Real Love, Real Life
Real Love Real Life dives into the unfiltered reality of relationships—dating, marriage, heartbreak, healing, and everything in between. It's honest talk about love and life, filled with real stories, hard truths, and the kind of laughs that come from lived experience.
No fluff, just facts, feelings, and a whole lot of growth.
Real Love, Real Life
EP 6: Jealous Friends? Here’s How to Handle It!
Friendship in adulthood isn’t always what it seems. When does a friend turn into a frenemy?
Jasmine and Ernesto get real about jealousy, fake support, and friends who only show up when they need something. From viral birthday snubs to childhood best friends who disappear after success, they share stories that hit close to home.
They break down what real friendship looks like: people who celebrate your wins, invest in the relationship, and respect boundaries.
🎧 Listen in and learn how to spot who’s really in your corner and who’s just along for the ride.
Hi guys, welcome back to real love, real life podcast. I'm your host, jasmine.
Speaker 2:And I'm Ernesto.
Speaker 1:How was your week?
Speaker 2:It's been pretty long Tired.
Speaker 1:Me too. I'm on the struggle bus right now. It's back to school.
Speaker 2:It's hectic.
Speaker 1:It's hectic. You have just been at work. Yeah, it's been crazy I work 10 hour days almost every day I'm not gonna lie, I was, like yesterday and today, feeling a little burnt out, and I think you felt it because when I got in the car right now, you were like, um, how was your day? Like, are you okay?
Speaker 2:and I'm just like, yeah, and you're like what's what's wrong?
Speaker 1:um, it's a lot, I feel like, and I don't. I don't like to just like bust out and be like I'm exhausted, I'm burnt out, because I don't want to seem ungrateful yeah but I think, I think we can still be grateful and still still feel blessed with, and also be tired or burnt out. Yeah, like I've been doing a whole lot without you, now that you're back to work.
Speaker 2:I know it's tough.
Speaker 1:Cause you have to like physically be at work and obviously I'm the only one that can take the kids to the doctor's appointments.
Speaker 2:Two dogs, that's a full house.
Speaker 1:And with the back to school it's been like doctor's appointments, dentist appointments, meet the teacher, school shopping like so much, and we're going to have a high schooler on Monday, I know, and cashing out.
Speaker 2:Yeah, it's been crazy.
Speaker 1:Tell me about it. It's been so crazy. But today's episode is friends or frenemies? Dang I feel like you can relate because you you've been through through this. I feel like a lot backstabbing, after backstabbing and I feel like, thanks to my little third eye that I have, I've been able to detect all of your fake little friends and I'm sure eventually they'll watch this.
Speaker 2:I could say the same about yours too.
Speaker 1:I know.
Speaker 2:And your family.
Speaker 1:While we're here, I feel like once you get older not calling us old you are turning 30 next month, I know, but I feel like it gets really hard to make friends or keep the friends that you already have yeah I've even thought sometimes like are we the problem?
Speaker 1:maybe partially we don't have friends and you know, I'm fine, I'm fine with just the two of us, like I have a lot of fun with you, but sometimes, like you know, we talk about it and we're like, oh, like it'd be nice to go on a double date or things like that, but I just feel like we can't seem to like, we don't seem to click with no, the majority of the people that, like, we hang out with, or the ones that we have.
Speaker 1:It's been like out of state, like we've made. We made friends when we went to miami yeah huh like we're strangers yeah, so like, but that's what I'm saying like we we've, we get along good, but then it's with people that are like oh, we're probably gonna see them like never again yeah, never again, or in a year or when, whenever we come back to another event or yeah whatever.
Speaker 1:But I feel like since we, I'll say, matured, like you know, once, once, kind of like we got a house and we kind of got our stuff together, just friends kind of started separating yeah, they started weeding themselves out. Yeah, everybody started like getting out of the picture. I feel like this takes us back to like apartment days. That's kind of like when we lived in the apartment. That's kind of like where we started noticing like who was who, and I think you know where I'm going with this.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:So I'm going to be the one to story tell. Ernesto had a friend, and let me tell the story. Don't look at me like that. Ernesto had a friend that was his best friend since elementary or middle school.
Speaker 2:I would say like my second best friend.
