Unleash Your Inner Superwoman: The Coach Lee Way

✨ Hello, I’m Fran, Your NLP & Business Coach. I’m exploring a wide range of business ideas and money-making paths, with practical takeaways you can apply.

In this episode, I'm interviewing Coach Lee.

Meet Coach Lee, a productivity and accountability coach helping women unleash their inner superwoman. If you’re pursuing goals on an empty cup, Coach Lee shows you how to refuel with self-care, gain clarity, and act with confidence.

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https://www.legallee.me/
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https://www.linkedin.com/in/legalleeme
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Find me @ www.melancholymentor.com

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Transcript

Welcome And Guest Introduction

Fran 0:00

Hello everyone. Welcome to the Melancholy Coaching Podcast. I'm Brian, your host and NLP coach. Join me as I interview honoring business owners and self-improvement seekers about their experiences whilst delving into personal development, motivation and strategies for overcoming challenges. Let's ignite our creative potential together. Hello and welcome to the Melancholy Coaching Podcast. I'm Fran, your NLP coach, and I'm thrilled to welcome a productivity and accountability coach who helps women unleash the power within by channeling their inner superwoman. Coach Lee guides women to stop pouring from an empty cup, recognise the hidden pockets of time in a busy day and pursue their goals with clarity, consistency, and confidence. Coach Lee, welcome to the show.

Coach Lee 1:02

Thank you for having me.

Fran 1:04

You're very welcome. I've got a couple of questions for you, and we'll just have a little chat around that if that's okay with you.

Coach Lee 1:11

Of course, I'm down.

Defining The Inner Superwoman

Fran 1:13

Amazing. Right. So the first thing that I'm really curious to know is what does it mean to channel your inner superwoman? And how can listeners start applying that mindset after hearing this podcast?

Coach Lee 1:29

Well, first you have to kind of like tap into yourself. You got to kind of get get get you know, get into the nitty-gritty of yourself to kind of know who you are. Because in order to channel something, you have to know what it is to bring it out. But essentially, it's get into the core of you. Who are you? What is your identity? Not necessarily the roles that society has given you wife, mother, entrepreneur, employer, you know, niece, whatever it is, but who you are. Yes, you can be defined by those things, but oftentimes we let society kind of like put us in a box and don't put yourself in a box. If you want to be big and loud and bold, be that. So channeling that inner superwoman is kind of turning inward first to know who you are, the roles you play, how you want to be identified, how you want to identify, and then bringing that out and showcasing that to the world.

Identity, Labels And Mindset

Fran 2:16

See, I identity level and things that identity are like very, very fascinating to me because until I actually did coach training myself, and um, because I've I'm more on the neurolinguistic programming side, but since I I did that, I didn't have any idea that we could have different identities. I understood personas or characters, but I didn't realise that we can take on identities even from when we're very, very young, by the things that we're told, or what people call us, or you're a good girl, or you're this or you're that, and you take it on as an identity, it's not necessarily what you would choose to be or who you would choose to be. So it still blows my mind.

Coach Lee 3:00

Yeah, and I did a lot of CBT, so cognitive behavioral um therapy, like the CBT coaching training.

Fran 3:07

Yeah, yeah. So women, because predominantly you're you're working with women, is it predominantly or you you just always work with women?

Coach Lee 3:15

Predominantly, I've helped a couple men, but it's predominantly women because typically men don't have that issue. They're okay with being loud and being bold and being themselves, and they don't let society define roles. Oftentimes it's us women that have that issue. So here to help men too, but it's predominantly women.

Fran 3:30

Yeah, okay. So for any women listening to this podcast, what's what's like how would they start applying that mindset? You know, what's what's something that they could do, just a little thing that they could do?

