Catfishing, Creepy Dates, and College Confessions

Ever been called "OG" by someone half your age? Had a date pull out their baby tooth collection over dinner? Discovered your online match looked nothing like their photos? Welcome to the wild world of dating disasters, brought to you with unfiltered honesty by Kefla and Lucrecia.

This episode begins with tales from our fall break adventures in Lower Alabama (the real LA, as Kefla calls it), where despite sweltering heat, we managed to fish, explore the family property, and discover a hidden gem coffee shop called The Drowsy Poet. We also celebrated our niece's milestone "Dirty 30" birthday at a chic Atlanta restaurant where, thankfully, the staff handled our large party flawlessly.

Then we dive into dating stories shared with us that will have you gasping, laughing, and possibly reconsidering your own romantic encounters. From the college student who discovered her date had scheduled two other women at the same restaurant (spoiler: they formed an alliance against him), to Kefla's classroom intervention between two students dating the same boy, these tales highlight the comedic side of romance gone wrong. 

We don't hold back on the scary and downright bizarre encounters either. Lucrecia shares her before she met Kefla experience with a married secret admirer sending gifts to her classroom, while Kefla recounts his early catfishing experiences in the days before smartphone verification. We debate whether it's appropriate to dine with someone just for a free meal (hint: probably not worth the risk) and discuss modern dating expectations versus the coffee dates we recommend for first meetings.

The episode wraps with our "side-eye of the week" segment, featuring Kefla's humbling moment of being called "OG" by younger club-goers and Lucrecia's observation about our niece's reluctance to put herself first on her special day. Whether you're actively dating or happily partnered, these stories will remind you that the path to finding your person is often paved with memorable mishaps and valuable lessons.

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Chapters

• 0:10 Podcast Introduction & Weekly Catch-up
• 10:05 Family Trip to Foley, Alabama
• 21:25 Dating Stories Introduction
• 32:55 Catfish Encounters
• 44:35 Scary Dating Experiences
• 1:00:45 The OG Side-Eye of the Week
• 1:20:43 Looking Forward & Episode Closing

Transcript

SPEAKER_03: 0:10

The Refreshingly Normal Podcast.

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Welcome back to the Refreshingly Normal Podcast. I am Kefla.

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I am Lucretia.

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And we are so excited to be back again. This week has been a chill week. We're on our fall break.

SPEAKER_02: 0:35

Yeah. Yeah, I've been chill but busy.

unknown: 0:38

Yeah.

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Because we don't have to go to work.

SPEAKER_06: 0:40

Right, right, right. I mean, everything that we've done is what you have wanted to do.

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Yeah.

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You know what I'm saying?

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So well, according to this guy, we get to go to work.

SPEAKER_06: 0:51

That's right. You get to go to work. You don't say I have to go to work because there's a lot of people that wish they could go to work.

SPEAKER_02: 0:57

So we get to work. I don't know if that sentence works that you said earlier.

SPEAKER_06: 1:02

You still working, right?

SPEAKER_02: 1:03

See, see, senor.

SPEAKER_06: 1:04

Still able to pay the bills, right? Still able to get your nails done, your hair done. That's right. So we get to go to work. Oh, corn. Exactly. Um, so let's talk about uh what you know how we you like to start off the week, you say. What great thing has occurred in your life this week that you would like to share? Anything great, funny, shareable? All right, I'll go ahead and talk. Um, because someone has this idea we were gonna have a podcast.

SPEAKER_02: 1:46

I need a think time.

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So I'll start.

SPEAKER_02: 1:49

Well, good.

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Uh of course we're on our break, and um we we you know had a chance to go uh to my hometown in Foley, Alabama. I mean the real LA, lower Alabama, and uh had a good time down there. Um you know, seeing seeing my parents is always a good time. It was hot. Hot. I'm talking about like you could cut it. You know, the humidity is already there because you're close to the beach. It was so freaking hot, man. Um just crazy. Um But we we went fishing, it was too hot to fish. I didn't I only caught a small bass. My mama caught a big one. It was it was like uh a good, I'll say about maybe what, 14 inches. And that's about like this. Nice size, nice size bass, probably a little bigger than, yeah, nice size bass. Um and on our property, and then uh Kahari caught one, his uh girlfriend caught one, but it was small, she caught a small fish. Kahari small caught a small.

SPEAKER_02: 2:54

Yeah, his was small too.

SPEAKER_06: 2:55

Yeah. And uh we got a chance to ride on the little, we didn't ride the four-wheels this time, but we rode the my dad's new toy, which is what they call a mule, Kawasaki mule, it's like a side-by-side, has a little look, look like a small truck. So for his hunting stuff. So we rode around there. You and I rode, I took you on a tour of the community, the commerity.

SPEAKER_02: 3:19

First of all, he took me on a tour, y'all. However, we've been married 22 years. I know the community, but when he rolled me around, I just act like I didn't know all the things. But he's told me all the things before. We went on a tour, though. Keep going.

SPEAKER_06: 3:41

Okay, so I I I think what she's trying to say is I should I shouldn't repeat anything that I've already stated before.

SPEAKER_02: 3:49

But it was a nice tour because it was different because we were on the meal.

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But I would definitely make a note that not to repeat anything that I've already repeated to her.

SPEAKER_02: 4:02

It was a lover's ride.

SPEAKER_06: 4:04

So you know, we'll we'll we'll we'll yeah, middle note. So um we ran. Well, you ran every day. I didn't run one day. Um it was hot. Yeah, it was very hot. So uh I was still trying to get my lungs back conditioned.

SPEAKER_00: 4:26

Yeah.

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But uh I definitely couldn't run full. That third day was hurting. I could feel it in my left arm. So that's a sign that I need to chill out. Um and so I did. But it was a good trip. Um now the the key, I mean not the key, one of the highlights was on our way back when I went and we stopped by Alabama State, old Mother Dear, and saw Kimani. Um, we went into the bookstore and ran into some um people who were there, some um not teachers, but they worked in the um student affairs and stuff like that. Uh Miss Christberg. Yeah, I forgot the other gentleman's name. And she was like, Yeah, I remember you, Keith. I was like oh, it felt good that she remembered me. She said, You just didn't have all that stuff on your face the last time. And so that's been like almost 30 years since I've been there. Uh well, 25 to be exact. And so she uh said, I'm just here because they got a sale on in the bookstore. And I was like, a sale thing in 10% off. She said, no, 50%. I said, 50%. And you know, that stuff at the bookstore is expensive. So I asked the guy, he said, yeah, 50% for the next 17 minutes until we closed. And I turned around and I went back and was getting idols just half.

SPEAKER_02: 5:46

Wait, wait, tell them how you really did it. So that lady said, 50%. You said 50%, and he just left that lady standing there.

SPEAKER_06: 5:54

I didn't even say bye.

SPEAKER_02: 5:55

He didn't even say bye. He just went back and got all the things. Sorry, Miss Craigberry. So I kept talking to her. But he just left all out of there.

SPEAKER_06: 6:06

I always want to get a lot of stuff because they have some cool stuff sometimes. But it's just crazy. It's like the basketball jersey, the uh the cream color one that they wore in the playoffs, was$90. And I don't even have jerseys. Every jersey that I have has been given to me. The only jersey I had was a Deion Sanders jersey that I bought when I worked at Starter back in college, and that was like 93. And so uh other than that, man, I don't I don't buy jersey, but when I saw that one, I was like, 90, oh, now it's 50%. Oh, I went and got that one. And uh that was a highlight of my day. Um actually of my break right now, so I'm happy I got some gear, some new gear, some uh beanies and stuff like that. But uh other than that, what else?

SPEAKER_02: 6:55

Um so my highlight, well, since you talked about uh Foley, the only thing I'll add to Foley is like they do have the rose, the antique rose garden trail that you can run or walk or or whatever. We ran the trail, but along the trail, we found a coffee shop. Oh yeah, and so um what's it called? Uh Drowsy Poet, the Drowsy Poet. Yeah, um, oh, it was so good, it was so good. We um so we ended up going there every day, but they have really good espresso, like the flavor on it is so rich. I don't know where the beans are from, but I I believe they like ground their own beans and everything there, but it was so good.

SPEAKER_06: 7:51

So if you're ever in the Gulf Shores area off of um McKenzie Street or Highway 59, yeah, go to the drowsy poet.

SPEAKER_02: 8:01

The the ladies there were so sweet. Um, but yeah, that is definitely my new favorite coffee shop. Yeah. So anyway, that that was good. But um, other than that, Saturday was our niece, which we said last time. Oh, yeah. It was um Deja's birthday and her um what her daddy said turned into what? Dirty 30. Dirty 30.

SPEAKER_06: 8:29

Dirty 30.

SPEAKER_02: 8:30

Her daddy kept saying, baby, dirty 30. Yeah. So they had a um her boyfriend playing the whole weekend with her with surprise people from out of town. And um, so we had told her we weren't coming, and then we did end up there. So she was really surprised that uh we had made it to her dinner and everything. So um that was a good time to see her so surprised and excited for to see everybody that showed up for her, for her, um, to celebrate her dirt third.

SPEAKER_06: 9:00

Because the only people that were there in that city were us.

SPEAKER_02: 9:05

Yeah, that's true.

SPEAKER_06: 9:06

That was the only people that were that were in the city. But I think that's how they invited the people. Yeah, but I'm just saying that's still that there's a lot when they come travel, you know. Like the same thing when you did my surprise party, and those everybody came out. Oh, from other places. Yeah, that was that means a lot, yeah.

SPEAKER_02: 9:22

Yeah, so some of her yeah, her line sisters came from Alabama. Right. Um then her previous um colleagues um just recently started working somewhere else, and so she came from West Virginia. And so, anywho, she had um she had a great time for her birthday, and we had a great time celebrating her.

SPEAKER_06: 9:43

So yeah, and her um her colleagues set it up real nice in the restaurant. She had some cool little things with the uh they said she did the the little stickers on the lemon.

SPEAKER_02: 9:52

Yeah, there are stickers on the lemon that said 30th something. Yeah, when we did the lemon. Deja 30th for the lemon drop shots. And yeah, she did a real good job. She did, and then little pictures of Deja when she was a little girl on the tables and everything. So organized very well. Um that's the first time I ever like been to a restaurant where it's like a party of people and the waiters had the tickets down packed.

SPEAKER_06: 10:17

Oh, yeah, yeah. Like there were no issues about who was paying for what or eight or more people, no split checks. No, no, they were on it. They were on it. Split checks, everything.