Speaker 1:Don't cut me off like that, just your best friend, um, since, like childhood whatever, I feel like we slowly started discovering that he was a frenemy. Yeah, he was low key sneak dissonance for no reason.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:And and I feel like you're so, so nice, like too nice, all the time that you don't. You don't look at it that way, you're just like oh, that's his personality or that's how he is, or whatever. But when I started like kind of like eavesdropping on phone calls and stuff like that, you know like kind of like overhearing you and I'm like he's dropping on phone calls this guy doesn't seem like um. How do I say?
Speaker 1:it like, genuine like genuine, um, I feel like he was your friend up until he saw your glow up and then he was like I'm not your friend anymore yeah, that's how I saw it because it almost seemed like he wasn't happy when you had your first son and I feel like for guys that's kind of a big deal yeah like guys that have known each other since elementary, middle school, and then he has his first son.
Speaker 1:Like you'd think, you'd be like on top of the moon for your boy or whatever he didn't, he never came to see him, like, never stopped by, like none of that. Um what else?
Speaker 1:I feel like when you got your dream car, it was like he seemed like he just wasn't interested yeah you had to come to him so he could take a look at your car when he was building his house. You, I remember you were so excited for him that, like you came home to tell me you had pictures on your phone of his house and you're like, look it, they're building their house. You were showing me dirt and I was like, what is that like?
Speaker 1:and you're like this is where they're gonna build their house and it's gonna look like this and like that. You would go every time there was an update and you were so excited for him and you were cheering him on the entire time and when it was our turn, when we started building our house, he never came by. He never came like to see the house. Our son is four and he's never met him.
Speaker 1:He showed his true colors the moment you had your glow up yeah and I was like yeah, this dude is like he's not a genuine guy story in my life literally. Well, I mean, I feel like I feel like there's other friends that don't feel like that, maybe like they don't put the time and effort, but you don't feel like the jealousy I feel like with this person, like it was almost like you could. You could literally see the jealousy from like miles away. It's almost like how they say people want you to do good, but not better than them.
Speaker 1:And I feel like the moment he saw, like oh he's, he's having a son and I haven't had my first son. Like, not not yeah, always comparing and stuff yeah or when he had his fast car, it was like look at my fast car, let's go on a drive in my fast car. And then, when you had your fast car, it was like I don't care anymore.
Speaker 2:Now it's not a competition because your car is better.
Speaker 1:Yeah, now, it's not a competition. I'm just not interested, and I feel like a lot of people can relate to that. I also feel like Especially like long-term friends.
Speaker 2:Oh yeah, and then all of a sudden, once you're doing good, it's like all right. Now I don't want to kick it with you.
Speaker 1:And I feel like so many people are like that's my long-term friend, or that's been my friend since kindergarten. I hear that a lot, and I used to hear that from you too, because when I used to like call out his BS, you'd be like I've known him for 15 years. That would be your answer, or you'd be like I've known him my entire childhood, or whatever people. People don't like deserve to be in your circle because they've known you for x amount of time yeah that's what I think.
Speaker 1:I think immediately, like, if I call bs, I don't care if I've known you since birth. Yeah, I'm going to cut it off.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:And I think that's what a lot of people need to do because it's so common now, especially like with social media. I feel like now I can call people's BS so quick now with social media, like you're looking at all of my stories and you never like a single post.
Speaker 2:Yeah, You're not supporting me. I ain't never seen you like yeah, like you will it's. It's so crazy how you see them on a like like happy birthday, devin booker. Happy birthday, devin booker. On reposting it on their story and like you just see them view your story Like what?
Speaker 1:Literally Like seeing people shop like I don't know from billionaire Kim Kardashian and you're over here like selling cookies and they will not buy one from you? Yeah, they're just like nope, or sometimes it doesn't even have to be buy Like, like my stuff.
Speaker 2:I mean liking is free.
Speaker 1:Reposting everything. Yeah, liking is free All of that on the internet is completely free and I feel like people just like show their true colors, like, if you're in my story, most likely you saw my post, or you can take five seconds and go to the post.
Speaker 2:Or like especially if it's like somebody close Like how are you not commenting, because you know if it's the other way around we're going to comment like share. Yeah, you know what I mean, no hesitation.
Speaker 1:And honestly, I used to be like that, and once I started growing on social media and I saw how people weren't supportive of me, I have stopped being like supportive towards other people too, like I'm not gonna unfollow you but I'm not gonna engage, I'm not gonna engage with you either. So like how are you, how are you? Like asking for my resources? Or like, hey, can you repost this, or hey, can you help me like promote. You know my business, but you have never been in my likes yo.
