Be Still and Live

#05: From Survival Mode to Stillness: Rewire Your Brain for Calm with Xavier Duport Naem

• Gillian Gabryluk • Season 1 • Episode 5

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What if the fastest way forward is to slow down?

In this episode, Gillian sits down with coach Xavier Duport Naem to explore how mental fitness, nervous system awareness, and monotasking can pull you out of survival mode and into a life that actually feels like your own.

Xavier’s story, from high-performing corporate leader to purpose-driven coach, sets the stage for a conversation about stress, resilience, and the brain’s remarkable ability to rewire through conscious practice. Together, we unpack the science behind calm: understanding sympathetic vs. parasympathetic states in plain language and why living in fight-or-flight quietly sabotages digestion, immunity, and focus.

You’ll learn Xavier’s simple “mental fitness reps” that use one sense at a time to silence mind chatter, plus real-world tools for nervous system regulation - one-minute breath resets, nature breaks that retune your body, and phone boundaries that protect deep work and focus.

At its heart, this conversation is about agency: learning to trust your gut, separate fear from inner wisdom, and make micro-shifts that build lasting change. The result isn’t just less stress, it’s a clearer mind, steadier body, and work that aligns with what matters most.

Expect a blend of science and soul, neural pathways, dopamine, and habit design alongside presence, compassion, and meaning for the messy human parts of change.

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Xavier:

But the truth is there are a million ways to happiness. There are a million ways to success. And we can literally carve out the path that we want for ourselves according to who we are and what makes us happy enough.

Gillian:

If your days feel full, but your heart longs for more meaning, you're not alone. Between the screens, the schedules, and the never-ending noise, it's easy to lose your sense of peace. But what if the way forward isn't found in doing more, but in learning to slow down, to simplify, to be still. Welcome to Be Still and Live, a podcast for individuals, couples, and families longing for calm connection and a more meaningful way to live. I'm Julian, speaker, coach, and founder of Soleil Health and Wellness, and I'm here to help you create space for stillness and step into a life that feels whole and good again. Today I have the privilege of having a conversation with Xavier Duport-Nayam, who shares a powerful story of what it looks like to step out of the corporate grind and into a life that's more aligned with health and wholeness. We talked about his transition from corporate success to coaching, what happens to our nervous system when we live in constant fight or flight, and why monotasking, doing one thing at a time, can be far more effective and life-giving than trying to do it all at once. This is a conversation about presence, resilience, and creating rhythms that allow us to thrive. Let's dive in. Welcome, Xavier. I've really been looking forward to this conversation. Thank you so much for being here.

Xavier:

Hello, Chiliane. I'm very honored to be here with you. Thank you so much for having me.

Gillian:

Absolutely. I'm happy to have you here. You've lived such an interesting life from your upbringing in France to where you are today. Can you take us back to the beginning of your story?

Xavier:

Yes, I will. Thank you. It was quite an adventure. So I graduated from my MBA when I was 26 years old, and I moved to the US with just two suitcases and a dream to make it and stay in this country, which was a country that I fell in love with when I was a kid. When I was 12 years old, my dad took my brother and I uh in the California and I fell in love with it. So I moved there and I started building a life. I did end up finding a job and getting sponsored with a visa and then a green card. So I was able to stay and work. And I built a corporate life. I spent 12 years in corporate. I started with three years at Quicksilver and nine years then with L'Oreal. And uh I climbed the corporate ladder. I was making a really good career. Everybody back home was very proud of my success and everything. But um it was not that rainbows and butterflies inside because my marriage was not going well, and I ended up divorcing in 2019, and that was actually a big pivotal moment in my life because that's when I wanted to reassess where I was, who did I become, and was I the person that I wanted to be? And I saw a lot of gaps at that moment. So that's when I started this journey of self-actualization. And um I remember a friend sent me a podcast about a psychologist talking about trauma and after a separation, and uh, and he brought me back to an old root of mine that I've left uh unwatered for a long time because I really enjoyed psychology when I was in college. That was actually something that I was interested in and wanted to potentially do. Um, and I never pursued that. But seeing that podcast started to awaken my curiosity. And uh I started deep diving into studying the human brain, understanding how it works, uh, doing different programs, different books, reading different books, going to different events to try to improve myself and understand myself better. And uh and that journey led me into starting my own business of mental fitness coaching to help people.

