Homecoming Plans, Classroom Truths, and Laughs

A first grader hands a bus driver a note—“Call 911. My mom is being held hostage.”—and everything stops. We walk through what happened, why a quick-thinking adult matters, and the unglamorous systems that make help possible: routes, names, addresses, dispatch, and the calm to act when rules say “no phones.” That story threads into our life in schools—Kefla’s first IEP in a decade, the anxiety and pride of getting the details right, and the daily tug-of-war between data demands and the five-minute rituals that actually move learning forward.

We talk vocabulary gaps you can hear in a room, how standards crowd out synonyms, and how a simple circle—“How are you, really?”—teaches feeling words, builds trust, and quietly makes readers. We even bring AI into the mix: useful when your prompts have shape, a burden when teachers are already sinking. And because life isn’t just heavy, we veer into homecoming plans, chili season supremacy, a cursed chicken Philly quest that ends in hangry surrender, and a house divided over Napoleon Dynamite and Adam Sandler. Marriage gets its humor chapter: Tulum misadventures, kids improvising duct-tape casts, and why you shouldn’t sit by us at serious events. We close with EV tire lessons (rotate them!), spa bucket lists, and a simple truth—this podcast is our weekly ritual of noticing, laughing, and building a small legacy our family can revisit.

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Catch-up and Weekly Check-ins

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The refreshingly normal podcast.

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Welcome back, everybody.

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Welcome back.

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I am Kefla.

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I am Cree.

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And you are watching and listening to the Refreshingly Normal Podcast. Thank you for tuning in. We hope that you've been enjoying all of the episodes so far. But we have tons of episodes, tons of stories to tell, and uh we're just gonna break them off one week at a time. So, Krisha, let's start with you. Yes, Kitty. Um, how was your day? Oh, how was your week since we last filmed? It's been a few years.

SPEAKER_00 0:56

Since we last yeah, it's just yeah, it's been a few, well, yeah, a couple of days, right? A couple days, yeah. Um, my week has been uh a fine, same old same.

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Okay.

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Um, I'm trying to think, did anything like really stand out for this week? Um I can't think of any standouts this week. Um I'm trying to think of like something stand out like like amazingly well, but I woke up this morning.

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Amen.

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Um, so I guess that is something to be grateful for. Oops, it dropped over my water. Um, so that was great. And uh, yeah, I mean that's I mean, I don't really Good job. Well I don't know why you make me go first. I never go first because um it takes me a minute for my for my brain to get into and you be like we're just sitting here in front of the phone with the light on.

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We're just gonna be sitting here. No oh, we're actually gonna be doing a podcast. Okay. Gotcha.

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I just need somebody else to get the podcast part is stored.

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Well, you gotta sit in the element.

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You sit in and you start.

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I'm sitting in.

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Okay, go.

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Ladies and gentlemen, so um, well, this week for me, um, I had my first IEP, but I didn't actually have to like do the whole thing. Um one of my, well, my actual department chair, he ran it so that I could, because uh it's been 10 years since I've done my last one. And uh they was like, well, you you can be the evaluator. So I was being the evaluator, typing the minutes, paying attention, and I was writing little notes about, you know, uh verbiage to use, how to make sure uh everything is is, you know, being, I guess saying, handled from top to bottom, you know, fine-toothed comb, making sure the uh child is getting all the accommodations and modifications they need. So uh it was good because everything that I put into the system um for the most part was correct. I'll say about 93% correct. The other stuff was just minor little things. They say, well, just change this and change that. Um but it wasn't like, oh no, you messed that up. So I was I was excited about that. I'm I'm I'm pleased that it turned out great. Um what else uh this week? Oh man, it was hard to get in the gym. Like, I I mean not getting in there, but once I'm in there, yeah, it was tough. But what's so cool was uh my buddy Wayne, who's always in there.

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Yeah.

Gym Grind, Stamina Goals, and Doggieland Suit

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He was like, you know, it was hard for him too. And Wayne be going hard. He said, man, it was so tough. I said, dude, I felt the same way, so I felt good about that. Um but back in there, because this week I was supposed to be going heavy for a while. I was supposed to be going heavy for a month. And then, because I I tapered off last month, and I just I did uh because two months prior I was doing heavy. So now I I tapered off this past month and I was just doing repetitions. Um you know, moderate weight, but now I'm gonna go heavy and I'm not doing cardio at the beginning or intense cardio. I was running last month month. This month now I'm just walking uh 15 to 20 minutes inclined and then going heavy because if I run, I'll be too weak to go heavy, you know. And so uh I gotta pick up my cardio over these next two months because I have that deal with uh Doggy Land, where I'm supposed to be, you know, in the character suit for the uh Arizona bowl. So I gotta get my stamina back. So I need to get me a weighted vest because that suit is like 30 pounds. So and it's Arizona. Yeah, but it's gonna be Yeah, but still, it's is it's we're coming from cooled air, then we're gonna be going to a kind of hot temperature.

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I don't know what the temperature is.

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Temperature in Arizona, but it's that time of year. It's gonna be. No, it's not gonna be summer, but it's Arizona. Yeah. And and then because you know normally we're inside. But even then you gotta turn the air off because the air messes up with the microphones and all that stuff. So when you're in on set, they shut off the AC. What? I mean, I st uh I you know what? Did I have the AC in that? I don't even remember having the AC in I remember hip hop hair, I had an AC, uh uh, a fan in the helmet. But in the um Bob Wizzle costume, I don't even think I had a a fan in there last time. When I did it this summer. That's interesting. I need to check that. But anyway, I'm trying to get that right. And um, so I'm making sure get my get my diet right too. So my goal is because that suit was a little too tight, uh, because David's not as hefty as I am. So I wanna I probably want to drop about maybe 10 pounds by then 10, 15 pounds. So we'll see.

SPEAKER_00 6:29

Yeah. Well I was trying to decide if I was gonna talk about work. Because you know, my work is a little bit different in regards to sharing. You know what I'm saying? Yeah, what don't talk about then. I'm not gonna talk, talk, talk about it, but I'll talk about it. So, you know what I'm saying? How you say that?

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Because you're gonna you're not gonna be able to share. Cause every time I get ready to say something, if y'all pay attention to the other uh episodes, y'all always hear this.

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Don't say can't you say that? Can't you say that? Oh no, don't you say that? Don't let them know where I'm at. Oh, no, don't say that.

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Don't you say that? It's almost like I'm a secret agent. Right. Anywho, I am.

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Okay, see, Rachel.

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No, I did have a nice parent workshop um that went really well.

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That's good. Oh, I'm glad you okay. Good, good, good, good.

Workshops, High School Energy, and Shout-outs

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So the the parents um um really got some good information there. And then um, as always, and I think I said it before, I got to work with high schoolers. The high schoolers today were a vibe. I mean, they just had such good energy, really, really enjoyed them, had a great time um um with them today. So that's always nice because um I don't get to spend as much time with students. So I know you missed the babies. Yes, I call them the babies. I don't know if high schoolers would want to be called babies, they probably do. Um, but yeah, so they were a vibe today. They were just great energy, just positive, amazing students. And so um had a good time um interacting with them today. So yeah, that was that was good.

SPEAKER_03 8:31

So that's good. Speaking of workshops, we were supposed to attend uh uh a Zoom meeting for uh my sister's workshop, um, Dr. Sharita Hughes with Hughes, what's it called? Hughes Integrative Wellness in New Jersey. Um free sponsorship, you know. So and then we'll give Wiregrass Driving Academy a free plug to out in Dothan, Alabama, for your driving needs. If you're looking to get a driver's license, uh trying to learn how to drive, uh defensive driving classes. I think they also do the class like when you know the you're about to go to court, whatever, they handle all that stuff. But Wiregrass Driving, um Janaski L. Fleming, out in Dothan, Alabama. That's my deuce, my fraternity brother, Alpha Five Fraternity Incorporated. Um they now they have a brick and mortar. So please look them up. No, I'm giving my you know, most of which this episode is sponsored by this episode is being sponsored by because they, you know, so close to me, even though it's not sponsored, but you know, I'm sponsoring them. They're my people. They're my people.

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ADHD.

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And if I do, go.

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You started with Sharita down your winter driving, down what?

Missed Zoom, Humor, and Homecoming Plans

SPEAKER_03 9:55

Okay, so here we go. Speaking about Sharita, we had a conference call that we were supposed to attend yesterday. And uh unfortunately we didn't make it because I'll let you go.

SPEAKER_00 10:13

Simple mistake. I got the time wrong.

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Yeah, she did, but I thought it began at 8 p.m.

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It ended at 8 p.m.

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Yep, and we were right on time for 8 o'clock. It was 7 58.

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Yeah.

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And we was clicking in the next thing and I looked at the thing and said, Oh, it don't start until I mean it it already started. It's it started and it ended. It ended at 8. Yeah, so we missed it.

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I never said I was perfect.

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Okay. So, um never never though.

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I said I was perfect. I don't know if he was hates. I'm Jesus.

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So we'll keep on moving.

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I'm not Jesus.

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No, you're not Jesus. No Jesus. You was probably born in a manger though, knowing Wichita.

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I'm not even gonna say what you was born in from Foley.

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Hey, I was born in a hospital, baby. Yes. Yes, in a hospital. In a horse pillow, as they say in the country.

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A horse pillow in a barn.

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A horse pillow. Anyway, um shit. So what are we looking forward to in a couple of days?

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Well, we talked about this last time.

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I know, but oh my god. It's still coming. Oh. Is it not?

SPEAKER_00 11:44

It is still coming. I just didn't know if we wanted to reset.

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I'm just saying, we we're looking forward to it. I mean, it'll be by the time y'all hear this, we'll be probably on um six or seven by then.

SPEAKER_00 12:00

Six or seven, what?

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Because it comes out. Oh no, we'll be at we'll be at the probably uh at the rooftop.

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At a rooftop uh party or something like that, chilling. We ain't gonna be at no rooftop party.

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Y'all won't know why we ain't gonna be at no rooftop party. Every time we go to Alabama State homecoming. This one has zero idea of what is going on. We don't know. Have we ever made it to the after after party on the rooftop? I'd be tired by that, really. No, no, no, no, we don't. It don't be knowing.

SPEAKER_03 12:40

He don't be knowing it just ain't, you know. Friday night is cool, but we're not gonna be there Friday night. Friday night, I have to escort one of my students uh in the homecoming dance. I mean, a homecoming, um, what's it called? When they walk them out on the field, football field? Homecoming court.

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Yes.

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Um, she's a senior, so uh her mom won't be able to make it. So um I'm blessed that I have been chosen to step in for her. Um I'll be escorting her on Friday. And normally on Fridays, if we go down there, they have this old school thing, which we had a good time. We went the not last time. Last time we didn't go. But we didn't really prior. Two years prior.

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It was a lot of fun.

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That was cool. Um so and then Saturday we go to the whole Gailgate and then the game. And then depending on how that goes, depend determines what happens next. Um just relax.

SPEAKER_00 13:41

Well, the year before that we there was some kind of gathering.

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Yeah. But um Text your son and tell him to come get his dog. Because she kills me with that.

