How Over-Scheduling Affects Your Manifestation Energy

What if your so-called “inconsistency” was actually your biggest strength? Are you tired of beating yourself up for not sticking to a perfectly planned routine, whether it’s in parenting, business, or home life? In this episode, I reveal why our obsession with schedules and the pressure to “be consistent” is sabotaging our energy, our families, and even our success. Uncover the empowering truth behind “going with the flow,” and why learning to pivot, without shame, is the most powerful skill you can build. This episode will challenge everything you thought you knew about productivity, discipline, and self-love.

Topics Discussed:

• Why forcing “consistency” leaves you exhausted and how to break the cycle of self-criticism
• The energetic cost of unmet expectations (and how it shapes your reality)
• How to read your energy, pivot in the moment, and make decisions that support your true well-being
• The difference between masculine and feminine energy in daily life and how to use both with intention
• Practical, real-life reframes for moms and entrepreneurs who feel like they “never stick to anything”

Stop measuring yourself against rigid routines. Release the self-imposed shame and discover how trusting your body’s energy no matter what life throws at you, can lead to more joy, deeper presence, and authentic success than you ever imagined.

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Transcript

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Welcome back to the Rooted Within podcast. My name is Mickey, founder and CEO of Whole Family Health. This is where ancient wisdom and modern science come together. A return to wholeness, led by the wisdom that has always lived within you. Alright, alright. Let's get back to another episode and shout out, you guys, one year. We've reached a very big milestone. One year of the podcast here. One full freaking year of episodes out every single week. I think we just missed one week. I think I took one break in October. But other than that, we have been consistent. And funny enough, funny enough, we're gonna talk about being inconsistent today. We're gonna talk about the feminine and masculine energies. And it was really this episode, and these thoughts were inspired by just an amazing girlfriend that I have. One thing about this friend, you guys, I met her during basketball season, our sons played together. If you're listening, love you. But she is my Utah twin. We have kids the exact same age, three kids each. She looks like me. She has blonde hair. We have the same spiritual energy. We just connect on a soul level, truly. And ever since we first met each other, it was just like instant connection, instant guard down. There's just a really beautiful friendship chemistry there that I really appreciate. But, anyways, we were hanging out last weekend or a couple weekends ago, and just sitting around a fire, just all chatting with our families. Kids were running wild. It was like a true summer dream night. Kids were dirt biking around the property, just having a blast. And us as parents were just sitting around chatting it up. She was kind of like not beating herself up, but just being like, oh, I'm so inconsistent with work. Like I start and then I stop and all these types of things. And I so could relate to her. You know, she was talking about business and motherhood, right? Like, I do really, really well with motherhood, and then I do a little bit of business and then I flow back and I ebb, and I'm just inconsistent, was what she was saying. And again, I could really relate to her. I have had a business now for 11 years almost and more than a decade. I've been an entrepreneur. I had our first son. He just turned 10, but I was a teacher, I was a first grade teacher with special education kids, EBD kids in my classroom. And then once my son was born, I never went back. And I've been an entrepreneur since in a little bit before that. So I have been my own boss, and I have been my own boss raising children, which is its own beast. It's its own beast, okay? No one could tell me otherwise. You're an entrepreneur, you're making money, you have your own schedule, and you have kids at home without childcare. Like you are the star of the show. You are the best of the best. You are just incredible. I mean, hats off to you because it is something that most people don't talk about. And I don't think I've even shared the early entrepreneur journey that I had, but it was really hard. It was hard because one, I changed businesses a lot. Like I was trying to figure out who I was and it flowed with me. The beautiful thing about being an entrepreneur is your business moves, shifts, and evolves when you do. And if you're always evolving, you're always upgrading your consciousness, you are always learning, you're always reflecting. Like your business model is going to be ebbing and flowing with you. I mean, it is going to be changing topics with you. It's going to be changing passions with you. It's going to be changing audiences with you. And I think that is one of the most beautiful things about owning your own business and being an entrepreneur is that you're getting paid to be yourself. You are literally getting paid. You are making an income based on your own life endeavors. Nothing resonates more with my soul than that, right? So early on, I was doing workouts and I was super passionate about moving my body. And at that time, I was super passionate about moving my body with young kids. And I shouted that from the rooftops, man. I recorded so many videos of me working out with my kids and shouting from the rooftops the same message of empowerment. And I'm gonna be your ultimate hype girl, and I'm gonna have a baby on my hip, but I'm literally squatting. All right. Like that was my message. And I was so passionate about being pregnant and healthy. I shouted that message, the empowerment piece of like, take care of your body, find your power. You matter, like