The Refreshingly Normal Podcast with Kēfla and Cree
The Refreshingly Normal Podcast
Welcome to The Refreshingly Normal Podcast, where real life meets real laughs. We are Kēfla and Lucrecia (Cree), a married couple of 22 years, long-time educators, and now stepping into the world of mental health counseling. Think of us as your favorite Unc and Auntie of the podcast world, keeping it honest, heartfelt, and hilariously human.
We’re also proud parents of twin young men who just turned 21 and are officially stepping into adulthood, which means paying their own bills (finally!). From raising kids to letting go, we’re navigating this new chapter with the same mix of love, humor, and a little side-eye.
Each week, we dive into the ups and downs of parenting, love, marriage, dating, and everything in between, served with a side of humor and practical wisdom. Whether we’re sharing lessons from the classroom, stories from our travels, or awkward moments at the gym or dinner table, one thing’s for sure, we keep it refreshingly normal.
So grab a cup of coffee (or a protein shake) and join the conversation. It’s therapy meets kitchen table talk… and you’re invited.
The Refreshingly Normal Podcast with Kēfla and Cree
Celebrations and Dating Disasters
Ever wonder if your dating standards are helping or hurting your chances at real connection? In this candid conversation, Kefla and Cree dive into the surprising ways modern dating has evolved—and not always for the better.
We kick things off with hilarious everyday moments, from classroom "silent but violent" situations to Labor Day family gatherings that remind us what matters most. When discussion turns to a viral dating show clip where a woman rejects a man solely for wearing an Apple Watch with his suit, we unpack how superficial standards might be keeping many of us from meaningful relationships.
The most thought-provoking question emerges: "Would you date yourself?" Before creating that wishlist of perfect partner qualities, shouldn't we first embody those traits ourselves? We share the story of a woman demanding a partner with "no baby mamas and no young children" while herself having three children with different fathers—highlighting the disconnect between what we expect and what we offer.
As Kefla approaches his 51st birthday, he reflects on memorable celebrations and sets intentions for the year ahead. Despite health challenges like COVID-related lung damage and AFib, his determination to improve fitness, complete his master's degree, and revive abandoned hobbies demonstrates that age becomes something to celebrate rather than fear.
The episode wraps with our traditional "side eye of the week" and expressions of gratitude for the spaces and people that bring us peace. Whether you're navigating the dating world, reflecting on personal growth, or simply enjoying relatable conversations, this episode offers both wisdom and laughter in equal measure.
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The Refreshingly Normal Podcast. Hello everyone and welcome to the Refreshingly Normal podcast. I am Kifla.
Speaker 3:I am Kareem.
Speaker 2:And thank you so much for coming back and joining us again. Hopefully you're enjoying the episodes. I know I am. I'm chilling, I'm laughing at all of our stuff. I'm a fan of what we're producing, so hopefully you're finding the same excitement that we are.
Speaker 3:So let's talk don't talk, just listen would you say babe.
Speaker 2:You don't even know the song.
Speaker 3:I do know it All right.
Speaker 2:So what happened in your week that I'll say normal, maybe hilarious or normal, and just, oh my God, something that everybody can say me too, child, I relate Anything, anything. You're going gonna ask that question, that's good. So if we're just sitting here, you and I having a conversation, you'd be like I try not to have to have to really think.
Speaker 3:I think they probably always say child, you don't never know what she gonna say, she always like I don't know.
Speaker 2:Life doesn't have to be rehearsed, right?
Speaker 2:you can't rehearse everything you go first because I I'm not sure um, hilarious, uh, I, I will say, uh, you know, helping this individual and, um, you know, with my co-taught and this young lady always passes gas and the students are thinking that it's me and I'm like, no, it is not me. And it seems like it's always like when I kind of squat down low to get close to her, maybe I make her nervous or something, I don't know, but it be stinking too. So that's something that has happened to me, not only just this week, for about the past, every day, yeah, just about. So, uh, and it's it'd be, it's funky too, so but, um, hey, we gonna get past that, you know. But that has happened to me this week. You know she's a little and most of them has been silent.
Speaker 2:But violence, you know what I'm saying? Sbvs, and those are the ones that you be like, oh man, you know you just walk into them. But she's had a few of them where she's like bah and it, you know the little plaster chairs and you know you fart in those plaster chairs. Oh, it makes sounds. Yeah, oh, my gosh, and so and I'd be like, and I really I just go to another student. I can't help right now, I'm sorry.
Speaker 3:My mama used to call it SBD silent, but deadly, yeah, sbvs baby Silent, but violence. Oh my gosh.
Speaker 2:So anything no but violence oh my gosh, so anything?
Speaker 3:no, I mean what you do, what?
Speaker 2:did you do today?
Speaker 3:well, what did? You do this week, the normal things, uh like what work okay, and um exercising and um what did you get?
Speaker 2:oh, what, what?
Speaker 3:did you watch?
Speaker 2:what did you watch this week?
Speaker 3:the only thing that I really got a chance to watch, because I don't watch that much, but I tried to catch up on Sisters. So Sisters, that's Tyler Perry's Sisters yeah, it's Sisters is it? It's not Sisters.
Speaker 1:Sisters, I'm sorry Sisters.
Speaker 3:Karen finally had the baby after 5100 years. She had the baby. She was supposed to have two, but she had one spoiler alert spoiler alert but they should have been caught up by now. She's been pregnant for 5100 years on the show. So I kind of watched a bit of that here and there this week in between all of my duties and responsibilities. Yeah, and only other thing that I would say was funny was my nail lady.
Speaker 3:I went on yesterday and she normally is very talkative, and she wasn't very talkative yesterday and I still tried to kill me, uh-huh, miss kimmy, and I still tried to talk to her you know a little bit and I could tell that she wasn't. I always like are you okay, everything okay. And then she looked at me like she wanted to tell me, but then she didn't, and so she didn't say anything. And so, anywho, the other lady, um stacy, who does my feet. So when I was getting my pedicure, um miss, uh kimmy, walked by and I noticed she had a boss bossy on her booty and I said so. So I told Stacy, I said Miss Kimmy just wasn't herself today. It might be because she got bossy on her booty. She said you should tell her that. And so I went by and I told her. I said did you know? You got bossy on your booty. She said I got it on my boobies too, and so it made her laugh. So she left smiling because she seemed like she was having a tough day, that's good yeah.
Speaker 2:So, anywho, you did good by giving her a moment of joy.
Speaker 3:Yeah, yep, I tried to do that because it seemed like she was having a rough day, so anywho.
Speaker 2:That's good. Now did we talk about Labor Day weekend.
Speaker 3:No, no, because I think we filmed it weekend, no, no because I think we haven't, yeah, filmed it, yeah, so so did you enjoy labor day weekend? Yeah, labor day weekend um. We had a guest um. Our niece, miss deja, came with her um girl, you can't say boyfriend, like I mean she's gonna turn 30 soon significant other in a week or so, I don't know it's her boyfriend.
