The Refreshingly Normal Podcast with Kēfla and Cree

Homecoming, Cooties, and Side-Eyes

• Kefla and Crecia • Season 1 • Episode 12

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A perfect-weather homecoming turns into a masterclass on what really sustains us—rituals that root identity, small alerts that protect our peace, and honest talks that make relationships sturdier. We start with the warmth of tailgates, band pride, and the funny near-miss of a fake valet in a brown sweatsuit, then move into an inheritance dilemma that hits harder than expected: a $1.8M house promised to a cousin’s grandson while a new spouse carries most expenses. Is that fair, or just familiar? We unpack late-life love, legacy, and what security looks like when history and obligations collide.

From there, we swing into levity—would you rather fight a horse-sized duck or 100 duck-sized horses—and use the laughter to clear space for practical wisdom. Balance in a young marriage isn’t 50/50; it’s a living agreement. Some weeks are 80/20, some 20/80. The goal isn’t symmetry; it’s teamwork. We share simple, no-guilt self-care ideas that don’t require spa budgets, and we double down on a key truth: say what you need out loud. Mind-reading is not a love language. Along the way, we examine money quirks (random Amazon buys, instruments, the empire of “stacks”), and how to budget with compassion for curiosity and comfort.

We close with side eyes and gratitude: a loud boxing guy turning the gym into a stage, a growing cologne collection that somehow makes strangers hand out compliments, the relief of cooler weather, and kids who still love hanging with their parents. It’s a refreshingly normal ride—funny, honest, and grounded in choices that make love practical. If you felt seen, share this with a friend who needs a nudge toward clearer conversations and kinder routines. Subscribe, rate, and leave a review to help more listeners find the show.

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SPEAKER_00:

The refreshingly normal podcast.

SPEAKER_01:

Child, look at the dang camera. Welcome back, you guys. I am Kifla.

SPEAKER_04:

I am Lucretia.

SPEAKER_01:

And you are listening to the Refreshingly Normal podcast. Thank you so much for joining us every week, week in and week out, being loyal listeners and loyal friends and fans and all that good stuff. Uh we hope that we are entertaining to you. And if you don't know just yet, just give us a little longer. I'm sure we'll become your next favorite or your just your favorite podcast of all times. For sure. Of course. Well, um, seems like you're under the weather.

SPEAKER_04:

Yes. Okay. Um got cooties either from homecoming. Or from middle school or high schoolers.

SPEAKER_01:

Okay, yeah, yes. It could be any one of those. Yeah, they all are cooties, cooti carriers. Mm-hmm. Yeah.

SPEAKER_04:

Especially those hornets.

SPEAKER_01:

That's right, because once you catch something from the hornet, baby, you can't get rid of that. You know what I'm saying? So how did you enjoy uh homecoming?

SPEAKER_04:

Well, I enjoyed homecoming.

SPEAKER_01:

Okay.

SPEAKER_04:

Um I I mean it was the same as like what it always I mean, we go to the tailgating, we go to the game, we get to see all of the people that we I think most people I've met. I don't think there's anybody I haven't met. But most people I've met, so get to see all the people that are excited to see this guy. They act like they're excited to see me, but they excited to see me.

SPEAKER_01:

They're excited to see us both.

SPEAKER_04:

Um, but anywho, so got to do the tailgating and chit-chat and walk around. And um the weather was very nice.

SPEAKER_02:

Very, very nice.

SPEAKER_04:

The weather was very nice. The only thing I that I guess is my thing to change. Um, we didn't go the night before. And um, I think this was the first time that we got up and went the morning of. And whoo, child, that is just too much of a day. It was tiring because I had to get up because you know, y'all know I've made a commitment to running every day. I knew after being at the homecoming and after having several drinks and being outside all day, like trying to go back to the hotel and run. I was not gonna want to do.

SPEAKER_02:

Yeah.

SPEAKER_04:

And then just in case, in quotations, we was going to the rooftop bar.

SPEAKER_01:

Thank you, God. Thank you, God.

SPEAKER_04:

And we were going to the rooftop bar. I just didn't, you know, I didn't want to have to run before that. Bitch, um, so I had to get up and run in the morning. And so that was 6 a.m. Then get dressed and get things packed up to go. But um, yeah, I would. I don't want to do that again. I want to go the night before. All right. Y'all, I can't be sick, child.

SPEAKER_02:

You can't be.

SPEAKER_04:

Um, and then um, and our hotel. I like our hotel in Montgomery.

SPEAKER_01:

What's the name of it?

SPEAKER_04:

Trilogy.

SPEAKER_01:

The trilogy.

SPEAKER_04:

It's a Marriott Hotel.

SPEAKER_01:

Yeah, signature hotel.

SPEAKER_04:

Signature hotel. I just really like it. I like the our room this time that we got was a corner room. Very um spacious.

SPEAKER_01:

Some kind of ballroom. What was it called?

SPEAKER_04:

The the ballroom.

SPEAKER_05:

It's actual ballroom there, honey.

SPEAKER_01:

No, but it but that's where it was. No, it was near the ballroom, yeah. Area. It was it was actually called the something ballroom.

SPEAKER_04:

Oh, okay. I really like it. The people that work there are always very friendly. It's a it's attached to a Starbucks. It's really cute inside, but it's just comfortable.

SPEAKER_01:

So Somebody almost got us though when we got there.

SPEAKER_04:

Oh, yes, y'all. When we were there, uh, we pull up and um valet, or so we thought. So we pull up, and this person is saying, pull up, you know, come around and pull up on the other side of this car.

SPEAKER_01:

And I see him and he's like in a But we weren't going to valet because you had said Yeah, no, we hadn't. No, we were just going to Yeah, because you said, hey, it's probably better for us to just let me. Ooh.

SPEAKER_04:

What?

SPEAKER_01:

Okay, tell me what you said. Go ahead, say what you're saying.

SPEAKER_04:

We were gonna go to dinner.

SPEAKER_01:

Right.

SPEAKER_04:

We were just going to check in.

SPEAKER_01:

Right, okay. That's what you were gonna say? Yes.

SPEAKER_04:

Oh, I'm so sorry. We were just gonna go to dinner.

SPEAKER_01:

We just go and check in, and then there's no need for us to park. But I'm sorry, guys.

SPEAKER_04:

I thought he was gonna say something else in regards to we the reason there came, there, there came a reason why we could not valet. Like we couldn't valet. So when we pulled up, it was a guy in a brown sweatsuit. And I was like, huh. When they start letting valet wear regular clothes. So, anyways, when I pulled up, he opened up my door and everything. So I got home now, and then I said, Lady, I said, Hey, um, y'all valet wear regular clothes? She said, hmm? I said, the valet, I said, do they wear a uniform or do they wear she goes, oh no, no, he should have on a shirt that says Marion or whatever or something on it. I said, Oh, it's a man out there that's acting like valet and he has on a brown track suit. She says, Oh, girl, don't y'all let him take y'all's car. Child, that sounds like a movie. And so, um, of course, we didn't let him take the car, but we couldn't let him take the car because somebody left their key, car key, car, car, car card.

SPEAKER_01:

Key card. I left the Tesla key card um at home. Yeah. Um, so I normally bring it with me, but you know, this time I accidentally.

SPEAKER_04:

Yeah, so we had so we couldn't because we could only use it from our phone to work um Tesla. So we couldn't do it anyways, but yeah, it was some little main.

SPEAKER_01:

It's a good thing I didn't bring it, so you know, because who knows, we probably would have been a little more apt to say. Let's go ahead and just not thinking, you know.

SPEAKER_04:

The brown man in the sweatsuit would have had the Tesla.

SPEAKER_01:

Yeah.

SPEAKER_04:

Anywho, so that's a little bit about my side of the weekend. How did you enjoy homecoming?

SPEAKER_01:

I enjoyed it. It's always good to be um back. Um Alabama State, I will admit, was one of the highlights of my my uh life. My life, my life.

SPEAKER_03:

Life highlight? You had a lot of things happening.