my theme of the last 11 years of running businesses has been the same. It has been empowerment. It has been owning your power, it has been being radically yourself, it has been putting yourself first in different facets, right? Like as I have evolved and grown in my consciousness, my businesses have changed, but the underlying theme has always been the same. So I went through working out, I was so fit, so physically fit for every single one of my pregnancies. I would share about it, I would share recipes. I went into a whole food, non-toxic journey. Again, all about empowerment, all about young motherhood. And my businesses all flowed from where I was at in life, what I was dealing with, what my thoughts were, what my abilities were, what I was finding out, what my learning lessons were, all of that has always been the main foundations of my businesses. And now it's the same, right? The same foundation that you see with my spiritual business is that it's I want you to know yourself. I want you to put yourself first. I want you to know how amazing you are, how incredible you are, and how powerful you are, how capable you are. Like I want you to know that more than anything else in the world. I want you to be able to see yourself the way that I see you. Full stop, period. That's what I want for you. And that's always been my message. That's always been my motto. That has always been what I want to impart on those around me. Because I truly, in my heart of hearts, I am fascinated with people. I could be brought to tears by just seeing the beauty in people's eyes, the beauty in their life choices, the beauty in their life experiences, the beauty in their stories, the grit, the determination, the hills, the valleys. Like I am fascinated by it. I am moved by every single person I meet. I don't care who you are. I am excited to talk to you. I will ask you a trillion questions. I will reframe every single negative thing you say about yourself. I will just have that experience with you. That is one of my gifts. Honestly, it's one of my gifts. So that has always been just embedded in everything that I have done for the last, I don't know how many years, at least 11, probably more than that, because before that I was teaching and I was making every single kid, it was more kid focused, feel known, seen, loved. I wanted them to know that their brain was the most beautiful brain on earth and that it was working perfectly for them. And that there was no one size fits all. Like I'm just sitting here reeling that that has always been my thing. There is no one size fits all model. You are also unique, you are also special, you are also diverse, and I love it for you. Again, I want every single person to love it for themselves, right? I want every single person to see themselves how I see them and the beauty that exudes from them. I don't care who you are. So, long story short, that has been my business adventures. But to circle it back around, having these businesses while having a young family has been difficult. I remember, and I've told you guys this before. I remember giving birth and shortly after, like still working my business in the middle of the night while I got up for feedings, while I was nursing my babies. It would be nap time and I would have the systems down. Every kid would go down for a nap and I would work every second of that nap. There's no way that I was going to be lollygagging around the house. I was balls to the walls. I've got two hours, I've got an hour and a half. Like, this is what I'm doing. Everybody would be asleep. Tyler would go take a nap and I'd be like, I'm working. If for some reason the grandparents would come and pick up the kids for a couple hours, like I'm working. I was dedicated. A lot of people don't have that. They don't have that self-discipline to work when you're not making money. They don't have the self-discipline to work when your environment is rough, right? Like they don't have the discipline to do that. And I have always, always embodied that because I can see my visions for what I want in life, even if they're 10 years out, I don't care. That's the other thing about me is I always play the long game. Always. I don't care if I'm not making money off whatever I'm doing today. If I see that I'm making money off of it in five to 10 years, worth it. Like I will put my head down and focus. I don't need the short-term, quick fixes, the quick, cheap dopamine hits. I am here for the long game. And again, I can really attest to that being my upbringing and just everything that I've shared with you guys about how my brain works and how I've had to work really hard to get what I want in life. I just have that instilled that I don't care how long it takes, I'm going to find the joy in changing people's lives, even if it means that I'm making money in three years. Like I will find the joy in refining skill sets today because I will know that it will help me out in the future. I have such grit and such perseverance that that has really helped me out. But it's been really challenging having young kids at home because you ebb and flow, right? Like when the kids were little, meltdowns always came first. Emotional regulation always came first. And you can find yourself beating yourself up for not being quote unquote consistent. And I did this for years. Like just as my beautiful friend was talking about, I beat myself up for years, right? I would feel a little bit of a pull towards family life, right? After I just told you I was like some hard ass, I would feel a little bit of a pull towards family life and do less work. I'd never stop work, but the balance would be greatly skewed, right? And I would be setting up for Christmas, taking the month off for Christmas, or working very minimal leading up to Christmas to make that experience really magical for them. Or my summer months have always been a lot less work because we are literally frolicking in the forest every single day of my life, or sitting for hours and hours