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HOUSE OF H.E.R
Welcome to House of H.E.R. (Healed, Empowered, Rich) a space for women who have been through it… and are choosing themselves anyway.
This podcast is hosted by Hollie a mum, survivor of domestic abuse, late-diagnosed with ADHD, and a woman rebuilding her life from the inside out. House of H.E.R. is rooted in real experiences of domestic abuse trauma, healing, and starting again when everything you thought you were has fallen away.
Here we talk about emotional and domestic abuse, trauma bonding, ADHD, nervous system healing, self-worth, identity loss, motherhood, and the messy middle of becoming someone new. These are honest conversations for women who are tired of pretending they’re fine and ready to feel safe in themselves again.
This podcast is for the woman who is just coming out of survival mode. The woman who is exhausted, confused, grieving who she used to be, and questioning everything but still standing. If you’re learning how to feel again, how to trust yourself again, and how to exist without fear, this space was made for you.
You don’t need to be healed to be here. You don’t need the answers. You just need somewhere that understands what it costs to leave and what it takes to begin again.
HOUSE OF H.E.R
The Silent Crowd: Victim Shaming, Enabling, and the Cost of Standing By
In one of our most unfiltered and urgent conversations yet, we unpack the hidden harm of victim shaming and enabling: the moments when silence, minimisation, and misplaced loyalty feed abuse instead of stopping it. From family members brushing things under the rug to friends still inviting abusers to the barbecue, we name the ways “not getting involved” makes you part of the problem.
We share personal stories of being dismissed, doubted, and told “it’s not that bad,” and explore how that apathy can be more soul-crushing than the abuse itself. This episode isn’t just for survivors — it’s for friends, family, and bystanders who might one day be the lifeline someone needs.
It’s fierce, it’s raw, and it’s a call to action: stop excusing harm. Stop enabling it. And stop letting it hide in plain sight.
Trigger warning: contains discussion of abuse, victim shaming, suicide, and mental health.
10 ways you can help end violence against women:
- Listen to and believe survivors
- Teach the next generation and learn from them
- Call for responses and services fit for purpose
- Understand consent
- Learn the signs of abuse and how you can help
- Start a conversation
- Stand against rape culture
- Fund women's organizations
- Hold each other accountable
- Know the data and demand more of it
If you need support right now, here are some resources that may help:
National Domestic Abuse Helpline - 0808 200 0247
Samaritans (UK) – Call 116 123 (free, 24/7)
National Suicide Prevention Helpline (US) – Call or text 988
Crisis Text Line (US/UK) – Text HOME to 741741
Women’s Aid (UK) – womensaid.org.uk
‘I’m not sure if my relationship is healthy/ I’m worries about someone else/ I need support - The survivors handbook: https://www.womensaid.org.uk/informat...
Claires Law - Apply for information about your current or ex-partner because you're worried they may have a history of abuse and are a risk to you: https://www.met.police.uk/rqo/request...
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House of H.E.R. is a space for women who have lived through abuse, trauma, and relationships that broke them. This podcast exists to tell the truth, raise awareness around domestic abuse, and remind you that you are not alone in what you’re healing from.
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https://stan.store/houseofherpod
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