Coach Lee 3:47

So a thing that I love to say is if you can change your perspective, if you can change your mindset, you can change your life. And so perspective is how you're looking at things. So how are you looking at yourself? How are you looking at the roles that you play? And then how can you change your thoughts around that? If you don't like the thought of being only known as a mother or only being known as an entrepreneur, only being known as X, Y, and Z, fill in the blank, whatever it is for you, how can you change that? Who else are you and what do you want to bring out and showcase? And so I guess the the tiny tip, which isn't so tiny, it's tiny in words, but in action, it might be a little bit more, is change how you're looking at things. Because if you start changing how you look at it, you'll start changing how you think about it. And then as a result, that thing itself will change. So if you stop looking at things as, for example, with productivity, if you stop looking at productivity as being hard, then you will stop thinking about it being hard, and as a result of that, it will no longer be hard. So change how you look at it, change how you think about it, and then as a result, that thing itself will start to change.

Practical Mindset Reframes

Fran 4:51

And it's actually knowing that that's possible. Yeah. Because these these things sound easy, don't they? You know, like you said, they're they're kind of we can comprehend these words. It's just it's knowing where to start, but also knowing that it's actually a possibility. And that it is a choice that your mind can make. I kind of went through a lot of my life because I'm I'm a woman in my 50s now, so I went through a lot of my life just thinking that things were for other people and not not for me, and that that was okay. You know, I didn't realise that other things were possible, other thoughts were possible, or I think I was just kind of moulded into the roles that I'd taken on. I don't know.

Coach Lee 5:35

Yeah, it's kind of the difference between Yeah, I was gonna say it's kind of the difference between a growth mindset or a like a limiting, like limiting belief.

Fran 5:44

I had a fixed mindset and didn't realise because I didn't realise there are other minds possible. And I was actually very happy with what I was doing, with being a mother and being a carer, and it was only when things changed, you know, life changed, my children were older. I sort of thought, well, what do I do now? I seem to lose all yeah, I seem to lose all sense of identity. And I think that that can happen to women at various stages in their lives, so it can happen to a younger woman as well. You know, you might change career or you might move, or and then it's like, well, now who am I? You know, your circle of friends may have changed, or your networking's changed, or your location, and these all play a part in our identity, I I believe, as well, because we take on what's around us and what people say to us. So it's knowing that this is possible. So you're you're here to tell women it's absolutely possible to do this.

Coach Lee 6:36

Yes, thinking that it's possible, knowing that it's possible, believing that it's possible, and then it's gonna be possible.

Fran 6:42

Yeah. Amazing. I love this. So thinking about a woman who's interested in putting herself first, because that's not always easy either. So thinking about a woman who's who's interested in putting herself first, what's a daily habit that you would recommend?

Putting Yourself First Daily

Coach Lee 7:03

Oh, my favorite habit is doing a to-do list. So if you're looking to put yourself first, for some people, and starting out especially, you have to put you on a to-do list. So making a to-do list to say where are you gonna pour into you? For me, I start my mornings out, you know, my my my my devotional, my personal development reading, my workouts. So planning that, scheduling it, understanding the non-negotiable thing that's gonna be putting you first. Is it a daily thing? Is it a weekly thing? Is it a monthly thing? We want to make it a little bit more than a monthly thing, but maybe you have that one thing, like maybe you get a massage every month in addition to these other self-care practices that you have throughout the month, but that's like your more deeper, you know, spa time or something to that effect. But I would start with challenging you to make a to-do list, like putting you on the to-do list. Is it, I just want to get spend 30 minutes reading. I just want to sit in silence for 10 minutes. Maybe it's a workout, maybe it's taking yourself to lunch, coffee, or whatever the case may be. But if you schedule it, you're more likely to do it. And you have to remember that you are important. And so when you see you on the to-do list, don't neglect you for this other thing that's more important. Make sure that you kind of know what that is.

Fran 8:14

Yeah, I like that because I've kind of I love lists. I make lists all the time. I make lists in books, I make lists on lists, like it's just and I like pen and paper as well. So I do make a list. It would never have occurred to me to actually include myself. You know, maybe the grocery shopping or, you know, getting the car serviced and things like that, but not actually like practical things, but not actually like putting myself on there.

Coach Lee 8:40

And that's the thing, especially if you're a list person, if you're so used to making the list and only doing what's on the list, if you don't put you on the list, you can't check you off because you're like, I'm sticking to my list. So where am I in the midst of it? I'm not on the list, so I don't do it.

