A Woman's Power "Unfiltered" With Victoria E Strange
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A Woman's Power "Unfiltered" With Victoria E Strange
POWER PARADOX (There is more than one kind of power)
What if everything we've been taught about power is limiting us? We've been sold a narrative that true female power means high standards, emotional detachment, and impenetrable boundaries. But after years of living as what I call "the ice queen," I've discovered there's so much more to authentic power than keeping people out.
Today's episode challenges the restricted definition of power that many women adopt. Through personal stories and hard-earned wisdom, I explore how true strength isn't about being untouchable—it's about being discerning. It's knowing yourself so well that you can afford to let people and experiences in without losing your sense of identity. This subtle power says "yes, I want something and I'm not apologizing for it" while maintaining full awareness that you can close the door whenever needed.
Power isn't one-dimensional. Some days it manifests as holding firm boundaries, while other days it's about letting those boundaries bend or shift. The real revelation? Boundaries aren't meant to be walls—they're choices that evolve with you. Being able to feel, connect, and occasionally lower your guard without losing yourself isn't weakness—it's next-level power. It's when you stop performing strength and actually become strong. Join me as we explore this liberating truth: you're not weak for feeling something, you're not soft for wanting connection, and you're not less powerful because you let someone in. You're powerful because you chose to, and you can choose differently whenever you need.
Hello, you are listening to Woman Unfiltered and I am Victoria. So we are back for episode four. Do you know, as a lot of you know, I am based in the UK, not too far from London, because I know that we have a lot of listeners in America, and it is a stunning day today. The weather is, it's beautiful, it really is, and I have been dancing around the house this morning singing my head off you know that song. Oh, how does it go? Um, this will be my everlasting love. This will be the one I've waited for. Oh, my goodness, I cannot get it out my head. I think that's going to be in my head for days. Anyway, let's get straight to it.
Speaker 1:So this episode is called there Is More Than One Kind Of Power, because if you're thinking that power is just about, you know, being unbothered, emotionally bulletproof I think is a good word and always in control, then what you're actually doing is working with a limited definition of power. Because, yes, power is that, but it is so much more. Last week I spoke about holding the line, you know, drawing it, owning it, standing behind it, and that is absolute power, no question. But here's what I have learned through experience and not theory, not guesswork, but actual, lived truth. Power isn't just about keeping people out, and when I say that I have lived this through experience, I really mean it. It's also about knowing when to let something in or someone in. You know there could be a person that you really, really want to let into your life, but you just can't because you're nervous of doing it or for whatever reason, of doing it all for whatever reason. Real power in a woman is layered and most people only ever access one version of it, and I didn't realise that until I actually realised one, that I wasn't accessing any of my power as a woman. But also, as I went on and I stepped into the power that I had as a person, as a woman, as myself, I realised there were different versions of it.
Speaker 1:So this is the version that you kind of get sold. There's a version of power that gets sold to women all the time. You know the one High standards, no needs, no emotion and no risk. It looks like strength from the outside, but it's just silence in a better outfit. And you know, I lived that version. I did for many, many, many years. You know, keep the boundaries high, super glue them, nail them, just anything that meant that those boundaries weren't coming down. And of course, there were reasons why I did that, you know, which I will touch upon in in in, you know, in future episodes.
Speaker 1:That version of power gets cold fast. I mean, it did take me a while, I gotta be honest. I think by the time I started to realize that it was okay to let your boundaries down a little bit if you were comfortable, I was the ice queen. I really was. So this is this is because when you shut the door on everything, you don't just keep the chaos out, you actually block the connection, the joy, the closeness and life, I guess because you're worried that you might get hurt, or it's just easier, and that is definitely what I did.
Speaker 1:So there's another kind of power, and no one really talks about it because it doesn't look the way that we're taught that power should look. It's not about being untouchable, it's about being discerning, you know, about knowing yourself so well you can afford to let something in without it rattling a sense of who you are. That's the power. That is the power that comes when you say say, yes, I want something and I'm not apologizing for it. Yes, I feel something, but I'm still in control. Yes, I've opened the door, but I chose to, and I can close it just as quickly if I need to.
Speaker 1:And this is something I just didn't realize. I remember, you know, stepping into my power and thinking, oh, I felt great, I felt so in control of everything. But I had this version in my head that, yeah, but I keep my boundaries up and I keep everything up because that's how I feel better and I feel powerful. But actually I was closing everything off. And you know, because I was overweight and I still am. I've lost a lot of weight, but I have a long way to go. And I was like, well, I'm not going to date until you know I'm down to a certain stone, until you know I'm down to a certain stone, instead of saying to myself which I say now I'm going to date and I have, in all honesty, I haven't started dating yet, but I am going to Because this is a part of my power that I've just kind of entered into. I'm going to date, but I'm going to continue to lose weight, get to the best that I can be for myself, but have fun at the same time. You know, we're never going to be perfect. We're just not going to be.
Speaker 1:This kind of power is subtle. You don't perform it and you don't live it. You know. You know what you're available for and you know what you're not. You don't have to make these big declarations.
Speaker 1:I used to think I had to do that. In all honesty, I was a bit of a oversharer. I felt that I owed everyone. I can't you know, I can never say this word. I felt that I owed everyone an explanation. I can never say that word. And then I realised I didn't, and actually I can keep things to myself and that it's okay, you know. So you don't have to make any big declarations. You don't need approval. Do you know what? I've just heard someone bib their car hooter outside, and I'm not going to rub it out, because that's the authenticity of this podcast. It's so annoying. You're not waiting for a round of applause, you know. You've just got clarity and that's more powerful than any pose that you can think of.
Speaker 1:And the real difference here's the core of it. Holding the line is power, but if all you ever want to do is hold it, you become rigid, you stop growing and eventually you stop feeling. Because here's the thing Boundaries are meant to move. They're not walls, they're choices. They evolve with you and they work with you. There are moments, you know, in life, where standing firm is essential. You must say no, you must protect your energy, you must hold the line. But there's also moments, important ones, where the powerful thing to do is drop the line, to let yourself feel something, to admit that you actually do want something to connect, not because you're needy, but because you're bloody human. And being able to do that without losing yourself, that is oh wow. That's next level power. That's when you stop performing strength and actually become strong.
Speaker 1:So here's the point there's more than one kind of power and you don't have to just pick one. You're not limited. Some days your power is holding the line, other days it's letting it bend, shift or disappear entirely, because you know you're still safe. There's that thing. I can't get my words out honestly, I'm sorry, I'm tongue-tied. I'm not because you know you're still safe. You know, obviously in yourself, you know you're. You're not weak for feeling something, you're not soft for wanting connection, you're not less powerful because you let someone in. And I have now realized that You're powerful because you chose to and you can choose again whenever you need to. This isn't about giving your power away. This is about knowing exactly how to use it. This is Woman, unfiltered, and I'll see you next time. Have a fantastic week.