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Embrace the Juicy and Delicious Life

In this episode of Reclaiming Me, host Ariana Reinhart is joined by Barbilee Hemmings. Together, they explore the concept of not settling in life and allowing the natural flow of existence to guide us. They delve into themes of living authentically, embracing quality of life from the very beginning, and rejecting societal pressures that lead to living in scarcity. 

With decades of experience in counseling, teaching, and coaching, Barbie Lee shares her journey of overcoming obstacles like illness by trusting herself and finding joy in every aspect of life. 

They discuss morning routines centered around gratitude, the importance of tapping into one's true self, and the transformation that comes with living a life aligned with personal desires rather than expectations. 

This episode is an inspiring conversation about taking leaps of faith, impacting others positively, and ensuring every day is filled with joy and purpose.


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Embracing Quality of Life

Ariana

Hello, my loves and welcome back to Reclaiming Me. Today I am joined by Barbie Lee Hemi Heins. Right? Okay. And we are going to be discussing, not settling in life, just allowing the flow of life to take you where it goes, and not putting that pressure on us to do it right, or to do it how we think we should, or to just live in that, like not living in scarcity and not living in feeling like, well, this is what I should do, even though it's not what I want to do, and I'm gonna limit myself because that's what I was told is the right thing. So it's gonna be a fun episode. I'm so excited for it. And Barbie Lee and I actually met through, uh, serving what's called a serving circle call. Um, so I, as many of you know, live in Saskatoon Barbie. Lee now lives in Mexico and the person who we connected through actually lives in Australia. So this was a very global connection. And so a little bit of Barb by Lee for over 40 years. She was working with kids and adults, counseling, teaching and coaching, and she has guided a lot of people to be better. Whether it's in her lifestyle coaching, which is empowering people to embrace the new efforts, food, faith, fitness, finance, and fun. Or her business coaching, working with brand partners, helping them create a recurring backend income. Barbie Lee's eye is always on the prize. The quality of life, life happens. It is a four letter word after all. But what if we were prepared for it? What if today you put systems in place, that future you can relax? Yes, please. After working with her, her clients say, wow, I never knew it could be this easy. And her absolute favorite. Why don't they teach this in school? So, hello Beverly. Thank you so much for joining me today. I'm so excited. How are you?

Barbilee

I am freaking amazing. I'm so excited. I love having these conversations, so thank you for inviting me in.

Living In Alignment

Ariana

Thank you for joining. I am super thrilled about it. I'm so excited. I love your energy and I love your message, so I think it's gonna be great, and I think it'll really, your message will really resonate with the listeners. Perfect. Awesome. Okay, so let's start with, can you tell us a little bit about yourself and explain a little bit more about what you do? Sure.

Barbilee

It's, um, I always tell people life is meant to be juicy and delicious. And if it's not, you're doing it wrong because it's meant to be juicy and delicious. And there was a time in my world where I struggled, right? I grew up my, my, my youth was not pleasant, shall we say. And that's my past. It doesn't really matter. It just my past and I had to make a choice. To make life amazing. And that's what I thought I did. I went to university, I got a couple of degrees. I was gonna be a teacher, and then I hit a brick wall. I got sick. And that changed everything because it started me on this path of having to trust other people. And I'm a little type A personality, so trusting other people, but trusting other people to make me better. And it wasn't working. What they were doing wasn't working, and I had to trust myself. Mm-hmm. And that was one of my big lessons, is I had to trust myself. If I didn't like what that allopathic doctor was doing, I need to do something different. So I have now discovered the secret to having this juicy and delicious life. It's called Quality of life. I know. It's no big secret. Like it's seriously not a secret. Right. We talk about it, but we don't talk about it until we're old. That's the problem. Usually people start talking about their quality of life when they're 70, 80 or their parents are going into some home, well, what's the quality of care? What's the quality of life? I'm like, no, we need to talk about it right from the beginning. Right. From the time somebody is born. Yeah. Right. How do we Asher somebody's quality of life? And that's what I'm doing. I was like, oh, I'm so excited because there's just little things we get to do along the way.

Ariana

Yes. I love that. And that's very true. Yeah. Like there's, and they do say that, like don't they say that your prime is kind of like in your fifties or fifties and sixties or something.'cause that's when you kind of just, you know, start to reflect and like do the things that you wanna do. And you don't worry about all those other,

Barbilee

but why do we wait till we're 50 and 60? Like that's, we, we, we, we've wasted, wasted those first 50 years. Most people don't live to a hundred. So you've wasted half your life mm-hmm. Struggling. Not you. Other people and maybe people that are listening, I don't know, but then they struggle. What for? Yeah. So we're here just to talk about making it easier, making it better.

Ariana

And I find too that like, that seems to really become or be a thing now with like the younger generation, like even younger than my generation seems to like, there's so much social anxiety and there's so much like they struggle with sometimes even doing an eight hour day of work and you know, it is just like, there's not that same quality of life. There's not that same connection. There's not like, and yeah, a lot of people that are younger don't sit there and. Really reflect on their life and be like, am I enjoying this? It's just like they go through on autopilot.

Barbilee

Yeah. And you said it earlier about what they should people think about what they should and I had a coach once this and it sticks with me and people say it all over the place. Stop shutting on yourself.

Ariana

My coach said too. Yeah. Yeah.

Barbilee

Live your life the way you want to live your life. When I left teaching and I had a job, it was guaranteed I was gonna have my pension. And when I left teaching, everyone thought I was freaking insane.

Ariana

Mm-hmm.

Barbilee

Who's laughing now? Me every day.'cause I love my freaking life. That's

The Power of Water

Ariana

what I do now anyway. Okay. Yeah. I believe it's so important to follow your intuition. Yes. And just like you grow so much and get so far in life when you are living from a place of alignment. Yeah. Instead of. Forcing things or doing what other people tell you is the right thing to do. And you just, you learn so much about yourself, you grow so much, you are more successful. Like, everything just flows. Yeah. Beautiful. Okay, so now I have a kind of fun question that I like to ask. So, if you were a drink and it can be alcoholic or non aho, non-alcoholic, what would you be and why?

Barbilee

Water.

Ariana

Water? Yeah. Yeah. Oh, okay.

Barbilee

Water is everything. Water is a little bit here you can add a little bit of flavor and make it Kool-Aid or some sort of fruit juice. You know, you can add, uh, alcohol and you can have a, you know, a drink, a fancy drink. You can swim in it, you can, it's, it's life sustaining. It's like it's what we are made of. 80, 90%. Whatever you believe of what people say we are like, like. Water to me is the life. It, it, it is everything. So if I believe that I'm one with the universe, which I believe I am, and I know I am, and this abundance, which, you know, H2O right? Water or oxygen, right? So water has oxygen in oxygen's life. Well, I wanna be a part of H2O because that's everything.

Ariana

Mm-hmm.

Barbilee

I know you probably never got that answer before.

Ariana

No, I was not expecting that at all.

Barbilee

But think about it, our like water. There's a wonderful book, video, like movie, whatever. Um, it was out in what the bleep, um, but, uh, Dr. Emoto wrote about images and water, you know, and how powerful water is and how powerful we are. So if I think that I'm water, if I'm a drink, I'm water because I can see the crystals and how beautiful they are When I say things like, I am blessed and I love you and gratitude and not do those crazy things like, you know, the, the, the, the, the, the spiraling of

Ariana

yes

Barbilee

Dick in my world. Right. So I am, I would be water.