Gillian:

Wonderful. And that's always a great place to be with the motivation to help people. I work with so many people who are their happiest when they just surrender to that very human desire to help other people.

Xavier:

Yes, that's very true. I could not agree more with this. That's that life change has been so transformative and fulfilled me in a lot of different ways.

Gillian:

Can you compare that for us to how it felt to be climbing the corporate ladder? I know that you must have felt very proud to share with your family what you were doing in the US and how successful you were, but can you explain the difference between what you felt when you climbed that corporate ladder and what you feel now, having this heart-led service to help people?

Xavier:

Thank you. It's it's a great question. And uh and I think the simplest way to answer that is that when I was doing my corporate job and doing well at it, I was not doing that for me. I feel like I was doing that for someone else. For an external validation factor, whether it was to make my family proud or for the status that I would get, for the money, for the wealth, for the success. And it was it was never about what I wanted. It was just about taking some steps and okay, what's the next step further? How do we make more money? How do we gain more importance in the company to move forward? But now I'm doing something that is really making me happy at a very deep level. Um I mentioned that to you, you know, that story. I lost my mother of pancreatic cancer when I was 24 years old. And um and it was it was a big moment in my life because I always questioned the answer of society with people getting sick. And I never thought that chemo, I saw my mom going through nine months round after round of chemo, and and I saw life slowly leaving our body. It was it was an awful experience. And I thought that cannot be society's answer for people getting sick. That just did not add up. And so when I started to studying psychology and understanding the power of the brain and our capacity to actually make ourselves sick or make ourselves healthy, that's when I started to really take a deeper interest because I remember and it tied back to what happened to my mother. And I said, wait, so is there potentially a way to help people feeling better without having to go through what she went through? And she did not even survive from it. So so that's something that accelerated my interest and deepened my interest into understanding the brain.

Gillian:

Thank you for sharing that personal story with us. And I'm sorry to hear that you lost your mother. And I can imagine how difficult that was, but it looks like to me you are you are using that experience to invest in the people around you and to help other people, which is a beautiful thing. I would love to learn more about what mental fitness is. You call yourself a mental fitness coach, correct?

Xavier:

Yes, that is correct. So mental fitness means consciously developing neural pathway towards achieving your goals and understanding the balance and good and evil as you do so. Let me deepen this a little bit. Neural pathways are the brain's muscle memory, right? The more you practice something, whether it's gratitude, problem solving, or self-doubt, the stronger the pathway becomes. And that's why conscious practice and repetition literally reshape who you become. So that's the work of mental fitness, is strengthening the pathway from our brain that are helping us towards the outcomes that we want in life.

Gillian:

Right. And thank you for explaining that. An analogy that comes to mind is kind of creating a trail for yourself. You have these trail systems that are all around us, and you can walk down a path that's already trodden by, you know, hundreds of thousands of people, but there could be a beautiful waterfall that you're missing that's off the beaten path somewhere that you can't yet see because you haven't created a new pathway or a neural pathway in your brain, if you will. So I like that analogy of kind of picturing yourself going on a different pathway that leads you to a more beautiful place. It's not always easy and it takes practice, but it always pays off in the end.

Xavier:

This is a great analogy and it couples with something else. You know, when people want to be successful or happy, they're looking for who did it and how they did it. But the truth is there are a million ways to happiness. There are a million ways to success. And we can literally carve out the path that we want for ourselves according to who we are and what makes us happy or not. So I love your analogy because it has it served both purposes.