SPEAKER_01:

I'd have, I had, but then that's what because a lot of growth, maturity happened at Alabama State, second chances happened at Alabama State. Um a lot of good things. Um discovery, you know, of myself, um, who I am, and who we are as a people. A lot of that happened at Alabama State. So when I when I get to the campus, it just makes me feel some kind of way. When I wear the shirt, when I just talk about it, I feel some kind of way. So anytime I can come back, uh, it's great. Plus, I love, I love the game, and uh because I love our band, it's just amazing. You know, um, it's crazy because I was in the hallway today. I had to deliver a paper to a kid that was in in school suspension, and nobody was in the hallway, and all of a sudden I just found myself marching like I was in the band. And I was and I was I was getting it too like that. And I the whole time, I was like, and now I just started laughing. I was like, look at me. Um but I I really enjoyed it. It was good to see uh, you know, like I say, a lot of my fraternity brothers, a lot of friends, a lot of um people that I haven't seen in a while. Um it's it's all it's always good to be seen, you know, when people are genuinely uh excited to see you, and vice versa, when I'm genuinely excited to see some people. Uh that's good. Um, of course, we were there with Kimani. It's always good to see him. Um and just to see him how he's matriculating through it all, growing and stuff like that. Uh it's it's very interesting to see that part. Um, but the weather was great. The the tailgate area before the game was not overcrowded, so the adjustments that they made were amazing. Uh the game was cool, real good game. We, you know, we got a great quarterback this year. Last year, we was playing our fourth stream quarterback, which was actually a converted wide receiver, so we were struggling. And so now we're we're you know doing a real good job. Um what else? What else? What else? That's pretty much it. Um I really, I really enjoyed myself. Really enjoyed myself. Um I could do it again. You know what I'm saying? If it was another homecoming next week, I could do it again. But I would like to go to, you know, m more than one game a a year. That'd be cool just to pop up. But, you know, I know because I think if we just went to a game, we wouldn't necessarily have to stay in a hotel. We could just go down there for a particular game that we knew like was a good band and a good team playing, just dip and come back.

SPEAKER_04:

Yeah, you could do that.

SPEAKER_01:

Yeah. But I really enjoyed it.

SPEAKER_04:

Well, very good.

SPEAKER_01:

Yep. So um has anything happened uh great for you since we last recorded besides the homecoming?

SPEAKER_04:

I'm still trying, I feel like catch up from everything from the weekend. Um this week I got a chance to um speak to some students at Kennesaw State University just about some mental health things. Um, so that was cool to have the opportunity to do some activities with them. Um, they are future health educators.

SPEAKER_01:

That's right, health educators.

SPEAKER_04:

So that was cool. Great people. Yeah. So that was nice to um go there and have an opportunity to Did you say my husband's a health educator? I didn't.

SPEAKER_01:

Good job.

SPEAKER_04:

Uh my time was like really short.

SPEAKER_01:

Oh, man, that took so long for me to just say that.

SPEAKER_04:

No, because normally normally, no, no, normally when I do my presentations, I always talk about my family and all the things. But when she told me I had such a short amount of time.

SPEAKER_01:

Yeah, you don't want to waste that time.

SPEAKER_04:

Oh my gosh.

SPEAKER_01:

That's a long time.

SPEAKER_04:

Any hootie-doo. Um, yeah. So that was um, that was um something different this week that I got to do um that I enjoyed. Okay. Anything for you?

SPEAKER_01:

Um, no, nothing really. Uh the campus has been quiet. Uh the gym has been. It's been different. I'm seeing a lot of new faces in the gym. I think I wonder if they had some kind of special or something going on, but I'm seeing a lot of new faces in the gym during the time we normally go. Um, so that's uh interesting. And one I'll talk about in my side eye of the week.

SPEAKER_06:

But uh oh.

SPEAKER_01:

But no, it's it's been good. My um workouts have been a little, I don't know. It's just been a little different.

SPEAKER_04:

What you mean? I don't know.

SPEAKER_01:

I just I my energy level is sort of down.

SPEAKER_04:

Maybe you got cooties too.

SPEAKER_01:

No, I'm good. And I don't want to do too much caffeine. Mm-hmm. Um, but I don't know. But I'm getting in there. I'm still doing, you know, still trying to lift heavy because I'm trying to go through a transformation, a physical transformation. And it's gonna be slowly but surely, but I'll get there. Yeah. Yep. All right, so let's uh get to some of the topics today. I wanna I wanna talk about some things. Okay um first, you sent me a story.

SPEAKER_06:

I did.

SPEAKER_01:

Yep. And the cool thing about the story, you know, it's it's now time coming around for uh what do we call that? Open open enrollment for your insurance and stuff like that. So all of you out there that are, you know, getting ready to do your insurance for next year, uh, don't forget it. Um but it's time for open enrollment. And um right when you sent the story, I was looking at, you know, and it was like beneficiaries and all that stuff. And it was funny that the story related to inheritance or beneficiary of a person, a husband and a wife. And I just thought that was ironic that I was actually looking at my beneficiary stuff and getting ready to actually try to see how expensive our insurance is gonna be for next year. Um, but knock on wood, God's gonna take care of it, we'll be straight. We ain't gotta worry about it. We won't feel it. So, did you find the story?

SPEAKER_04:

I do, I have it.

SPEAKER_01:

All right, go ahead. Read the story.

SPEAKER_04:

So she says, I am 73 and my husband is 76. We married three years ago. I moved overseas to be with him. We are in excellent health, and statistically, we have another 10 to 15 years of life ahead of us.

SPEAKER_00:

Amen.

SPEAKER_04:

I have grown children in their 40s and one grandchild in the U.S. from a previous marriage. My European husband has two ex-wives and no children.

SPEAKER_02:

Okay.

SPEAKER_04:

My income is almost double what he receives from his pension, as his former wives took a considerable share. So I pay two-thirds of our living expenses. That's okay with me. It allows us to travel more and have more fun than we would if we lived separately. What bothers me is that my husband's heir to his main asset, the home we share, which is worth approximately$1.8 million, is a cousin's grandson who is now 10 years old. This is on the grounds that this child alone can carry on the family name.

SPEAKER_02:

Yeah.

SPEAKER_04:

My own estate is worth a bit more. I don't need it for income, and it will all go to my children, but I have willed my husband the lifelong use of an apartment I own, which he can rent out for an extra income if I die first. He will also get half my U.S. Social Security. I am not eligible for a widow's pension should he die first. So if I were widowed, I'd have to move back to the U.S. to be closer to my children. But I feel slighted by being bypassed with the money going to the 10-year-old cousin, little cousin.

SPEAKER_01:

Yeah. Um, she said, should I that's a 10-year-old cousin's grandson?

SPEAKER_04:

Mm-hmm. Yes. And she says, should I just accept the situation as reasonable for a late marriage? Or would an impartial observer suggest an alternative? It's hard to figure out what is, in parentheses, normal.

SPEAKER_01:

I I would say, because I was just thinking about it. I understand because he he has no children of his own. Um, and he can't say carry on his name because you know, passing somebody down a house don't carry your name on. Um, but oh yeah, that's true. If if anything, he should put in there once she passes away, then you can receive like she he is the second beneficiary. But she cannot sell it. You know what I mean? They should it should be like that, well, she can't sell it, and then once she passes away, then he gets it. Because fearfully, if they're living in that house, I don't remember I was trying to recall if they were saying where they were living. If they're living in his house, and then when he dies, what's to say they won't kick her out because that's actually the little kid's house now.

SPEAKER_03:

Well, she said that she would have to go, she would have to go back to the U.S. with her family.

SPEAKER_01:

But I know she said that, but I didn't know if she she didn't say she would have to go because they wouldn't let her live there. Oh, she didn't say that. Right.

SPEAKER_04:

That's what I was Well, I don't know. I feel like I can see why he hasn't shifted or changed things because it's been just three years. Yeah. And he's probably thinking, I'd rather my this stay in the family because this is I don't know how long he's had the house, but the time that he's had with the house and probably the time that he's had with his family and invested in his family far outweighs the invested time with her.