Ariana

Okay. I like that answer. And yeah, it's, um, I don't know a whole lot about his work, but for anyone listening, he, now you can correct me and like elaborate on this a little bit, but he did an experiment with water, right? Where he put it in some type of container, I believe. And then you set like intentions into it. Correct. And then. The water actually like crystallized in different ways and changed shape and form based on what you spoke into that water. So if you had good intentions, it went one way and formed into certain crystals. And if you had bad words and bad intentions and bad thoughts, they kind of like deformed or something. Right? Like they kind of went to different,

Barbilee

yeah. And the, the biggest thing to me too was just the environment. What, like a city, a particular city's water looked like before they did anything to it, before they prayed over it, offered it gratitude or anything. So a place like Vancouver, British Columbia had beautiful water, but New York had very not so beautiful water when they photographed it, you know? But it's just about the energies. Classical music made beautiful crystals, heavy metal banger music. Really deformed crystals. Yeah. So if we're water, we have to think about what that stuff is doing to us and how we want to be. How does that assure our quality of life? What kind of music are we listening? What are we, what are all the stuff? What are we listening to? Not just music. What's our environment?

Ariana

Yeah. And I believe that it's important to, because a lot of these things we do, so subconsciously it's important to start to pay attention to our thoughts and the things that we say and the way that we speak to ourselves and we think about ourselves. And to just really like master that and become very conscious of our thoughts, our words, our feelings, and you know, just be kinder to ourselves and to others. Yeah.

Barbilee

Yeah. I had a coach once that said to me,'cause you used the word subconscious and people use that word and there's nothing wrong with it. But he said, Barbie Lee, what if you changed subconscious to unconscious?

Ariana

Mm-hmm.

Barbilee

And I was like. Why? And he goes, because then you'd have to talk about being unconscious. Not, oh, my subconscious did that. I was unconscious when that happened. And I was like, but I, I was wide awake. And he's like, were you? And I'm like, Ooh. Anyway, she just made me think of that. So

Morning Routines & Gratitude

Ariana

that's actually the word that I meant to use is unconscious, but I accidentally use subconscious. Perfect. Yeah. Okay, so now I know you're very health conscious, so can you explain your morning routine to us and like how do you start your day off? Right.

Barbilee

I love this question because mornings are my favorite. I'm a morning person. I am kind of up and down with the sun. The sun comes up, I'm waking up. When the sun goes down, I'm ready to, you know, just kind of veg or dance or have conversations with people. Um, I have not needed an alarm clock for years because of the way I've created my life. So I don't have a structure unless I'm traveling somewhere and then I need an alarm clock to make sure I don't miss my plane. Um, but other than that, I wake up naturally in my circadian rhythm. I'm typically up somewhere between five 30 and six in the morning. I naturally wake up and as soon as I wake up, I go, whoa. I'm so grateful. I woke up this morning, the first thought out of my mind, and that started about six years ago when my girlfriend called me and she said her husband didn't wake up beside her. They had gone to sleep that night. He did not wake up. And she's like, I didn't wanna wake up either. And I was like, oh no, you want to wake up? And so, you know, and sometimes like I'll poke my husband to make sure, you know, he's waking up too, but he's not yet. Um, but so the very first thing I start with gratitude, right? I did the book The Magic by Rhonda, by Brian Burn, whatever her name was that was, had written a secret. And she wrote this 21 Days of Gratitude. And she said, every time you walk to the bathroom, each step say thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you. So I'm like, okay. So first thing, so when I open my eyes in the morning, oh, thank you, I'm alive. And then, oh, I have to pee. And I go, thank you, thank you. And I just walk to the bathroom and I, first thing then whether I have my, what I call my go-go juice, which is some products for isogenics that I use. I use Ionics and cleanse and our Hyen greens, and I mix my little go-go juice, whether I do yoga, Pilates, I dance. I might have a calm day, which I do my savasana and I do meditation. Um, or I, like, there's different things that I do, but that gratitude never changes. It is the very first thing because it sets me up for the attitude of gratitude throughout the day. And if I get down in my yoga mat, I'm feeling a little stiff or something. Like we, I played a really hard game with pickleball yesterday and these two guys on the other court were pounding it at me'cause I'm a girl on the court and they don't think I can handle it. I can by the way. Um, but my arm got a little sore'cause I was blocking the ball so many times. Yeah. So this morning I didn't do my regular workout, but I did some of them. And in between I journaled.

Ariana

Mm-hmm.

Barbilee

And I thought, okay. And so I have those practices. So my gratitude is always, I might dance in the morning. If the sun's already up, I dance if it's still dark, I, I do a little more low key. I tend to do some yoga, some Pilates. I always have my go-go Juice. I journal. I might read, um, I picked up, I picked up, no, I'm not even lying to you. The book is this thick and it's at Woman's Health by Christiane, Dr. Christiane. Northrop. Okay. And I love, like, oh my God, I'm just devouring it, so there's always something for me.

Ariana

Mm-hmm.

Barbilee

And someone needs, I go to the beach. If I wake up, I go, oh, I got 10 minutes till sunrise off. I go and I'll go to the beach for sunrise. But that gratitude is key.

Ariana

Yeah. I, I need to be more cognizant of doing a very first thing when I wake up. But I try to do it for sure before I head to work for the day or before I start working on my business or anything, because it's so important. And I realize that like it just. It completely leans the way that your day is going to go. And when I started doing like my, what I call prep the field, which is like my energy work and part of it is gratitude. And like I sit there and I'm like, thank you so much heart for like beating today and for being here for me and for producing my electromagnetic field. And, and I'll be like, you know what? I'm gonna have a great fricking day today. Like, it's gonna be a fantastic day. And it's funny'cause oh, what's that song? Um, or that movie, the, the one with Hillary Duff and um, it's like the Cinderella one, but I can't think of his name. Anyways, it's like that song, like perfect. Oh yeah, yeah, yeah. I know the one. I know the one. You know that one? Yeah. Yeah. So I changed, I changed the words a little bit because yeah. I don't like the, like nothing can go wrong because it's still inviting that stability in. Right. But I'll be like, everything's gonna go right. Like everything's gonna be great. And like I'm gonna handle it so well even if things don't go the way that I plan. And

Barbilee

that's why I called my business quality of life assurance. Yes. Right. Because I'm assuring that with my daily practice, the things that I do, where I live, the people I hang out with, that I get the quality of life that I want.

Ariana

Mm-hmm. It's,

Barbilee

it's, it's like, it's

Ariana

everything. It is. Yeah. And it just like, it honestly. Yeah. It changes your whole perspective on everything. And like, now that I've started doing that, because I used to, I'm a sonographer and so like my days can be incredibly stressful and very rushed. And since I've started doing that, I'm just like. I'm more calm and more positive. Yeah. And I don't let those things get to me anymore. Especially not to the same level. And if they do affect me, I can work through them right away. And it's like five, 10 minutes, Kate, we're done. And we're back to. Good.

Barbilee

So you said you wanna be more cognizant of the gratitudes when you first wake up. Mm-hmm. So what I did,'cause as a teacher, um, in the front of my classroom, I always had some positive phrase, right? It was usually if you fail to plan, plan to fail. That was always the one in the front of my room. But what I did is I took my teacher letters, you know, those punch out letters that always So fun. Yeah. And I put, I am so grateful. So when I lie in bed, as soon as I, my eyes in the morning and I look out.'cause that's, and you just got exactly where my eyes went. It said I am so grateful. And that's what started training me because I didn't think of it first thing in the morning. Yeah. But as soon as I saw it, now it's automatic. And those little habits, when we do those little things, just put a sign on your wall.