Speaker 2:So how do you spot a frenemy?
Speaker 1:like that, I feel like yeah, exactly.
Speaker 2:So like three points.
Speaker 1:How do you spot them out first, like see, see their actions versus their what they'd be talking yeah, so I've seen this post that says people can't support you public publicly because of the things they said about you privately.
Speaker 1:Yeah, dang so are you worried about like oh, I saw so and so in in Jasmine's likes when she said like this about her or things like that, and not to be messed up, but I mean, like I've showed you messages of like people that literally I've never like, I was never even like friends with them, like that, like that, and they just automatically see like oh, she has a bigger following. Let me go in here and like my shot, you know, with like my business, things like that, but again, like, where were you when I was like in my cringy stage?
Speaker 2:yeah, when I didn't have no following, where were you?
Speaker 1:when I was posting three times a day, but I only had 300 followers.
Speaker 2:You weren't messaging right there.
Speaker 1:Yeah, or like you didn't even like engage with me. A lot of these people didn't even follow me. Like people that we went to school with didn't even follow me until, like they see a large group of people like follow you. They're like, oh okay, now it's my turn. Or like trying to use like me for your business yeah when you don't even like me yeah like let's be honest, you don't like, you just want some clout, you just wanna or like an easy you want me to promote your product.
Speaker 2:You know I can make sales, so it's like you're trying to make money off me. But that's.
Speaker 1:That's the thing that I feel like I'm really good, I'm I'm very salesy online I hate that word because I feel like. I feel like I can be myself yeah and attract, you know, like shoppers and things like that. Anything that I'm using, I could be like this is the underwear for the day and people are like, oh, I want it like you know it's, it's, it's from walmart or whatever, and people, people will want it.
Speaker 1:Maybe because of that, because I'm being myself, all of that, so people see that and they're like this is a good opportunity for my business yeah, they can get it out there, people actually buy but then again, like you've never. You've never supported me.
Speaker 2:You probably don't even like me you used to probably talk smack about me in school in high school. Now you're my dms yeah crazy crazy work.
Speaker 1:um, back to like the fact that people don't like deserve your time and energy, even though they've known you since way back when I had a situation back in like February. It was like my ex friend's birthday and best friend ex best friend. Ok so, and this is the thing like don't, don't mess with me, because I post everything on social media. I post everything on social media. And if that upset like if that, if you don't want the smoke.
Speaker 2:It's like trying to like, trying to talk smack to a comedian they're going to roast you.
Speaker 1:That's a bad idea and that's my thing, Like I, even even when I had my two, three hundred followers, I ran to my social media.
Speaker 2:That's where I Call me reply. Call in your ass Out.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that's where I like vent, that's my little diary, so like, if you, if you don't want it, don't come for me because I'm going to post you. Like not post you, but I'm going to talk about the situation on social media.
Speaker 1:So the situation on social media? So, anyways, it was her friends, um, her friends, it was my friend's birthday, it was birthday party, it was her birthday party, or like a little gathering, just all girls. So, um, she says everybody's gonna bring a plate of something. I say, oh, perfect, like you know me, I have to have my little sushi, like once a week. So I was like, oh, you know, I'm gonna take something. That's like me. Whatever, I'm gonna take sushi. Okay, she gives me the date, time, address. I get there right on time, maybe like a couple minutes after the time. I don't see cars, I don't see anything. But I'm like you know what?
Speaker 2:I'm just early but you felt like something was wrong.
Speaker 1:I, I felt it when I got there. Everything looked like there was like no, like there was no decorations there was nothing.
Speaker 1:So I was like okay, so I sit in my car good thing I didn't like get off, because I would have looked so goofy in that camera. Um, so I text her, I call her, she doesn't answer. And then I text her and I was like, hey, like is this still going on? And she's like, oh, like you didn't get my message. I told everybody it was I don't I can't remember if it was one, or she had pushed it back one or two hours. And I was like, no, like I didn't get your message. And she says I sent it in, I sent it in the group chat, and I think that's where she knew she had messed up. She was, and I think that's where she knew she had messed up.