Speaker 2:Yeah, boyfriends, because even old people call them boyfriends.
Speaker 3:It's her boyfriend, so they came to visit and so we were just trying to do things with them while they were here. So we took them to one of our close by favorite wineries big door I think they enjoyed it.
Speaker 2:The weather was perfect later that weekend, so it's really beautiful, so um yeah, I think they had a good time, because I know she did because she started talking a little bubbly, so I know she had a. Her mission was because cook, because she wanted to get lit yeah, lit off of wine she's like and creed.
Speaker 3:Do you, when you go to the wineries, do you? I mean, um, do you get? What did she ask? Do you guys get? Did she say drunk?
Speaker 2:yeah, or something.
Speaker 3:How, how tipsy, or something do y'all get tipsy, do y'all get, and I go we need to get an uber and stuff, and no, I've never gotten like toe down at the winery. Um, I said, but if you want to get told down at the winery, you are more than welcome to do that and so, anywho, we had a good time there and did dinner and just hung out. And sunday she and I um hiked um kenesaw mountain because she wanted to do that, so we did that and then grilled. Oh, and I forgot Nicole.
Speaker 1:Yeah, Nicole went to the winery with us, Nicole aka Fuga.
Speaker 2:Fuga, nicole, that's our girl.
Speaker 3:She came to the winery with us too. Nicole, that's our girl. She came to the winery with us too, and so she also came over to eat with us and see. Our other niece came over, spunky, aka Darnetta, and our great niece and nephew, her kids, came with her, and my brother-in-law, boog, aka Donova, he came over too. So we had quite a few people over just to eat and laugh and drink and we played some games, and my son and his girlfriend, they came by and so, yeah, we were busy and so Monday everybody was gone.
Speaker 3:So Monday we did absolutely nothing Besides watch posts, but other than that we'd sit on that sofa and sofaed and folded clothes. Yep, Nothing Yep. So it was a good Labor Day weekend.
Speaker 2:I did the same thing you did.
Speaker 3:Yep Was anything that you enjoyed more than?
Speaker 2:other things on.
Speaker 3:Labor Day weekend.
Speaker 2:No, I mean, you know it was like I said, the weather was cool. It was a good day Because I had to edit and do some schoolwork so that I didn't have anything, you know, to turn in on Sunday. So I did my schoolwork that Saturday morning on.
Speaker 2:Sunday, so I did my schoolwork that Saturday morning Um and you know, had to. No, I, I didn't mind up marinating the meat. Well, no cause, we cook Saturday, sunday, right, yeah? So the Sunday I woke up and cooked so and grilled up pretty good. But, um no, I was, it was just, it was a good weekend, yeah, and our other son.
Speaker 3:he went to visit his gran and papa um in Alabama and he sent us all the delicious, scrumptious goodies they had. I was like, ooh, I should have went and had a plate from there. Yeah, they had some good food in Alabama yeah, now this weekend coming up, um it's.
Speaker 2:I was supposed to be taking Kimani to PJ Morton concert at the. Tabernacle, but I might get Kahari to go if he can get off, and that way you and I can just go somewhere Saturday, kind of celebrate a birthday weekend or something.
Speaker 3:How are you planning your own birthday? First of all, because I already got something planned for your birthday.
Speaker 2:what I'm just saying.
Speaker 3:Yeah, does Kahari even know who PJ Morrington is?
Speaker 2:Yeah, look, it's my birthday and she's going to complain about something that I would like to do too.
Speaker 3:Okay, I'm sorry.
Speaker 2:As opposed to be like oh that's cool, because I do have something planned for you on Wednesday, but yeah, we can do something on Saturday as well.
Speaker 3:I'm just saying but it's cool, no, no.
Speaker 2:Ain't no, just saying, you just said, so we good.
Speaker 3:But no, but it's like did you think I knew you had something planned?
Speaker 2:um, okay so it's it's all good, just making sure but that's what that is, but um, but I mean it will be a good concert though. Pj Morris dope, very, very dope mm-hmm very dope, um, and that's about it, yeah, yeah, that's about it, yeah that's it.
Speaker 2:Yeah, what'd you think about Cardi B in the news this week? You know, first of all, I'm happy she's taking these people to court. That's, you know, falsely accused and you know, people trying to look for that payday, and she's definitely one person who do not mind taking people to court. She will take you to court so fast and make you pay her money and so, but you know she's hilarious.
Speaker 3:Yes, I loved Cardi in court. It was very entertaining this week just to kind of watch the little snippets of her taking the stand in the courtroom.
Speaker 2:So yeah, what did they say? She said she was bodyguard big, or something like that.
Speaker 3:Security guard big.
Speaker 2:Security guard big.
Speaker 3:Security guard big.
Speaker 2:You're not calling her fat.
Speaker 3:You said no, I'm not saying she's fat, I'm not saying she's just security guard big because they're trying to get her to say things that to make her look like perhaps she was trying to really like harm the lady or whatever. But yeah, she did very well. They were trying to get her a little stirred up but she was prepared and kept it together and every day her new little wigs and clothes and all the things. It was um, but I think it was all like playing too, because now with that, with she's got cds with the different looks from every day, from the so every cover is a different day of her in court in court.
Speaker 2:Oh so she was meticulous.
Speaker 3:She was like okay, so I'm gonna make this work for me well, and then on top of it all the money spent can also be write-offs or are used because it's going towards the music not just every day her getting ready for yeah to wear because I I heard something this week like um.
Speaker 2:It was between um taraji and kiki pal.
Speaker 3:What'd they?
Speaker 2:say they were talking about how, back in the days, celebrities could write off their wardrobe because they are celebrities, right, so their everyday wardrobe. They were able to write them off because, you know, they're in the limelight and they, you know, some of the stuff is promotional gear or whatever it was. It was promotional gear or whatever it was. But they stopped that and they said the only time they could use it is when it's actually considered costume for a shoot or acting, so they can't write it off anymore. Yeah, so you know. But when you said with Cardi being able to do that, so yeah, that's, that's cool, she's able to write it off, because she used it for that, so it wasn't just for court every day.
Speaker 2:Very smart every day. Very smart, very, very smart. Yep, she's a smart lady, so I enjoy that. Very smart and kind. All right, so let's see, here you had something. Um no, it was a story that I shared with you, that show Pop the.
Speaker 3:Balloon Sure, the story Pop. Oh yeah, the Pop, the Balloon that was recently on.
