Unleash Your Inner Superwoman: The Coach Lee Way!

✨ Hello, I'm Fran, your NLP Coach. In this episode, I'm interviewing Coach Lee.

Meet Coach Lee, a productivity and accountability coach helping women unleash their inner superwoman. If you’re pursuing goals on an empty cup, Coach Lee shows you how to refuel with self-care, gain clarity, and act with confidence.

You can connect to Coach Lee in the following ways ⬇️
https://www.legallee.me/
https://www.instagram.com/legallee.me/
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCbCvn4SZN6hHvOnU6XFY9Vw
https://www.linkedin.com/in/legalleeme

Find me @ www.melancholymentor.com

As a coach, I listen without judgment, understanding that others views may differ from my own.

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Transcript

Welcome to Melancholy Coaching Podcast

Fran 0:00

Hello everyone , welcome to the Melancholy Coaching Podcast . I'm Fran , your host and NLP coach . Join me as I interview inspiring business owners and self-improvement seekers about their experiences , while delving into personal development , motivation and strategies for overcoming challenges . Let's ignite our creative potential together .

Meet Coach Lee: Unleashing Inner Superwoman

Fran 0:36

Hello and welcome to the Melancholy Coaching Podcast . I'm Fran , your NLP coach , and I'm thrilled to welcome a productivity and accountability coach who helps women unleash the power within by channeling their inner superwoman . Coach Lee guides women to stop pouring from an empty cup , recognize the hidden pockets of time in a busy day and pursue their goals with clarity , consistency and confidence . Coach Lee , welcome to the show . Thank you for having me . You're very , very welcome . I've got a couple of questions for you and we'll just have a little chat around that , if that's okay with you of course I'm down amazing right .

Fran 1:14

So the first thing that I'm really curious to know is what does it mean to channel your inner superwoman , and how can listeners start applying that mindset after hearing this podcast ?

Channeling Your Inner Superwoman Explained

Coach Lee 1:29

Well , first you have to kind of like tap into yourself . You got to kind of get into the nitty gritty of yourself to kind of know who you are , because in order to channel something you have to know what it is to bring it out . But essentially it's getting to the core of you . Who are you ? What is your identity ? Not necessarily the roles that society has given you wife , mother , entrepreneur , employer , niece , whatever it is but who you are . Yes , you can be defined by those things . But oftentimes we let society kind of like put us in a box and don't put yourself in a box . If you want to be big and loud and bold , be that . So channeling that inner superwoman is kind of turning inward , first to know who you are , the roles you play , how you want to be identified , how you want to identify , and then bringing that out and showcasing that to the world .

Fran 2:16

See identity level and things that identity are very , very fascinating to me because until I actually did coach training myself and because I'm more on the neuro-linguistic programming side , but since I did that , I didn't have any idea that we could have different identities . I understood personas or characters , but I didn't realise that we can take on identities even from when we're very , very young , by the things that we're told or what people call us or you're a good girl , or you're this or you're that and you take it on as an identity . It's not necessarily what you would choose to be or who you would choose to be , so it still blows my mind yeah , and I did a lot of CBT , so cognitive behavioral therapy , like the CBT , coaching training .

Fran 3:07

Yeah , yeah . So women because predominantly you're working with women . Is it predominantly , or you just always work with women ?

Coach Lee 3:15

Predominantly . I've helped a couple of men , but it's predominantly women , because typically men don't have that issue . They're OK with being loud and being bold and being themselves , and they don't let society define roles . Oftentimes it's us women that have that issue . So here to help men too , but it's predominantly women .

Fran 3:30

Yeah , okay . So for any women listening to this podcast , what's like ? How would they start applying that mindset ? You know what's something that they could do ? Just a little thing that they could do .

Coach Lee 3:45

just a little thing that they could do so a thing that I love to say is if you can change your perspective , if you can change your mindset , you can change your life . And so perspective is how you're looking at things . So how are you looking at yourself ? How are you looking at the roles that you play ? And then how can you change your thoughts around that ?