SPEAKER_01:

And I think she's mad too, though, because she just says she lifelong willed him the apartment that he could use for rental.

SPEAKER_05:

She just happens to have an extra property.

SPEAKER_01:

I know, but I'm just saying of her house. She's like, but it's will to him.

SPEAKER_04:

But her house is will to her children.

SPEAKER_01:

Yes, but the she got another piece of property though, that she at least willed to him.

SPEAKER_05:

Okay.

SPEAKER_01:

So I guess she's like saying, well, dang, at least I could probably get something out of it.

SPEAKER_05:

Well, that is her chance.

SPEAKER_01:

And I I know that's her choice, but I'm saying I understand where she I understand where both of them are coming from. He's saying, well, what's to say, you're gonna be here, and she's saying, well, dang, I I, you know, I gave you, I willed you the apartment for extra income.

SPEAKER_04:

She didn't have to do that.

SPEAKER_01:

She didn't. She she definitely don't like she could get the apartment back. Yeah. Right now.

SPEAKER_04:

You should take it out and write it out.

SPEAKER_01:

And don't even worry about it. Yeah. I mean, it's a lot of things she could do.

SPEAKER_04:

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01:

But, you know, I I I'll just say I understand where I understand both of them are coming from.

SPEAKER_04:

But then if we're talking about equivalency, her apartment is probably not worth as much as his$1.8 million house.

SPEAKER_01:

It might not be.

SPEAKER_04:

So that's not even the same.

SPEAKER_01:

But well, okay, so what if if we're talking about equivalency in his death, what should he get give her?

SPEAKER_02:

Nothing.

SPEAKER_04:

I won't say nothing. I just guess I'm just thinking it's such a late marriage. They're so old. I mean, I don't say old, but they are old. They're 70s.

SPEAKER_01:

They're seasoned, very seasoned.

SPEAKER_04:

They're very seasoned. So they're so old that they've had these lives with, you know, like even for his um, well, he doesn't, and the problem also is that he doesn't have his own children because if he had his own children, then his house would be going to his children. But unfortunately, he doesn't have children to give it to. So maybe for him, although we say it's a cousin's grandson, maybe they have a close relationship.

SPEAKER_02:

Yeah.

SPEAKER_04:

Maybe he treats him like a grandson because he doesn't have his own kids and never had grandchildren. So maybe that's and it never said, is he an only child? Because he didn't, they didn't mention brothers or sisters for him, or maybe he outlived his brothers or sisters. So he's this is just what's left, you know.

SPEAKER_01:

Yeah, because he didn't say nothing about any niece or nephews. So that might just be it.

SPEAKER_05:

He might just be an only child.

SPEAKER_01:

Yeah. So he got a lot going on too, because he still, like she said, a lot of his money is split between his two ex-wives. So they can't even talk about equivalency because she already said her house is worth more than his.

SPEAKER_04:

And she got another property.

SPEAKER_01:

Yeah, she got another property, and he he's not making enough money anyway to do stuff. So she she's the he she he struck it rich with her.

SPEAKER_04:

Yeah, and the thing about it is if anything ever happened to her, like he doesn't have kids to go home to to take care of him. And and then on top of that, he got burned so bad by the two ex-wives, he's probably like, I'm not getting burned again.

SPEAKER_01:

He probably got all kinds of stuff stowed away.

SPEAKER_04:

Yeah. He probably said, I'm not getting burned again. No, ma'am.

SPEAKER_01:

She should have said, when did he leave the property to the 10-year-old? Was it before they got married, before they met, after they married, or something like that? You know, just give you a little more context.

SPEAKER_04:

I understand. I feel like he he, I don't know if he was the one that messed up the marriages or not, but I can see, I can understand his reasoning for saying, I'm not leaving women, nothing else, because most of his money is gone from the state.

SPEAKER_01:

She needs to learn now to go ahead and get her property out of his name, too.

SPEAKER_04:

Yeah. I mean, I think at that age that they're at, I mean, of course, there's less life left to live.

SPEAKER_01:

Less in front than what they have in mind.

SPEAKER_04:

Mm-hmm. That just focus on enjoying your last days. Why are you worried about what he's leaving you?

SPEAKER_01:

But you, I mean, you have to, it's well, I don't want to say what he's leaving you. Well, you still kind of want to know what they're doing.

SPEAKER_05:

Either anyway.

SPEAKER_01:

Yeah, I mean, you still.

SPEAKER_05:

I mean, she's gonna be fine anyway. Why is she worried about what that man is gonna leave her? That's true. Now, if I was him, I'd be a little suspicious of that.

SPEAKER_01:

If you died, like, I'll be fine without your insurance.

SPEAKER_06:

Mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_01:

Because I got a you know, a job that I can make it work.

SPEAKER_04:

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01:

I'll be fine without your insurance money.

SPEAKER_04:

So, I mean It would help, but I'd be fine. Yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_01:

And if you can't pay for this house, I'd be okay, take it. It's just me.

SPEAKER_04:

And and does he have insurance money? She can go get uh well they probably they probably get a um insurance plan right now and probably too expensive because of the city.

SPEAKER_01:

She said she don't qualify for his pension or something like that, right?

SPEAKER_04:

Yeah, she doesn't qualify. Yeah, even see.

SPEAKER_01:

She don't get no money actually.

SPEAKER_04:

That's why he probably was like, Yeah, I get married again, because she can't get my pension.

SPEAKER_01:

She can't get nothing. She don't get my house, she don't get nothing but my loving.

SPEAKER_04:

Yeah. He probably said, that's what I want. Somebody who just wants me for my loving.

SPEAKER_01:

For my loving. And nothing a little blue pill can't handle.

SPEAKER_04:

And I bet we might go check on them right now. They may not be together because if he knew she wrote this letter worried about what he leaving her.

SPEAKER_01:

He might be dead.

SPEAKER_04:

He probab Oh no.

SPEAKER_01:

I'm just saying.

SPEAKER_04:

They might be.

SPEAKER_01:

It might be. The measles coming back. So they might get him.

SPEAKER_04:

It might get him.

SPEAKER_01:

That measles jump on him, boy. It's oath.

SPEAKER_04:

That's it. When he's 76.

SPEAKER_01:

Mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_04:

You a goner.

SPEAKER_01:

That's right. But I'm going to be around for a long time, though.

SPEAKER_04:

Better not get that measles thing.

SPEAKER_01:

Oh no, I'm be like the Bible. Like them people in the Bible, 400, 500 years old.

SPEAKER_04:

Okay. 400, 500 years old.

SPEAKER_01:

I'm going to be around a long time. You're going to be like, oh my God. Well, no, you ain't going to be nothing. You're going to be. I'm going to be around for a long time.

SPEAKER_04:

All right, child.

SPEAKER_01:

Watch.

SPEAKER_04:

Okay.

SPEAKER_01:

All right. Let's uh what else you got? Give me another. We got some stories over there. Give me a let's answer a question.

SPEAKER_04:

You want to answer a question? I'll say, I don't have any more stories. I just thought that story was very interesting, but I do have a question.

SPEAKER_01:

Yes, I want to answer a question.

SPEAKER_04:

Okay. Would is a would you rather?

SPEAKER_01:

I love would you rather.

SPEAKER_04:

Would you rather fight one horse-sized duck or 100 duck-sized horses?

SPEAKER_01:

A horse-sized duck.

SPEAKER_04:

And do I trust you to have my back in this battle? I don't know why they're asking that.

unknown:

Because I don't.

SPEAKER_01:

You don't trust God is so good. Every time she started talking out of her neck, then all of a sudden he makes her cough. Thank you, Dod. I'm sorry for coughing, y'all. Exactly.

SPEAKER_04:

I do not want to be sad.

SPEAKER_01:

That's why you need to act right. You need to act right.

unknown:

Help me cheese.

SPEAKER_01:

But um because a hundred duck-sized horses.

SPEAKER_04:

Yes. Or one horse-sized duck.

SPEAKER_01:

I'll take the horse-side, one horse-sized duck. Yeah. Cause I I'll poke his eyes out first.