Speaker 1:She was like I started a group chat and I didn't add Jasmine. So I was like, okay, that was like another, like red flag. There's a group chat and I'm not in it. And then, um, she's like come to my mom's house. She sends me the address and at this point I was like really annoyed and I'm like girl, you're like we're almost in our 30s, why do you have me driving around like I don't want to go to your mom's house? Like, yes, I know your mom love your mom, nice lady, but like I don't I this wasn't the plan, so at this point I feel like I'm not wanted there yeah so I drive back home, I drive back home and I set my tripod up, I unbox the sushi and I start talking about it and I start eating it.
Speaker 1:The video blows up literally million views, like overnight, and she didn't bother to message me, text me again, like throughout the day. You know she had a blast at her little gathering, at her get together. Whatever, she made me feel like crap. She made me feel excluded from her little group chat.
Speaker 1:It really gave me mean girl vibes and, I'm not gonna lie, I cried because it took me back to like middle school, high school, where, like girls are just like mean for no reason or they just want to make you feel like crap for no reason dang so, um, I mean, we all ate the sushi. Whatever I was in my feels, I I uploaded the video. Well, I think the next morning she saw the video or somebody showed her the video For real. And I mean it had a million views.
Speaker 1:We live in Phoenix. That got around quick. So she immediately messages me and calls me a B for posting that and says that, like she sent the message out, this, this and that, that you know she was sorry that it didn't get to me, that she didn't know I was all of a sudden this sensitive, blah, blah, blah. She goes on a rant. But the fact that it didn't get to her the entire time, like the fact that she knew, hey, jasmine was gonna bring the sushi, she went back home, she didn't know, like, like she didn't know what I was going through.
Speaker 1:She didn't know what I was going through, she didn't care, but the moment she saw that I had made a video about it, that's the moment it got to her and that's the moment that it bothered her.
Speaker 1:So she, she was pissed and she was talking about, like you know, you made the video and this, this and that, like, I hope you can get some of your little coins back that you spent, like, on the sushi. Like, yes, I spent a hundred bucks on the sushi. So, yeah, and yes, that video paid me back for the sushi. Thank you very much, um, but anyways, 80 of the audience, like 80 of the no girl, she doesn't like you. She doesn't like you. She was trying to make you look like a fool the entire time.
Speaker 1:Like that's not a friend. And the other 20% was like she could have been stressed. She could have been like running around all over the place and she didn't have time to text you. But I think bottom line is there was a group chat and I wasn't in it.
Speaker 2:Yeah, that's what makes you think, like what's being said in there that you guys don't want to make me a part of, and then another message that she sent was like oh, you got a little bit of followers and now you think like you're all that.
Speaker 1:Immediately when she said that, I was like you're done, you're done. You hate that I'm on the internet. You hate that I'm like successful with my little bit of followers yeah, the fact that she couldn't leave that out, that she had to throw that in there I was like she's a friend of me she's very much jealous of my following um of what I, and that's probably why she was like I'm going to make her look stupid for a little bit.
Speaker 2:She probably feels left out.
Speaker 1:So she tried to do it to me and Her sister like messaged me, you know, trying to like come to the rescue, and like she kept throwing in, like the fact that like we've been friends since middle school and I'm like I don't care. And again, that's what people need to understand that it doesn't matter how long you've known someone. It doesn't matter that you've been best friends since kindergarten. If you're treating me like crap and you're making me feel less, I don't want to be a part of it.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:And people need to understand that that it doesn't matter. It doesn't matter if you're family or how long you've known this person. People need to learn when to cut people off.
Speaker 2:Yeah, you just got to do what's necessary.
Speaker 1:The sushi was great. I love that sushi.
Speaker 2:I think that's what helps it go viral. You're just like.
Speaker 1:I was just like stuffing the rolls in my mouth, like talking about it, and people were just like girl, what the heck?
Speaker 2:Because a lot of people can relate, Because a lot of people let that slide for a lot multiple times and then I do think about it. People are just lonely and don't have friends, so they're willing to put up with people's shit.
Speaker 1:Even if I would have stayed even if I would have stayed, I think to myself I would have went home not knowing that there was a group chat that I was not included in. You guys are obviously texting each other, pushing back the time, doing all these things, and I have no clue about it. You always say it like what's the saying God? God heard conversations that you didn't.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:So he's probably like girl no. These ain't your friends, friends this circle is not for you. So immediately I removed myself and it bothered her it it didn't bother her until I post it online, which I didn't even say her name or anything, so nobody would have even known that it was her, but that but once you start comment commenting like trying to fight back, people are like all right, we know who it is now yeah, so, and and I feel like for a moment I felt bad.
