Mac And Cheese Starts Fights, Chitlins End Nights

Bells, games, and real talk, this one feels like the living room after dinner when the stories get louder and the truths get clearer. We start with holiday week chaos; team charcuterie, dress-up days, and a White Elephant that actually makes sense, then dig into something deeper: how to support teens and adults in crisis without slipping into fixer mode. You’ll hear practical, compassionate tips for regulating emotions, honoring agency, and spotting the moments where presence matters more than solutions.

Work stress takes the mic with a stack of IEPs, lost notes, and that sinking office chair, but the remedy isn’t hustle. It’s small wins, rest you don’t have to earn, and honest check-ins about portion creep and physical therapy progress. From there, we hit the fun button: rapid-fire Black family trivia and couples’ finish-the-sentence. Expect debates over mac and cheese, the universal “we’ll see” translation, thermostat politics, and why “I’m fine” rarely means fine. It’s playful, specific, and quietly instructive about how couples communicate, how families move, and how culture shapes the punchlines.

We swap the worst gift stories, defend the sacredness of leftovers, and side-eye reckless holiday drivers and break-room fish with workable fixes, lids, lemons, and a little courtesy go a long way. Then we close with what lasts: choosing rest over relentless motion, setting boundaries without apology, and being your whole self, even if your voice sounds country and your joy is loud. Faith threads it together with a reminder that life rarely follows our ideal plan, yet there are always ways and means to get through the tight spots.

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The Refreshingly Normal Podcast.

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Welcome back, everyone. Thank you for tuning in to the Refreshingly Normal Podcast. I am one of your hosts, Keith Look.

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I am your other host, Karee or Lucretia.

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So thank you for joining us again. Um we're almost at the Christmas uh day. If you celebrate Christmas. I know we do. You know what I'm saying? So hey, don't be getting us, hey, no, everybody celebrate. We know. Sorry. But we do.

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We do.

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All right.

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So and we respect all cultures.

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We do. We respect all cultures. And all celebrations.

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Yes.

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That's right. Unless you celebrate in the devil.

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Then nope.

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We ain't doing it.

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Can't get with you. No BL's above in here. No. All right. So, Cree. Yeah. Uh this was a great week, of course, because we were like, hey, we're almost out.

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School. Yeah, we're pity.

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And uh we are here.

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Yeah.

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But uh besides that, how did we get to that point, meaning, how was your week? And back to you, Bob.

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So my week was good. It was just really counting down the days till the end. Um lot of holiday activities all week.

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You know why?

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Because bells will be ringing. Oh, what a Christmas.

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Two have the blues. Go ahead.

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Okay. So it was a lot of festivities.

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That's right.

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Um, and so we had how our team gathering on Monday. So we did a charcuterie.

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The charcuterie board.

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Sharkuchi board party. So everybody had to bring certain things, like either you had uh savory or sweet. Um, so that turned out really nice. Lots of scrumptious goodies. Um, we even had a Chick-fil-A board.

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All right, it's really a little money. Oh, they probably got that from the county.

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They did not. It was just my team of six.

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Oh, okay.

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It was just the six of us.

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Um, so because you know the county believes in feeding us some Chick-fil-A.

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I know. One time we had so much Chick-fil-A. Every time we had a breakfast, it was Chick-fil-A biscuits. I said, I can't eat another Chick-fil-A biscuit enough. I really can we eat something else.

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Yeah, Chick-fil-A is too much. It's just too much. I like it at times. And if y'all want to sponsor me, I love it. But I was like, ooh, my pressure was up. Yeah, it was just too merch. A lot of Chick-fil-A.

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Um, so we had that, and then it was dressed up week all week.

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Um did you participate in any other day?

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I did. I did the holiday shirt day.

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Okay.

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I did the plaid day.

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Um something like that with the Oh, yeah, yeah.

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I did the glitter day because I did my little reindeer jumper. So yeah, I did three of the days.

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All right.

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Um, yeah.

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So anywho, um I heard that tonight was supposed to be naked nasty day.

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Oh my god. That's what I heard. What does that have to do with Christmas?

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That's what I heard.

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That sounds like that sound like that sound like the devil.

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Bells would be jiggling.

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Lord mercy. So, anyways, that was that, and did our little gift exchange. We played a different game of white elephant.

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Uh-huh.

SPEAKER_09 3:43

Um, it wasn't, and when we play white elephant, no, well, nobody's supposed to bring um gag gifts. They're supposed to be a certain price range, and there's supposed to be something that everybody would like. So we did it that way. And then we did a thing where you roll the dice, and they'll say it's like turn, take uh everybody will first pick a number, highest number goes first to pick in the gifts, and so then everybody picks a gift that is wrapped. Then once everybody has their gift, then somebody rolls the dice. And then um, so we did the digital roll of the dice, which is cute. So we roll it, and it may say go left or go right. Um, or it may say pick a gift and take still someone's gift and unwrap it. And so you keep doing all these little things because each number on the dice means something to do. And then the goal is for everybody to have an unwrapped gift in their hand. And once everybody has an un unwrapped gift in their hand, that's the gift that you get.

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Okay.

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So, anyways, um yeah. So, this week was just that, just a lot of um celebrating and I did celebrate.

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Come on.

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So that's what we did. And I did still have to go out and um support with some uh well no, it was actually virtually supporting with some behavior stuff. And um, I didn't do any training.

SPEAKER_06 5:11

Yeah, you you didn't do a training, but you were in a training.

Training To Support People In Crisis

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Yes, I did um go through a training. It was uh training to um help us to know how to support um teens or people when they are in crisis. Um, what's the best way to support them? So that was a really um nice training. I enjoyed that. Um a lot of of course, because I'm in mental health and counseling, a lot of it I did know, but I will say that I learned some things too. So um, yeah, it was a good training. Our ladies were very sweet that trained us um on that. So that was my you was the teacher's pet? Yeah, well, I I won't say I was the teacher's pet.

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The trainer's pet.

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I wasn't the trainer's pet. I just liked it. We're gonna sit in the train and let's have a good train.

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That's right. And so sit anywhere.

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Yes, let's have a good time. And so um when we got ready to leave, uh, after we did our little survey, and I was like, oh ladies, I forgot to say thank you so much for the training. They're like, oh no, thank you for your participation. I said, you're welcome. So, anyways, um, yeah, it was it was fine. And then, yeah, and then the only thing I did were some parent call kits, but I had a wonderful, beautiful, lovely connected, one of my schools who did most of the work before I even came. And so that was an early Christmas gift because normally I have to do it all on my own. When I came, I only had to do a few things, so I didn't have to be there that long to have.

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That's cool.

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So that was cool. What about you? How was your week? Did you have to do any IEPs?

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Yes, I did. I did two, th two of them, three of them. Two. Yeah. Three. I did three. Sure did. I did three. And, you know, filled out a lot of paperwork, progress reports, did a lot of testing. So this week was a busy, stressful week. But um, you know, I felt like I was always forgetting something. So I had notes everywhere. You know, I had notes in my phone, I had notes on my desk. Because I don't come to my office because it's like opposite to everything that I do. And so, but I said, let me make sure I go to my office so I can just really sit and still because a lot of time I sit in my car because it's more peaceful to sit in my car. Do what? Like at the you know, during the fourth block, I sit in my car, you know, because then the in the uh Tesla, I can watch TV or you know, I can be quiet. I can still get on Wi-Fi, so I'll be out there typing stuff.

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Oh, okay.

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It's just calm and peaceful in me. And um, so, but I said, let me go to my office. And I went to my office, and you know, like my office chair, I said, I'll start up here, and then there's next thing I'm typing like this.

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Oh, because it doesn't stay up.

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You don't stay up. Oh, yeah. Yeah, so I'm typing up here like this, looking at the thing. But um, you know, I got everything done, and and um every day was a good day because at the end of the day, yeah.

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One thing off your list.

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Yes. It was one thing I I felt successful each day. And um, you know, I'm a step closer to being done, um, which is good, you know, as far as you know, all my IEPs. But um, I mean, that's part of the business. But it's like I say it's just me getting back into the groove of it. But it was a great week. Um, I'm just trying to think. Anything else great happened? Uh physical therapy is coming along very good. Uh, very well. I've been exercising in there, like they've been trying to kill me, and I've been working it hard, pushing it hard to make sure I get well. Uh now I gotta get back in back into the gym. I done picked up probably about 10 pounds since like before Halloween. Yeah. Yep. So um gotta get back. And probably some of it was uh my portion size of my plate. Like even though we eat, you know, grilled chicken thighs and rice, I probably have a little too much rice, a little too much potatoes.

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Oh, I said that too, because I've been getting an extra little scoop and I think all that adds up.

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So I'm gonna go back and um watch my spirit, just greedy spirit we got.

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We just got the greedy spirit.

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Comfort is is comfort because when you feel you do, oh then you wanna just go to sleep.

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Yeah.

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So, but uh I'm gonna I'm gonna change all that. Um, you know. But other than that, hey, life is life is I'm not gonna life is life in positively. You know, people say life is life and like it's beating me down. It's not beating me down.

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Say, life is life in. Would you say it like that? Life is life in.

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Something wrong with him. Nah, I'm not gonna do that. All right, so this week, yeah, um, you know Oh, I will say I did finish my presentation. The one about the uh burnt out burnout.

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So we'll just see what the powers that be.

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Yes.

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What they think.

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Yes, they'll be fine.

School Deadlines, Stress, And Self-Care

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Yeah, we'll see.

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Yeah. So yeah.

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But anyways, I'm proud of it.

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No, I'm sure you had, you had, you, you covered it.

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Oh, you looked at it.

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You covered all the areas. You know, you gave them something to do, and it wasn't a daunting test because when you're burnt out, the last thing you want to do is one more test. Even if you're not.

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But the test, oh, to help yourself. Yes. Yes.

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You you don't, you all you want to do is just be.

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Yeah.

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You know, but being without uh intention is only gonna keep you stuck in the mud.

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Yep, and make you feel uh remain overwhelmed.

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Right, because you're gonna look and you're gonna say, I a whole day. It's like you have the day off, but you just sat in the bed all day.

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Yeah.

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And you didn't do anything like to say, okay, let me let me go outside, let me take my shoes off, touch grass, let me do some breathing, let me do something.

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Yep.

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And then the next day you're like, I didn't do nothing. Now you're frustrated.

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I didn't do nothing but scroll through TikTok.

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Right, because now you got a whole now you're right back in the same thing.

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Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 11:11

You know what I mean? It's like ground hall day. Yeah. You wake up, it's all over again. So um, but yeah, you you you covered, you covered some great, great topics. So I mean, yeah, I'm excited for you to see how.

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I'm excited, yeah, to see if it helps them. I thought maybe like I like to do giveaways. So I thought maybe if I could think of like get have little giveaways that would support burnout. So whether whatever that may be, I'll think of what it is. Yeah, we'll research. If it's a scent thing that's like a mint soothing, whatever, something that they that you know they can take with them. But I thought about if I could have a few giveaways, because I like to do giveaways through my um trainings, but we'll see. But I was excited about it. I I felt pretty proud of it. So we'll see.

SPEAKER_06 11:53

How many burn how many uh things you want to give?

SPEAKER_09 11:56

How many what, babe?

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How many gifts do you want to give?

SPEAKER_09 11:58

Oh, I do like I do like one in the morning, one right about lunch, and one in the middle of like almost it's time to go.

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So three.

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Yeah.

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Ultimately, this is this is I mean, this is just me.

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Yeah.

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It's corny, but it's good.

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Okay.

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You get, you know, those little, like some with a little button, that uh sound button that just says hooray. Yeah. So it's like your own little personal cheering squad. So every time you do something good, positively hit it, say hooray.

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Every time you do something for you.

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Yeah.

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Yeah.

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Everything, you know, you you cross something off that list and it makes you feel better. Bam.

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It's like your glimmers. Yeah. So anytime you even think about whatever that is, if you just notice, oh, you know, I'm not really fussing at Anthony, but I just told Anthony, good job.

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Bam.

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Yeah.

SPEAKER_09 12:45

I love that. I'm gonna do that.

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Yep.

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Yep, that's a good idea.

