Reclaiming Me Podcast

You're Not Starting Over, You're Coming Home (a Motivational Wake-up Call to Remember Who You Are)

• Ariana • Episode 4

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Remembering Your True Self: A Journey Back to Authenticity

In this episode of 'Reclaiming Me', host Ariana Reinhart explores the theme of self-reinvention and the pressures we face to meet societal expectations. Instead of changing who we are to fit in, Ariana encourages listeners to remember and reconnect with their true authentic selves. She discusses the importance of questioning ingrained beliefs, setting boundaries, and embracing one’s unique identity. 

Through personal anecdotes and practical exercises, Ariana guides women on how to build confidence, challenge limiting beliefs, and find joy in being unapologetically themselves. Listeners are also invited to download a free workbook and participate in reflective practices to further their journey of self-discovery and empowerment.

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Ariana:

Hello my beautiful friends. Today we're gonna be discussing the pressure we feel to reinvent ourselves or to level up, and instead see it as a process of remembering rather than changing ourselves. We are here to remember who we were before we took on those expectations of others. So listen to this episode if you are ready to discover how to come home to yourself. You are not too much. You are not too sensitive. You are not too late. Welcome to reclaiming Me, the podcast for the woman who's ready to stop shrinking and start coming home to herself. Whether you're driving home from another long shift, walking your dog under quiet sky, or trying to outrun that voice in your head that says You're not enough, this space is for you. I'm your host, Ariana Reinhart, speaker, coach, and your guide on this journey of undoing the noise and shedding the pressure and rising into who you were always meant to be. This show explores what it really means to heal from toxic patterns, rebuild your confidence and reclaim the love and life you actually deserve. Here we talk self-worth, healing, boundaries, power, and the sacred process of becoming. Because you were never meant to fit in. You're on the journey back to who you were before the world told you who to be. This is your invitation. Let's begin. We so often feel the need, and we're taught that we need to change or to reinvent ourselves, but in reality, that's not the case. The problem is that we have become so accustomed to taking on other people's expectations, their goals, and their values, that we in turn, end up starting to lose our own. We begin to almost live for these other people. We want to do what we believe is the right move. What's considered to be the right move or what we should do based on the expectations that we have been raised to believe. And we take on this almost fake sense of self because we're always performing to make others like us or to make others happy. Like let's be honest, how many of us here are people pleasers? I know I definitely was, I'm still a recovering people pleaser, but it's kind of what we as women have been ingrained to do, rather than being our true, authentic selves. Sometimes we get lost in this. So instead of trying to reinvent ourselves, we simply need to remember who we are at our core. We need to question whether these beliefs are ours or if they're something that we have taken on from someone else. Maybe at one point you had a goal or a dream that you inherently knew was meant for you. But someone told you it was absurd or that you would never be able to reach it, and you didn't have enough confidence in yourself to write off what they said. So you took it on as your truth and you gave up on that dream. But I'm here right now telling you that if that dream lived in your mind, if you could imagine it and if you could see it coming to fruition. If it is something that you are passionate about and you want with every part of your being, then it was meant for you. Screw what those other people say! That was placed in your awareness for a reason. When we are children, we let our imaginations run wild. I have a 4-year-old niece right now, and I just love the imagination that she has, and she believes that she can do anything that she sets her mind to. And let me tell you, nothing will stop that child. But over time, society teaches us to develop this scarcity mindset. There's never enough money. We should settle for that job we hate because we'll never be able to make it as an artist. There aren't enough resources. It's selfish to put off having kids and go travel the world. I want you to have the tenacity of a 4-year-old. I want you to dream big and not let anything stop you. I want you to start putting yourself first and gaining your confidence back, because you can do anything you set your mind to. That doesn't mean it's gonna be easy, but it can be done. Putting yourself first is not selfish. In fact, it's probably one of the best things that you can do both for yourself and for the people around you, for your loved ones. Believing in yourself and your dreams is not selfish. No one else is gonna toot your own horn. No one else is going to give you the drive to do the things that you wanna do. So you need to find it within yourself to do so. You need to work on your confidence and your self-worth so that you don't break down when someone tells you that you're too much or that you can't do something or that you're not strong enough. I remember back when, like I worked for the RM. The first year, I had a foreman who everyone did everything. And if you found that you couldn't do it, that was fine. You would let him know or you would ask for help, and that was okay. But everyone tried. And then the second year they brought in a new foreman for us who was like the complete opposite. And he was very much the person that, oh, the men will do the job. You ladies go over and sit in the truck, or you go and stand and hold the flag. Or like you go do these things that don't require any effort or any muscle or anything. And I was like, um, excuse me. I am not at this job to sit around and do nothing. Like, no, I don't wanna do that. And it would make me so irritated because it was like, just let me do the thing and if I can't do it, then I will come to you, or then I will go do that pointless thing that you're telling me to do. But so many of us women are just like, oh, okay, I'll, I'll go do that thing instead of setting our boundaries and standing up for ourselves. I want you to learn how to be authentically you again, to speak your truth, embody who you are, love with everything you have. And if people don't like it, then they weren't meant for you. It's as simple as that. You are not for everyone and you need to be okay with that. I know I'm not for everyone. I can be a lot for some people, but the people who are meant for you will be magnetized to you. They will be completely drawn to your energy once you fully embrace your raw, authentic self. I actually found it kind of interesting. Um, today we were in a coaching call and I don't remember exactly what we were talking about, but at one point we were kind of describing our personality is like as if they were drinks. And it was so interesting to see how people viewed themselves in terms of being a drink. And at first I was like, I don't really know what drink I would be. And then as I sat there thinking about it, I was like, you know what? I'm probably a combination of like a dirty chai latte, got a little bit of spice in there, a little bit of kick to it, and also a citrusy refresher that's fun and playful and loves life and is adventurous.