SPEAKER_02: 10:27

Yeah, and that was was MCK.

SPEAKER_06: 10:30

Yes, MCK.

SPEAKER_02: 10:31

And let me tell you also, the their drinks were very good. My whiskey sour.

SPEAKER_06: 10:38

No, that was good. Your whiskey sour was very good.

SPEAKER_02: 10:40

So good. Like sometimes you get a whiskey sour and you can't really taste the whiskey.

SPEAKER_06: 10:44

Yeah, I like to taste the first drink you had was called the side chick.

SPEAKER_02: 10:48

The side chick was very good. That was bourbon, I think.

SPEAKER_06: 10:51

Like some honey and stuff. That was very good.

SPEAKER_02: 10:53

That one was very good. And my whiskey sour, they made it with Sir Davis. Yeah, and um, yeah, Sir Davis is the good whiskey, anyways, but um, they they did an excellent job. So, and I don't think everybody like really loved their drink. So, yeah, nobody complained. Nobody complained. So, um, and the food was good too. Yeah, so anywho, it's a great little they are made for like birthday celebrations. They got that down pat um large parties celebrating something. So if you are thinking of where should I go for my birthday, that is a great place. MCK, right in Buckhead.

SPEAKER_06: 11:27

Yeah, small um establishment, intimate. So you're not small though. But I'm saying, like as when you think of like birthday celebrations in Atlanta, a lot of people are thinking the big with the people coming with the can't, you know, the Oh yeah, yeah, yeah. Nothing like that. No, it's it's small and intimate to the point where you and your party will be able to enjoy you and your party. Yeah, you're not being uh like other people in your area.

SPEAKER_02: 11:52

Oh, yeah, we didn't have that. Right. And very nice inside, very cute. And uh they have a that bar was large. Yeah, yeah. Yeah, a long bar area. Yeah. So, anywho, that's what we did, and came back home, and now just trying to get the last bit of relaxation before getting to go back to work.

SPEAKER_06: 12:13

And I'll save the other part of that for my side out of the week.

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Okay.

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Yeah.

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All right.

SPEAKER_06: 12:20

So, but uh, yeah, we we get to go back to work uh next week.

SPEAKER_00: 12:24

Mm-hmm.

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And uh looking forward to it, because I got I start my IEP. That's my first one.

SPEAKER_02: 12:30

You're really looking forward to it?

SPEAKER_06: 12:32

Yeah, because when I finish it, when I get that first one out the way, then, you know, cardwells are dusted. Oh. And then I can handle everything. Because it's it's just getting the stuff in order, uh, you know, meeting with the parents and making sure that that uh their kid gets what they need. And and a lot of times, you know, if if the kid is doing what they're supposed to do, those meetings are easy because they already know.

SPEAKER_02: 12:58

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06: 12:58

You know what I mean? You know, it's they already know what their kid needs. They already, we've already discussed it in emails and stuff like that. So they they become just pieces of cake. The hard part of uh is just making sure they're doing what they're supposed to do. You know what I'm saying? That's it. But uh so once I get that first one, let's go. Let's go. I got the rest of them. All right. What else? What else? Um, okay, so what have you watched on television this week?

SPEAKER_02: 13:31

Um, I have watched um Zatima.

SPEAKER_00: 13:37

Mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_02: 13:38

Um that's like a spin-off of Sustas. Yeah. Tyler Perry. It's the whole Tyler Perry week. Yeah. What is it called?

SPEAKER_06: 13:47

Black Beauty or Beauty and Black.

SPEAKER_02: 13:49

Beauty and Black.

SPEAKER_06: 13:50

There's a lot going on with that.

SPEAKER_02: 13:51

Yeah, so a second season of Beauty and Black, um, watching that. But today we watched Wrong Paris. The wrong Paris. The wrong Paris.

SPEAKER_06: 14:04

The wrong Paris.

SPEAKER_02: 14:05

I loved it. It was so cute. It was iCarly within there.

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She's all grown up now.

SPEAKER_02: 14:10

Yeah, iCarly's all grown.

SPEAKER_06: 14:12

And um, what's that girl?

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Yvonne Orgy.

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Yvonne Orgy, yeah.

SPEAKER_02: 14:16

Yeah. That's a cute little chick flick. I love chick flicks. Um, just movies that just kind of make you smile. And so, anywho, I watched that. Um, those are about the only things that I watched this week were those shows. Yeah. Um, because we didn't watch much TV um out of town. Yeah. Um, and we were just busy. I mean, I don't we just watch we I just really feel like we don't watch a lot of TV. Now, I do watch a lot of TikTok.

SPEAKER_06: 14:50

Yeah, we watch TikTok and Facebook is too depressing.

SPEAKER_02: 14:55

Yeah, Facebook is dreary.

SPEAKER_06: 14:58

Yeah.

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Cause you don't really, I don't feel like your your algorithms get fixed as much on Facebook. Like, like my Instagram and TikTok are all very light and inspirational because those are the things that I look at most. Um, and so I'll get good quotes and good videos. Um, so on my TikTok and Instagram, I know some people say you need to take a break from your social media, but my social media is algorithm, is all inspirational. So it's actually uplifting for me.

SPEAKER_06: 15:32

Yeah, mine is funny. So I'm always watching bloopers and memes and stuff like that. So that's what mine is, too. I'll check mine out. Yeah. But like you said, Facebook is is depressing because it's all you know political and and all that kind of stuff.

SPEAKER_02: 15:49

Nobody has time for that.

SPEAKER_06: 15:50

No, you got to get off of that right now.

SPEAKER_02: 15:52

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06: 15:53

You know, since you can't talk about it anyway, or you lose your job, you might lose your job. I ain't trying to lose my job. You about to lose your job. I ain't trying to lose mine. So um let's see. What else? What else? What else? Am I looking forward to watching anything? Yeah.

SPEAKER_02: 16:08

Uh I am looking forward to a few things.

SPEAKER_06: 16:10

What you looking forward to?

SPEAKER_02: 16:12

I really want to, even though people said demonic things about it, I really want to watch Marlon Wayne's in him. Yeah. Because I just want to see how he does in it. Um, I I I just I don't know. I'm not looking forward the deep demonic part of it. There he really says it's just a movie of good and evil.

SPEAKER_00: 16:32

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02: 16:33

But I just want to see him. His range. His range. Yeah, I I want to see his range. Then I've seen a lot of of um the previous press. Press with Tiana Taylor. That's what I was about to say.

SPEAKER_06: 16:48

What is the name of that movie?

SPEAKER_02: 16:49

I don't know. I I do know, but I don't know.

SPEAKER_06: 16:51

It has my favorite. Regina Hall. That's she's my favorite, just yeah.

SPEAKER_02: 16:55

I don't know if she's if this personality, I guess. I don't think in this movie it's funny. She's funny. I'm not, I don't think, I'm not sure. Maybe. I don't know, but but I just love her. Her press has been funny. Yeah, her press has been hilarious. Her press is definitely funny. So I I do I do want to see um that movie because I like Tiana Taylor. I kind of want to see how she does with those actors. Yeah. Because um, she has Leonardo DiCaprio in it and Regina Hall and some really good other actors in there. So I want to see how she has to step her game up.

SPEAKER_06: 17:31

It can't be like that little one police movie she was in recently.

SPEAKER_02: 17:34

I didn't even watch it. That one are you talking about? I didn't watch it. I didn't watch that one. Um, but yeah, I'm I'm I want to see those two. Those are two movies I want to see. What about you?

SPEAKER_06: 17:44

And I I need to see some more killing. I ain't seen no killing in a minute. You know, I gotta see something with people's arms get broke back or somebody getting shot from like 90 days away. Then all of a sudden it hit them. You know, those uh good little action, you know, male movies. I like those sometimes. So I gotta see that something. And uh I don't know which one is out there.

SPEAKER_00: 18:08

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06: 18:08

There's something out there. I'm gonna check it out. I don't know. Um other than that, I mean, you know, sports. I think this weekend, though, Alabama plays Georgia coming up. So that's gonna be I'm gonna watch that game.

SPEAKER_02: 18:24

Okay.

SPEAKER_06: 18:25

Yeah.

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That's this weekend.

SPEAKER_06: 18:26

Yeah, like the How are you gonna do it? Well, not this weekend, like this Saturday, but the following Saturday. Oh, okay. Is it? No, because Alabama was off last week. Yeah, so I want to say it's maybe this week.

SPEAKER_02: 18:36

Oh, you mean this coming Saturday?

SPEAKER_06: 18:39

I think so.

SPEAKER_02: 18:40

Okay.

SPEAKER_06: 18:41

Because I saw something about it, but maybe, maybe I'm lying. I could be lying, guys, but I that's that's let you know I'm not. My um sports meter has gone down so much over the last couple of years, but definitely this year. Because I'm like, I'm not coaching nothing, I'm not doing nothing, no sports talk. It is what it is. So I don't know.

SPEAKER_02: 19:02

He is doing sport talk, though.

SPEAKER_06: 19:05

Where?

SPEAKER_02: 19:06

On all those text messages that come in on the football fantasy thread.

SPEAKER_04: 19:11

Do I talk? I ever be blooploop.

SPEAKER_06: 19:14

I don't I don't talk on it.

SPEAKER_02: 19:15

Wow, well then why you what you doing? Why are you joining the fantasy football if you ain't gonna talk?

SPEAKER_06: 19:19

I just wait and see when the the uh How are you doing on it?

SPEAKER_02: 19:23

Are you doing well?

SPEAKER_06: 19:25

No, I think I've lost every game. Every matchup, but I just do it for the brotherhood, man. I don't, you know. It's fancy foot fantasy football, they like that. I mean, you can't control it.

SPEAKER_04: 19:38

Okay.

SPEAKER_06: 19:38

So it's like, oh yeah, it's fun. Yeah, I I it's like you can't talk trash on me, or they gonna beat you. Oh, they oh, yeah, there's I can talk trash on me. Okay because I can control my accent. Oh, okay. Can't talk trash on somebody else.

SPEAKER_02: 19:52

Oh, okay. I don't know how fantasy football works. So to be honest.

SPEAKER_06: 19:57

Yeah. It's it's it's a fantasy. Like you create a team, and then you got all these different players from different teams on your team and how they perform that week. Oh, the time. They get rated. Yeah. Oh, okay. So then you get a total of like three 200 points. Uh-huh. And then your opponent may, their people that they picked that week may only did a hundred points. So then you won that week.

SPEAKER_02: 20:19

Okay.