and hours at the beach or whatever we're doing. It's always just been a little bit more skewed. And I remember so clearly beating myself up for that and being like, you need to be more consistent, Maggie. You need to be more balanced, is what I would tell myself, right? In whatever capacity. I mean, talk about a lack of consistency is what I was telling myself with work, but I was telling myself that about the house too, right? I've never been one that's going to have the cleanest house possible because the house and the chores and the keeping up with the Joneses is just not my personality. And also, I will put everything else before having a clean house. If my business needs something, that will surely come before doing the dishes. If my kids need something, if somebody's having a hard feeling or hard day, like snuggles are coming before doing the dishes. I don't give a rip. I will have the house be dead last, not because I don't care about my environment, not because I'm dirty, not because our family's dirty. We all have chores, we all have zones, we all have systems, all of that good stuff. But I don't put a lot of value, a lot of effort into having a pristine house because there are so many more important things that come first, in my opinion, than that. And I think I get that from my mom too, because she always put our needs first. And we never had like a dirty house, right? We all pitched in, but I wouldn't say that ours is immaculate. I'm not vacuuming every single day. I'm not dusting every single day. I can easily go to bed with dishes in the sink. A lot of our friends here are like, I will not sleep a wink if the counter is not sprayed and wiped off and if the dishes are not put away. I don't have that bone in my body. Tyler doesn't have that bone in his body. Like, I will handle it the next day, no problem. And I used to beat myself up over that. I used to be really insecure about that in young motherhood. I'd be like, why am I not consistent, right? I'd start a chore list or I'd start a house cleaning list. I did it all, you guys. You know those lists that are like on Monday, you do the windows, and then you don't have to do the windows for another month, you know? And then on Tuesdays, you do the house. I started those and then never finished them, right? They were always like a cute Pinterest project, and then the consistency wasn't there. Why? Because I'm sure, I'm sure something happened where somebody invited me to go to the splash pad and I was like, I'm not vacuuming today. What? Like, I'm at the splash pad now. Or a child needed me and that was it, right? Like I was easily going to put that above sticking to the consistency of the house. But what I got wrong was the beating myself up over it, was the harsh words that I was subconsciously saying to myself when I made those choices. Instead of going, hey, I am actively choosing right now in this moment to go have fun because that's what my energy needs. That's what my kids' energy needs. And I'm not lacking discipline. I'm not lacking consistency. I'm just choosing a different route right now, and I'm secure in this choice. Instead of having that conversation with myself, I had the, oh, you never stick to anything. You are so inconsistent. You're so loosey goosey. I have said that about myself for probably as long as I've lived. You're so loosey goosey, right? And I beat myself up. I harp on myself. I tell myself that I'm not living up to the expectation and the commitment that I had set out for myself. And guess what that does to your energy field? When I tell myself I don't stick to commitments, what kind of energy does that bring more into my life? It brings more into my life, that lack of commitment, right? It brings more into I had plans, now somebody's like lacking commitment in the plans, right? It is people not following through on their word with me. Why? Because that's exactly what I'm telling myself. You don't follow through on your commitments, Maggie. And then my reality shows that to me. It shows that to me in all areas of life. So financial, right? If somebody was going to purchase something from me, an offer from me, and then they back out, that's lack of commitment. They're reading my energy and they are subconsciously going, I'm gonna wait to do this. I think I'm gonna choose to spend my money elsewhere or on something else, or just like I don't want to full steam ahead anymore. That's what would be reflected in my reality, right? It can be within relationships, again, friends canceling on you, people not sticking true to their word, you telling somebody in confidence that they're not gonna share something with other people. And then what do they do? They share it with other people, they're not committed to their word. I mean, it can show up in every single facet of life, and it stems with that energy of you saying that about yourself. You going, I'm not a committed person, I don't stick to things, I am always loosey-goosey, I'm inconsistent. When you have that in your field, you better believe that is showing up all over the place in your reality. I can already feel you guys being like, what? This is my problem. Yes. And it's everywhere, right? When I go out and I talk to all my friends, my girlfriends in real life, these are the things that they're struggling with, right? It's the I don't feel consistent and the beating themselves up over it. And like I said, I was right there with you. I was right there with you with the house and feeling like I couldn't keep it up in homeschool, right? I homeschool my kids. Wow, that was a lot. And it was a lot because I was expecting it to look a certain way. Right. When I look back at it, I was expecting it to look a certain way. And what I do best is going with the flow. So you think of the expectation I had for myself of we wake up, we get our chores done, we go out and play, then we get to all of our beautiful subjects we're gonna learn about today that mommy spent a week prepping. Never did that, never did that.