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We should just put her in there. We should put her in there every time.

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Yes.

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Because she just gets needy and attention seeking.

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And I just gave her some treats too. Cinnabon, you need to chill out.

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Yeah, she just gets No, you don't need anything.

Tailgates, Alumni Vibes, and Expectations

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So anyway, um this weekend, um we'll see. See what happens.

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Yeah, it's we are it's very spontaneous. The only things that are on the schedule are the game and the tailgate.

SPEAKER_03 14:31

And sometimes that's all you need. Because one thing about Montgomery, this is this is my thing, I'll I'll be like, you gotta pay to get in some of these things, right? Yeah, and it's not worth it. I'm just gonna be straight up. It ain't worth it? No, because it's it's it's a small little spot. And when you got some people at one spot here and some people at another spot here, yeah, then it's it's so spread it out that it's like you don't get to see everybody.

SPEAKER_00 14:59

Right. But you'd have to make it to all the spots to get it.

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Right, exactly, exactly. So now if they had one major something, you know like an alumni. Yes, a big, yeah, like that's alumni. After the game.

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What's an alumni alumni?

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Alum, alumni.

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Anywho, if they have something like that, yes.

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Yeah, so like they should, they should um like a after like an after-game concert, old school concert would be cool. You know what I mean? Like, cause because then everybody's like you know, at the stadium or on the lawn, somewhere where just the old you know, alums are there. That would be dope. You know, but like you said, when you can have people spreading out, spread out at these different spots, that's what kind of makes it like, ah. Because remember when we went to that other thing, it was it was it was okay. Because remember they said the music they were supposed to have, they was the live band was supposed to play from this time to this time. And they didn't even play. When we got there, they was, oh, we already played earlier.

SPEAKER_00 15:58

Oh yeah. And then people had we went because we had gone to change because we thought it was gonna be more of uh night outing clothes. But people had just stayed there from after the game.

SPEAKER_03 16:10

Yeah, they have like grill, grill, sweat, and liquor.

SPEAKER_00 16:13

Yeah, that's true.

SPEAKER_03 16:15

Yeah. So we'll see how it goes this time. But um I'm looking forward to seeing some of my uh Frat brothers who uh it's their uh 30th, 30th, not about say 35th, 30th uh reunion for them this you know year. And so that's gonna be cool to see some of those guys because they were the the the main group of guys I hung out with when I transferred to Alabama State. So um we'll see. We'll see. Yep. And then after that, we are I'm just trying to help him get to Thanksgiving.

SPEAKER_00 16:54

Are you really?

SPEAKER_03 16:55

Yes. Well, we got this drive. We gotta make that drive to But we're gonna split it up. With your titty.

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We're gonna split it up. I think one thing I'm looking forward to is I'm going to a conference. I've and so I get to go just me from my team. So it's like a solo getaway for myself. So I'm excited about going to the um the conference. That's like mid-October. So I'll get three days to um do some uh restorative practice, like going to some workshops and conference that's related to that. So I'm excited about learning more, growing my knowledge in that area. So um, yeah, I'm always excited about a conference. I like when I get to go and it's just me because then I could just do whatever I want to do. I want to sit and order hot wings and eat them in my hotel room, I can do just that. Yep. So I like to have a night where I just do room service and order food in and just sit and veg on the bed.

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There you go. So And also when you attend a conference by yourself, you know, you don't have to say what which, you know, breakout sessions you want to go to, which one you want to go to? And and because I know when I went to those football and baseball coaching clinics, you know, they always thought I was different. Well, one, I always went to every breakout session. Most coaches don't go, they just sit there in the lobby and talk to each other because they're off work for a day. Um But I would always it was just different things that I would try to pick up, you know. And um nine times out of ten, I was always the the only coach from my group going to the opposite direction.

SPEAKER_00 18:57

Yeah. You know, so well, and for me, I guess now it may be because I'm getting closer to 50. But the last few conferences I've been, I don't care where everybody else is going. I'm going where I want to go. Yeah. That's how it should be. Yeah. Really? So yeah, I I've done that. I just think when it comes down to like figuring where where you're gonna eat, and sometimes, you know, you just have to be social.

SPEAKER_03 19:22

Yeah. But um I understand eating with your group.

SPEAKER_00 19:24

Yeah, eating with your group, and you have to be social. I mean, it's just it's just an expectation. So um sometimes it's nice just to be able to go somewhere and you don't have to be social, it's just a choice. So if I choose to talk to certain people that that may be in a session with me or or whatever, then I that's a choice. But if I just want to go and just kind of be in my own little world, I can do that too. Um, so yeah, I just like kind of having the choice on how social I feel that I want to be, because you don't always want to be.

SPEAKER_03 19:59

Yeah, you don't want to always be on all the time.

SPEAKER_00 20:01

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 20:01

So it's not you have to be on. I know I have to be on all the time, you know, in my job. Like I said, I don't have the option, you know, you can sit like you say, well, I'm working at Brown today, just, you know, doing my stuff. I'm working here today, I'm working in my cubicle today. I gotta be with the kids, on, you know, and and it's different. When it was um P and you know, I'm working out with him and stuff like that, that's natural on. But this other stuff on is like, you know, a lot of patience, a lot of, especially when the little ones keep farting around me.

SPEAKER_00 20:38

Yeah.

The Bus Note: Call 911—Domestic Abuse Story

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Yeah. You know.

SPEAKER_00 20:40

Your farter.

SPEAKER_03 20:41

Yes. The other day she did it, guys.

SPEAKER_00 20:43

That's your father, bro.

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And I thought her phone, I was like, what's your phone doing vibrating? And she was like, excuse me. So, you know, the little plastic chairs, it sounded just like the phone vibrating.

SPEAKER_00 20:55

You did not think that was her father.

SPEAKER_03 20:57

I promise, I put it on because because my co-teacher, um, when she heard me say that, she she started chuckling. And she said, Here, he said, Well, at first I did too, but you said it out loud. That's what she told me. So I did. I thought her little, you know, fart was her phone. Like that. Perfect buzz. Perfect buzz. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 21:21

Well, she's a pooter.

SPEAKER_03 21:22

Yeah, like an iPhone 16. That's her new one. Not a Pro Max was a Miss Poot. Poot, yeah. Poot a tag.

SPEAKER_00 21:30

Pootita. What a tag.

SPEAKER_03 21:32

All right, so that's our catching up for today. Let's um uh there was, I'm sorry, smacking, y'all. I realized I I probably do it a little bit too, hanging out with my wife. Oh, that smacking.

SPEAKER_05 21:44

I know.

SPEAKER_03 21:44

Um, but okay, so I read this story where this kid got on the bus, slipped the bus driver a note that said, call 911. My mom is being held hostage. And so the bus driver, I don't know. I wanted to see if the bus driver went forward, if they tried to play it off a little bit or whatever. Um, but anyway, the bus driver wound up calling 911. The police went to the house and found the lady in a room tied up, um, bruised up real bad. And this man uh had, I don't know if the man was like a boyfriend or whatever.

SPEAKER_00 22:25

It sounded like that it might have been a boyfriend.

SPEAKER_03 22:27

Yeah. Um, but I wish I had my phone. I could look look at the story real quick and check it out. But um, but um anyway, she uh he had kicked her, broke some ribs or something like that, and and and uh they got the guy and but then I saw he was only on bond for like$1,500. Yes. He done kidnapped somebody, held them hostage, and and abused them in a$1,500 bond. Like, where'd he do that? But it also this story remind reminded me of the book I'm reading. Mm-hmm. Oh my god, that book is amazing. What's it called? Uh I don't know.

SPEAKER_00 23:11

It's your book.

SPEAKER_03 23:11

I sent it to you though. Oh my god.

SPEAKER_00 23:13

Who sent me the book? It's on my phone.

SPEAKER_03 23:16

It is so good. Oh, it's uh trust me. I'm gonna tell y'all the book at the end, or as soon as my wife you have the Audible account. You can look it up on Audible and see what I'm listening to. But it is amazing. Don't worry about it, baby.

SPEAKER_05 23:28

Okay.

SPEAKER_03 23:28

It's don't even worry about it. But um can you find it?

SPEAKER_00 23:31

Oh, I got it.

SPEAKER_03 23:32

Can you oh I wanted you to find that book.

SPEAKER_00 23:34

Okay.

SPEAKER_03 23:35

But that book is, y'all, when I'm reading, when I'm listening to that book, I'm done with it now. I finished today um on my way to the gym, and I can't even get out of my car. That's how good the audiobook is. It is so freaking good. But it's it's, you know, if trigger warning, if you kidnapped or mental illnesses, um slight violence, um does have a couple uh sex uh scenes. I think just maybe two.

SPEAKER_00 24:06

Um I think you said the title of the book last time.

SPEAKER_03 24:09

I did, but they need it. I don't think nobody listening to it.

SPEAKER_00 24:12

Oh, okay.

SPEAKER_03 24:13

Y'all need to listen to that book. Yeah, because because um I told somebody else, I told somebody else about it, the book, and they ain't even tried to listen yet. So um I went I read went to the next person close to me, um, Malachi Brown. So if he don't listen to the book by the end of next week, he's cut off too.

SPEAKER_00 24:35

Well, first of all, I just tried to get on Audible. It's asking for different codes and all things. I don't even have easy access. So even if I wanted to, I couldn't.

SPEAKER_03 24:47

But you had access before, right? No.

SPEAKER_00 24:50

I never used Audible.

SPEAKER_03 24:51

What when you remember you, where were you listening to those audiobooks from?

SPEAKER_00 24:55

What audiobooks?

SPEAKER_03 24:56

Remember you was listening to a few audiobooks and you was like, yeah, I've listened to them. You were sharing the uh the account.

SPEAKER_00 25:02

Well, now it's telling me I gotta have special.

SPEAKER_03 25:04

So did were you listening to Audible?

unknown 25:06

Uh maybe.

SPEAKER_00 25:12

Don't recall.

SPEAKER_03 25:13

Okay. It's all good though. But um, just let me know what you need, sweetheart, and I'll make sure you have it, okay?

SPEAKER_00 25:19

Okay.

SPEAKER_03 25:20

All right. But anyway, um, that story was crazy. I was just trying to think, like, like, I don't know what, you know, because I I I don't drive the bus for like bus routes. I drive the bus for field trips and stuff like that and games. But just imagine, like, if a kid, if I was driving.

SPEAKER_00 25:36

And it just said call 911. It didn't say anything about me.

SPEAKER_03 25:39

Then the kidnapped it just said call 911.

SPEAKER_00 25:41

It just said call 911.

SPEAKER_03 25:42

I would just, I mean, I know I would, but I I know I would drive off a little bit so so that he wouldn't be like, hey, what the hell they doing standing, you know. I would definitely drive off and then plus you you can't pull your phone out on the bus anyway. They'll you fire, you send you to jail. Um, they don't even care if you're doing it for that. I know they wouldn't. I know they wouldn't. They wouldn't care. But um, I would pull off around, like try to park somewhere, emergency park. I would call 911 and then I'll call dispatch and let them know why I had to pull over. But that would be insane.