Coach Lee 4:01

If you don't like the thought of being only known as a mother , or only being known as an entrepreneur , or only being known as X , y and Z fill in the blank , whatever it is for you , how can you change that ? Who else are you and what do you want to bring out and showcase ? And so I guess the tiny tip which isn't so tiny , it's tiny in words , but in action it might feel a little bit more is change how you're looking at things , because if you start changing how you look at it , you'll start changing how you think about it and then , as a result , that thing itself will change . So if you stop looking at things , as , for example , with productivity , if you stop looking at productivity as being hard , then you will stop thinking about it being hard and , as a result of that , it will no longer be hard . So , change how you look at it , change how you think about it and then , as a result , that thing itself will start to change .

Fran 4:51

And it's actually knowing that that's possible , because these things sound easy , don't they ? Like you said , we can comprehend these words . It's knowing where to start , but also knowing that it's actually a possibility and that is a choice that your mind can make . 100 . I kind of went through a lot of my life because I'm I'm a woman in my 50s now , so I went through a lot of my life just thinking that things were for other people and not not for me , and that that was okay . You know , I didn't realize that other things were possible , other thoughts were possible , or I think I was just kind of molded into the roles that I'd taken on .

Coach Lee 5:34

Yeah , yeah , I was gonna say it's kind of the difference between a growth mindset or a like a limiting like limiting beliefs .

Fran 5:43

I had a fixed mindset and didn't realize because I didn't realize there are other mindsets possible and I was actually very happy with what I was doing , with being a mother and being a carer . And it was only when things changed you know , life changed . My children were older . I sort of thought , well , what do I do now ?

Fran 6:01

I seem to yeah , I seem to lose all sense of identity , and I think that that can happen to women at various stages in their lives . So it can happen to younger women as well . You know , you might change career or you might move or , and then it's like well , now who am I ? You know , your circle of friends may have changed , or your networking's changed , or your location , and these all play a part in our identity , I believe , as well , because we take on what's around us and what people say to us . So it's knowing that this is possible .

Coach Lee 6:32

So you're , you're here to tell women it's absolutely possible to do this yes , thinking that it's possible , knowing that it's possible , believing that it's possible , and then it's going to be possible

Daily Habits: Putting Yourself First

Coach Lee 6:42

yeah , amazing .

Fran 6:44

I love this . So thinking about right . So thinking about a woman who's interested in putting herself first . Assessment Assessment always easy either . So thinking about a woman who's interested in putting herself first , what's a daily habit that you would recommend ?

Coach Lee 7:03

Ooh , my favorite habit is doing a to-do list . So if you're looking to put yourself first for some people , and starting out especially , you have to put you on a to-do list . So , making a to-do list to say where are you going to pour into you ? For me , I start my mornings out . You know my devotional , my personal development , reading , my workouts . So , planning that , scheduling it , understanding the non-negotiable thing that's going to be putting you first . Is it a daily thing ? Is it a weekly thing ? Is it a monthly thing ?

Coach Lee 7:33

We want to make it a little bit more than a monthly thing . Maybe you have that one thing like maybe you get a massage every month in addition to these other self-care practices that you have throughout the month , but that's like a more deeper you know spa time or something to that effect . But I will start with challenging you to make a to-do list , like putting you on the to-do list , is it ? I just want to get , spend 30 minutes reading , I just want to sit in silence for 10 minutes . Maybe it's a workout , maybe it's taking yourself to lunch , coffee or whatever the case may be . But if you schedule it , you're more likely to do it and you have to remember that you are important , and so when you see you on the to-do list , don't neglect you for this other thing that's more important .

Fran 8:10

Make sure that you kind of know what that is yeah , I like that because I've kind of I love lists . I make lists all the time . I make lists in books , I make lists on lists , like it's just , and I like pen and paper as well , so I do make a list . It would never have occurred to me to actually include myself , you know , maybe the grocery shopping or you know , getting the car serviced and things like that , but not actually like practical things , but not actually like putting myself on there .

Coach Lee 8:39

Um , and that's the thing , especially if you're a list person , if you're so used to making the list and only doing what's on the list , if you don't put you on the list , you can't check you off , because you're like I'm sticking to my list , so where am I in the midst of it ? I'm not the list , so I don't do it .