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I never did it.

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But that was the expectation, right? So when I actually went about my day and I got off social media and I stopped following all these romanticized homeschool accounts and actually had my day with my kids, it looked nothing like that. The expectation was not followed. I surely did not lesson plan. And also, I'm just so go with the flow that if somebody wakes up and they're grumpy, it's like I'm not doing that lesson plan. I'm pivoting. I'm the master pivoter. That's what I am. I'm a master at pivoting. I have mastered that because I am so good at reading energy, just like all of you. I'm so good at reading energy that I follow the energy. We say that phrase all the time in our classes and programs here. I follow the energy and I act accordingly. But for some reason in our society, we deem that a negative. We deem that a problem. When really, like, let's unpack this. Really? That is the most high frequency thing you can do. That is your superpower. We need to be able to read energy and pivot accordingly without feeling tied down to our to-do lists and our plans we have and just chokeholding life. The most high frequency thing you can do is to pivot with life. It's to read the energy of your children and going, you know what? We had a plan today to go on this hike, but look at this sweet little kid right here. They are just not up for it. Their energy is not up for it. And you know what? If their energy is not up for it, and you can cheat with intuition. I hope you are cheating with intuition and going, yeah, definitely if we go on this hike, this, this, this, and this will happen. But even if you don't have a trained intuition and you can read energy and you go, you know what, it's just not a good day to go for the hike, right? We're gonna pivot. We are going to change plans and we're gonna do something that appeases everybody's energy more. I would do that all the time. And then I would follow it up with a little self-shame, you know, like a little, I set out to do this and now I'm not committing to it. When reality, that was the most high frequency balanced decision that I made. Right. And even something as simple as going into the week with these set dinner ideas, right? These beautiful six to seven dinner ideas. And you get to that night and you're like, tonight is the night that I have to make this, you know, a little bit more, a little bit more strenuous dinner. It's gonna take me a little bit longer. And you're just checking in with your energy, and your energy is going, I do not want to do this. We had this pop up today, this pop up today, and I'm a little bit more drained than normal. I don't want to make this dinner. But what do we do? We go, we have to make this dinner because it's on the calendar. It is on the planner, and we must follow through. And we ignore ourselves, we ignore the feelings, we ignore the energy, and we become forceful in following through on shit we don't need to follow through on. It is not going to be the end of the world to save that dinner idea for another day. But some of us are acting like it is the world's greatest problem and that we are the world's biggest failure because we are not sticking to schedule. When we can actually reframe that and go, it is the most loving thing you can do for yourself. It is the most self-love, unconditional love, highest percentage possible to have in my field that I'm gonna check in with myself and see how I feel and act accordingly. I'm gonna pivot. I'm gonna become a master at pivoting. But because of the ways that we've been raised and because of the do, do, do, do, go, go, go, go, you know, mentality that the world possesses, we get stuck in this trap of I have to do, plan, and act accordingly at all times. When that's just not healthy. For our nervous systems, it's not healthy for our again, self-love, it's not healthy for our families. And really truly, it's always the opposite that is the most high frequency. Whatever the world is pushing on us, whatever, whatever society is pushing on us, whatever everybody's frantically doing, it's always like, what's the opposite here? Because that's probably what I should be doing. Like many of you have a trained intuition, you know that. And you probably are already living intuitively, making choices and being able to pivot. But I think we all need that reframe. It's not inconsistent. You're not inconsistent. You're high conscious reading the energy and pivoting. And that should be allowed, that should be mastered, and that should be what we're all striving for. Right? Because again, what's serving me going back to that example of like I had vacuuming on the list today, and maybe something happened that I can't get to it. There were far greater things, and that's okay. Like I'm happy, you think of this, okay. You have this certain amount of energy throughout the day. Unless you're like me and you have energy work that you can literally speed up your energy. And I'm a little like energizer bunny. But just bear with me, you have a certain allotted energy for the day. And it could be on cleaning the house, it could be on work, it could be on your kids, it could be on all these different elements of life. You get to decide where you want to spend that energy. And if your higher self has orchestrated a situation to pop up, it's orchestrated you helping somebody, taking on an additional one-on-one client you didn't know you were going to take on, helping your child deal with a friendship situation and you didn't know it was gonna pop on, and you spend a great deal of your allotted energy that day on that topic. We should be looking at that and going, like, wow, I'm so happy my higher self orchestrated that for me and that I was able to be there, be present, spend my