SPEAKER_00 26:14

Yeah, he broke two of her ribs and punctured her lung. Were they dating or were they because uh It just says he's accused of having assaulted the woman several times throughout the night.

SPEAKER_03 26:27

That's what I was wondering. Did they know each other? Like he just bust in the house.

SPEAKER_00 26:29

Kicking her enough force to break two ribs and puncture her lung.

SPEAKER_03 26:34

At the very beginning, they don't say nothing about him knowing.

SPEAKER_00 26:36

And then it says she was unable to call for help. Yeah. So she wrote that on the note. And um crazy.

SPEAKER_03 26:49

That's crazy.

SPEAKER_00 26:50

Yeah, and he oh, it says domestic abuse.

SPEAKER_03 26:53

Oh, so they knew each other.

SPEAKER_00 26:54

It says he had he has been charged with armed kidnapping, willful injury, domestic abuse assault with the intent to inflict serious inquiries and obstruction of emergency communications.

SPEAKER_03 27:07

And how much again?

SPEAKER_00 27:08

1,500. I remember reading that part. I said$1,500.

SPEAKER_03 27:12

Because if you do a uh 10% of that. That's$15,000.

SPEAKER_00 27:15

Oh, wait, no.

SPEAKER_03 27:16

$15,000.

SPEAKER_00 27:17

Oh no, I'm sorry. I thought that was a 10%, the$1,500.

SPEAKER_03 27:20

No, that's if if that's his So that's$150? Yes.

SPEAKER_00 27:23

You're lying to me.

SPEAKER_03 27:24

Okay. Okay.

Kids’ Addresses, Safety, and Bus Protocol

SPEAKER_00 27:27

After doing all of that, but he's oh look, it says he's also being detained through immigrations because he's from the Bahamas.

SPEAKER_03 27:34

Yeah, from the Bahamas, yeah. So the uh ICE. So Ice has him. Yeah. Yeah. So yeah, he he ain't going nowhere. If it is$150 to pay, he's stuck. Like sure.

SPEAKER_00 27:47

Uh-huh. Yeah, I don't know if I got if I would have gotten a note that said call 911. I wondered if the bus driver look at it and say, why? Because I'm sure the ch the child knew what was going on, because I'm sure they heard all the commotion.

SPEAKER_03 28:00

And it depends on who, because you know, some people, other than, you know, a lot of people in your family, you know, um, they may have seen the note and be like, what's going on? Why should I call 911? You know, where?

SPEAKER_00 28:18

And I was but but I guess what I'm thinking of is They're not like us. I'm just kind of thinking, like, if they said call 911, maybe the bus driver was aware where he lived. I'm like, how do the police know where to go?

SPEAKER_03 28:31

Bus driver told him.

SPEAKER_00 28:33

If you call 911, how do he know it's his because I guess if they picked up from the house? Yeah. Because for for like if you if we're thinking of our community, the kids all go to the front.

SPEAKER_03 28:45

But you also know who I got the note from.

SPEAKER_00 28:47

So do the bus drivers know address? They know all the kids' addresses.

SPEAKER_03 28:52

Or you took you know their names, yes, so that's what I'm saying. You if you know the kids' name, you get you can get the bus the uh bus route. Okay. You know, they're registered. Yes, they're registered. Okay. So they'll say, What's your name?

SPEAKER_00 29:02

So if they called in the city. Timothy Smimothy.

SPEAKER_03 29:04

Yeah, so then they'll say Timothy Smimothy lives at 1515 West Northwest place.

SPEAKER_00 29:10

So maybe that's what they did. Right. So yeah, it's because he was he was just a first grader, so he may not.

SPEAKER_03 29:16

Yeah, some yeah, I knew I knew I live, boy, when I was a little boy.

SPEAKER_00 29:19

Yeah, we all knew that. That was a requirement. Yeah, you had to say But some of these babies move so much they don't they can't keep up with their address.

SPEAKER_03 29:26

And they don't even know the telephone number.

SPEAKER_00 29:28

Mm-mm. Because the phone number changes or even if it don't.

SPEAKER_03 29:32

They just don't know it. The button. They hit the button. Like if they can't read, they look for the picture.

SPEAKER_00 29:39

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 29:39

And bang, that's it.

SPEAKER_00 29:41

So that I'm sure the mama was thankful. Yeah. But I'm sure um even for the baby, he knew what that note said as a first grader.

SPEAKER_03 29:52

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 29:54

So he knew to get that his mommy needed help.

Vocabulary Gaps, Standards, and AI Help

SPEAKER_03 29:56

Yeah. We were talking today in uh one of my um Not a PL, but um guided coalition where a team of uh teacher leaders come together and we was talking about how to increase maybe you know literacy or something like that. And my group was talking about how to increase vocabulary amongst um our students. Because let's say, for example, if you give the word mad, um sad, happy, okay, but then you say, you know, I feel happy, okay. Like what kind of happy? I don't know. Like they don't know any other synonyms for happy for happy, right. Or any other, because mad may be just frustrated. It may be whatever, you know what I mean? And so we were we were talking about how can we get kids to uh because when they're trying to pull the context clues out of the story, they don't know actually how that character was feeling because they'll see the word and it may not say mad or happy. So they were like, I don't know how you felt about it. And so I was thinking and I was like, you know what? When we did vocabulary, we had to write down, some days we do synonyms, antonyms, you know. So we had to know all of these different things about one particular word. But I recalled, you know, helping a student with their vocabulary and then, you know, for another course, and it's just the word and the meaning. You know, they don't even have to I mean even even back then in our day, we had to write down, was it a noun or an adjective? We had to write that down, and we had to write the meaning. You know, then we had to write um a synonym for it and use a synonym in a sentence so that we can expand our vocabulary. But that's not the case anymore. You know what I'm saying? So um, and I've noticed that just when you talk to kids, their vocabulary is basic. Like everything is, you know how we say when teaching, you now teach to the standard, that you don't teach all the other world stuff about just so if I go to another country or oh, I know that because I just, you know, my teacher just taught me that. Kids don't know that now. If it's not based off a standard S, this standard S4 or whatever, they don't know the extra little stuff. You know what I'm saying? And so I just thought that would that was that was interesting. I was like, dang, so and so me and another teacher was like, well, if we keep doing this, like no doubt AI is gonna take over some people's capabilities.

SPEAKER_00 32:32

That's why I think it's that thing to me, that's where the relationship building hap should happen. And to me, that helps to go beyond text. So let's say, for instance, when with teachers having some sort of what do you do as a relationship builder with your students? Do you have check-ins, like where they can check in where what they're feeling today? Do you circle up and have certain on Mondays or whatever day, and y'all have a question that you discuss? Like, if you could go anywhere in the world, where would you go and why? Like, what are you doing to grow and build relationships? Because then to me, that is discussion that happens outside of the um content that not only allows them to talk about things beyond school, but then also builds connection between you, the teacher and the student, and the students and students together. But then you're gonna maybe talk about some of the other feeling words. Maybe somebody else will share something different of a feeling word that that you didn't know, or they're gonna share about a place that they would like to go to, or maybe you mention something and somebody says, Oh, I've been there.

SPEAKER_05 33:57

Right, right.

SPEAKER_00 33:58

You know, so like to me, that is what kind of creates a complete uh classroom community where it it doesn't just revolve around content and standards, but there's some human, I guess some human, I don't want to say, well, human aspect. Yeah, human.

SPEAKER_03 34:17

Um to it. It's it's um I will tell you this, it is hard to do just seeing the classroom. And I'm I'm not saying it's it's not hard to do if you do it.

SPEAKER_04 34:28

Right.

SPEAKER_03 34:28

But it's hard to do because there's no time for it anymore. When I tell you some of these classes, and and and and I know why they ran that way, is because the demand that they're receiving from above, it's this, then hit this, then hit this. Like really it's almost like that.

SPEAKER_00 34:50

But what that but what they don't understand is that if you could do the relationship here that that that they you would get so much more.

SPEAKER_03 35:03

Trick Crete, I agree. But data students data is they're so data-driven that they don't have time. And this is the complaint that many of us have.

SPEAKER_00 35:14

But do you think that that that is admin? Because there are some schools that are doing. There are there are some.

SPEAKER_03 35:22

There are some. There are some. And but when I tell you, and and the and some of those ones that are doing those things are some of the ones who will say, well, I'll just it's it's kind of like ask for for forgiveness rather than permission, because the way it's coming down, and that's why you hear a lot when I when I'm talking to people, a lot of people do not want to go into admin because they're seeing the same thing, that it is so robotic, so structured uh to the point that there's no freedom for that, that old aspect of classroom, getting to know my students and all that. And this is when they want you to do it. Character ed, which is not every week.

SPEAKER_00 36:04

No.

SPEAKER_03 36:05

And once you have it, then it's like the kids like, I only see you, I'm not opening up to you that I don't know, no, no.

SPEAKER_00 36:12

Yeah, that makes zero sense.

SPEAKER_03 36:13

Exactly. And so it's and and it's and it's not even the stuff that the kids are going over sometimes in character ed is all is it's like uh a prefix menu. You know, the prefix menu, if I don't like this, I can't even offer. It's like no substitutions. So they go in there and they're like, y'all didn't even just sometimes just ask us, or let's say, what's going on? What's the culture like on campus today? What's been happening? What is there something that's really, you know, what's what's going on? You know, do we need to know something? That those are great conversations. And but but when you're in those content classes, they I'm telling you, and me being in this new position, I'm seeing it. And I'm like, whoa, I thank God I had health. And now I see why my relationship was so different with my kids, because in health, one, it's an elective, so they they're not as uh rigid.

SPEAKER_00 37:10

It's not as rigid, yes.

SPEAKER_03 37:11

And and and you know, they kind of, oh, as long as ain't nobody dying down there in the PE hall, y'all okay. But it also, my topics opened up more for conversation. Um, but it's just and and I'm telling you, I've I agree, you know, I'm a relationship person, but I see it. And some of these teachers that want to, based off of their leadership, meaning like their department head, and we gotta hit these standards, guys. We can't do this, we can't. Like there's no time for both of them.

SPEAKER_00 37:42

I just feel like five minutes.

SPEAKER_03 37:46

I'm listening.

SPEAKER_00 37:48

Five minutes.

SPEAKER_03 37:49

Listen, Kree. Listen, I'm with you.

SPEAKER_00 37:52

Five minutes, but And y'all are blocked scheduled.

SPEAKER_03 37:56

There are times, baby, when we when as soon as they sit down, bam. It's automatic because they got the learning target or they got the learning.

SPEAKER_00 38:05

I don't hear complaints about vocabulary and expansion and all the things when you can't give five minutes to the piece that would assist in that.

Relationship-Building vs Data Pressure

SPEAKER_03 38:16

And that's what's so hard. Cause even when I when I brought that, because I I um use our buddy ChatGBT to help me come up with a measurable goal of how we can use uh um how we can put vocabulary across all subjects, you know. Um and what did Chat say? Oh chat gave me something amazing. And I but I gave it, I gave it to the principal too. Because he likes AI, and I'm telling him, I said it's about the prompt. And I have to keep telling some of the principals don't like, but I say it's about the prompt.