Ariana

Okay. That's a good idea. I'll have to try that out.

Barbilee

And it gives you an excuse to go to the teacher store and buy something fun. I don't even know if they still have teacher stores, but you can always just make something on your computer too, so,

Ariana

yeah.

Barbilee

Yeah.

Ariana

I have my vision board as my background on my perfect computer. So that's something that,'cause every time I open it I'm like, oh yes, these, these are the reasons I'm doing this. These are like, this is what I want.

Barbilee

Exactly. Good job.

Overcoming Obstacles

Ariana

So now we're gonna kind of change topic or change tune a little bit. What was the biggest obstacle that you've overcome in your life or your career?

Barbilee

I, when I read this question, right, I was like, Ugh, I'm not a fan. Back when I had the obstacles, I could give you 15. Right. Today I look back and I don't like the word obstacle because I look at it as a challenge, right? Am I going to rise to this challenge or I'm gonna let it block me? So something as simple as when I got sick, right when I was teaching and like kind of in the height of my career and I get sick, that was an obstacle.

Ariana

Mm-hmm. So

Barbilee

what am I gonna do about it? Right? And, but today I look at back at it and I think it's such a blessing.

Ariana

Yeah.

Barbilee

That I got sick and the traditional way of healing me wasn't doing any good. So I had to find a different route. And that's what led me to isogenics. It led me to wellness, not like actually actual healthcare and not sick care. Yeah. So obstacles I could say. So if I'm writing a book, the obstacles in my world were, as a kid. I was in an alcoholic family. My mother sent me to Al-Anon because I'm surrounded by alcoholics, not her. She was the one. But I should go to learn how to deal with the other alcoholics in my family. So that could have been an obstacle. Right. My brothers and sisters thinking that I was partially retarded most of my life, and they just kept calling me stupid. That could have been an obstacle for me. You know, it could have been when I got sick, right? There's so many different things that I could bring forth, and at the same time I go, I wouldn't be who I am today without those.

Ariana

Mm-hmm.

Barbilee

So I get it when people are in these places of, oh my God, I've hit a roadblock. I've hit a, um, I'm sorry, I'm totally distracted.'cause there's a beautiful sunset, like right over my computer and I just, it is so glorious. Sorry. I digress. But that's, that's my world. Um. And I, and I get when people are, are up against the wall and their back's up against the wall and they're not physically or financially stable and I get that. They feel the obstacles and, and what I have to say is if we change the word to, so this is my challenge.

Ariana

Yeah.

Barbilee

And go, are you up for the challenge or are you going to recede from the challenge? And most people say, I don't need this challenge right now. I'm just gonna step back and see how it goes. And that's okay too. Wait for the right time. That shows up for me when my sister told me that you're too stupid to go to university anyway. My, I was like, well, I'll show you notice my, I think I got, my letters are up here, right? I have two degrees. It was a five year combined degree program. I finished them in less than four years on a 3.8 outta 4G PA

Ariana

Wow.

Barbilee

To my sister. And I don't know if this is video or video or not, but I gave her the finger, right? So. I could look at as an obstacle and I can also look at it. Obstacle races are fun. You ever see that? Tough mutter. You ever see the obstacle course? That's fun. So it's all how we look at it.

Ariana

Yeah. I did R in maniac and it was like, oh my God, I was cut head and toe afterwards. Right. But it was so much fun. I had a blast with it.

Barbilee

I'm taking you for a little walk because we need to turn the light. There we go.

Ariana

Um, speaking of that, I love that sandwich. I might be like kind of changing it a little bit, but um, that obstacles are just detours leading you or redirecting you in the right direction.

Barbilee

Agreed.

Ariana

And a lot of those big things that seem like horrible at the time or so hard to get through are huge building blocks in our lives and they're. Kind of what often will take us onto the path that is like, you know, what's right, what we're, what we're called to do, or something like that. Like it, like it's a life changing moment a lot of the time, but a lot of people struggle to get through them once they come up against them.

Barbilee

One of the things that I've really noticed with social media, which is really anti-social media, is people tend to post what they think other people wanna see. Mm-hmm. They post, oh, my Perfect Life, or this or that, or they go totally the opposite direction and woe is me. I need your, you know, support, whatever. Yeah. And there's a place for social media. Absolutely. Like we found each other through Facebook, right? Yeah. And so there's that place and at the same time. When we use it appropriately and when we use it for, I always say for good and not evil, then we can find out how others have turned their obstacles into their blessings. Right? I don't know how many cancer survivor stories I've read that said, I thought I was gonna die, and now I see the blessing in living. You know, so we see it all the time. So I, I, I tell my clients all the time, right, is whatever's in your way, it's just a delay. Michael Beckwith from The Secret. Um, I used to go to his church when I lived in Los Angeles and his, one of his favorite lines is, every delay is delicious. Mm. So there's a reason for the obstacle. There's a reason for the delay. Mm-hmm. So that's why I say that. So I, I, I, I read this story about, you know, some monk up in Tibet or something, and he would always say, oh, so this is my challenge. So I use the word challenge because that inspires me. I love to be challenged. Yeah. In a challenge. Me, I'll take you on. No problem. Right. That's my type A personality. So when people find the words that work for them, but we've give such, we've given such power towards like an obstacle. Yeah. But when I tell you to think about the tough mutter obstacles, you're like, those are awesome. You roll through the mud, you go to climb a rope and land on inflatable tubes, like, you know, it's how we look at them and how we perceive them.

Ariana

Yes. Yeah. And I think it's so interesting that you mentioned the. Like health and everything as well, because I strongly believe that a lot of the times too, those, um, challenges or obstacles in our health are, a lot of the time they're like suppressed emotions that we have not expressed or felt, and we always like, it is so common. Like we've even raised to just stuff'em down, stuff'em down, stuff'em down. Don't let people vulnerability as weakness, you know? And especially like men too. Um, you know, they gotta be the tough one. They gotta be the strong one. They can't. And so that's kind of the way that they were raised. And then so we stuffed those emotions down and then all of a sudden they're like, I'm not being seen. I'm not being heard. I wanna be released. I'm going to make you see me. Right. Right. Mm-hmm. And that's something that I, I think healthcare is. Kind of starting to realize, but you know, it's, that's a whole thing. But, um, it's just, I think it's something that's important that people should probably start realizing because we have so much more control over our life than we give ourselves credit for. And it's also like we rely so heavily, and I mean, I work in healthcare, but we rely so heavily on healthcare. But the thing is that it's not preventative. Like you said's, like it's sick care. It's once you're sick and it relies, Western medicine relies so heavily on like medication and pumping you with drugs and everything. And there's often better ways that we can deal with those things. And so I think it's really important to kind of learn and look into that.

Barbilee

Agreed.

Ariana

Yeah. Okay. Now, so kind of along that same line, can you tell us about a lesson, a recurring lesson that you've learned either in your life or your career?