Speaker 2:Yeah, so. So Pop the Balloon is a most. You've already seen it, but you know it's kind of like a dating show where somebody there's maybe 12 guys or girls looking for looking to date somebody, and they all have a balloon and when the person walks out, they, if they like the person, you know they don't pop the balloon. If they don't like the person, they'll pop their balloon saying like, oh no, it's not going to work for me. Well, this gentleman comes out. There are several ladies there waiting with their balloons. He comes out in the suit, talks about himself, says what he does. He's like a top management personnel in whatever company, makes a six figure salary. You know very good living, dressed nice in a suit, but has on an Apple watch. You know I always have on my Apple watch as well. Whether I'm in a suit but has on an Apple watch, you know I always have on my Apple watch as well. Whether I'm in a suit or whatever, I have on my Apple watch.
Speaker 2:Yes, some people say you got to dress up and be, you know, decent. I mean we're more, you know, fancier jewelry or whatever. But me personally, if it's on my wrist at the time when I'm not really switching and and, plus, my arms are hairy and I don't like leather bands on watches and a lot of watches that I do like have the metal band but then they catch the hair on my arm and I hurt. That hurts and I hate that. But also I have AFib and so my Apple watch. Whenever I feel a flutter, I'm always checking it. Whenever I feel a flutter, I'm always checking it and I ain't trying to worry about my suit matching with my watch, because if I don't catch my a-fib then You're going to be in a suit Right Cold.
Speaker 3:Right, so Without a watch. Well and luckily, you also aren't looking for a lady.
Speaker 2:That's right. If I was looking for one and she said I ain't like your watch, I'd say okay, well, watch this.
Speaker 3:Next. So do you want to hear what the young lady had to say?
Speaker 2:I mean we can. Yeah, if you want to play it.
Speaker 1:Smoke cigarettes. Someone who's judgmental I'm not a big fan of, that's pretty much it, okay All right, sounds good.
Speaker 4:We did get some pop balloons. Let's go over there and see why they ended up popping. Okay, your name and age and why did you end up flipping your balloon? I'm Jasmine, I'm 29. For a date night, I love getting my steps in. Why wouldn't I wear an Apple Watch, like, just like for a date in a suit? I just feel like a nice, better watch would have. Okay, yeah, all right.
Speaker 1:And is she someone that's your type? Yeah, she's beautiful. I mean, I think in today's world a lot of people wear Apple Watches often.
Speaker 4:I just think like this suit, like a suit with an Apple Watch I would wear like a nice Right yeah.
Speaker 1:So for me you know I wear suits five days a week and I typically have my Apple Watch it's kind of convenient, you know, when you have, you know, notifications going off while you're in meetings to be able to look at it for just pulling out your phone.
Speaker 3:But I totally understand what you're in meetings to be able to look at it, for just pulling out your phone. But I totally understand what you're saying, though. So she had on a little blue dress, but I think what she's thinking of to me what that says is she is looking for a certain kind of money so for him to have. She didn't say the brand, so I could be making an assumption, but she said a nice little watch with a suit.
Speaker 3:Um, because you can get an apple watch to change the band where it looks you can like a metal band or leather band or whatever that may be, to kind of go with your different outfits or style it up and you can also get a stylish watch or look stylish.
Speaker 2:That didn't cost nothing.
Speaker 3:Right, you can do that too. So it just makes me wonder, was she trying to look for something specific?
Speaker 4:to save money Right.
Speaker 3:That's what it made me think. And then, on top of that, I get the part where he says like meetings, not pulling out your phone, meetings, not pulling out your phone. And if he I think he's somewhere up in the company or that he works for that, he probably oftentimes gets a lot of messages and it's quick to just look and yeah and look and see, especially if you're trying to be polite yeah and not a person who is on their phone, making someone feel like they aren't a priority or you aren't listening or you're distracted by your phone, then you can easily use, you know, your apple watch for that.
Speaker 3:So, um, and then she said she was 29 and I don't know. I think people are getting married not as young anymore.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 3:Like older. So I wonder, like a 29 mindset nowadays, is it more like the early 20s mindset? Because having babies, getting married, yeah, everything is pushed back. They're trying to live. Yeah, they're trying to.
Speaker 2:I want to be established in this, that and the third, as opposed to, you know, earlier times, people I want someone to, we can establish this together. You know, and I, you know, we're just jumping off. I think a lot of times, even in marriage, some people are. The reason why many people want to be established on their own before even thinking about being established together, is because they always going into marriage with a parachute on, you know, and it was like cause if it happened, and I got my, you know, and it's always this I got mine, I got mine, I got mine Cause you, you hear it often, you know, even when you start talking, discussing about, you know, when people say bank accounts, you know, you know. You know you got one, I got one, and then we got one, and then sometimes they don't even have one together.
Speaker 3:He pays this bill, I pay that bill, you know, and I yeah, I think to me that's that is preference when it comes to that. But I do also think, when it comes to being a them wanting to be established, um, I think it's not also like a parachute, but also like that, if anything, you don't have to feel like stuck, so if it's not the way that you want it to be, you can take care of yourself by yourself. Maybe that's what you mean by the when you say parachute, that they can take care of themselves. But then I also think that in this world we're able to now see what everybody has, and so the goal of trying to get this and be established in this space, and people are able to see how different people are established, and people are able to see how different people are established. Then I think that also makes people a little bit leery about marrying this specific person because they aren't established as what you've seen this 30-year-old person on whatever social media you saw, it's constant comparison yeah.
Speaker 3:So I think that's what pushes it back is because everybody's trying to achieve what I say is the unattainable. The reason I say it's unattainable is because what's for them is for them and what's for you is for you, and so you have to figure out within your own, your own life or whatever lane you're in, what. What is, what are you capable of doing? What are you willing to do to feel established within your career?
Speaker 2:Yeah, I mean, they are waiting later to get married, they're waiting later to people, are waiting later to have children. You know, um, but I don't know. And and but even when you think about dating, um, dating is not the same either. Um, the face-to-face communication, the is less because of, you know, know, the ease that phones have given us. You know it's much easier to text you know than it is anything else, and so people feel like that counts as a form of communication. You know, in a sense it does, but when it comes, to dating.
Speaker 2:I think the personal time that you spend together allows you to learn a lot more about each other. Certain scenarios that you know you're in with this individual allows you to learn a lot about them. You know, if you're driving with an individual and you know all of a sudden they freak out when somebody pulls in front of them, they cussing. You know those are red flags, you know, but you don't spend that time together. You won't find out. You know those things Because, like you said, nine times out of 10 people are happy just texting. They're happy just. You know FaceTiming a little bit and say, oh, that counts.
Speaker 3:So things are changing, you know know, and they are evolving. So, and I think the idea of not choosing somebody because of an apple watch, I don't really even think she knows what she wants in a person because that is so minute and minor yeah that she, she. I am certain that she has passed up on someone who could be her long-term person. But she, I won't say that's not even high standards, that's just really ridiculous.
Speaker 2:But she may consider those things high standards.
