A Woman's Power "Unfiltered" With Victoria E Strange
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A Woman's Power "Unfiltered" With Victoria E Strange
Desire Doesn't Expire, I Checked
Let's get real about something rarely discussed: what happens when a woman consciously steps away from sex. For over a decade, I didn't have sexual relationships – not because I couldn't, but because I chose not to accept what was available on terms that didn't serve me.
This wasn't a dramatic decision or vow of celibacy. One year drifted into five, then ten, as I focused on raising my child and building my business. Sex simply fell off my list of priorities. Yet as time passed, questions crept in: Was something wrong with me? Had I missed my chance? The whispers of shame suggested I should be grateful for any attention, echoes from past relationships where I'd felt obligated to express gratitude just for being chosen.
Everything shifted the day I reconnected with myself – not through anyone else's validation, but through my own recognition. Looking back, I realized I'd never had sex purely for myself, but rather to be liked, to feel safe, to avoid conflict. When I finally returned to my sexuality, it wasn't about catching up or proving anything. It was about choice – the most powerful element of desire. I discovered I could want intimacy while maintaining firm boundaries about what felt good physically, emotionally, and energetically.
If you've stepped away from your sexuality, whether by choice or circumstance, know this: you're not too late, too weird, or beyond redemption. Your power hasn't disappeared – it's just been quiet for a while. When you're ready, you'll feel it again in your body, your choices, and your voice. You owe no one explanations, but you owe yourself the truth. Ready to reclaim your power? Subscribe now and join our community of women living authentically on their own terms.
Hello everyone. It's Victoria here and welcome back to another episode of A Woman's Power, Unfiltered. So let's dive straight in. Okay, cards on the table. I was a little bit nervous about releasing this ep. I ummed and aahed, ummed and aahed again and then done it about a million times and then I thought oh, you know what this is, what this podcast is about. It's about raw honesty. It's about power. So I thought to hell with it, I'm just going to release it. So here we go.
Speaker 1:There was a time I didn't have sex for over a decade. I said it actually wasn't that bad. Thinking about it, now, that wasn't by accident, not because I couldn't, because I just didn't want it not like that, not on the terms that were available at that time. So this episode is not about being celibate, it's not about being shamed. It's about what happens when a woman stops waiting for permission and starts actually listening to herself again. So it wasn't some dramatic moment. No heartbreak, no vow, no decision. It just drifted in One year became five, five became 10.
Speaker 1:And somewhere in that time I don't know, I just forgot, I'd even I even missed it. To be honest with you, I was raising a child, you know, building a business and just holding everything together. And I didn't feel numb, I felt practical, efficient, focused it. The thing is, sex just wasn't on the list, so it got left off. You know, like you leave something off your grocery list and the thing is I didn't even question it, I just kind of got on with it.
Speaker 1:That's what silence does it creeps in quietly and then it stays. There's a part of this that no one talks about. When enough time passes, you start to wonder if you're broken or maybe just a bit weird, or just I don't know too far gone. You convince yourself I've missed the boat. You know I don't know how many times I said that that maybe someone else will have to teach you how to want it again. And then you think, oh no, I don't want that. And somewhere in the quiet you get a little bit of shame. That starts whispering. Well, you're lucky if anyone wants you at all, or we should be grateful and don't be fussy. And in all honesty, I do think that that came from past relationships, because definitely in one of my relationships I felt I had to thank this person for even being with me, which, I mean, that's a whole different new story. And then you know, there was another person and I just did not want to be with this person at all, and so I just stayed for the sake of it and because my relationships hadn't been fantastic.
Speaker 1:I think that's where you get these little whispers in your ear. And the thing is they're not, not true, it's just your mind playing tricks, I guess. And the thing is it's not self-respect, that's self-assure, I guess you know it's a weird one. So there was a moment that everything kind of shifted. And then one day, it was on this particular day that something flickered. It wasn't about a man, it wasn't about sex, it was about me. I looked at myself and I thought, hang on a minute, I still here, I'm still a woman and I still get to choose that shift. It didn't feel loud, it felt true. I didn't suddenly become, I don't know, horny or confident or wild, I just stopped feeling invisible. And once you feel seen by yourself, everything changes. It is an absolute game changer. So, looking back, I'd never, ever had sex just for myself. I had sex to be liked, to feel safe, to avoid questions, to keep the peace. And when you've lived like that, going without, it doesn't feel like missing out, it just feels like a little bit of a relief and not the other kind of relief. But when I came back to myself, when I finally finally felt ready again, it wasn't about catching up, it wasn't about proving anything, it was about choice. It was so unbelievably powerful and it wasn't until I spoke to other people that actually I realised I wasn't on my own. This was something that people it wasn't just me going through this, there was so many people going through this and you know it wasn't performance, not obligation, not shame, just permission from me to me. That's the best. That's the best can't get my words out again. That's the best permission there is in the world, from you to you, from me to me.
Speaker 1:So coming back to desire after silence is a little bit strange. You know. You second guess everything. You feel out of sync with your own body. You wonder is it even worth bothering? But it's not about jumping back in, it's about getting clear, honest and aligned, not with anyone else, just with yourself.
Speaker 1:First, you know, I realized that I could want sex and still have boundaries, still have standards, still say no to anything that didn't feel good physically, emotionally or energetically. Desire was not my goal, it just wasn't. Self-respect was, and as much, of course, I had absolute self-respect. But I felt that I really needed to dig into that to feel powerful in my self-respect. Does that make sense? I've spoken to a few people about it and I get back yes, it does. It makes complete sense. So here's what I know now. You don't owe anyone your body. You don't need a relationship to feel desire. You don't need to justify wanting or not wanting. You don't. You don't need to justify anything. Sex can be healing, fun, powerful or just okay, but it should never be the price you pay for connection.
Speaker 1:If you've been silent, if you've stepped away from it all, if you've told yourself, oh, it's just easier not to feel, then I get it. I understand that, because that's where I was and I promise you this you're not too late, you're definitely not too weird and you're certainly not. You're just waiting for the moment where, actually, you come back to yourself. Sex, silence, your self-respect. For some women those things live in different rooms, but for me they now sit at the same table, because I'm not asking anyone to validate me. Never, ever, ever again. I validate myself. I'm not chasing approval and I'm sure as hell not waiting for permission to live. If you're listening to this, thinking that was me or this is me, this is me, know this. Your power, it didn't disappear, just become a little bit quiet, and when you're ready, you'll feel it again in your body, in your choices, in your voice. You don't owe anyone an explanation, but you owe yourself the truth, and that starts here.