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You know what I mean?

SPEAKER_02: 20:20

Oh, okay.

SPEAKER_06: 20:21

Yeah. It's you can't control it.

SPEAKER_02: 20:24

Okay.

SPEAKER_06: 20:24

You know? And then when my brothers text, they be texting a lot too. And like they text long stuff. I don't, I can't, I don't know. Yeah, you don't like to do that. Yeah. Because my fingers I They probably don't either.

SPEAKER_02: 20:35

They probably talk into their phone.

SPEAKER_06: 20:37

That's what most people direct Siri so many times.

SPEAKER_02: 20:41

Most most people, that's what they do. They just talk into their phone. And if you do it enough, the Siri will know your voice and what you say. Maybe it'll be more accurate.

SPEAKER_06: 20:52

I need to change my Siri to a man then, because maybe. She's a woman, she don't want to listen. Oh my God. So I'm gonna change it to a man. You're trying to say, no, I'm not trying to say this, Siri. I'm trying to say what I'm trying to say.

SPEAKER_02: 21:07

Maybe she's not trying to enunciate your words.

SPEAKER_06: 21:10

And then maybe so. So maybe I need a country series.

SPEAKER_02: 21:14

Yeah, find you one.

SPEAKER_06: 21:15

Yeah. Find me somebody.

SPEAKER_02: 21:16

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06: 21:17

All right. So this week I would like to talk about uh dating stories. You know, so we scoured the net. Scoured. And we found all kinds of different dating stories. We found some funny, we found some scary, some uh, what is it? Funny, scary. Oh hell no. And stupid. And some stupid. So we s selected our top ones, and we're gonna read it and just have a little discussion about it. And um after that, keep it pushing.

SPEAKER_02: 21:57

Okay. So we're gonna start with a funny one.

SPEAKER_06: 21:59

Okay, let's go.

SPEAKER_02: 22:00

This one is called um The Multiple Dates. Let me turn my phone off because somebody's asking us, did we eat dinner? And he's seeing we filming a podcast. The multiple, I mean, the multiplying dates. Sorry. A college student realized halfway through dinner that her date has scheduled two other dates that same night at the same restaurant. She spotted him waving another girl over while she was still eating her entree. Instead of leaving upset, she and the other girls teamed up, sat together, and enjoyed dinner while he awkwardly paid the bill.

SPEAKER_06: 22:51

So he was trying to give him a little threesome or something, or case dates?

SPEAKER_02: 22:56

Maybe it kind of was like speed dating. But he thought he was his own speed dating. So he's not really locked in. At the same time.

SPEAKER_06: 23:05

That's why speed dating work. But not at the same time. When speed dating, you're not dating them at the same time. You date and then they'll say, click, move.

SPEAKER_02: 23:11

Oh, so it was like he was sitting at the table. I started with her. So I'm out with Tanya, and then, oh, here comes Sasha. Oh, Sasha, come on over. So then all of a sudden he had three people.

SPEAKER_04: 23:23

Yeah, because he's sitting with them. So he thought he thought he was big ish. Big show. He thought he was big dog.

SPEAKER_02: 23:28

Uh-huh. Yeah, he might have been trying to put a little thing together, a little three.

SPEAKER_06: 23:32

Thought he was gonna get a little threesome. Oh the triple triple play.

SPEAKER_02: 23:36

You know what? I probably would have stayed and finished my food too. Because listen, free food.

SPEAKER_06: 23:41

So you said that you was a free fooder.

SPEAKER_02: 23:44

Mm-hmm. My dating days. I ain't free food.

SPEAKER_06: 23:49

Nope. Uh-uh.

SPEAKER_02: 23:50

I'll take a free dinner. So I would have sat there and ate my dinner too. Especially then I would I would know at this point, oh, after tonight, that's it. So let me go on and order one other thing.

unknown: 24:00

No.

SPEAKER_06: 24:00

You mess around and get somebody crazy, and then they're gonna be stalking you. You ate dinner and you treated this.

SPEAKER_02: 24:06

But first of all, you had three ladies there.

SPEAKER_06: 24:08

I'm just saying. I'm just saying. Off of a meal and you didn't pay them no attention. So you I'm just saying, people are crazy. Well, what that's what I was thinking back in my days when I was like, nah, I ain't gonna go out with just for no food.

SPEAKER_02: 24:23

But you don't have to be mean to people.

SPEAKER_06: 24:25

I know, but if you didn't like, oh, well, you don't know.

SPEAKER_02: 24:28

Well, first of all, you got to you also got to know vibe feel the vibe of people.

SPEAKER_06: 24:33

But that's part of dating.

SPEAKER_02: 24:34

No, no, no.

SPEAKER_06: 24:36

You don't know yet.

SPEAKER_02: 24:37

No, no, no, no, no. If I uh people that act like that before, when they approach you, something don't feel right. I'm I'm dead, I'm I've never dealt with no crazy people. The stalking me.

SPEAKER_06: 24:52

You had to have dealt with people. The stalking me. Well, but you had to have dealt with people whose vibe you didn't get. Because if you did, you wouldn't be with me. No, because you haven't had people.

SPEAKER_04: 25:02

You said stalking crazy vibe. But I'm stuck, but that's a lot of that's undercover now.

SPEAKER_02: 25:07

What I'm saying is there might have been a vibe like, no, you can't be my man forever. But but that's different than stalking crazy. That vibe I can feel. I'm not even I'm not even going to dinner with uh with them. And I ain't taking a chance on that. No, if I get a vibe you kind of crazy, no, then I'm not going, I'm not going out to eat with crazy.

SPEAKER_06: 25:32

How many people we know that all of a sudden reveal themselves like, whoa, we gotta stand back from you folks. We know people like that. We do.

SPEAKER_02: 25:44

I'm saying.

SPEAKER_04: 25:48

Go ahead.

SPEAKER_02: 25:49

I if I there has been nobody that has been stalker crazy. That's a different crazy.

SPEAKER_06: 25:56

Yeah, it is.

SPEAKER_02: 25:56

Where you got to be like, oh Lord Jesus.

SPEAKER_06: 25:59

You're lucky. You're lucky. Okay. You're lucky.

SPEAKER_02: 26:02

Yeah. I haven't had stalker crazy.

SPEAKER_06: 26:06

Just know to my knowledge. Just know if I if I leave this earth and you start over again, be careful for a meal.

SPEAKER_04: 26:13

Just know this lady ain't starting over. Be careful for a meal. Just saying.

SPEAKER_02: 26:17

I'm growing, I got my own money now.

SPEAKER_06: 26:20

Okay. I'm just saying. I'm just saying. Just be careful. But this reminds me of a story when I was teaching in California. We had this project, and this project was called the um identity box. And so what the kids was doing, we did at the beginning of the year, you know, high school health education. And so we get a shoebox, and you had to put like uh your favorite food. Um, the outside of the box represented what we could see about you. So I know you, you know, what kind of sports you play. I could tell that without even you telling me if I see you hooping all the time. Um what your clothes what clothes you like. I could see that based off of you. Um, you know, so they had the the outside of the box was all those things. Then on the inside was things that we wouldn't know about you unless we open up the box, open up you, and then we talk about it. And so one of the things was a picture of your uh person that means a lot to you. It could be parent, it could be a boyfriend or girlfriend, or whatever. And so this young lady was presenting her box.

unknown: 27:29

Oh, yeah.

SPEAKER_06: 27:30

And when she got into the inside of the box, and it was her significant other, you know, because other people like, like remember uh Ari, she did Bow Wow. Yes. She loved it. And so she opened up the box and it was a picture of her boyfriend. She said, This is a picture of my boyfriend. And I looked and I knew immediately, I was like, Wait, that's such a boyfriend. I knew that was somebody else's boyfriend.

SPEAKER_01: 27:55

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06: 27:55

And that person was in the class. And so when I saw that, I looked, I said, and I and I and I kind of cut my eye, and I saw that girl, and it was like a few other kids that knew that that boy dated that girl in the class too. And so it kind of got awkward. Uh-huh. And so the girl, it was her turn to present her box.

SPEAKER_01: 28:16

She had a minute.

SPEAKER_06: 28:16

She didn't, she didn't show that part.

SPEAKER_01: 28:18

Okay.

SPEAKER_06: 28:19

So, but I had already thought about it because I always look at the box to make sure. Because back then it was still magazines like source and stuff. So kids would say, My significant or my the person of my dream would be, and it would be like somebody with thongs or those pasties, or I was like, No, we can't show that. And so she said, I had a picture of my um person, but she said, but it didn't look right. So I was like, I didn't even want to show that picture. And so I knew something was gonna pop off. So I was like, When the girl that presented, I said, Hey, can you help me, you know, stack these boxes up? I said, I'll write you a pass. And then I told the other girl, I need you to help me too. So they both stayed out to clas after class, and then I started, I said, okay, now I got y'all here because I want y'all to talk about an awkward situation that occurred in the class. And so the girl that showed the boyfriend she didn't know.

SPEAKER_02: 29:14

Oh, you done set up mess. He is called. No, no, no, no. Look at Mar. Look at look at Jerry, Jerry, Jerry, Jerry.

SPEAKER_06: 29:22

This is because they were both good girls.

SPEAKER_02: 29:24

Okay.

SPEAKER_06: 29:25

And so I didn't want nothing to pop, and I didn't want the school other people to influence them. And so um I went and I and I talked to her and I said, Okay, well, this is what I said, the this significant other that you have, open your box, show me your significant other. And she showed her her significant other. And they was like, and the other girl that didn't know, she was like, Oh my god, I can't what what? And I said, I said, Look, I said, now this ain't between y'all two. I said, 'Cause neither one of y'all knew about each other. It's it's him. Right? And then so they was like, you right, you right, Mr. Because I wasn't coaching nothing then. They were like, You right, Mr. Hare, you right, you right, Mr. Hare. They said, that's cold. So they was talking like, so when how long you been dating? She said, We've been dating for like three months. She said, that's about almost the same time for us. Okay. So this was probably like a Tuesday. All right. And you know, every just everything was peaceful. A little, you know, no, I'm sorry, take it back. This was Thursday, so I didn't see them because we were on block schedule. So I didn't see them that Friday. So that was B Day. And so they come back to me on Monday, because on Monday you see everybody.

SPEAKER_00: 30:37

Uh-huh.

