Real Love, Real Life
Real Love Real Life dives into the unfiltered reality of relationships—dating, marriage, heartbreak, healing, and everything in between. It's honest talk about love and life, filled with real stories, hard truths, and the kind of laughs that come from lived experience.
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Real Love, Real Life
EP 1: Selective Sharing Is Self-Care
Feeling drained or low-key annoyed by people you love?
You might need better boundaries—no shade, we’ve all been there.
In this episode, Jasmine and Ernesto get real about growing up without boundaries, especially in Hispanic households where putting others first was just… expected. They share honest (and kinda funny) stories about learning to say no, dealing with nosy family, and protecting their peace without feeling like jerks.
“Boundaries aren’t walls—they’re doors,” Ernesto says. And trust, once you get that? Everything changes.
Hit play and learn how to stop giving your energy to everyone but yourself.
Your peace deserves protection.
hey guys, welcome back to real love, real life podcast. I'm your host, jasmine and I'm ernesto love real life podcast.
Speaker 2:I'm your host, jasmine, and I'm ernesto. I'm so excited. We almost didn't make it. Yeah, we were in traffic, it was just it was going all bad. But one thing, guys you have to be patient, even under certain circumstances. You just can't fold. You just gotta, you know, be positive and, first of all, make it here safely, because there's nothing that's worth, you know, not making it here, you know safe. So we're back, guys. You know we had a little minor setback, but you know it's sets it up for the major comeback. So we're glad to be back. We miss you guys.
Speaker 1:We've been thinking about you guys yeah, I agree, I was like looking at the time and I was like, if we don't make it, I'm going to be so sad. But I took a moment. I was almost getting mad at you. Not going to lie, I don't know if you could feel the tension. I was getting mad at you because you missed the GPS that was rerouting you and but I was like you know what.
Speaker 1:It's not worth it. Like it's not worth it, I took a deep breath and and I was like god if you want us to record this podcast, we're gonna get there on time that's what I was thinking.
Speaker 2:I was like friday at seven o'clock. It's your fault so I just I took a deep breath and talked to god about it and we got here on time and then it started moving and then, before you know, we got here on time, yeah, and then it started moving, and then, before you know it, we got here, took a tour of the place.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:Great place and you know we're excited.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I'm so excited and I'm sorry for feeling like that about you.
Speaker 2:It's all good. It's always my fault.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it's always his fault. So we're talking about boundaries today. I feel like that's a topic. I today, I feel like that's a topic. Uh, I posted it. I posted about it, posted about it yesterday and a couple people were messaging me and they're like I think this is so important and I feel like in a hispanic household there is no boundaries. I don't know if you can agree, kind of like it is what it is.
Speaker 2:You know it's because like, don't even, like, don't know if you can agree it is what it is, it's because don't even trust your own intuition. You might have a creepy uncle and he's like oh, that's your creepy uncle, give him a hug. I don't want to give him a hug.
Speaker 1:He's going to hug me a little tighter than he should and I think when you talk about that, when you try to set those boundaries, you're like, you're dramatic you're the bad guy you're the problem and you're like these are my boundaries like and and I I love that we discovered that because we we discovered boundaries not that long ago. I feel like we were just always kind of like going with the flow and then once we discovered, like no, this is like people are just going like overboard. We learn where we're still learning how to set our boundaries.
Speaker 1:But, I love that, like our kids are also seeing that, so they.
Speaker 2:It's like you have to know your self-worth, but it's like you know, if your parents don't instill that, instill that in you, then it's like you're just kind of flowing through life, letting, especially if you have a big heart. People are just walking all over you and then it's just, everybody just steps on you. It's like the analogy of you're trying to build your house brick by brick. People are coming and taking your bricks because you're so nice handing them out yeah, everybody builds something for themselves. And you look back you don't have nothing to show for. Yeah, because you're so nice handing them out. Yeah, everybody builds something for themselves.