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Because you know, remember back in the days when we would do anything to get those stickers that said, good job. Yeah. And once you got a sticker, you like the bad kid, when we would put them on their shirt and they'd be like, What you did good today? Uh-huh. I did such, such, such, such. And so then they even walked straight in the line and all that kind of stuff. But it's we're the same people in bigger shells.

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Yeah, that's true.

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You know what I mean? We're the same people in bigger shells. You know, because as adults, we still want to be told that thank you.

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Yeah.

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We still want to be, you know, told that that was great.

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Yeah.

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You know, I appreciate you, just like you would do it with a kid. Still want hugs and comfort, you know, and so it's it's no different. But we get to the point where we feel like I am bigger and better than that. But that's when we exchange it for stress. Exchange it for burnout, you know, and we mask it with other things. So yeah. I mean, if we can, I'm sure we can find it. Oh, yeah.

SPEAKER_09 13:46

I feel like it's something I've seen at like I know. I'm sure Amazon has everything, so I'm sure it's on there somewhere. That's a that is a great idea. Gonna do I'm gonna do that.

SPEAKER_06 13:58

Yeah. Uh all right, so let's get into it. This week, um, you know, everybody will be joining with their family. Because by the time y'all hear this, it will be a good one. It'll be Christmas. Yeah, it will be a little bit of a comment. Oh, well, tonight. But they're preparing. So they're gonna be Christmas parties at jobs because unf well, not unfortunately, but unfortunately for them, but fortunately for us, yes, we're off.

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Yes.

Burnout Presentation And Practical Giveaways

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But the other corporate nine-to-fivers, they're still at work, some of them are. Yes. And they're doing company jobs. Like Miss Kimmy said, y'all, they just had an appreciation party, a Christmas party for their customers, their nail lady. Yeah. And there are other companies who are going to be having parties. So normally when you have parties, you have music. What else you have?

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Drinks.

SPEAKER_06 14:44

Yeah, what else?

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Food.

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And what do you play?

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Game!

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And that makes for great atmosphere. So this is game week. We love games. We are a great gaming family in here. Miss is very competitive over here, who will change the rules in the middle of the rules, and then when the rules don't fit her winning, she goes back to whatever the regular rules are so that she can win.

SPEAKER_09 15:06

That sounds like I'm a cheater.

SPEAKER_06 15:08

I didn't say that. I just said Miss Twitter.

SPEAKER_09 15:10

I am not that. I just am very competitive. That is true. That is so.

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Y'all notice she only says she's not a cheater. Not once did she deny that she don't change the rules.

SPEAKER_09 15:22

I don't change the rules.

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I wish my boys would have to be able to do that.

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Now, if the rules did not seem very clear from the beginning, then I need to make sure the rules are clear. If other people seem to be showing up as if they themselves do not understand the rules. So let's talk about these rules again.

SPEAKER_06 15:46

All I can say is, you know, hey That is the truth. There's there's one side to every story.

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Well, the Lord knows.

SPEAKER_06 15:58

And sometimes she don't even be around. You know? It's all good though. Okay, so what we're gonna do is we're gonna play a few games. We got some questions that we're gonna ask each other. Um we're gonna do, she's gonna I'm gonna ask her the first few questions here. Some rapid fire, uh black trivia questions. And then she's gonna ask me some questions, and then we're gonna ask each other some questions. Okay. Okay. So let's get let's get into it as who says that? That's the first question. Let's get into it. Let's get into it.

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Let's get into it.

SPEAKER_06 16:40

All right now, how y'all doing? Let's get into it.

SPEAKER_09 16:44

Is it uh Jennifer Hudson?

SPEAKER_06 16:46

No, Jennifer Hudson. No, Jennifer Hudson be like, and you did what? You played that flute all by yourself, girl. No, you did not sing at church. Oh, I can't believe it. But since you're saying that, L. That's Jennifer Hudson.

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Okay, so let's get into it. Who says that?

SPEAKER_06 17:09

You don't know?

SPEAKER_09 17:10

No, don't tell me. Because I'm supposed I'm supposed to know, aren't I?

SPEAKER_06 17:13

Yes, you are. You really are supposed to know.

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Let's get into it.

SPEAKER_06 17:15

All right, now how y'all doing? That's nice. Oh, that's nice right there. Oh, well, we're gonna open this box. Let's get into it.

SPEAKER_09 17:23

We're gonna open this box. Let's get into it.

SPEAKER_06 17:26

Oh, these are nice candles right here. Oh, and the nice decor. And this was sent by one of our lovely.

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Oh, Tabitha! Yes, Tabitha Brow. Tabitha Brow.

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All right. So come on now. Come on.

SPEAKER_09 17:40

Oh, yes, Miss Tabitha. Okay.

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All right, all right.

SPEAKER_09 17:43

Here we go.

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So just a few questions. Fun and playful, rapid fire, black trivia. All right.

SPEAKER_09 17:49

Gosh, I'm nervous.

SPEAKER_06 17:51

Okay, okay, okay. So the first thing that I'm going to say is true or false, every black household has at least one plant that refuses to die.

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True.

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But not mine.

SPEAKER_09 18:08

All of my plants die.

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And then what do they do with that plant? They'll wind up doing what with that plant? Take a piece of it and do what?

SPEAKER_09 18:18

And replant it. Oh no, give it to somebody else. Yes.

SPEAKER_06 18:23

So when you go to their house, what do they say?

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Do you then they ask you, you want a piece of it?

SPEAKER_06 18:28

Because I got this from such and such. It was just this small. Look at it. Nice growing all over the place.

SPEAKER_09 18:32

Yes, my mama has one of those plants. And let me tell y'all about the little plant. She got it from my I don't know who she got it from. Anywho, the plant had these things where they grow and suck into the wall. And they give those suction things. And they grew into her wall in her living room. It like that was pretty freaky. I can't think of what the plant is called, but that plant, man, that thing grows. It's almost like um, what's that plant that grows on everything? Um kutsu. That's what it grew like. Like kutsu, like how kutsu can take over anything.

SPEAKER_06 19:10

Yes, very much so. All right, here we go. Um someone says this. Oh, I'm sorry. I'm bad to trip it. Okay, here we go, here we go, here we go, here we go. All right. So, what is the universal black family signal that it's time to leave?

SPEAKER_09 19:29

Woo-hoo! No, that's wrong. Um the black. Um, well, we're gonna get on up out of here.

SPEAKER_06 19:40

Yeah.

Holiday Plans And Game Night Setup

SPEAKER_09 19:40

Is that it?

SPEAKER_06 19:41

That's that's that's part of it.

SPEAKER_09 19:44

And they stand up when they're somewhere. Yes, but then they don't really leave.

SPEAKER_06 19:49

Yeah. They cause they wind up talking.

SPEAKER_09 19:51

Keep talking, and then the kids are like, Are we leaving or not? 'Cause we want to go back and play. Um is that not it? Yeah, you good. Okay.

SPEAKER_06 20:00

All right, give me two items that are guaranteed to be in a black household junk drawer.

SPEAKER_09 20:06

Mmm. What are two items in a black family's batteries?

SPEAKER_06 20:11

Yes.

SPEAKER_09 20:13

Uh there's four things listed here.

SPEAKER_06 20:16

Okay. And these are definitely in our junk drawer.

SPEAKER_09 20:18

Okay. I'm going to say batteries and coins.

SPEAKER_06 20:21

No, they're not coins, but yeah, coins is in one of our junk drawer, but not our major. Think about junk drawer. Batteries, pins.

SPEAKER_09 20:29

Matches.

SPEAKER_06 20:29

We don't even have pins or matches in our battery drawer. I mean, in our junk drawer. No, we don't. We never find people.

SPEAKER_09 20:36

Oh, okay. Batteries and uh like extra condiments from a restaurant.

SPEAKER_06 20:42

Yes, extra condiments or menus. Or menus.

SPEAKER_09 20:45

I was gonna say menus.

SPEAKER_06 20:46

And then it's also said uh miscellaneous keys.

SPEAKER_09 20:49

I was gonna say keys.

SPEAKER_06 20:52

So if somebody come up, if in a black household, somebody come up to you and say, Oh, I forgot to get some batteries today. No, not that.

SPEAKER_09 21:00

What?

SPEAKER_06 21:00

Oh, they say that? Oh, no, I'm sorry. No, I was thinking that. That means that they're probably not gonna have a one night unless they're rechargeable item.

SPEAKER_09 21:08

No. Oh my gosh. What was the question again?

SPEAKER_06 21:12

And we already talked about it. Okay. All right, here you go. Next one. If somebody comes up to you and says this in a black household, um come in for a second. You like that? Want me to do it again? All right. Um come in for a second. Do it just like that. What does it mean?

SPEAKER_09 21:33

You in trouble.

SPEAKER_06 21:34

Exactly. Thing, thing, thing, thing, thing. You won, you won. Good job, good job. All right. If somebody comes in here. Oh, okay, no, I'm sorry. If somebody tells you to make a long story short, the story gonna be long. Exactly.

SPEAKER_10 21:50

It's not gonna be short.

SPEAKER_06 21:53

All right. So somebody says this. Well, what does? Uh well, we'll see. What does it actually mean?

SPEAKER_09 22:00

They not doing it.

SPEAKER_06 22:02

That's right. It's absolutely not.

SPEAKER_09 22:04

Kahari used to get so frustrated when I would say that. You say you'll see, that means you're not gonna do it. Well, then you know the answer.

SPEAKER_06 22:12

Okay, here we go. Finish the sentence. I don't care who started it, but I'm about to finish it. Dink, ding, ding, thing. Good job, good job, good job. All right. If the music stops at the cookout.

SPEAKER_09 22:27

Somebody's fighting.

Rapid-Fire Black Family Trivia

SPEAKER_06 22:28

That's right. It says something went wrong. Yeah. Good job, good job.

SPEAKER_09 22:31

Somebody is fighting. Something went, somebody's lesson.

SPEAKER_06 22:34

So what does it mean when someone says, I'm not mad, I'm just disappointed? It means you are in what?

SPEAKER_10 22:45

Deep trouble.

SPEAKER_06 22:46

That's right. It says serious trouble. All right. What's the official sound that means company is coming? The official sound in the house.

SPEAKER_09 22:56

Cleaning up.

SPEAKER_06 22:57

Yep. It said the frantic cleaning and yelling from another room.

SPEAKER_09 23:01

Uh-huh.

SPEAKER_06 23:02

All right, all right.

SPEAKER_09 23:04

But do you know there are some people who don't do, they don't care. You can come to their house and it's nasty. Yeah, if it's nasty. They don't run around and clean up. There's some people who don't care about it. You come to their house, it is what it is.

SPEAKER_06 23:14

Yeah, I'd say our house pretty much stays. It does. But still, somebody believes in cleaning.

SPEAKER_09 23:19

I do. I need I that's just Yeah, I don't understand. Oh, God.

SPEAKER_06 23:23

I don't. It's just like when when the cleaning people are coming on the regular, we clean up more than they did. I was like, man, forget this.

SPEAKER_09 23:32

Oh gosh, I feel like we've had this. It don't matter. This sounds like deja vu.

SPEAKER_06 23:37

It could be deja vu. It could be repeated. I don't care. All right, here we go. Let's see here. Alright, so hold on, no, not that one, not that one. Alright, alright, all right, hold on, hold on. I had it, I can't find it, it was a good one though. It was a good one. Alright, so if somebody says, act like you got some sense, what does it actually mean?

SPEAKER_09 24:05

Act like you got some sense.

SPEAKER_06 24:07

Yeah.

SPEAKER_09 24:08

I mean means don't go in here and act to cut the food.

SPEAKER_06 24:12

Yeah, it does it mean that you not saying like, hey, remember to act like you got some sense. I'm saying act like you got some sense, that means what's going on with you right now.

SPEAKER_09 24:22

You're not acting like you have some sense. I'm getting ready to get on your behind.

SPEAKER_06 24:27

That's right. What food causes instant family debate?

SPEAKER_09 24:33

Potato salad. Wrong?

SPEAKER_06 24:36

That's not on the list. But that's it. But I thought of that too. It is a top one.