energy on that. But now I'm gonna course correct. Now I'm gonna go, I have this much energy left. What should I do with it? We tend to think that we have more energy or that we should force, it's very forceful energy, it's very destructive mindset to push ourselves past the point of breaking to quote unquote be consistent. I think of this too with like social events that you guys have and wanting to please other people. And let's say that you had a really rough week at work, and that energy was mostly invested into work that week, right? Whatever you do. And then let's say that your husband is like, hey, we have these plans. I made these plans. I really want to go to this, you know, summer barbecue, whatever. And you're looking at your tank and you're like, man, I only have like 15% left, but you're looking at all the people around you and they're looking at you and they're like really desperately wanting you to just create more energy and pop in and give it your best shot, right? And most women will deplete themselves. Either they won't look and they'll just completely train wreck themselves and push themselves past the point of breaking in order to be that consistent friend that shows up, in order to be the friend that doesn't ever say no, in order to appear to be the life of the party at all times. And either they don't look at their tank and go, wow, I have nothing left to give. I shouldn't do this, or they've got that part figured out and they look at their tank and go, wow, I only have 15% left. I don't have enough to go there. I'm gonna make sure that I really vocalize that to everybody and choose to honor myself. A lot of us don't do that. A lot of us go, nope, I need to be consistent. If I said I'm gonna go out and do something, I need to go out and do something. Right? And it's a lack of self-love, is what it comes down to at its simplest form. It is a complete lack of self-love of going, everybody else's needs matter before my own. And I am okay with pushing myself to the ground in order for everyone else to be happy, in order to save face, in order to look and appear a certain way. And that also does a number to your energetic field and pushing out, I don't put myself first and everyone else matters, like you're gonna get a lot more of the you don't matter energy coming back to you. You're gonna get a lot more second place energy. So, what does that look like on a tangible level? That looks like your husband choosing to watch sports instead of connecting with you, even though you voice that you want to connect with him. He's putting you second. Why? Because you put yourself second. When you're trying to desperately, let's say, talk to your mom and get a hold of her and you want to vent something and get her advice, and she's kind of ignoring you and she's like, Oh, I'm at this place, I can't talk right now. I'm gonna have to talk to you later, right? And you're put second, it's because you put yourself second. If you go and interview for a job and you do the best you can, and somebody else gets chosen over you, and you are second on their list, it's because you put yourself second. If somebody in your work environment, let's say, is going for a promotion and your colleague gets it over you, and you're second, it's because you put yourself second. Like there's all these different examples that we could continue going over, but I think you guys get the gist. You are second place energy to other people's situations, circumstances, events, and interactions because you put yourself second every single day of your life in the name of consistency. And what I want you to just get from this podcast episode is that it is more high frequency, high conscious, balanced energy to be the master pivoter. It truly is. It is more balanced to have a rough outline, and you should, right? Like throughout the day. I'm not saying like blow with the wind, although that's certainly how I live my life. I do have a rough idea, right? Like I go into work, I've intuited everything. I live my life completely intuitively with every single decision I make, with every single task I do, with when I do complete house tours, when I do go out with friends, when I am choosing to hire somebody on our team, it is all intuitively led by following the energy. And the other thing you have to know is that energy changes, right? So I'll give you an example. In the morning, if I had already intuited the day prior for work that I needed to do this podcast and then I needed to have this business meeting, and I had kind of these five bullet points for the day of things I was going to get done. I could wake up that morning and I could just verify with my intuition that these were going to be the tasks that my energy matches, and it can straight up be like, no, scratch it all. Or you're just doing one of these items on your list and your energy is not behind any of the other ones. That's because energy changes, and energy changes based off your thoughts, beliefs, and emotions. So it is constantly moving. Energy is constantly moving based on your internal landscape. So, what could have been a great task for you to do yesterday could be completely different and not serving you at all the next day. And we have to be able to ebb and flow and follow the energy. Have to be able to pivot. Have to, have to, have to. Because, for example, again, let's say that I yesterday intuited that recording a podcast was going to be the best thing ever for me tomorrow for my work hours. And then the next day I intuit again and it's like, do not record a podcast. No, that's not what we need to be doing today. If I choose to record a podcast, anyways, what do you think is going to happen? If I sit in that I am consistent energy where I am going, I don't care how I feel, I gotta do this. I'm gonna manhandle it. I'm gonna force myself to do this. How do you