Big Stuff With Danielle Colley
You know who's going through BIG STUFF? Literally everyone. But it's how you handle it that makes the difference.
Award-winning author and life coach Danielle Colley gets real about the relentless expectations we put on ourselves, the comparison trap, and the gap between how life looks and how it actually feels.
For ambitious women who may be crushing their goals but are feeling crushed by them. Conversations that matter. A little advice, a little inspiration, and a lot of humanness. No toxic positivity - just raw honesty about what it really takes to thrive.
If you're burnt out from achieving everything or tired of pretending it's all fine, this is for you. Because life should feel GOOD to live.
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Big Stuff With Danielle Colley
You Think You're Honest. You're Not.
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I’ve always thought of myself as someone who cannot lie. I’m a compulsive truth teller — ask anyone who knows me. But today’s guest made me realise something uncomfortable: that’s also a lie. Everyone lies. The question is whether you know when you’re doing it. And why.
Dominic Thurbon is a behavioural change expert, co-founder of Alchemy Labs, former world top-10 debater, Earnst & Young partner, founder of two businesses he built and sold, and author of books published in fifteen countries.
His new book To Be Honest is one of the most rigorously researched and genuinely funny books I’ve read on why we lie, how misinformation spreads, and what it actually takes to make truth happen in a world designed to make that very difficult.
In this conversation we go into the Bollywood film Dominic lied his way into at 21 (yes, really), why even the most ethical people lie daily without realising it, the crucial difference between a liar and a bullshitter, and what it means to make truth a verb rather than a value.
This one didn’t let any of us off the hook. I don’t think it’ll let you off it either.
CHAPTERS
00:00 Introduction
03:30 The biggest lie Dominic ever told
13:00 Why we double down on lies
18:30 Them truth, we truth, me truth
24:00 Everyone lies: the main reasons why
31:00 The gender difference in how we lie
34:30 Does my bum look big?
40:00 Making truth happen
46:30 The misinformation economy and why social media is designed to work against us
53:30 Liars vs bullshitters
59:30 The debating paradox
64:00 What it would take to change your mind
RESOURCES & LINKS
- Find Dominic Thurbon on his website
- To Be Honest — available at major bookstores and online via Major Street Publishing
- Alchemy Labs (Dominic’s behaviour change firm)
- Find Dominic on LinkedIn
Mentioned in this episode
• On Bullshit by Harry Frankfurt (Princeton University Press) — the source of the liar vs bullshitter distinction
• Lying by Sam Harris — the case that there is never a situation where lying is justified
• Stolen Focus by Johann Hari — on reclaiming attention in a distracted world
• Brené Brown on “being clear is kind” — from Dare to Lead
• World Economic Forum Global Risk Report — misinformation ranked the #1 short-term global risk
Find more of Danielle Colley
• Instagram: @daniellecolley
• Email: bigstuffpod@gmail.com
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