Speaker 3:Well, I'm not saying. What I say is is like I just think that those are just so minimal, like it's not something where um it's. To me it shouldn't be a a make or break right. Yeah, it shouldn't be a make or break no, that somebody has on an apple watch because, hell, they're expensive too. Yeah, well, yeah, depending on and right. So I just think, not taking the time to get to know somebody because of because I mean she was like she's out, I don't want you.
Speaker 4:Yeah, so that when they pop the balloon, that means I'm out.
Speaker 3:I don't want you. And so for me, if I was like, oh, I really don't like that Apple Watch thing with the suit, but let me just kind of, you know, I think that it is not like him smoking cigarettes, it's not like he got I worship the devil, or whatever things that are like no-goes or non-negotiables that to me should not be a non-negotiable, still single or still popping balloons because their list or criteria for, um, a significant other or somebody they're wanting to date. It's just ridiculous.
Speaker 2:Yeah, it's, it's, it's not. I'm not going to say it's not realistic, but uh, it's, uh, yeah, ridiculous. Yeah, it is very ridiculous.
Speaker 3:Oh, I saw something else else, um but when you're looking for money because that's why I said you're looking for money, yeah, if you're looking for money, yeah, you ain't gonna find it, but then you don't because, like I said, apple watch is expensive and just because I wore apple watch and not whatever watch she thought I was supposed to wear does not mean that I don't have money in my bank right, you Right, you're not pulling out your receipts. Everybody has their own priorities, and what things?
Speaker 3:Maybe he's a techie, so he's going to spend his money tech-wise.
Speaker 2:Maybe he's a fitness person.
Speaker 3:Yes, Maybe, he's a fitness person.
Speaker 2:Maybe he like me got.
Speaker 1:AFM.
Speaker 3:Maybe that he got to keep that Apple Watch on yeah, so maybe that's it. But yeah, that is something that to me says and I'm sure he probably clocked in his mind like that's why she's saying.
Speaker 2:Yeah, thank you, appreciate it.
Speaker 3:She's cute, but that's why she's saying but OK.
Speaker 2:so I heard something else today. It was this lady. She called in to like a life coach and it was on Instagram I think it was like face when I was a little split screens. And so the lady she said so what are you looking for? And she said I want a man that doesn't have a lot of baby mamas. I don't want any young kids and I want him to be. She said a lot of baby mamas, no young kids. That was the main thing. And so the lady said okay, so tell me about yourself. She said I have three kids.
Speaker 2:Don't tell me they all got different baby daddies. She said they got different baby daddies and her youngest kid is two years old.
Speaker 3:Oh my goodness.
Speaker 2:And so the lady said wait a minute, hold on hold on, hold on, hold on hold on.
Speaker 2:So you said you don't want him to have any baby mamas well, or a lot of baby mamas, and you don't want him to have any young kids. She said so how many baby dads you got? She said three. How many kids you got three? How many kids you got? That's young. She said one. She said do you hear yourself? Said I don't want that. She said so you're basically saying you wouldn't date you. So what sense does that make? And the girl was still trying to, because she was confused. She was like I don't understand what you're talking about. She said so if you were a man, given the criteria you just gave me, would you date a man with three baby mamas and a young kid? She thought and well, she said so how can you expect to have that same you know criteria for someone else if you don't want to, you know won't have it for yourself.
Speaker 3:That is when people that is, I am certain that the circle or the group of people that are in her life tell her what she wants to hear, not what she needs to hear Because. I know she said that foolishness.
Speaker 2:To somebody else.
Speaker 3:To somebody else.
Speaker 2:And I know that's right girl, I'm with you.
Speaker 3:Uh-huh, I'm with you. And then left and said girl, you heard what she said. I mean now, I'm the friend that's going to be like.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I would too. I'm going to tell you what Now?
Speaker 3:wait a minute.
Speaker 2:That don't sound right. That sound like you?
Speaker 3:Yeah, I mean, I think it's important, I mean that's the important part. And it's not about hurting people's feelings, because I feel like there's always a way to say it in a way that is not, but she's running around looking for something that doesn't even match. I won't say what she's qualified for, but she's asking for something that she's not even herself fulfilling.
Speaker 2:So like, like she wouldn't be good enough for herself.
Speaker 3:No. So when you think about writing this list of things that you want in a partner, before you even write the list, what do you bring as a partner to the relationship?
Speaker 2:So would you date you? That's a lot of would you date relationship. Would you date?
Speaker 3:you. That's a lot of things. Would you date you? Would you date?
Speaker 2:you, or it was on something else oh they said that on Charlamagne, remember.
Speaker 3:One morning on the Breakfast Club they asked would they want their daughter to date them, I think whatever age? And they were like oh no, oh, yeah, yeah. And they said now, oh no, yeah, yeah, um. And they said now yes, but before no.
Speaker 2:I would. I was pretty solid dude yeah, that's pretty solid dude. But, um, when you were saying would you date you? Uh, it's like and I always tell my students this um, ask yourself, would you be your own friend If you was in somewhere else? Some person came your actually clone came into the room, had all the qualities and traits and you knew they had all the qualities, you knew how they treated people. Would you be friends with yourself? Would you trust yourself? And you know, some of them said, oh, you know, and when I say that's all I need to know, because you don't want to answer, because you do know that at times you're probably shady or at times you're probably untruthful or unfaithful or whatever, but I mean, that's the question you have to ask yourself. And I even mentioned that when, in the previous episode, when we were talking about us dating, I'd say I wanted God to get me right so that I could be ready for whoever was you know. Yeah, whoever you had coming for me, I wanted to be what they wanted and needed.
Speaker 2:You know, what I'm saying, but better than that. I I wanted to be the best version of me, but I mean, some people are so delusional that they're asking for all of these things. You know, like and like and breakfast club mentioned it before. They mentioned about how all these women want this man with all this finances and all that stuff. And they say well, what do you have?
Speaker 3:Yeah, what's your credit score? Yeah, what are you bringing to the table?
Speaker 2:Uh-huh what are you bringing to the table. And then they said, well, a woman is supposed to look for that into a man. But they said, well, if a man was like just saying, okay, well, you know what I'm looking for? A woman that got all it. I ain't got it yet Y'all going to say he's a bum. Yes, you know so it goes into?
Speaker 3:what is it the gender role?
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 3:But then they'll also be the first one to say that that's old fashioned. That's old fashioned, right.
Speaker 2:That's old fashioned, yeah, but they want you supposed to take care of me. And then you say, okay, well, we need to. You got to clean up and you got to do what the women did back in the day. I ain't doing that. That's old school.
