Balancing Motherhood & Self Care

In this episode I discuss how as moms, we were taught that being a good mom meant that we had to sacrifice our desires and goals or put ourselves last. 

But that's simply not true.

You get to choose what and who you want to be. You get to be the present mom while still going after what lights you up inside. 

Remember, you absolutely CAN be a great mom AND a business woman or (insert whatever your heart desires) at the same time.

Transcript

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Hello sweet souls. Welcome to Minding My Manifestation, where I take you along with me on my manifestation and spiritual journey while also helping to guide you through yours. If you're ready to create new habits, discover deeper truths, expand your mind, and become the best version of yourself one day at a time, then this podcast is for you. Each week, I'll discuss my inner standing of the world around us, manifestation, and how you can shift your current patterns of thinking and being to align more deeply with your soul's purpose. Think of this podcast as your weekly dose of how you can change the world around you by changing the world within you. So grateful you're here. Let's get into it. Hello, sweet souls, and welcome back. So today's episode is actually for my mamas. I feel like a lot of the time, as moms, we try our best and we want our kids to be happy and we want their lives to be full and feel exciting and good all the time. But I will tell you that when your whole focus is on your children and less and less on yourself, not only do you feel it, but so do your kids. And what I'm realizing is that there has to be a healthy balance. You can absolutely show up for your kids, love your kids, do all that you can for your kids, but it should not have to feel like you are sacrificing parts of you in order to be the mother that you want to be. And I used to kind of unintentionally shame myself for this. Like if I stepped away for a moment or couldn't make a game or couldn't make something or chose to work or record this podcast instead of playing with them or having a conversation, that made me a bad mom. I think two things can exist and be true at the same time, and that is that one, we love our children and they will always come first. And two, I can also be a successful business owner who incorporates motherhood into her lifestyle. It doesn't have to be one or the other. It doesn't have to be, I'm a mom 24-7, and never find a moment to sit down and take care of myself or do something for myself. Because at the end of the day, when we are heavily focused on the tasks and schedules of others, we are retraining our brain to care less and less about ourselves. Obviously unintentionally, but that's kind of how it goes. And that's how it starts to become more solidified in your brain. Like, hey, you're last. You don't get to do your hair or to do your makeup or to do anything that makes you feel even the slightest bit good because it's a waste of time. Right? The five, 10, 15, 20 minutes you spent taking care of yourself, you know, what whatever small thing that could be, that was time wasted that you could have given to your children. Right. And those are the thoughts that I think we just cycle in our heads day to day. And it's not productive and it keeps us in a loop and it honestly keeps us so stuck. And I have this thing where I have a literal mental capacity where I can only allow so many days to go by before I really start to feel the weight of my lack of attention to myself. Right. And if that sounded so complicated, I'm sorry. I basically just mean that I have so many days where I could just be running on empty, basically, meaning that I'm not properly taking care of myself, even in the slightest. Like I didn't meditate or I didn't work out. And I feel like those are my two big ones, like meditating and working out, like I have to do every day. And if I don't, I have like a mental limit. And obviously, like as a mom, there's more things to shame yourself about, right? So I decided no more, I don't want to do that. And I started to collect data on myself. And if you've been listening for some time, you know that I love to collect data on myself and kind of observe my mind and see what triggers me, why things happen. And sometimes, even in the moment, I'll catch myself about to yell, wanting to yell, and feeling the urge to yell in my body, but my mind is like, why are we yelling? Like it's not a big deal. Why do you feel like you have to, right? And it's that has been stored in the body that is just ready to replay, so to speak. It's interesting because sometimes it happens and the moment is past, and other times I catch myself literally before it happens. And so all of that basically to say that there is only so much as moms that we can do before we literally start to feel the emptiness inside, the echoes of our mistakes and really just the guilt of it all, right? There's only so much that you can hold before you explode. And so I realized that there is a space where we can be moms, we can be successful, we can work on our mindset, and we can manifest the life that we desire. There is no in-betweens. There is no this or that. And I know that for some people, they've grown up and been conditioned to feel like we have to sacrifice ourselves for our children, right? We actually see it time and time again. However, that does not have to be the case. You can be wildly successful and still be an amazing mom. There does not have to be a life where you just don't get to live out your dreams and sit around and be there for your kids. I love my mother and I wish that I saw her chase her dreams. Truly, I do. And she did sacrifice herself for me. And so when we grow up, seeing what we see, hearing what we hear, being conditioned for what the world wants us to become, it is on us to make that shift and to make a change and to live out a different life based off of how we want it to look and how we want it to feel and how we want it to be. And so if there is one thing that you can take away from this episode, please let it be to work on your mindset. Work on the things that you tell yourself, become the observer of your thoughts. Pay attention to how you react and what triggers you and how it makes you feel and where you feel it. Change the way you talk to yourself, change your perspective on things, see things from your children's point of view, and just be open. Honestly, be open to understanding that if you made a mistake, call yourself out. Let your children know that you made a mistake. Let them know that you're able to own up to your wrongs, and that way one day it makes it easier for them to do the same. Right? We're not out here trying to be perfect, but we are trying to be regulated, if I'm being honest, and we're trying to be better for them and for ourselves. Okay, so I know that that was like more than just one thing, but you get the idea. I'll be making future episodes about more specifics on how we can transform our minds. But for now, know that you are magical, know that you are important, know that you are worthy of being taken care of by others, but especially yourself. All right, sweet souls. Until next time. If something I said today resonated with you, take it as a sign. You were meant to be here. I'd love if you'd subscribe so we can keep exploring the truths beneath the noise, unlearning what we've been taught, and remembering who we really are. If you want to connect more, you can find me over on Instagram at Minding My Manifestation. Alright, sweet souls. Until next time.