Speaker 2:And you look back you don't have nothing to show for. Yeah, because you didn't set one boundary, exactly. You're just like you know, be the bigger person or just be like you know what. I know my self-worth. I'm drawing the line. And that's where you tend to lose people is when you draw the line, yeah, and then people are like oh, all right, but it's like wait, were you, my friend, you may have the same blood running through your, through our body, but you just showed your cards, you know, it's like it just takes one, one moment for everything to fall apart and it's like it wasn't even worth it, you know.
Speaker 1:Yeah, you set your boundaries and then all of a sudden like you're, you're bad. Yeah, yeah, you set your boundaries and then all of a sudden like you're, you're bad like, or she's mean, she's mean.
Speaker 1:I feel like recently, like I've been setting boundaries with everyone and it's it's kind of hard to talk about, but I feel like I'm, you know, I want to like open up about it because I want, I want other people to learn how to set boundaries too. It doesn't matter with who, like I just had to set, like, one of my biggest boundaries and it was with my mom, um, and that's hard because again I go back to coming from a Hispanic household. How dare you, like she birthed you, or?
Speaker 2:something something.
Speaker 1:But it's like but is she like good for my mental health? Um, is she like going a little overboard, like once, once you're like taking my peace, it's not worth it it's not worth it, especially now that, like you know, I have you and we have the kids. Once you have your family, like that's your main priority.
Speaker 2:Yeah, that's like. I mean my, our, my parents live a mile down the street and it's like, you know, I'm grateful, like if you show up on a random tuesday. But it's like if we're like doing content on tuesday, like we're working, you know, yeah, we have the flexibility and the availability for you to pull up, like that. But it's like, do I have to get to the point where I don't answer the door, like because, like you know, you tell somebody, hey, we're working, they get offended by it Exactly.
Speaker 2:Or if it's like your friends there's one of your friends that they'll try to FaceTime you for three hours and it's like in three hours I could post eight videos, five videos on my TikTok, some making money off shops, some bringing in followers, viewers. Like those three hours I can be productive, even though I love you as a friend. It's like if I was at at a, I was, if I was at the construction site, fight a one. Like, yeah, are you going to bother me? Like how you would not bother me, but are you going to like call me and try to FaceTime me? Or it's like it's the same thing. You have to respect that.
Speaker 1:And see. So, speaking of this friend, that is no longer my friend. Um, lend somebody money, guys, you'll see who's a true friend. Lend somebody money and watch someone walk out of your life so fast, but okay. So I didn't set those boundaries when we first became friends, even if she was an inconvenience. It was almost like I'm in the middle of of content, um, but you know what she's calling me? Hey, like what's going on? You know, blah, blah. Oh, she's just bored, she's bored she wants to have a conversation.
Speaker 1:She just got out of work or she's driving home, so you know to pass time but then when I started getting really busy like to the point where I'm recording 10 12 videos a day I stopped answering. And then that's when she started getting like yeah really almost like annoyed, and then I almost felt like she would also do it like on purpose, like keep calling me, or if she would see that I would post something she would message me and I'd be like.
Speaker 1:So I, I know I've seen like memes and stuff of saying like people don't answer the phone but they'll be posting on social media. Well, yeah, but like it's my job yeah, like I have. I have to do it like that's my job, so she'd be like I just saw that you posted um, why don't you answer me or something? And I feel like when you don't set boundaries, you almost start like resenting. Is that how?
Speaker 2:you're resenting them.
Speaker 1:Resenting people.
Speaker 2:Or you get like that.
Speaker 1:I started getting this ick for her and it was almost like when I would see her name drop like on my phone, I'd be like like what is it now? Like what? Like why can't I just like have a moment?
Speaker 2:or it was almost like I would also like skip through, like her stories, like I didn't want her to see me seeing her stories so then I was like okay, this friendship started off really good but it also was like it was a I mean, she's cool and all that, but it was like it was she already kind of knew me, who knew who I was. So it's like we met this person. Nah, that's going to be too far, huh, exposed. Sorry, guys, can't tell the whole story like that.
Speaker 1:Yeah, let's not do that. But so the friendship started off good. We can say. But so the friendship started off good.