Speaker 3:And I think that's just kind of like. I think that's why I think it's important Like that In life that you reflect, reflecting how you are as a partner, reflecting like really like really sit with yourself and really say how well am I doing at this? And be willing to be honest with yourself and then change. You know you have to change, you know just changes. A small thing that could help Same as a parent Reflect on yourself as a parent how am I doing at this parenting thing? What things could I adjust so that I could be a better parent? Same with friendships as a brother, sister, daughter, son. Just kind of being reflective in that, because we all have room for growth and we can always be better. But it just helps you to kind of sit and be honest with yourself. I know that's hard for some people to do. It just takes practice and you don't have to tell anybody about it, your honesty about yourself. You can keep that with yourself because the only person that has to know that is you.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 3:And then you can figure out what you want to do, because I feel like we all have encountered or know someone who is doing a good job as a daughter or doing a good job as a wife or husband, and so you can say I kind of want to do something kind of like what's going on over there, and then you can adjust something that kind of move you towards that. But you have to first reflect and be honest with yourself.
Speaker 2:On the flip side of that, there are always those outliers that are out there and they are the ones who there's still somebody validating what they're doing.
Speaker 3:Yeah.
Speaker 2:So, enablers. Yeah, yeah, your enemies my enemies doing yeah so enablers, yeah, yeah, your enemies, my enemy. So even if they, you know, they may have a certain, like you said, a certain trait about them, that is just, uh, people despise. But then there may be one person that validates, or and there's one person for them that gives them the time of day, and then they link up and that's their, their, their, the perfect couples for each other, you know.
Speaker 2:So, there's always somebody out there that's validating that individual, which makes them, you know, not want to change. Yeah, it was like, well, I need to change.
Speaker 3:Somebody validate. You ain't got to change, but guess whose partner you won't be a friend Cause yeah. I'm not doing it with you. Everybody else can tell you all the things that you want to hear, but I'm not that person and I'm not getting ready to disrupt my peace.
Speaker 2:So you can sit in your mess, that's right. Don't sit in your mess, don't sit in it. Yes, all right. So let's move on. Um, what are some redundancies that you know of? Like, for example, that people say all the time, like redundancy. Yes, like they'll say something like ATM machine. And ATM machine stands for what? Automatic Taylor machine machine. So that's what they're saying. If they say machine, atm machine stands for what.
Speaker 3:Automatic, automatic tailor machine machine Right.
Speaker 2:So that's what they're saying if they say machine ATM machine, they say automatic tailor machine machine?
Speaker 3:No, I think I just say the ATM. Yeah, let's go to the ATM, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2:And then tuna. What do people normally say?
Speaker 3:Tuna fish.
Speaker 2:Yeah, you want some tuna fish as opposed to tuna. What?
Speaker 3:Just tuna, because tuna is fish.
Speaker 2:Yeah, they'll never say you want some salmon fish.
Speaker 3:No, they don't say that.
Speaker 2:Yeah, you want some snapper fish.
Speaker 3:Who started that?
Speaker 2:We say catfish, of course.
Speaker 3:It's kind of like isn't there where people say Because you have?
Speaker 2:to, because you can say you want some catfish. Like what kind? There's like three kinds of catfish yeah three kinds of cat meow cat oh, yeah, now that makes sense in that.
Speaker 3:In that regard, well, it's kind of like how people with store names so you think about people say, um, I need to go to kroger's and it's just kroger or people say do they say walmart's? Some people say walmart or walmart country, people say walmart and so yeah, what is walmart?
Speaker 2:and um what else is another one.
Speaker 3:Is it targets or sometimes they say target jc it's something else. They'll say what black people call jc penny pennies yeah we go on to pennies and we know that's jc p yeah I remember someone I used to work with. They used to get so upset when people would, instead of saying library, they say library.
Speaker 2:Library.
Speaker 3:So when they say library, that was just.
Speaker 2:She'd lose it. She'd lose it no more wire hangers.
Speaker 3:No more wire hangers.
Speaker 2:What about a pin number? Oh, pin number, what's?
Speaker 3:your pin, oh pin number, what's your? Pin, because it's what personal identification number, what's your pin, do I say?
Speaker 2:I might say yeah, I think we all say pin number, I think say that uh for sure yeah, pin number. Uh, let's see. Is there any other ones? I have no, that's that's. That's the main one. I was just thinking about those yeah, I think it's just.
Speaker 3:Yeah, I don't know, do you think it's a black thing? I? Don't know do you think that other people say tuna fish? I'm going to pay attention now. Tuna fish and ATM machine. I'm going to pay attention y'all, it could just be a black thing.
Speaker 2:It could be.
Speaker 3:It might just be.
Speaker 2:I've only been black, so that's all I know.
Speaker 3:That's all I know too.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I have no clue, all I've been is black. You sure, that's all you've been my whole life Black. Oh, another note. Well, just something on the funny side. Okay, all right. So remember when I and I think I told you, but I didn't tell the world this what? Remember when I had to go home because my dad had back surgery, right, Mm-hmm. And so we're in the the way they got it set up.
Speaker 3:Remember how the hospital was and when you went for the hospital, like you had the bay in the middle and so all the rooms are around it, in the fair and what is it called not foley, because I didn't, when we was in california california yeah, when you was oh, yeah, yeah, yeah you had the, the.
Speaker 2:You know the bay in the middle, yeah, and then all the rooms on the station, yeah, and everybody was outside, okay, so it was like that where daddy got his surgery. So it was the people right there in the middle and the rooms were right on the outside, ok, so we in there and it's really not even private room. They were waiting to get their own room, so some people had to stay in there for man, three days. I think dad was in there like two days, two or maybe almost three days.
Speaker 2:Yeah before he got his own room and so mama was walking and you know you got to stay right there because you know people are, it's not private. So Mama called herself walking around praying for everybody around the base. And she wasn't praying quiet, she was praying loud. Yeah, not loud Like all that noise. She was going around praying and the people already told me. I said me and dad already said mama, you can't just be walking around because some of the screens yeah, some of the curtains are open Right.
Speaker 2:Well, yes, Some curtains are open a little bit. Nurses are going in, and so she said well, I'm just going around, she could just sit in that room and pray, right, because Jesus omnipotent.
Speaker 3:God he know, who you talking about and he's everywhere.
Speaker 2:Yes, so you know she had to go over there and go around. Okay, and you know, pray and pray and pray. And they said, ma'am, could you please not walk around? You know everybody needs their privacy. And me and dad said, when she walked in there, we said, told you? I said I'm just trying to pray, making sure everybody was fine, because all these people are sick, some people don't have nobody here to pray for them. No people come to visit them. I said, well, they ain't got nobody now, especially you, because they told you to sit your butt down. So she was hurt, she was so disappointed and first of all people that were where he was.
Speaker 3:Somebody is there for you because you got to leave in two days.
Speaker 2:Yes.
Speaker 3:It was no long-term care. Right, yes, it was not the she likes to go to the nursing homes because we would go help and do all the things. Let me tell y'all, one time we went to one of them nursing homes and I got called a nigga. I told Greta, I'm done, ain't nobody getting no more oranges and socks? Because this old white man called me that and I said, oh, I'm done. She was like he don't know what he's saying he don't know what he's saying.
