1 YEAR IN SYNC!!!!

Hey Sistas it's our one year anniversary and we are hype to share this mini episode with you all. We love you all down and cheers to year 2, and don't forget always stay in the SYNC!

Transcript

SPEAKER_00 0:37

Hey you guys, this is your girl Ashley.

SPEAKER_01 0:40

Hey y'all, this is Diamond. And we are here, I don't know if we want to call this like a mini soul or a little blur, but we are here to celebrate our one year. My year is hopefully on July the 14th. Um we've been Sisters in Sync has been in sync for the last year. And through all the trials and tribulations, we are still here. So yes, yes, yes, yes, yes. What do you feel? How do you feel?

SPEAKER_02 1:12

I feel super excited. Um, I just I think about the amount of change that has taken place in the last year. I have moved to Nashville. Uh there's just been, I don't know, that's that was like the biggest one, is that we moved in the midst of a whole first season of our podcast, you know? And so getting making sure that I had a setup and internet connection and just trying not to miss a beat. I will also say it's been really, I guess, fulfilling in a sense to have a space where you and I can connect. And to also have a space where it's almost like I'm journaling, you know, like how you write in a journal or write poetry or I don't know, make a song or whatever you use to be like some type of outlet. So I just, I don't know, I'm just really grateful for the space. I'm grateful for the amount of people who have like hit me up, you know, family and friends hitting me up, saying, you know, keep doing what you're doing. I'm proud of y'all. Like, um, where y'all at, you know, when we've taken hiatuses, you know. So I'm just like, oh, okay, people are really listening. So I'm just really um, I'm really excited. I'm really happy. Um, it's been like, it's just been nice. It's just been nice to be a part of something that I feel is much greater than just you and I, and something that is so very like a space that's so necessary right now. So I'm happy. I'm excited. What about you, sis?

SPEAKER_01 2:58

It's been amazing. Um, very transformative. I feel like I haven't really gone through I went through some change, but not anything I could talk about right now. But, you know, I feel like I'm at the part where we were when we first started having to build up from ground zero. So it's like it kind of feels full circle to be in a one year and to kind of be in the same place that your podcast was a year ago. So that's been an interesting connecting the thing through. Um through all the challenges, the technical challenges, the hiatuses, I think, you know, it is it's important to realize like through it all, we're still here. And, you know, we've gotten through every change that we could as gracefully and as quickly as we could. But the people that really care about what we have to say and care about our podcast, they're gonna be here regardless. So I think that just shows the fortitude of us and wanting to continue and wanting to improve on our platform as well as keep going with it. Like, I think one of the biggest accomplishments I feel is having the book club. Um, I took a break. I'm taking a break from book club until August. I'll relaunch back again in August. But having like, I think about, well, I know Daria came. Shout out to Daria and Rihanna, they've come to one meeting, but I'm gonna shout out to my mom in April. We've been to every meeting, so it's been amazing to have that time to look forward to being like, okay, this is what we're doing, this is what we're talking about, trying different restaurants together. So having that sisterhood come in real time has been amazing. So I just look forward to continue to expand, hopefully find some more women, black women in Clarksville that want to meet and do different things, at least, you know, until I'm either not here or until, and when I say not here, that means if I Why is men barking? I know you lying. I feel like you know, every show we either hear kids or the dogs. So it's okay. I mean, this is real life, you know. Um, I didn't know he was in there until he just barked. But um what was I saying? Shit, I forgot. But yeah, it's been a year, you know. Um hopefully I would say going into the next year, and our, you know, I guess our official second season's gonna start. What day is Wednesday? Because so Wednesday's the 15th, so we'll record on Wednesday. I would love to this year actually get some interviews from the community, whether it's music or I just want to get black women from all walks of life on our podcast. So we just have um. I would love to in the next year if we can host a meetup in Clarksville, host a meetup in Nashville in the next few months. That would be fun. Um And just continue to grow our platform, you know, and just see where we go from here. What about yourself? What are you what are some things you would love to see us do within the next year?