SPEAKER_04:

Oh, well, you can still reach him, yeah.

SPEAKER_01:

Yeah, I'll poke his eyes out. Then when I poke his eyes out, then he's lost. Then I'll it'll give me the opportunity to like try to break his leg or something, or, you know, get on him. And if I get on his neck, I'm gonna choke him. I'm gonna choke. He might fly though. I walk around and I'll I'll snatch a feather off of his wing every chance. So he can't really see. So I pull a feather. And I pull it and I keep pulling feathers till he can't fly. You know, so once he once all his wing feathers are off, then I got him. Then I get on his neck and I choke him out. I choke him out.

SPEAKER_04:

You're gonna choke him out though.

SPEAKER_01:

Yeah.

SPEAKER_04:

You can choke out a horse-sized duck.

SPEAKER_01:

Yes. You'd be surprised what what you could do when you have to. But a whole like a a duck.

SPEAKER_04:

Don't they little heads go like.

SPEAKER_01:

I mean, they could do all kinds of stuff. They can reach back behind and just You get up just right. You get him just right up here, and he can't do nothing. Right that way, or you can just go front and back like that. And I just hold on till he dies. I will.

SPEAKER_04:

I think I do a hundred size. I mean, a hundred duck size horses. Cause I just kick them like soccer balls.

SPEAKER_01:

You gotta kick all them, you gotta kick them several times.

SPEAKER_04:

Well, I just kicked it.

SPEAKER_01:

Several, several times. I'll be a kicking here well.

SPEAKER_04:

I'll be a kicking fool.

SPEAKER_01:

Yeah, you will be. And they can kick too. Just think no little horses kick you in your shin. Oh, that might hurt real bad. Or your little ankle bone. Oh. Or they just find their pants on your toes. No, I stomp them. Yeah, you could. You could stomp. You could get quite a bit of them.

SPEAKER_04:

I can get at least at least 50 of them.

SPEAKER_01:

You kick them just right, you could probably rupture a spleen or something like that to break the neck. Yeah, you can get it.

SPEAKER_04:

I feel I will feel at least I feel more accomplished. Because once you see one kind of fly, you feel like I got something. But you're gonna have to feel like. They ain't gonna fly. No, I mean fly like kick them.

SPEAKER_01:

Oh yeah.

SPEAKER_04:

But with the with the horse duck, you're gonna, it's gonna be a minute. It's almost like, what was that video game where you had to keep punching and punching and punching? Mike Tyson punching and punching. No, um not punch out. Like you was fighting like monster-looking things.

SPEAKER_01:

I don't know.

SPEAKER_04:

Maybe more to combat is what I'm thinking of.

SPEAKER_01:

Maybe so.

SPEAKER_04:

But you have to keep on going and you can hit them, and they still like you gotta get so many hits. And that's how it would be with the with the big old duck. Maybe you get them down or maybe you won't. And in the end, will it be you?

SPEAKER_01:

Oh, I I get some motor oil and pour on them. Because you know how them ducks, when they get that oil like in the ocean and stuff, they can't do that.

SPEAKER_04:

They can't do nothing.

SPEAKER_01:

They can't do nothing.

SPEAKER_04:

You're gonna well, you're gonna need a lot of them.

SPEAKER_01:

And I just pour the oil on her, just sit back, let them die. Ain't he got to fight them.

SPEAKER_04:

That's a good, that's a good idea.

SPEAKER_01:

And just sit there and watch them and just sit there in a chair and just be like smiling at them.

SPEAKER_04:

That's a good idea.

SPEAKER_01:

Look at you. You done ducked up now.

SPEAKER_04:

But they can still walk, can't they? They can't fly, but they can still.

SPEAKER_06:

He might not be able to walk. He might be slippery. Oh my goodness. I don't know. I don't know about that. Yep. Mm-mm. What else you got? That's a weird question.

SPEAKER_04:

Um, what a bit-Well, hold on.

SPEAKER_01:

You said I won't have your back. If you fighting them 100%.

SPEAKER_04:

That's like a monster.

SPEAKER_01:

Now, if the one little hundred You wouldn't have my back on a big monster horse or duck, but I would have your back.

SPEAKER_04:

I would. No, I would I probably would be scared. I'm sorry. I'm not gonna lie. I would be scared of a horse-sized duck. That's just weird.

SPEAKER_01:

Yeah, I would I would get them.

SPEAKER_04:

Now I would help you with the little horsey things. Cause that is less intimidating.

SPEAKER_01:

I wonder if you could ring their necks easy, like you could ring them. Oh, just pick them up and go and just snap and pull it off like this. Yeah.

unknown:

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01:

I could do that. Yeah, see?

SPEAKER_05:

We'll be more successful with that than trying to beat up a big old duck.

SPEAKER_01:

Grab them by the hind legs and hit them on the ground real hard. Like that. Two at a time.

SPEAKER_04:

Hit them together. Take that and then go like this.

SPEAKER_01:

Yeah. Yeah, you can get them.

SPEAKER_04:

See? That's a better idea. Mm-hmm. Than trying to beat up a big monster duck.

SPEAKER_01:

Yeah, probably so. Regardless, I'm gonna fight to the end.

SPEAKER_04:

I mean, I guess I'll have to.

SPEAKER_01:

Right.

SPEAKER_04:

If I wanna live.

unknown:

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01:

That's just like if I fell, I used to fell off a building, I would flap my arms. Cause you never know.

SPEAKER_04:

You'll look.

SPEAKER_01:

You never know. I'm gonna fight to the end.

SPEAKER_04:

Child, that is gonna be.

SPEAKER_01:

I'm gonna flap my arms everything.

SPEAKER_04:

You ain't gonna flap them long. Because once gravity kicks in, you are a goner.

SPEAKER_01:

I'ma flap them.

SPEAKER_04:

Red pull. It gives you wings.

SPEAKER_01:

Yep. And I'm gonna say like that. You never know because it might make you stop. Who knows? I'm gonna try everything under the book. Flap. I'm gonna go. I'm gonna do everything I can falling off that building to see if I can stop.

SPEAKER_04:

Good luck with that.

SPEAKER_01:

Yep.

SPEAKER_04:

Good luck. Okay, here's a serious powerful question. What advice would you give to young couples about balancing family, career, and self-care?

SPEAKER_01:

Um the main thing is you you do have to take care of yourself. You you have to I would say you are a priority, but you're not um the only priority. You know what I mean? Like if you're not a healthy person and if you're not mentally stable, you can't provide anything to your family. You you can't you can't be there for them. But at the same time, you can't just say, well, I'm gonna only work on me, and now you're still neglecting everything around you. Um it's a uh, it's it's not an even distribution either. You know, there's gonna be times where you're gonna give more to yourself than you'll give to your family, and then there's gonna be times you give more to your family than to yourself. You have to pay attention to everything. Treat it like a, you know, when you go to those restaurants and you everything is on, like it's a family-style dinner and they have that revolving tape.

SPEAKER_05:

Like the chocolate. Yeah, like the age.

SPEAKER_01:

Uh-huh. And so you kind of gotta you gotta nibble a little bit off of this, turn around, nibble a little bit off of that, you know, but at the same time, you gotta make sure you're paying attention to what's getting this attention and what's not getting the attention. Um man. If you go into a relationship, a family, or anything, knowing that where you will be down the road is not where you are now, um, I think that's motivating for them. You know? Um and don't think of it as a negative way, think of it as a positive way. So it's it's just like saying that you you you will get better. You will get better at being a parent, you'll get better at being a a uh a spouse, you'll get better at being yourself. So I think that's very important to know too, that where you are right now is not where you're gonna be five years from now if you work at it.

SPEAKER_04:

Yeah, I was gonna say, yes. That you have to also put in the work and then acknowledge um and reflect what adjustments need to be made. Um not put the fault on others. Yeah. But what can you do? Yeah, what can you do?