Fran 8:55

And if for anybody listening , if you think that you're not a list person , then you will have things in your mind Like you maybe start the day thinking oh , I just put the coffee machine on and I've got these appointments , so you've still got a list going . You know , there's something somewhere where you can include yourself , isn't there ?

Coach Lee 9:13

Yeah , somewhere where you can include yourself isn't there ? Yeah , but also with that , I would challenge you that if you think you're not a list person , also think about how many things you forget and therefore you likely do need a list . It could be digital , it could be voice notes to yourself . I'm a combo person . I'm a pen and paper , but also a tech person in terms of my list . I start messy pen and paper , then translate it to digital so that it's on my phone , it's on my computer , I have it at work , I have it with me at all times so I don't lose the notebook , because I used to be a sticky note person and then the sticky note was somewhere or got lost . But I challenge you that , if you're not a list person , if it's not pen and paper , what's the way that you're going to remember ? If you're a calendar person , like putting you on the list , ie putting you on the calendar . So same concept , maybe different method of execution .

Fran 10:01

I like it that you mentioned voice notes , because I do leave myself voice notes . If I'm out and about , I use things like WhatsApp or just a voice recorder or my mobile phone , because many of us have got mobile phones on us . You know if we look at them or not . We've got , we've got some kind of communication device with us and you can actually do that . You can make a chat with yourself , even like on things like messenger and whatsapp , and leave yourself a voice note . So I do like that , I do that quite a lot . You know , like , hey , fran , you know remember this and the other . But imagine that if you , by including yourself on a list , you actually left yourself , maybe you want to leave yourself voice notes and you left yourself voice notes of like something really nice . Like you know , you could use the list as well to say something nice about yourself like note to self .

Coach Lee 10:52

Remember that this this wonderful thing happened today .

Fran 10:56

Yeah . So whether that's digital or you're writing it down , you know that would

Being Bold and Disrupting Productivity Norms

Fran 11:00

be a lovely thing as well , wouldn't it ?

Coach Lee 11:02

Yeah .

Fran 11:03

You know , I have this bowl .

Coach Lee 11:06

This is like my gratitude bowl , so when , like , good things happen , I try to remember to write it down and put it in here , so at the end of the year I can pull it out and just like go through and read them , those little small moments that you forget about , that on that day like touched you .

Coach Lee 11:20

I don't put something in it every day , I put . You know , some days it might have two or three things in there . It might be a week before I put another one in there , but I try to write down . You know , those opportunities that popped up that you didn't know about , that raised that opportunity that you know up that you didn't know about , that raised that opportunity , that lesson that I thought this was going to be bad , but look how it turned out . Like those little , pretty much like those little God weeks , those little nudges and reminders that hey , remember this because you're going to forget about it next week . But at the end of the year , kind of as you reflect over the year , you read back and you're like , oh , I remember this or what was that .

Fran 11:53

So yeah , yeah , you know , instead of potentially things that don't quite go your way or negative thoughts or things like that , it reinforces . You know that good things do happen and you've done good things , so I love that as well . Having some kind of gratitude bowl or jar . That's something that I've often thought about starting and I haven't actually started it , and I talk a lot about gratitude .

Coach Lee 12:24

I've done various iterations of it . I tried to do the , you know , write three things that you're grateful for every day . And I did that for , like you know , 30 , 45 days . And then I'm like , okay , this is . It felt like more work to remember the things that I was grateful for , and then I was like , okay , maybe one a day .

Coach Lee 12:41

And then it kind of became to where now I'm kind of just kind of trying to pause and remind myself throughout the day of , you know , something good , especially when something bad happens and you know you try to get an attitude or you think something's going to ruin your day . You're like , wait a minute , this good thing happened earlier today . This moment isn't a defining thing . And so I kind of ended up with the bowl to write down like those bigger things so that at the end of the year I can kind of look back over the year and just kind of like smile as I'm starting to think and plan for the new year , like , if these things happen , that maybe I intentionally sought out or didn't . What can I , you know , start putting out into the air ? Yeah , welcome , welcome it in .