Barbilee

Yeah. The, the one that always comes to mind is I have to slow down to speed up. So I have a type a, a, d, h, D brain, and we're talking about what the brain does. Yeah. And I'm, I, I diagnosed myself'cause I'm a special needs teacher. I could do that now. Um, I just, I have a really high functioning brain and I like to do, and I, it should have happened yesterday. I thought of it today, but I should have thought of it yesterday. Like, I, I, I do that kind of thing in my mind. And when my coach said to me once, Barbie Lee, you need to slow down to speed up. I thought. Like, I didn't understand that. And when I, she, and she, of course, she didn't tell me.'cause a good coach never tells you anything. They just say something very profound. You're supposed to figure it out yourself anyhow. Um, but what it did for me is it, it that one phrase taught me meditation, it taught me to do gratitudes. It taught me to journal because when you, what the fuck does she mean? Slow down to speed? I don't, ah, you know, give myself the opportunity. And that's, and it's still like my husband and I are really looking into AI and we're looking at, uh, you know, some things that we're gonna do with over 50 and, and in AI and using that to help fund because, uh, you know, a lot of people are very worried about pensions and stuff. So how can you create incomes with AI if you're over 50 and can barely use a computer? So we're, we're working on that kind of thing right now and we're really excited about it.

Ariana

That's awesome. And I

Barbilee

want everything yesterday.

Ariana

Yeah.

Barbilee

Because I have all these ideas.

Ariana

Yeah. And I

Barbilee

was like, okay, no, I have to give myself 90 days. Like I've given myself husband's like, we should probably give ourselves six months. I'm like, no, I get 90 days. So let's get at this slow down to speed up.

Ariana

Yes.

Barbilee

Yeah.

Ariana

And that was something that I really noticed too, was once I started like slowing down and just like taking my time to do things, like I used to be like, go, go, go, go, go, go. Rush, rush, rush, rush, rush. Like always rushing. And your, your nervous system is so heightened. It's always activated. And once I started to meditate and to slow down and to just like be deliberate with my actions and it changed everything for me. And like meditation has changed everything for me. And, um, there's something else talking about that I was gonna comment on. Oh, now it's called, it's, maybe I wasn't meant to say it.'cause now it's just slipped through my mind. But, um, yeah, just like taking that deliberate action and slowing down, and then you can be more in alignment so you're not doing so much like that busy work, that frantic energy, that like, whatever you are doing the next right step And something that might, and, and if your listeners

Barbilee

right,'cause sometimes listeners are like, I don't meditate. I don't know how to journal. You know, I'm like, take a shower. Yes. Yeah. That's, that's all you have to do. Mm-hmm. Take a shower, wash your hair, wash your bar to shave your legs. Whatever it is that you need to do. Play with the bubbles. And you know what, that's where you get your best ideas. Everybody knows it. They remember something on the grocery list. They, and if, and if they think, oh, I can't meditate. Showering is a meditation. Washing dishes is a meditation, walking down the grocery aisle. Could be a meditation. Yeah. It doesn't mean sitting, going, oh, that's not what meditation is about. Meditation is coming into your center. Mm-hmm. And being present.

Ariana

Yeah.

Barbilee

And then there's different variations of that, but it all starts from, I don't know, taking a breath. Maybe that's a meditation. Oh, configure.

Ariana

Yes. Uh, even, yeah, a couple deep breaths like moves so much energy. Mm-hmm. And the other nice thing about showers too, like if I'm feeling off, if I'm feeling like, ugh, jittery and whatever, I'll take a shower and it makes me feel so much better. And then it like, because water is emotion, like water, the element of water works with your emotions and your feelings. And so you can allow it to just, and like set the intention that it like washes all of that crap away that you're ready to let go of.

Barbilee

See, now you understand why I wanna be water, not because I wanna be in the shower with you. I'm not creepy like that, but the power that water has. Yeah. That's why I wanna be water.

Ariana

Yeah. That reminded me of one time, um, I was in university and our professor at the end of class asked us a question of like, they gave us, we had to like write it down or whatever our answers, and we handed them in. And um, it was like if you could have any kind of superpower or something like that, and like no one, like you had no consequences from like, if you could do anything you wanted in the world. Um, I don't remember if it was a superpower. I think it was if you could do anything you want in the world, whether it would be bad or good and there was no consequences for it, what would you do? And she read one out. It's like something about, um, going into Ryan Reynolds house and like watching him.

Barbilee

Totally. Hey, she's being honest, right? Yeah.

Journey of Self-Discovery

Ariana

Oh my goodness. And then I remembered the other thing that I was gonna say too was that when we're like in that hurried, rushed energy, a lot of people, this is something that they can notice, is that that's when we make the most mistakes.'cause we're not thinking clearly. Right. And so it's just like, that's when thing after thing happens and we, when we make mistakes and you know we have, and then it just makes us more frantic. And then when we just take some time to take few breaths and slow down and be more cognizant of our actions, that's when things start to go right. Exactly. Yeah. Beautiful. Okay. And then, so I understand that you've held multiple positions and explored many different skill sets throughout your career. Um, you never settled, but you continued to search for what feels right to you. So can you kind of walk us through that journey? Hmm. Yeah.

Barbilee

I, I, I, it's a tough one because there's different things that inspire different people to do or think the way they do, or to affect people or to trigger people, whatever it is. So everybody has their own journey in that way. So when I think about the different things that I did throughout my life and, and I've done, I've done a variety of things. I have been an entrepreneur since the age of. Eight, I I, I used leverage at the age of 12 to get a paper route in the city of Edmonton because they wanted 12-year-old newspaper carriers. I'm like, perfect, I'm 12. But as soon as I called them and I told'em I was a girl, they heard my voice, oh, you have to be 14. So I hired my brother to be the face of the, my operation. I did the work, he helped me collect the money. Like, so there's been things going on throughout my world. Um, the, the type of training that I've taken in cognitive behavior therapy, neurolinguistic programming, religious or religious practitioner training, there's been all sorts of things that when, so growing up I was very limited.

Ariana

Mm-hmm.

Barbilee

I was. Just Barbie Lee. Actually, I really thought my name was Dammit Barbie Lee for the longest time because my mother would say all my brothers and sisters' names until she'd go, oh, dammit, Barbie Lee. I really thought that was my name. Um, so I felt very limited. And then when I was the only one left at home,'cause I was a little young, younger, um, than the rest of them, um, I lashed out. Mm. Because now I'm gonna be seen. Right. You talked about that with men too. Right. And, and how we have this, and it wasn't really until I, I had this wellness crash just before the wellness crash. I was already in the sick version and I didn't want that anymore. Yeah. And I had to make a decision how that was going to be. Now I could have, because I was a teacher and I had great, great insurance, I could have been retrained. And taking that route, taking a cushy job in some administration in the education world and keep making my teacher's salary and, and, you know, probably shoot my brains out in the next year or two, you know, because that's how I would've felt.

Ariana

Yeah.

Barbilee

But I was like, I walked away from a guaranteed job and, you know, to do network marketing. Who does that? I do because, yeah, I got sick and teaching made me sick and no one could tell me why. Mm-hmm. No one could tell me why. Well if I go back there, am I not just gonna get sick again? Like it's when I started like, seriously, and, and, and I'm not saying this'cause I want y'all to buy my products, but buy my products. When I started feeding my body great nutrition, I started to think again, we feed ourselves such crap. We don't get to think, we just follow. Yeah. The food, everything we have is so depleted and we're starving. Nutritionally, we're starving socially. So we go onto social media, we think we have friends.