SPEAKER_02 6:00

Yeah, definitely. I've heard like um a couple of folks that's like, are y'all gonna interview people? Like, mom asked me that, and I was like, Yeah, we will. Um, I'm like, shoo, you asked, and you want to be on the podcast? You want us to interview you, mom? Uh like, you want us to interview you? So definitely want to get some guests on. I know a lot of people, I will say this. I feel like because I did have someone back out who said who was like, you know, I'm not ready to, you know, I thought about it. I don't think I'm really quite ready to share my story. And I was a little sad at first, but then I thought about it. You know, in this day and age, I guess people are just a little bit more, I guess, not necessarily scared to speak freely, but I guess because of, yeah, cautious, you know. I mean, look at what just happened to me. So, yeah. So I I I definitely understand how people feel, but I think folks need to understand too, at the same token, like we're not gonna hop on and just like freestyle an interview. Like, questions will be given to you in advance, and anything that you don't want discussed, we won't disclose. You know what I mean? So I just I hope that we can get some people from all different walks of life, some women, black women in particular, who would like to come on and just, you know, chat it up with us. I think that would be really cool. But I just want to throw that out there that folks don't have to worry about that. Like I understand you got a job, you got a family, you don't want to disclose certain things, you don't have to worry about that. So, but yeah, I want some people on. I actually just posted on um our Instagram page that um I'm starting a 30-day actually started it yesterday because I back, I'm back coloring again. Like, that's like been very therapeutic for me. And I'm actually in a black girls color Facebook group, and yes, I love it so much. And so I'm doing a 30-day coloring challenge, and so I already have like this um Facebook Messenger group going on right now for some of the black women from the page who are doing it with me, but I opened it up for Sisters in Sync listeners as well, if they want to get involved. But all it is is like 30 days of just like you just post, you know, whatever you colored by 12 o'clock that night and just put day one, day two, like you just label it. Um, but yeah, so that's so just looking at some other avenues to help with you know our mental health. That's that's the biggest thing right now is the focus on mental health. Yep.

SPEAKER_01 9:03

That's why you posted. Was it you that posted? Because it's so crazy. It's hi.

SPEAKER_00 9:08

Oh god, KJ. Mommy's recording right now. Okay, yep. You see Ashley, she's right here. You can say hi. Oh god, y'all. Hi you gotta be quiet. Okay.

SPEAKER_01 9:25

Listen, I know that's right, KJ. But um it was probably, was it you that posted our supplies this weekend? Or I know two other girls that just got back into coloring.

SPEAKER_02 9:37

So for real? Oh my god, we need to like yes, I need to link up with them.

SPEAKER_01 9:45

But yeah, I'm excited for what the next year is going to bring. And I think I, you know, with what so we've had a few instances as of late. And if you guys don't know, I am a two-timer, so I'm here and I'm on the black paradigm.

SPEAKER_02 10:06

Yes, shout out to the black paradigm. Please go listen to the black paradigm, support the black paradigm.

SPEAKER_01 10:13

Yes. Yes. Shout out to Yan Pasta, shout out to everybody over there, amazing guys, love their topics. Um, but every show has a purpose, right? Mm-hmm. You know, TJ made it very clear what every show is for. And when it comes to the show Black Paradigm, we um we've been getting a lot of emails from white people that's requesting to be on our show, that is requesting for access, and fuck no, because it's not for you. So I want to remind you guys what Sisters in Sync is about. Sisters in Sync is a space for millennial black women. Just our talking points, our viewpoints, what we do, how we feel about things, and how we progress our black female community forward, right? So it's just, you know, I because it's not for you. So if you happen to be listening or if you happen to like what we talk about, that's cute. But don't ever think you have input. Don't ever think that you can tell us what to talk about, what we can do. And please, please, please, please, don't ever ask us to be involved because that's never gonna happen. At least not with me, or not with not with my name associated, not with diamonds, you know.

SPEAKER_00 11:30

No, so you know, and we have a hundred percent black ownership, right? That's correct, yeah. That's not gonna happen. I don't know my damn body. I'm sure I think that I'm the last owner either.

SPEAKER_01 11:45

So let's just remember this isn't oh come. This is sisters and sick.