SPEAKER_00 38:44

Yeah, is how you ask.

SPEAKER_03 38:45

Right. You still have to do the work.

SPEAKER_00 38:46

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 38:47

They're just it's just like them, you go into a leadership page and they're giving you a manual.

SPEAKER_00 38:51

You've got to also know what you want.

SPEAKER_03 38:53

That's right.

SPEAKER_00 38:54

And so when you just on there all willy-nilly, you don't know, so you don't know when they give you one thing, like, ah, that ain't quite what I want. Let me ask, uh, can you put this in?

SPEAKER_03 39:03

You know, Chat is amazing for a creative mind.

SPEAKER_00 39:06

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 39:06

For an ADHD mind, because if you say all these different things that's on your mind, chatter do like this, and it's kind of like the matrix, those numbers, and all of a sudden they come together. But anyway, with my group, we started thinking about it and we was like, this is amazing. But then we all stopped and said, But that's more work for the teachers. And we was like, Yep. So we know they're not gonna do it. You know what I mean? That's that's the first thing that we're thinking of is like, they're not gonna do it because it's it's gonna be another thing on their plate. Um, it's so sad. It it is it is very sad, you know.

SPEAKER_00 39:38

Um, but I have to talk about this forever.

SPEAKER_03 39:41

Me too. And we we should jump off of it now, but um because that makes zero sense to me. It does, but when it's coming down like that, it's so much in education that makes zero sense to us that we wish that we could just design it the way we want to, but you know, it is oh Lord.

SPEAKER_00 39:59

But the thing about it is there are some people that are doing the works. There are people, there are schools that are doing the things to grow well rounded um and students who are who will, you know, I won't say be an asset to our society, but they will be because they will be they will be um individuals with the with a good amount of empathy. They're gonna be individuals um who can hear the perspective of others. They're gonna be pe they're gonna be people who um know how to regulate and cope when things get challenging, like they're preparing, they're gonna know how to communicate and disagree respectfully. Like all of those things you can do as as relationship building things that take five minutes a day or 15 minutes one time a week is just uh essentially contributing to positive people in our world. I mean, like people who who are just well-rounded. And I just think not doing that because you're worried about standards that some of these babies are never gonna use in their careers.

SPEAKER_03 41:24

Yeah um But you and I both know that the people that create a lot of these standards have they even stepped foot in the classroom or they've been out of the classroom so long that they're forgetting that, oh, we need to get these relationships back. Yeah. Because a lot of that stuff was, you know, some of our parents were sitting down at the table with us, helping us with our homework. But now it's different. You know what I'm saying? And so you got now people don't even give homework. So that aspect of sitting down with your kid, teaching them things, saying, oh no, it's like, you know, like what was this answer, Mom? Oh, it's kind of like when you X, Y, and Z. Yeah. That's gone now.

SPEAKER_00 41:59

You know, so it's it's needed.

SPEAKER_03 42:01

It is it's needed like now. Or like or you're like yesterday, I guess you should say. It's needed like yesterday. For sure. So, all right, pull your phone out. Yes, let's do some questions and answers.

SPEAKER_00 42:16

Okay.

SPEAKER_03 42:17

So I can learn a little bit about you that I don't already know.

SPEAKER_00 42:21

Okay.

SPEAKER_03 42:21

All right, you got it? I got it. I was getting ready to go into a commercial.

SPEAKER_00 42:25

All right, no more commercials. Because we aren't getting paid. All right. What's the worst TV show one of us forced the other to watch?

SPEAKER_03 42:38

Oh man, it was some movie you made me watch that one time.

unknown 42:41

What?

SPEAKER_03 42:42

I don't even remember. Well, oh man, it it ended so I can't even go into it, but it was it ended so just it upset me. It was probably about two years ago. I can't think of the movie, but we watched it downstairs, and it was just, I was like, what? You made me watch this. I was so remember we were so mad at the end, how it ended.

SPEAKER_00 43:03

It was like I can't remember. Was it a Tyler Perry movie?

SPEAKER_03 43:06

It might have been, I don't know, but it it ended so I'm talking about I was frustrated for like a week thinking about it, and I was just so ticked off how it ended. It may have been a Tyler Perry, but anyway, it was um had to be one of them. Uh other than that, you know, um I I watch all the I watch everything else, you know. I'm good. But I just know that I can't think of the movie, but you made me watch something one time that had me so discombobulated for at least a week. I was livid. I was beside myself.

SPEAKER_00 43:46

Now, um also he's a lot of shows that I watch. It's like I can't watch this. First, he he does well, then he losing. This is just too much for my nerves. I can't take it.

SPEAKER_03 43:59

Yeah, I hate to see people never do well. Like, for example, Tyler Perry, Sisters or Jotima. I know it's drama, but like everything in your life is just jacked up. Okay, so then this is not the show for me. You know what I mean? I need to have where you have to have a bad time and then come. I gotta see you win. I just it for me, my psyche, if you are what I deem to be a deserving person, I need to see you win. I don't need to see the world just beating you down every time. Like, I can't. Because you might need to move, you know, if it's in your city, move, go to another city, because this city is not hidden for you. But it's it really does, because I um I'm I take in everything feeling-wise.

SPEAKER_00 44:45

Okay.

SPEAKER_03 44:45

You know what I'm saying? And then it just too much, it gets too much.

SPEAKER_00 44:50

I think for me, your shows are really the dry humor shows you like. Like.

SPEAKER_03 44:58

What's one of my favorite ones? Before we got married, we was with Daryl Nim. We watched it, and nobody laughed. I was the only one laughing. And I still laugh on that movie to this day.

SPEAKER_00 45:09

Napoleon Dynamo?

SPEAKER_03 45:10

Yes, indeed.

SPEAKER_00 45:11

I was gonna name that. My God.

SPEAKER_03 45:14

That movie is just It's the best, it's one of the greatest movies of all time.

SPEAKER_00 45:19

No, and he would go around, he thought it was so funny. You have my taunts.

SPEAKER_04 45:26

I'm just like, why?

SPEAKER_03 45:28

I showed that movie every every year, every semester for health. We were talking about um self-esteem, bullying, stuff like that, how he was bullied, but he carried a high level of self-esteem, and it's okay to be cool in the skin that you're in, even if your group is an awkward group. Yeah, at the end of the movie, everybody fell in love with them. That is a important very important movie.

SPEAKER_00 45:51

Yeah, uh, yeah, I loved it. Yeah, some of that I just don't like even like um I think you and Koli like Adam Sandler.

SPEAKER_05 46:01

Yes, that's my good.

Quick-Fire Q&A: Shows, Food, and Sitcom Names

SPEAKER_00 46:03

And his movies, and one day Khali's like, come over, let's watch this movie. It's so funny. And I was like, What? Did she call me over? He loves the same little Adam Sandler uh humor, and yeah, uh those things I'll Koli know what's up. I'd rather not. I'd rather not watch those. So I would think that that is like some of those dry humor things that you're dying laughing at, and I'm just like, I'll pass.

SPEAKER_03 46:35

You have to see, it's like it's it's so much more into the how they did it and what they wrote it for and stuff. It's just I don't know. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 46:45

Yeah. So, anyways.

SPEAKER_03 46:46

All right, next one.

SPEAKER_00 46:48

Um, okay. If we could only eat one meal the rest of our lives, what will we choose and would we agree?

SPEAKER_03 47:00

The meal that we cooked or that we've purchased somewhere?

SPEAKER_00 47:04

It didn't say. Just one meal that we could have for the rest of our lives, what would we choose?

SPEAKER_03 47:11

Okay, so so think about it. And then on the count of three, we're gonna a meal that we have cooked here at the house.

SPEAKER_00 47:18

A meal that we have cooked.

SPEAKER_03 47:19

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 47:20

And that's the one meal we have for the rest of our dish.

SPEAKER_03 47:23

So, okay, so when we're saying meal, are we saying we're saying the the main dish first?

SPEAKER_00 47:27

Yeah, let's say the main dish first.

SPEAKER_03 47:28

Like the meat first, right? Okay, okay. So think about what that is. Um, and then we'll say it out loud when I count to three. Let me know when you have it, because I have a few that you can.

SPEAKER_00 47:41

Okay, I got one. I'm ready.

SPEAKER_03 47:42

Oh, shoot.

SPEAKER_00 47:43

For just the meat.

SPEAKER_03 47:45

Yeah, just the meat.

SPEAKER_00 47:46

Okay, well, that's easy.

SPEAKER_03 47:47

Well, I guess like it's but it's like the meat and dish. Like, you know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_00 47:50

Oh, it's the meat and dish?

SPEAKER_03 47:51

Well, okay, for example, like if you say spaghetti.

SPEAKER_00 47:56

Okay.

SPEAKER_03 47:57

You know what I mean? That's kind of like the dish.

SPEAKER_00 47:59

Well, that ain't a meat. That's a ground.

SPEAKER_03 48:01

Ground turkey.

SPEAKER_00 48:02

Oh, ground turkey.

SPEAKER_03 48:03

Yeah, but that makes the dish. You see what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_00 48:05

Okay.

SPEAKER_03 48:06

So if I said like.

SPEAKER_00 48:07

So what?

SPEAKER_03 48:10

You know.

SPEAKER_00 48:11

Okay, I think I'm ready.

SPEAKER_03 48:12

Okay. You ready? I think so. Okay. I one meal. I know we're not gonna agree, but I'm gonna say mine. Okay. Because I when I make it, I I fought, I love it.

SPEAKER_00 48:21

Oh, I know what you're gonna say. And I'm not gonna say that.

SPEAKER_03 48:24

Yeah, I'm not gonna say that.

SPEAKER_00 48:26

So I guess we wouldn't agree.

SPEAKER_04 48:27

Oh, well, hell hold up. We get into a season. I would not say that either.

SPEAKER_00 48:35

Because I'm gonna tell y'all what he's gonna say. The first one was curry chicken. Yes. And the second is chili.

SPEAKER_06 48:41

Yes.

SPEAKER_00 48:42

No.

SPEAKER_03 48:44

But my Michael Jackson chili is chili because I use black and white beans.

SPEAKER_00 48:49

No, this is what when it gets chili season. Oh my god. But we have regular chili. Then we got chicken chili. Then we got Michael Jackson chilies.

SPEAKER_04 48:58

Um, uh no. We be hey, we be I'll be hooking. PB. It's almost chili season. Uh-uh.

SPEAKER_00 49:08

We he will be having chili every week. That's right.

unknown 49:12

No.

SPEAKER_04 49:12

We have left eye chili.

SPEAKER_00 49:14

No. What's left eye chili?

SPEAKER_04 49:16

I'm just saying, we have T-bars in Chili. Oh, the oh my God. Come on. Just like you didn't get what was it last week? Yo mama. Right. Shenan once. I'm gonna shenan you twice. And again. All right. Um, so okay.

SPEAKER_00 49:38

I would not choose curry chicken or that.

SPEAKER_03 49:42

Okay, here we go.

SPEAKER_00 49:42

I mean, he's literally picked cooked curry two times.