Gillian:

Yes, I I it's uh it's a beautiful way to think about the opportunities that you have all around you and that you have this power within yourself to find your own way to happiness. And I like that you said it doesn't come from watching somebody else and their path to happiness. We all have our unique path because we're all unique individuals. Yes. So on that note, many of my listeners feel stuck in survival mode, always doing and never really feeling like they're arriving at that place of happiness. They've gone through the program, they've done what everybody expected them to do, but when they arrive, they're feeling disappointed. From your perspective, what toll does constant mental busyness take on our well-being? Just always being distractive, always striving.

Xavier:

It it literally creates disease in the body, and disease is coming from this ease, right? The opposite of ease. People get depressed, anxious, medicate to get out of a prison that was subconsciously created during our early years as human beings. When we're in survival mode, our nervous system is stuck in fight or flight. And that's fine if you do that short term. But if it becomes chronic, the body never gets to switch into its healing mode, to parasympathetic rest and repair, right? Living on autopilot in a stressful environment keeps us wired this way. With constant cortisol and adrenaline. Over time, this suppresses digestion, immunity, and recovery, and it fuels inflammation. That's why chronic stress doesn't just feel bad. It's literally laying the groundwork for disease.

Gillian:

Right. That's that's so important to understand. There's there's a lot of information being shared about the nervous system right now. That seems to be something that um scientists are digging into and it's become accessible to everybody. This understanding that the nervous system is so important and that we are able to control what our nervous system or how our nervous system is responding based on our thoughts. Can you share a little bit more about that? Is there a way that it can help us understand what the nervous system is and the power of your nervous system?

Xavier:

Yes, of course. So our nervous system is, like I said, uh split up in sympathetic nervous system and parasympathetic nervous system. The sympathetic nervous system is the one that is activated for fight or flight, right? So it's coming from our reptilian brain, also called survival brain or rational brain. When we are in any fear-based emotion, that's when this system activates. So a long time ago, it would be when we are in physical dangers, right? When we were nomads, when the homo sapiens were just still hunting, you know, and if you feel physical danger, the sympathetic nervous system activates to prepare us to either escape or fight the threat. And that worked just fine. But only, like I said, for a short period of time, because the body is not meant to stay in that state for very long. With the acceleration of technology, our minds are constantly solicited by a ton of different information through our phones, email, everything. We're constantly thinking about things, which puts us in a situation of psychological stress. So we shift into survival mode for longer, extended period of time that had nothing to do with physical safety anymore. And that is what's terrible for human beings, is being in that state for too long. And we want to be able to shift back into creative mode, which is when the parasympathetic nervous system rests and reaper activates. I don't know if I answered the question. That was a little bit. No, you did.

Gillian:

You did, and that's such a powerful perspective. And using that analogy is very, very helpful for understanding how powerful the nervous system is. It seems we found ourselves living in a culture that's unmanageable. We're constantly trying to be productive, do more, take on more. It's like we weren't created to thrive in this fast-paced world. I think it's important for our listeners to hear that if they're feeling anxious, lonely, or overwhelmed, that it's not their fault. It really is our response, the physiological response to the world around us. And maybe we just need to slow down and recognize that we have a choice.

Xavier:

At that is true. I'm sorry.

Gillian:

No, that's okay.

Xavier:

The media makes us focus on comparison instead of personal growth. And it could be alienating, depressing, exhausting, all sorts of feelings that keep us constantly in survival, which is not sustainable.

Gillian:

Thank you for sharing that. Um, I really do try to teach people that stillness isn't a weakness, that it's actually wisdom. And it's wisdom that we can't ignore right now because it's so valuable. In your experience, how can stillness or just being mentally quiet actually help us become stronger and more focused in a world of noise?

Xavier:

I started experiencing this with meditation, and I did that in 2022 during my self-actualization journey. As I was discovering a lot of different methodologies, I started meditating then. And I was always curious about it, but also a little intimidated. Um, I discovered that stillness can be done even outside of meditation. It's it's about shifting from the busyness of our lives to activate our parasympathetic and activate our rest and repair functions. Society has pushed the agenda that we need to constantly be in motion, but it's actually not healthy for humans to do that. Sometimes we just need to rest and relax.