SPEAKER_00 11:53

Mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_02 11:54

Yeah, I think that's and that's it. I'm glad TJ spoke on that when he did. If you guys uh I reposted the video on my personal page and sisters in sync page, and I think the biggest thing that I took from his video is that so many times, like, well, let me back up. I think the reason for the black paradigm is Sisters in Sync and why many black and brown spaces are created is because we want that space. And I think so many times what happens is we allow others to come in, and then it's like, well, damn, well, you know, there we go again. Whether we like whitewash something or the whole or completely gets taken over, yes, or the whole POC situation. Um, and I'm gonna speak on that too, because I had to repost that about uh Love Island because I was like, let's talk about what black and POC is. Uh, but I just think a lot of times it's like the takeover, and nobody is trying to, that was the whole reason for these spaces, why we are cultivating these spaces, why creep why we create them, and why we are so um, what's the word I'm looking for? Protective of those spaces because they didn't a lot for a long time they didn't exist. And so I think with me and you, Ashley, yes, there are black, it's a lot of black podcasts now. That's great and that's wonderful, but how many black podcasters are just KJ, stop, are just regular, like I said, regular black women who are moms, um, who are in the workforce. We're not like influencers, rappers, you know, social media stars. Correct.

SPEAKER_01 13:43

So I think that's the that's the biggest thing too. It's and and it's all about relatability, finding out who you relate to. Um, and I can think of a few black spaces that I remember, especially when I was in undergrad to now that I love, that have since either disbanded or they've gotten just, like you said, either POC'd out or whitewashed out. So I hold this space sacred. And before I ever allow myself to get, you know, either whitewashed, white on, white brought out, or, you know, let's get some POC, I'll dismiss myself because that's not what I signed up to do. Um, I hold the integrity of our of our brand extremely serious. And I know Diamond is really good at the digital. I'm really good at the in social person, the social in-person thing. So both of us play our role very well. And I think that's why this has worked for us, despite the schedules and work and kids and just life for the both of us. I think we take this serious. That's why I think we've made it so long. Because we're not, don't get me wrong, we agree on a lot of topics, but we are two, ooh, okay. We are two very different people. I just had like a little spillage on my lip. I said, wait a minute. We are two very different people. And we come together under the same guise of this is what we want to do, and this is what we choose to do in our spare time, right? But I think it's like, and I think you just said the best thing about how, you know, we're not influencers, we're just regular. There can be all of these spaces out there for us, but who do you relate to? And that's I when I think about black, and I I think I want to cover that on the next, when we start our next season on Wednesday. I'm gonna just bring out some black women's spaces that I really love that I relate to, that I can just, okay, because I never hate on another sister, but it's some shit that just don't like me. But that part. But it's also some things that I do find, well, you know what? I'm gonna go into that Wednesday because I really want to talk to the young girls about the woo lady and all this thing about tricking. Oh my God, yes. Oh, that's a great topic for Wednesday. Yes. We have to discuss this because to hear a 17-year-old girl buy an e-book with her allowance to talk about tricking, I have an issue with that. I do. I have a major issue with that. But if, you know, when it comes to being grown and some certain topics, certain things, you're like, okay, but we have to draw a line in terms of, okay, we do need everybody to exist because that's the fine line with censorship. If one side can't exist, neither can the other. So I'm all for everybody having their spaces up, but some shit just has to, yeah, no, I'm not a fan. In the words of Alandria and Trinity, I'm not fucking with it.

SPEAKER_02 16:36

Yeah. That shit is crazy. I can't wait, yeah, to talk about that. Yeah. I'm my hair was, yeah, my hair was like standing up on my head. And I just was like going from video to video to video on, you know, on the other hand.

SPEAKER_01 16:55

She died at her own man, like at the mantra party. Like, yeah. It's a lot. So, you know, everything that glitters is not gonna. I mean, you've heard me and Domino here with, you know, my nephew, her son, the dog, you know, girl, you know, I had a hard day at work, or hey, we gotta push it. We we're just regular women, right? That's right. You know, we're here. We, we, we're gonna continue to be here. We're gonna continue to strive and push forward. And I can't wait. What else do you got to say, sis?