SPEAKER_03 49:46

But it's so good, though, isn't it good? It takes a while. It is.

SPEAKER_00 49:49

Yeah, but I don't want that air for my every meal.

SPEAKER_03 49:51

All right, here we go. You ready? On the count of three.

SPEAKER_00 49:53

Okay.

SPEAKER_03 49:54

Just a type of meat.

SPEAKER_00 49:55

Okay.

SPEAKER_03 49:55

That if we could eat it, we would eat it all the time. All right. One, two, three. Fried chicken.

SPEAKER_00 50:00

Fried chicken wings. We got it. Yeah, fried chicken wings. All right.

SPEAKER_03 50:08

Yeah, so okay. Let's go.

SPEAKER_00 50:10

Okay. What are we going to have with it?

SPEAKER_03 50:12

Um, well, I'm gonna make some greens. Yeah, I'm gonna make some greens. Because my greens are amazing. Well, so what else? What you gonna make? What you gonna have?

SPEAKER_00 50:22

I do not want greens. I can't wait.

SPEAKER_03 50:24

Okay, we're not saying what you don't want. I already said what I want. What do I want? But what would you want?

SPEAKER_00 50:28

Um, I think with my fried chicken wings, but I eat it every day. I think a salad.

SPEAKER_03 50:38

Okay, good. That's greens, though. That's just greens that ain't been sautéed.

SPEAKER_00 50:42

No, because you can kind of change a salad up. I could change my greens up. Change a dressing.

SPEAKER_03 50:46

I can change my greens up. Oh, yeah. They could be spicy, they could be a little sweet, they could be a little smoky, they could be real meaty. And once I take all the meat out, like when I cook with the uh smoked chicken, I mean turkey thighs.

SPEAKER_00 50:58

You remember that Thanksgiving when granna every side item had meat in it?

SPEAKER_03 51:03

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 51:04

I was like, what is going on? Yeah. The green beans had meat.

SPEAKER_03 51:07

Macaron and cheese.

SPEAKER_00 51:08

Macaron and cheese had meat. The green beans.

SPEAKER_03 51:11

My mama go overboard though when she child, everything had meat. All the desserts had meat. Had nuts in it. Everything had me.

SPEAKER_00 51:21

Every dessert had nut in it. We like, what is every dessert?

SPEAKER_03 51:24

I mean, desserts that didn't even need cheese in it. Yeah. Yeah, it's gonna be sweet.

SPEAKER_00 51:28

Every dessert didn't even need to have nuts. Yeah. But it had nuts in it. Yeah, they did. They sometimes they just be like, I don't know, honey. So I yeah, I'm gonna do a salad with my chicken wings, and then I need a good savory other side. Hmm.

SPEAKER_03 51:45

Are you going all this at a whole thing?

SPEAKER_00 51:50

I was gonna say macaroni and cheese, but having that every day.

SPEAKER_03 51:54

But regardless, you got fried chicken, we're not even, that's all you're gonna eat. So they ain't talking about if you're gonna gain 100 pounds. No, because if not, we gotta have baked chicken. Okay, this is what I'm doing then.

SPEAKER_00 52:06

I'm doing fried chicken wings, macaroni and cheese, greens and candy yams, and cornbread.

SPEAKER_03 52:13

Mm-hmm. That's pretty good right there. I'll take that. That's fine. I'll take it. I'll take that whole thing. Yep. I'll take that whole thing. What you gonna have to drink? Two beverages. Two beverages. Under 21 beverage and then over 21 beverage.

SPEAKER_00 52:29

I'm gonna have a whiskey sour.

SPEAKER_03 52:31

Okay.

SPEAKER_00 52:32

Don't want that sound wine.

SPEAKER_03 52:37

Gonna get that wine from um Auburn Estate. Yeah, I'm gonna do a wine. The one that Auburn Estate that went out of business for my drink drink.

SPEAKER_00 52:51

I think I might take Granna's Kool-Aid Soda combo.

SPEAKER_03 52:55

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 52:56

I think I'll take that.

SPEAKER_03 52:57

That's very good. Yeah. I'll take um, I'll take uh, let's see. I'll probably take for my adult beverage, um. I don't know, maybe. Uh oh, what's what's the drink I my first drink I had? Uh the first real drink. Hurricane? No, no, it was the other one.

SPEAKER_00 53:26

The uh Oh, Long Island Iced tea.

SPEAKER_03 53:28

Yeah, Long Island Iced Tea. And then I'll have um probably would be like just some um maybe some cranberry juice and La Splash Kool-Aid. I like that tart and that's it.

SPEAKER_00 53:47

You're gonna do cranberry and Kool-Aid?

SPEAKER_03 53:49

Yeah. You know, I like cranberry juice and grapefruit juice. Okay, so all right, what's next?

SPEAKER_00 53:55

Okay. Um if our life was a sitcom, what would the title of our sitcom be?

SPEAKER_03 54:13

Um sitcom. What would it be? I would say it would be um we we always say this. Are are we the ones that's crazy? That's what I see our title would be. Oh, that would be because we always saying everybody crazy. But maybe since there's that many people that's crazy, maybe we the ones that crazy, we just see it differently.

SPEAKER_00 54:46

Uh-huh. Yeah, that's what we all expect.

SPEAKER_03 54:48

Our title be are the we the ones that's crazy.

SPEAKER_00 54:50

Are we the ones crazy?

SPEAKER_03 54:51

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 54:52

I like that. I think that'd be a good. I think that'd be a good title.

SPEAKER_04 54:56

Yeah. What would you what would you say? Oh gosh.

Marriage Humor, Parenting Stories, and Hard Laughs

SPEAKER_00 55:01

I like that one. Um it could be the title of our podcast.

SPEAKER_03 55:11

Refreshingly normal podcast available on all podcast platforms.

SPEAKER_00 55:16

And then we would have things that would like kind of because it kind of kind of coincides with are we the crazy? Because then maybe it'll show things that we think are refreshingly normal, and then other people be like, uh uh. Oh, y'all crazy.

SPEAKER_03 55:28

Nobody's doing that.

SPEAKER_00 55:29

Uh-huh. Yeah. So I would call it that refreshingly normal.

SPEAKER_01 55:34

Yeah. Okay.

SPEAKER_00 55:36

That's what I would call it. Um, the sitcom. All right. Um, if we wrote a book about marriage, what would the funniest chapter or content in the marriage book be?

SPEAKER_03 55:53

Um I would have to say, I'm gonna just say um, it would have to have something to do with Tulum. Cause that last day of Tulloon ain't nothing. I was trying to think the other day, just I said, have we had a funnier moment with Ricky the Raccoon and Malachi and them birds? Like, it really, like, but that's what us witnessing that kind of stuff happens on a regular for us. You know what I'm saying? And so I I just think the chapter where um we would probably call it like uh You'll Never Believe What Happened, or it'll be titled, uh, oh, remember that one time when, you know. Um, but yeah, we we would we would or laughter is the best, I don't know, I wanna say medicine for marriage. I don't know.

SPEAKER_00 57:03

Oh yeah.

SPEAKER_03 57:04

Because we we do laugh, like we've had some hard, hard laughs. Like, frequently. Yeah, that's one thing about us, I've you know, you and I, we will we would have some hard laughs. Like, even when we're not with our boys, we're not with our parents, we have some hard freaking laughs. So and I guess I guess that would be like, you know, just um the humor in marriage, maybe something like that. How to find the humor in marriage.

SPEAKER_00 57:38

Oh, yeah.

SPEAKER_03 57:39

You know?

SPEAKER_00 57:40

Um yeah, it's yeah, yeah, it kind of goes back to when I was talking about that time. Dang, I always forget the guy's name where he he and his wife just had a terrible day. But he was saying the importance of um the important he has a show. What's it what's the show he got a church? It's something he's a pa trying to be a pastor.

SPEAKER_03 57:59

Kevin Stage.

SPEAKER_00 58:00

Yeah. He was saying it's important, like, you know, marrying somebody where you can laugh through the difficult times, like finding somebody that, you know.

SPEAKER_03 58:10

But that was important for for dating for me um because of my silliness and my awkward way of seeing things. You never said that's childish, or you never gave me a childish look. You for the worst part was always egging it on. Wait, do that again. Do that, do that. Hey, hold on, y'all. All right, Keefa, tell her what happened. No, no, you gotta do it just how I did. Do it just like so you was always pushing me in front like the little kid, and when they bring parents, hey son, dance for mama now. Show, show your other TV.

SPEAKER_00 58:49

That's all he told me. It's like, quit doing that. I feel like you just put me on, like I'm your little performer.

SPEAKER_03 58:56

Cause we could just be like in regular, like in regular environment where, you know, it's not even a it's just chill. Oh my god, guys. This one time, Keith for sure what happened.

SPEAKER_00 59:09

Like, because I like to laugh. Because I like to laugh. Like, I'm telling y'all, if it's something serious, don't come sit by us.

SPEAKER_03 59:18

Yeah. Oh nowhere.

SPEAKER_00 59:21

Don't come sit by. Church funeral.

SPEAKER_03 59:23

We're gonna find, we're gonna find something like really that that's that's gonna keep us in a good mood. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 59:29

Don't forget us.

SPEAKER_03 59:31

That is for sure.

SPEAKER_00 59:32

Yeah. I was thinking about in the book of his marriage, I guess his marriage, but I'm thinking about kids. Remember when um I don't know why Keat Mani did it. Why did he wrap his his foot up in duct tape?

SPEAKER_03 59:42

That's part of the family.

SPEAKER_00 59:43

You that was family as yeah, you he wrapped his foot up with duct tape. And when I say he wrapped it, it was tight. It was tight. And we were like It was like Serena Rap, too.

SPEAKER_03 59:55

It was Serena Rap and Duct tape.

SPEAKER_00 59:57

I don't know what he was doing. He was always doing. Something because he's Mr. Creative. He might have been trying to make his own little cast or something.

SPEAKER_03 1:00:04

Was it the same during the snow time?

SPEAKER_00 1:00:06

Maybe. I can't remember. I mean, he they were, I mean, he was all the time creative doing something. And he wrapped his leg with that duct tape. I mean, it was so tight.

SPEAKER_03 1:00:19

It was super tight.

SPEAKER_00 1:00:20

We're like, what in the world are you doing? And so the to make sure he wouldn't do it again. I was like, well, I'm gonna have to cut it off. And so I went down like I was getting scissors or a knife. He thought I meant I was gonna cut off his leg.

SPEAKER_06 1:00:36

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 1:00:38

And they used to have this telescope. And when I came up the stairs with the scissors or a knife.

SPEAKER_04 1:00:45

We told him to come in the room. We told him come in the room. Come in the room, come on in.

SPEAKER_00 1:00:52

And so he took his telescope and was getting ready to throw it at me because he thought I was getting ready to come to the city.

SPEAKER_04 1:01:01

He's like, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 1:01:02

I said, come on, we got to do it.

SPEAKER_05 1:01:03

We got to do it. He was ready to attack.

SPEAKER_03 1:01:12

He was ready to attack.

SPEAKER_00 1:01:14

He was ready.