SPEAKER_06: 30:37

Um, periods one through six. And then it's A Day, B Day after that. So they said, Mr. Hell, we gotta talk to you. I said, What, what, what, what, what, what? So guess what we did? They said, what? We went out on a date. I said, You did? With who? With the with such such. I said, hold on. Both of y'all? They said, yes. I said, okay. So the girl who showed the picture, she said, Won't you take me out somewhere? And she said, Cool, where you want to go? So these are, you know, kids, they they love in and out of little places like that. So they went, they went to, but they went to, uh man, where was it? It was some little restaurant. Wherever it was, it was a cool little sit-down restaurant. And she said, and and then she said, Mr. Harry, guess who I invited? And then the girl said, Yep, sure did. And I said, Did you go? She said, Yes, I did. So she said, So what she did was she went to the bathroom. She said, I'll be back. I'm going to the bathroom. So when she went to the bathroom, that was the other girl's cue to come and sit down. So she said, and I came and sat down. You should have seen his eyes. His eyes got so big. And I was like, Oh, what you doing here? He said, What are you doing? He said, Oh, well, I suppose we meeting my um friend here. She told me to come, yeah, we were supposed to be eating um lunch or whatever. He said, Oh, oh, oh, oh, well, um, okay, well, how long are you gonna be here? He said, Well, she said, I don't see her nowhere. And then she said, by that time, the girl was coming back from the bathroom and she said, Oh, there she is. And then she walks, and then she sits down and said, Oh, hey. And so they both sat down and they said, and then he was just looking at both of them like, what like, you know, they couldn't say they say, okay, we already know. We already know. So, uh, and they say, and then the girl had already ordered a lot of food before she went to the bathroom. And so they said, Well, you know, we'll let you enjoy your dinner and we'll see you later. And they left, you know, out the door saying, not together, but they left together out the door. And they said, Oh my God, it felt so good. It felt so good to get that revenge. I was like, that was pretty good of y'all.

SPEAKER_02: 32:29

Oh, that's good.

SPEAKER_06: 32:30

Yeah. See, and see, I saved her, I brought peace together.

SPEAKER_01: 32:33

Jerry, Jerry, Jerry.

SPEAKER_06: 32:35

It wasn't no Jerry. It wasn't no Jerry, but it was that was that was crazy. So just that's like a little date part. All right.

SPEAKER_02: 32:42

Oh, okay. You well, okay. So that was one of the funny days. Or I don't know how funny. I guess it's funny because he what was funny about the three ladies sitting there and having a good time.

SPEAKER_06: 32:56

I don't know. You want to see another funny?

SPEAKER_02: 33:00

Um, I don't know where it's just move on. Yeah, let's move on. All right, so this one is called Stupid Dating Stories. Okay. So this is called the Tooth Fairy Guy. So sh this lady went on a date, and her date brought a little baggie with one of his baby teeth in it, claiming he always carried it for good luck. He even showed her the tooth mid-meal like it was a normal conversation.

SPEAKER_05: 33:35

Okay, what you would have done?

SPEAKER_02: 33:38

I don't like, I don't, I've never walked out on somebody on a date. So that just would have been a one and done. Like, that's kind of strange to be carrying your teeth. Even if it is good luck, then you just keep it in your pocket. But even I think later on, at some point, you're gonna find out about the lucky lucky tooth baby tooth. Yeah. And so it would have been done at some point because that is just weird carrying around.

SPEAKER_06: 34:12

His baby tooth for good luck.

SPEAKER_02: 34:13

Your baby tooth. Don't you still got your baby teeth?

SPEAKER_06: 34:15

At home. I think. Are they at home? They might be here. Uh but I don't carry them around. Like shake them up and say, hey, look what I got.

SPEAKER_02: 34:24

But why why you still got white?

SPEAKER_06: 34:27

I don't know.

SPEAKER_02: 34:27

We always always told them. Did we got the boy's baby? No, I made you throw them away. He tried to keep the boys' baby teeth. I said, child, just throw those teeth away.

SPEAKER_06: 34:35

Uh because I kept them. My my parents told me to keep mine. Maybe, maybe from the start, they didn't want you to, you know, they probably Is there a superstition? That's what I'm saying. They probably thought it was tied to you know how they stake up people's teeth and bones, and they probably said, keep the teeth with you, so won't nobody be practicing no hoodoo. No hoodoo with your teeth. You know what I'm saying? So, I mean, that's probably why we kept them.

SPEAKER_02: 34:57

Well, you should have kept one. They lucky.

SPEAKER_06: 35:00

Child, please. I got some more in here. I got some.

SPEAKER_00: 35:03

Mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_06: 35:05

For now. Although people say it don't look like I have teeth when I'm talking, so that's all good. Yeah, that's crazy. I I don't I don't know what I would do if somebody. That's weird. What's the weirdest date you ever been on?

SPEAKER_02: 35:19

Oh gosh. I've been dating.

SPEAKER_06: 35:23

Or the weirdest thing somebody has ever done. Like, even not necessarily while you were on a date or that you have dated. I don't know.

SPEAKER_02: 35:32

I don't I can tell this is like it goes with teeth.

SPEAKER_01: 35:36

Okay.

SPEAKER_02: 35:36

Okay, so my very first date ever. So I met someone like at a house party, right? And the house party was dark, like it was in somebody's basement, it was dark. And they seemed to look attractive. And so I was like, sure. So he was like, got his phone number, he calls like to go on a date. I was 15, and the rule was I had to be 16 to go on a date. But I was like turning 16 in like two months. And so um, so I told him, I was like, I gotta ask on a date, I really would like to go. And my daddy was like, no, and my mom was like, just go over to one of my friends' houses. Look at God and look how good I worked. Then go on the date. Just y'all call me when you leave and when you're coming back, because my friend knew the person, so it wasn't like a stranger or anything like that. So he comes to pick me up. It is no, he comes to her door, and he and then he smiles and his two front teeth. And I was like, oh no.

SPEAKER_06: 36:55

That's what you did.

SPEAKER_02: 36:58

Oh, they look real bad.

SPEAKER_06: 37:00

Maybe if you could have waited until you were 16, they probably would have turned.

SPEAKER_02: 37:03

Maybe so.

SPEAKER_06: 37:04

They weren't ripe yet.

SPEAKER_02: 37:05

Yeah, it was so bad. And so I still went on the date.

SPEAKER_06: 37:10

Oh, yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_02: 37:11

I went to, I think it was the movies or something. I think it were movies or to eat. To get them even more yellow with butter popcorn. Oh my gosh. I still went, but that was it was like first date, last date. So, yeah, that was with the teeth.

SPEAKER_06: 37:29

I don't I can't recall any weird dates. Uh a catfish. I had a catfish one time.

SPEAKER_01: 37:39

What was your catfish? I had a catfish too. Um what was your catfish? How'd you meet your catfish?

SPEAKER_06: 37:44

Um, I had done the show, you know, and I was getting a lot of like fan mail and stuff like that when I first did uh Road Rules in '98. And so I was getting fan mail and um I don't even think it was I don't even think because sometimes you would meet people on Black Planet, but I think this person was through actual fan mail, like written fan fan mail. And the person knew people at the school was coming down. So I was like, cool. She said, all right, just hook up, you know, describe yourself. She described herself and um athletic and the weight-wise, like 120 something, you know, probably like five, five.

SPEAKER_05: 38:22

I said, oh, shoot, you know. Yeah. And I said, all right, good, bet.

SPEAKER_06: 38:26

Yeah, described, say, I'm a little lighter than you.

SPEAKER_04: 38:28

I said, oh, okay, bet.

SPEAKER_06: 38:30

And so uh I had my wingman at the time, uh, Sharita, I said, look, I got a uh person that's supposed to be meeting me at the Applebee's. Um at a certain amount of time, I want you to come in and say, hey, what's going on? If I, if I, you know, if if I hold my drink up like this, I want you to come and it's positive.

SPEAKER_00: 38:54

Okay.

SPEAKER_06: 38:55

If I don't hold my drink up, I want you to come and say, yo, is something wrong? Your brothers or whatever, you need to come and handle business. I said, all right, cool. That was the plan. Okay. So I get there and I'm riding and I pull up in the parking lot and I t I ask her what she had on to describe what she had on. She said, What you gonna wear? And I said, What I was gonna wear, but I didn't wear what I was gonna wear because I wanted to be sure.

unknown: 39:17

Okay.

SPEAKER_06: 39:18

And so she said, What she had on, and I was like, I get up to the thing. And I'm like, And she said who she was with, and I see who she was with, and I'm I know her, I know him. That's her. Oh no.

SPEAKER_02: 39:37

Oh no, what's she?

SPEAKER_06: 39:38

And she didn't look like nothing like that.

SPEAKER_02: 39:40

Well, so it was like Friday when she said she looked like Janet Jackson.

SPEAKER_06: 39:43

He's like, you look more like Fred of Jackson. Yes. Like she, she was like, oh man. And um, I got up out of there. Well, I didn't even get up out of there. I I was like, I didn't go in.

SPEAKER_00: 39:57

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06: 39:58

And so I dipped and um went back to the to the uh my apartment. What did Sharita say? Because I called Sharita and said, hey, never mind, don't even worry about coming. It's like, oh my, what's what's going on? And I suppose she, you know, I should Oh, you lying. Let's go back up there.

SPEAKER_00: 40:16

I said, no, for what?

SPEAKER_06: 40:18

I want to see, I wanna see. I was like, nah. I said, we I said, you know, because it would have been cool just to meet a fan, but she lying, you know. Yeah, what she looked like and all that stuff. And I was like, child, you don't look nothing like you said you did, you know. And so uh that was my little catfish.

SPEAKER_02: 40:35

I had a catfish off of Black Planet. It was like when I moved to Dallas and the person, they wanted to, we met at the palm restaurant. So I was like, oh, it's a pretty nice restaurant. And honey, I promised he had to be like five foot and was much heavier than what he said he was. But I didn't, I didn't think like you thought to not say, and then that would have been a great strategy. So I did the dinner.

SPEAKER_06: 41:10

Oh, you didn't have an exit plan.

SPEAKER_02: 41:11

I didn't have an exit plan, so I did the dinner and was like, well, all right, one and done. Yeah, but I remember that they looked nothing. They I don't know where maybe that was a few years ago, but they had certainly uh shrunk in height and became a little wider.

SPEAKER_06: 41:30

Yeah, I would see a lot of people, because when I would do speaking engagements and stuff, and so people would find out I'm coming to their universal their city.