Speaker 1:but when she threw that in there, that like oh, just because I had a little bit of followers and because I'm doing this now and like I have to bring everything online, I was like oh yeah, I was like, oh yeah, I was like so this is how you've been feeling about me.
Speaker 2:You truly feel some type of way.
Speaker 1:This is how you truly feel Okay, peace out.
Speaker 2:That's crazy.
Speaker 1:I feel like, how do we look for friends? Or like good relationships now that we are adults? Or like, what would you look for Like I know it's not's not like on your bucket list to go and find friends. You're a busy guy and I don't know I'm traumatized.
Speaker 2:No, I'm just kidding. I would just say people that like, I would like to be like you know, like people that you could kind of look up to as well, and people that you know they don't necessarily have to be doing better than you, but like maybe somebody who's just as competitive as you, somebody who's just as good as you at stuff, because iron sharpens iron. So if you don't have quality friends, I mean that's true and it's cool. I think we also need to separate acquaintances and friends. There's a lot of acquaintances oh yeah, we can chat it up about center fielder and all that. But you know, once you start talking about real-life problems, business stuff like that, 95% of those people are just gone real quick Like miss me with that.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:So I would say people with like traits that you find rare, like competent people, genuine people that do stuff for people that doesn't benefit them. We all know people like that. It's like this guy at work, like he literally like is only motivated like if we leave early, like hey, hey, we're leaving. If, if, if you kick ass, we're leaving at one o'clock. Yeah, but we're getting paid for 10.
Speaker 1:If not, he's not moving.
Speaker 2:Like Saturday is like 30. Like we are walking into work it's five in the morning. They're like what time we getting out?
Speaker 1:10, 30, 10, 30.
Speaker 2:Come on bro, go, go, go work a little bit and then we'll see when we get out. And it's just like I don't know you got to stay away from people like that that are just, you know, like just pumping the brakes at work because you know he's not getting let out early. It's like, dude, you're obligated to work at least eight hours. You're be lucky, you're working 10.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:Like. So, you know, avoid people like that. You know, try to connect with the people that are, you know, like-minded and you know are genuine yeah, because there's a scarcity of good friends out here. So if you see somebody cool, you got to hold on to them.
Speaker 1:You're like, hey man oh yeah, I know, but it's definitely hard or somebody that's gonna that'll buy you a beer first.
Speaker 2:You know what I mean yeah like if you walk in and they're like, hey, what you drinking, boom, boom. Like those are the good friendships, not the hey, uh, I don't got nothing. I don't like I don't, if I got it, we all got it. But you know, those friends, like you have to pay for them and all that, like those are the ones that, like they never work out because it's not even 50-50. It's 75-25, you know.
Speaker 1:I feel like that's like story of my life, like I don't think I've ever. I might be wrong, but like I, literally I cannot think of one time that somebody's like I got you, except the time we were in Miami with you know who.
Speaker 2:But again, that's not like our friend.
Speaker 1:friend, that's literally someone that we met that day. That was like I got it, I got it. But like I don't think I've had a friend that's like, let's go to lunch, like I got you. And it's not that I don't have 20 bucks for lunch or 40 for the both of us, whatever, but it's like, hey, sometimes like I want to feel liked enough that somebody wants to take me out to lunch.
Speaker 2:Like that was it the other night when my old buddies from the other company like hey, we're at the bar, come through and I was like I'm so, so exhausted. I knew I had to work saturday so I was like as much as I wanted to go because, like, I never get invited yeah and like they're the homies you know, like we're in the tray together.
Speaker 2:It's like they're actually reaching out to me. So I was like I felt like I let them down because I didn't pull through, but it's like if I go out, man, I'm probably gonna be out all night. Yeah, it's like a roller coaster go out, man.
Speaker 1:I'm probably going to be out all night.
Speaker 2:Yeah, it's like a roller coaster ride Once I get on that roller coaster, I ain't coming home until that thing's done.
Speaker 1:Once he gets a mojito in, there is no going back with this guy.
Speaker 2:I'm going all night.