SPEAKER_01:

Yeah, it's um I know I always if I'm ever doing anything wrong, it's never intentional. Like, I do not go out and say, I'm gonna do this, I'm gonna make this person mad today. I'm gonna it's not intentional for me. That's it's just not in me to do that. Like, even if I try, I'll feel some type of way. So I can't do it. Um, and so I'm always trying to work on myself. You know what I mean? Because I know if if if I'm better and I know the love I have for my family, you know, my friends, my, you know, the just people that are around me, I know that that will elevate too. Because I'm better. You know what I'm saying? And my intentions, I I mean well by my intentions. So the better I get in that area, I can't help but to elevate everything else around me.

SPEAKER_04:

I like that you said intention because I think that's what people have to be mindful of. That's a part of reflection too, because you have to to you do have to ask yourself what was your true intention behind that choice that you made? What why did you make that choice? Why did you decide? What am I why did you decide to um do whatever that thing was and then uh see did you did you really have true good intentions so that you can um you know adjust as necessary or repair whatever um harm was caused through that um decision that was made. I think when it comes to balancing all the things family, work, self-care, um if you are married or young oh yeah, we were talking about a young couple, right? Um the idea of everybody given their equal equal parts at the same time, um I don't wanna say I don't say it's not appropriate. So like you need to have a partner that can fill in when you aren't able to give your, you know, so it may be a time where they're given 80 and you're given 20, depending upon um what's happening um in their life, and then vice versa. Um, but it should, you know, balanced out, it shouldn't all be on one person. But the idea of everything being equal, like there are times where it will be equal, but there are times where it won't be equal. But the idea is we're a team. So what are we doing to get the things done that need to get done? What are we doing to, in regards to caring for our children, are we working together to get that thing done when it comes to our own relationship? What are we doing together to get that done? I think some people get so caught up on things being fair and that sort of thing, yeah, that they lose the fact that um it's not gonna always be that 50-50.

SPEAKER_02:

Yeah.

SPEAKER_04:

And then when it comes to self-care, I think sometimes in our world we think of elaborate things, and self-care does not have to be a spa day. It doesn't have to be, you know, some big elaborate playing girls' weekend, um, that sort of thing. Self-care could be that you go to she does this every time, y'all. Every single time she does that. She does this. She's like a child. You're like a child, little girl.

SPEAKER_01:

Yep.

SPEAKER_04:

Anyways, um, so self-care doesn't have to be anything elaborate. Self-care could mean um maybe you just take some time and you go to um take some time and go to Starbucks, and maybe you just have drink your coffee and read a book or um scroll through your phone and TikTok while you are just at Starbucks by yourself. Um, whatever your thing is, that you're able to do that. Maybe it means that you take yourself on a walk with whatever music you want, and that's what you give yourself. Um, I mean, so I think self-care is just that your thing, but it doesn't have to be anything elaborate or expensive. I think we get caught up on that. Um, that we don't take care of ourselves in that in because we think it has to be something huge or or big.

SPEAKER_01:

And I think a lot of people are guilt or feel guilty about being taking time for themselves.

SPEAKER_04:

Yeah, I I think that's so because I will say I remember when the boys were in um daycare.

SPEAKER_01:

You mentioned that before, yeah.

SPEAKER_04:

When the boys were in daycare, I knew people that would get off of work, go home, stay home, and then daycare closed at six, they go to pick up their kids at 5.55. And to me, I felt so bad about like doing that because they've been at daycare all day.

SPEAKER_02:

Yeah.

SPEAKER_04:

So for me, when I got off of work, I went to go get them um because they they had been there all day. Um, sometimes, like we had the the membership at um 24-hour fitness.

SPEAKER_01:

No, no, LA Fitness.

SPEAKER_04:

LA Fitness. And so they had the Kid Kids Club or whatever that's called. And so I would go and get them from the daycare and take them to the kids' club because it's just a different atmosphere. It's fun, it's not, it's not really rules in there. Um I mean, there are rules, but you know, it's just it's not structured. It's just really they have a good time. So give them a different atmosphere to be there because oftentimes when I tell them, come go get them, they're like, We're not ready. And I was like, it's time to go. Um, so trying to do things like that. So sometimes it is okay if you need to just take some time and not get them until 555. But I just don't feel like that should be every day.

SPEAKER_02:

Yeah.

SPEAKER_04:

So, but sometimes you do need to take that, um, take that time just for yourself and not feel um guilty about it. And then sometimes I think also with balancing, um, if it means that you know what, I don't really want us to eat McDonald's today, but I just this is I really just need a break from cooking today. And you go get the McDonald's and it's fine. Like some of those things are things to me that are self-care. Because if you are just tired and the idea of thinking about going to grocery store, cooking and doing all things, it's okay if you have one kind of unhealthy meal. Um, because that is to me self-care too, because you're taking care of yourself, because maybe that one meal could just push you over the edge. I mean, because you know, you you're you just need a break. So I think also communication with your partner is important too, that y'all have a way to communicate your what you need. I think some people, when they get into relationships, they think people should just know. They ought to know. I shouldn't have to tell them. No, they should not know. Because you both are two different individuals. Um, and you can't be mad if you didn't tell them what you needed or what you wanted.

SPEAKER_01:

Yeah. But we see that, we see that. I mean, we went through a phase of that, you know, and I was like, I don't know. Like, you gotta tell me, you know, what it is. I'm I'm I'm trying. And if I knew, I would do better because I don't want to to have you upset. I don't want to have you mad at me. You know, and and you know, we went through a phase like that. He was like, you know what? Yeah, he does, he is, he is very intentional in what he's doing for us and for his family. And sometimes we do fall off. Sometimes we need a little reminder, don't forget, but not the fact that, you know, we're we're always assuming that one um already knows or that we like it this way, and then we really don't, because we're learning each other in this process of marriage. You know, um, you know, especially earlier on, you know, we think about it. Every year is a new year we've never um seen before. Right. Every day is a new day we've never seen, you know. Uh every new accomplishment comes, every new setback is something we've never experienced before.

SPEAKER_04:

New jobs for us, new cities.

SPEAKER_01:

Right. And so these are things that we have to um adjust to, you know, to together. Um but yeah. All right, let's go to the next one.

SPEAKER_04:

Okay.

SPEAKER_01:

We could talk about this all day.

SPEAKER_04:

Yeah, but you need to ask for what you want. Um I had that conversation with my mama today. She says, I wish your daddy just would, he's just never really been romantic. I said, Well, did you tell him what you wanted?

SPEAKER_02:

Yeah.

SPEAKER_04:

Because his daddy wasn't romantic.

SPEAKER_02:

Yeah.

SPEAKER_04:

So oftentimes, I mean, you can only be what you saw. I mean, so I said, So you should have told him what you wanted. So she's like, Yeah, you're right.

SPEAKER_01:

And and one thing on that, too, is this what women don't understand about men sometimes is like we don't know what y'all are feeling. There are romantic phases that y'all feel based off of uh based off of your hormones, based off of uh something you saw. And you know, it's like, oh, that is still amazing, you know, and it has changed everything. So everything we've done just now has been wrong. I'm like, what? It had nothing to do with me. It was something that you saw that you found was so cute and it's so beautiful, and it's new to us. Let us know, you know. If you give us 10 things that you say, oh, this is so these are things that I like. And then next thing you know, if he never acts upon those things, then yes, he's just not doing right. But if you give him those things and then let him in time act upon them, you know, that's just how men operate. You know. Like we had a conversation about somebody uh a while ago about a couple was um asking the other one about uh marriage, you know, an old couple that we knew. They was asking about um marriage, and he kept asking what what kind of proposal you like. Oh, yeah. What kind of engagement you like. And we was like, why? You know, but you know, as men, we kind of want to get it right, that perfect thing, and we never know, you know, um what you're thinking. You know, so some people say, well, it takes away the spontaneity of it all.

SPEAKER_04:

But then also we just want to make sure we're I guess you have to also know you're who the person is you're doing it for.

SPEAKER_01:

Yeah. Yeah.

SPEAKER_04:

So as well. All right. So this is just a lighthearted question. Who spends the most money on unnecessary things in your household? And what's the last ridiculous thing you bought?