SPEAKER_00: 41:38

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06: 41:38

You know, the radio would promote or whatever. And so they would hit me up on Black Planet, hey, we come, you know, hook this, hook up, you know, whatever. But not hook up like that, but you know, I would just, I would love to, like, we would love to meet you and say, cool, so meet me at whatever. Yeah. So then when they get there, they're like, uh, hey, I'm such and such, such and such. I'm like, who? You know, I didn't have a we didn't have phones to reference back there.

SPEAKER_02: 42:01

And I was like, So where would you see the picture? They send you a picture or something?

SPEAKER_06: 42:05

No, they on Black Planet. They would do it on Black Planet, and so I would be like, and see, also, I would also like I would get on there and say, hey, I'll be at uh, for example, when I had to go to University Central Florida, hey, I'll be at University of Central Florida this weekend, looking forward to meeting everybody, you know, and especially I always reached out to my Alpha brothers. And um, so then they would call, like, because they would what we call DM now, they would hit me in the message and say, hey, bro, you want to come to a party? So they would, because they would, they would hit me a message, ask for my phone number, or I would get theirs, and then we would call, we would communicate like that. So then when they find out coming, then you have other people start to send messages, hey, I want to see you, da-da-da-da-da. And then you see all these people like, don't look nothing like their photos. Nothing. And you be like, because you know, like so you couldn't reference who they were because we didn't have a phone in front of us. Like nowadays, you go to their page.

SPEAKER_04: 42:57

You can see me like, oh no.

SPEAKER_06: 42:58

Yeah. Then it was just like, and then when they be talking, you're like, I don't know who Well, people still get catfish today? No, they do. They definitely do. So I was just saying, that was back then black planet catfish, though. That was that was fried fish back then. You know, on black planet. That was catfish nuggets.

SPEAKER_01: 43:14

Why do they call it catfish?

SPEAKER_06: 43:17

I don't know. Maybe because they look like most of them be looking like catfish.

SPEAKER_02: 43:21

They don't.

SPEAKER_06: 43:22

And whiskers.

SPEAKER_02: 43:24

That's a good question. Why do they call it catfish?

SPEAKER_06: 43:28

Maybe because catfish is ugly, but it tastes so good. And so they be like feeding you, feeding you all the stories about either, oh man, so good. Then when you get that fish, you're like, dude, this is a catfish?

SPEAKER_02: 43:38

Maybe you got hooked on something bad.

SPEAKER_06: 43:39

Probably so.

SPEAKER_02: 43:41

A bottom feeder.

SPEAKER_06: 43:42

But it's some other, it's some other fish that are ugly than catfish.

SPEAKER_02: 43:45

Now I'm interested in why they call it catfish.

SPEAKER_06: 43:48

Yeah. Because a flounder is an ugly fish. You know, it eyes, both of his eyes on the same side. Mm-hmm. Now you see somebody.

SPEAKER_02: 43:57

What is it? Well, for real, have you ever seen a cute fish? Some of them are.

SPEAKER_06: 44:04

That's why we have an aquarium. What's the angel fish? It was a nice fish.

SPEAKER_02: 44:08

I guess.

SPEAKER_06: 44:09

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02: 44:09

I guess you think of the colors of the fish and the things. Right. But the face.

SPEAKER_06: 44:14

I mean, it's but it's not as ugly as like that one fish with them big old cowlips on the teeth. Yeah. Look like they chat.

SPEAKER_02: 44:21

Oh, yeah.

SPEAKER_06: 44:21

Right. So it's an ugly fish. Yeah. And the ones with them big old, big old eyes.

SPEAKER_02: 44:27

Yeah, yeah. There's some ugly fish out there. That's interesting. Maybe y'all know why they call it why you're a big thing.

SPEAKER_06: 44:32

We used to call this one girl at Troy uh a sea bass.

SPEAKER_02: 44:38

No, I don't, that ain't right. What do y'all call that child a sea bass?

SPEAKER_06: 44:44

She just looked like a. Look like something that'd be in the water.

SPEAKER_02: 44:50

You know, my daddy, we when we were little, and I think it was my daddy that made up this name for this. There was this girl on our block, and my daddy used to call her Thriller.

SPEAKER_06: 45:01

She looked like Thriller for real?

SPEAKER_02: 45:03

I'm not saying that. And that was her nickname, Thriller.

SPEAKER_06: 45:07

Well, you know, it's only a few people on your block, probably better, so you might want to be quiet. That's true. She's listening. She's gonna look at you and be like, it wasn't me.

SPEAKER_02: 45:18

It was my daddy. It wasn't me.

SPEAKER_06: 45:22

You was talking about me.

SPEAKER_02: 45:24

Oh my gosh. Okay, let's talk about scary dating stories. All right. So this one. Oh, yes, I had. This calls this lady's on a van ride. And so she went on a date with a guy. He was supposed to be on her way, taking her home, but he started going another way, and she noticed that he was going um to darker streets, um, not the direction of her home, and she had to jump out of the car.

SPEAKER_04: 45:57

Oh my.

SPEAKER_02: 45:58

Um, and then when she um later spoke to people about the guy, like that wasn't his first time. Doing that? Yeah. I'm like, ain't nobody turned him in to the police? Like, why y'all just still? Did she turn them in? Yeah, did you turn him in? Because why y'all all still ain't nobody turned in this man? But knowing the police, they probably like, well, he ain't captured none of y'all yet. It's right. We can't do nothing about it. What do you pick up in a vague? Because I uh so uh I know I haven't had anybody try to do that.

SPEAKER_06: 46:29

No, not that, but the scariest date I've been on was me and my best friend doing telly I was talking about. Um was I I was in college then, and I came home and we met some girls in Mobile, and we went back to their house. Um and then while we were at their house, all of a sudden this car pulled up. And we in Mobile now. Like we in, but but where we were was like kind of like wooded area, kind of. Like, so I was like, yo, if we got the go-tell, I said, we're gonna run straight through them woods and just stay. I said, grab the back of my shirt and we're gonna keep running. I said, I think these city boys, they ain't gonna be able to handle the woods like they can handle them. And uh I said, we just gonna keep running straight. And uh so the guys uh came and then and the dude, and the girl said her dad broke up, you know, but he was he was mad that somebody was there. She was like, he does this all the time. I said, Why are you telling me he always coming, you know, to see if somebody at your crib?

SPEAKER_00: 47:27

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06: 47:28

And so she wound up calling her brother, and her brother came over at the house.

SPEAKER_03: 47:32

But them Jokers was talking about, we're gonna kill them, Joker, we're gonna kill them, you know.

SPEAKER_06: 47:36

I said, Oh Lord, tell her, we getting ready to die in Mobile.

SPEAKER_00: 47:39

Oh my god.

SPEAKER_06: 47:40

And so uh we wind up, um, you know, his brother, her brother came, and her brother knew some people that we knew. So, you know, especially what I knew from college, playing football. And he was, oh yeah, I mean, I know, y'all know all, oh, you good folk then, you know, good. So I said, all right, well, you make sure you joke and go. Yeah. He said, No, y'all good, baby. Y'all ain't got nothing to worry about. I I matter of fact, I'm gonna sit here. I said, nah, you ain't gotta sit here. I'm gonna I'm gonna be gone. I'm gonna go sit in my car and I'm gonna dip. And we left. And um, yeah.

SPEAKER_02: 48:10

Oh my goodness. I I remember dating somebody, and we were at a store, a record store, and some other guy was, I guess, looking at me, and they got so upset by that and tried to fight the person in the store. I said, Oh no, child, this is a done deal. Like, you can't be fighting everybody. Look at somebody. Yeah. Yeah. So to me, that was scary.

SPEAKER_00: 48:34

Yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_02: 48:36

Because you don't know what that could turn out to be.

SPEAKER_00: 48:38

You don't, yeah.

SPEAKER_02: 48:39

I did not think that that was charming or ooh, he don't know. Fight for me. Mm-mm. Not at all. That was done. That just is just silly. Nah. So mm-mm. So that was that to me was scary. It wasn't me getting um kidnapped or yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_06: 49:00

No, I ain't never been on the verge of being kidnapped. No thing.

SPEAKER_02: 49:03

I did not, and this wasn't a stalker, but I had a secret admirer once. It was a parent at a school I taught at. And we were trying to figure it out because chocolates, like the diver chocolates, would be delivered, and they would put like secret admirer flowers would be delivered to the school. Um, um, somehow they knew I worked out extra worked out, exercise clothes. So then my teacher friend across the hall, she said, I'm just gonna, you stand by your door like you greet your students. She said, I'ma just watch every dad that comes by here and see who I notice really like looking at you some kind of way. So she said, I think I know who it is. And so um, I forgot all the things that we did to pinpoint that it was him.

SPEAKER_00: 50:06

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02: 50:07

So then the next, so once we figured out who it was, he was married.

SPEAKER_06: 50:13

Oh Lord.

SPEAKER_02: 50:14

And so Tyler Perry movie. Yeah, and so she I was like, I'm not all these like, because you don't know who to give the gifts back to. So like the flowers and the chocolate and then the workout clothes, and I was like, I know who it is. I was like, this is inappropriate. And so I gave it to the child's teacher.

SPEAKER_06: 50:37

Oh, I thought we were about to say the child to take home.

SPEAKER_02: 50:41

And told her to give it back to the dad to say that this is inappropriate.

SPEAKER_06: 50:49

I wonder what that child teacher did.

SPEAKER_02: 50:53

She gave it to the it was actually our lead teacher. And she gave it back to the dad, and he actually came by my classroom and told me that I was inappropriate for giving that back to his son's teacher and his son um You're blowing his cover. Yes. He was inappropriate for blowing his cover.

SPEAKER_04: 51:18

I was inappropriate. He was crazy.

SPEAKER_02: 51:20

Yes, he was. So that one I was a little nervous of stalkery things like that because the things that he knew, like workout clothes and certain things, I was like, he's gotta be like watching me. Like, how does he know all these things? So that's how I felt at first.

SPEAKER_06: 51:35

But once he realized, oh, she gonna tell my cover, blew the lid off already. Uh-huh.

SPEAKER_02: 51:42

So he didn't want to mess up his livelihood. So then that was I said that's the only thing that will stop it. Wow. So that ended that real fast.

SPEAKER_05: 51:51

Crazy.

SPEAKER_02: 51:52

Mm-hmm. Sure enough. Yes, that is very bold. Trifling. Yeah. Very bold and trifling. All right, go ahead. What's next? Okay. So uh we did scary. So this is the old hell no.

SPEAKER_06: 52:17

Um, I read one, I forgot which one it was.