Gillian:

Right, right. But often our rest and relaxation, those opportunities have been hijacked because when we relax, we're we're often stimulating our minds in some way, whether we're jumping on our phone or going in front of a television. So it seems our bodies are sending out the message that they can't handle always being in flight or fight or flight mode. That's what's causing this epidemic of stress and anxiety. When you look at the stats of stress, anxiety, and depression and disease, especially autoimmune disease, they're all at an all-time high. So for those who are listening today and are struggling in this area or have a loved one who needs support, how can we respond?

Xavier:

Um yeah, so meditation is one of them. And mental fitness reps is a form that we use a lot in mental fitness coaching. So this is about putting a strong focus on a physical sensation to shut down the survival brain. So just like you know, we cannot breathe and swallow food at the same time, right? The brain does not have the capacity to worry about something if you have a strong focus on a physical sensation. So use one of your five senses: visual, auditive, olfactive, touch, or um taste. And as you do that, because humans are only able to monotask, so by focusing on one of your five senses, you literally turn off the mind chatter of your reptilian brain, which helps you get out of survival. Being in nature is also very important. Connecting with Earth helps our system move into alignment. For example, the waves of the ocean move at a frequency that align with the state of rest and repair in operas and sympathetic. So sitting by the ocean and listening to the wave will naturally help you align and recover. There are tons of different ways, really.

Gillian:

I've heard this before: the sound of the birds chirping, or just the feeling of the breeze on your skin. When you focus in on those things, your body's able to fully relax. And I you described it as monotasking. It's interesting how in the Western culture we really pride ourselves on multitasking, don't we?

Xavier:

Yes, we do, and it's a huge mistake because we are not only not capable to do this properly. Some people claim to be able to multitask, and they probably do, but at a very much lower percentage of their full performance capacity. There are tons of studies that were done when we shift from a task to another. So let's say if right now during the podcast, I tell you, I'm sorry, I got a text, let me insert you that text. And I do that. It takes only one second, and we think we're okay and jumping back. But what happens when our brain shifts from a task to the next is we lose up to 70% of performance for the next 25 to 30 minutes. So by shifting gears constantly, and that's what happens with restlessness, and everybody who has ADHD is um is um is unfortunately dealing with that, you're losing performance. That's why some people end up having very long days at the office, entrepreneurs never stopping, and they feel like they achieve nothing. It's because you spend the whole day shifting gears, so you're not really performing, you're not effective at all in what you do.

Gillian:

Spinning their wheels, right? And I'm I'm feeling this being a mother of four and running my own business and a household and everything that comes along with it. I'm constantly pulled in, you know, several directions in one moment. So you're just helping me understand that I I can give myself some grace when I'm feeling tired at the end of the day and I didn't really do anything that was um that strenuous. It does take a lot of our energy when we're spreading ourselves thin. In in those moments, uh Xavier, when I'm feeling overwhelmed, when there's too many things pulling me, pulling at me at at a time. Do you have one piece of practical advice that you could give me?

Xavier:

Of course, of course. Those are the great moments to use mental reps to focus on a physical sensation, close your eyes, take a deep breath, ground yourself, feel in your body that mind-body connection is very important. A lot of times the mind tells the body what to do. And when we are in survival, we would tell it not to do healthy things. But if we can reconnect with our body and let our body make the decisions, we're actually getting towards much healthier outcomes.

Gillian:

Thank you for that. So just take a pause and just tuning into my breath is enough.

Xavier:

Yes.

Gillian:

To regulate my nervous system.

Xavier:

Just that for a minute will help you shift out of survival. And that's the moment where you can ask yourself, what is my priority? What do I want to do next? And you can move with more ease and flow into what you want to do.

Gillian:

Thank you for sharing that, Xavier. It's it's so important for me to hear that because I find that I know this and I teach it. But for some reason, I find myself incapable of doing it myself in those moments of stress. I feel like I don't have that control that I teach people they have. But when I do take a step back and practice it, when I believe that it does make a difference, I feel that it is helpful in those stressful situations.