SPEAKER_09 24:40

Okay.

SPEAKER_06 24:41

Potato salad is almost like a written rule.

SPEAKER_09 24:43

Yeah, like there's somebody who makes the best potato salad, and that's the person that you want to make it. Okay, well, it's a certain thing.

SPEAKER_06 24:51

Also, we are more uh it's more of a guarantee that we will not try potato salad than it is we would try other food that is on the menu.

SPEAKER_08 25:02

Okay, so what is it again?

SPEAKER_06 25:04

What food causes instant family debate? Think about it.

SPEAKER_09 25:10

Instant family debate.

SPEAKER_06 25:13

It's always who made the what? Who made the besides the potato salad? It's one more. Macaroni and cheese? Yep. The macaroni and cheese. And it should be cooked what kind of way?

SPEAKER_09 25:24

Um baked.

SPEAKER_06 25:26

That's right. That's it. That's what it says.

SPEAKER_09 25:27

There are some people who don't like the egg in it. Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 25:31

That's because there the egg actually is like a freaking turns into a quiche.

SPEAKER_09 25:37

Yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_06 25:38

It's like they're probably how much egg they put in it.

SPEAKER_09 25:41

There was a, I forget which restaurant we went to. I think it was Mary Mac Tea Room. That Hathaway, she did not like the mac and cheese that there because it's made with the egg.

SPEAKER_06 25:51

How the way is our exchange student we have from Japan.

SPEAKER_09 25:54

From Japan. When she was with us, we went and took her to Mary Mac Tea Room. She did not like it. She says, Oh, Mom, I like yours better.

SPEAKER_06 26:01

And she made sure when she came to visit us, she gave us a list of food she wanted. Oh, food she wanted when she comes.

SPEAKER_09 26:06

Uh-huh.

SPEAKER_06 26:07

Yeah. All right. Uh, finish this sentence. Who raised you? Because it sure wasn't me. All right. Good job. Good job. Uh what phrase sounds polite, but it's absolutely not.

SPEAKER_09 26:23

Ooh. What phrase is polite, but it absolutely is not.

SPEAKER_07 26:35

I don't know.

SPEAKER_06 26:36

Alright, it the answer is, I'm just saying though.

SPEAKER_09 26:40

No, it's not polite. I'm just saying though.

SPEAKER_06 26:42

Yeah, I'm just saying. Cause then it's like you'll say something, and then I'm saying, nah, I'm just saying. You really ain't that good. I'm just saying she really ain't cute. I'm just saying.

SPEAKER_10 26:56

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 26:56

That's what Miss Kane. All right. One more from this list, and then I'm gonna get you another list. Okay. All right. Uh, where was it? It's right here. No, we ain't gonna read that. That's not that good. Okay, here we go. What f what phrase means you're definitely staying home? You got somewhere to go. Somebody asked you to check them out. Come or y'all stopping by. What phrase say, hey man, we having a kick, uh, cook, uh, uh cookout or a kickback at seven o'clock. Y'all coming through? What you gonna say?

SPEAKER_09 27:36

I'm not going.

SPEAKER_06 27:39

Child.

SPEAKER_09 27:40

I don't really want to go. Say it again.

unknown 27:42

Okay.

SPEAKER_06 27:42

What phrase means you're definitely staying home?

SPEAKER_09 27:47

What phrase means I'm definitely staying home.

SPEAKER_01 27:55

I don't know.

SPEAKER_06 27:56

I'll see how I feel.

SPEAKER_01 27:57

Oh, you coming over there? Yeah, I see how I feel.

SPEAKER_06 28:01

I'll let you know. Hold on. I'll let you know.

SPEAKER_09 28:03

I'll just say I'm not sure.

SPEAKER_06 28:06

That's what you'll say.

SPEAKER_09 28:07

Maybe.

SPEAKER_06 28:09

Okay. All right. What room is off-limits for company?

SPEAKER_09 28:14

The uh living room.

SPEAKER_06 28:16

Yep. All right, all right.

SPEAKER_09 28:17

I have one of those. It ain't off count. It's not.

SPEAKER_06 28:20

It ain't off limits. We just don't sit in it.

SPEAKER_09 28:21

No.

SPEAKER_06 28:22

What appliances stay on the counter at all times? Two. Give me two appliances.

SPEAKER_09 28:26

Coffee? Toaster.

SPEAKER_06 28:29

They said an air fryer.

SPEAKER_09 28:30

Oh, yeah, people have the air fryers. I don't have my air fryer. I don't like a lot of things on my countertops.

SPEAKER_06 28:36

Yeah.

SPEAKER_09 28:36

Coffee is all in the toaster. That's it.

SPEAKER_06 28:39

What seasoning in the black household is never measured?

SPEAKER_09 28:44

Salt?

SPEAKER_06 28:45

What kind?

SPEAKER_09 28:46

Lowry's?

SPEAKER_06 28:47

What is also known as Seasoning Salt. There you go. Good job. Good job. All right. Let's see here. Um, what time does dinner actually happen?

SPEAKER_09 29:02

Probably. What time does dinner actually happen?

SPEAKER_06 29:04

Mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_09 29:05

Like you're scheduling it for family to come out over.

SPEAKER_06 29:08

Does dinner actually happen?

SPEAKER_09 29:09

When the food is done.

SPEAKER_06 29:10

Correct. Correct. All right. Let's see. What's the first question old black people say to somebody when they walk in? They used to say it, I don't know, that people say it now, but in the country they say it all the time.

SPEAKER_09 29:27

When you come in.

SPEAKER_06 29:29

First thing old black grandmas used to say when you walked in the house, did y'all did y'all eat? Yep.

SPEAKER_09 29:38

Oh.

SPEAKER_06 29:38

That's it.

SPEAKER_09 29:39

Have y'all, did y'all, yeah. Did y'all eat yet? Did y'all eat something? You want something to eat? As the young people would say, now these new grandmas, they don't do those things.

SPEAKER_06 29:50

They don't. They don't. The new grandmas don't cook. They don't do things.

SPEAKER_09 29:52

No, they don't.

SPEAKER_06 29:53

Everything is ordering.

SPEAKER_09 29:54

Or even the old grandmas that are now new great grandmas, they have changed their ways.

SPEAKER_06 30:00

They changed their ways. When I was a grandma, I did grandma things. Now I'm a great grandma. I put away my grandma behavior.

SPEAKER_10 30:09

Yes.

SPEAKER_06 30:10

We do something for food. Here you go. Who really? Everybody pay attention. This is for black couples.

SPEAKER_10 30:16

Okay.

SPEAKER_06 30:17

This is uh kind of like a rapid fire for black couples. Because you're gonna do finish the sentence for me. All right, here we go. Who really decides what's for dinner?

SPEAKER_09 30:29

It depends.

SPEAKER_06 30:30

No, it doesn't.

SPEAKER_09 30:31

Yes, that's it.

SPEAKER_06 30:32

Who really decides what's for dinner?

SPEAKER_10 30:34

The wife.

SPEAKER_06 30:35

One more try.

SPEAKER_10 30:36

The wife.

SPEAKER_06 30:37

That is correct, but it goes like this. The one who doesn't feel like deciding.

unknown 30:41

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 30:42

Which is always the wife.

SPEAKER_10 30:43

Oh gosh.

SPEAKER_06 30:44

All right. Um what does I'm fine actually mean?

SPEAKER_09 30:49

I'm not fine.

SPEAKER_06 30:50

Oh my God. But what does it really mean?

SPEAKER_09 30:54

What does it mean?

SPEAKER_06 30:55

Go deeper.

SPEAKER_09 30:56

Okay, go deeper.

SPEAKER_06 30:57

Dig deeper.

SPEAKER_09 30:58

Uh it means that.

SPEAKER_06 31:00

What's wrong with you?

SPEAKER_09 31:01

I'm fine. That means it means that I'm not fine.

SPEAKER_06 31:05

And what? I should what?

SPEAKER_09 31:08

You should ask more questions to figure out what's wrong with me.

SPEAKER_06 31:11

I should what?

SPEAKER_09 31:13

Get me some food.

SPEAKER_06 31:14

Nope. I should what? One more guess.

SPEAKER_09 31:17

Get out my face.

SPEAKER_06 31:18

No, you said this the other day.

SPEAKER_09 31:19

You said quit trying to fix everything.

SPEAKER_06 31:22

Oh no, no. She definitely said that hurt my heart. But anyway, I should already know.

SPEAKER_09 31:27

Oh, I say, I'm fine. Oh, I don't think that.

SPEAKER_06 31:30

Yes, y'all do.

SPEAKER_09 31:31

I don't. I used to, but I know that y'all don't.

SPEAKER_06 31:34

That's what I was gonna say. You said we gotta stop telling people that you should know already when they don't.

SPEAKER_09 31:39

Yeah, so I don't think that anymore.

SPEAKER_06 31:40

Okay, well, good. All right. I'm proud of you. All right. Who controls the thermostat?

SPEAKER_09 31:46

The wife, because we are the ones who go through all of the changes. That is true.

SPEAKER_06 31:52

And the answer is whoever gets cold first, and it's always the wife. I don't get cold.

SPEAKER_09 31:56

I get hot first.

SPEAKER_06 31:58

Yeah, okay, well, hot first. All right. What starts a disagreement instantly is a phrase.

SPEAKER_09 32:08

Oh no. Is there an answer to this?

SPEAKER_06 32:11

Yes. Somebody asks you, you know, let's say you coming off a certain way. They're gonna look at you like, why you? And it's gonna blow the argument up. So let's say you acting off this way.

SPEAKER_09 32:24

Why you ha why do you have an attitude?

SPEAKER_06 32:26

Exactly. And then if I say, why you got an attitude? Oh, I ain't got no attitude. You got an attitude. It's because a lot of my-da-da-da-da-da.

SPEAKER_01 32:34

How you doing?

SPEAKER_09 32:35

Now, these, I just can't help. Did a man write these? Because everything seems to be the thing that the wife is doing wrong.

SPEAKER_06 32:44

No. What do they say? I don't know. This a hit dog with what?

SPEAKER_09 32:47

This sounds uh very uh targeted.

SPEAKER_06 32:52

No. Why would it sound like that?

SPEAKER_09 32:55

What do y'all think, ladies?

SPEAKER_06 32:57

Okay, same. Look, what's the real test of love? Well, yeah, it might be to the wife, too.

SPEAKER_09 33:03

Exactly.

SPEAKER_06 33:04

It says sharing food. And we know women women are greedy. So, yeah, so the man probably wrote. I'll share my food. I'm just saying. You said you said it's biased, so I'm saying, yeah, it is a little bit biased.

SPEAKER_09 33:16

I'd say 70, 80% of them.

SPEAKER_06 33:19

Oh, yeah, because this question here, who's right in the argument?

SPEAKER_10 33:22

The woman.

SPEAKER_06 33:23

Whoever brings it up again. You you said it. You just said it. That is right. Oh my god, that is horrible. I should not have even done those.

SPEAKER_09 33:31

I mean, a man wrote them.

unknown 33:33

Wow.

SPEAKER_06 33:35

All right, you got some questions for me. In the meantime, we have a word from our sponsor.

SPEAKER_09 33:41

Okay, who is your sponsor?

Couples Finish-The-Sentence Mayhem

SPEAKER_06 33:43

Our sponsor is Jesus Christ. Have you ever just thought that the world was coming down on you? Have you ever felt so disappointed? And then someone asked the question why do we sing? But when we lift our hands to Jesus, what does that really mean? Someone may be wondering when we sing our song. At times we may be something crying. Yeah, ain't nothing even wrong.

SPEAKER_07 34:21

Nothing.

SPEAKER_06 34:22

So this is brought to you by Jesus. Because I sing because I'm happy. I sing because I'm free. You ready?

SPEAKER_09 34:33

Yes.

SPEAKER_06 34:34

Perfect. I just had to give you time to get right.

SPEAKER_09 34:36

All right. So finish the sentence. I don't really know. Like, we'll just see.

SPEAKER_06 34:41

Um, you know how to prepare.

SPEAKER_09 34:42

I think a man wrote these too. This is called Finish the Sentence. Grown folk edition. It's actually a say it's a part of a say it system. Finish the sentence.