SPEAKER_01:

I know you'll say it's me, but I oh I don't say it's ridiculous because I I have a use. I have a want for it. You know what I'm saying? So oh, be careful, Cinnabon. Um, I think that's a matter of opinion. You know, and you could say it's me, that's fine. But then I could take away my me saying what I don't do anything intentional to do wrong or hurtful. Again, I'd be like, you know what? Well, what about what you just bought? God has got me again. What about what you bought? I think it was useless.

SPEAKER_04:

But I don't think it's useless, but there are just things that um They have no rhyme or reason to you why I bought it.

SPEAKER_01:

And then you'd be like, What do you need that for?

SPEAKER_04:

Yes.

SPEAKER_01:

Sometimes I want it.

SPEAKER_04:

Yeah, quite often. If y'all probably looked at our at our Amazon uh past orders, you'd be like, what was that for? And why did he buy that? And why he got that? He is a very random shopper. And sometimes when we go places, he thinks I'm being agitated or whatever. I'll be trying to get him out of aisles because he we will end up with the whole store because he finds a need for a lot of things.

SPEAKER_01:

I'm very creative. My mindset, what you ain't going to know because you're gonna bark and tell me to tell you.

SPEAKER_04:

Yeah, she is.

SPEAKER_01:

So I'm very creative in in my mind, and I can always see something like, oh, I can do something good with this. That's why I'll be a great contestant on Survivor, because I'll find something and find a use out of it so fast that I'll be all the way to the prize.

SPEAKER_04:

Like, and then we get multiples of things. I think I think he has three guitars.

SPEAKER_01:

Only well, I have two that I purchased, and then I confiscated the voice because they're not using it.

SPEAKER_04:

He has three guitars, and he can pluck. I mean, I'm not gonna say play, he can pluck it.

SPEAKER_01:

I was doing very well at one point, and then I moved to something else. And I'm undiagnosed with ADHD, I guess I should say, huh?

SPEAKER_04:

Yeah, and then we have these um what's those big giant flutes things called? I'm looking at it, y'all.

SPEAKER_01:

Those uh I am sound flutes, they're like uh meditative flutes.

SPEAKER_04:

He has those.

SPEAKER_01:

Um I play uh the black one I play. I'm telling y'all this one I'm still because it's it's a lot of air.

SPEAKER_04:

We could have a mighty, mighty good garage sale. Oh, because I mean, we got a little bit of everything.

SPEAKER_01:

That's what makes me so unique, is that I am a person of many likes, and I can have a conversation with anyone about anything.

SPEAKER_04:

He can. And I was gonna share one more thing, but it's my side eye. So I have to save it for the side.

SPEAKER_01:

I could be an old boredom Jordan, but I won't be. But I could be. I could probably be a boarded Jordan for like a year. Yeah. She would hate that.

SPEAKER_04:

Okay, wait. Here's another thing.

SPEAKER_06:

Nothing. Go ahead, keep going.

SPEAKER_04:

It's not a balt thing.

SPEAKER_06:

Well, keep going.

SPEAKER_04:

It's just a part of your little ADHD mind. Go ahead. But this has been since then we dated. I remember when I went to your apartment and he just like stacks of things.

SPEAKER_01:

Yeah.

SPEAKER_04:

He has just stacks of things and I uh, you know, like magazines or books or just different things. And I noticed that he had stacks, and I was like, what? What is with this stack thing? And I didn't say anything. I thought maybe he just didn't have enough storage or that's too um or whatever. Uh-huh. We still are battling the stacks, and I'll buy a cute little basket for the stacks. And then I look next to my little basket, and a new stack has started.

SPEAKER_01:

That means I need another basket.

SPEAKER_04:

Oh no, then we wouldn't have any bedroom because the bedroom would just be filled.

SPEAKER_01:

I need another basket.

SPEAKER_04:

I could find a way to organize the stacks that would make me. What's the lady name?

SPEAKER_01:

Susie Jean? The one on um.

SPEAKER_04:

It'd be fine because Susie could come do it, but then when she leaves, where where would the stacks go? It'd be different. I don't know, child, but those little stacks and um yeah, those little stacks. I wish we could do something about the little stacks. And he claims he knows everything that's in those stacks.

SPEAKER_01:

Pretty much. Well, I did before COVID. Now with my brain. That's your story.

SPEAKER_04:

See, that's what he says. He has brain fog, but then last week he can remember every episode of You know it's remember every episode of Abbott. Word for word.

SPEAKER_01:

You got brain fog too?

SPEAKER_04:

I do. I didn't say that I didn't.

SPEAKER_01:

Well, I said that I did, and then you don't want me to have it.

SPEAKER_04:

I think it's called selective brain fog.

SPEAKER_01:

Well, selective brain fog.

SPEAKER_04:

No, he has brain fog. Maybe it comes with old age.

SPEAKER_01:

It might be true too.

SPEAKER_04:

Maybe that's what it is. Okay. Last question.

SPEAKER_01:

Okay.

SPEAKER_04:

If someone gave you a million dollars. Ooh, wait. Okay, no. If someone gives you a million dollars, but you had to spend it in twenty-four hours, what would you do? A million dollars in twenty-four hours. Whoa.

SPEAKER_01:

A million dollars in twenty four hours.

SPEAKER_04:

I don't think that's too hard to spend.

SPEAKER_01:

I mean, it's not, I would I would probably buy some land.

SPEAKER_03:

Okay.

SPEAKER_01:

Um yeah, I would buy a nice flat piece of land with uh trees on it. So I could uh especially out here in Georgia, because then I could sell the trees, the pine trees, and um at least lease that part to a uh a company that way I could make money off of that. And um if it was kind of real rural, I could lease the other part of it to maybe a couple acres to like some kind of farm, something like that. But yeah, for a million dollars, I would buy me a nice, nice piece of land that I can make money off of. Yeah. Cause then we can get our house built on that. My compound. Eventually get my compound built. Because then we can sell this house.

SPEAKER_04:

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01:

And we we'll build us a ranch out there.

SPEAKER_04:

I think I take, well, my million, I take half of it and invest it in a high interest IRA so that I could have money after the day. And if I could, if they said you could, that's what I would do. And then I think the housing market is so crazy right now. But maybe I would, maybe I would. Maybe I would.

SPEAKER_01:

You only got$500,000 left, you're only gonna be able to get a three-bedroom.

SPEAKER_06:

I mean. Yeah. Yeah. You're only gonna be able to get a three-bedroom somewhere.

SPEAKER_04:

But I could have a good down payment on something. So a good down payment on a on a on a dream home.

SPEAKER_01:

And sell this one. Pay this off and then get the equity out out of what we got.

SPEAKER_04:

And then get a good down payment on a dream home. Or pay a good m part portion of it.

SPEAKER_01:

Yeah.

SPEAKER_04:

That's it.

SPEAKER_01:

Anything you can get yourself back to, if you can get yourself back to what you're paying now. You know what I'm saying? With with all the extra money for the down payments and stuff like that, oh, you'll be in great shape.

SPEAKER_04:

Yeah. And then I have money that I'm making money off the intr I get something every year off my interest of money invested. Be doing real good.

SPEAKER_02:

Yeah.

SPEAKER_04:

That's what I would do.

SPEAKER_01:

Sounds like a good plan, man.

unknown:

Mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_01:

Mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_04:

That's what I would do.

SPEAKER_01:

Ain't nothing wrong with doing that. And you get your cleaning people? Of course. Keep them on uh what were we doing before?

SPEAKER_04:

Once a month?

SPEAKER_01:

Once a month. So how how often do you get them?

SPEAKER_04:

I still do once a month. Okay. We're not dirty like that. Once a month is plenty.

SPEAKER_01:

Yeah. Yeah. That was once a month. I thought it was coming a little early, didn't it? I mean, somewhere.

SPEAKER_04:

Just once a month.

SPEAKER_01:

They was doing a good job. We weren't dirty at all because our house was looking, well, it was looking, it looks good now, but still. We just come home, had that look. It was like the grandma when she came in on Friday, but instead of smelling that um that stuff, that sex, we were smelling that that pledge.