Xavier:

What you said is very interesting, Jillian. So this is what happens when it comes to having an issue that is personal versus helping someone else with an issue. When it's personal, we probably shift in survival. And the survival brain is looking for a cheap dopamine rush. And that prevents us from being in creative and giving the answer that we want. When it comes to helping someone else, we don't have that dopamine rush need because we're helping someone else. Therefore, we're not feeling stuck and we're much more capable to help someone else. That's why it becomes more difficult when it comes to ourselves. And this is why it's very important to have that capacity to get after shift out of survival mode so we are not dependent on that dopamine need.

Gillian:

That was very interesting, Xavier. Thank you so much for sharing that. I've never thought about it that way. And I'm giving myself a whole lot of grace right now, just understanding what that block is for myself.

Xavier:

Yes, you're welcome. That's that's very important to understand this. And yeah, I love to help people with that.

Gillian:

Wonderful. I'm sure I'll have many opportunities to put that into practice.

Xavier:

Yes, we all do.

Gillian:

Xavier, I often say that the answers we're looking for are already within us. And that's exactly what Sileo Health and Wellness is all about. We've just become too distracted to hear them. How do you help people reconnect with that inner knowing?

Xavier:

Yes, there's a bigger topic of conversation these days is about the gut and how it acts as a brain because of all the neural connection within it. We talk about intuition following our gut. Society has depicted its vision of what is good and bad and what perfection looks like, and we'll blindly follow this as a guideline. But the truth is every human is different. We don't have the same purpose, nor the same journey. So our capacity to trust ourselves, listen to our heart and gut instead of our thinking brain can help us achieve our unique journey on this planet. I help my client grow their inner trust so they can accomplish just that.

Gillian:

That's powerful work. And it's work that literally transforms people's lives. It's so important to focus on. It seems the noise around us has become so loud that we can't hear our inner voice or our internal guide or that gut feeling you're talking about. When we take regular opportunities to pause and tune in with ourselves, we return to leading with our hearts, which is so important rather than leading with fear. And uh, I think that's what happens with your nervous system too. When you're fear-led, you shift into that state in your nervous system where you are in fight or flight mode. And that is what turns into anxiety, overwhelm, and exhaustion. So we have all of these fears that we're bombarded with on a daily basis, fear of being excluded or out of touch. So we continue plugging into what isn't working. When we live this way, we miss the opportunity to do what matters most, which is to truly connect with others and the world around us. So, what are a few small, realistic practices someone could begin with this week to cultivate mental clarity or calm?

Xavier:

Okay. Yes, like I said earlier, so connecting with nature is important, having that natural flow, you know, coming back into us. Focus on physical sensations for a couple minutes, one of our using one of our five senses to reconnect with our body and not stay in survival thoughts. Very important. Breathe, breathe deeply. Human beings tend to breathe very shallow and forget that before eating and before water, before drinking water, breathing is the main thing that keeps us alive. If we stop breathing for a few minutes, we will die. And most people just breathe too shallow, and we need to breathe deeper because that helps the nervous system in a very tremendous way.

Gillian:

So, really, it's as simple as coming back to the present moment over and over again, dropping into that breath, deeper than we think we need to breathe, and reminding our body that we're safe and that we can rest.

Xavier:

Yes, exactly.

Gillian:

Beautiful. For the listeners who feel overwhelmed by even the idea of change, what's one micro shift that they could start with today?

Xavier:

When we are in survival mode, everything seems terrifying. So when someone is so stuck that they cannot move out of their reptilian brain, I use rational construct to help them shift because at that point that's all they can hear. So I help them break every new practice into small steps so it doesn't feel as intimidating, and teach them how to celebrate each of these small steps to generate a positive momentum using dopamine release as a tool.

Gillian:

So it's just integrating that practice of slowing down and returning to that stillness, reminding ourselves that we are we're safe.

Xavier:

Yes, of course.