think that podcast episode is gonna turn out? Do you think that I'm gonna be like exuding great energy for y'all? Do you think you're gonna give a rip about anything I'm saying in the podcast when you hear my tone and you see the passion is not there? No. It's a waste of time. It's a waste of time for myself to do it, it's a waste of your time to listen, it's a waste of my editing team to listen, it's a waste of everybody's time and energy because they didn't have true energy behind it. You see what I mean? And this can be for anything, right? If you're not in it to win it, you're not gonna create good energy and content. And you're not gonna be dialed in and focused. Just like if you had set out, like on Friday, I'm cleaning out the garage with the entire family, right? And you just are like, that's the day I'm doing it, and you get to that day and they're melting down, they're crying, and you don't pivot. You don't go, you know what, we're gonna have to do this another day. It's just not working. And you muster up the fake energy and the forceful energy, you're not gonna be as productive. You're not gonna be like having a time. And you know what? More than anything, you're not gonna be thinking of solutions. You're not gonna do a good job. All of that is turned off or vastly dimmed when you have the forceful energy. Vastly, vastly dimmed. You are going to take double or triple the amount of time to do it because you're sitting in the forceful energy and it's not creatively flowing. You're not going to think of what you really want to keep for the garage, how you could really organize it. You're going to be wasting time and energy because it wasn't the right time that you were supposed to do it. And this could apply for so many things, you guys. I'm just giving you guys some examples, right? But we have this energy. We have this forceful energy all day, every day of everybody following their schedules to a T and not being able to pivot. I see this so much in one-on-one clients' lives, things that they're struggling with in my own real life, in-person community. And like I said, I've absolutely struggled with it. I've struggled with not being able to pivot because of the shame I had afterwards. One, I didn't know that I could live a life where I could constantly pivot because I had never seen it role modeled. And two, it is kind of a no-no in society. It's kind of this like, you gotta be type A girly, you gotta have a schedule, you gotta be maxed out, you gotta be color-coded, you gotta be organized, or else. And it's like, do we? Do we? I'm all about organized, by the way. And I have a lot of type A qualities to me where I am very organized, very dialed in and focused. But I think overall, you have to have the master pivot energy. You have to have the ability to read energy, and you have to see where your energy is at in order to complete such task. And if it's not there, it's not there. And you have to be able to pivot. And you know what is the fundamental most impactful ingredient underneath all of this? Is that when you have the master pivot conditioned and well played out in life, meaning you're able to ebb and you're able to flow, and you do not have the negative self-talk after that. You've kind of rerouted all that, you've kind of course corrected all that. You are sitting good with the master pivoting energy, right? You're able to ebb and flow without shame. And you're really in that feminine flow. Well, the ingredient underneath all that is that no matter what, I'm gonna figure it out, no matter what, everything is gonna be okay. No matter what, I will get to this when the time is right. That's the ingredient underneath all of that. It is not again chokeholding and having that forceful energy of pushing yourself to do something when your energy is not behind it. It is not going, I'm gonna take three times longer to complete this because I'm trying to forcefully do it instead of allowing my body to be excited about it and do it when my energy is ready for it. It's having that ingredient of no matter what, I'm gonna figure it out. No matter what, I'm gonna get to it when the time's right. No matter what, it's all going to be okay. That's the emotional ingredient everybody should be striving to embody. Because think about it, think about it. What kills us the most in life is expectations. It's unmet expectations. That's what destroys our electromagnetic fields is unmet expectations. And when you don't meet the expectations, you start to self-criticize, you start to self-shame, you start to hound yourself and it brings in more of that energy. It brings in more people critiquing you, it brings in more people criticizing you, it brings in more people telling you that what you're doing is not right and you won't have the time to do it, and you're not doing it properly, and it's not gonna be okay. You're bringing in more of those situations. If you can work on this emotional ingredient of everything's working out for me, everything's in the right time, no matter what, I'm gonna figure this out. You have those ingredients plugged into your electromagnetic field, everything changes. Everything changes because no matter where the wind blows you throughout that day, it's gonna be okay. You're sitting there going, you know what? I didn't get to the vacuuming today, but Lord Almighty, when I do get to it, I'm gonna be like the vacuuming queen. I'm gonna have so much energy to vacuum. I'm gonna be like in it. I'm gonna be like on the ground between wall and floor in the crevice that you wouldn't have gotten before because you're so excited to get those breadcrumbs. You know what I mean? The energy feels different. You are so pumped. You're so jazzed. You're gonna clean out that garage, like you were gonna get it done in half the amount of time, and you're gonna come up with the best ideas, and it is going