SPEAKER_03 34:56

Grown folk edition. Say it, sister. Or believe it, sister. Believe it, sister.

SPEAKER_10 35:04

Believe it.

SPEAKER_09 35:10

All right. Okay, here we go. I didn't forget. I just didn't want to do it.

SPEAKER_06 35:21

Didn't have time. I didn't forget. I just thought it didn't matter. All right, read it. I'm gonna give you three guesses and then you go.

SPEAKER_09 35:35

I didn't forget. I just don't care enough right now.

SPEAKER_06 35:40

Oh you talking about a man. I think a woman wrote that. Oh okay, go ahead.

SPEAKER_09 35:50

I need a vacation from all of this nonsense. That's what Believer Sister would say.

SPEAKER_06 35:59

Oh, believer sister would say.

SPEAKER_09 36:01

I need a vacation from you, boo-boo. And you would be a what, boo-boo?

SPEAKER_06 36:06

A man.

SPEAKER_10 36:08

And a man is a husband. And a husband is a father.

SPEAKER_06 36:13

And a father is a a good excuse for me to get up out of her.

SPEAKER_09 36:20

Yes, I need a vacation from people.

SPEAKER_06 36:23

Oh. Is uh a people?

SPEAKER_09 36:27

From people.

SPEAKER_06 36:29

But you were saying is a is a.

SPEAKER_09 36:32

I need a vacation from.

SPEAKER_06 36:34

You but you kept saying is uh, so I'm thinking that's why I was single.

SPEAKER_09 36:36

Because I was not singular. Well, I can't say R. A husband R. From husband from from.

SPEAKER_06 36:49

All right, it's all good.

SPEAKER_09 36:51

All right. I can't drink like that anymore because I'm pregnant. Yep. Because you pregnant.

SPEAKER_06 37:02

Hey, I look, if men could get pregnant, I would get pregnant.

SPEAKER_09 37:07

You would. I bet you would. And have thousands of babies. Uh probably so. I think he would.

SPEAKER_06 37:13

I would. I'll have a lot of them.

SPEAKER_09 37:15

That ain't it. I can't drink like that anymore because I'm saved. Nope.

SPEAKER_06 37:23

Oh.

SPEAKER_09 37:24

Because you can drink if you saved because Jesus made water into I know.

SPEAKER_06 37:30

I know that. I know that. You know what I'm saying? That's why I when I was 35, I started drinking. I was like, oh, you know what?

SPEAKER_02 37:38

What?

SPEAKER_06 37:38

I'm a Christian. Yeah. Jesus turned water into mine.

SPEAKER_09 37:41

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 37:42

So I still go to heaven. Yes. So that I started drinking.

SPEAKER_09 37:45

All right, one more try. Um I can't drink like that anymore because I'm driving.

SPEAKER_06 37:51

Well, that is true.

SPEAKER_09 37:53

But recovery takes two business days. Oh, dang. What kind of drinking was they doing? Right. If recovery is two days, that meant you were getting it down.

SPEAKER_06 38:05

You getting it in.

SPEAKER_09 38:06

Yes.

SPEAKER_06 38:06

I don't ain't never had a two-day recovery period.

SPEAKER_09 38:09

Nah, I have one time.

SPEAKER_06 38:10

Oh, you probably did.

SPEAKER_09 38:12

And when I was in college, and that I said I will never do again because literally it was.

SPEAKER_06 38:21

Was it the like the uh headache or was it all like the stomach?

SPEAKER_09 38:26

Stomach, headache, nausea, and just tired. Like I it was juped all night. Uh-huh. Come on, baby.

SPEAKER_07 38:37

I threw up all night. Oh. It was terrible. Oh.

SPEAKER_09 38:43

I said I never ever drink like that again. I never have. You have?

SPEAKER_06 38:47

I'm gonna get you back.

SPEAKER_09 38:48

I like that. No, I don't want to. That's a terrible feeling. I don't know how people do that.

SPEAKER_06 38:53

It was probably just all of what you had to drink.

SPEAKER_09 38:55

The mix.

SPEAKER_06 38:56

Because we've had some great nights as a couple. And we were able to run excit the next day.

SPEAKER_09 39:03

Maybe so, because one time I went over to my brother-in-law's, and I think that was just the mix of what they served me.

SPEAKER_06 39:12

Yeah, because one time we was in Vegas.

SPEAKER_09 39:14

Woo!

SPEAKER_06 39:15

And you made me feel like Bill Cosby.

SPEAKER_09 39:17

Yeah. But I didn't feel bad.

SPEAKER_06 39:19

She didn't remember nothing.

SPEAKER_09 39:21

But I did not.

SPEAKER_06 39:22

I could have went to jail.

SPEAKER_09 39:23

I did not feel I got up and was ready to do Vegas again.

SPEAKER_06 39:27

Yeah. But that whole time, it was. Hey.

SPEAKER_09 39:31

That was your 40th. That was a great time.

SPEAKER_06 39:34

It was part of the. I remember, I remember it all. She didn't remember that Bill Cosby episode.

SPEAKER_09 39:42

He gave me a Mickey. He roofed me. He roofed me.

SPEAKER_06 39:46

All right, Roofy. All right, what's next?

SPEAKER_09 39:50

All right. Um that used to be fun. Now it's just that for young people.

SPEAKER_06 40:01

That used to be fun, but now it's beneath me. That used to be fun, but now they don't swing like they used to.

SPEAKER_03 40:16

Who's swanging? Could be no tetless.

SPEAKER_09 40:20

Well, I think your tetaless will swang later on. Not early on.

SPEAKER_06 40:27

Yeah, but I mean they might swing like when you older, they swing in delay. Uh-huh. Like you turn this one, then all of a sudden they go. Then they come like that. Oh my gosh. Like that later. You know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_09 40:40

So that used to be fun. Now it's just too merch. Too merch.

SPEAKER_06 40:45

Yeah.

SPEAKER_09 40:46

Mm-hmm. It's just too merch.

SPEAKER_06 40:48

What'd they say? What's the uh black trivia? What do black people say when they see somebody with a whole bunch of lights on their house for Christmas?

SPEAKER_09 40:55

I know they like Bill High.

SPEAKER_06 40:57

Yep, there you go. Ding ling ling ling ling ling.

SPEAKER_09 41:00

All right. I don't even want to argue. I just want makeup sex. Oh my gosh.

SPEAKER_06 41:09

Is that right?

SPEAKER_09 41:11

No.

SPEAKER_06 41:11

Okay. I don't even want to argue. I just want to.

SPEAKER_09 41:17

I just want.

SPEAKER_06 41:18

Oh, I just want. I don't even want to argue. I just want peace and quiet.

SPEAKER_09 41:25

Okay. Peace.

SPEAKER_06 41:26

Peace. Okay, there we go. There you go. I like it. I like it.

SPEAKER_09 41:30

Uh-huh. Uh-huh.

SPEAKER_06 41:31

I like it.

SPEAKER_09 41:31

Alright. Oh, this one you should know. My back started hurting. I'm sorry. Let me read it again.

SPEAKER_06 41:38

Well, I shouldn't know that because of my back hurt. My back.

SPEAKER_09 41:40

Yeah, because your back hurts all the time. My back started hurting when I woke up this morning. Kinda.

SPEAKER_06 41:50

Yeah. When I s when I uh my back started hurting when uh let's see. My back started hurting when you put me in that in that fool Nelson. My back started hurting when um oh man. When I slipped and fell on the floor and I looked up at the man and I said, Oh my neck. Oh my neck and my back. I'm suing you right now for a hundred and what was it? But we can sell it right now to court for whatever he had. I don't know.

SPEAKER_09 42:43

My back started hurting when I slept on it wrong.

SPEAKER_06 42:47

Oh, yeah, that's old man. Now it's a it's a few, it's three columns of those questions, so you can go to my touch screen.

SPEAKER_09 42:54

Oh, I forget it's my touch screen.

SPEAKER_06 42:56

And give me like three out of each one from the next two. You see what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_09 43:00

If you're hungry, there's food in the refrigerator. You got it. Um better not touch that until your daddy get home. Close. You better not touch that until it's wet. You better you better not touch that until this is for southern black households.

SPEAKER_06 43:28

You better not touch that until it's ready.

SPEAKER_09 43:31

Until everybody eats.

SPEAKER_06 43:33

Oh, until everybody eats. Oh, okay. What else?

SPEAKER_09 43:39

If you don't like what I cooked, you can You can get in here and find you something to cook.

SPEAKER_06 43:46

Or you can stall.

SPEAKER_09 43:48

Uh-huh. Yep, you can make something else. Let me tell you a story about my grandma Gwen one time. When we my grandma Gwen was not a great cook. But when we went to go visit her, visit in Muskogee, and we went over to my Aunt Annie's house. Um, she decided she was gonna cook for us. And so she cooked.

SPEAKER_06 44:06

Grandma Gwen or Annie? Grandma Gwen. Okay.

SPEAKER_09 44:08

So she brought over, she would always bring us over little small gifts and little snacks and stuff when we would see her. She'd have it at her house. Normally she would just get us like Kentucky fried chicken if we went to her house first. Um, but this time she made something. And so I don't know what it was. It looked like, I don't know, like a macaroni. I don't know, like a gula. I don't know what it was. So I said casserole. It was some some kind of casserole. And so I said, maybe I was like seven. And I said, What is this? And she said, it's called Come and Get It. So sit your ass down and eat it.

SPEAKER_06 44:50

I said, Oh. I guess you heard that.

SPEAKER_09 44:53

I said, Oh.

SPEAKER_06 44:54

I guess you heard that. Come and get it.

SPEAKER_09 44:57

She probably said, Y'all to be glad I cooked you something.

SPEAKER_06 45:00

Right.

SPEAKER_09 45:00

But no, she, yeah, I was like, what in the world is this? But that's what she told us. It's called Come and Get It. So sit your ass down and eat it.

SPEAKER_06 45:10

And eat it.

SPEAKER_09 45:11

Who is this lady? Nobody talked to me that way.

SPEAKER_06 45:15

All right, did Grandma Gwen did?

SPEAKER_09 45:17

Mm-mm. She showed in. She was something.

The Worst Gifts We Ever Got

SPEAKER_06 45:19

She was a big grandma used to be a big boy.

SPEAKER_09 45:20

She was a box, didn't she?

SPEAKER_06 45:22

The one who gave us them bad Christmas gifts?

SPEAKER_09 45:24

Oh, yeah.

SPEAKER_06 45:25

She would cuss us out all the time. They were mean. Used to keep the fan in their room only, and the rest of us sleep spending the night, was forced to spend the night at their house, and it was hot. 7,000 degrees. And that we sleeping up in there like a like we filming for roots.

SPEAKER_10 45:43

Oh no.

SPEAKER_06 45:44

But they're just in our draw sweat. And you hit a fan in the other room.

SPEAKER_09 45:50

Oh my god. Why did they have two fans?

unknown 45:53

Child.

SPEAKER_09 45:54

Oh, why didn't your mama send y'all over there with another fan?

SPEAKER_06 45:57

Because when my cousin. Okay. And they knew it was hot. You know what I'm saying? They knew it. I'm the same one, like you said, gave me them smoke cloak. We'll talk about it later.

SPEAKER_09 46:08

If you hear, if you hear your full government name, you better.

SPEAKER_06 46:14

You better hurry up. You cause you in trouble.

SPEAKER_09 46:17

Kefla Delon, hell.

SPEAKER_06 46:19

Yeah, you in trouble.

SPEAKER_09 46:20

I done I never got called by my full government name. Because how many whoopings you got? One.

SPEAKER_06 46:32

That's a good morning for me. Not a good day. One whooping in a morning, that's a good morning.

SPEAKER_10 46:38

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 46:39

I used to get it, boy. I used to do something.

SPEAKER_10 46:41

Because you were into things.

SPEAKER_06 46:42

I was. I was. All right. Give me something else.

SPEAKER_09 46:47

I didn't buy that. Oh, wait, wait, wait. Oh, I said enough of those. Let's go to another one. Okay, this is for black couples.

SPEAKER_06 46:55

Okay.