Gillian:

So, Xavier, how can we begin to rewire our inner dialogue, the scripts that keep us in cycles of perfectionism, overthinking, of fear, these voices in our head that constantly kind of hijack that opportunity to experience stillness?

Xavier:

There's just techniques that I love to use with my clients that is about connecting with our older, wiser self. Because when we approach the end of our lives, the masks of self-sabotage coming from our survival brain tend to fall because we realized there were all lies meant to keep us in survival. So, by asking ourselves, what would we do if we were at the end of our life on this planet can help these fear-based emotions and breaking them?

Gillian:

So say that again. I feel like that was really important. Asking yourself what we would do if we were at the end of our life on this planet. Like, so is that focusing on the things that matter most and not stressing about the things that don't?

Xavier:

Yes, that's exactly what it is. No one at the end of their life will think like, I wish I made more money. I wish I spent more time on my screen. People would want to be with their loved ones. They would wish they took that leap of faith. They wish that said yes to that travel, to that dinner, to that experience. And all that helped them reconnect with what's truly important.

Gillian:

I love that. I love that. I think there's a book about that, the five regrets of the dying, or something along those lines.

Xavier:

And I never heard it, but yes, I can imagine.

Gillian:

Yeah, they touch on those same points. Um, and also I it reminds me of something that it was advice someone gave me along the way. It's called the five-year rule. When you're really stressed about something or you're embarrassed about something, or you're worried about something, think about if it's going to matter five years from now. And if it isn't, if it's something that you said or something embarrassing that happened, it's never gonna matter five years from now. So just let it go and relax and keep living. That I found that very helpful.

Xavier:

That that is very true. That is very true. And we realize that as we get older and wiser, right? Because you tell a 15-year-old kid that has like uh his first heartbreak that it's not gonna matter in five years, they don't grasp that concept yet. Right. But as we get older, we realize because we've experienced some of the things that pass through time, and we're like, oh yes, these two shall pass.

Gillian:

I love that perspective. It's so helpful. So you're saying that's not gonna help when my four children go through their first heartbreaks. I won't be able to use that one. I have to come up with a new plan.

Xavier:

You might have to find a different technique for that one, yes.

Gillian:

I'm sure there's gonna be a lot of trial and error for sure. So I I feel like I want to touch more on the mental fitness piece. How does mental fitness help people reclaim agency over their thoughts and reactions? Like, how does it help them to control their outcome on life and how they experience life?

Xavier:

Okay. We we literally upgrade our brain operating system by creating new patterns, new neural pathways, right? Using the knowledge that we have about our capacities of evolving. It's a fascinating process, and we get to heal wives doing it.

Gillian:

I love that. And another book comes to mind Thinking Fast and Slow. You have these two systems, you have your fast. Intuitive thinking system, and then you have your slower, more deliberate and logical system. So it's a bit of a distrusting that you're shifting from one system to the other.

Xavier:

Yes, yeah, definitely.

Gillian:

So Xavier, do you believe that stillness can enhance intuition?

Xavier:

Yes. Yes, I do. Because stillness helps with regrounding and reconnecting with our body, which helps get us out of survival. So then we can make the decisions that will want us happy. So, yes, by nature of the actual physiological process, yes, it's totally what it does.

Gillian:

So I'm gonna I'm gonna touch on that a little bit more because I find that I'm often stuck in wondering what the difference is between fear and true inner wisdom. How do you know the difference? You know how sometimes you're in your head and you're thinking, okay, what what is this a fear that I'm experiencing, or is this that gut feeling, that inner wisdom?

Xavier:

It's I d I break it down this way for my clients. And if it's fear-based, if it's a fear-based emotion, it's coming from survival. And if it's a love-based emotion, it's coming from creative. So think about it in this way. If you're not in a scenario where fear would be required, like a life or death situation, but you're experiencing a fear-death emotion, you this is not your intuition. This is your survival brain trying to prevent you from trying something new, learning something new, or going into an experience that you don't know what the outcome will be. The survival brain try to prevent you from getting to the unknown. Right. So any fear-based emotion when there is not a physical safety question, it's involving the survival brain.