to be a vibe, right? It's different energy when you allow yourself to ebb and flow and pivot. It is different energy, but we all just again are trying to be these consistent folks. We're trying to stick to schedule. We're trying to look around at everyone else that looks like they had their life together and they don't, but you can't see that unless you have intuition. And you just go, no, their life is perfect. It's organized, everything has a system. They are just rocking and rolling. They are the most productive people. Like, screw productivity, right? Are they healthy? Are they emotionally stable? Do they have their relationships with their kids and their spouse that you would admire? Are their kids well behaved? Are their kids emotionally regulated? Like, what's the real situation here? We tend to just look at the outside and look at like, oh, they have the perfect house, they have the perfect homeschool routine. They're so disciplined with working out, they have the best body, they never sway. And it's like, what are they missing? First of all, do they? And at what cost? For me, the most balanced people I know, and you guys know I see so many people a week, scan so many souls, work with their nervous system, work with their bodies, work with body symptoms, work with their families, work with the kids, like the whole thing. The most balanced people I know are the master pivoters. The most balanced people I know are just innately embodying, I'll figure it out. I will figure it out when the time is right. They can flow with energy, they can pivot. If they kind of set out to do this one thing, let's say they set out for a workout and it was supposed to be this hard workout, and then they woke up and they got their period, and now they don't feel like working out, they can pivot. And it is no sweat off their back. But the key that every single person misses is not the making of the decision, not going, okay, I have to pivot. That is hard for some people, harder for some than others. But it's the secondary shame they feel about doing it. It is the emotional abuse they put their bodies through because of the pivot. Some people can pivot, but then they like have a day or two of just hard critiquing themselves, or even a month or a year of going, oh my gosh, I didn't push through. And it's the self-shame, the critiquing that just destroys their reality because they bring so much more of that energy in. And then they have inside-out voices that play into it, which if you don't know what that is, that is a piece of our universal law of reflections, which is when we feel one way about ourselves, other people will mirror that exact verbiage. So if you go, oh, I'm so inconsistent with working out, I never stick to plan, you're gonna have the husband that's like, Well, I know you said you started this, but you never stick to anything. Come on, let's go out and eat this crappy junk food because I can sway you so easily. You are so inconsistent. And the reason they're saying that to you is not because they're a horrible person. It's not because they don't love you, they don't care about you. They're just verbatim saying what you're saying to yourself. Verbatim. Word for word, what energy you are holding, you attract in, and other people are going to express it to you. So what do you do? Right? You guys are all like, yeah, stop reading my life. What do you do? You have to course correct the thoughts. You have to become the master pivoter, but you also have to go, it's totally fine that I pivoted. Why is it fine? Why was all of a sudden you wanting to make a different choice the healthiest, most balanced choice possible? And you have to catch yourself. You have to catch yourself from going, shoot, I'm lacking commitment, I'm lacking productivity. You have to understand why it was the most balanced choice to pivot and how you know what's the most committed, consistent thing you can do. It's not sticking to the plan you set out to, but it's going, why is this new plan better? I'm committed and I'm consistent not to a task, not to pleasing people, but I'm the most committed and consistent towards always doing what is the best for me in that moment. That's what you should be committed to. It shouldn't be a commitment to a task, an object, a person, uh, anything, a routine, a ritual. It should be I'm always committed to myself. Ooh, yes, I'm always committed to myself. Consistency isn't tied to an anchor, a ritual, a workout, a house task, a routine. I'm always consistent with putting myself first and ebbing with what I need in that moment. Boom, period, done. You can still have that ingredient in your field of I am consistent no matter what. I am committed no matter what, but it's not tied again to the external, it's tied to the internal, it's tied to yourself. So having that ingredient in your field of I am consistent, amazing. You want that, right? But it's not in the way the world has proven it to us. It's not in the external, it's in the internal. Having that commitment energy, that consistent energy, can be tied to the internal and not the external, and you can still benefit from having those ingredients in your field. We've just never been taught the right way to do it. We've always been taught you're only committed to self and only consistent to self if you follow what you originally said at that original moment. That's the most low frequency thing you can do. The most high frequency thing you can do is to love yourself enough that you understand that you are the most intelligent person and that you have the ability to follow energy, you have the ability to read energy, you have the ability to read the room, you have the ability to read yourself. You can act accordingly, even if it's not what you set out to do in that day. Even if you're pivoting, that is the highest amount of self-love you could have for