So that was just kind of a fun little thing that we did today. And if you wanna play along, I would love to know what kind of drink do you think you would be? Feel free to let me know on Insta at Balanced Soul Awakening. I would love to hear from you. I.

Ariana:

I want you to take a moment and preferably do this daily if you can find the time, where you list some of the beliefs that you currently have. You could do this in categories if you would like to be more organized. So an example of this is one day you might choose to go over money beliefs, and then the next day you might choose to assess beliefs about your appearance or what makes you successful, or who you want to attract in a partner. And then I want you to question these beliefs. Are they actually yours or were they placed on you by someone else and you've taken them on? Are they true to you or are they something that you've allowed yourself to believe in even though they're harmful? Then after you've completed that portion, I want you to write what you feel is true for you or what you actually want in your life, where you wanna be. Who do you wanna become? And keep checking back to your truth, recite it, turn it into mantras or affirmations if you feel called until you eventually let go of that limiting belief that wasn't yours. That limiting belief that was holding you back, until you believe what is actually right for you. Because what other people think of you is none of your damn business. And if people are judging you, it's likely because they're jealous or they're projecting something that they dislike about themselves or where they're at in life onto you. Now, obviously, if you're a dick and people are judging you for being a dick, then that's one thing, but if you're living in your authentic, wonderful self and people are judging you for it, then it's likely a projection. Because if you decide that you're going to start working out five days a week and eating healthy, whole foods, an athlete isn't going to judge you for that and tell you that you're outta your mind. If you set a goal to follow your passion and start a business, a successful entrepreneur isn't gonna scoff at you for going after your dream. And I believe it's also important to note that surrounding yourself with a wonderful and supportive community is key when you decide to follow through with coming back to who you are, You do need to find it within yourself, but having that supportive community will help a lot. And there are probably going to be people who decide to walk out. But for every person who does, there will be at least one or two more who are ready to come in and cheer you on. I know I'm cheering you on. It will be a journey. You're gonna have good days and you're gonna have bad days. We all do. We are human. There's gonna be celebrations, and there's gonna be struggles. It is a sacred and messy journey of healing and growth. And you are going to need to find your why to keep you going, because there are gonna be days where you're gonna wanna quit. Healing is not easy, but your why will keep you going. And remember that failure is part of the process. You never truly fail. You learn. Those moments are what teach us the most. So pick yourself up and keep going because you are worth it. You deserve to be filled with happiness, joy, creativity, and love. You deserve to feel expansive and like you can conquer the world. You deserve to have happy, healthy relationships, and it is all out there waiting for you.

Now I'm just gonna take a second to let you know that you can go download my free, stop Playing Small, build Your Confidence and Understand Your Worth Workbook. You can find it on my Instagram bio at Balanced Soul Awakening, and remember to rate this podcast, subscribe or follow me on Instagram. I also wanna point out that we will take time to cover your questions in these episodes. So please reach out if you have any burning questions or if there's anything that you would love for me to discuss on this podcast. I.