SPEAKER_02: 52:22

Was it something about the feet?

SPEAKER_06: 52:24

Yes. It was, I think I read all the old hell no, but that one's definitely one that was like, whoa, wait a minute.

SPEAKER_02: 52:31

Okay, yeah. So a lady went on a date, and her date asked if she would take her shoes off on the table. First of all, now I would have been like, let me get on up on this table. But anyways, unless she had a little freak in them. She's like, okay, like my toes. So thinking it was a quirky thing, she did it.

SPEAKER_06: 52:48

See, had a little freak in them.

SPEAKER_02: 52:49

Mm-hmm. Then he leaned down, mid-conversation, grabbed her foot, and whispered, perfect. She immediately left. First of all, you should have left when he told me, Take your shoe off, fool.

SPEAKER_06: 53:02

But then also, why you take your shoe off? If he said, Oh, these are perfect. Most women said, You know it, thank you.

SPEAKER_02: 53:08

Maybe it's the way he said it, because she said maybe he said it really creepy, like whispering, like perfect.

SPEAKER_04: 53:16

Perfect.

SPEAKER_02: 53:17

Well, I would have been interested. I would have first said, perfect for what? Right. So I gotta figure out what he's gonna say. Sucking these toes, you'd be like, Oh no, if it was a first date, I'd have been like, no, that's a little too merge. That's a niche merge. You're talking about sucking on my toes. Hey, yeah, maybe somebody would have, but some other somebody else might have been like, they wouldn't be like that. Turned on by him talk saying all that. But taking my shoes off, was it their first date? I don't know if it's their first date.

SPEAKER_06: 53:55

But it was somewhere up in there.

SPEAKER_02: 53:58

No, she just says on a date that her date acts. It didn't say if it was a first date or not. She said just on a date. What about this one? Where on a first date, a guy brought out tarot cards in the middle of the dinner and told the lady that my card say I am destined to marry that you and I are destined to marry within six months.

SPEAKER_05: 54:21

Yeah, that's a little crazy.

SPEAKER_02: 54:23

Yeah.

SPEAKER_05: 54:23

That's a little crazy, yeah.

SPEAKER_02: 54:25

There are some people into tarot cards. Maybe he should have found that out first.

SPEAKER_05: 54:29

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02: 54:30

Because there are people that are into tarot cards and they might have been like Yeah. I even But what if it was true?

SPEAKER_06: 54:39

I don't know. Well, is it she then she wouldn't have found it weird.

SPEAKER_00: 54:43

Yeah, that's true.

SPEAKER_06: 54:44

You know what I mean? She'd have been like, oh yeah, cool. You gotta share the same beliefs, I guess. Cause I even like I mean You know, people do astrological science. I understand that, you know, they do it, but there are some people that are so hung up with it that they be like, what are you? Or Virgo? Oh no. Virgos don't don't coincide with a such and such and such and such and such and such. You'd be like, all right, bet, thank you for allowing me to dodge this bullet. You know?

SPEAKER_02: 55:09

What's um has anybody you ever been on a date where somebody had like a quirky, they were did something strange or quirky, and you were like, I don't know about that.

SPEAKER_06: 55:20

Um one time this girl, uh, I didn't know she smoked, because we were always on campus every time I talked to her. And um and they invited me over, her roommates invited me over for dinner. And so when I get over there, I kind of smelled it, but I didn't think none of it because you know it's three young ladies there living. Just like when I was with my roommate, the first one, he was a smoker. Yeah, you know, into the tweeds and stuff. So, you know, but um so I'm over there chilling, and then she's uh, you know, grease me and gets gets comfortable. Next thing you know, just pull that pack.

SPEAKER_02: 56:03

I was like, what?

SPEAKER_06: 56:04

Pull that pack out and smoking and whoop whoop. And I said, oh because I I just didn't, you know, I'm not a a fan of smokers. But I was like, dang. She's smoking. And she just kept smoking, kept smoking. I mean, and I was like, just she was a nice young lady, but he's smoking.

SPEAKER_02: 56:21

And you told her?

SPEAKER_06: 56:23

Yeah, I told her the reason why yeah.

SPEAKER_02: 56:25

And what'd she say?

SPEAKER_06: 56:26

And she was like, What? I said, yeah. I said, you know, just we cool, you know. But it was just like the first part of dating, just kind of it wasn't even like, you know, I have feelings for you. It was just like it was, you know, I said, nah, we can't, you smoke, man. You don't get down with smokers. And it's like, oh well, you know, so but she we s we're still cool as far as you know, talk to each other in class and all that stuff. Yeah. But it was definitely a person like, oh, I I could, I hope this goes well so I can go out on another date with her. Because in class she was cool. She was cool, yeah. Yeah, but after that, I was like, uh, oh well.

SPEAKER_02: 56:59

I when I was in college, I dated somebody that was a smoker. And I said, I would never do that. And I did. And then I remember one time, like we were dating, I was in the car with him and his cousin, and they both were smoking. I was like, oh, Jesus. It was so it was just like you just trapped in cigarette, and that's when I was like, What? I said I would not date a smoker. And yeah, it really was just very unattractive. Yeah, stayed true. Yeah, I just just stuck with with uh with that. I remember somebody else I dated in college, they had a best friend who had really bad halitosis. He was riding in the backseat, and every time he talked, oh man, it was so bad that you like don't even ask a question. Don't everybody just everybody just be quiet. This is a silent trip.

SPEAKER_06: 57:54

Mm-mm. Mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_02: 57:56

It was bad.

SPEAKER_06: 57:58

That ain't good at all, right there.

SPEAKER_02: 58:00

It was bad. It was so bad.

SPEAKER_06: 58:04

I know it. Yeah, nah, I I I'm just not a fan of, you know, the smoke. Um breath is something, but I ain't never got close enough to a girl and realize, oh shoot, her breath state. No. Um anything else? I can't think. That's that's probably something else I think about. It's like, oh, I forgot all about such and such.

SPEAKER_04: 58:26

Yeah, you think about it later.

SPEAKER_06: 58:28

I forgot all about this person. Yeah. Yeah. But uh, nah. I mean, of course, like people telling me I was too nice.

SPEAKER_02: 58:37

Oh, like you go on date and they say, Oh, you're just too nice.

SPEAKER_06: 58:40

Yeah, you're too nice.

SPEAKER_02: 58:41

Yeah, I don't think I'm I always think that's so crazy if people say that people are too nice.

SPEAKER_06: 58:47

Mm-hmm. No, I no, there were people who said I was too nice, and then later on in the relations in their relationships, I see why, because they were in harbor relationships. And those weren't used to it. And those relationships lasted. And I was like, yo, y'all are toxic for each other. Well, he's toxic for you. And they was almost like, and it was funny because when they see me, it was like a help. You know what I mean? It was like they'll see me like, and I'll say, hey, what's up?

SPEAKER_02: 59:14

And they were like, look at me like, like, oh no.

SPEAKER_06: 59:20

I'm too nice.

SPEAKER_00: 59:21

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06: 59:22

You know what I'm saying? And so it but they knew that I'm in this relationship. And I was like, hey, what's up? Because I speak to everybody, whether, you know, whatever. Like, I don't have nobody, even people that have probably try to do me crazy, I still speak. You know what I mean?

SPEAKER_01: 59:42

Very kind.

SPEAKER_06: 59:42

Because I'm over it.

SPEAKER_01: 59:43

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06: 59:44

You know, and I can still speak to you, you know, hey.

SPEAKER_02: 59:47

That's true.

SPEAKER_06: 59:48

Yeah. And a lot of times that that hurts them even more to know that you're seen it seeming unfazed by then. But yes, they would I've I've had a few people tell me I was too nice. Yeah. So I'm like, hey, if that's the reason, thank you. I dodged that bullet.

SPEAKER_02: 1:00:05

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06: 1:00:06

You know? So I'm cool with that.

SPEAKER_02: 1:00:08

Yeah. I wonder what they would say now. Did they what did they end up in the end with? Because I think uh I won't say everybody goes through a bad boy phase, but people probably have dated somebody that I think there's different classes of bad boys. But I you know, like did they get stuck in that phase? Was it just a phase and now they ended up marrying the good guy? I wonder.

SPEAKER_06: 1:00:36

Yeah, because I know like a lot of when, you know, in college, because especially when I was at state, because I cheered. So when I cheered, you know, I hung around the whole Chilean's fuck, you know, all the time. And so, and their friends and stuff, and they would be like horrible situations in their relationships, you know. And I was like, why? Why y'all, why are y'all attracted to these knuckleheads? You know what I'm saying? And then us, they consider us to be squares or whatnot, but we kick it just as hard as the rest of them, but it's just the fact that we are respectful, you know, things like that is so I don't know, but it's definitely a phase that I have, like I say, I ain't never been no woman, but I have experienced women fiending for the bad boys. They want that, you know what I'm saying? And then they, like you said, some of them grow out of that phase.

SPEAKER_00: 1:01:26

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06: 1:01:27

And some of them get stuck in it. And then unfortunately, for them, some of them got stuck in that phase too long because when I moved on, they were finally looking for that good guy. I was with someone else. You know, and it was an all shoot. Especially like that one time that I went when went to the uh Well they say all shooting. But that's what it made me think of the girl at home. This girl at home, boy, she was bad, boy. That girl, whoo, she was put on them uh Jordan's jeans. Mm-hmm. And you know the Jordan jeans make y'all booties look right back then. You know, we little boys, we anything, right? And so, but you know, I went through my phases of being fat and you know, my pants, thighs rubbing together, and I had to wear corrective shoes, and you know what I'm saying? And I got slapped in public by my girlfriend so she could prove that she didn't like me like me. You know what I'm saying? So I was I was a little mess. But I went home for dad's procedure. The first time daddy had a procedure, I had to go home. And um she was in the hospital waiting room, and she and I saw it, I was like, oh my goodness. She was like real, just um retained a lot of water and um everywhere.

SPEAKER_02: 1:02:46

Her face, I think it was water, but it was everywhere like her eyes like this, and then she You going to hell by yourself. I ain't going to hell with you.

