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HOUSE OF H.E.R
Welcome to House of H.E.R. (Healed, Empowered, Rich) a space for women who have been through it… and are choosing themselves anyway.
This podcast is hosted by Hollie a mum, survivor of domestic abuse, late-diagnosed with ADHD, and a woman rebuilding her life from the inside out. House of H.E.R. is rooted in real experiences of domestic abuse trauma, healing, and starting again when everything you thought you were has fallen away.
Here we talk about emotional and domestic abuse, trauma bonding, ADHD, nervous system healing, self-worth, identity loss, motherhood, and the messy middle of becoming someone new. These are honest conversations for women who are tired of pretending they’re fine and ready to feel safe in themselves again.
This podcast is for the woman who is just coming out of survival mode. The woman who is exhausted, confused, grieving who she used to be, and questioning everything but still standing. If you’re learning how to feel again, how to trust yourself again, and how to exist without fear, this space was made for you.
You don’t need to be healed to be here. You don’t need the answers. You just need somewhere that understands what it costs to leave and what it takes to begin again.
HOUSE OF H.E.R
Healing After Abuse: Addiction, Attachment Styles & Rebuilding Love
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In this episode of House of H.E.R., Hollie is joined by Tiarny and Ben from Australia for a powerful conversation about healing after trauma, addiction, and abusive relationships.
Both guests share their deeply personal journeys from surviving toxic relationships, addiction, and emotional wounds to rebuilding their lives and learning how to create healthy, secure relationships.
Together we explore the realities of healing after abuse, including the impact trauma has on the nervous system, attachment styles, and why relationships after abuse can feel so confusing and triggering.
This conversation also dives into how men can create emotional safety in relationships, why healing requires both partners to do the work, and the importance of accountability, boundaries, and self-worth when rebuilding your life.
This episode is not just for women it’s also an important conversation for men, partners, and anyone wanting to understand the deeper emotional impact of trauma and abuse.
By sharing these stories and insights, our hope is to remind anyone listening that healing is possible, growth is possible, and healthy love does exist.
What We Cover In This Episode
• Ben’s journey from addiction, crime and prison to sobriety and rebuilding his life
• Tiarny’s experience of domestic abuse and the long road to healing
• Why trauma changes the nervous system and how hyper-vigilance develops
• The difference between anxious and avoidant attachment styles
• Why relationships after abuse can feel triggering and confusing
• The importance of emotional intelligence in healthy relationships
• How men can create emotional safety for women after trauma
• Why healing requires both partners to take responsibility for their growth
• Addiction, abusive behaviour, and why the two are often connected
• Why therapy helps with understanding trauma but deeper healing requires action
• The power of doing the inner work before entering a healthy relationship
• Why shared healing journeys can transform relationships
I’m really excited for you to hear this one.
Go show them some love:
@tiarnyls
@benlowecoaching
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If you are affected by domestic abuse, please know you are not alone and support is available:
• National Domestic Abuse Helpline (UK) – 0808 2000 247
• Women’s Aid – womensaid.org.uk
• Refuge – refuge.org.uk
If you are in immediate danger, please contact 999.
House of H.E.R. is a space for women who have lived through abuse, trauma, and relationships that broke them. This podcast exists to tell the truth, raise awareness around domestic abuse, and remind you that you are not alone in what you’re healing from.
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