Speaker 1:We can say that the friendship started off good again. I didn't set my boundaries. Like us like we take our dinner time pretty serious, we sit together and stuff like that. Her not so much. You know she likes to facetime her friends or she doesn't sit down and have dinner with her husband, so but I do, so she, she would want to facetime me, like at dinnernertime, and I'm like I'm not, like I don't even answer, like my parents or my siblings, like when I'm having dinner, like what makes you think I'm going to answer you? Unless you're stranded on the side of the road, you should not be calling me at dinnertime.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and it's like you're my friend, you know how, like, my life is kind of structured. Yeah, you know, when I cook dinner, I mean you used to watch the dinner lives, so it's like you know I cook dinner. So it's like, how can you? I don't know, I guess nobody's going to have the same heart as you, so you can't be like, well, why ain't they doing this? Well, nobody has the same brain as you. You might be an analytical thinker, but they might just be like bloop, like thought call, instead of you. You just played it 10 times in your head.
Speaker 2:If I say this she's doing this. What if she's already doing that?
Speaker 1:then I'm you know so it's like exactly, but I, I think, like you know, to sum it up, I think that is why it is so important from the beginning.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:I think that's where I messed up, because back then I didn't I didn't even know how to set those boundaries. Again, it wasn't a thing to set boundaries because, in a Hispanic household. We don't set boundaries. We just like you said. Remember I was telling you about how my mom used to get so mad at us when we wouldn't say hi to people, like at parties or something, and it's like I don't want to say hi to that person Like, or like we'd get home. Or she'd tell us, like wait until we get home.
Speaker 2:Yeah and like.
Speaker 1:And we'd be like dang it. Like you know, I'm going to hear it when I get home and stuff like that. All because it was like the little me or like my instincts like kind of wanted to set the boundaries, yeah, but then, like my parents, saw it as a like disrespect disrespectful, you know yeah, because I mean, if you're in public and your kids like disobedient in front of you, it's kind of embarrassing.
Speaker 2:But also as a parent it's like if your kid doesn't feel comfortable around somebody, somebody, why are you like putting them in that predicament? But also that's what's wrong. There's no boundary set, so it's like nobody. If people, if my kid tells me, hey, dad, I don't really like that person, I'm gonna be like why, what's wrong? And if they gave me like a answer that justifies with logic and reasoning, not just because you know you're being prejudiced or whatever, but like if you have a valid reason, it's like all right, you've got to respect them to a certain degree. But you know, if you don't rock with them like that it's all good. You know it's like I'm not going to force my kid to. You know, do that. Obviously you've got hit your child or beat your child later. That's you're creating like PTSD in your kids and it's like when you grow up and you have all this trauma and your parents were like it wasn't that bad, like yeah, it was.
Speaker 1:Yeah, like now, I'm crazy thanks.
Speaker 2:Now it's like, but you know also it's like every generation gets better. So it's like hopefully. But you know it's's like now with your kids. You want to kind of talk to them, but you don't want to be too easy on them too, cause then they'll start to walk all over you. So all back to setting boundaries.
Speaker 1:Exactly With everyone. I was actually. I was actually like watching the story time on Tik TOK and this woman was saying how she told her in-laws her in-laws wanted to buy a house and she said it has to be at least 30 miles away from us. And I guess, like months later, like her in-laws come back and they're like, oh, we're buying a house and it's 15 miles away from you guys.
Speaker 1:And so she comes on know, like on story time and and talks about this, how, um, her mother-in-law is like crossing the line like going over like her boundaries, and there was like a like a duet, like a stitch video or something from from a like a therapist, I think it was, and she was like that. That's not a boundary. A boundary is something that you can control.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1:So you were like giving her like a. A geographic boundary, yeah, or like an expectation or like a suggestion or something, but the mother-in-law came around and bought the house 15 miles from her. What you can do is say what you can do is say what you can do is say you can't come to our house unannounced during the week. That's a boundary, because that's something that you can. You can control that but so you have to know the difference. You have to know the difference between a boundary and I don't know like an.