SPEAKER_02 17:33

Yeah, I'm just I'm super excited for what the future has to hold. And I just, I can't wait for us to like as I think the beauty part about it is we are discussing topics in real time, you know, things that are really happening, whether it is, you know, really taking place with us and our lives, or, you know, things that are happening, happening in the world, you know, and so there's always room for, you know, how those things relate to us as women and us as black women. And while I'm thinking about it, it just crossed my mind again. But there was a post where it was like, uh, because you know, the finale is tonight, so we're super excited about the Love Island finale. That's another reason why me and Ashley will not be on this episode too long. We just wanted to drop by and holler at y'all because you know. Yes, yes, yes, yes.

SPEAKER_01 18:32

You, y'all been showing out social media and kids, but I expect niggas to act up. I'm not even talking about it's been so much weird behavior from black women.

SPEAKER_02 18:45

Yeah. And so I had to correct, I had to repost something yesterday on Facebook because it was going around. It is a picture of the last four girls, and it's like, wow, finally got four black women in the finale. And I was like, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa. So I reposted it and was like, you know, I reposted it. It was like, girl, I cannot. I reposted it and was like, you know, the difference between we need to know what the difference between black and person of color is, and there's only two black women in the finale.

SPEAKER_01 19:25

Well, I mean, I get what you the only reason why people are saying that they're black is because a picture of Melanie's biological dad and Kata's real dad came out. Both of their dads are black, dark-skinned black, like full black. Kata's dad is a dark black Haitian man. And Melanie's dad, if I'm not mistaken, he's either like black American or the men, but he's like, he looks like my dad. So I get what you're saying, but that brings up the topic of what we talked about before biracial women. So, you know, I understand about them saying, like, oh, I get your point, and I get, oh, we have four black women, but I do feel like there needs to be a difference with what we say, like you could say black, biracial women and black women, because if Kata's black, then one am I? That's kind of about it because I don't know, I think there's so much nuance because when I look at, when I compare, and I hate comparing women, but just I'm saying this off of somebody that you know. Like when you think about my one of my best friends, Portia. Both of their moms are white, both of their dads are black. Portia is very much black-leaning. Kata tends to be more on white, so it's just like identity when it comes. And I do want to talk to um, I would love to have two of my friends. Yes. I would love to ask my friend uh April to come on about just like the vibrational identity. But I see what I see both sides of it. Because if you're talking about the one drop rule, then yeah, all four of them are black. But then you're talking about like representation, because I've seen somebody say, like, Amandela Steinberg. She doesn't understand why there was an issue with her being cast in this new movie she has coming up based off of a book. When in the book, and Arthur even said, Hey, this is supposed to be a dark woman character, and Amanda just don't get it. But then again, the nuance with that is that's about racial woman from South Africa. So I hate when people try to act, but but again, that's just some example of topics that I would love to cover next season, right? But definitely I get your point, but I also am just like, this is why I feel like there need we need to abandon those old rules, old labels. Because you know, you have some barbership, but it's like, I'm not black. Don't call me black. I can't be mad at them. Excuse me, I can't be mad at them. But what pisses me off is don't Don't sit up there and say that, but you reap all the benefits and you reap all the colorism and privilege when it comes to being represented as black. It's nuanced. It's nuanced. Yeah, it is. I wouldn't be mad at Portia for because Portia, she she be with us. You know what I'm saying? It's an interesting conversation. But yeah, I see what you're saying, sis. But yeah, I I get it. But then it's like when I saw their dads, I said, oh. Okay. Yeah. Because even like with Melanie, when I saw her mom, I said, okay, you could definitely, I'm like, yeah, her dad has to be darker. Mm-hmm. But yeah, Kata's dad, I was shocked for even like when you look at Kada with her having blue eyes and her being so light, her dad is literally my color. It's full-blown black.

SPEAKER_02 22:46

And you just And that's just like, I mean, that's and that's like the the Spanish, you know, the Spanish conversation. Because you know, you'll have people who say, well, Melanie's part Dominican, you know, and some people say, well, that's not black. Then other people will say Dominicans are black, you know. And I taught African American history, and we went down that rabbit hole African American history about um black Spaniards and you know, and genealogy and all those things.