Speaker 2:From my area he knows exactly what I'm saying.
Speaker 3:I said, even if he thought this was 1952.
Speaker 2:It wasn't right then. It wasn't right then.
Speaker 3:It ain't right now Right. And I don't want to be called the N-word again.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I would have told him something.
Speaker 3:I'm done passing out socks and oranges for today. Everybody got them and got them. Let's go.
Speaker 2:I would have told him something yeah, that's go.
Speaker 3:I would have told him some. Yeah, that was something. But it's not like that where there are some people in nursing homes, where people they don't get visitors and all the things. But yeah, in that space somebody was there and somebody was going to pick them up in two days or so. Yeah, if they didn't have nobody, somebody was going to pick them up at least. Yeah, yeah, they're going to pick them up in two days or so. Yeah, if they didn't have nobody, somebody was getting going to pick them up at least.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, they're going to pick you up. You ain't going to get no rest while you're in the hospital, but they're going to pick you up.
Speaker 3:No, you don't get no rest in the hospital. Yeah, they tell you get some rest.
Speaker 2:Mr Hare, they used to tell day and I was like, oh, I forgot. My mom was trying to pray for people. They told her to sit up, but that's a sad ass.
Speaker 3:I pray from your seat in your room, Girl tell God where we are. God know where you're at and who you're praying for.
Speaker 2:Here you go.
Speaker 3:High letters Lord have mercy. That sounds about just like Grinna Right right, right, all right.
Speaker 2:So let's see here. All right. So I turned 51 in a few days.
Speaker 3:Yes.
Speaker 2:All right, and so I was trying to think back to some of my memorable moments.
Speaker 1:Moments.
Speaker 2:Yeah, as a 51-year-old.
Speaker 3:Wait, you ain't 51.
Speaker 2:I know, but I'll be 51.
Speaker 3:You mean like from zero.
Speaker 2:I plan on making it you mean like zero to 51?. Yes, for my birthdays.
Speaker 3:Okay, I mean that's a lot of memorable moments.
Speaker 2:No, it ain't. It ain't no Like on my birthdays.
Speaker 3:Oh, you talking about birthday.
Speaker 2:Yeah, oh Lord, he's going to go into. I ain't never had no birthdays. I ain't never said, I ain't never had no birthdays. I mean, I had no birthday parties.
Speaker 3:I never had no birthday parties. The first birthday party I had was when I was 30. I mean, I don't know the date time. Okay, go, what?
Speaker 2:No, I was just saying I remember the one we had with me and DeNova shared.
Speaker 3:Uh-huh, because their birthdays are not too far apart. How far apart Two days.
Speaker 2:Two days apart, okay, but six years younger than I am.
Speaker 3:Oh no, Y'all had a party together.
Speaker 2:What y'all did? How old first party? Oh, not one and six. Yeah, because we got a picture because he's standing on the table. So that's the first one, I remember, okay, one, okay, the next one after that, well, that was kind of like on your own, because he don't know he didn't know and I don't. I don't remember anymore after that okay until, um, I celebrated one on my own when I was like I was going to Alabama state and then I was like I'm going out for my birthday.
Speaker 4:Call my friends who broke.
Speaker 2:I think she really had, uh, she had to work, so we went, I went to her restaurant and then, just so happy, Um, my brother and uh, my cousin, they said they'll go, so I wind up having to pay for them.
Speaker 3:Oh no, on my birthday, on your birthday, you pay for their food.
Speaker 2:Yep, and then let's see, did I have any other celebration? One time, uh, I spoke at a school and they, uh they gave me a cake. Uh, I think it was Webster university, I think they gave me a cake. Me and Susie spoke there and they had a cake for me. Um, and then when? What else?
Speaker 2:Then when you married me yep, married you all the things change because yeah, we started going out, and then my first party um, the first party you threw me, though, was my uh graduation party for my master's oh yeah, yes yeah and then uh, this birthday party I had last year uh-huh so well, kind of, your 40th was oh yeah, yeah, the 40th was a surprise.
Speaker 3:It was like a party. It was a few days apart.
Speaker 2:I was thinking, like you know, the cake. We had a dinner, we had a dinner cake, I know.
Speaker 3:but keep on going.
Speaker 2:I might as well let somebody else tell my life. Sorry, I think they was there from the conception of me.
Speaker 3:Well, you already said, Fred, that you had a party at 6 and ain't had one again.
Speaker 2:I didn't Okay Until I got almost 36.
Speaker 3:Okay.
Speaker 2:And so we had the 40th. That was good. A surprise birthday party, that was cool.
Speaker 4:In Las Vegas.
Speaker 2:Yeah, in Las Vegas I was surprised by a lot of people.
Speaker 3:I did that.
Speaker 2:Last year's party was a great surprise. That was fun A lot of fun and all my fraternity brothers. The great men of Alpha Phi, alpha, fraternity Incorporated. They showed up. The great men of Alpha Phi, alpha, fraternity Incorporated, they showed up. And my family they came from Foley and stuff.
Speaker 3:You know, if I could do it all over again, you know what I would do.
Speaker 2:What would you do?
Speaker 3:So I, just like I know I have met like so many people that you're connected to, but you never know, like how people are going to show up Right and I don't know know all of them know, them like that.
Speaker 3:And so I did want it to feel. I didn't want it to feel like a banquet hall, like some big thing. I did want it to feel intimate. But I knew I was like I'm sure there are lots more people. But I was just and maybe that's just my anxiousness of feeling like, would everybody have come or shown up there or how it would have been, because I don't know everybody like that If I could do it all over again, because I really feel like there were a lot of people who would have come, yeah, and so if I could have done it all over again, I would have, even though we had a fabulous time.
Speaker 2:Right.
Speaker 3:Because we did the.
Speaker 3:Napa so um I probably would have nixed on the Napa and did a larger party instead because there were more people. But I just didn't know. Like I'm a person who I don't want to put my this is probably my own trust who I don't want to put my this is probably my own trust issues, I don't want to put my trust in humans you know all humans of whether or not it's going to be what I envision. So I was just like I don't know Are they going to show up the way I want them to show up?
Speaker 2:And.
Speaker 3:I'm going to be so mad if they don't. But and I also have control issues as well, and so that I wanted to be able to have like to know it was going to be what it was going to be and so, but I think now, after talking to people and certain things, and then once I did people come in and knew the number of people that people kept calling, saying what about such and such, what about such and such, what about? And I was like, so I think I would have that that would be the change. Yeah.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 3:So I feel like it was good, but I think, yeah, there were, but I just didn't know. I just don't know.
Speaker 2:You did a good job, I understand.