SPEAKER_09 46:55

Oh no, you said these. You want to do a different one? Okay.

SPEAKER_06 46:58

Yeah, because if it's a whole different one, it's some that are different. I don't know. Just go ahead. Um it should be three columns.

SPEAKER_09 47:06

Okay, I see that. I love you. I love you, but sometimes you Fart too much.

SPEAKER_06 47:18

What's up?

SPEAKER_09 47:19

I love you, but that ain't the answer.

SPEAKER_06 47:22

Oh, oh, okay. Okay. All right, go ahead.

SPEAKER_09 47:25

I love you, but sometimes you Sometimes you make me want to strangle you.

SPEAKER_06 47:33

But I don't like uh eating with a lot of people at silver metal tables. So I say I'm not going to strangle you. I love you, but sometimes you make it difficult for me to sleep just on the seam of the bed of the mattress.

SPEAKER_09 47:52

I know that's a lie because the other night somebody was all on my half.

SPEAKER_06 47:59

Y'all know I was on her half.

SPEAKER_09 48:03

No, they don't. I don't either.

SPEAKER_06 48:05

Exactly. She sure act like she didn't know. It was cold at night.

SPEAKER_09 48:12

I love you, but sometimes you be doing too much.

SPEAKER_06 48:18

I don't never say that.

SPEAKER_09 48:19

Doing too merch.

SPEAKER_06 48:21

I don't never say that. We got people that we know that say, oh, you're doing too much. People may not say that. I think that's because they can't do it at all. The people that tell you you're doing too much.

SPEAKER_09 48:32

Maybe.

SPEAKER_06 48:34

Tell me I'm doing too much. Oh, this is for you. Uh-oh.

SPEAKER_09 48:39

If you eat my food without asking, we done.

SPEAKER_06 48:46

Get out. Pack all your stuff. Get up out of here right now.

SPEAKER_09 48:50

We have a problem. We do have a problem.

SPEAKER_06 48:52

He gets so upset. If you ask for it, I give it to you. I give you the world. There's nothing worse. To me, eating when I open the refrigerator, if what I had in there is gone, is the equivalence of me in the public place about to sit down and someone pulls the chair off from under me. That's what it feels like.

SPEAKER_07 49:15

That's really?

SPEAKER_06 49:16

Yes.

SPEAKER_07 49:17

Goodness gracious.

SPEAKER_06 49:18

That's what it feels because all day I was expecting that food to be there. All day that person that was presented was expecting it to be a great day, and expecting that chair to be underneath them when they sit down. Nobody ever truly looks at the chair the entire time they're about to sit down because they expect it to be there. The same way I expect my juice or my food or whatever else to be there. Yes. I fell on my tailbone. I've been kicked in the butt.

SPEAKER_09 49:46

Oh my goodness. All right.

SPEAKER_06 49:49

Horrible.

SPEAKER_09 49:51

All right. We're not we're not arguing. We're just having a discussion.

SPEAKER_06 50:00

Yeah.

SPEAKER_09 50:03

And this is the last one. You knew I was hungry when I said good morning.

SPEAKER_06 50:17

Right? Oh. When I started acting short with you.

SPEAKER_09 50:23

Possibly, but that ain't the answer. That's that's me.

SPEAKER_06 50:27

Oh I get it. I knew you were hungry when you said. Did you No, did you want something to eat? No. Are you hungry?

SPEAKER_09 50:49

Yeah, you knew I was hungry when you didn't ask me if I ate.

SPEAKER_06 50:53

Oh. I don't know. But we yeah, it's scary. We still gotta learn how to read.

SPEAKER_09 51:02

That's not true. I will say anytime if I'm coming home or if it's something, I always think about if you what have you like I do think about if you've eaten. I there's no way I would come home and like buy food and then be like, oh, I thought you ate already.

SPEAKER_00 51:23

Yeah.

SPEAKER_09 51:24

But I I guess there are people like that.

SPEAKER_00 51:26

Yeah, it is. A lot of people are.

SPEAKER_09 51:28

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 51:29

Yeah, a lot of people like that.

SPEAKER_09 51:31

That just would get something for themselves and be like, oh, I thought you ate already. I would do that. I'm first gonna say, Did you eat? And then I'll say, okay, well, I'm gonna go ahead and grab me, grab myself something.

SPEAKER_06 51:41

I'm gonna grab something. Yeah, we had to eat for at work. Okay, well, I'm gonna pick up some.

SPEAKER_09 51:45

I just see somebody maybe do that if it's like sometimes like your late nights. Like if you were doing coaching, or then by like sometimes I think, well, you ate with the team, or you hopefully I would think that you ate something like that.

SPEAKER_06 51:58

Yeah, because you know the routine normally. Because it's so late. Yeah, you would probably eat with the team. Or if it's a late game or something, you like you ain't even gotta add you be like, it's 10 o'clock. I know he'd done probably try to either go get him something by now, or he'll know these leftovers in here.

SPEAKER_02 52:13

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 52:13

Cause it ain't a a concern though. You know, I ain't I'm also not one of them. I I weigh. Is it worth? No, I ain't worth. It's just I don't get mad over that stuff. Like, I'm a grown man. I can get in here and cook or find something to eat in my own house.

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SPEAKER_09 52:28

Yeah, but some people think that's a good one. Yeah, some people think you're supposed to feed me.

unknown 52:32

Yeah.

SPEAKER_09 52:32

Not even for men, there's some women, like, you know. You're supposed to feed me.

SPEAKER_06 52:38

There we go. I had to be, you know. Like say we love all.

SPEAKER_10 52:42

Oh my God.

SPEAKER_06 52:44

All right, my turn.

SPEAKER_10 52:45

Okay.

SPEAKER_06 52:46

All right, here we go. Um, okay, let's let's first of all, before we go to yours, let me tell you, okay, what is the worst Christmas gift you receive? And even if it's something I gave you, you can be honest.

SPEAKER_09 53:01

The worst Christmas gift I received. Now, this well or a gift. A gift. The worst gift. Well, it's always like a Secret Santa thing. I remember at one of my schools, we had um Secret Santa. You know that you put specifically the things that you want, and there's a certain money amount that goes with it. And I remember specifically saying, like a Mac lipstick or um like certain things I asked for. And the person I got, and maybe they thought, well, I'm getting her more than just one lipstick, got me one of those makeup things that came with like a JC Penny kit or Walmart that you know was like$10 or$12. And I was like, this is nothing. And then some other things that weren't the things that I asked for definitely did not total up to the amount that we were supposed to spend. So for me, it's like it's not hard. The people tell you what they want. If you don't have the money to do the limit for the Secret Santa, then don't participate.

SPEAKER_06 54:26

But they're, you know, but they're gonna feel funny if they're not in it. You don't have to. You're gonna know somebody didn't participate in the office, right? With Secret Santa.

SPEAKER_09 54:36

There were people, there are people who choose not to participate. But I mean, like Because it was not like on your team, like for us, it was like a whole staff thing. So it wasn't like just on my third grade team, it was like a whole group of women.

SPEAKER_06 54:52

Yeah.

SPEAKER_09 54:52

And you chose to do that.

SPEAKER_06 54:55

I thought it was like a small department, because a small department, you'd be like, hold up.

SPEAKER_09 54:59

No, it wasn't a small department. Because if you're sitting there with no gift in front of you, you'd be like, Well, that's not true because our secretary, um, she comes to our um things and she doesn't do the white elephant, and nobody thinks anything about it. She just chooses not to participate. Um, so I just think, you know, you should do that. I don't know why she doesn't, maybe because she knows I don't want to be stuck with something I don't like.

SPEAKER_06 55:26

Maybe she knows.

SPEAKER_09 55:27

And so that's why she doesn't do it.

SPEAKER_06 55:28

Maybe she's a Jehovah's Witness.

SPEAKER_09 55:30

No, she's not. She believes in Christmas.

SPEAKER_06 55:32

Oh, okay.

SPEAKER_09 55:32

Um, so I think sometimes people are like, I don't want to play because what if I end up with something crazy?

SPEAKER_06 55:38

So, or maybe she thinks the gift didn't come with the right intention.

SPEAKER_09 55:42

I don't know.

SPEAKER_06 55:43

But so that to me, when I did the doll, or she thinks I'm letting them spirits in my house.

SPEAKER_09 55:47

And one Christmas, but I've already told my mama this before. Uh, you remember the U-Man sweatshirts? They're like hoodies, and they got the three little black men going in front. I don't know. It was from what's the name of that store? Oak Tree. Oak Tree. Yeah. Okay, and so one Christmas, they must have had a good old sale on them. And so she got you a man outfit? This this the U-Man sweatshirt.

SPEAKER_06 56:12

You end up sitting looking like Denise.

SPEAKER_09 56:14

Guess how many I got?

SPEAKER_06 56:16

Five.

SPEAKER_09 56:17

Three.

SPEAKER_06 56:18

Because it was the same man, different colors.

SPEAKER_09 56:21

Different colors. What I was like.

SPEAKER_06 56:23

Well, hey, that's what we got wore as guys. We wore, I got one in black, white, and green.

SPEAKER_09 56:28

Listen. And so I told so later I told my mama, because you know, my mama believes in don't keep something. Like, I don't want, you know, it you're not gonna hurt my feelings. I don't want, you know, I don't want the money to be wasted. And so I told her, I was like, mama, why would you give me the same shirt, different colors? She says, I don't know. So she ended up one of my good friends. Um, she had her helping her to Christmas shop. And that friend.

SPEAKER_06 57:00

So this was the next year?

SPEAKER_09 57:02

No, this is the same. This is what this is how I got the shirts.

SPEAKER_06 57:04

Oh, okay.

SPEAKER_09 57:05

Um, this friend came from a huge family, like lots of siblings. So their Christ from I her Christmas looked different from my Christmas because it's just me and my brother. Um, and so she's thinking of cost and all that. And um says, I knew I should have never let her help me get the gifts. And so she did let me return them. So I was able to return them, and then I was able to go down to five, seven, nine and get me something else. But yeah, that one. But I was my mama doesn't she doesn't want you to waste her money. So if you don't like it, you in a you know, you just say it in a kind, nice way, and you can return it and get you something that she'd rather the money spent wise.

SPEAKER_06 57:46

Like if somebody gets you something, you be thankful and grateful because they didn't have to even think about you to get it. And so we always found a neat a use for it. You know, and then sometimes we were forced to wear it. You know, if it fit, we had to wear it.

SPEAKER_10 57:59

Oh goodness, really.

SPEAKER_06 58:01

If it didn't fit, that made sense.

SPEAKER_07 58:02

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 58:03

But even then they was trying to fix it.

SPEAKER_09 58:05

Really?

SPEAKER_06 58:06

Yeah, but uh it was you had to wear it.

Looking Ahead: Rest, Family, And Home Projects

SPEAKER_09 58:08

Yeah, you just couldn't be, you just couldn't be mean about it. Like, and if and like I remember one time, my grandma Gwen, every Christmas, she always, especially when my aunt Annie and they moved um to Kansas. What you talk? My grandma would always send us a big box of like stuff for everybody, and everybody's names be on their stuff. And one Christmas she sent, we were like, Where did she get these things? One of the churches like looked like a Freddie Kruger sweater, and Scotty was like, I'm not wearing this, mama. And so we saw we saw the tag where she got it from. I think it was Sears. And so we went to Sears, and Sears let us return and get other items. And so my mama took us and we returned to get other items. But um, yeah, I just I believe in that too. I don't want you to keep something if you don't like it. It's not gonna hurt my feelings because when we buy gifts for people, if you don't tell people specifically what you want or close to, you know, something that you want, then they have to guess. And sometimes people don't know you as well as they think they know you, and they're just really trying to do their best. Um, and I don't know, I don't want I don't want my money to be wasted. I'd rather you have something that you like. So, but yeah, uh, and and that I don't know, but maybe it would hurt some people's feelings, I guess. I mean, you don't give it back to the person. I don't think you could do that. But if you could return it, you should be able to do it.

SPEAKER_06 59:30

No, I mean, I think But I don't know what else you would say.

SPEAKER_09 59:32

You don't say no.

