Big Stuff With Danielle Colley
You know who's going through BIG STUFF? Literally everyone. But it's how you handle it that makes the difference.
Award-winning author and life coach Danielle Colley gets real about the relentless expectations we put on ourselves, the comparison trap, and the gap between how life looks and how it actually feels.
For ambitious women who may be crushing their goals but are feeling crushed by them. Conversations that matter. A little advice, a little inspiration, and a lot of humanness. No toxic positivity - just raw honesty about what it really takes to thrive.
If you're burnt out from achieving everything or tired of pretending it's all fine, this is for you. Because life should feel GOOD to live.
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Big Stuff With Danielle Colley
How to Stop Living Under Other People’s Expectations
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A listener wrote in feeling completely torn apart by the weight of expectations. Family expectations, societal expectations, and the brutal “shoulds” we place on ourselves.
In this How Are You Really? episode of Big Stuff, Danielle unpacks what it costs us when we say yes to someone else’s vision… and no to our own. Whether your dream is travelling the world, changing careers, choosing not to have kids, leaving a relationship, studying later in life, or stepping out of the role everyone assigned you, this episode is about reclaiming your one big, bold, beautiful life.
In this episode, we cover:
- Why expectations are often rooted in love (and still feel suffocating)
- The difference between aligned choices vs paying the imaginary debt of expectation
- Why you’re not choosing between two options — you’re choosing between two identities
- The #1 regret of the dying (from The Five Regrets of the Dying by Bonnie Ware)
- How to share your truth with love, ask people to trust you, and stop abandoning yourself
If you’ve been feeling “confused,” this might be the truth:
You’re not confused about what you want, you’re questioning whether you’re allowed to want it.
People will be okay if you live your own life… but will you be okay if you don’t?
00:00 Introduction and Welcome
00:15 Listener's Dilemma: The Weight of Expectations
03:53 Unpacking Family and Societal Expectations
08:19 The Importance of Self-Permission
11:30 Living True to Yourself: Lessons from the Dying
15:06 Navigating Personal Choices and Expectations
22:26 The Role of Self-Worth and Success
30:26 Final Thoughts and Season Wrap-Up
Connect with Danielle:
See her website - https://daniellecolley.com.au/
But the Chocolate Bar Life book - https://www.thechocolatebarlife.com.au/buy-book
Find her on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/iamdaniellecolley/
Connect on Facebook - https://web.facebook.com/IAmDanielleColley/?_rdc=1&_rdr#
Watch on Youtube - https://www.youtube.com/@iamdaniellecolley
Check out her substack - https://substack.com/@iamdaniellecolley?utm_source=user-menu