Marriage Made in Heaven

What You Believe About Marriage Is What You Build

Joshua & Ali Spitsbergen Episode 22

What you believe about your marriage is what you will eventually build.

In business, you already know this.
You believe you’ll hit the goal, so you plan, you act, you stretch, you invest.

But in marriage?
So many leaders quietly lower the bar:

  • “Marriage is just hard.”
  • “This is just how it is now.”
  • “We’re too busy for more.”
  • “The passion always fades.”

And then they wonder why their home life feels flat, distant, or disconnected.

In this episode, we’re talking about belief, mindset, and the words you speak over your marriage and how they are actively building (or breaking) what you experience at home.

If your marriage is just an afterthought, your beliefs will reflect it. If you believe a marriage made in heaven is possible, you will start to build like it is.

In this episode, we talk about:

  • Why your marriage is a mirror of your mindset
  • The hidden limiting beliefs that quietly sabotage connection
  • Common scripts like “you can’t have both a thriving business and a marriage”
  • Why no amount of effort can outrun a broken belief system
  • How to “remodel” a marriage by rebuilding on a firm foundation in Christ
  • The power of choosing to serve, not compare
  • Why information alone isn’t enough – you need implementation
  • How digital distraction is stealing intimacy (and what to do about it)
  • Practical boundaries for phones, screens, and “dead scroll” time
  • Why intentional things like family dinners, walks, and workouts together matter
  • How your words can shift the atmosphere in your home

We share real stories from our own journey, the times we had to admit,
“Okay, our belief has slipped below heaven’s standard here,” and how changing our mindset started changing our marriage.

You’ll be challenged to:

  • Stop repeating cultural scripts about “normal” marriage
  • Catch yourself when you speak small about your spouse or your relationship
  • Flip the script and start speaking life, vision, and possibility
  • Treat your marriage with the same faith, belief, and intentionality you bring to your business
  • Ask: What would change if I really believed we could have a marriage made in heaven?

Behind every great marriage, there is intention, belief, and effort.
It doesn’t “just happen.” It’s built, brick by brick, through the thoughts you think, the words you speak, and the actions you take.

We don’t want you settling for average.
We believe you can build extraordinary.
And it starts with what you believe.

We love you; we’re cheering you on, and we’re so honored to walk this out with you.

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