Fran 13:17

Well , I like that . So it's also reminded me of something else that there's no right or wrong to this , you know . It just is . So if you try something that doesn't it's not really your vibe , it's okay to change it , it's okay to try something else . These are all suggestions and they're a way that we know works , because it's worked for us and it's worked for people that we work with , it's worked for clients that we help for us and it's worked for people that we work with .

Coach Lee 13:43

It's worked for clients that we help , and that's the thing that I love about coaching in and of itself , and especially like with me . I do mostly one-on-one coaching . Well , not really mostly . I do only one-on-one coaching because I want you to figure out what it is that works for you , because sometimes in group settings , sometimes you get lost in the sauce or you're quiet and reserved and you sit back and you're like well , they said that I have to do it this way , but it's not working for me .

Coach Lee 14:05

And so bringing you to the front , ie finding that inner super woman within you , figuring out what it is that's inside of you and is specific to you that might work for you . It might also work for me , or maybe it only works for me in terms of like work , but it doesn't work for me in life . And so figuring out what it is that works for you is important . So , yes , I very much echo , like what we're saying , our suggestions . They may or may not work for you , or you might have some adaption that you're like well , maybe I don't write a list , but every morning I'm , as I'm making my coffee , I do this checklist of what's going on today , and that works for me . Hey , we're not knocking it .

Fran 14:39

Yeah , we're here to offer accountability . So , yeah , we're here to offer accountability so as coaches because obviously we're both coaches , so exactly we're here to offer accountability . So , by that one-to-one coaching that you do , that's , that's a bespoke package for somebody , that's that's very powerful and very deep work that you can do with with a particular person , and by that , well , they're not on their own , because that accountability will be there . You know , those milestones , those progresses or that transformation is what you're offering , isn't it ?

Coach Lee 15:12

Exactly and that's how , when I came up with like you know , we get to choose our coaching name that's how I came up with productivity and accountability . Coaching , like the focus is the productivity aspect , simplifying it , figuring out what works for you . Like the focus is the productivity aspect , simplifying it , figuring out what works for you . But in order to have that , what we often lack is that accountability , that support of someone checking in with you , checking in on you to help you journey through that process . So very much so , that accountability .

Fran 15:35

Yeah , I love that . I want to know what's next for you . So you are a coach and within your coaching , what's next ?

Coach Lee 15:49

What's next ? More of getting the message out , the thing that I love to say is that I'm here to make an impact and I want to change the game of productivity , and so I want to change the way that people , like I said , that perspective , that mindset in their lives . I want to change the way that people look at productivity and the way they think about it so that their life can change as a result of it , because productivity isn't complicated . In fact , we do stuff all the time , but are you doing things that are going to help you be the best version of yourself , move you closer to your goals , be more efficient , be more effective , make that impact if that's your desire , and so for me , what's next is continuing to show up , to be bold .

Coach Lee 16:25

One thing that I was reading about , or thinking about kind of like last week as I was starting to plan for this upcoming month , is being more bold , being more disruptive , and not in a negative way of being more disruptive . But you know how you have those contrary views to what potentially other coaches who do the same thing as you think , or you know the gurus , say , and I have some of those viewpoints and I'm like I need to be more vocal about them , because people are stuck thinking that it has to be this way when it doesn't . And so I think what's next for me is continuing to share the word , continuing to share the message , but also to be bolder , to be louder , to know what it is . Ie channel my inner superwoman and bring that out more and not shrink myself , which is also a very easy thing to do , isn't it Just to shrink yourself to fit , getting comfortable ?

Fran 17:18

Yeah , and I think that any opinions and things like that , obviously as long as they're not to detriment of others we're not here for that but if they're opinions , they're kind of they're all valid in their in their own way , because if you have a North Star and you have a purpose , your purpose is to help women channel their inner superwoman . Help women channel their inner superwoman . So you've got a purpose of the productivity you know , the accountability and everything . The values will then align with that and your voice can speak loudly about that message . That's , that's what we're talking about . You know . It doesn't necessarily mean completely controversial or anything like that , because I believe that even as coaches , there's room for all of us , and as women , there's room for all of us too exactly yeah and Right .