SPEAKER_06 59:33

I I think you should let them know what you did with the item.

SPEAKER_02 59:37

Why?

SPEAKER_06 59:38

Because if they don't see you with it, that'll hurt their feelings too. Like without the listen, if I give you something and then all of a sudden I never notice you wear it. Never.

SPEAKER_09 59:47

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 59:48

At all. And then I'm like, Who would that be?

SPEAKER_09 59:51

Like a like a red like an ant or somebody?

SPEAKER_06 59:54

Yeah, well, I guess somebody will one, uh you're just not giving random gifts to people, hopefully that don't mean jack to you. Yeah. So it should be a person that means something to you. And so if I give somebody a gift and I never see them, it'll make me kind of feel some kind of way. So if they say, look, I didn't I'm not wearing your thing because I exchanged it. Okay. All right. But I think the longer Will that hurt your feelings if somebody said that to you? Um if they never told me yet. I mean, if they never told me till later.

SPEAKER_09 1:00:27

But they don't know yet.

SPEAKER_06 1:00:29

What do you mean they don't know?

SPEAKER_09 1:00:30

You mean as soon as they open it, they go.

SPEAKER_06 1:00:32

Yeah, they they know.

SPEAKER_09 1:00:33

No, that that's not true.

SPEAKER_06 1:00:34

They know. Yeah. Oh.

SPEAKER_09 1:00:37

I think you can I think if you really look at people's faces, you know how they feel about your gift.

SPEAKER_06 1:00:41

Not necessarily. You know, you got you got people who don't really read into everything. They maybe say, oh man, I gave her that because, you know, she was happy. It's just like somebody, if you start crying, they may say, Oh, she was so excited she was crying, but she probably could be scared she's crying. You know, like you do something special for. I propose. Oh my gosh, she was in tears, y'all, when he proposed to her. You know, and they'd be like, No, her girlfriend's like, Why were you crying? Girl, I was like, I didn't want to do it. I didn't want to embarrass her. You see what I'm saying? Interpretation is different. That's true. So, but yeah, I would prefer somebody to tell me, like, even say, hey man, uh, you know that sweater you gave me the other day? I was trying to get with it, but it's it's just not my thing. It's not my style. Do you mind if I, you know, take it back and get something that I want? Hey man, that's cool.

SPEAKER_10 1:01:29

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 1:01:31

Yeah, I'll be cool with that. So. What about you?

SPEAKER_09 1:01:38

What about me what?

SPEAKER_06 1:01:40

You you like if somebody really like dog doesn't like a gift? Yeah.

SPEAKER_09 1:01:45

Yeah. I mean, I would rather them. You don't have to tell me. I'm not really looking. I think if it's my immediate, like in my house, my husband or sons, like you or the boys, then I'd want y'all to tell me because I'm gonna notice whether or not you wear it or use it. Um, anybody else outside, I don't have time to keep up with what you're wearing or what you're doing with something that I gave you. I'm not looking to see if you wore it. If it's a niece, nephew, cousin, I'm not looking to see if you wore it.

SPEAKER_02 1:02:20

Yeah.

SPEAKER_09 1:02:21

I mean, once I give it to you and gave it to you, you do what you want.

SPEAKER_07 1:02:23

It makes sense.

SPEAKER_09 1:02:24

Um, but peep my immediate, then yes, then I I'd want you to tell me. Tell me anybody set. Huh?

SPEAKER_06 1:02:31

Tell me where it's at what you do what you know.

SPEAKER_09 1:02:33

No, no, you don't have to tell me. I mean, I'll you don't have to tell me. Only thing I want you to tell me is if you want to return it or it wasn't your size, or you didn't like it, you could tell me that. Yeah. And then I'll say, oh, okay, well, here's the receipt. Go take it back and get you something else. Um, I'm okay um um with that. Um, but everybody else, I mean, I don't care if you return it, that's your business. I mean, yeah. I'd I'd rather that's why they have gift receipts.

SPEAKER_06 1:03:01

Yeah, that's true.

SPEAKER_09 1:03:02

So, I mean, they make gift receipts for a reason. So people could, you know, if they didn't like it, they could take it back. If not, yeah. So um, and then I also with the gift receipt, at least they can make sure to get the value of what you pay for for. Sometimes you get surprised when you have a gift receipt because you thought it was something that was$25. Come to find out it was$3.

SPEAKER_06 1:03:20

Yep. Um But that that causes more problems for me.

SPEAKER_09 1:03:23

Uh yeah. So okay, we good. All right, so um, yeah, it doesn't bother me at all. Because all I do is do my best, and I do know that, you know, um when I try to do buy gifts, I try to think about the people. Um, and if they would like it or something.

SPEAKER_06 1:03:39

It's something they might like at least.

SPEAKER_09 1:03:41

So I think I'm a pretty good gift giver, but you nobody's perfect.

SPEAKER_06 1:03:44

So all right, let me say uh my where's my microphone cord? There it is. It's somewhere. What you doing? It's like I'm sitting on my microphone cord. The Lord have mercy. All right, so let me tell you about one of my worst gifts from my stepgrandmama.

SPEAKER_07 1:03:59

Oh, this is oh gosh.

SPEAKER_06 1:04:01

So it's a few times.

SPEAKER_07 1:04:02

Okay.

SPEAKER_06 1:04:03

Like I said, at one time, I think I probably mentioned this when she gave us those shirts, those baseball shirts that had other kids' names on the back. And it was kids that we had played baseball with, kids that we knew in class and stuff like that. And it was like, you know, ace hardware braves, family dollar jaguars. It was those kind of local baseball shirts, you know, and you know, and what did I tell you? We had to wear it.

Gratitude, Growth, And Being Your Whole Self

SPEAKER_09 1:04:29

What?

SPEAKER_06 1:04:30

Had to wear it. You gotta wear lots of stuff.

SPEAKER_09 1:04:33

Even though it was from the Goodwill and belonged to somebody else.

SPEAKER_06 1:04:36

Then one time we got some, so she said, I got some clothes over here for the boys. So mama would take us over there, and them clothes smell like smoke. They came from somebody that had donated them to the goodwill that had the house caught on fire. And she didn't even wash them. So all them clothes smelled like smoke, and we had to wear them.

SPEAKER_09 1:04:53

And you can't wash smoke out.

SPEAKER_06 1:04:55

Right.

SPEAKER_09 1:04:55

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 1:04:56

Right. So we tried and we had to wear, you know, she wants to see you in it. So here we are with them clothes. Yeah.

SPEAKER_09 1:05:04

That is ludicrous.

SPEAKER_06 1:05:06

Yes.

SPEAKER_09 1:05:06

Like that is. I'm sorry. I would never do that to my children.

SPEAKER_06 1:05:10

Okay, now here's another one.

SPEAKER_09 1:05:12

Never.

SPEAKER_06 1:05:12

All right. So you know I got two brothers. So it's three of us.

SPEAKER_09 1:05:16

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 1:05:16

Kirk's is four years older than me.

SPEAKER_10 1:05:19

Uh-huh.

SPEAKER_06 1:05:19

DeNova's is six years old.

SPEAKER_10 1:05:21

Younger.

SPEAKER_06 1:05:22

Younger than me. Okay. So she bought um like a pack of, I want to say it was one or two. Two packs of underwear, two packs of t-shirts. Now notice I said packs.

SPEAKER_07 1:05:38

Oh, yeah.

SPEAKER_06 1:05:39

So in the packs, what happens to the sizes? They're all what?

SPEAKER_07 1:05:42

The same.

SPEAKER_06 1:05:43

Now, we're three boys.

SPEAKER_07 1:05:46

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 1:05:46

Different ages.

SPEAKER_07 1:05:47

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 1:05:48

And never have we all been the same size.

SPEAKER_07 1:05:51

Yes.

SPEAKER_06 1:05:52

Never have we all been the same size at the same time. You know what I'm saying? She split them underwear up.

SPEAKER_09 1:05:59

I know y'all, mama that make y'all put on those underwear. And gave us Linda hair.

SPEAKER_06 1:06:05

Gave us a pack. So it was like a medium. Or maybe a large. Whatever size Kurt was. And we all.

SPEAKER_09 1:06:18

I'm sorry. I am not lying. As a child, I will put my foot down. I'm just taking a whooping because I be damned. If I put on some burnt clothes and some big drawers.

SPEAKER_06 1:06:29

So think the underwear, a medium, whatever size they were. You got three. Let's just say, for example, if Kirk was 11.

unknown 1:06:37

Still.

SPEAKER_06 1:06:38

Okay. So it's okay. Come on now. Kirk is 11. So that puts me at seven. Well, no, Kabooga be one. But we'll go a little older. We'll say, we'll say Kirk.

SPEAKER_10 1:06:50

Keep it four.

SPEAKER_06 1:06:52

Yeah, by four, right. But she was like, this for all the boys. He can have a night shirt. So like our big t-shirt with the night shirt. And then here I am. If you ever put on big panties, but it ain't gonna be the same. Because you ain't got nothing dangling. So ain't nothing, no, ain't the the cotton ain't catching nothing. It's just sitting in there dangling.

SPEAKER_09 1:07:11

Who wanna have um big panties?

SPEAKER_06 1:07:13

But but I'm saying big panties probably it ain't the same as big drawers, big big briefs.

SPEAKER_09 1:07:21

Well, I can't even say because I've never had big panties on. Flute, flute, flute, flute.

SPEAKER_06 1:07:25

That's how it sounds in there. Flute, flute. Oh my god. He got shorts on.

SPEAKER_09 1:07:29

And then first of all, here's what I'm also thinking is how does she even know what drawers you have on? You could have just given those to who whoever can wear them and then just let it be.

SPEAKER_06 1:07:42

We gotta do something with these drawers that Liza gave, y'all.

SPEAKER_09 1:07:49

That's when you want to do like on the Everybody Hates Chris, where they would go to where he did whatever he wanted to do. You just take your mama and slap some tents into her.

SPEAKER_06 1:07:59

You wear a draw. You wear some big drawings. Yeah. It's like giving a woman, okay. It's like giving a woman um who has a C cup uh triple D. Yes. And she just wearing everywhere.

SPEAKER_09 1:08:17

That is a mess.

SPEAKER_06 1:08:19

Oh Lord. Oh, Lord. That is so sad.

SPEAKER_09 1:08:21

And you know what's so sad is that that people have like those strong personality people in their lives that you do all this thing because of their strong personality and you're trying to appease them or make sure you don't upset them to the discomfort of yourself around other people. And I don't know if it's just a new day. I mean, I'm that's just I just can't do it.

SPEAKER_06 1:08:46

Yeah, I can't either.

SPEAKER_09 1:08:47

I just cannot do it.

SPEAKER_06 1:08:48

I'm gonna try to help you appease you as much as possible. But once it starts affecting me or my family, it's a wrap.

SPEAKER_10 1:08:55

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 1:08:55

I'm gonna try to do everything I can to make sure everything, you know, harmony is kept. Like when Creeb told me, we're trying to fix everything. And, you know, but that's what I mean.

SPEAKER_09 1:09:06

Because him, him, what he was saying.

SPEAKER_06 1:09:08

I'm a fixer.

SPEAKER_09 1:09:09

He's a fixer. So Kimani right now has the flu, poor baby. And so um he was throwing up, it's coming out both ends. And um, so I was like, Oh, I need to get him some Gatorade. So he had already taken his shower, um, had eaten dinner, was sitting on the PJs, huh? Yeah, PJs. I did not, I let him go take a shower. I hadn't eaten hardly anything yesterday. And so I was like, no, I'm eating first. And so um he was so I was I was saying something else to myself, nothing about going to get Kimani's Gatorade. He goes, What, you know, uh, I'll go get it. I go, no, stop trying to fix everything. I'm gonna go get it. You showered, you're relaxing. This we have two stores that are like two minutes from our home. It's not a big deal. So, but he just heard me kind of grumble about something. I think he thought I was grumbling about going to get the Gatorade. And he didn't want me to be bothered by going to get the Gatorade.

SPEAKER_06 1:10:10

I just said, hey, I'll I'll go.

SPEAKER_09 1:10:13

I was like, no, Tyrone, sit yourself down somewhere. I'm gonna go get the Gatorade.