Speaker 1:He needs at least like eight, ten of them.
Speaker 2:At the Topgolf company thing they had. Man, I was like seven deep before it ended. I was just like Were you even golfing. Yeah, at that point it was fun. It was like water, it was like Aquafina. No, it was like that's crazy.
Speaker 1:I can't believe you like that.
Speaker 2:It's because we were in Miami like a week or two earlier and that's when I was pounding the mojito, so I was like already, I was already a seasoned veteran. Yeah. I know People were like dang, because everybody's drinking beer and stuff.
Speaker 1:Those drinks in Miami were no joke. I needed how much? Did I have Like one or two drinks and I was like Some shots.
Speaker 2:Hey, you know.
Speaker 1:Did I have shots? Yeah, I had a shot or two, but yeah, definitely Like yeah, always look for friends that take initiative.
Speaker 2:I think the number one thing is initiative, because there's, there's, there's people out here in this life that will be an hour early for you, like you know they'll make it to like the most random event for you, and you got, like the friends that, hey, I moved it to seven o'clock, like, come on, man, we're, we're adults.
Speaker 1:Like I think you know you can't be late to everything.
Speaker 2:Come on now.
Speaker 1:I think initiative that was another thing with her, that she was late.
Speaker 2:You could be planning a breakfast at First Watch. Hey, we're going to go to First Watch at 10 o'clock. No matter how optimistic you can be, you know she's going to be there late. All the time Like you're just dreading the time, Like all right, it's 9.50. All the time I know she ain't getting here. 10.30 rolls around, hey, 10.15,. I'm almost there.
Speaker 1:getting here 10, 30 rolls around a 10 15, I'm leaving. I'm almost there. She's barely leaving the house. Yeah, it's, it's so crazy. But I think, aside from like obviously like friends that take initiative, I think friends that celebrate, that celebrate your wins without jealousy, I feel like well, I mean, for example, that was one like not we weren't celebrating anything, but always throwing like a little bit of shade out there. I don't like that. Another ex friend that I had, the one that we lost for a couple hundred dollars.
Speaker 2:Oh.
Speaker 1:I feel like she was always throwing out like if I didn't answer the phone. She'd be like mm. Like.
Speaker 2:You're too busy for me.
Speaker 1:You're too busy for me, or she'd be like mm. It's because, like she was always like pointing out little things about, like my, like social media or like, oh, like you're too famous for me.
Speaker 2:Maybe if I had more followers you would answer better. Yeah, like, oh, like, you're too famous for me. Maybe if I had more followers you would answer better.
Speaker 1:Yeah, like, oh, because I'm not famous like you, Like she would say things like that. That would really like I was like, are you?
Speaker 2:Throwing jabs? Those are jabs. That's a friendly jab.
Speaker 1:Yeah, friend of me.
Speaker 2:A jab ain't like necessarily a power hit, it's just like a.
Speaker 1:Yeah, until eventually, like that's what it took.
Speaker 2:You know, let let somebody borrow a little bit of money, and that's the kind of friends like I seen you wishing so and so a happy birthday on Instagram, but when it was my birthday, you didn't even call me.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and I feel like she was never like in my likes either. It was crazy.
Speaker 2:Like dang, I seen you, you know, in Scottsdale with that sign happy birthday for so-and-so. But when it's my turn it's like where's that same energy? Yeah, I think I had already forgot about that person too. I'm just life work has been so busy. I just been zoned out.
Speaker 1:Life is hectic.
Speaker 2:In a way it's like you don't even have time for friends, like life can get so busy but you also have to prioritize people. But it's like I guess you'll meet the right people with time.
Speaker 1:Okay, wait, I have another question before I forget. Maybe I'm going on a different little path, but it has to do with friends. What do you think of friends, the opposite gender?
Speaker 2:That's tough.
Speaker 1:When you're in a relationship or you're married.
Speaker 2:That's tough.
Speaker 1:It's tough, huh.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I mean, we're all tempted, everybody's tempted. I don't give a damn what nobody says.
Speaker 1:So I know someone that recently this couple is going through a divorce because the guy made a friend on TikTok and they started going to the gym together.
Speaker 2:Dang.
