Marriage Made in Heaven
Where matrimony meets hilarious reality.
Hosted by Joshua & Ali Spitsbergen, Marriage Made in Heaven isn’t your typical marriage podcast. After 16 years of doing life, love, and ministry together, they're pulling back the curtain on what it really looks like when two become one—biblically, practically, and yes… sometimes embarrassingly.
Each week, they dive into the good, the hard, and the just plain funny of married life—sharing biblical truths, real-life stories, and lessons they’ve learned (sometimes the hard way). From pillow talk confessions to kingdom-minded conversations, this podcast is here to help you build a marriage grounded in grace, rooted in God’s Word, and full of joy—even when it gets messy.
Whether you’re dating, newlywed, or 20 years deep, you’ll laugh, learn, and leave each episode feeling seen, equipped, and a little less alone.
Because this? This is about having a Marriage Made in Heaven—with a whole lot of grace and “Did you seriously just say that?” moments.
Marriage Made in Heaven
Communication, Conflict & Intimacy: Real Talk for a Thriving Marriage
00:00 – Welcome Back!
Ali & Joshua dive into the real-life tension of marriage communication—especially when one spouse is ready to sleep, and the other is ready to talk 🫠
01:20 – When Is the Right Time to Talk?
Why timing matters when discussing big topics like finances, parenting, and expectations—and the communication mistake they stopped making.
03:00 – Date Nights Are Not Strategy Meetings
Why your marriage needs protected time for connection—not confrontation.
04:15 – How Miscommunication Builds Resentment
Ali & Joshua get honest about how lack of clarity and emotional overload creates unnecessary conflict in marriage.
06:05 – The Bottler vs. The Talker
Joshua shares how he used to internalize everything—while Ali was rapid-fire ready. Why understanding each other’s processing styles is key.
08:40 – Knowing Each Other’s Strengths & Weaknesses
Ali explains how their opposite personalities—her fast pace, his slow-and-steady discernment—have become a strength (once they learned how to honor each other’s rhythms).
10:30 – Divine Order in Decision-Making
Why submitting major decisions to God—and each other—creates peace in the home. Ali shares what changed when she stopped pushing ahead without Joshua’s covering.
13:00 – The Shift That Saved Their Communication (and Finances)
Ali opens up about losing her first business and how giving Joshua financial leadership helped bring restoration, clarity, and unity.
15:30 – Servanthood vs. Selfishness
A biblical lens on communication: laying down your life, not proving your point.
17:20 – Walk it Out (Literally)
Joshua shares his go-to strategy for emotional regulation before tough conversations: walking, praying, and reframing.
18:40 – Out-Serve Each Other
The simple marriage principle from their premarital counseling that still shapes their communication today.
20:15 – Letting Go of Stubbornness
Ali shares how surrender, patience, and Spirit-led restraint softened her strong personality and strengthened their unity.
22:00 – Let’s Talk About Sex (Yes, Really)
Why open communication around sexual needs matters—and how couples can avoid disconnect, temptation, and unmet expectations.
24:00 – Don’t Go to Bed Angry
The rule they live by, rooted in Scripture: resolve conflict before sleep and never let little wedges build into big gaps.
25:30 – Final Word: Soft Answers & Celebrating Growth
A closing encouragement to give grace, celebrate progress, and commit to growing in communication—together.