SPEAKER_06: 1:02:56

And then she said, Hey Keefla. Oh, mm, you know, and I said, and I look, I had to remember who she was, I said, Oh, I remember who she was. And that's one I remember. I tell you, she said, how many chillin' you got now? Chillin'? Ooh, so I I know some lady let you give her about 12 chillings. I said, Nah, I ain't got number two twins. And she was like, Oh, you got twins? I said, mmm. I thought you would have had about 12, 12, uh 20 chillin' now. I said, nah, I'm good. And I knew she had a lot, but I was just like, oh man, I dodged that bullet. Shout out to God for that. That was a good one. That was a good one. But uh anyway, anyway, sometimes being nice helps, man. See, there's nice and I told her to boy, I had thought about you. I said, nah, when I was younger, I was too nice, remember? Yeah, he just started laughing. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. I said, Well, you know, left it like that. I said, I was too nice. Thank God I was too nice.

SPEAKER_02: 1:04:03

Oh my God. Yes. Chow, chow, chow, child, chow. How old were you and you on your first date? Because you got all your cousins. Yeah, I mean, who uh Foley is all your cousins. I was How old were you?

SPEAKER_06: 1:04:18

16. Oh. I was in 11th grade.

SPEAKER_02: 1:04:21

Okay.

SPEAKER_06: 1:04:22

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02: 1:04:23

Um It wasn't with your cousin. I'm just kidding. I'm just kidding.

SPEAKER_06: 1:04:28

I was in the 11th grade, and I had, of course, had, you know, you had to ask the parent, um, can I Oh did you? I want to take your daughter out. Uh that's like a proposal. To the movies. You know, and I'll take her out to the movies.

SPEAKER_00: 1:04:43

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06: 1:04:43

Um it's gonna be Saturday. We're gonna go to the movies right up here. Well, no, we went to Pensacola.

SPEAKER_00: 1:04:49

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06: 1:04:49

We're gonna go to Pensacola, we'll leave here at six, and um I'll have her back by well, my curfew then. Was it 9 30? So I think we went or 'cause we watched a seven o'clock movie. So eight.

SPEAKER_00: 1:05:05

Mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_06: 1:05:05

No, so about six o'clock movie, yeah. So I because I had to be home by nine thirty. Okay. Um so that means I had to have her back at least at nine. Yeah. So um, yeah, we had to ask, you know, I had to ask my parents, of course, too, first. Then I asked and I said, my dad said it was okay. And so, yeah, so I went on s at 16. And man, I probably only went my 11th grade year, I probably only went on about maybe three dates.

SPEAKER_00: 1:05:31

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06: 1:05:31

And then my senior year, um, I was dating someone, and her parents was real strict.

SPEAKER_00: 1:05:38

Mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_06: 1:05:38

But she was out of school then. And so we only well, we only dated, we only dated for the first, like the first few months, and then she started dating this other dude, this another non-nice dude. Yeah. And um, so I would date people that was in other cities, like in Banget or Nobody Mobile. I didn't date nobody mobile until like after college. But it was just too far, I couldn't really look at it. So I didn't really have no date. So when I that's why when I went to college, I went Buck Wild. Because it was like, oh my God, I can date people, um, you know, not just this one. I can it's not like you standing in line waiting on somebody to break up with this person. Uh uh-huh. Then you hopefully get your chance. You know what I'm saying? Um, so that yeah, I I went crazy in college because I was like, oh my God, I could date. So I was just thinking about, I was thinking my priorities was girls, football, then academics. Oh. Because then my freshman year, I play as too. So when I play as I was thinking about just making sure I knew my stuff. And then so my GPA went down drastically after my freshman year. Yeah, so um, but I was yeah, I wasn't a a big dater. And like I said, I was I was green. I had common sense, yeah, but I was green to thinking somebody wouldn't do me that way.

SPEAKER_04: 1:07:08

Oh, I learned that out real fast.

SPEAKER_06: 1:07:10

Yeah, I got I got uh I got when I I'm in one night coming from you know festivities. College? Yeah, okay, in college coming from um fraternal festivities.

SPEAKER_00: 1:07:23

Okay.

SPEAKER_06: 1:07:24

My freshman year. And um we're out and about looking for stuff, doing what we was supposed to be doing, and I see this person I was supposed to be boyfriend and girlfriend with, and she creeping over to this uh other guys, huh? Yeah, to other fraternity members. One of them fraternity members. I said, I be got so I called her, I said, What you did? You know, what you do last night? Oh, we stayed in the dorm all night. I said, and this mother's gonna lie. I said, at least you could have said you went to such such apartment, you know, somebody that lived in that apartment, and and then Flynn was like, she lying, why? She lied. We saw her, we saw She lying. I said, I know she lying, Flynn, I know she lied. And so uh that situation, and then like before another time in college, uh I ran into one of my we weren't, we were, we were dating at the time, ran into her boyfriend, her other boyfriend at a basketball game. Didn't know neither one of us was coming to see her play, because she played collegially. And uh that was crazy. And it just, you know, I was just so green at little stuff like that, man. Because like I said, I didn't I didn't date, you know, and so when I was starting, I was like, okay, so be smart about it. Be smart about it. And uh yeah.

SPEAKER_02: 1:08:45

I learned that quick in high school, my freshman year, huh? They was ooh, they're they they those little high schoolers. Yeah, I I can imagine. Yeah, and so then to me, it made so for me, I was like, well, this the game y'all playing. Yeah, look, I'm do I need to be playing the same game so that your feelings don't get hurt, you know, because you get your feelings hurt. And so yeah, I learned that quick in high school that, yeah, that's yeah, I tried to get emotionally unattached.

SPEAKER_06: 1:09:18

Uh-huh. Yeah. You know, um, but it was just hard for me to beat because I was just feeling like I'm not doing right. I'm not doing right by somebody by not being emotionally attached, by not opening up all of who I am, you know, to, you know, to dating someone or whatever. And but, yo, it was, I was seeing people do it all the time. I was like, dang. And then I was being done that way, and the next thing you know, I'm hanging with somebody, like I say, well, I don't share. Hey, man, who you dating? And I want to tell her because one day say, well, Keithla can pull her. I know I can pull her, and that's what they would be trying to do.

SPEAKER_02: 1:09:49

Well, and I guess when I said you were being Jerry, Jerry, that was kind of good because it would be that way where people, I don't know if like how people, the the person who was the cheater would spin the story to make it look like you, you know. So then the girl is mad at you, and you like, wait, I didn't even know y'all were boyfriend, girlfriend. And so um, yeah, that that all becomes real real tricky um with dating. And I know everybody wants like these little high schoolers, you come home talking about all the heartbreaks and all the things they go through trying to be dating somebody and getting their feelings hurt.

SPEAKER_06: 1:10:32

Yeah, you know I heard it. Coaching all the girls' sports I've coached, high school sports. Oof. Storytime, that's what they take. They say, coach hair, story time is all Lord. That means something went down.

SPEAKER_02: 1:10:45

And even dating now for them, like if you take some a girl to the movies and to out to eat, goodness gracious, that's a hundred dollars. It is, it's a lot. I mean, it was not nearly that expensive when we were young, dating or whatever, but now I don't even know how they can afford to take somebody out and date.

SPEAKER_06: 1:11:04

And for us too, like I was like, even somebody just like, hey, let's just go to the Pizza Hut Buffet.

SPEAKER_01: 1:11:10

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06: 1:11:11

They they can't even do that now because that's looked as why you do that? Oh, you went to buffet, you went to get coffee, you went to do, you know what I'm saying, Starbucks. And so it's it's uh it's a status thing for them when they go out to eat.

SPEAKER_02: 1:11:24

Let me tell you something. I think it's okay if a girl don't want you on the first date just to go to coffee or to go have a glass of wine or how depending on how old you are. I think that's appropriate. Because let me first see how much I want to invest into this thing. Let's see first, do we click before I even go and do that? I personally for me, if I were like dating age or still dating, and a guy asks me out to coffee or for a glass of wine, that would be fine for me.

SPEAKER_00: 1:11:56

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02: 1:11:57

Because it also is not gonna waste my time. I I don't have to spend a whole evening and I'm like, ah, I'm not feeling this. But it's to me, it's save, it's saving me time and me and me like wait wasting your time. Right. I don't know. I think that's fine because sometimes there are some people who have stories of they'll do the coffee or the wine and then they like really click, they spend two hours just talking and they end up going to get dessert somewhere or they do something else, they extend the date beyond that. But I think that to me, uh, in these days and times, that's what I would do. And if she does not want to do that, then that is not the one for you.

SPEAKER_06: 1:12:36

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02: 1:12:36

That's how I personally feel.

SPEAKER_06: 1:12:38

But uh for me, cooking was my thing. Like I would be like, I invite you over to my apartment and cook for you. Because, you know, it was it was cheap for me. And I could cook. And I knew in college, you know, whatever I'm saying in college, because when I girls, shoot, they was in a dorm. They wanted some real food.

SPEAKER_02: 1:12:57

And that's true.

SPEAKER_06: 1:12:58

You know what I mean? They wanted some real food.

SPEAKER_02: 1:13:00

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06: 1:13:01

You know, or, you know, uh one of the other things was where me and um, like, what Russ would do, Russ and I, we would, like, uh, he would come and visit me sometimes. And so I would just invite over, like, uh some cheerleaders and tell Sharita to invite some of her girls, and it'll probably me, Russ, or probably two other guys. So it may be like 10 girls. And so I'm cooking, and then now everybody's chilling. Yeah, and we're just trying to see who out of the bunch you vibe with. Yep. Who's worth it and who's who's busy trying to worry about is such and such coming to pick them up from my house or whatever like that. So, you know, little things like that. Um, but it was cheap, because even if you just did a cheap spaghetti, you know, it was just the the company and the atmosphere. But you do you try to pull that over now, these girls would cause they want some lamb chops. I'm telling you what my students said.

SPEAKER_00: 1:14:00

Oh, really?

SPEAKER_06: 1:14:01

Yes. Yes. Coach Hare, he took me and he was talking about just go to uh was like one of the little um What's that little like it's not like Hooters, the one we just I just mentioned it. It's like they could like bar food, though. It was over there where it used to be California Dreaming. Oh Mills Air High.

SPEAKER_00: 1:14:21

Oh, that wasn't good enough?

SPEAKER_06: 1:14:22

No.

SPEAKER_00: 1:14:22

Oh, yeah.

SPEAKER_06: 1:14:23

No, they wanted to go into the city or down somewhere at the battery down there and and yeah.

SPEAKER_02: 1:14:29

Oh no, that that would be some time for me before I did that. That's not a they want to that's not a first, second, or third. That's a uh we boyfriend, girlfriend date. That's how it would be for me.

SPEAKER_06: 1:14:40

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02: 1:14:41

And most of these girls I mean, they are high school students.