Ariana

Mm-hmm. We

Barbilee

become this keyboard coward. People call them warriors. I call them cowboys, cowards, because they don't know what else to do. Yeah. And I have to be so conscious. I tell people I brainwash myself all the time, every everywhere around me, there's something that reminds me about the life that I want. I love that. So this whole journey and all these things that I've done, I may have settled, like, I'm gonna be a teacher. Yeah, yeah. Let's do that. Hmm. Then that didn't work. So I left that. Right. Okay. Now I'm, I'm gonna be, you know what? I'm gonna be the best practitioner, uh, in, in my, in my church ever, and work with the kids. I'm gonna shave the kids. Oh yeah. No, no. Done with that. You know, and it wasn't until I found out who I was.

Ariana

Mm-hmm.

Barbilee

And now today I'm still doing network marketing, love, freaking network marketing. I think there's no better way to earn an income. But now there's ai. I was like, how can I use AI to help me in my network marketing? So now I'm passionate about ai, so I keep doing these things. I have a friend, she is three days older than me. We are exactly the same. Everything about us. We've both been married a long time. We both have two kids, Ladi da, and she goes, Barbie Lee, it is time to slow down. I said, I'm gonna slow down when I die.

Ariana

Yeah.

Barbilee

Because life, I only get this one shot in this body to be Barbie Lee in this existence. Not wasting it. Because you know what I was told once, if I don't learn my lessons in this time, they come back to haunt me in my next life. I don't want that. Right? I'm like, I'm done with some of this shit. Like I'm done. Right? So if I don't make sure I squeeze everything right, I started to call it the juicy and deliciousness of life. If I don't squeeze all of that under this. I'm gonna come back and I'm gonna have to, you know, suffer some of that crap again. When I come back, I'm coming back as a butterfly or something and I'm just gonna flutter around and, you know, I might have to struggle a little bit to get on the cocoon to remind me who I'm a butterfly, but, you know, life is just too freaking short. What if tomorrow your husband wakes up or he doesn't wake up? You do. And he's dead beside you. What, what if your, you know, husband, a friend of mine, you know, um, he's, he's a sar, he's sar tech, a search and rescue tech. He didn't come home from work one day. Like we have no freaking idea when our life ends. Mm-hmm. And what, I'm gonna sit in a dead end job hoping that maybe I'm going to live long enough to have a pension so maybe I can have a life in my fifties. Screw that shit tapping out.

Ariana

Yes.

Barbilee

Yeah. I love that. I'm not sure if I answered your question.

Facing the Fear of the Unknown

Ariana

I think you did. But anyways, way answer. Do you have any advice though, for like someone who's kind of sitting on that fence where they're like, I feel like I want something more in my life, but isn't like they're scared because, I mean, it's a scary thing, right? And we're afraid of the unknown. So do you have any advice for that person who's like, oh my God, I'd be crazy to do this, but it's what I feel called to do, to just get them to, you know, take that leap of faith and just do what they know is their calling.

Embracing Failure & Taking Risks

Barbilee

It's a tough one. You know, people get caught up in, like we talked about there, shoulds there, there would've, I, my parents want this, or me and all that. And then sometimes when we have the calling, we don't think it's a calling. We think it's a joke. Oh, I'm, I'm not meant to paint. Forget it. I'll never make any money being a painter. You know, or, or whatever it is. And, and here's, here's. What I know to be absolutely true. We have survived every bad day we've had up until today. Every bad day we've survived. So what if we have a few more bad days? The odds are we're probably gonna survive.

Ariana

Mm-hmm. And

Barbilee

if we don't, well guess what? Figure out what happens life after death or what happens, and then not worrying about it. You know, I, I, I met this guy networking maybe about a year ago. Homeless. The only thing he makes sure he has is his internet because he videos other homeless people's stories and puts them on his Instagram. And he would rather not eat and still pay his cell phone bill to share other people's stories on his Instagram. I'm like, I can love you. Let me send you some money. Like, where can I email you some money? You know, people just do things. And it's okay to do them. And guess what? It's okay to fail.

Ariana

Yes,

Barbilee

it's okay. And you know what? Do you, go back, trust me when people say, oh, I don't wanna go back to teaching, I would never go back to teaching. I might teach again.

Ariana

Yeah.

Barbilee

But I'll never go back to teaching.

Ariana

Mm-hmm.

Barbilee

Right. You're a stenographer and you're building your coaching business. Right. You'll never go, you know, if you leave sonography, you'll never go back. You might pick it up again. Yeah. Right. But you're never gonna go back. Go back. Means we can change the past. Yeah. So we can't, so, I'm sorry. You can look at any religion on the world in the world and, and you know, even the crazy ones, none of them have been able to change the past. They simply learn from the past and they move forward. What makes you so special to think that it's gonna be any different? Like thousands of years, thousands and millions of billions of people just, just, what does Nike say? Just do it.

Ariana

Yeah.

Barbilee

Right. Or, or, or in the sixties there used to be those t-shirts that says that if it feels good, do it. Like they were talking about sex and drugs and rock and roll. But here's the thing, at the end of the day, if it feels good, do it.

Ariana

Yeah.

The Power of Knowing Who You Are

Barbilee

If it doesn't, just take a breath. Close your eyes, take a breath, get connected. Go. Yeah. I, we were out the other night meeting some new people and I just, I said, husband, I'm like, I'm done. And he is like, okay, we're done. I said, goodnight everybody. And we walked out. He's like, are you okay? I said, I just started to feel icky. I got 9, 9, 8, 9 text messages. Are you okay? Is everything okay? I'm like, yep. Just didn't like the vibe anymore. I needed to clear my head. I don't care. They all talked about me after I left. Ask me if I care. Go ahead, ask me. Go ahead. And that's the thing, when I found out who I am. My quality of life changed. Mm-hmm. I don't give a crap what other people said. There's, um, when you are gonna ask me a question about the insult, I'm gonna answer it right now. Okay. The greatest insult I get is when someone calls me a bitch, oh, Barbie Lee, you're such a bitch. And I say, I'm a babe in total control of herself. B-I-T-C-H. I'm a babe in total control of herself. Somebody taught me that years ago.

Ariana

I like that

Barbilee

when they call me a bitch, it's because I'm standing in my power of who I am and I'm protecting myself.

Ariana

Mm-hmm. And

Barbilee

they want me to bow down to them, make them happy. You know, I should have said bye to everybody in the room. I, you know, oh, I'm not feeling well. Made up some story. So they felt better about me leaving. No, you wanna talk about me? Talk about me. Whatever. I, so if it feels good to it.

Ariana

And it's not, um, I just wanna say too to that, to the question, like, if you are, like, for the audience, if you are thinking of, you know, trying to embark on this journey of what you feel called to do, like, it's probably not going to be easy because a lot of the times those big things that we're meant to do, they're gonna be a challenge. But just like stick it out and keep taking step after step, like what is my next right step? What is my next right move? And you just keep moving forward. And I love that saying fail forward because you never actually fail. You're learning, you're, you're receiving data and. So that's not gonna be a cake walk. But don't, don't give up on yourself. Like if you feel called, that's what you feel called to do, then stick with it. And you might need to do something else that you don't necessarily want to do in the meantime while you're, while you're on that journey. But don't give up on yourself.'cause that's the worst thing that you can do. Good advice. Okay. And then is there any advice that you would like to give the listeners when it comes to like, doing what lights you up and not letting fear and scarcity take over?

