform without even realizing it—through environments, conversations, habits, and people we’ve outgrown. With a powerful reminder from Romans 12:2, this episode challenges you to check what you’ve been allowing to become “normal”… and calls you back to alignment.

If you’ve ever:

• Stayed somewhere that didn’t feel right
• Adjusted just to keep the peace
• Ignored that inner check

…this episode is for you.

It’s time to stop operating from habit and start moving in alignment.

Because just because you got used to it… doesn’t mean it’s right for you anymore.

Transcript

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Welcome to Chick in the Spirit, where faith meets flair and style meets scripture. I'm your host, Shrita Mache. Get ready for real talk, spiritual growth, and a whole lot of grace. Let's get into it. Hey family, it's your girl Srita Mache and welcome back to Chick in the Spirit. Listen, I want you to slow down with me for a second because this is one of those conversations that doesn't hit loud at first. It's not dramatic, it's not obvious, it's not something people always call out. But once you recognize it, you start seeing it everywhere, in your choices, in your habits, in the spaces you keep showing up in, in the things you keep entertaining. And I had one of those quiet moments where I had to stop and really look at myself, not from a judgment place, but from an honest place. Because sometimes the issue is not that something is wrong, it's that it no longer fits you, and you're still doing it anyway. Let me ask you something, and don't answer this quick. Have you ever been somewhere doing something around certain people? And had a moment where you mentally stepped back and realized I don't even like this. Not it's okay, not I can tolerate it. I mean really felt it like this doesn't feel good to me. This doesn't align with me anymore. This doesn't even feel like who I am right now. But instead of stopping, instead of removing yourself, instead of being honest about it, you stayed, you adjusted, you kept going like it was normal. And I had to really sit with that in my own life because I found myself in a moment like that, where I was engaging in something and nothing about it felt right to me anymore. And it wasn't loud, it wasn't like something major happened, it was suitable. It was a feeling that quiet, this ain't it. And instead of immediately checking it, instead of stepping back, I stayed in it. I kept the conversation going. I stayed present in the moment. I acted like it was fine, and later, when I really sat with it, I had to ask myself a real question. When did I start being okay with things I don't even like? Because there was a time where I wouldn't have entertained that at all. There was a time where I would have removed myself immediately. So what changed? And that's the part we don't always want to face. Let's get into the word coming from the book of Romans chapter 12 verse 2. Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Now let's really break this down in real life. Because we hear the world and we think big, we think external, we think culture, but this applies to everyday situations. This is about what you allow to become normal for you. Because the more you're around something, the more you expose to it, the more you entertain it, the more it starts to feel normal. Even if it's not aligned, even if it doesn't feel right, even if it doesn't match who you really are. And that's how people start adjusting without realizing it. You don't wake up one day and decide to be different, you slowly adapt. You tolerate more, you accept more, you adjust your standards, and before you know it, you're operating in spaces that don't even reflect you anymore. And that's what this scripture is warning against. Because if you don't consciously check what you're allowing, you will unconsciously conform to it. Let us open with prayer. Lord, thank you for awareness because sometimes we don't even realize how much we've adjusted until you allow us to see it clearly. Help us to recognize what no longer aligns with us, even if it's something we've gotten used to, and give us the courage to be honest about it and move accordingly. In Jesus' name we pray. Amen. Get into the message. Let's really go there because a lot of us are doing things we don't even like anymore. Not because we enjoy it, but because we've gotten used to it. And there's a difference because when you like something, it's naturally aligned with you. But when you're used to something, you tolerate it. And tolerance will keep you stuck in places you've already outgrown. And this is what that looks like in real life. You keep showing up in environments that drain you, but you tell yourself it's not that bad. You keep entertaining conversations that don't add anything to you, but you go along with it to avoid being uncomfortable. You keep being around people that don't align with where you are, but you stay because it's familiar. And the longer you stay in that, the more you disconnect from yourself. Because now you're not operating from alignment, you're operating from habit. And habits don't always reflect growth. Sometimes they reflect what you haven't let go of yet. For some real talk. Let's be real. Some of y'all are not being yourselves in certain spaces anymore. And it's not because you don't know who you are, it's because you've adjusted so much to what's around you that you've started operating based on the environment instead of your identity. You laugh at things you don't actually find funny. You entertain conversations that don't sit right with you. You stay connected to things that don't pour into you, and then you leave feeling drained, irritated, or off, and you can't even fully explain why. But if you really sit with it, it's because you went against yourself. You ignored that feeling, you ignored that check, you ignored what you knew didn't align, and that builds up over time. So now I need you to really sit with this. Where in your life are you tolerating something you don't even like anymore? Where are you staying in something that doesn't feel like you? Where are you adjusting yourself just to keep something going? And if you're honest, why? Is it comfort? Is it familiarity? Is it not wanting to disrupt the dynamic? Because once you enter that, you start seeing things clearly. And here's the truth in all of this. Just because something becomes normal doesn't mean it's right for you. Just because you got used to it doesn't mean it aligns with who you are now. Growth will always require you to re-evaluate what you're allowing in your life. And sometimes that means letting go of things that you've simply gotten used to. Here's our faith confession. Say this with me slowly. I will no longer tolerate what doesn't align with me. I trust what I feel when something is no longer right. I give myself permission to outgrow what I've gotten used to. I choose alignment over comfort. Let's end with prayer. Father, thank you for showing us where we've been settling into things that no longer align with who we are. Give us the strength to be honest with ourselves and the courage to move away from what we've outgrown. Help us to choose alignment even when it requires change. In Jesus' name we pray. Amen. Alright family, listen, just because you got used to something doesn't mean it's right for you. Pay attention to what no longer feels like you, because that feeling is trying to tell you something. And if this episode spoke to you, if you felt this in a real way, or you have a testimony, something God brought you through, or even something you're currently navigating, you can always email me at chick in the spirit podcast at gmail.com. I will love to hear from you. It's your girl, Sharita Mache, and this is Chick in the Spirit, where we keep it real and we keep it God. I'll see y'all next Monday. Thanks for tuning in to Chick in the Spirit. Don't forget to subscribe, share this with a friend, and follow me at Sharita Mache. Until next time, keep it cute, keep it covered in prayer, and keep it chick in the spirit.