SPEAKER_06: 1:14:44

Yeah, most of my students, though, it's funny because this what this is their range of of uh menu. Chicken tenders or lamb chops. Like they ain't gonna try nothing to do. Ain't no in between. No, it's either it's gonna be if if if they don't have lamb chops, just give me chicken tenders.

SPEAKER_02: 1:14:58

Well, guess what? You can go for chicken tenders.

SPEAKER_06: 1:15:00

Zaxby's. Zaxby's Chick-fil-A everywhere for chicken tenders. Guthrie's. Yes, but they they gotta have that fancy stuff. Oh no. That's why I always I said, man, if y'all was, I said, my boys right now would be struggling.

SPEAKER_02: 1:15:13

Oh, they would be, because we didn't, I mean, like, they do know fancy. Yeah. Um, but if they came to us and said they go on a f they go on a first date and they taking the girl to some place. Now this a first date, why are we going there? Yeah. Like we would that would listen, I'm not, I'm not funding that. And she ain't the girl if that's where she's trying to tell you to take her.

SPEAKER_06: 1:15:36

Right, right, right.

SPEAKER_02: 1:15:37

No, not on a first date. No. Mm-mm. That is not happening.

SPEAKER_06: 1:15:41

Yeah. But all right, let's move on to the uh latter part of our episode. Let's get to the side out of the week.

unknown: 1:15:50

Oh my gosh.

SPEAKER_01: 1:15:51

What's your side?

SPEAKER_06: 1:15:52

All right, my side out of the week. Remember when we took uh we w we celebrated with Deja this this past weekend, right?

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Yeah.

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And so once we left the restaurant, we were trying to find somewhere to go.

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Mm-hmm.

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So we go to this little spot where everybody was young, right? So I'm I'm pulling up. I'm already knowing the vibe because I'm looking, I'm saying, man, these little young kids. They were young. You know, you could tell by the little clothes they had on, young clothes, everything was uh hot topic, Claire's, what's the other little rainbow, look, whatever y'all go?

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I don't know. Yeah, that's rainbow still looks like that.

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And the fellas, you know, you could tell they was all dressed the same, you know, the jeans the same and the, you know, all that stuff, but just looking Sheen. Yeah, so I said, oh man, we we don't belong here. We're too old for this. So we're trying to just pre-nell and the entourage trying to decide what they want to do, but I'm like, okay, this is where they told us to go. Let's go ahead and get in line, because the line is growing. If if we're going in, let's go ahead and go in and do whatever. So I'm standing in line. All right. Um, I'm dressed nice, okay? Uh, and these little young cats come up. Oh my God. They weren't too young, they was in their 20s or whatever, but I mean, they're still young. So don't joke is just gonna catch. And he was he was sincere. He said, OG, OG, hey, hey, OG. Yeah, you sure where you get that shirt from that shirt, dope as hell, OG. I said, smile. OG. I said, I said, man. You know, I said, what? I said, because even unc would have been, because you could be a you could be an uncle younger than your nephew. Yeah. You know, in the hood. You could be an uncle younger than your nephew. But when you can't be an OG and be young, you're, you're, you're, that's old status. And I said, well, not old status, but that's older than the rest status. So I was like, so I said, this man called me OG. I know we ain't supposed to be in that club. I'm chaperoning a field trip. That's what I'm doing. And they still over there down at the bottom. I'm standing in line because I'm like, okay, I got it.

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I wasn't standing in line.

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Yeah, none of y'all was standing in line except me. And then I knew we, I was like, they don't want to be here, but we got to be in line. Because if not, then, you know. So then I was just had enough. I said, you know what? Screw it. Let me get out of line. Because they everybody talking about OG, and then you see if people look, they got it like, why do these old folks doing up in here? So let me get out of line. So I got out of line. That was my side out of the week being caught OG in the line up in the midst of all these little young cats, while uh everybody else was over there uh chilling. I was like, oh, I was taking the dog.

SPEAKER_02: 1:18:42

Oh no, babe, they called you OG.

SPEAKER_06: 1:18:45

Right, yeah. Uh, but you're in a nurse. Yeah, it's on it. No, it's too late. I was already injured and everything by the.

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Oh my gosh, his little feelings were so hurt.

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OG, where you get that shirt from.

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And you was looking good. I know I was looking good. They were looking a pickle, too. Talking about his shirt. You should have seen their little raggedy outfits in line. They looked a pickle.

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And I said I don't fault the young man because you could tell he was sincere. Because he was he was dressed nicely in his streetwear. You know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_02: 1:19:21

We were more like And they were some nice gentlemen.

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They were now they were Oh, they were nice gentlemen. They were good cats.

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Yeah.

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But you know, I can, you know, I you know how we know we know ain't no ain't no judgment. Like I was like, yeah, they just cool cats. You know, but OG, I said, because he was being respectful.

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Yeah.

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OG, I said, dang. You know what I'm saying? So that's my side eye.

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Oh no. I I'm trying to think that I have a side eye um since the last time we were here. And nothing is standing out. The only thing that's a side eye for me, and it's not really like a side eye, but our niece, um, for her birthday weekend, her boyfriend had things planned, and as they're trying to decide, because the line was too long and deciding what the actor was gonna look like. She was so wanting to please everybody, and I kept having to tell her, this is your day. You do what you want to do. You don't have to worry about other people, they're here to celebrate you. So wherever you go, wherever you do, they're gonna roll with it. You, this is the one day that you can be completely selfish and be able to think about you. And that was so challenging for her. Yeah, we talked about it later, and she was saying, you know, because people had traveled and had come, she, you know, just didn't want them to like not have a good time. I said, Well, they have they came to be with you. So whatever you, whatever was happening to celebrate your birthday, they would have been fine with that. So, and I and I I would have to sometimes even probably give myself the side eye for that because I I always I I'll say I used to because now I do not. I don't know that because I'm two years away from 50, but now I I'm not going to I'm gonna do what I want to do. I'm not gonna sacrifice my peace or my happiness or have to complain about it later. I'm just gonna do what I need to do, and then whoever didn't like it.

SPEAKER_05: 1:21:48

Sorry about that, my bad.

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You'll be all right, yeah. So, but um, she just turned 30. So if in my 30, I definitely would plan things and put everybody else first, thinking about that, and then later be like, ah, why did I do that? I should have da da da. So um, yeah, and so she was doing what she was she was trying to put people first, and it was her day.

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Yeah.

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So we talked about it later. Um, that no, you you have to remember that it's your day. You do what you want to do on your day.

SPEAKER_06: 1:22:29

Yeah. So I get you you don't get those particular milestones again. Like you do, you get other milestones. Like you get a, you know, this was her 30, so she'll get a 40th, she'll get a 45, she'll get a 50, you know, but you don't get your 30th again. So just make sure you maximize it. Um and then, you know, if if people get disappointed or offended or mad that you did something you wanted to do on your day, maybe that's an evaluation you need to have about them.

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About them.

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Yeah.

SPEAKER_02: 1:23:02

Especially if they bring it, like if they come to you about it, then that definitely is uh well, look like you won't be in my 40s.

SPEAKER_06: 1:23:10

Right, right, correct. Correct.

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But um, yeah. So that was a little bit of a side eye, but just because her remembering that it was her day, that yo, no, it ain't it's not about everybody else, it's about you.

SPEAKER_06: 1:23:25

Yep.

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And that's okay.

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That's right. That's right. All right. So what are you looking forward to? Um, what are you thankful for? You know, what are you thankful for?

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Let's see. Um, I'm thankful um that I have a job or career where we get fall breaks. Um, yeah. And and you still get paid during your fall break.

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Yeah.

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Um, so anyways, I appreciate the time to just kind of reset, reboot, and be ready to do it all over again. So I'm thankful for that. And then this is what I'm looking forward to. I know we have an event. Um, if you wanted to share that part about this weekend, we're going to Alabama State um homecoming. Homecoming.

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Right.

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But um, one thing I'm excited about, I'm gonna try a new nail technique on my nails. I've been saying I'm gonna get it, but this I'm gonna really get it this time. I'm gonna get the cat eye thing with a magnet little trick on your nail thing that looks kind of glassy. I'm gonna get those nails for um homecoming. Um, somebody was wanting me to get um get a hornet on there. Yeah, this morning, y'all. He was like, get a little, why don't you get a hornet on your nail? Uh yeah. I'm not getting a hornet on my nail. I wouldn't even get anything like that on my nail.

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Get a wheat shocker on there.

SPEAKER_02: 1:24:56

I wouldn't get a wheat shocker either.

SPEAKER_06: 1:24:58

Right. I wouldn't get a wheat shocker on nothing. Not even a shirt. On stuff it's supposed to be on.

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Don't talk about my college.

SPEAKER_06: 1:25:06

Right.

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But anywho, I'm not getting a hornet nor a wheat shocker, but I'm gonna get the metal. Well, it's not even metallic, but it's you they do like little things with the with the magnet, but it's called a cat eye, but it looks like glassy like. Anywho, I'm gonna try that for my nails this week. Okay. So I'm looking forward to that because I've been saying I'm gonna do it, so I'm gonna finally do it.

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Cool. Well, I'm looking forward to uh, of course, homecoming this weekend. Um it's always good to to see uh just everybody because you know, my fraternity brothers and just just friends, period. You know, I it's so many people that I've rocked with um at Alabama State, and it's just always good to be back home and see them. Um see the band, uh, be in that presence. Uh what else am I looking forward to? Oh, I'm approaching, I'm close to getting out of these last two class not last two classes. Uh these two classes I'm taking right here, that is mini semester. Then I have two more from October to December, and then practicum internship. And I think two more. So they have four classes total on top of my practicum internship. So I'm kinda happy to get done with all this stuff, so to see what happens next. Um I still need to get my internship site though. Yes. I gotta get by January. So anybody out there in the Metro Atlanta area, close, not too far, that's willing to take me on as an internship and uh you do mental health counseling or um um what is it, psychological testing, anything like that, um let me know. Hit me up. All right, I need a site. All right, uh let's get up out of here. Thank y'all for watching. Thank you for listening, thank you for supporting. And uh can't wait to continue on.

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This is can't wait to continue on.

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Continue on what? Continue on with the podcast.

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Oh, sometimes, man, when when the fragrance of hate is so rich in other people's perfume.

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I just was not expecting you to say I can't wait to continue on.

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All right, y'all. Well, it's always something at the end, huh?

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Continue on, sir.

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There's always something at the end. So I'm gonna just go ahead and get up out of here. Thank you for listening to the Refreshing Normal Podcast.

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