Fran 8:55

And if for anybody listening, if you think that you're not a list person, then you you will have things in your mind. Like you you maybe start the day thinking, oh, I just put the coffee machine on and I've got these appointments. So you've you've still got a list going.

Coach Lee 9:09

Yeah.

Fran 9:10

You know, that there's something somewhere where you can include yourself, isn't there?

Coach Lee 9:13

Yeah. But that also with that, I would challenge you that if you think you're not a list person, also think about how many things you forget, and therefore you likely do need a list. It could be digital, it could be voice notes to yourself. I'm a combo person, I'm a pen and paper, but also a tech person in terms of my list. I start messy pen and paper, then translate it to digital so that it's on my phone, it's on my computer. I have it at work, I have it with me at all times so I don't lose the notebook because I used to be a sticky note person and then it the sticky note was somewhere it got lost. But I challenge you that if you're not a list person, if it's not pen and paper, what's the way that you're gonna remember? If you're a calendar person, like putting you on the list, i.e. putting you on the calendar. So same, same concept, maybe different method of execution.

Fran 10:01

I like it that you mentioned voice notes. Because I do leave myself voice notes. If I'm out and about, I use things like WhatsApp or just a voice recorder or my mobile phone, because many of us have got mobile phones on us, you know, whether we look at them or not, we've got we've got some kind of communication device with us. And you can actually do that, you can make a chat with yourself even, like on things like Messenger and WhatsApp and leave yourself a voice note. So I do like that, I do that quite a lot. You know, like hey Fran, you know, remember this, that, and the other. But imagine that if you by including yourself on a list, you actually left yourself maybe you want to leave yourself voice notes, and you left yourself voice notes of like something really nice. Like, you know, you could use the list as well to say something nice about yourself.

Coach Lee 10:52

Like note yourself, remember that this this wonderful thing happened today.

Fran 10:56

Yeah. So whether that's digital or you're writing it down, you know, that would be a lovely thing as well, wouldn't it?

Gratitude Bowls And Reflection

Coach Lee 11:02

Yeah. You know, I have this bowl. This is like my gratitude bowl. So when like good things happen, I try to remember to write it down and put it in here so at the end of the year I can pull it out and just like go through and read them. Those little small moments that you forget about that on that day like touched you. I don't put something in it every day. I put, you know, some days it might have two or three things in there. It might be a week before I put another one in there, but I try to write down, you know, those opportunities that popped up that you didn't know about, that raised that opportunity, that, you know, lesson that I thought this was gonna be bad, but look how it turned out. Like those little, pretty much like those little god weeks, those little nudges and reminders that, hey, remember this, because you're gonna forget about it next week. But at the end of the year, kind of as you reflect over the year, you read back and you'd be like, Oh, I remember this, or what was that? So yeah.

Fran 11:55

Yeah, and it gives your your mind all those lovely things to think about, you know, instead of potentially things that don't quite go your way, or negative thoughts, or things like that. It it reinforces, you know, that good things do happen and you you've done good things. So I love that as well, having some kind of gratitude bowl or jar. That's something that I've often thought about starting, and I haven't actually started it. And I talk a lot about gratitude.

Coach Lee 12:24

I've done various iterations of it. I tried to do the, you know, write three things that you're grateful for every day. And I did that for like, you know, 30, 45 days. And then I'm like, okay, this is it felt like more work to remember the things that I was grateful for. And then I was like, okay, maybe one a day. And then it kind of became to where now I'm kind of just kind of try to pause and remind myself throughout the day of, you know, something good, especially when something bad happens and you know, you try to get an attitude or you think something's gonna ruin your day, you're like, wait a minute, this good thing happened earlier today. This moment isn't a defining thing. And so I kind of ended up with the bold to write down like those bigger things so that at the end of the year I can kind of look back over the year and just kind of like smile as I'm starting to think and plan for the new year. Like if these things happen that maybe I intentionally sought out or didn't, what can I, you know, start putting out into the air?

Personalisation And One-To-One Coaching

Fran 13:15

Yeah, and welcome, welcome it in. Yeah, I like that. So it's also reminded me of something else that there's no right or or wrong to this, you know, it just is. So if you try something that doesn't, it's not really your vibe, it's okay to to change it. It's okay to try something else. These are all suggestions and they're they're a way that we know works because it's worked for us and it's worked for people that we work with, it's worked for clients that we help.

