Solo Episode 3: What Happens When You Finally Choose Yourself?

What if the life you've been praying for begins the moment you finally choose yourself?

Sometimes the hardest decision a woman will ever make… is choosing herself.

Over the past few weeks on She Shines, we’ve explored two powerful truths: many women are high functioning but quietly unfulfilled, and what often feels like being stuck is really a call toward alignment.

In this week’s solo episode, Coach KG brings the conversation full circle by exploring the moment every woman eventually reaches — the moment she realizes that surviving isn’t enough anymore.

Choosing yourself isn’t selfish.
 It’s the beginning of living intentionally.

In this episode you’ll discover:
 • Why women delay choosing themselves
 • How alignment begins with one courageous decision
 • What shifts when you finally say yes to your next chapter

If the past two episodes spoke to your heart, this conversation may be the invitation you’ve been waiting for.

✨ Ready to take the next step?

Coach KG is hosting The Clarity Reset, a live guided experience designed to help you pause, reflect, and realign with the life you’re meant to live.

Two sessions available:
 March 8 | March 12

Register Today:

Sunday, March 8th - https://buy.stripe.com/3cI8wQ3Edg9Oabz2QRcQU01

Thursday, March 12th - https://buy.stripe.com/6oU7sM5Ml4r66ZnajjcQU02

RISE. RECLAIM. RADIATE.

Transcript

SPEAKER_01 0:22

Well, hello, beautiful people. Welcome back to She Shines. This is Karen, Coach KG Gilliam, and I am a transformational coach, a published author, and a woman who, like other women this month, are celebrating the achievements and the voices of women who have shined through the years and the ages. It's Women History Month. And this is a solo episode number three. And it's sort of been a series about clarity, about being unfulfilled, even though you're functioning highly, also about being out of alignment. And so today is the last episode, and we will have a guest that will be featured next week. But today I want to talk about something that I know many women struggle with. And that is choosing themselves. Not selfishly, not impulsively, intentionally. Because many women wait for permission to change. Well, Coach KG, what do you mean wait for permission? Permission from timing? It's got to be the right time. I'll wait until the right time. That's basically asking for permission to wait. Permission from family. You want to make sure that you aren't doing anything that members of your family will object to or be disappointed in you for. So you wait for that permission. And then permission from certainty. You're just not quite sure. So when I have that certainty, that permission from certainty, then I'll make a choice.

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But sometimes permission never comes.

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So I'm going to have a transparent moment with you right now. You know, one of the reasons why I am so passionate in what I do as a transformational coach is because my life transformed. Decision is so important. But when I decided to tap into who I truly was and what I had been designed to do, you see, for most of my life, I was waiting for that permission in timing. Because I'm so family oriented, I was waiting for permission from my family. And then doubt wanted to creep in. And so I wasn't really certain about what I needed to do.

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And am I ever so grateful that about four decades ago, I invested in me.

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Now, going to college, I did for two years, but I'ma tell you, it was when I tapped into having a coach, and she could not have come at a better time in my life. Because she had more belief in me than I had in myself.

SPEAKER_00 5:24

She saw the possibilities of what I could do before I saw it. And I'm here to tell you that in the twenty-something years, that's right, twenty-something years that I worked with her, that I learned from her. Because the person that he first met was not the person that I was after working with my coach. And I'm here to tell you today, for those of you listening, it's possible for you to.

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Oh yes, it does.

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Because aligned energy changes decisions.

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Sometimes faith looks like stepping forward before you see proof.

SPEAKER_00 8:55

And that is faith. Faith is action. And before you can see the proof, it is by faith that you step forward.

SPEAKER_01 9:16

Alignment requires courage. See, when you're in alignment, fear cannot be present.

SPEAKER_00 9:33

Faith and fear can't reside in the same span of time.

SPEAKER_01 9:43

So alignment requires courage. And courage often looks like saying, I'm ready to stop surviving and start becoming so I may thrive.

SPEAKER_00 10:05

Write that down. I'm ready to stop surviving and start becoming so I can thrive.

SPEAKER_01 10:22

So just like the other two solo episodes of this series, I have some reflection questions. So if you're listening now, but you're driving or you're working out or fixing dinner, whatever it is you're doing, but you're listening, I want to invite you to go back and listen again to these reflection questions and ask yourself these questions and be truthful with your answers. The first question that I want you to reflect on is what decision have you been postponing? I told you it starts with a decision. Basically, you are making a decision right now, but you're making a decision to postpone. So what decision have you been postponing?

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Second question.

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What would choosing yourself look like this month? I mean, we might as well start. This is March second, when I am recording this episode. So we're in the month of March, women's history month. What would choosing yourself as a woman look like this month?

SPEAKER_00 12:06

And then third, if nothing changes, where will you be six months from now?

SPEAKER_01 12:22

If nothing changes, if everything stayed the same as it is right now, where will you be six months from now?

SPEAKER_00 12:48

Please be honest with yourselves, ladies.

SPEAKER_01 12:57

If you've been listening to these past weeks of my solo episodes, and you feel a shift, something shifted inside of you, I want you to know this is exactly why I created the Essence Excellence Workshop.

SPEAKER_00 13:37

And the first part of this is called the Clarity Reset. March eighth and March twelfth are two dates for eight women at each session. That's it. Eight women. Because this is an intimate interactive process for you to gain clarity.

SPEAKER_01 14:30

It's a guided alignment process. There will be a clarity exercise.

SPEAKER_00 14:43

It will be live coaching from me. You don't have to figure this out alone. Over forty years ago, I didn't have to figure it out alone. And you don't have to wait for another season to begin again.

SPEAKER_01 15:34

So if you happened to just catch this episode, I invite you to go back to the previous two episodes. One episode one was highly functioning, but unfulfilled. And then the second one was about alignment. You are not asking permission anymore.

SPEAKER_00 16:16

You are choosing alignment. So I invite you to make a decision today.

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Either choose to join me on Sunday, March eighth, seven PM Eastern Time, six PM Central Time, four PM Pacific.

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Or join me on Thursday, March twelfth, same time of the session, the clarity reset. And you know me.

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You know what I'm going to share with you right now.

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Nothing changes until you change your mind.

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But I love you. I want you to keep rising. I want you to keep reclaiming, and as always, keep shining.

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In the show notes, there will be the links for you to sign up for the Clarity Reset. Don't let another season go by.

SPEAKER_01 18:18

Join us in the Facebook group She Shines 2025. And you can search that in the Facebook search engine, and we will show up. And that is another area. We're over a hundred members now. And so I invite you to join us. Also, if you'd like to send me an email, please, by all means, send it to Coach KG, the number 57 at gmail.com. I have a shout out before I end. And the shout out goes out to Laverne, who text me and said that she loved episode two of the solo episodes, this series. And so she said, but I've got to go back and do the questions. Yes, I invite you to take the time for you. Choose you now. This is the last month of the first quarter of 2026. Can you believe it? But I am not gonna just keep rambling on. I'm excited to see you in the Clarity Reset, the Essence Excellence Workshop. And the eight women for Sunday and the eight women for Thursday are what I call the elite eight.

SPEAKER_00 20:09

Because it's just the eight of you and myself. You're elite. So thank you so much for listening.

SPEAKER_01 20:21

Again, I love you, but nothing changes until you change your mind. Have a great day.

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Will you do real light or let your spirit break free? You got power inside you, more than you can see. Time to realize, reclaim what's meant to be.