SPEAKER_03 1:01:16

It's just like with that time when we was in the apartment before we got the house built. He um they found that little frog, that little lizard. And so we said, They called it green gene. Yeah, they was gonna have uh disease we looked at.

SPEAKER_00 1:01:28

Yeah, because we looked it up, and I think that it carried equality. Something like that, salmonella or something that carried.

SPEAKER_03 1:01:35

Oh, you got it, you got it, you're gonna be dead.

SPEAKER_00 1:01:37

Oh, I'm gonna be dead. Oh, I need a shot. So we told him we gotta we got a medicine for it.

SPEAKER_03 1:01:43

Yeah, we like rabies shot. Because it would make I was uh acting like uh Martin when Martin got on Chilligan's Island and he was fighting other things, he's like, No, I need rabies shots. Okay, money, you need a rabies shot.

SPEAKER_00 1:01:54

Oh, I'm gonna die, don't let me die.

SPEAKER_03 1:01:57

And he got rid of the lizard and then.

SPEAKER_00 1:01:59

Because they wanted, yeah, because they wanted to keep it as a pet. Yeah, it was just some lizard from the wild. I was like, we cannot keep that. And uh he was like, Oh, I'm gonna die, I'm gonna make it. And so, so that he would think he would make it. We put like a little sweet rum in the thing. We said, You got to drink this.

SPEAKER_05 1:02:19

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 1:02:20

And so he drank.

SPEAKER_03 1:02:24

He's a teacher.

SPEAKER_00 1:02:25

Am I gonna be alright? Like, okay, you're gonna be fine now.

SPEAKER_03 1:02:29

You just gotta make sure, make sure you're nothing on you. No spots and nothing. He was off. Looking.

SPEAKER_00 1:02:38

Yeah, so yeah. Yeah, I would talk about that. I would talk about all the little in the laughter chapter. Yep, the laughter, the funny, all the funny stories with the boys before there was social media and filming of everything.

SPEAKER_03 1:02:56

Yeah, oh my god, we would have you talking about going viral. Every week there was something. And they would have been always, everybody been tuning in to the hair twins trying to see what's going on.

SPEAKER_00 1:03:06

Because it was always something. Always. Yes, it was always something. So that's what I would, that's what I would um I would too. Okay. Um, okay. What's the funniest way we annoy each other without even trying? Or are we? I know what I do to annoy you, and you get so frustrated.

SPEAKER_03 1:03:33

I do. Um, I don't know what I do to annoy you. Um, I'll let you answer that. Cause I'm sure it's a few things. But um, I'll let you answer that. So what you what I do to annoy, no, what you do to annoy me is you a mimic me. So like if I say, man, but I don't want you before I can even say, you go, but I don't want to. Well, you just put it and I'm done. I swear. Like I right now I feel I feel some kind of way right now, like for real. Like, well, you do I don't know. I'm done. I am done. Don't mimic me. Don't don't don't do that. You do that, it's over. I don't care if we're in a great mood, I'm done. I'm literally done.

SPEAKER_04 1:04:26

Yeah, it changes his whole mood.

SPEAKER_03 1:04:29

I don't know why. Maybe it's some trauma has.

SPEAKER_00 1:04:32

Yeah, maybe it's trauma as in a as a child.

SPEAKER_03 1:04:36

Maybe so. Maybe so. Being a middle child and being the the the smallest in my group, in my pack all the time, you know. Um, I don't know.

SPEAKER_00 1:04:47

Well, the one thing for me is when you say something and maybe I wasn't listening. And I say, wait, say it again. And you say, I'm not saying it, and he won't say it again.

SPEAKER_05 1:05:01

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 1:05:04

I think that's rude.

SPEAKER_03 1:05:06

Yeah. I think it's rude when you ain't listening and I'm talking to you. And then your eyes all of a sudden go. Oh, what is that? No, it's alright, don't worry about it. Cause I was talking to you, and then all of a sudden you just like I wasn't talking to you.

SPEAKER_00 1:05:23

That ties my hide.

SPEAKER_03 1:05:25

Well, your hide gonna be tied. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 1:05:28

That's alright.

Abbott Elementary Favorites and Memory Lanes

SPEAKER_03 1:05:30

Yeah. But that's what that's what I do, and that's what you do. But don't nobody do let you do by do. Whatever. Alright. What's next?

SPEAKER_00 1:05:41

All right. Last one.

SPEAKER_03 1:05:44

Okay.

SPEAKER_00 1:05:46

Um, who's I already know the answer to this. What is it? Well, I don't know. Who's more likely to survive a zombie apocalypse and why? Y'all know why he is? Because he's gonna leave me. Let me tell you what he did to me when we were dating. We went to a haunted house, right, as a group. We in the haunted house, of course. The monsters and saw people are coming at you. I duck, he takes off running and leaves me. Start from the beginning, and leaves me with the Saul man.

SPEAKER_03 1:06:38

Start from the beginning. The beginning. So we're in the hunted house, and you know, like the people come out, ah, and she'll go, ah, and I'm behind her. And so she, you know, always falling, like turning to me. And when she turned to me, somebody'll come from behind, and then I can't run. I'm like, go forward. Or she'll hear something from behind and she'll stop, but there's nothing in front. And so she'll hear the noise, and I'm like, go, go, go.

SPEAKER_05 1:07:03

She's like, ah, what, what, what?

SPEAKER_03 1:07:05

I'm like, just go, go. So we can't go and we're always getting caught. And so I was like, I'm very scary, but I like to be scared in a structured environment. Like, I don't watch haunted movies, scary movies at all. I do not. Um, and so she kept on doing that, and I was like getting like just ooh, like, okay, this is getting real scary. So I said, You all right, you know, I'm gonna leave you. So one time the the monster man came from the front, and then she fell back, and then one came from the back. And I said, ah! And she just wouldn't go and I just boom, I just took off running.

SPEAKER_00 1:07:39

And left me.

SPEAKER_03 1:07:40

Left her. So I ran out the wrong door and I wound up hitting, I ran into it out a door and went into like a supply closet, boom, and it kind of hurt my ribs. But then we got back in there, and then I was well deserved. I was like, well, you better come on. And um, so it's about survival.

SPEAKER_00 1:07:59

So that's the reason why I would not survive. Yeah. Because it is really gonna be.

SPEAKER_03 1:08:05

I'm gonna tell her to run and she's gonna be, ah, ah no.

SPEAKER_00 1:08:09

It's really gonna be gonna get her. Every man for himself.

SPEAKER_03 1:08:12

And they're gonna get her.

SPEAKER_00 1:08:14

So that is the reason why I wouldn't survive because my husband would just leave.

SPEAKER_03 1:08:17

Or she ain't paying attention.

SPEAKER_00 1:08:18

He would just leave me.

SPEAKER_03 1:08:20

She ain't paying attention because she's playing um Uno Uno on the phone.

SPEAKER_00 1:08:24

I love Uno.

SPEAKER_03 1:08:25

Dying.

SPEAKER_00 1:08:26

I love it.

SPEAKER_03 1:08:27

That's all a zombie gotta do, like, free Uno credits.

SPEAKER_04 1:08:31

She's like, oh, I got it.

SPEAKER_03 1:08:32

Let me all eight up.

SPEAKER_00 1:08:36

Ooh, free Uno coins.

SPEAKER_03 1:08:41

And they're gonna eat her up. Dead. All right. Um, well, tonight is the premiere of Abbott Elementary. So we're about to get out of here so that she can watch Abbott Elementary. Did you record it or you forgot?

SPEAKER_00 1:08:54

I love how he's saying she. He loves it just too.

SPEAKER_03 1:08:57

I do, but you're the main one. What when right when I was getting in the shower, what did you say? Oh, make sure it's good. And then downstairs, what'd you say hit Miss Abbott?

SPEAKER_00 1:09:04

Because, you know, I ever since we downloaded the new um iPhone, what is it called?

SPEAKER_03 1:09:14

The uh iOS 26.

SPEAKER_00 1:09:17

Yes. There's no room on my phone, so then I had to switch it up. So then apps that I'm not using often, they delete. That not deleted, they not um, you gotta download them again. So then the Hulu came up, then I had to wait for it to download. Then I needed his password. I just said forget it. So, anyways, I probably have to watch Abbott tomorrow, man. Tomorrow.

SPEAKER_03 1:09:44

But you she could have easily said, um, babe, I I'm not able to hit record. Can you do it on your phone?

SPEAKER_00 1:09:51

Well, I could have said that. But every time I ask him about an app, he says, Oh, I gotta download it again because his phone doing the same dang thing.

SPEAKER_03 1:10:00

But don't I download it again right then?

SPEAKER_00 1:10:02

Sure you do.

SPEAKER_03 1:10:04

Okay, so there's a solution.

unknown 1:10:07

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 1:10:07

I said we don't have time to be mad, we just we have time to get it right.

SPEAKER_00 1:10:11

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 1:10:12

That's it.

SPEAKER_00 1:10:13

Anyways, I'm very excited about Abbott.

SPEAKER_03 1:10:15

What's your favorite memories from Abbott?

SPEAKER_00 1:10:18

Oh gosh, there are so Okay, let's go one for one.

SPEAKER_03 1:10:22

Ready? Go.

SPEAKER_00 1:10:23

Okay.

SPEAKER_03 1:10:23

Um I gave you some examples in the shower when I was in school.

SPEAKER_00 1:10:27

Oh my gosh, I know. I'm just saying it's like a speed game.

SPEAKER_03 1:10:31

It is.

SPEAKER_00 1:10:32

It's really not.

SPEAKER_03 1:10:34

Okay.

SPEAKER_00 1:10:35

Nah, I forgot him. You go.

SPEAKER_03 1:10:37

All right, so um one of my one of my uh was back in the day when when uh anytime uh Janine would do the money to Tyreek, he was dancing. Yeah, that was that was I love when he used to do that. Uh all right, yours.

SPEAKER_00 1:10:56

I love everything that Ava does. Um I'm trying to think something specifically that she oh, I can't think of specifically like what Ava said that was so hilarious. Y'all, my memory has gotten so bad.

SPEAKER_03 1:11:13

She was outside and she tripped and she started singing, I never fall. I never crawl. That was good.

SPEAKER_00 1:11:19

And then um How do you remember these and you don't remember nothing else?

SPEAKER_03 1:11:22

I do I remember a lot.

SPEAKER_00 1:11:24

You too?

SPEAKER_03 1:11:25

Thank you. But you think I don't remember. That's the problem. I remember, and you always say, No, that's wrong. And I'm like, all right. And so I stopped, I leave it alone. Because I'd rather be, as I said, previous episodes, I'd rather be happy than be right. So um gosh.

SPEAKER_00 1:11:41

I like the one when they was all, when the little boy thought they was all high. When they were when they when they were talking in the teaching out and the student overheard them talking about something.

SPEAKER_03 1:11:51

Yeah, yes.

SPEAKER_00 1:11:52

That was funny. I like that.

SPEAKER_03 1:11:54

I like uh when the little girl said, I'm you, Miss Barbara.