Speaker 2:That's just like all right, can I not go to the same Walmart as you? Like there's one Best Buy on the west side. Like do I have to go to the north side? Like to please you, like you know it's like, or a boundary is don't call after 8. We're sleeping. We wake up at 4 or 5. You know that's a boundary, you know it's like. Like I don't know that's. Yeah, she's setting a 30 miles radius of you.
Speaker 2:Come on now yeah, well, I thought that was like funny that reminds me of the union hall, like, like, if so, to qualify for per diem, you have to be within the outside of I think what is it? 45 miles, Something like that to receive the per diem? And it's like, if I'm one mile inside, does it make or break? Like I don't know. Setting a 30-mile radius like relax, that's a little excessive. That sounds something like a woman would do, though.
Speaker 1:Hey, I chose to buy our house one mile away from your parents.
Speaker 2:But you like the area.
Speaker 1:And I like your parents so.
Speaker 2:But she don't. So who's the problem? Her, no, I'm kidding, but nah.
Speaker 1:So again, like it goes towards the, you get resentment.
Speaker 2:Towards somebody.
Speaker 1:Or like an ick towards somebody. But I feel like if from the start you set your boundaries, yeah it then in the long run you know you have peace. You have peace or you have um for one like. I feel like self-love and self-worth again. I said because we didn't like no boundaries since we were little. I feel like that really hurt us growing up because then, we didn't know.
Speaker 1:You know, I I told you about like my whole story a few weeks ago, like you know what happened with, like, my mom's boyfriend and all of that and, um, because I didn't know about boundaries, it led to that. And then years later, two decades later, I'm sitting here like with all of this trauma, all because in our household it wasn't allowed to like say hey, I don't like this man, or hey, like you know, he's doing this to me, um, because then we would be.
Speaker 2:It just was, it's just not a thing yeah, I feel like that's what happens when, like, I mean you can back it up with statistics, but, like in single mother homes, I feel like stuff like that happens because a competent man is always going to kind of police to a certain degree, he is law and order to a certain degree. So it's like as a dad, you've got to have that parental instinct of like is this person a threat to my family? Is this person good for my family? Your mom was just working two jobs.
Speaker 2:I mean she was growing up with trauma and self-worth issues too. So when women just kind of like look for themselves in a man, they don't really care what their kids are doing, or feeling like look for themselves in a man, they don't really care what their kids are doing or feeling, so it's like she's too busy working and dating the dude yeah, to be like. Hey mom, this guy's a creep yeah she's like oh no, you're crazy or or you're lying, he's a good guy. Like no, he's not, the guy's a bum.
Speaker 1:Like yeah, and you know it again, she wasn't taught boundaries, so she didn't teach them to us. Because I feel like, even so, I was obviously a single mom before I met you.
Speaker 2:If my I get like the whole there has to be like a man, a man in in the household but, like if my son comes to me and tells me like he doesn't want to say hi to someone, or he or he doesn't feel comfortable with someone, I'm gonna be like red flag something's happening here yeah, it's like if your kids are like one kid wants to go spend the night at somebody's house and the other kid's like uh, and then as a parent you gotta kind of see a red flag yeah, I just, I just feel like that wasn't like a thing before, like boundaries just wasn't a thing.
Speaker 1:They didn't exist, and I think now that we have them, we've been so much happier.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:The house has been like so much more like peaceful. I mean, we can go back to what two, three years ago, when I let, or we let, my brother move in? You had never even met the guy.
Speaker 2:No.
Speaker 1:He's coming from Mexico. Again, we don't know if he, what habits he has, like whatever, again, growing up in a household, don't say no If not you're the bad guy, ok.
Speaker 1:So he needs somewhere to stay. He just got here from Mexico. Come on in. I have three kids, but that's okay. And then immediately things start going downhill, smoking in the house and he's talking about us behind our backs Doing all of these things. Remember? It got to the point where, like every night, we would stay up in bed and like talk about how bad things were and in our own household we were, we had an ick in our. We were feeling like we were feeling all weird and like disrespected in our own household but we, we couldn't like, set boundaries.