Gillian:

Okay. Thank you for sharing that. That's uh this is such an interesting topic. And I just want to know that the listeners are truly understanding what you're saying here. So, on that note, if you could offer one point of encouragement to someone listening right now, someone who may feel frazzled or disconnected or stuck in their own mind, what would you say?

Xavier:

I tell them that they're doing great and that everything will be okay because everything that happened to them happened for a reason, and that was their path into growth. So I just tell them to slow down, to listen to themselves, because they know better than anyone else what they're meant to do.

Gillian:

And I love that you're saying that from a point of uh experience, being on the other side. I can only imagine how you felt after moving from France and building this career for yourself in the corporate world and realizing it it wasn't making you happy and realizing that your marriage was on the brink of falling apart. You've been there and now you're on the other side, and you're so passionate about teaching this to other people that you've made it your career. And I can see the passion that you have for it. So I just I I I appreciate the fact that you're you're speaking from experience, you're speaking from a from your own story and you're telling people this. How many people right now need to hear that? You're doing great, that everything's gonna be okay.

Xavier:

Yes, every everyone deserves to hear that.

Gillian:

Thank you very much. It's so helpful. I know I need to hear that. And uh, I think you're you're doing a fantastic job as well. So I want to throw that back to you.

Xavier:

Thank you so much, Jimmy. We're all doing great.

Gillian:

We are, I know. It's it's fantastic. We're all in this together. So, one last question. What does it mean to you to be still and live?

Xavier:

I would say that it's a very poetic paradox. Telling people that being restless could make them miss out on their life. So by slowing down and becoming present and pay attention to opportunities around us, we can have an incredible life experience.

Gillian:

Beautiful. Is there anything else you would like to share with the listeners today?

Xavier:

I just wanted to thank you so much for the opportunity to be here and talk about what is my passion and my mission on this earth. So thank you very much, Jidan, for giving me and other people the opportunity to speak more about this topic that I think it's tremendously important for everyone.

Gillian:

Thank you. It's truly an honor. And I couldn't do it without people like you who are willing to put time aside to have these conversations. So, on that note, Xavier, how can listeners connect with you? If they're interested in learning more about what you do, about your coaching services, where can they connect with you so they can learn more and potentially work with you?

Xavier:

Uh thank you for this. I have a website where people can connect with me and I offer a free one-hour session so people can learn a little more about mental fitness coaching and how I work with people, the different programs that I offer. And uh that would be on uh the website xfactor.coach. So very simple. It's xfactor.coac. And uh they can also find me on social media, on uh Instagram, TikTok, LinkedIn. I have different handles.

Gillian:

Okay, thank you, Xavier. And I will make sure that all of that information is linked to this episode. And if you are one of those people feeling frazzled, disconnected, or stuck in your head, please reach out to Xavier and allow him to coach you through it because it is possible to get to the other side. So thank you so much for being with us today, Xavier. And I look forward to an ongoing conversation and uh learning more about what you do and how you serve the world around you.

Xavier:

Thank you, Julianne. It was my pleasure and honor to be with you today.

Gillian:

Thank you.

Xavier:

Hi, everyone.

Gillian:

That was my conversation with Xavier, and I hope you found as much value in it as I did. What stood out to me was the reminder that slowing down, whether it's through monotasking or calming the nervous system, isn't a sign of weakness, but of wisdom. If this episode resonated with you, I'd love for you to share it with a friend who might need this encouragement. And as always, remember you were created to thrive, not just survive. Until next time, take a breath and be still. Thank you so much for listening to Be Still and Live. If today's episode brought you a breath of peace or a moment of clarity, I'd love for you to subscribe, leave a review, or share it with someone who might need it too. For more resources to support your journey toward a slower, simpler, more connected life, visit SoleilCoaching.com or connect with me on Instagram at Soleil Coaching. Until next time, be still and live.