Speaker 1:Two months later they're posting matching shoes. Yes, At like baseball games and they're like deeply mad in love, or so they think. So literally eight years of their marriage down the drain because he made a friend on TikTok. So that's what. That's what she says. The story is made a friend on TikTok and he kept like reassuring her. Hey, it's just a friend. It's just a friend. You don't come to the gym with me and you know she's going to the gym Like we're literally gym buddies, that's all it is yeah, that's crazy, that's all it is, she's okay.
Speaker 1:Okay, you know she was. She says that she never had any trust issues, so she was like you know, okay, whatever. But one day she said she just felt it in her gut.
Speaker 2:Dang.
Speaker 1:And he was sleeping and she went through his phone. She said she couldn't like match a lot of the conversation because it seemed like it was like a lot of it was deleted. But, excuse me, the phone lines were under her name. So, she went to the service provider and recovered over 600 text messages and they were like intimate.
Speaker 1:Yeah, they were very intimate already, things like that. After he literally like promised her, swore that you know, they were friends, they were gym buddies, things like that and she believed him. She believed him, and now they're divorced. They're divorcing. She moved out and, who knows, maybe, like the so-called friend, already lives in their house and I'm like, yeah see, I can't, I cannot with like the I, your cousin, was at her house for two days.
Speaker 2:She threw on some makeup. You're like you got to get out of here.
Speaker 1:Oh yeah, so she was when. When she was sick, I was like, you know, I wouldn't, I wouldn't, probably wouldn't do that to like my worst enemy you know everybody deserves no-transcript. And the moment she came up from her deathbed and threw on those lashes, I was like it's time to go home girl.
Speaker 2:Oh, throwing that red lipstick?
Speaker 1:Yeah, I was like nope, nope, like no room for you here, but also because, like that's how, that's how girls tend to be in our family, they have, they have a record of taking people's mans and I was like it's not gonna be me, it's not gonna be here, and I just don't believe in it especially after, after this girl tragic yeah, it's tough, man, that discipline is yeah
Speaker 1:hard to find and I mean the couples that can god bless you yeah, not in this household. If ernesto comes home and is like oh, I'm going to lunch with a girlfriend you guys might never hear from me goodbye but yeah, just little little sidetracked. But so no, you don't believe in it I absolutely don't remember when I asked you if I could have a guy trainer and you were like. You looked at me like I was crazy.
Speaker 2:Remember that yeah, I was like I really want to look at the, the people that recommend. Remember your cousin recommended a dude that'd be piping all his clients hey, can you say that he does?
Speaker 1:well, that's what I had heard after I asked, and then I was like okay, no it's like he's running a plumbing service yeah, but obviously you said no immediately, um, even before you knew that, even before you knew he was a plumber um I mean a girl knows your.
Speaker 2:a girl knows a girl's body's best, so I don't think a guy can show you how to. I mean I guess he could.
Speaker 1:but I don't know. We're both Virgos and we both feel very strong about Territorial. Yeah.
Speaker 2:You could call me insecure. I don't give a damn.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I mean, when you told me that there's girls at your job site, I'm like where can I apply?
Speaker 2:She's all with a hard hat I'll go get a hard hat With the broom sweeping.
Speaker 1:At Home Depot right now.
Speaker 2:They're like what's up?
Speaker 1:Just kidding, but yeah, I feel like people. Back to the friends and frenemies. You guys need to learn how to separate the two. There's a lot of people that aren't happy for you. They're just there to be nosy.
Speaker 2:They're just along for the ride until that bus stops and they got a departure.
Speaker 1:They're too jealous to unfollow you. I mean they're too jealous to like your post.
Speaker 2:but Too nosy to Too nosy to unfollow you.
Speaker 1:Yes, that's how it is.
Speaker 2:Crazy.
Speaker 1:So know how to separate the two. And, yeah, remember that, no matter how long you've known someone, that doesn't change anything If they're crossing the line. It's time to cut the cord.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I like it Well. Well, that is it. You guys. This is episode six. This is so exciting. We hit a milestone that is a milestone. We quit the last time at three. You know I saw a post that says like I don't know what, like this, huge percent of podcasts fail by their third one so basically, if you, that's the make or break if you pass your third episode, there's a pretty good chance you're gonna make it yeah.
Speaker 2:So once you're, once you're dialed in, it's yeah once you're in your groove, you're screwed. That's a phillips hey all right, guys, we're gonna wrap it up there. Love you guys later guys, I'm ready.