Speaker 1:Well, eventually, like we did, that's where we went wrong.
Speaker 2:We didn't see you guys. If you're a homeowner, obviously the good Lord blesses you with a beautiful home. It's for it's an extension of his love for you to also pass a blessing to others. If somebody's going through hard time, it's your duty to help out, but don't let yourself get walked all over. You know it's like. You know we felt bad.
Speaker 2:You know, and everybody deserves an opportunity. You know kind of like a help in the world, but if it's at the detriment of your own family and your own, you know financial living. You know you don't owe it to anybody but your family to provide for them. He's just as her brother. God bless him. But that's not my responsibility. My kids and my wife are my responsibility. I'm going to help you out. I got him a job and everything. So it's like I'm doing my part to help you. But if you can't help yourself, like how can I help you out? I got him a job and everything. So it's like I'm doing my part to help you, but if you can't help yourself, like how can I help you?
Speaker 1:so again, like I'm not saying, like we, maybe I said that we didn't mess up by, like you know, giving him a hand, bringing him in the house. I think where we messed up is from the beginning yeah to set those boundaries, because when I first got here from mexico, my sister helped me, so you know who would I be. But boundaries, though, huh before I stepped foot in her house, she was like this is the deal you can't you?
Speaker 1:my house is not a hotel. Um, you know you're, you're gonna pick after yourself, after your kids, you're going to buy your own things and you have one year to move out. It was not. It was a non-negotiable Like. She was like you have one year to move out, so what happens when you go into something and you have these boundaries? So I was like walking in a straight line. I was like going to work, coming back to kids.
Speaker 2:Yeah, because your sisters cutthroat. So if you're out of line they're going to tell you. Respectfully, you got to leave.
Speaker 1:So her and her husband put those boundaries that you know. I feel like that worked out for me too, because she taught me a lot. But what happened? She set boundaries, she gave me a one year, like window window and in nine months I was out. I was out, I had my own apartment and I had bought my first car um. And that's where we went wrong.
Speaker 2:We moved my brother and he just came right in no job, nothing, and we didn't have a conversation. So what happened.
Speaker 1:Three, four months went by and he didn't have a job. Until he got to the point like okay, dude, like what are you doing?
Speaker 2:You got to figure it out.
Speaker 1:You have to figure it out. He gets a job and then once you know he's making pretty good money and stuff like that, we're like hey, you know we're going to start charging you some rent because you know you're real comfortable. I was packing both of you guys' lunches. Things were getting so expensive.
Speaker 2:We had a whole other adult we had to provide for.
Speaker 1:Yeah, so things were getting really expensive and from the start we should have had that conversation. Hey, you have a month to get a job, getting really expensive, and from the start we should have had that conversation.
Speaker 1:Hey, when you, when you, you have a month to get a job and when you get a job, you're gonna pay rent and maybe like buy you know your own little things, your own stuff, like that, because you know not, not because like I'm stingy or stuff, but like I go to costco or we go to costco, we spent five, six hundred dollars and I think it was really unfair that like one day the kids would like open the fridge and they're like mom, like there's no milk, and it's like he he was the last one that poured himself that. Like served himself up a bowl of cereal and he didn't. He didn't go and like buy a gallon of milk or he didn't go and put it on the list, like how I have the list on the fridge. Like little things like that were.
Speaker 1:Like really giving me the ick, but I feel like again that was my fault because I didn't set those boundaries from the beginning, so he was kind of just walking free house yeah, he was just walking all over us to the point where he was smoking inside the house, even because he was like they don't, they don't say anything to me.
Speaker 2:Or like I'm going to get away with it, I'm going to get away with it Like dude.
Speaker 1:So I just feel like just the word, like I'm going to print it out and put it on the fridge Boundaries, like everybody needs to have boundaries, they're boundaries, do you agree? Yeah, I do want to say this little quote, not a quote, but like I wrote it down you don't owe unlimited access to everybody. Boundaries aren't walls, it's a door and you decide when you open it or when you close it.
Speaker 2:Dang, that's a good one. Who wrote that?