Fran 18:12

This has been very , very , very interesting . I feel like there's always so much to kind of delve into , but what I'd like to say is that you are on social media as atlegallyme , yes , so anybody interested in finding out more about you and what you

Connect With Coach Lee

Fran 18:35

do , that's how they can find you . Is there any particular social media or platform where you're usually found ?

Coach Lee 18:43

Facebook . Well , I guess Instagram would probably be the most active , but also I have a Facebook like page , tiktok , and a little bit on YouTube . So but yeah , it's at Legally , which is L-E-G-a-l-l-e-e .

Fran 18:56

Dot me everywhere and not to the fact that I'm a full-time youtube's my thing , right , youtube's my thing , so I'm gonna find you on youtube , definitely , right , so thank you . Thank you for having me . That's okay , you're very welcome . The message that we can't pull from an empty cup and to put ourselves first is powerful . And again , it's one of those things that I've heard . I don't even know where I ever heard it from . I feel like I've known it for the longest time . You can't pour from an empty cup , but it's just words , unless you know how it's just words or it's for other people . If you don't realize , you can claim it too .

Coach Lee 19:34

Exactly .

Fran 19:35

And that's what you're here to help guide people . So to all the women listening and potentially some of the some of other people as well listening , you deserve to reclaim your time and pursue your goals , and with some women , because coach lee predominantly works with with women . So for all of those curious to know more , again , at legal leeme you can find coach lee and I love talking to other coaches because I really am a strong believer in that it's collaboration over competition and that there's a place for all of us because we've all got our own unique voices and messages to share . So if you're interested in more content like this , be sure to visit and I'm going to promote myself now . So this is wwwmelancholycoachingcom and it's melancholymentoractuallycom . Follow us for the latest updates .

Fran 20:35

I'm down with two things , because I actually started out doing radio dramas on YouTube . So I've got a radio drama and a radio play channel which is called melancholy mentor and it comes from kind of classic literature . So when I retrained as a coach during COVID I , I took up the name Melancholy Coaching . So sometimes I kind of say one but I mean the other . They both are .

Coach Lee 21:00

See , that's part of your identity .

Fran 21:02

I know . So I've actually got a couple of channels . So one is like radio dramas for creativity and the other one's for coaching . So I presume that your YouTube channel that you've either started or you know has it been going a while . Is it purely for coaching or for you , for getting your message out there ?

Coach Lee 21:18

Yeah , Coaching , Essentially I upload . I could do like a weekly live and I upload that and then like some YouTube shorts . I haven't really delved fully into the YouTube world to really say that I'm going all in there , but you know , at least trying to put some stuff up and then if I'm interviewed on other podcasts and things like that and I you know , I'll upload those there as well okay , that's fine , because it's a way of people finding you .

Fran 21:41

Exactly . For transparency again for anybody listening , coach Lee and I don't actually know each other in person . We met online , didn't we ?

Coach Lee 21:50

yes , and we're across the world from each other .

Fran 21:53

I know because I'm based in the UK , on the South Coast , and you are not . No , I'm in the US , yeah , which is amazing . So saying that , do you work with women within the US or would it be international ?

Coach Lee 22:10

International as well . The beauty of virtual , the beauty of the pandemic , which is when I also started . I know you pivoted during the pandemic , but I beauty of the pandemic , which is when I also started . I know you pivoted during the pandemic , but I started during the pandemic and so everything has pretty much been virtual for me yeah , okay , so this is how we can communicate .

Fran 22:25

Now is like by via the wonderful world of the internet and connection , which is amazing , isn't it ? Yes , yes . So thank you so much for joining me , coach Lee . Let's do this again . You so much for joining me , coach Lee . Let's do this again .

Coach Lee 22:38

Yes , thank you for having me .

Fran 22:39

That's okay , you're very welcome and I'm going to come and find you on YouTube and I'm going to ask anybody listening to come and find Coach Lee at legalleeme . Thank you .

Episode Closing and Contact Information

Fran 22:51

Thank you for joining me on the Melancholy Coaching Podcast . I'd love you to subscribe For queries or to connect email info at melancholymentorcom . Until next time , keep igniting your creative potential .