Barbilee

You gotta find people. If people find out who they are, they will find what lights them up. Mm-hmm. And then nothing will stop them. Yeah. Right. There's a, there's, there's a big difference of, I think I want, or whatever. I know I am meant to change lives. Mm-hmm. I know that. How that looks. I don't know, but I know that I, me living my dream, living this juicy and delicious life, I give other people permission to do the same.

Ariana

Yes.

Barbilee

They see Marlene and they go, she's not so pretty. And she could do that. She's not so smart. And she did that, right? Yeah. You know, and, and so there's, there's a beautiful journaling question that saved my life. Okay. Literally, because it gave me life. And the question is, who are you? And I did this, I did a weekend, it was three days. It was dyad style, and we weren't allowed to speak for the entire weekend. Okay. The only question we could say is, who are you? So we walk up to somebody, we'd bow, and if they bow back, I would say, Arianna, who are you? And then you'd, we'd talk, there's no talking. You would talk and then you would say, I would say thank you when I felt you were done. And then you would look at me and say, Barbie Lee, who are you? And then I would answer. Then I would ask you back and we would do this until we felt complete in that train of thought. And that's the only time we could talk is answering the question, who are you? And I give it to my clients all the time. It's a lot of people don't have somebody to die at with. And I'm like, just journal. Who are you?

Ariana

Mm-hmm.

Barbilee

Just write, I'm a my wife, I'm a mother, I'm a this, I'm a that. Who are you? Who are you? And just keep until you get to the raw realness of it all.

Ariana

Mm-hmm.

Barbilee

Guess what? Who I am? It's a four letter word, but it's a good four letter word. I am play.

Ariana

Oh, okay. I could do that. Yeah.

Barbilee

Everything. If I am not having fun, I'm out.

Ariana

Yeah.

The Importance of Quality of Life

Barbilee

In a second. And you know how I got out when I was a kid, my brothers and sisters would be mean to me. I'd get sick. So my mom had to pay better attention to me. I had ear infections, eye infections, throat infections right in, in, um, junior high. If I didn't like being in a classroom, I got myself kicked out. I was out, go sit in the principal's office. Hey, okay, well we, you know? Yeah. And when, again, I keep coming back to this, when we know who we are, everything flows better.

Ariana

Mm-hmm.

Barbilee

So there's all the work you can do. There's books you can read. There's, you know, there's a beautiful book. It's a really old book. It's called, excuse Me, your Life Is Waiting by Lynn Grabhorn. And it's all about feeling. And when I read that book, I'm like, I feel like shit. Okay. How do I feel better? Okay, go do something. If I'm feeling down, my, my number one go-to is my Instagram. I follow moms of new babies, laughing babies. Babies that fall over, you know, like, and they bring me such joy.

Ariana

Yeah. And then it

Barbilee

rises my vibration. So again, find out who you are. Stop with the, why am I here? I think that's a bullshit question. My purpose for life, it's kind of a bullshit question. Who are you? That will tell you why you're here. Mm-hmm. So if I'm, if I am play well, I'm here to help others play. And by helping others play, they get to have a better life. Oh my God. I get to affect people's lives and have more fun in their lives. Hell yeah. Yeah. I'm in.

Ariana

That's awesome. I love that. And I think it's important to note how you said, um, I can't remember what it was, um, but like to really kind of keep digging until you get that, because, you know, our, our first response is like, oh, I'm a mother, I'm a wife, I'm a girlfriend, I'm a teacher, I'm a sonographer. We go to our roles. We have that tendency to go to our roles first, but this is like Beverly Lee is talking about like deep inside of you, like who are you at your root, and you figure that out and you keep going deeper and deeper and into more levels. It's like peeling an onion kind of thing.

Barbilee

And while you're peeling onion, you cry. Yeah. And so if you're doing the work properly, you're gonna cry.

Ariana

Yeah.

Barbilee

Right. Yeah. Just the way it goes.

Ariana

Okay. And then what is your proudest achievement?

Barbilee

Okay, so I have two amazing daughters. They're 26 and 30, and they text me regularly.

Ariana

Nice.

Barbilee

I have friends that their kids don't. My daughter just came to Mexico for five days. She had a few days, and she came to hang out. Aw. My 26-year-old daughter came to hang out with her. 56-year-old mom. And you know what? I could die tomorrow and know that my kids are good. They'll be, they'll be devastated. Devastated. However, I've given them a legacy.

Ariana

Yeah.

Barbilee

They know who they are. They didn't have to wait till their thirties and forties and fifties to figure it out. I've been working with them on who they are since they were little.

Ariana

Oh, I love that. And

Barbilee

that's, that's it.

Recommended Books & Tools

Ariana

Yeah. That's awesome. I'm really close with my mom too, so I know. Yeah, I know that bond and it's incredible. Yeah, I love that. And then can you, I mean, I know that you've mentioned a few books, but can you recommend any books or apps or tools for the listeners?

Barbilee

So, my favorite book of all time that everybody has to listen to forever and ever and ever, and you can get it on, um, you can watch it on YouTube so you don't have to pay for it if you don't want to. It's the Four Agreements by DMI Miguel Ruiz. When my kids were younger, they, we, I read it to them than when they were, you know, when they could read by themselves. They had to read it. They were paid$20 every time they read it. Just so you know, because I paid my children for. Being better, not just doing chores. Yeah. Um, and anytime somebody like their, their friends turned 16, 18, whatever, whatever age they were, they always got that book. That was what they received. Any friend in my world gets that book and as soon as I meet somebody, I was like, have you read the four agreements? Like if I'm thinking about having a, a relationship with them mm-hmm. And they're like, no. I'm like, I'm gonna send you an audio. It's two and a half hours. You can listen two times speed because he talks pretty slow. So you get it done like an hour, like drive to work or something. And then people go, oh my God, this book changed my life. Then we can have better conversations. I love that. Right. So if we, we know the four agreements, always do your best. Be impeccable with your word. Don't take anything personally and don't make assumptions. And when we have conversations with people, right, what did I say to you at the beginning of the call? You're like, oh, I, I'm a little frazzled. I had a week. And I said, well, it's all perfect.

Ariana

Yeah,

Barbilee

you're gonna be here doing your best anyways. No one's gonna know if we screw up. Which by the way, we haven't, we have been on par, like seriously. But that, that's, I, I could list 15 others, but the number one, everybody can understand it. There's no woo woom in there. There's no, um, you know, chakras and deep meditations. This is just good common sense, which ain't so common today.

Ariana

Yeah, that is very true.

Barbilee

Yeah.

Ariana

I think I am called to read that book because it has come up several times to me in the last few weeks here, and I've had it on my audible wishlist for like. Months, and I keep going over, I'm like, Hmm, maybe. And then I'm like, oh, but I got this one that I wanna read. And so I, I think it's time.

Barbilee

Well, you can save your, um, you can save your audible credits and just watch it on YouTube.

Ariana

Okay.

Barbilee

Because a full book is written, is read Out Loud on YouTube.

Ariana

Okay. I'll

Barbilee

have

Ariana

to

Barbilee

do

Funny Family Stories

Ariana

that for sure. Yeah. Awesome. Okay. And then what, so kind of another little fun one, what's the funniest story that your family tells about you or your friends?