SPEAKER_01 23:18

Like Afro-Latina comes in. Yeah, yeah. You have some people that embrace it, but you got some people that's like, you know, yeah, you know the you know the ongoing stereotype. I know black. Yes, correct. You look like Florida Heavens and your mama does correct.

SPEAKER_02 23:34

Girl, please correct, yes, because Jocelyn will tell you straight up, she don't play that. I'm black, I'm a black, I'm black.

SPEAKER_01 23:42

What's that? Uh oh, Emerald, that's a white girl.

SPEAKER_02 23:46

That bitch ass. That was crazy. Girl, beat the shit out of her. They get uh B E T her. Don't cut the camera on that shit. I was like, bitch, don't cut the camera because Amber Rose didn't get her ass beat.

SPEAKER_01 24:02

Jesus Lord. Lord and Russia.

SPEAKER_02 24:06

Oh, y'all gotta excuse KJ. KJ is in my room because his dad and his grandmother are both outside doing the yard, doing yard work. And my baby is very much, I don't want to call him like a pretty boy. I don't like those stereotypes, but homeboy ain't gonna stay outside long.

SPEAKER_01 24:25

He ain't he just ain't gonna Nakai get out of there. He take off on your ass. Don't want me that tricky. KJ gonna hang out.

SPEAKER_02 24:35

He's gonna hang out, but my baby is definitely gonna bring his ass back in. Whereas Joy, Joy will stay outside all damn day. But KJ ain't having it. After a while, he's like, no, mommy, I go in, I go in the house.

SPEAKER_01 24:49

So it's time to go.

SPEAKER_02 24:53

Yes. So that's why he's crashing the party. But but yeah, when uh when they cut that camera off on um whatcha? Uh College, what is it? Was it College Hill Celebrity Edition or something? Yes. I said, oh, not B-E-T said this is not bad.

SPEAKER_01 25:07

He's we about to cut this. And we definitely, I want to have a so while we talk about, we brought up black media. I definitely want to talk about B.E.T. And I'll I I want to have a whole show contributed to B.E.T. And we'll talk about that on the other. But I I thought about this show for a minute. And I kind of want to see if we could do a collaborative show between me, you, and TJ because I've written out, I had to send it to you guys, but I've written out this long list about things that I think that would do BET some justice. But um, yeah, I'm as you can tell, we have a lot of ideas flowing for the next season. I'm looking forward to it. You have anything else to say, sister?

SPEAKER_02 25:56

I just want, and peep, please DM us. Like if you have something that's like on your heart, you know, that you would love to hear us, you know, talk about or discuss. You want to know our opinion on it, uh, our take on it, DM our Instagram page at one Sisters in Sync. So yeah, DM, DM our page and let us know. Like, hey, Diamond and Ashley, I think y'all should talk about blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. Like what y'all thought of da da da da da? Or if you having like a relationship issue or parenting issue.

SPEAKER_01 26:31

Y'all want us to start reading letters on air. Ooh, spicy. I'll read this shit. We'll change the name. We'll be like, yes, we're not like Sunshine 82 said, girl, we ain't gonna say girl. Ashley Nicole Leeward said no, we're not doing that. Yes, but we will not put your information out there. Like, but I mean, if you say girl, I got a husband I love, but I'm fucking on my neighbor. Oh, ooh, ooh, ooh. Ooh, let's spicy. Let's talk this through. Spicy. Yeah, I definitely cannot wait to continue this with you. And I think, you know, our greatest is yet to come. That's right. Well, since we have wrapped that up, this, I guess we'll just title this our little one-year mini sode, right? But um, you guys, this has been the first year of Sisters in Sync, and we will definitely see you as we phase into year two. Yes.

SPEAKER_02 27:29

Cheers to year one and all the blessings and lessons, and we can't wait to see you guys back for season two, year two. All right, you guys.

SPEAKER_01 27:42

We'll see you on Wednesday. Bye. Bye.