SPEAKER_04 1:12:01

The hundred days of school, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 1:12:03

Or when the one boy told her, Well, you do always wear the pearls and then you talk like this to Barbara. So it's always, I mean, we can go on and on.

SPEAKER_03 1:12:14

And the mom, what the mom told her?

SPEAKER_00 1:12:16

Oh, I'm not the one, the two, and I'll be up there to pick up my child and three. Uh about sending her chat, sending there, sending her, son, ho.

SPEAKER_04 1:12:27

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 1:12:28

It's so many funny things from Abbott. I mean, it's so well written. Um, yeah, I love it.

Side-Eye: Tech Frustrations and Customer Service

SPEAKER_03 1:12:33

Yeah, we could we could be Abbott. Like, you know, seeing I I definitely know, like said, let's we said this before, the school that we worked at in Dallas could be Abbott Elementary.

SPEAKER_06 1:12:44

Uh-huh.

SPEAKER_03 1:12:45

Um I I would love to be on Abbott. Um, definitely. I I could be the second janitor or something. I don't know. Just but trust me, I'm a perfect fit. Because I got something I could do. Well, um, so what are you grateful for?

SPEAKER_00 1:13:05

Are we not doing side-eye?

SPEAKER_03 1:13:06

Oh, ooh, side eye, yes. Oh, I had a great one too. Oh, shoot. Dang it. Well, what's so go go ahead. Uh you going first this time. Okay. And I'll I'll try to get it.

SPEAKER_00 1:13:18

I am side-eyeing any software that you got to clip videos for. Because I'm creating presentations. I gotta clip it because there's a new little way we got to do the videos. And uh nobody has showed me. Maybe my as I'm getting older, technology is not my friend, but it was quite challenging. And uh I was so frustrated. I called my tech guy to kind of give me some tech support because it wasn't no tech support anywhere in the building I was in, and my tech support, I told them, I said, listen, I'm frustrated and I might be short. It ain't about you. So I did say that because I didn't want him to get all his feelings if I was acting like short and and also you got it.

SPEAKER_03 1:14:18

I I'm a big fan, you I mean a big proponent of you have to learn how to separate your problem from the person.

SPEAKER_00 1:14:25

And I am the same because I think it's important to regulate yourself and do whatever. And so I think, you know, if you're having a challenging day that instead of taking it out on other people, or if you kind of feel like you still in the you still in the moment, you let people know, listen, it's not about you. I just had a rough day. Like you should do that. If not, people are gonna judge you and think you a nasty acting person, and so, or a person who doesn't know how to regulate their emotions. And so, anywho, my side eye is to complicated um software when trying to clip YouTube videos, it frustrated me to no end. Um, I still have not solved the problem, so I'm waiting for somebody to give me more tech support so that I can accomplish this task for videos in my presentations, but that's my side eye. I'm signing all that foolishness because it was very it was challenging.

SPEAKER_03 1:15:31

So, my side eye, I'm gonna let you tell my side eye.

SPEAKER_00 1:15:37

I don't know why you want me to tell it.

SPEAKER_03 1:15:39

When I when we went to get the Phillies. Uh huh. And the first part, I was like, again, and then the second part.

SPEAKER_00 1:15:47

Why'd you just tell it?

SPEAKER_03 1:15:49

Because you like to tell, Kimani, let me tell you what's your daddy. Your daddy did. Keemani, oh my God. So Oh yes. Right, right.

SPEAKER_00 1:15:57

Okay, I forgot about it. Okay. So when we were on break, we um there's a place that sells chicken fillies. Now, Keith and Kimani have been. They bragged about it. Nicole has been several times. Our cousin Nicole has gone. They have bragged about, oh my gosh, these are the best uh fillies.

SPEAKER_06 1:16:17

Yep.

SPEAKER_00 1:16:17

And so this one, of course, can't eat beef or pork. Yeah. So he needs a chicken filly. And they had a chicken filly that he just felt like was so good. Amazing. So one time we went, and we know they sell out, and we kind of went later in the evening.

SPEAKER_03 1:16:32

About two hours before closing.

SPEAKER_00 1:16:34

Yeah. So when we went, they had sold out of uh chicken fillies. Um, so we went um last week.

SPEAKER_03 1:16:42

Two hours after opening.

SPEAKER_00 1:16:43

Two hours after opening, we walk in there and the man's like, hey, how y'all doing? We're like, we're fine. We look at the board, chicken fillies ain't even wrote on the menu sign.

SPEAKER_03 1:16:55

Not even on there.

SPEAKER_00 1:16:56

And he just says very nonchalantly, very casually, very, I don't give a damn leave. Oh, we ain't got them today.

SPEAKER_03 1:17:08

And that's it. Like, no, like, uh, we hey, but we got this, my man. We we can offer you. Sorry about that, man. We got no.

SPEAKER_00 1:17:15

We're gonna have some tomorrow. Y'all come back to the house. Or we go, and we he's he's like, Y'all have a good day.

SPEAKER_03 1:17:21

Yeah. So, yeah And that that that's what really pissed me off. No effort into making sure your customers were happy. Because you didn't know who we were with. You didn't know if we were some kind of uh food critic or anything. You know, like back in the day we used to work at the mall, you had the secret shoppers come in. And they would, you know, just see how you respond to certain events. So I was so, so turned off, man. And it's to the point where I really don't want to try it again, but I want her to try it because they were so good. But honestly, myself, and I don't even want to bash him, you know, so I ain't even gonna say the name of the place, but it was, it's just turned me off, you know. So I'm like.

SPEAKER_00 1:18:00

Yep, it's black-owned.

SPEAKER_03 1:18:01

It's black-owned, you know, and you always wanted to give them the business and you know, man, screw it. Nah. Gotta be better to do that.

SPEAKER_00 1:18:07

That ain't the side eye part yet, though. That's the first part of the story.

SPEAKER_03 1:18:11

That got me, that got me like this. That was the squint eye.

SPEAKER_00 1:18:14

He was already in his feelings.

SPEAKER_03 1:18:15

Yeah, that's the squint eye. So then we would decide to go find somewhere else to do.

SPEAKER_00 1:18:18

So we're gonna try to find somewhere to eat. I was starving because we had it was a late, yeah, we had a late start.

SPEAKER_04 1:18:25

Yeah, and we worked out and everything.

SPEAKER_00 1:18:28

And I think I only had a little bit of a couple of things.

SPEAKER_03 1:18:31

We bathed it.

SPEAKER_00 1:18:32

Okay, yeah. Starving. So I was like, I'll normally we'll do this.

SPEAKER_03 1:18:36

After the workout.

SPEAKER_00 1:18:36

Yeah, we'll normally do this whole, well, what about this? I was like, I my stomach can't even do that. Yeah, so I knew he had his heart set on the chicken filly. So um we ended up at American Deli. And so we go to American Deli. He orders his chicken filly with the lemon pepper wings.

SPEAKER_03 1:18:59

Delicious lemon pepper wings was very good, even though they were about the size of my pinky. Yeah, very good.

SPEAKER_00 1:19:04

And um, I ordered something that uh I think a was it gyro, gyro, gyro, whatever.

SPEAKER_02 1:19:11

I ordered Hyro.

SPEAKER_00 1:19:12

I ordered a chicken one. And um, so we get our food. Um, the Philly, I mean, it is filled to pass capacity.

SPEAKER_06 1:19:25

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 1:19:26

I mean, it's just filled. My gyro, giro, gyro, filled to capacity. Now, mine wasn't necessarily filled capacity with meat. It just had a lot of all the other stuff. And like about two sliced medium onions on it. Yeah. So, anywho, I was hungry. The fries were good.

SPEAKER_03 1:19:50

Yeah, fries were great.

SPEAKER_00 1:19:51

The fries were great. And so I just was like, it is what it is, it's lunch. We can try again at dinner. Um, but I his chicken filly actually from across the table, yeah, looked good.

SPEAKER_03 1:20:04

It looked, it looked like American Daily normally. I was like, they normally deliver.

SPEAKER_00 1:20:08

I was thinking, I should have got that.

SPEAKER_03 1:20:10

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 1:20:11

Anyways, we're eating it. So I'm down and I'm just eating my thing all of a sudden. I heard somebody say, I just can't do this. I just I'm I'm just I was frustrated. And then I hear the I just see him close the thing, get up, and go to the trash can and throw it away. I said, You throw your sandwich away. Just no, it's just too much. They just made it a mess. I'm just frustrated. I'm just frustrated with it. I'm just frustrated with it. I'm done. I'm good. I said, Oh.

EV Tires, Rotations, and Rookie Mistakes

SPEAKER_03 1:20:46

My bread, for one, it was, you know, normally a good Philly is like you can, you know, pick it up and it's not falling apart. I couldn't pick it up. Everything was falling apart. Um, it was like it was it was just so messy, like, like they cut to the last part of the bread. Or it's like they just made a sandwich out of it and just put the bread on top of each other like that, which is not how you do it, of course. Um, because the other spot wraps it up real good like you would at a regular Philly spot, and then you can open take the wrap and you can still eat it. But this one, it just it every time I would pick it up, everything just fall out. So all I was getting was bread onions. And I was so just I was like, ah Yeah, he said that.

SPEAKER_04 1:21:27

Yeah. Do what you did.

SPEAKER_03 1:21:28

And I was like, see, there we go. So I was like, ah, I can't do this, man. I said, I'm frustrated. And I just got my box and just closed it up and I said, I'm done, let's go. And she was like, You just I said, yes, because it's ridiculous. We done paid this money, and I'm hungry, and I said, it's just and I never get hangry, but it's just like the small things, man. Just just just be, do your job, that's all. Do your job. I'm gonna try, I'm gonna tip you well, I'm gonna do, I'm kind, I'm polite, I let a lot of things slide, but it's like it just was a sm a messy day. You know what I'm saying? And I didn't take it out on them, I took it out on a sandwich, and I just trashed it, and I was like, let's go. So that's my side eye. The poor customer service and a poor made, poorly made um chicken filly from my spot, American Deli. American Deli normally comes through for me in the clutch, always. But not that this time they just it fell short. Oh, American Delhi. Come on, American Dell. I need y'all to do belly. But anyway.

SPEAKER_00 1:22:30

That's his side eye.

SPEAKER_03 1:22:31

That's my side eye. So what are you looking forward to? Um, or what are you grateful for? I'm sorry. So we can end on positive instead of side-eye and all these.

SPEAKER_00 1:22:40

Gosh, I'm trying to not make sure I don't repeat something I'm grateful for, but I guess it's okay. But um I don't know. I'm grateful to have, I guess, children, they get excited about small things. So, like, there are certain things that the boys are into, and for other people, they'd be like, they're excited about that little thing. But um, so I kind of feel like perhaps maybe we kind of help create it that they get excited about, you know, little small things that they do and that may not be exciting to other people, but it's exciting for them. Um so I'm glad that they can find joy in the little things because that's important.