Speaker 3:You just didn't know, I just don't know. You did a good job, though I understand. You just didn't realize that there's a lot of people that, like your husband, I do, I know that they do, but you know, I just you know, I don't, you know, I didn't, I don't, I don't know, know how all those relationships are and I'm finding out a lot because I pride myself on being a good dude, I try to be the.
Speaker 2:I want to be that memorable friend, person, neighbor, a stranger, anything.
Speaker 2:And I realize a lot of times that I have, I have done what I think were minor things, but they were major things in other people's lives Just being real, just being who I am, and stuff like that that I have touched a lot of people.
Speaker 2:You know what I'm saying and that there are a lot of people that if you would have opened it up to the general gp, they would have showed up and it would have been people that I honestly say, oh, what's up? You know how you doing, you know, and they would have had a story, um, but, and and and I think god shows me that sometimes because, uh, I'm considered that strong friend, you know, and I try to be that strong friend for people, um, but sometimes there'll be someone that'll come out of the blue and be like hey, man, what's going on? You are man, you such, such, just, uh, man, I remember when you did this, uh, you know, and it just makes me feel good, it just makes me feel seen outside of my daily role, you know, and so you know it's eye-opening for me.
Speaker 4:Yeah.
Speaker 2:And, to be honest, sometimes homecoming is my refuel. Sometimes, yeah. When I go to homecoming and I see different people and the love is still there. You know, that's a refuel for me to you know, not saying I don't.
Speaker 3:You know, I know I feel the love here daily, more love than ever, but it's, it's, uh, it's that external no, I understand completely how you feel because I know for you like Georgia is not one of his favorite places to live. I don't he also, he wouldn't want to live in Montgomery.
Speaker 2:No.
Speaker 3:Or Foley.
Speaker 2:No.
Speaker 3:But so, but to go there and those relationships, like they just bring a natural joy, because you don't get to see and interact with those people on um a daily basis and you know. So yeah, there's just, it's just joy in those relationships, and so I can see why it feels, why it would fill your cup.
Speaker 2:So yeah, so just, and I was just thinking about all my you know, even though I didn't have many celebrations, I've had a great 50 years. You know that every birth I will actually say every birthday I've had a great day. That's good. You know what I'm saying. You know, some people they have a birthday and they be crying or sad because they're getting older and all that stuff. Never me Like I'm proud to say my age. I'm proud the fact that I have gray hair, I'm proud the fact that my bones creak every now and then. You know, getting old means I'm still living. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2:And so there are friends that I grew up with who didn't get past 20, didn't get past 30, didn't get past 40, or the ones that are there, you know, not doing as well, and some of them that I did want to compare myself to say, dang man, I'm joking, they don't have to do anything and they always finish on top, or they, you know all the girls like them, all of this and that you know is happening for them, all the distance that you know is happening for them. And then, when I look at them now, it's like ain't no exchange. Nope, I don't want to exchange, you know, lies with you right now. No, I'm good, and so I. I look back and I reflect often and I'm um, where I am right now is exactly where I'm supposed to be you know, everything, and so I'm excited about turning 51.
Speaker 2:Um, I played the lottery so you know, if y'all see the background change, maybe the next few be on like somebody's island or something you know yeah, I know it means we know we probably won and we're escaping for right now. But I can't wait. I can't wait for for 51 to hit yeah.
Speaker 3:So do you have any goals or things that this year, this circle, what is they called the circle around the sun, or rotation around the sun, or whatever you want to call it that you want to be able to do.
Speaker 2:I want to get in better shape. I want to get my cardio right. You know it's difficult since I was when I got sick with COVID. It damaged my, I have scar tissue in my lungs and all this stuff, like it's an a-fib now, and so it's difficult to really do the cardio I want to do, like even coming up a flight of stairs on a regular day and I exercise at least three times a week, four times mostly, it's about almost five to six times a week and just coming upstairs on a regular day basis I get out of breath and I and, but once I get to the top my chest is beating hard and all this stuff. Once I get to the top, I'm fine. Or once I get to the top about six seconds later, 10 seconds later, I'm fine, but it's just that's what it feels like. So in the middle of exercise it's pounding, pounding, pounding. Sometimes I have to stop, but my goal is to, in spite of all that, get in better shape, figure it out. Get in better shape Um, I want to, um, I want to.
Speaker 2:By the time I turned 52, I should be done with my master's in clinical mental health counseling. So that's one goal. Two, and then my final goal is to complete something that I started a while ago. What is that? I don't know. It's either going to be the guitar playing. Oh, okay, already, the podcasting is one thing that.
Speaker 1:I can X on my list it a while ago. What is that? I don't know it's.
Speaker 2:It's either gonna be the guitar playing oh okay, already, the podcasting is one thing that I can x on my list, but I think the guitar playing is like learn at least two songs, um, or dj. Put a couple dj mixes out. You know my little dj equipment you bought for me for christmas. Um, that's it, that's it.
Speaker 3:Okay, well, that sounds doable.
Speaker 2:It's very doable.
Speaker 1:DJ Keithlin wants to.
Speaker 2:Make sure you practice with headphones on. You know you like my music. You know you like my music. You know you like my mercy. All right, so is that anything else for the day? How do you want to close out?
Speaker 3:no side eye of the week um, talk it, I just had something in my brain. This is how my brain went. I just thought of a side eye and guess what?
Speaker 2:you just lost it lost a child.
Speaker 3:That is how old my brain is. I just thought of a side eye and I forgot what you were talking about. That made me think of it and now it's gone well, let's see my side eye of the week.
Speaker 2:I'm gonna go back to my job. The kids in the hallway no jugglers be walking straight across like five in a row as if nobody else is coming the opposite way. And slow they walking, slow.
Speaker 2:Y'all don't have order no, ain't no order in the order rules in there and they don't have no respect, these little youngsters nowadays, all that, what's it called the soft parenting that everybody's doing, letting these kids find a voice? But, um, I walked through, I said, excuse me, buddy, and I walk on by. You know, if they don't hear me, because most of them don't hear you because they have their ear pods in or earbuds in. So I had to gently, you know, get on, get through and then you know, say oh excuse me, but you got to teach them because ain't nobody else going to teach them.
Speaker 2:But that's my side out of the week. It just these little kids be. It'd be late for class and and I understand why. Like some of the kids be late because they can't get through all that crowd and some of those, though you know the timid ones don't want to because they be trying to intimidate them and stuff like that, and they barely get to class. Oh yeah so babies.
Speaker 3:I do understand that um well, I do have a side eye, but it's not what my thought was. It just came to me now. Now y'all know I said something about organizing my pantry and refrigerator. So my side eye is for people in my house.
Speaker 2:What they do.
Speaker 3:They won't put things back where they grabbed it from and it ain't just one little person in my house, it's also a big person too. It'll be on a different row or a different thing than where they originally got it from.
Speaker 2:You know what you should do.