Speaker 1:I got it off Pinterest, but yeah, that's a good one. Who wrote that? I got it off pinterest, but yeah, that's that's it like, and I think, again, boundaries are so important and I think that we've came a long way setting hours with everybody with your parents. With my parents, I mean, unfortunately, like I'm not talking to my mom right now, but that's and it's not gonna be a forever thing, but, girl, that's a boundary yeah, she's kind of if she don't learn from this one.
Speaker 2:It's like my door is closed for you right now, so and that goes for everybody, goes for our kids um and it's tough because that's your own mom, like. Not only to add on to it, she's in another country by herself. So it's like you take all those things into account her being alone and all that but it's like, what do you think of last yourself?
Speaker 2:yeah but it's like you're. You're just like in this battle of getting pulled back and forth and so you don't have no more elasticity. You're just like you ain't got, you can't get pulled no more. It's like, you know, just like a bomb is detonating and unfortunately, when good, hard people, good-hearted people get you know put in that position, sometimes we blow up, you know, and it's like and my heart like obviously hurts.
Speaker 1:I, I love her, she's my mother, but you know, lately it's my. I've been fighting for my mental health lately like so bad with everything that's going on. And then you know, doing social media full-time, like it it does drain you drain you and and then you know, and then you kind of like hopping on to like no it, it's time to get off Like I can't with everything. I have kids, I have a husband and that's what I chose, and now they come first.
Speaker 2:And that's one thing, guys, I also want to add If sometimes you feel like you don't fit in or anything, that's your biggest blessing, because usually the people that don't fit in are the ones that change and revolutionize everything in this world. Guys, remember you are not of this world, so don't force yourself to fit in in a world that you're not from. This is just flesh, guys. So, you know, always try to keep your moral compass pointing north and, you know, always do the right thing. But, guys, prioritize yourself, because if you're the best version of yourself, the world just automatically gets better. You know, if we all try to be competent people, you know, lead by example. Especially us men, we have to lead by example, look out for our family, but also instill these morals and principles in our kids. And you know, I feel like that's one thing you lack too. You're never having your dad in your life. He never like led the way. You know what I'm saying. He's a coward, unfortunately. God bless him, but he's a coward for abandoning you guys.
Speaker 2:Oh I agree and it also showed in your brother. You know, like one thing, guys, I love to work hard but like one time when we're on a job site, like we're here, like how we get down working If you ain't busting your butt, like you're going to get those two checks? So one one day we're working right, we're insulating these two copper pipes. This guy pulls up a bucket and he's just right there sitting down working and honestly, I replayed the scenario in my head like 10 times. I'm like, and you know I'm Mexican-American but I lost my Spanish a lot, so it's like super broken. And he's like, oh, he doesn't speak Spanish. So in my head I replayed that conversation about 10 times. How do I tell him in the nicest way possible? Because people are like I'm pretty blunt. So people do I tell him in the nicest way possible because people like I'm pretty blunt. So people are like, oh, he's being, he's being a jack. But you know, I was like hey, like, hey, man, I don't know how you guys get down over there in Mexico, but you can't sit down here, like here in the union you got to be busting your butt. If you go anywhere else and they see you sitting down working. You're gonna get two checks. I'm the one that got you in.
Speaker 2:You can't make me look like that, like I'm telling you in good faith but you can't do that, you know. It's like. You know, growing up my dad was always pretty hard on me. You know he was a great dad but, like you know, he was cutthroat too. But you know, we get molded like that, you know, and it's like, if you don't learn, those are like fundamentals. People lack a lot of fundamentals now. So it's like to certain people it's like you don't have to explain what's understood, but unfortunately in this day and age, it's like they don't understand. So it's like yeah, guys, so just know your self-worth, be kind, but also don't let people step all over you, because all they do is take, you know, and they're just going to keep taking and taking and taking until you have nothing left.