SPEAKER_03 1:23:31

Very important. Very important. I'm always, you know, me like if if anything somebody does for me, I'm pleased. Like you'd be like, you don't have to take that if you don't like it. I'm like, I like the gesture which makes me like that even more. You know what I'm saying? Um, so yeah, then that that is that is big. It's easier for us too when they're like that. Because we don't stress about, oh my God, you know. When we see some of these people these parents who kids, you know, they're not pleased with anything and they're breaking their backs trying to give these kids something that they probably ain't even gonna like after the trend of the style is out, you know. Yeah, so we're thankful for them. Um I am thankful for, to be perfectly honest, man, um, even though it's not where my vision has it yet, but I'm thankful for this podcast. It's fun. Um, it's our weekly moments of communication.

SPEAKER_00 1:24:31

Um I thought about that too.

SPEAKER_03 1:24:33

It allows us to um and I listen to us, like you said, you know, throughout the clips, I listen through to us um um at you know on the the commute, and so it gives us more it gives me more time to witness our union from a different perspective, you know, uh to hear it as someone else may hear it. Um and even even if it's like it's not, let's just say it's of course, you know, I I want it to do great numbers. I want it to do amazing things, which I know it will do, but it's still a piece of legacy that's out there. So like if the boys ever want to, you know, this is let me let you listen to your grandparents or if they do have kids, or if they don't, they have friends. Hey, listen to my mom and dad. This is who remember I was telling you about how great they were, you know, you know, whatever, once once once you pass when you're about 98 and I'm still alive, you know, in um Belize somewhere at 102.

SPEAKER_05 1:25:41

Okay.

Gratitude, Legacy, and Why We Podcast

SPEAKER_03 1:25:41

But um it's uh I'm grateful for this opportunity. Um I love doing this. It's fun. Um God knows if I had$5,000 sweetstakes, I would hook it up to have other things. You know, better microphones and things like that. You know me, I'm a tech guy. But um I love it. It's growing on me a lot more. I look like I said, I look forward to our weekly discussions to see where we go. Because even though I know some of the stuff that you're gonna say, I still don't know what you're gonna say. You know what I mean? And so that's that's the fun part. And that's the fun part about us, period. And so I'm I'm so grateful that every week I get to discover you. Yeah, yeah. So that's pretty cool. I like that. I like that. I find I find a new something about you every week. But that's the key to communication. You know what I'm saying? So that's my gratefulness. Greatest.

SPEAKER_00 1:26:54

Oh no. Boo-boo.

SPEAKER_03 1:26:55

My bad.

SPEAKER_00 1:26:57

No, no, no.

SPEAKER_03 1:26:58

I'm sorry. Yeah. I need Malachi to sing my outro. Malachi, send me a little demo and we'll put you on. All right, Malachi. If anybody knows Malachi Brown, he was the uh drum major for Langston University right after they uh upgraded from the Kazoos. And um, they had uh one saxophone, they had a triangle, a tambourine, uh uh uh what's the washboard thing? And they had uh two people playing the spoons, that was the percussion. And he was the drum major. So uh if y'all know Malachi Brown, I'd give him a shout out. You know, he goes down the history. Uh drum major for Langston University. That's my boy.

SPEAKER_00 1:27:47

Yeah. Oh my gosh. All right. Malachi's gonna kill you. Um we already talked about looking forward to you're looking forward to homecoming.

SPEAKER_03 1:27:55

Yeah, looking forward to homecoming. Yeah, and I need to get some new tires for the Tesla.

SPEAKER_00 1:28:01

Yeah, look, y'all won't hear about that? This is my side eye. It's time to go. I'm changing this is my side eye to him.

SPEAKER_03 1:28:06

But it's and to me too. No, and I'm saying this is my side eye too, because I was I was gonna say that, but I thought about the chicken filling. I was gonna say that. I was like, how could I ever forget it? Go please tell it. Okay, it's ridiculous.

SPEAKER_00 1:28:17

It is ridiculous.

SPEAKER_03 1:28:18

So ridiculous.

SPEAKER_00 1:28:19

So, all of you all, maybe y'all need to also hear this before it's too late, because it's too late for this guy. If you have an electric vehicle, you know, you guys don't have to take them for oil changes and all the things. Typically, you do your oil changes, they do your tire rotations at the same time. Um, because this guy has never had an oil change. He did not think, oh, I need to get the tires rotated.

SPEAKER_03 1:28:52

Not at all. But I always make sure it's done in our cars and the Jeep and the stuff like that.

SPEAKER_00 1:28:58

But also, I'm thinking to myself, now see, for my car, my Volvo.

SPEAKER_03 1:29:06

But that's why we're thinking, because we know it's it's I don't know. Let me tell you. Oh, go ahead.

SPEAKER_00 1:29:11

For my Volvo, I will get an email that says Oh I'm getting no email. Yeah, I get a thing that says tire rotation. It's time for oil change. It's time for like I get an email. Now you would think, with all the technology in that vehicle, that they too would say your tires have not been rotated. Or something should come up on the as a on the screen to say your tires have not been rotated. Um, or have you rotated or have you rotated your tires? Like there's nothing that comes up from updates.

SPEAKER_03 1:29:48

Come up, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 1:29:48

You get an update new update on the update computer software, but nothing in regards to like tire or or whatever. So this guy has not rotated the tires. Um turning the lease for the car is is February, turning it in.

SPEAKER_05 1:30:05

Turning it.

SPEAKER_00 1:30:06

And he um tried to go and see if they would rotate them. They was like, child, please. You can't rotate these things. You need all four new tires because they're worn so bad on one side. And so um, yeah, because he didn't rotate them. So for all you uh electric vehicle people, make sure you get your tires rotated because you're not going in for the normal maintenance. Uh you need to rotate your tires. So side eye for for this whole husband who didn't think about rotating.

SPEAKER_03 1:30:42

I found some cheap tires that'll get me to the to the finish line. Yeah. So I'm gonna I'm gonna purchase some cheap ones that'll get me to the finish line. Um and they had good reviews. Okay. Four out of five stars. Uh like over 2,000 reviews, I think it was.

SPEAKER_05 1:30:59

Good enough.

SPEAKER_03 1:31:00

Like$400. Uh-huh. And I get 5% from because I'm a veteran.

SPEAKER_00 1:31:05

Five dollars off.

SPEAKER_03 1:31:06

All right. But uh it's uh, well, so I'm gonna see if I can get them done tomorrow after work. Um that's double side. But I'm okay. But I'm grateful for the podcast because the podcast allows me to uh sit in my stuff.

SPEAKER_04 1:31:23

Sit in your ish.

SPEAKER_03 1:31:24

Yeah, sit in my ish and uh face it. Uh so that is it. And uh we're this is gonna be uh episode 11. We've hit a milestone of 10.

SPEAKER_00 1:31:36

I did not realize that till I looked the other day and I was like, oh my gosh, we've done 10. It doesn't even feel like we've done 10.

Spa Dreams, Bucket Lists, and Closing Freestyle

SPEAKER_03 1:31:44

And so, but yeah, yeah, we my goal is to like whenever we have some time, like because every time we have a break, we are going. Like, I would love to like record like for maybe an hour, like like five hours on different stuff and then break them up. You know how some people like they have they have one long recording, yeah, but that'll probably be five episodes.

SPEAKER_00 1:32:09

Oh gosh, that's a long time.

SPEAKER_03 1:32:10

It is, but that's what people do when they actually doing podcasts. Oh, like we're kicking them. Like a work day. Yeah. Uh-huh. On those those days, they'll have it, you know, on those different podcast people and stuff. So, man. I mean, I but I want to do that that way we can really bank up, you know, some. And then we can like I still wanna do it, but I just want to have a nice vault, like Prince. You know, Prince got all that music in the vault. I want to have some good. Oh wow. That's what we're gonna do.

SPEAKER_00 1:32:40

Also, say my other last side eye is we did not make it to the Korean spa.

SPEAKER_03 1:32:46

We did it, but we're gonna we're gonna do it.

SPEAKER_00 1:32:47

I think somebody didn't really want to go.

SPEAKER_03 1:32:49

But I look, this is what I can do for her.

SPEAKER_00 1:32:51

But I really did want to go.

SPEAKER_03 1:32:54

But you and then I also was like, does she really want to go? Because she kept on saying, they say you gotta walk around naked, and she kept bringing that part. I said, Well, she ain't gonna walk around naked.

SPEAKER_00 1:33:02

I did not say about that one.

SPEAKER_03 1:33:04

You didn't say that one?

SPEAKER_00 1:33:05

I said that was the other one. The only one where they said June or so. No, they you just had to you had to be, you have to be, if you're getting the scrub, you have to be completely naked for the scrub. But I mean, that makes sense to be completely naked for your scrub. I mean, I mean, why don't you? Well, you don't really have to because something like that. Oh, you mean why you could have one of bikini or something like that? Yeah, they they scrub you with the bottom. But I guess they think they're gonna scrub your butt and everything. I mean, I would want it all scrubbed.

SPEAKER_03 1:33:33

Yeah, you got a rough booty, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 1:33:35

I mean, I I mean you want it to be even some rough booties on that. You want to be the skin to be the same, even. Well, that's true too. You know?

SPEAKER_03 1:33:41

But uh most people's booties are different colors. Mine is because I got a birthmark on my booty. That whole left cheek is light skin.

SPEAKER_00 1:33:50

Anywho. So I really did really want to do that, and we didn't get to do it, so we'll we'll get it done though.

SPEAKER_03 1:33:57

We'll doubt, trust me. That was But we could, I hey, I just turn up the heat in the house. You can walk around in the room naked. I got some bathroom, uh, not bath uh Trader Joe's body scrub in there. Um, you got your son. I could change it. I got some Palais Santo's uh fragrances, I got everything we need. So y'all heard it. I I can hook it up.

SPEAKER_00 1:34:20

It's not the same. Why? Do you have a Korean restaurant downstairs?

SPEAKER_03 1:34:26

We got some of them little bobo things in the um That's not the same.

SPEAKER_00 1:34:31

That ain't a little bit more.

SPEAKER_03 1:34:35

So we got it, y'all.

SPEAKER_00 1:34:37

No, we don't have it. We got it. No, so I still wanna do that. That's kind of like a bucket list thing. Oh, for real? Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 1:34:45

My bucket list spa is Sedona in Arizona. I want to do a like I want to do the whole like retreat, like yeah, I do want to do that too.

SPEAKER_00 1:34:57

That would be nice.

SPEAKER_03 1:34:57

Okay, so I'ma make I'ma do it. If anybody out there, you know, watching that has their own major spa like that, y'all want to sponsor episode, we would love to come there.

SPEAKER_00 1:35:09

And we'll talk all about it.

SPEAKER_03 1:35:11

Yeah, we'll talk all about it. Get all our friends there.

SPEAKER_00 1:35:14

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 1:35:14

All right. But um, I guess get on up out of here because you have to get up early in the morning.

SPEAKER_00 1:35:19

Because I gotta run.

SPEAKER_03 1:35:20

Run so you can get your hurt.

SPEAKER_00 1:35:22

Before work because I get my hair done after work.

SPEAKER_03 1:35:28

Oh, anyway. Ladies and gentlemen, thank you so much for tuning in to the Refreshingly Normal Podcast.

SPEAKER_00 1:35:37

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SPEAKER_00 1:36:13

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