SPEAKER_04:

Mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_01:

That good Clorox clean. Yeah.

SPEAKER_04:

Yeah. Once a month is good for me.

SPEAKER_01:

Yeah.

SPEAKER_04:

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01:

The people clean the people we had in California were amazing. The one that washed the clothes and everything.

SPEAKER_04:

Oh, yes.

SPEAKER_01:

Our California people were so good. Them juggers were amazing.

SPEAKER_04:

They were so amazing. Yeah, I like them a lot. They were great.

SPEAKER_01:

They were amazing. All right. So let's move on. This is short. This week is going to be short episodes. I'm sorry I keep clearing my throat, y'all. It's water right there. You want to drink some? This one's new.

SPEAKER_04:

Okay, give me that one.

SPEAKER_01:

Um move on to side eye of the week. Okay.

SPEAKER_04:

You doing yours first because you seem ready.

SPEAKER_01:

No, I'll do mine first because you're over there trying to drink your water. And uh, so that means you're gonna be sounding like Cinnabon tonight in that snoring.

SPEAKER_04:

Yes, and I apologize in advance.

SPEAKER_01:

It's a good thing I'm recording with my phone because I would play it for the people. I would definitely play it for the people. I recorded you the other night. Oh my Lord.

SPEAKER_04:

Anyways, tell your doggone side eye for the week.

SPEAKER_01:

You about to be my side eye. All right, anyway, my side eye for the week. All right, like I said, there's a lot of new people coming to the gym. And so I I had my headphones on. The the you know, my AirPods. And I have them on noise canceling. And all of a sudden you hear some I was like, what in the world? I'm like, what's going on? So I finished my cardio, and it's time for me to go do legs. So I walk over there towards where the uh the uh boxing stuff is. And old buddy and us just do a short little round guy, just boxing, you know. His hands alright, they don't look like all that, like the way he sounds. Just hitting it. Every tap, he gotta be loud. Like it as if he's at his own personal gym. It was getting to the point where even the trainers were looking at each other and they was like, you know. Doing too much. Yeah, and so the the last few days, he's been having a friend that went, and they dressed just alike. They got the shorts on, the black leggings underneath, the tights. Um, but it looked like the same fit. Watching? No, like the same fit. Oh, every day they got on the same phone. It probably doesn't. I'm gonna check. And I said, Yeah, it looks like unless he got an Amazon pack of six, everything looks the same. And he and the night he got buddy in there working out, and you can tell they ain't because they're not that strong. And when he's doing certain stuff, he's like proper form. You know, I'm a form person. Like, that's a pet peeve if you're not doing working out with proper form. That really, you know, gets me all jacked up.

SPEAKER_04:

Ties your high.

SPEAKER_01:

Yeah, it ties my high. And so he was just constantly just working out wrong. So then he gets into the into the uh sauna, and normally when I get into the sauna, I meditate for 10 minutes.

SPEAKER_04:

Oh, he got in the sauna.

SPEAKER_01:

Yeah, I meditate for 10 minutes, and then so he was in there, he meditating after I, because after I got meditated, I opened my eye, I was like, oh, buddy in here. He over there sitting, and you know, I sit with my men in my meditative pose, and he's sitting in a meditative pose, and he he meditated for probably about four more minutes, and then all of a sudden, he's sitting down boxing. I said, bro, I'm just looking like You just meditating. Right. I'm like, chill out. Like, what if what if I want to meditate again? What you gonna do? And so he just just just too much, he's just doing too much in the gym, man. So I hope that he gets the results he's looking for. You know, I'm praying for him, praying for the attention that he he wants and all that stuff. But uh, yeah, he really got a little side eye of me. Yeah, little billy blanks.

SPEAKER_04:

Billy Blank.

SPEAKER_01:

Yeah. If you wearing them same clothes, or they're Billy Stanks. That's what you my bad. All right. Go ahead. What's your side? Get back over here.

SPEAKER_04:

Well, my side eye kind of goes with the buying re uh excessive things.

SPEAKER_01:

Yeah, go ahead.

SPEAKER_04:

It ain't really excessive, but it's funny to me.

SPEAKER_02:

Go ahead.

SPEAKER_04:

So this side eye goes to the man sitting to my left and also a man sitting in Dothan, Alabama. His name is Jenaski. So first the cologne came that Janasky put him on. Put them on too. Now that one, it did smell good because every time we went somewhere, somebody would always say, it's almost like I don't know if y'all seen the TikToks where people go by and say, mmm, you smell good. What you got on? But it's staged. Maybe they ain't staged. Because when we go places that one, men, women, everybody, you smell good. What's that cologne? But honey. After that one, Amazon, I said, another cologne. Oh, yeah. Janaski told me about this one too. He said this one smelled real good. Talking about the cafeteria ladies at his school. Cafeteria ladies at uh Jenaski school.

SPEAKER_01:

They want to give him free biscuits.

SPEAKER_04:

They want to give him free biscuits, free breakfast, free lunch. Because he be smelling so good. Then here come, here come um Amazon again. Another one. Oh yeah, Janaski. So I said, what goodness gracious.

SPEAKER_01:

Because look, one quick thing. When I when we, you know, when you buy me cologne, remember you buy Christmas, it would be expensive. It would be like$100. And my cologne lasts forever.

SPEAKER_04:

Yeah. They do last forever.

SPEAKER_01:

Like I have bottled that creep. That's quite a lot. Yeah, that's in like what? More than five years, some cologne that I have. And so it's so expensive. But this stuff Janaski showed me, it was like$25,$35. And I'm like, oh my God. And the scent really lingers and stays on you. You know what I'm saying? And it's not overpowering. Like I like a good smell, good scent. And um, and I'm like, yo, for something that cheap to smell so good, not overpowering. And I mean, who, you know, she got one, her man smelling all fresh.

SPEAKER_04:

Ciao. So today we got another one. This one got a stallion on it, a Mustang on it. So I don't know what it smells like. But uh beside eyeing this guy and Jenaskies, how many doggone colognes, fragrances do y'all need? I can only imagine how many Janaski got.

SPEAKER_01:

Oh, he got a lot.

SPEAKER_04:

I mean, he probably got a whole closet of just colognes.

SPEAKER_01:

Flynn, send me a list. Um, you know, we got I gotta get some.

SPEAKER_04:

He going down the list too. He's going down the list. I said, goodness gracious, I'm gonna have to go start going over and using his fragrances.

SPEAKER_01:

Yeah, because some of them are uh, what they call it, um, not coed.

SPEAKER_04:

Maybe I need to talk to Tamika.

SPEAKER_01:

Unisex.

SPEAKER_04:

Maybe I need to talk to Tamika. The Tamika got the same list Janaski got, but in the female version.

SPEAKER_01:

Yeah, she might, she probably do.

SPEAKER_04:

I might need to ask Tamika so I can get me some uh uh fragrances coming. So when I go out, people be like, ooh, girl, you smell good. Mm-hmm. She does. And do.

SPEAKER_01:

And do. But yeah, shout out to my my my fraternity brother, Janaski Fleming, um, for putting me on all those smell good fragrances out there in Doton, Alabama.

SPEAKER_04:

Keep in buying them, Janaski. They coming. They coming. All the colognes.

SPEAKER_01:

I'm probably gonna. It's I got like two more that he had showed me. But I'm gonna wait. I'm gonna pump the brakes. I'm gonna get I'm gonna get them later. The one I got just that came in today, he said that scent don't linger as long. But we'll see. Because it's at on our skin type. So my skin, I mean on his skin type, so mine may be a little different. We'll see how long it lasts.

SPEAKER_04:

All right, child.

SPEAKER_01:

Yeah, so we'll see.

SPEAKER_04:

So that's my side eye. How many more colognes are we buying?

SPEAKER_01:

Tell him where.

SPEAKER_04:

So that I guess that's one gift I ain't got to worry about. So that I won't have to do cologne because we got enough to last us till.

SPEAKER_01:

And that's some good ones too.

SPEAKER_04:

His 400th birthday since he lived until he's 400.