Speaker 1:And I think lately that that's what was like happening, that I was like, obviously I'm already a giver, as it is like you know the kids and you and my mom and this and that and, and then it just like got to the point where, like I was just I, I didn't know like I was losing myself and and once I started, like okay, my boundaries right, you know, the door right now for my mom is closed and very limited for certain people, things like that. I feel like I started finding myself again. Um for one, like I discovered that I wanted us to get back like on the pod. It had been what?
Speaker 1:four or five months since we had recorded an episode because I was so drained and I was, I had so much going on and I didn't have time for myself like I couldn't even think yeah that I didn't know what I wanted and and now that I have these walls up and you know people don't have access to me, that that easy anymore.
Speaker 1:I know exactly what I want. I've been like so much. I've been at peace. Our house is more peaceful, like you know, and the kids get the best of us, so I feel like that that's what I've gotten the most out of like setting my boundaries is that you guys get a peaceful me, because when there's no boundaries, I'm running around like a headless chicken everywhere, doing everything for everybody when nobody does anything for me.
Speaker 2:Yeah, nobody's trying to make your life easier.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:And it's like it's crazy, guys. That's why I don't understand about like people that are like her family or friends is like, you know, people have seen in real time all the blessings that she has gotten, going from zero followers to over 120 on TikTok, 50 on Instagram, and it's like we're seeing her in real time receive these blessings from all the hard work she puts in. So it's like if you see somebody like making it out, why would you not? Especially like you know, we grew up in the neighborhood and all that, so a lot of these stuff wasn't instilled in us guys, we had to find this ourselves. But thanks to God and you know, keeping that tunnel vision, guys, that hard work pays off and, lookit, she's becoming very successful.
Speaker 2:So I don't understand why people don't come and try to make her life easier. When it's like, if you always have to hang around with people that are smarter than you, that are doing better than you, because you just it just helps, guys, you keep elevating your game and, um, yeah, guys, like, if I see somebody that's doing great, I'm gonna try to add on to that. Or, you know, whatever I could bring onto the table to you know, add onto that and multiply something, not be a leech, but, you know, be a multiplier and like she's doing so good. So it's like why wouldn't somebody come and be like, hey, you need help? Um, I it's crazy guys, but music to my ears my husband tooting my horn.
Speaker 2:But at the end of the day, guys, you just got to keep plugging away, keep working, and sometimes in life you have to put the blinders on. You know, just like a racehorse, put the blinders on and just steam ahead, yeah.
Speaker 1:So Set those boundaries and don't feel bad about doing that Like. Don't feel like you're a mean or bad person by like saying no. It's OK to say no.
Speaker 2:Yeah, you'll live. And if, if they're like authentic too, they might get like a little hurt by it. But then they're like you know what, like, yeah, that like my pride, is not worth losing a relationship with them. Exactly like I know they're busy, like I know she don't like to go out and go to the club or something like, yeah, but you're inviting her like that's not just her scene, you know. So it's like to go out and go to the club or something. Yeah, but you're inviting her Like that's not just her scene, you know.
Speaker 2:So it's like we just need to kind of be more understanding, and you know we always go our way to help people. So it's like we just need to be ourselves. And if people want to be around, that fine, we'll have a good time. And if they don't's good, you know like, teach their own. Everybody could eat it. It's just gonna be at a different table. Yeah and um, there's no hate, nothing, no envy or bad malicious intent. It's just, you know you can have fun over there, we'll have fun over here and yeah, we'll both continue to live our life.
Speaker 1:But well, that was really fun. I am so glad to be back and to record more episodes. There's so many things that I want to talk about and get off this chest, but we'll be back.
Speaker 2:Yeah, this is her therapy, guys. It really is, so we're glad to be back and it feels like home. It honestly feels like home, don't it?
Speaker 1:I love it here.
Speaker 2:So it's like this is very therapeutic and you know time to vent. You know, maybe there's some things you don't want to discuss with me. You want to discuss with them, you know. Yeah, as a friendship with our friends and our loved ones. So we look forward to getting back to this and we're excited to just keep pumping out new videos, episodes.
Speaker 1:All right, guys. Well, we'll see you next time.
Speaker 2:Later guys. Well, we'll see you next time Later, guys.