Barbilee

Yeah. Um, I, I was, I asked my husband, I'm like, do y'all tell funny stories about me? He goes, yeah, behind your back. Um, actually, when. When my children, so I have been a very uncoordinated person my whole life. I was hit by a drunk driver when I was 16. Oh my. So in those formative years of high school and what have you, I couldn't do anything. I was in the hospital for a number of months. I had to, you know, learn how to use my legs again, stuff like that. And so when I, in my fifties told my children and my husband that I was gonna play pickleball, they laugh. And so they tell the story of what they talked about after it.'cause I was in Mexico and they were back in Canada and they stayed on the call after and they were like talking to each other. Oh my god, mom's gonna like break a hip and she's gonna break an arm and do these people know? My mother doesn't even know how to hold a racket. You know, they had this whole conversation about me and they were trying to convince my husband to tell me I shouldn't be playing pickleball.'cause I am so accident prone. Mm-hmm. Right. And today. I kick their ass. Okay. Maybe not the boys because they're like in their twenties and they're really fast. But the girls I can kick their life is meant to be fun and share fun times. And that that's, that's the one that came up. The most recent one is my mother is playing pickleball. Okay. Yeah.

Ariana

I played it Brandon and I actually got rackets recently. We haven't used them yet because I found, oh

Barbilee

wait, excuse me. They're called paddles.

Ariana

Oh, sorry. Yes, sorry.

Barbilee

We we're pickleball snobs. So we have to say paddles. Anyway, sorry I digress.

Ariana

We, um, are wanting to go play. I don't think he's ever played before. I played a couple of times and it's actually a lot of fun. I used to play tennis too. It's so

Barbilee

easy.

Ariana

Yeah.

Barbilee

And you don't have to be any good to have fun. Yes. Right. Yeah. And that's what I love about it. There was a guy, he was really serious and he, we was playing against him yesterday and he like dropped his pal. He was like so frustrated with his partner. I'm like, Hey niv, are you having fun? And he goes, because I tell him he has to tell his face that he is having fun. Right. Because he does, he forgets because sometimes they take it seriously. Mm-hmm. But just like life pickle ball's a game. Yeah. Pickle ball's a game. Life's a game. It's a four letter word. You know? Life don't take it too seriously. Yeah. Focus on your quality of life, focus of how to be happy, how to squeeze the juicy and deliciousness out of it. And boom.

Ariana

When I then you have of funny stories,

Barbilee

you what I said, then you can have all kinds of funny stories. Yes.

Ariana

That reminds me of, um, back when I was, I think I was in university and in the summers or maybe I was still in high school. No, I was still in high school. But anyways, I used to work for the hem stock residence in Lloydminster. So that's like an assisted living home. And um, there was this one gentleman there that we all loved, and every single time he would be like, how are you today, Ariana? And then if you were like, eh, like it's about it. He'd be like, how are you today, Ariana? And he would just ask you over and over until you were like, you know what? I'm doing good. I'm having a good day. Good day. Right. He was just, yeah, he was just one of those people. And like, it's funny because some people, like you might think you would get irritated by it or like whatever, but it's like just the type of person he was, it just actually like brightened your day. It made you happier. And so yeah, we always loved that about him.

Barbilee

He knew the secret to life.

Final Thoughts & Takeaways

Ariana

Yeah. Yeah. Okay. And then you've already answered that question. What is one takeaway that you want the audience to get from this episode?

Barbilee

Well, I've said it a thousand times, right. Focus on quality of life. Mm-hmm. Find out who you are and, and here's the thing, if you don't know, reach out to me. Right. Quality of life assurance.com. I'm the only Barbie Lee on Facebook. If you go to facebook.com/barbie lee, I'm the only one. LinkedIn, I'm the only Barbie Lee on LinkedIn. I'm the only Barbie Lee on Twitter. I am the only Barbie Lee on other platforms. I think I had to be Barbie Lee H on TikTok. I'm not sure how that happened, but whatever. I don't use TikTok much, but I, I have an account. But talk to somebody who's just one level up from you. Mm-hmm. Just that one step up. You don't have to have it all. You don't have to have all the answers, and you don't have to go to the best of the best in the world. You just have to have somebody who's one step ahead of you. Mm-hmm. When I started in my network marketing business, I didn't know how to do network marketing. I know how to talk to people and I was great at sales, but that's not what network marketing is. It's not about sales, it's about relationships. I'm like, oh, once I learned that, I'm, I'm good with relationships.

Ariana

Yeah.

Barbilee

Right. So the takeaway is find out who you are, and if you don't know, ask around. This is one of the practices, and you may have done this. You, you send a message, a personal message to five of your closest friends, and you said, if you had to describe me in three to five sentences, what would you say about me? Mm-hmm. And I want you to be brutally honest. If I'm a bitch, tell me if I'm brooding too much about a lost relationship, tell me like, like what is, and if I'm a I, if I'm, you know, beautifully happy, you love hanging around with me, tell me. And they can be, five of them can all be different. Yeah. But I'm doing some work on myself and I wanna look at this. And then you get to see who you are and how people see you. And then you get to throw it away because what other people think of you as none of your business. Mm-hmm. But it's good to know how you're projecting to other people. You know, and when I said earlier about being water, I'm a chameleon. I can be in a room of tech brainiacs. So Saturday mornings we have an AI class. I am so, so out of my league with brain power in that group, okay. When it comes to ai. But there I am doing my thing, right. I don't, I don't care. They, I think, oh, what's she doing here? You know what? I don't care. I'm there doing my thing. So

Ariana

yeah, that's like a thing. If you're the smartest person in the room, then you're in the wrong room.

Barbilee

In the wrong room. Right? And, and, and this is where, so asking people around you, um, finding out where is that juicy and delicious piece of your life, and then just do more of it. Yeah. And talk to that person. That's one level ahead. Find out, you know, reach out to me. I love new friends. I love having conversations. So reach out to me. I'll have a conversation with you. That's awesome. Just like we did. Right? That's how we connected.

Ariana

Yes. Yep. Yeah. And Barbie Lee is, she's wonderful. She's great to talk to you. She's very, um, outgoing and she makes you feel so comfortable. And like if you are wanting to reach out, don't question it.'cause there's no judgment. There's no, like, she's wonderful. So. Okay. And what is next on your journey? I know you start, you were talking a little bit about AI and working with people in their fifties and sixties.

Barbilee

Yeah, that is my, that's my thing. So my whole business around quality of life assurance is, has been followed me. So in my 20, in my thirties when I started in my forties and going through perimenopause and now into menopause, I still like, it's, it's those people that I'm helping and stuff. But my tagline fully live until you die, is so true.

Ariana

Mm-hmm. And

Barbilee

so each part of my life that things change. My businesses grow with me. So whether it's my coaching business, whether it's my network marketing business, or now it's gonna be my AI piece of that, it it's just because I know who I am, so I'm taking the next logical step. I could do all the work myself and post myself all the time and create content and change outfits and have my husband video like I've been doing for years. Or I can learn about digital twins and how to say, you know, if you go to my, uh, Instagram, which is, oh, I don't know Barbie Lee, uh, actually I think it's Barbie Lee h as well. So Barbie Lee Hemmings. But you go to my Instagram and you see a picture of me playing pickleball, it's not me, right? And I was like, I freaking love this because I can turn out more content. I have such great ideas and such, but me doing it and running my business on the side is a lot to do. Mm-hmm. So. I found somebody who taught me really well. I, I'm on this course, I'm in this course, and it's self-directed so I can listen to her at two times speed, which I freaking love.'cause my brain loves two times speed. So now I'm like, okay, let's do this. Let's go, let's, let's, let's take it on. Right. Oh, two seconds. Two, I'm back in one. My phone. My, my, my screen's like, oh, you have 10% battery left. Oh, there we go. Now we have power. Um, so yeah, doing ai but still coming from that place of life is juicy and delicious. Mm-hmm. I had a conversation with a friend today. They're, they're digital nomads now. They put everything they own in storage. They're taking two years to travel, but they have to work six to 15 hours a day depending on where they are. And I'm like, to me, that's not a digital nomad. Like it is by the definition, you could work anywhere, but who the hell wants to live their life in a new country doing the same thing you were doing in your old country?

