Pickles & Pasta with Steph and Jay

Pickles & Pasta EP29 - Ghosting, Mixed Signals, and People Who Actually Show Up

Stephanie Rado Taormina & Jay Schweid Episode 29

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Episode 29 – Ghosting, Mixed Signals, and People Who Actually Show Up

In Episode 29 of Pickles and Pasta, Jay and Steph are back in New York with winter reflections, snow-day observations, and the oddly emotional “will we get one more storm?” debate.

Then they get into something they’ve both been running into lately: ghosting, especially in business and creative circles. Jay breaks down why disappearing without a word is frustrating and unnecessary, while Steph explains why we often fixate on people who pull away. Ego, the need for closure, and the urge to win back someone’s attention all play a role.

From there, the conversation expands into mixed signals and energy, those moments when someone seems supportive one day and distant the next. They talk about how tension in communities can quietly grow, including the way identity and politics can shape how people categorize each other, and why maturity and mutual respect matter more than ever.

They close by flipping the lens toward the positive: the people who consistently show up, and how Steph is embracing a new, evolving community through her art workshops and creative work. The episode wraps with a Fashion Week themed rapid fire on dressing for the weather, where fashion is headed, and the fashion eras they’d love to bring back, including Jay’s hilarious robe and cloak fantasy.

Topics Covered:

  • Ghosting in creative/business relationships
  • Closure, ego, and “future FOMO”
  • Mixed signals, reading energy, and social tension
  • Identity/politics shaping community dynamics
  • Choosing self-respect and focusing on real support
  • Building new community through creativity (art workshops)
  • Rapid fire: Fashion Week edition

If someone disappears, let them, and put your energy into the people who show up, support you, and make your world bigger.