Coach Lee 13:43

Um and that's the thing that I love about you know coaching in and of itself, and especially like with me, I do mostly one-on-one coaching. Well, not really mostly, I do only one-on-one coaching because I want you to figure out what it is that works for you. Because sometimes in group settings, sometimes you get lost in the sauce or you're quiet and reserved, and you sit back and you're like, well, they said that I have to do it this way, but it's not working for me. And so bringing you to the front, i.e., finding that inner superwoman within you, figuring out what it is that's inside of you and it's specific to you that might work for you. It might also work for me, or maybe it only works for me in terms of like work, but it doesn't work for me in life. And so figuring out what it is that works for you is important. So yes, I very much echo like what we're saying are suggestions. They may or may not work for you, or you might have some adaption that you're like, well, maybe I don't write a list, but every morning I, as I'm making my coffee, I do this checklist of what's going on today, and that works for me. Hey, we're not knocking it.

Fran 14:40

Yeah. We're here to offer accountability. So as coaches, because obviously we're both coaches, so exactly we're here to offer accountability. So by that one-to-one coaching that you do, that's that's a bespoke package for somebody. That's that's very powerful and very deep work that you can do with with a particular person. And by that as well, they're not on their own because that accountability will be there, you know, those those milestones, those progresses or that transformation is what you're offering, isn't it?

Bold Productivity And Accountability

Coach Lee 15:13

Exactly. And that's how when I came up with like, you know, we get to choose our coaching name. That's how I came up with productivity and accountability coaching. Like the focus is the productivity aspect, simplifying it, figuring out what works for you. But in order to have that, what we often lack is that accountability, that support of someone checking in with you, checking in on you to help you journey through that process. So very much so that accountability.

Fran 15:36

Yeah, I love that. I want to know what's next for you. So you are a coach, and within your coaching, you know, what's what's next?

Values, Voice And Space For All

Coach Lee 15:49

Ooh, what's next? More of getting the message out. The thing that I love to say is that I'm here to make an impact and I want to change the game of productivity. And so I want to change the way that people, like I said, that perspective, that mindset in their lives. I want to change the way that people look at productivity and the way they think about it so that their life can change as a result of it. Because productivity isn't complicated. In fact, we do stuff all the time. But are you doing things that are gonna help you be the best version of yourself, move you closer to your goals, be more efficient, be more effective, make that impact if that's your desire. And so for me, what's next is continuing to show up, to be bold. One thing that I was reading about or thinking about kind of like last week as I was starting to plan for this upcoming month is being more bold, being more disruptive. And not in a negative way of being more disruptive, but you know how you have those contrary views to what potentially other coaches who do the same thing as you think, or you know, the gurus say. And I have some of those viewpoints, and I'm like, I need to be more vocal about them because people are stuck thinking that it has to be this way when it doesn't. And so I think what's next for me is continuing to share the work, continuing to share the message, but also to be bolder, to be louder, to know what it is, i.e., channel my inner superwoman and bring that out more and not shrink myself.

Fran 17:13

Which is also a very easy thing to do, isn't it? Just to shrink yourself to things.

Coach Lee 17:18

Getting comfortable.

Fran 17:19

Yeah. And I think that any opinions and things like that, obviously, as long as they're not to detriment of others, we're not here for that. But if they're their opinions, they're kind of they're all valid in their in their own way. Because if you have a North Star and you have a purpose, so your purpose is to help women channel their inner superwoman, so you've got a purpose of the productivity, you know, the accountability and everything, the values will then align with that, and your voice can speak loudly about that message. That's that's what we're talking about. You know, it doesn't necessarily mean completely controversial or anything like that, because I believe that even as coaches, there's room for all of us, and as women, there's room for all of us too. Yeah. Right, this has been very, very, very interesting. I feel like you know, there's there's always so much to kind of delve into. But what I'd like to say is that you are on social media as at legally.me.

Coach Lee 18:31

Yes.