Ariana

Mm-hmm. Like,

Barbilee

that's what I don't get, but that's just me. And that's why I picked up network marketing is because I have 25 countries that my products can go out to. So everywhere I go and everybody I meet knows somebody in one of those countries that I can help. Yeah. So I'm not limited to, you know, being online, doing this six, 15 hours a day. Yeah. After I hang up here, there's a group of women meeting, it's called Shift Your Shit Talk. I'm like, I'm in, I'll be late, but I'm coming, you know?

Ariana

I love that. That's awesome. Okay. And then where, well you've already kind of talked about that, but um, can you just let people know your, um, well, and for in the video, it's up on there as well, but what is your website if anyone wants to reach out to you?

Barbilee

So quality of life assurance.com is, it talks about what quality of life is. Barbie lee hemings.com takes you to everything. There's all kinds of links in there. It says, oh, I wanna learn about quality of life. Oh, I wanna learn about Isogenix. Oh, I wanna learn about.com. Which by the way, is the tip for all of you. If you do not have your name.com, and I don't mean why you are name.com, I'm talking about barbie lee hemmings.com or ariana reinhardt.com. Um, go and buy it right now. It's like 10 bucks a year or 15 bucks a year, whatever it costs. Mm-hmm. And you wanna have it. So when you do have your business, um, that was, somebody told me that years ago and saved my world. I tried to get barbie lee.com. There's a little Chinese lady, her name is actually Barbie Lee. She runs a dance studio in Minnesota, but when she dies, man, I'm getting Barbie Lee Taco. Anyway, um, so yeah, my Facebook, I, I'm on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn the most. And it's all, when you search Barbie Lee. Barbie, Lee h Barbie, Lee Hemmings. I'm the only one that pops up, so yeah, and you can just Google me, man. You should Google me. It's fun. You should see my hairstyles in some of the podcasts and stuff I've done over the years. Just Google me. It's fun. Anyway, I was like, really? My husband let me cut my hair like that. He didn't tell me. Yes, that's the best way. Okay,

Ariana

beautiful.

Barbilee

Or come to play Del Carmen. That's awesome. I'll be here until like, at least the end of 2026. At least. Maybe longer.

Ariana

Are you thinking moving somewhere after that?

Barbilee

I dunno. Oh, I've signed a lease for a year, so I told him I'd be here until next August, so we'll see what happens.

Ariana

Nice.

Barbilee

If we like it, we stay. If we don't like it, we move. I'm not a tree. I can move.

Ariana

That's, that's great advice.'cause so many people think that, you know, they need to just stay where they are and Yeah, yeah, yeah. Awesome. Okay. And then do you have any, do you have a question that you would like to ask me? Oh dear. She is like laughing her hands like ecstatic for this right now. It's her

Barbilee

evil laugh here. Actually, my question to you is very simple. Okay. What does quality of life mean to you?

Ariana

Quality of life. It means, ooh, to me it means living like in, in full alignment with like who I am and just like living my best life, taking care of myself and fully being fully connected into who I am and into like. Source and into my higher self and connected with Gaia and my spirit team and just enjoying life, enjoying who I am, being unapologetically me and loving life, enjoying it, having fun. That's

Barbilee

perfect. And notice how nowhere in there did you say I wanted to have enough money or enough friends, this is all about centered on you. Mm-hmm. And I know, and that's why we connected so deeply because you are already in that place at such a young age.'cause you're so much younger than I am in who you are and connecting to that. And, and that's, this is why the message of quality of life is so important.

Ariana

Mm-hmm.

Barbilee

If you are not squeezing. And my next question for you, what is the juicy and deliciousness that you are squeezing out of life right now?

Ariana

Right now? Oh. Juicy and

Barbilee

delicious.

Ariana

Well, Brandon and I are planning a trip to other Hawaii or Costa Rica for February, so that's juicy and delicious.

Barbilee

Mm-hmm.

Ariana

And then I'm also planning out a, I'm kind of in the like research stages right now of playing out, like a call, a group call for women who are wanting to, like, who are feeling unfulfilled in their relationships and are wanting to be able to learn how to communicate better with their partners, or even if they're not in a relationship, being able to communicate when it comes to time for that in a way that helps you to like form that deeper connection that you desire rather than adding to and fueling the conflict. So that's, that's what I'm creating right now.

Barbilee

Wonderful. And see I just had 15 ideas of how AI can help you do that, just so you know. So we'll have another conversation. This has been a blessing. I loved this.

Ariana

Me too. Thank you so much for joining. I am so happy that, that you jumped on with me. I know it was a very like impromptu, I met you on the call and I was like, oh my God, Aisha, I need to get to know this woman and I wanna interview her on the podcast. So I am so, so grateful and appreciative that you decided to join us and I'm sure the listeners will be super excited to hear this episode as well. Do you have any last comments or thoughts for anyone?

Barbilee

I'm laughing because I'm like, oh my God, I think I talked really fast. They can't listen to this in two times. Speed. I only listen to podcasts and stuff in about two time speed. And I was like, oh, maybe I spoke too fast. I'm like, ah, they'll figure it out. No, I am, I love this. I love, these are the conversations that we as human beings need to have with each other. Mm-hmm. Right? We need to have real connecting conversations. So my challenge that I'm gonna put out to the group is, you know what? Call your five closest friends. You're gonna send'em the email anyways, or the message about, um, you know, how do you see me? Like, w you know, the words to describe me. And then when they've done that, you get to call them back and say, you know what? We're gonna have a, let's talk about how fabulous we are, conversation and everything. The whole conversation is gonna be, oh, and I did this and I did this. And when I was six I learned how to wipe my own butt. And when I was eight, I, you know, like, whatever, it's right. And just come up with all the things to raise our vibration. So that we can start having better conversations with people.'cause that's what we need. Yeah. If anything, these last five years of divisiveness, especially here, like around the world for sure. But we live in North America and I've watched it, Canada, US, and Mexico, and it's crazy. And we just wanna be loved. We just wanna know someone else loves us.

Ariana

Yes, love it. And

Barbilee

I have lots of love for everybody, so reach out to me.

Ariana

Awesome. Well again, thank you so much Beverly Lee, I am so happy to have had this conversation and thank you so much to the listeners for tuning into the show today. If you loved the call, please reach out to us or let me know, like your thoughts, your biggest takeaways in an email. I'll have my email in the show notes. And I'll have Barbie Lee's information in the show notes for you guys as well. And if you love the show, please subscribe to it. Rate it, leave some comments, leave some reviews. Give us if you did any of like the suggestions that we gave for you today, let us know. Alright? Um, thank you again so much for everything and I am so grateful to you all. I hope you have a wonderful rest of your day. And remember that you are not broken, you are loved, and you are already everything you are seeking. Until next time, be gentle, be bold, be you.