SPEAKER_06 1:10:19

And I sat down.

SPEAKER_09 1:10:20

That was a conversation between me and my own self. I was having over there.

SPEAKER_06 1:10:25

But we're gonna get back to the gifts. But that was my gift. That's it. All right. So rapid fire, real quick.

SPEAKER_10 1:10:32

Okay.

SPEAKER_06 1:10:34

Who's who's most likely to say, I'm not hungry, and then eat half of the plate?

SPEAKER_09 1:10:40

Me.

SPEAKER_06 1:10:41

All right. Who's most likely to start a story and forget the point?

SPEAKER_09 1:10:45

You.

SPEAKER_06 1:10:46

It ain't that I forget the point, it's that I take scenic routes to get you to enjoy everything in between the start point and the end point.

SPEAKER_10 1:10:55

Okay.

SPEAKER_06 1:10:56

All right. Who's most likely to fall asleep during a movie they pick?

SPEAKER_10 1:11:00

Me.

SPEAKER_06 1:11:01

Yes. In a minute.

SPEAKER_10 1:11:03

Yes. Okay.

SPEAKER_06 1:11:04

Who's most likely to say we should go and then stay another hour? Like we should leave, but then stay another hour.

SPEAKER_09 1:11:10

I don't know. Is that me?

SPEAKER_06 1:11:12

You're most likely to say we should go.

SPEAKER_09 1:11:13

It depends. Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 1:11:15

But I'm a lot of times the reason that we stay another hour. Yeah. Because uh, you know, a conversation may peak with someone else, and then it's like, next thing you know, we're here again. All right. Um who's most likely to complain about being tired first? Mmm. Throughout the we ain't talking about no exercise and running two miles.

SPEAKER_09 1:11:36

No, no, I'm talking about just being tired in life being tired. Who says there's I say I'm tired.

SPEAKER_06 1:11:42

Yes.

SPEAKER_09 1:11:42

Well, I well, probably because I am a person who loves sleep. So that would make sense.

SPEAKER_06 1:11:47

I'm tired. Let's go. I'm ready to go.

SPEAKER_09 1:11:49

Yeah, that's true.

SPEAKER_06 1:11:51

Who's most likely to cancel plans at the last minute?

SPEAKER_10 1:11:55

Me.

SPEAKER_06 1:11:57

Who's most likely to wake up sore for no reason?

SPEAKER_10 1:12:00

You.

SPEAKER_06 1:12:03

Um who's most likely to check the weather before making plans?

SPEAKER_09 1:12:08

Oh, I think we both do that.

SPEAKER_06 1:12:10

Yeah, but I do it a lot.

SPEAKER_09 1:12:11

He does, yeah.

SPEAKER_06 1:12:12

I love the weather.

Puerto Rican Sangria, Coquito, And Holiday Cheer

SPEAKER_09 1:12:13

And then he'll say something and I'll go, that's not what the weather said. It did say that when I looked at it, it said, and then he'll like, hmm, I guess it changed.

SPEAKER_06 1:12:21

And it does. The weather does change. All right. Um who's most likely to remember dates and details?

SPEAKER_09 1:12:29

Um, you like to say, you I don't know. Who do you think?

SPEAKER_06 1:12:35

Like when it comes to like birthdays and all that stuff, it's you.

SPEAKER_02 1:12:40

Yes.

SPEAKER_06 1:12:40

But when it comes to minute details, it'd be me. Um who's most likely to bring up something from years ago?

SPEAKER_07 1:12:50

You.

SPEAKER_06 1:12:51

Yeah, because I have a good memory. And the boys.

SPEAKER_05 1:12:56

When I was in middle school, worst time of my life. No, with a pre-K.

SPEAKER_09 1:13:07

According to them, preschool was terrible. Now we thought preschool was awesome for them. We had no idea. They never did share all the terrible things that happened in preschool. But now, so I don't know. Maybe maybe that's why they're introverts. Maybe their first school experiences, experience was um tragic.

SPEAKER_06 1:13:26

It was tragic moments.

SPEAKER_09 1:13:27

Yeah, trauma.

SPEAKER_06 1:13:28

Who's most likely to apologize first?

SPEAKER_09 1:13:30

You.

SPEAKER_06 1:13:31

Yeah. Who's most likely to win the argument, but let the other think they won? Me. I'm most likely to win the argument, but I let her think she won because y'all know my saying, I'd rather be what? Happy?

SPEAKER_03 1:13:49

Then right.

SPEAKER_06 1:13:51

All right. Um, who's most likely to say it's not that serious when it definitely is?

SPEAKER_10 1:13:58

You.

SPEAKER_06 1:13:59

You are.

SPEAKER_09 1:14:00

What? Get example, please.

SPEAKER_06 1:14:03

I can't do examples. We're gonna have that time right now. Oh my gosh. She's definitely more likely to say it's not that serious.

SPEAKER_09 1:14:10

Serious meaning like when somebody eats your food, I'm like, it's not that serious.

SPEAKER_06 1:14:13

But it's it is very serious. It's very serious. Yeah. That ain't what it said. It's like when somebody said it's not serious, but it actually, the situation is serious. Okay. That would be me.

SPEAKER_07 1:14:26

Okay.

SPEAKER_06 1:14:26

I'd probably say then. You know what I mean? Because I'll say it's not that serious. And and the reason why I'm saying it isn't that serious is because You want everybody to calm down.

SPEAKER_09 1:14:38

Yeah. It's a kind of creative.

SPEAKER_06 1:14:40

Even when like the it could be burning in hell. I'll be like, yo, it's not that serious. Let's let's here's what we're gonna do.

SPEAKER_09 1:14:46

Let's think through it.

SPEAKER_06 1:14:47

Let's go. Yeah, okay, we'll ride with it. Yeah. Who most likely takes the longest to get ready?

SPEAKER_09 1:14:52

Of course I do.

SPEAKER_06 1:14:53

Mm-hmm. Who most likely misplaced their phone while holding it?

SPEAKER_10 1:14:57

Uh me.

SPEAKER_06 1:14:57

You. Who's most likely to say, I told you so?

SPEAKER_10 1:15:01

Me.

SPEAKER_06 1:15:02

Who most likely to start laughing at the wrong time?

SPEAKER_10 1:15:04

Both of us.

SPEAKER_06 1:15:05

No, you. I can hold it. I can hold it. It's like like I always say, you are not inconspicuous.

SPEAKER_09 1:15:13

He can hold he can hold it, but he's looking at me in ways that make it.

SPEAKER_06 1:15:17

That don't mean laugh.

SPEAKER_09 1:15:19

But he's giving me looks.

SPEAKER_06 1:15:21

And she won't know I'm giving her looks unless she's giving me looks. So if she didn't look at me, she wouldn't know. But she cannot hold in.

SPEAKER_09 1:15:32

He's an accessory to my laughter.

SPEAKER_06 1:15:34

She she laughs at the wrong time.

SPEAKER_09 1:15:35

He's an accessory to my laughter.

SPEAKER_06 1:15:37

Like some people go, she go, all right. Last one. Who's most likely to escalate something that could have been calm? I would say you.

SPEAKER_09 1:15:52

I think it depends on the day.

SPEAKER_00 1:15:56

No, I say it's you.

SPEAKER_09 1:15:57

No, sometimes it depends upon the day.

SPEAKER_06 1:15:59

No, it's you. Yeah, it's definitely you.

SPEAKER_09 1:16:02

There have been things escalated because you were a little short-tempered that day with our children.

SPEAKER_06 1:16:09

No.

unknown 1:16:10

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 1:16:11

It could have been calm if they just would have done what they were supposed to do.

SPEAKER_10 1:16:14

Lord have been.

SPEAKER_06 1:16:14

If they would have done what they were supposed to do, it would not have even gotten to that point. That's what I did to that. Case closed, Yard. I rest. I rest my case. I object. No further questions.

SPEAKER_09 1:16:28

I object.

SPEAKER_06 1:16:30

No further questions. All right, let's get on so we can get on.

SPEAKER_09 1:16:34

I gotta get the guest room ready for Linda Head, Linda and Calvin Hell.

SPEAKER_06 1:16:39

We got tomorrow. I ain't doing that.

SPEAKER_09 1:16:41

I just want to go to bed with it, done. All I gotta do is put the I wash the linen and put that thing on the colour.

SPEAKER_06 1:16:46

I just want I ain't even watched no football day.

SPEAKER_09 1:16:50

Okay. Well, that's because we had to go play St. Mr.

SPEAKER_06 1:16:52

and it's the playoffs.

SPEAKER_09 1:16:55

Playoffs! Mr. Claus and Mrs. Claus.

SPEAKER_06 1:16:59

Yeah. Okay. We did.

SPEAKER_10 1:17:03

We did.

SPEAKER_06 1:17:04

Child, we did. Ooh, we found a good little wing spot too. Oh, we did. It's called Four Seasons Wings of Marietta. It's actually in the Kennesaw area, but I guess that might be.

SPEAKER_09 1:17:13

It's right by Towns. It is. It's right by Town Center Mall.

SPEAKER_06 1:17:16

Yeah, but we most I call it Kennesaw. But it's Town Center Mall over there. Four season wings is so good. They are very nice. On Saturday and Sunday, it's only the husband and wife there, you know, handling stuff so it takes a little longer for your food to get ready. So that's nice. That means they give the employees the weekend off.

SPEAKER_09 1:17:36

I guess so.

SPEAKER_06 1:17:37

Yeah. That's probably why they're so happy because the employees appreciate them for that.

SPEAKER_09 1:17:41

Maybe so. But the food was so good.

SPEAKER_06 1:17:44

It was so good. I had uh chicken filly. Remember last story I told, not the last story, but at one store I told y'all about my chicken Philly was horrible. This this chicken filly was slamming. And I had hot honey.

SPEAKER_09 1:17:56

You didn't have hot honey.

SPEAKER_06 1:17:57

It was just hot garlic, pepper wings. That's right. Hot garlic pepper wings. Yeah, it was very good, very good.

SPEAKER_09 1:18:04

And I had honey, lemon pepper.

SPEAKER_06 1:18:06

And fries. And what else you had?

SPEAKER_09 1:18:10

Fried catfish.

SPEAKER_06 1:18:12

And my wings. And my philly cheese. And she had two desserts and a big breakfast.

SPEAKER_09 1:18:23

That's not true. That's not what I had today. That's the only meal I had today.

SPEAKER_06 1:18:30

Mine too.

SPEAKER_09 1:18:31

Uh-huh.

Closing Notes And Holiday Wishes

SPEAKER_06 1:18:32

Yeah, we're over here starving. Well, I had a protein shake before I did my ride. Peloton ride. All right. Um, so, so, so, so, so that's it. Let's get into what are you uh oh, side out of the week. Side out of the week. What's your side out of the week?

SPEAKER_07 1:18:48

I can't even share it.

SPEAKER_06 1:18:51

But you ain't saying no name like on um the RB Money podcast.

SPEAKER_01 1:18:55

I ain't saying no names. I ain't saying no names. Where you else? Who you with? What you did? Don't say sh I ain't saying no nah.

SPEAKER_09 1:19:10

That's tanking. What's the other man's name?

SPEAKER_06 1:19:12

Jay Ballantine.

SPEAKER_09 1:19:13

Their podcast.

SPEAKER_06 1:19:14

Yeah, I love that podcast.

SPEAKER_09 1:19:16

Uh well, do you have a side eye?

SPEAKER_06 1:19:18

Um, I always got a side eye.

SPEAKER_09 1:19:19

Oh, good.

SPEAKER_06 1:19:20

All right. Uh my side eye of the week is primarily to these folks that was driving today.

SPEAKER_10 1:19:28

Oh, yeah.

SPEAKER_06 1:19:29

They were so inconsiderate. I mean, just like that one guy, we're we're going down, and it's only two lanes, but then the lane widens with the hazard. It's like right before, you know, the turn and whatnot. So it has the hazard stripes in the middle. And this guy was driving a van, racing some other guy. He was right behind her, and then all of a sudden the van comes at the red light, right? At the red light, but it was green our way and the opposing way, and he just passed it like they running car by car, side by side. So and I'm right next to them. They just get on up out of there. So I mean, just look, it's this Christmas. The last thing you want to do is get into an accident. It's going to cost money. And we're already in a situation now where people are trying to save everything they have to keep family as normal as possible. To buy gifts and stuff like that. Don't do anything stupid just for the fact that somebody passed you. Or you got a little upset. Stop. Take a deep breath.