Where To Find Coach Lee

Fran 18:32

So anybody interested in finding out more about you and what you do, that's how they can find you. Is there any particular social media or a platform where you're usually found?

Coach Lee 18:43

Um Facebook, I well, I guess Instagram will probably be the most active, but also I have a Facebook like page, TikTok, and a little bit on YouTube. So, but yeah, it's at legal lee, which is L-E-G-A-L-L-E-E.me everywhere, and not to the fact that I'm a full-time.

Fran 19:01

YouTube's my thing. Right, YouTube's my thing. So I'm gonna find you on YouTube, definitely. Right, so thank you.

Coach Lee 19:10

Thank you for having me.

Fran 19:11

Asica, you're very welcome. The message that we can't pour from an empty cup, and to put ourselves first is powerful, and again, it's one of those things that I've heard. I've I don't even know where I ever heard it from. I feel like I've known it for the longest time. You can't pour from an empty cup, but it's just words unless you know how. It's just words that or there's or it's for other people if you don't realize you can claim it too.

Coach Lee 19:35

Exactly.

Global Coaching And Virtual Work

Fran 19:36

And and that's what you're here to help guide people. So to all the women listening, and potentially some of the some of other people as well listening, you deserve to reclaim your time and pursue your goals. And we're Sam Women because Coach Lee predominantly works with with women. So for all of those curious to know more, again, at legal. Lee.me, you can find Coach Lee. And I love talking to other coaches because I really am a strong believer in that it's collaboration over competition and that there's a place for all of us because we've all got our own unique voices and messages to share. Um so if you're interested in more content like this, be sure to visit. And I'm gonna say promote myself now. So this is www.melancholycoaching.com and or it's melancholymentor actually.com. Follow us for the latest updates. I've I've down with two things because I actually started out doing radio dramas on YouTube. So I've got a radio drama and a radio play channel which is called Melancholy Mentor, and it comes from kind of classic literature. So when I retrained as a coach during COVID, I I took up the name melancholy coaching. So sometimes I I kind of say one but I mean the other. So you've got that.

Coach Lee 21:02

So you've provided your identity.

Fran 21:04

I know. So I've actually got a couple of channels. So one is like radio dramas for creativity and the other one's for coaching. So I presume that your YouTube channel that you've either started or you know, has it been going a while? Is it purely for coaching or for you for put getting your message out there?

Coach Lee 21:20

Yeah, coaching. Essentially, I upload, like I do like a weekly live and I upload that and then like some YouTube shorts. I haven't really delved fully into the YouTube world to really say that I'm going all in there, but you know, at least trying to put some stuff up and then if I'm interviewed on other podcasts and things like that, and I, you know, I'll upload those there as well.

Fran 21:40

Okay. That's fine because it's a way of people finding you.

Coach Lee 21:44

Exactly.

Fran 21:44

For transparency, again, for anybody listening, Coach Lee and I don't actually know each other in person. We met online, didn't we?

Coach Lee 21:52

Yes, and we're across the world from each other.

Fran 21:55

I know because I'm based in the UK on the South Coast, and you are not.

Closing Thanks And Subscribe

Coach Lee 21:59

No, I'm in the US.

Fran 22:01

Yeah, which is amazing. So saying that, do you work with women within the US or would it be international?

Coach Lee 22:12

International as well. The beauty of virtual, the beauty of the pandemic, which is when I also started I know you pivoted during the pandemic, but I started during the pandemic, and so everything has pretty much been virtual for me.

Fran 22:23

Yeah, okay, so this is how we can communicate now is like via via the wonderful world of the internet and connection, which is amazing, isn't it?

Coach Lee 22:34

Yes, yes.

Fran 22:35

So thank you so much for joining me, Coach Lee. Let's do this again.

Coach Lee 22:40

Yes, thank you for having me.

Fran 22:41

That's okay, you're very welcome. And I'm going to come and find you on YouTube and I'm going to ask anybody listening to come and find Coach Lee at legally.me. Thank you. Thank you for joining me on the Melancholy Coaching Podcast. I'd love you to subscribe. For queries or to connect, email info at melancholymentor.com. Until next time, keep igniting your creative potential.