Speaker 3:I just feel like they don't like organization and you know the only person who's ever, ever, ever, in all the years of this house, cleaned out that pantry don't even say that, cuz he money did it once, I've done it once also okay, y'all. Y'all heard him say once do you what I'm?
Speaker 2:just saying you talking about ever what does ever mean?
Speaker 3:okay, most almost all.
Speaker 2:Okay, don't you say that all right, well, okay so do you know the person that never leaves a empty box in the pantry me. I never leave an empty box. You've, never, no, ever no. Because when I reach in there I've and I said, oh, this is the last one, let me get the box, because I know it's a peeve of mine. And I reach in, I know the box feels hollow.
Speaker 3:I take it out. He took my irk.
Speaker 2:I'm just saying. I'm just saying she want to ever me.
Speaker 3:I'm going to ever her, so let me ever so. That's all. That's my side eye eye on people in my house that don't want to keep the pantry organized or the fridge. They see, I mean, clearly there's organization there. Oh, look in the refrigerator, looks like all the drinks go right on this shelf. Drinks all everywhere, all willy-nilly.
Speaker 2:So if you just take a, picture and send it to us and say okay, I just organized everything. When you go in there, look at this picture and refer to it, Because my thing I put it back on the shelf neatly. It may not be in the exact spot. I try to put it in the exact place. My intentions were good, but probably my execution was off. You know what I mean, and so I try to put it back in the right place.
Speaker 3:So if you put salsa on the row where ain't no other salsa, why would you do that? If you see pickled items pickled onions, pickles, olives, all together.
Speaker 2:I know they always go at the top. Why would you put it on?
Speaker 3:the door.
Speaker 2:Do they not always go on the top? Do you know if I did that?
Speaker 3:I'm not saying you.
Speaker 2:Okay. Then you said and it's a big person.
Speaker 3:I said little and big, so it's one of yous that did it. Well, I'm going to start.
Speaker 2:I'm going to unveil some side eyes on you, and you know I got a few. You know I got a few side eyes on you and you know I got a few. You know I got a few, anyways. But I wouldn't do you like that Anyways, because the people in podcast land, you know they see you as a pretty little lady who's almost perfect. Come on, cletus. But I can take that narrative and turn it upside down.
Speaker 3:Nobody's perfect and I wouldn't care. Tell my flaws and all.
Speaker 2:I ain't gonna say nobody perfect.
Speaker 3:Ain't nobody perfect. I'm pretty close, but that is close, ain't perfect.
Speaker 2:Well, well, I mean I was going to say my side eye, what I just said about empty boxes in there.
Speaker 3:Nope, you already did a side eye. Save it for next week.
Speaker 2:Yeah, anywho, I'll save it for next week. Anywho, I save for next.
Speaker 3:So let's see, um leaving your joy, we leave with joy. What is either? One thing you're oh, let's do this one thing you're grateful for and one thing you're looking forward to this week start with you Go.
Speaker 3:Okay, one thing that brings me joy You're grateful for. Oh, one thing I'm grateful for Um, let me see I'm going to go with um. I am grateful for a nice, comfy home. We're going to put that and I like my home. I love my kitchen. It's very cute. Is that how you would describe a kitchen? I mean, it's nice. I like my kitchen.
Speaker 2:It's very nice to me I won't say cute, because it's certain things in there that I, like I don't want to say oh it's cute, well, that's my word, and so I'm grateful for my home and my bed and the peace that it brings me.
Speaker 3:So it is a place of peace for me, so I'm grateful for that. And then, something that I'm looking forward to this week looking forward to our birthday dinner night Wednesday, to celebrate you on Wednesday, to go out and have a nice evening out.
Speaker 1:All right.
Speaker 2:I am grateful for my family.
Speaker 3:You said that last time.
Speaker 2:But I'm grateful for y'all. Okay, no, but I am, I'm grateful for peace, you know, because it is a lot of peace, like y'all. Give me peace.
Speaker 3:He does not have his own brain. Oh my God, he's stealing my ideas.
Speaker 2:Oh, you don't want me to be. I said peace, all right.
Speaker 3:No, you can steal it, steal it. No, you know what Last time remember he said remember last time he was like that's what I'm saying. I didn't go there, Okay.
Speaker 2:I got something. There's a lot of things I'm grateful for, okay, okay, all right. I am grateful for my backyard, my patio, because every time I look at it it's comforting, and this is the time of the year where the weather is nice, comforting, um, and, and this is the time of the weather I mean time of the year where the weather is nice and you can go out back, let Cinnabon out to use the bathroom and you don't you probably won't come into like 10, 15 minutes later because you just sit down chilling. Um, very, very nice, oh, I love it. It's a huge patio that we got redone. It's a huge patio that we got redone. It's very nice.
Speaker 3:Shout out to Caesar.
Speaker 2:Yes, caesar with.
Speaker 3:Funez.
Speaker 2:Funez, remodeling, is it something like that?
Speaker 3:Oh gosh, oh man Funez.
Speaker 2:Remodeling that's on your phone. Look it up by the time I finish. Okay, go On Instagram.
Speaker 4:And then the thing that I'm most looking forward to yeah, I'm, I'm looking forward to um, what's this?
Speaker 2:uh, well, I get, I get a day off tuesday. We're not really like a day off. I have to drive the bus. Um, one of my many jobs. Uh, I'm driving some students to a? Um like a trade fair. Driving some students to a like a trade fair where they talk about skills, work and you know, trade skills and stuff like that for students that may not want to go to college, you know, want to do something else. So I'm driving a couple of students up there on Tuesday. So I got a sub, so I'm out of the building and those moments are peaceful for me. You know, I love driving the bus and it's a lot of fun, so I'm looking forward to that.
Speaker 3:So what's the name of it? It is Funes Remodeling.
Speaker 2:F-U-N-E-S.
Speaker 3:Remodeling, and Cesar is the kindest contractor you could have. Yeah, works very efficiently.
Speaker 2:Patient too, very patient, very patient.
Speaker 3:It's just a good guy overall, so we've used him for lots of projects in our home and we've never been dissatisfied, yeah, so, anywho, if you're looking for somebody to do some contract work, in the metro atlanta area the metro atlanta area. Funez remodeling, you will not be disappointed yeah, they're on instagram.
Speaker 2:What is the instagram? Funez remodeling okay on instagram so yeah, check them out. All one word, all together yeah well, ladies and gentlemen, and uh kids if you love us and friends yeah, um, thank y'all for supporting the refreshingly normal podcast. We hope that we are giving you some form of entertainment and if there's anything that you would like to ask of us, if you anything you would like us to uh, dwell on or, you know, comment on or bring to light or yeah, you need advice yeah, any advice you would like, because you probably can't say it to the person you want to say it to, but if you, you know, write into us, we can say it, and where should they write into?
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