SPEAKER_01:

Yeah, that's some good ones. So all right. So what are you looking for? What are you thankful for? Grateful for before we get out of here.

SPEAKER_04:

Um, let's see.

SPEAKER_01:

Our gratitude.

SPEAKER_04:

Um, I'm grateful for um, I know we went to homecoming this weekend, but um I don't know if people think it's weird or not, but I'm grateful that our child likes to hang with us. Even though some people probably like, why is he with them the whole time? Because he likes us. We a good time. But I don't know. I'm just grateful that they like to hang with us. They don't think it's weird. If we say let's get up and go, they're ready to go with us. Um so I appreciate that um our boys or young men um like hanging with their mom and daddy.

SPEAKER_01:

Okay, good, good, good. I'm grateful for um the temperature adjusting. You know, I'm I'm grateful for that. Um so it's uh it's it's it's starting to feel good. Like today is supposed to be in the high of 81, tomorrow's supposed to be 71. And it's supposed to be like in the 70s for the next 10 days.

SPEAKER_04:

Okay. It was hot today for me. When I was walking on that campus, probably was Louisa was hot.

SPEAKER_01:

It was humid today. That's one thing about it. It was very humid. But um, it's gonna be nice from here on out. Um, I'm also grateful that I finished that book and I started a new one. It's called The Secret Life of Maggie Maggie Gray. It's pretty good. It's it's it's similar to like a uh What was the other one called?

SPEAKER_04:

Still don't know it. Still don't even know it.

SPEAKER_01:

Was it If you love me? I think it was. Oh man. Where's your phone? Hand me your phone, I'll find it. I want to say it was if you love me or something like that. Um but um yeah, the the secret life of Maggie Gray.

SPEAKER_04:

It is uh Is it by the same author?

SPEAKER_01:

Or is it a different thing? It's a different author, yeah. Um, let's see. This one's real good though.

SPEAKER_04:

Well, while you're finding that, um something that I'm looking forward to is Saturday. I'm looking forward to sleeping in because I don't feel like well this Saturday I didn't get to sleep in. I really look forward to that on Saturdays, and then Sunday was still like get up, moving, doing. So I'm looking forward to a chill weekend um this weekend, and just to kind of catch up on some household things. But um, yeah, I'm just looking forward to a slow weekend this weekend. So hopefully that will occur. And hopefully I will feel well. I do not want to be sick either.

SPEAKER_01:

Yeah, I don't want you to be sick.

SPEAKER_04:

So hopefully I'll be well.

SPEAKER_01:

The secret world of Maggie Gray.

SPEAKER_04:

Okay.

SPEAKER_01:

Yeah, it's like it's it's about a vampire, a witch.

SPEAKER_04:

A vampire.

SPEAKER_01:

I knew you were gonna say that. A vampire, a witch, and a siren. Oh, what is a siren? It's like the ladies that be in the water, it's quiet, and they make that loud screech, but they're very beautiful and they're attract people to be. But listen, you probably would understand anyway. A vampire, a witch, and a siren get accepted into a magical HBCU. And it says, the rest I'm not allowed to say, but just know there is a talking cat named Kwan. But it's very, very good. It is very good. Trust me, y'all. It's like uh an adventure movie that you would watch. But trust me, anybody, if you listen to it, I guarantee you hooked. Um, but the other book, y'all gotta just I'll get to that. I gotta find that later, but it is so good. Yeah, it is so good. The Secret World of Maggie Gray. Yeah.

SPEAKER_03:

All right. And what are you looking forward to?

SPEAKER_01:

Um, I said I'm looking forward to the weather change. Oh, oh, what I'm gonna listen to. Oh, the weather, okay. Yeah. Okay.

SPEAKER_04:

I forgot.

SPEAKER_01:

Yeah, the weather changed. Okay.

SPEAKER_04:

I thought that's what you were grateful for.

SPEAKER_01:

Oh, we gotta look forward to something? Mm-hmm. I'm looking forward to the weather.

SPEAKER_04:

Oh.

SPEAKER_01:

I'm looking forward to to sweats. You know, I love to wear me some good sweats and hoodies. Um plus we got those comfort hoodies that we did the the try on haul.

SPEAKER_04:

Oh, yeah.

SPEAKER_01:

You need to put those on. Um, I need to order me some shoes from um Nike. Um, I should.

SPEAKER_04:

I had it, I'll save this side off for next week.

SPEAKER_01:

Yeah, so I gotta order me some shoes.

SPEAKER_04:

So we can stay positive.

unknown:

Yes.

SPEAKER_04:

What do you order the shoes for?

SPEAKER_01:

Um, my gift. You gave me, remember you gave me that.

SPEAKER_04:

Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_01:

So I want to go ahead and use it. And so I want to order some shoes that I can wear, you know, with some of my sweats and stuff like that. Uh some pastel color shoes I've been eyeing for a while. So well, let's get on out of here.

SPEAKER_04:

Yes, I'm gonna need to go take me some meds.

SPEAKER_01:

Yeah, so you can dope yourself up and take Cinnabon out to potty.

SPEAKER_04:

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01:

Ladies and gentlemen, this has been the Refreshingly Normal podcast. I am Kifla.

SPEAKER_04:

I am Cree.

SPEAKER_01:

And we will see you guys next episode. I don't know. I was gonna say next week, but I would love to film another one within the next couple days. Hopefully, this ladies.

SPEAKER_04:

Hopefully, I feel better. I hope I wasn't boring because I gotta cough. I was trying not to cough all on a thing, but child. I'm sorry, right. I'm sorry.

SPEAKER_01:

We'll have to see about this.

SPEAKER_04:

Also, feedback on my rap last week. What y'all thought? Zero out of ten, what you give it? What you give my rap?

SPEAKER_01:

Blue.

SPEAKER_04:

You going to hell. You going to hell. Any of y'all knew know what he's talking about? He's going to hell. Coincide. Coronavirus! Coincides with Cardi B saying that Nicki Minaj sons uh You're gonna just tell him, you could just leave it alone.

SPEAKER_01:

Well, y'all look it up.

SPEAKER_04:

I ain't gonna say it.

SPEAKER_01:

No, you might well go ahead and tell everybody what it was.

SPEAKER_04:

I forgot what it was. She said his favorite color is five.

SPEAKER_01:

So it'd be alright. Mama leave that alone. Mm-mm. Cause I am not going to hell with you.

SPEAKER_04:

You already said it, brother.

SPEAKER_01:

No, I didn't. You said, I said, what you brought up about her. I was talking about you.

SPEAKER_05:

What'd you say blue? What blue mean?

SPEAKER_01:

That's just saying, I was just, you said one to ten. Ask me what it was. I said blue.

SPEAKER_04:

Mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_01:

So.

SPEAKER_04:

So you Nicki Minaj son? No. I'm saying I couldn't. Because you don't know the numbers.

SPEAKER_01:

I couldn't be talking about blue Ivy.

SPEAKER_04:

You don't know the numbers between difference between your numbers and colors.

SPEAKER_01:

And see, you going to hell faster. You already almost there. Get your t.

SPEAKER_04:

I didn't say it. I'm sorry. Take that out. Don't put don't post that part.

SPEAKER_01:

Too late. Child, it's so much we gotta edit out of this episode. We might not even use it. About to do another one.

SPEAKER_05:

Why? What else we say? Oh, my coffin.

SPEAKER_01:

It's yeah. All right, ladies and gentlemen. We're gonna get out of here.

SPEAKER_04:

This is real life.

SPEAKER_01:

But they don't never mind. What? They what? No, I'm saying they right, yeah. Farting is real life. If it ain't gonna be on here just farting all the time. Well, some people do watch those podcasts with me. I can't help if I call. They used to do that on uh, what's that old guy? I can't help if I call Howard Stern.

SPEAKER_05:

I really tried to hold my coast.

SPEAKER_01:

It's okay.

SPEAKER_05:

But I couldn't help it.

SPEAKER_01:

Ladies and gentlemen, we get enough out of here. Unless it's L Refreshingly Normal Podcast had the proof. We'll see you when we see.