yourself is to be a master pivoter. It just does so many beautiful things to your electromagnetic field and brings in so many beautiful things. And if you are a woman listening to this podcast, that is the best way to be in your feminine, is to flow. Femininity is flowing, masculinity is directing, controlling, and leading. Right? And we have both of these energies inside of our body and we can ebb and flow. And there's more times that I like to use my masculine energy, like for work and all these types of things. And then I like to get back into my feminine energy of flowing. So again, you can have that balance of I'm gonna read the energy. I'm going to be a master pivoter. Even if you want to stay in your masculine energy, you can do this, right? And you can pivot, pivot, pivot, and then have your masculine energy to go tackle the new pivoted choice. Be direct about that. Lead within that new choice, but you have to be able to ebb and flow. Again, the biggest dysregulation I see in society, in real life, and through clients and students is that they are tied to the unmet expectations. They have a goal, they have a vision, and it has to be played out in that way. Or their self-worth is tied to it, their self-love is tied to it, their confidence is tied to it. And it really, really, really does a number on their nervous system and what they are attracting in as far as reflections go. So as you go throughout this week, okay, I want you guys to start to begin the reframe. When you start to hear yourself go, oh, I'm just like, I'm not consistent at what I do. I'm not committed to what I said I was gonna do. And you start feeling that frustration pop up, whether it's workouts, whether it's the way you eat, whether it's summer plans, whether it's you saying you're never gonna yell at your kids another time, whatever it is, whatever you're saying to yourself, you have to be consistent or else, and then life happens and you pivoted. Naturally, you pivoted. Naturally, you pivoted because your body read the energy and it's doing what is the most high frequency thing. I want you guys to stop the self-shame after. I want you guys to go, why was that the best pivot possible? Why did my body lead me that way? Your body's always looking out for you, your energy is always looking out for you. Why was that incredible? Why was that the most intelligent choice you could have pivoted with? And stop the self-narrative of shame, doubt, insecurity, lack of confidence, all of that. I want to see if you guys can catch that self-criticism before it kind of sits in your field for a while and musters up more energy and you know, just recruits in more of that like energy that you have to deal with. We are all gonna become master pivoters and we should own it. We should own it. Life is always about ebbing and flowing, always about the ups and downs, the highs of lows, the contrast, all of it. We have to be able to roll with it, find that security and self, understand those ingredients of everything works out for me. This will all happen in its perfect time, release that choke hold and watch and surrender to see how everything is beautifully laid out for you and that truly watch when you follow that energy and you become a master pivoter. How is it so beautiful on the other side of that? How is it so relieving to not have to control? How did you get so much more stuff done? How did you enjoy doing that stuff so much more because you released and relinquished that control and that chokehold? You guys will see, you guys will see what I'm saying. You will feel relieved. Because when you're sitting in the right energy doing the right tasks, it feels really good. It will be noticeably different for you when you are sitting in good energy that matches the frequency of the task you should be doing. It's a feeling like no other. And on the contrast, you will see how icky and yucky and stagnant the energy feels when you're doing a task that you're not matching the frequency inside your body to that task. It feels very forceful, feels very stagnant, feels very like you're begrudgingly trying to get it done. You're not enjoying it, you're going, oh, I can't wait till this is over. That's the opposite feeling. So start to see this contrast between the two. It will be so noticeable for you guys. And start giving yourselves grace. Grace for being master pivoters. And I promise you, you guys are gonna be the leaders in this. And you're going to give other people the permission to also be able to pivot. You are going to give other people the permission to follow the energy. You are going to give other people the permission to give themselves grace. You guys are gonna give other people the permission to put these ingredients in their field and watch the beauty be reflected to them with their external reality. It is one of the coolest things. So let me know how this goes. Let me know how this resonated with you. You can go ahead and email us at support at our wholefamilyhealth.com. We love to hear your guys' reflections and reactions from these podcasts. We also have live events every single week. We meet live multiple times a week, hash out this information. I do QAs where I intuit and use my energy reading abilities to look into certain situations you're having, certain circumstances, look into your life, look into your schedule, see what's working, what's not working. And I want to answer your questions. So make sure you pop on our email list so that you can show up live and we can discuss and I can read your energy, get you some answers. It is so much fun. So we will see you guys over on the email. We will see you guys inside all of our interactions. Sit with this, reflect on this, see where that awareness is popping up, and more than anything, try to embrace that master pivoter energy. Okay, much love, you guys. We will see you guys so soon.