Ariana:

Remembering who you are is all about taking back your power and co-creating life from your authentic self. It is all about connecting to and clearing your solar plexus chakra. This chakra is your center for confidence, self-worth, assertiveness, your sense of self, radical responsibility and self-respect. And wounding in your solar plexus chakra often shows up through those thoughts and beliefs of, but I don't think I can. It's the doubt that you have about your ability to speak your truth, to create something new, build a new business, or take on a new hobby. And when the chakra is blocked or wounded, we experience anxiety and we can often take on a victim mindset. It's our biggest block holding us back from creating the life that we desire and the life that we know we deserve to live. Anxiety is the unconscious mind telling you to focus on what you want. When you feel anxious, it means you're probably focusing on the wrong thing. So take a step back, tune into your body in that moment and ask yourself, am I focusing on a successful outcome? Or am I focusing on the worst thing that can happen? Am I focusing on all the ways that this can go wrong? And what I don't want to happen? We have become so programmed to think the negative rather than the positive, and I want you to reframe that. I want you to start thinking your automatic response to be to go to the positive. Be aware of these thoughts without any judgment, and then just simply change them to imagine a successful outcome. To see the positives that can come out of this situation. Imagine it going smoothly, that you complete it successfully. The more you become aware of your thoughts, and the more you continue to do this practice, the deeper these new neural pathways are going to become, and the easier it's gonna be for your brain to subconsciously gravitate towards success rather than towards failure. You don't want to give your power away, but we all subconsciously do it way too often. And there are different levels of power. So the first level is circumstantial power. This is where your circumstances dictate whether or not you feel like you have the power to do something. This is where you tell yourself, okay, once I master this skill, then I can share it with the world. Or once I have a good support system, then I can do it. When I've saved X number of dollars, then I'll be comfortable enough to take the action I know I need to take. The problem with this is that you're still giving your power away in these situations. It's all good and fine as long as your circumstances are ideal, but if they change, then so does your power. If you no longer have that support system, suddenly you feel like you can no longer do the thing, and we don't want that. The second level is your personal power. This is that power that's inside of you. It's where you're fully standing in your I can, regardless of your circumstances. It doesn't matter what's going on around you, you're confident that you can be successful. You know that even if it's messy at first, you can succeed because you can learn and you can grow. And the third level is divine power. It's a divine power that's both inside of us and outside of us, where we can surrender our need to control the circumstances because we know that the universe is going to have our back. We know the universe wants the best for us. It might test us, but it still wants the best for us. But if we haven't activated our trust in this Divine power, we can end up actually letting our ego drive the bus, and we often will believe that we're fully responsible and fully in charge of everything that happens in our life. And then when things don't go the way we want them to, a lot of the times people will take on a victim mindset. But this isn't actually the case. This isn't actually true. We are co-creators of our lives and of reality. When we fully trust, we can surrender anything that isn't ours. But if we don't have that trust in the universe, we can take on too much responsibility. All we can be responsible for is ourselves and our responses or our reactions to the stimuli around us. There are many people out there though who blame themselves for the actions of others and who hold guilt when something happens because they believe they didn't do enough. They have that mindset of, I should have done this sooner. Or maybe if I had paid more attention, then this wouldn't have happened.

But you cannot blame yourself.

Ariana:

Stop holding onto the guilt That thing happened because it needed to happen, as shitty as it may be. There was a lesson that needed to be learned and there was something that needed to be acknowledged. A few years ago, I had a really painful avulsion fracture of my calcaneus, and my doctor honestly did not believe it was true at first because she said, you need to have a lot of impact on your fall in order for that to happen. And you guys, I was simply walking down the steps with my dog after we had freezing rain. I fell down a step and landed sideways on my foot. And it was definitely not an ideal situation to have happen. It was not a fun time to go through, but I knew that was the universe and my body telling me that I needed to take some time to slow down. I wasn't listening to the more discreet signs that my body was giving me, so they decided to make me slow down. There is always a lesson. When we're out of alignment, we want to call all of our power back into its balanced form where we are responsible for energy and our responses. You can do this through Reiki, through clearing your chakras, returning energy that is not yours. You can say, please return to sender with love. Or literally calling your power back to you in a cleansed and purified state three times. Okay, lovelies, it is now time for our affirmation of the day. So repeat after me and write it down if it resonates with you, so that you have it on hand to recite daily. Some people like to write affirmations on post-it notes and stick them in high traffic areas around the house so that they're consistently reminded to speak kindly to themselves. Our reclaim this affirmation for today is I choose to breathe, trust and let go. The version of me that I'm becoming is already within me. I choose to breathe, trust, and let go. The version of me that I'm becoming is already within me. And as always, we will close off with our self-worth shift to reflect on, pull out a journal and answer this question. What small steps can I take today that with consistency will make a big impact in calling my power back and co-creating the life I desire? And I want you to do one thing this week only because it brings you joy, not because it's productive, simply because it brings you joy. Make this a priority. Make yourself a priority. Because it's time to choose you. Thank you for joining me on this journey of returning to yourself. I am so, so grateful that you guys have joined me today. If today's episode spoke to your soul, I'd love for you to share it with a friend and don't forget to subscribe so you never miss a moment of this reclamation or follow me on Instagram at Balanced Soul Awakening. You are not too much. You are not behind. You are not broken. You are worthy. You are whole, and you are already everything you're seeking. This is reclaiming me. Until next time, be gentle, be bold, be you.