The Trauma Nerd
Access the brain of a booked-out trauma psychologist.
Sick of talking about it, and coping strategies that just put a band-aid on the problem?
Helen Billows is a registered psychologist, EMDRAA-accredited EMDR consultant, and one of a handful of psychologists selected to help facilitate EMDR training across Australia.
Expect the accurate version of "why am I like this" — and, more importantly, the "what do I actually do about it" — drawn from a Master of Clinical Psychology and more than 7,000 EMDR sessions.
Clinical honesty, no faffy bs, and a host who thinks she's funnier than she actually is.
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The Trauma Nerd
"Hurt People Hurt People." Great. Now Let's Talk About Accountability.
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You've seen it everywhere. On social media, in the comments, maybe even from people who should probably know better. "Hurt people hurt people."
The intention behind it isn't wrong, but somewhere along the way it became a get-out-of-jail-free card. And that's where Helen has a problem with it.
Understanding someone's pain and excusing their behaviour are not the same thing — and conflating them causes real harm. This episode makes the case that accountability isn't the opposite of compassion. It's actually part of it.
This episode covers:
- Why empathy and accountability aren't in competition
- How "hurt people hurt people" gets used to avoid consequences
- What it actually looks like to hold both compassion and responsibility at the same time
- Why letting people off the hook isn't kindness — for them or for you
If you've ever felt guilty for being hurt by someone who was also hurting, listen now.
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