SPEAKER_07 1:20:31

Regulate.

SPEAKER_06 1:20:32

Regulate yourself and ask yourself is this going to be cost effective to what I'm doing? Cost effective financially, cost effective with my time.

SPEAKER_09 1:20:42

Livelihood.

SPEAKER_06 1:20:42

Yeah, my health. You know what I'm saying? And my ment my physical health and my mental health. Like real quick, just think about it. And if it's if if if it went south, meaning that if it went wrong and any of those things would be jeopardized, it's not worth doing it. You know what I mean? Because you like passing somebody. You can't. What if he wants to be a jerk on the other car and hit your car and now you flip over?

SPEAKER_09 1:21:05

Yep.

SPEAKER_06 1:21:06

But you started it that part. You know, I mean, both of y'all could either be.

SPEAKER_09 1:21:09

Or if they decide to speed up and then you end up going head on into somebody else.

SPEAKER_06 1:21:14

Into someone else. Yeah. So it's just, yeah, it's that was my side eye, man. Just um, I hate it, man. So, but y'all be careful out there holiday season. My side eye of the week.

SPEAKER_09 1:21:26

Well, I'm gonna put side eye is um break room appropriate behavior.

SPEAKER_05 1:21:35

Okay, what happened?

SPEAKER_09 1:21:36

People that heat up fish.

SPEAKER_06 1:21:39

Yeah.

SPEAKER_09 1:21:40

Um, because it, I mean, fish. Yeah, I know. I get it. But you know what I do when I take my salmon to work?

SPEAKER_06 1:21:48

What you do?

SPEAKER_09 1:21:49

I just make sure that when I put in the microwave, there, the lid is on it.

SPEAKER_06 1:21:52

Yeah. Somebody said something. I think they said, like, if you put a it's either a wet paper towel over.

SPEAKER_09 1:21:59

Oh, that'll do that. Oh, maybe that'll absorb the smell. Absorb the smell.

SPEAKER_06 1:22:03

I think that's what they said. I know somebody said if you anytime you have fish, make sure you have some kind of lemon. So once you finish that, put the lemon in the microwave for a little bit, even if it's just a slice.

SPEAKER_09 1:22:16

And I think I thought I remember last year somebody putting a thing on there that says don't. Because see, like our space is so open.

SPEAKER_06 1:22:23

Oh, I yeah, your ladies.

SPEAKER_09 1:22:25

There's no door to shut it. So it will just go throughout the whole space.

SPEAKER_06 1:22:30

Because if they said told y'all don't talk, yeah, because your conversations was coming to the cubicles or office or whatever, you definitely know they don't want smells coming there.

SPEAKER_09 1:22:41

Yeah, so bad. And then somebody did something that just smelled like hot trash.

SPEAKER_06 1:22:46

Oh.

SPEAKER_09 1:22:46

Yeah. The smells have been really bad coming out of the um the little break room.

SPEAKER_06 1:22:54

Maybe we had to uh share some some um seasonings.

SPEAKER_09 1:22:58

I don't know.

SPEAKER_06 1:23:00

It's a lot of uh seasoning.

SPEAKER_09 1:23:02

Real bad.

SPEAKER_06 1:23:03

Seasoning, uh seasoning deficient people.

SPEAKER_09 1:23:06

Maybe so. And I think it's bad for us because also because we are right across from it. Okay. So maybe you're you know on that floor over. It's probably, you know, they don't yeah, but it gets us every day.

SPEAKER_06 1:23:19

Yeah.

SPEAKER_09 1:23:19

So I don't know how they're warming up their little food.

SPEAKER_06 1:23:22

So you can't see who goes into the room?

SPEAKER_09 1:23:24

Oh, yeah, but we have it's three microwaves going in there.

SPEAKER_06 1:23:27

Oh, I'd be like, every time somebody comes out and say, ooh, what are you talking about? Now you know every time that way somebody's gonna hear it.

SPEAKER_09 1:23:34

Oh, y'all know me in this mouth of the South. Somebody warming up dog shitlits. I said, Oh, it smells like hot trash. Yeah. Oh yeah.

unknown 1:23:44

Ooh.

SPEAKER_09 1:23:44

Oh, you know. So, yeah, it's it's really bad. So side-eye people that um I don't know if you're gonna if you're gonna have a food that's a smelly food, and I understand people have their food, cultural foods, whatever the foods are, but there is a way to warm your food up with the lid on, yeah, that it it'll it'll make this make the smell not as strong.

SPEAKER_06 1:24:08

Yeah, especially because you as a, well, I we can't say it, 99% of the people, regardless of your culture and whatever you cook, you know that there are specific foods within your culture of specific foods that are a little smelly. That have smells. You know what I'm saying? The the number one smelly food that black folks hate for people to cook in their house or go to a house that's cooking is what? Not fish, the smelly food. Oh, chitlins. Chitlins. They be like, uh-uh, that's thinking of it.

SPEAKER_09 1:24:35

Let me tell you.

SPEAKER_06 1:24:35

People of rather fish than than chitlins.

SPEAKER_09 1:24:38

I remember the only one and only time my Uncle Wayne they wanted to do chitlins, and my daddy has never cooked chitlins in our house. When I say I just went to sleep. I went to sleep so I could just sleep and not smell. Sleep through the chitlins. Slip through the sleep through the chitlins. That's what I did. It was 7 p.m. I was out. I said, just put just give me some night quill, put me out.

SPEAKER_06 1:25:03

Chitlin's ease.

SPEAKER_09 1:25:04

Because I said it was that bad and it was just terrible.

SPEAKER_06 1:25:08

Oh, chitin tonin.

SPEAKER_09 1:25:09

Yes. I remember that.

SPEAKER_06 1:25:11

Mela chitlits.

SPEAKER_09 1:25:12

I remember going in my room. I took some night quill.

SPEAKER_06 1:25:15

Mela titlits.

SPEAKER_09 1:25:16

And I just I just slept till the next morning because it was that bad.

SPEAKER_06 1:25:20

It was. Yeah, the chitlins do stink. And then everyone says, Oh, mine don't stink when they cook. Yeah, mine don't stink.

SPEAKER_10 1:25:26

Liar.

SPEAKER_06 1:25:26

Mine don't stink because I let them soak in bleach for 24 days.

SPEAKER_10 1:25:29

They do.

SPEAKER_06 1:25:30

And then when you eat them, you go right to sleep. Your eyes get real red, you go right to sleep. You might be a little toxicity, but you'll be all right. Lord. All right. So what are you looking forward to this week coming up?

SPEAKER_09 1:25:43

Um, let's see. I guess it's Christmas. Yeah. Um, so looking forward to um just the holiday, um, family time. My in-laws are coming to stay the week with us. Um, so just looking forward to that. I'm just really looking forward to turning my well, my alarm is already turned off.

SPEAKER_02 1:26:08

Yeah.

SPEAKER_09 1:26:09

Um and so we don't have like really many things to do. Um I wanted just to kind of be relaxing. I'm gonna go.

SPEAKER_06 1:26:19

Yeah, we changed the menu too.

SPEAKER_09 1:26:20

So we did change the menu. Um, I just wanted to be, I I really, and I know I'm gonna have to um rein my mother-in-law in.

SPEAKER_06 1:26:33

I tell her, I'll just tell her, sit down. Sit down.

SPEAKER_09 1:26:35

That sister likes to go.

SPEAKER_06 1:26:36

Just sit down for no reason.

SPEAKER_09 1:26:37

She got to think of something she gotta go. I got to go to Walmart. We'll look up if she's at Walmart.

SPEAKER_06 1:26:41

Yeah, go you go over there with uh Spawn now. Yeah, I wasn't, but we we we over here, we locking the keys and throwing them away. Yes, yes, yes, yes.

SPEAKER_09 1:26:51

We try to figure out the one kind of time that we got we have to go out and do all the things. But um, yeah, to be out in the streets every day. Yeah, no ma'am.

SPEAKER_06 1:27:02

Yeah, and it's so crazy because growing up, what I remember I told you about when I used to say I couldn't go to a party because they say, you don't need to be out up in folk face all the time. You don't need to be out in them streets every day. And streets back then was like going to Walmart, going to the outlet mall, or going down to the beach and you know, doing just driving the the uh and that by the hangout. That was it. And my mama in the streets every day. Oh, yes. For nothing.

SPEAKER_09 1:27:26

For nothing. So yeah, I don't want to be in the streets. I really do enjoy my time of just being.

SPEAKER_06 1:27:33

I don't want you in the streets that I saved you from the streets. Oh my gosh. Grabbed you out of the streets.

SPEAKER_09 1:27:38

So anyway. We do, I do just have one more.

SPEAKER_06 1:27:41

You too pretty to be doing this.

SPEAKER_09 1:27:43

Oh my gosh. You come with me, I'll make sure it's all right.

SPEAKER_06 1:27:46

You ain't gotta do this. I just have to do it. Well, you don't have to do this. Come on, baby. I can give you everything.

SPEAKER_09 1:27:55

Ciao.

SPEAKER_06 1:27:56

That's what I told my little street walker, right?

SPEAKER_09 1:28:01

Anyway, so yeah. One more, I got a little bit of Santa Clausing to do, and then um, that's it. Then grocery store.

SPEAKER_06 1:28:09

Alright. That's good.

SPEAKER_09 1:28:10

What are you looking forward to?

SPEAKER_06 1:28:12

Um, this week, you know, it starts kicks off with the little holiday function over at Sponks. And then um relaxing. Um I gotta clean something up. We gotta figure out the paint color because we want to change the background. So we gotta figure that out one day at uh Home Depot or something.

SPEAKER_09 1:28:31

Yeah, I feel like that might have to be. We'll see. We wanted it to be a Christmas project.

SPEAKER_06 1:28:36

Yeah, but I mean, if even if I just paint the wall, because once I paint the wall, I'm still gonna have to lay where we want to do the uh the accents.

SPEAKER_09 1:28:43

Yeah, but but if you're gonna do that, you don't want to paint it because you paint it with the thing, whatever that's gonna be.

SPEAKER_06 1:28:50

I know.

SPEAKER_09 1:28:51

Okay. I don't know then, y'all. I don't know the plan. I'll learn about it later.

SPEAKER_06 1:28:57

Yeah, so we can still get the wall painted.

SPEAKER_09 1:28:59

Okay.

SPEAKER_06 1:28:59

We'll paint I'm gonna paint some. I gotta paint something. Even if just the float.

SPEAKER_09 1:29:03

Oh, okay.

SPEAKER_06 1:29:03

We paint some. Um, but I'm looking forward to the holidays. Um because you know, last holiday I didn't really rest. Thanksgiving, I didn't rest.

unknown 1:29:14

Oh, yeah.

SPEAKER_06 1:29:14

And I feel like I just grinding, grinding, grinding. And so this one I I really think I'm gonna rest.

SPEAKER_09 1:29:19

Yeah. And we get two whole weeks.

SPEAKER_06 1:29:21

Yeah, exactly. And you know, it's it's just it's gonna be great. I'm really looking forward to this break time. All right. So what are you give me something you're grateful for?

SPEAKER_09 1:29:33

Um I am uh grateful. Gosh, there's so many things I'm grateful for. And I keep trying to make sure I don't repeat the same thing. Um grateful, grave for grave for grave. You know what I'm grateful for? I'm grateful that I can just be I'm comfortable with being me. I don't think I've always been that way and comfortable. But when I say comfortable with being me, meaning that um not um turning myself down, you know what I mean?

SPEAKER_06 1:30:22

Like, like so would you say you're kind of really discovering yourself?

SPEAKER_09 1:30:28

Because the other day I kept saying, because sometimes, you know, like when I like to have a good time of training or answering questions or doing the things like I feel like, am I being too much? Um, because I've had somebody say that before to me that and then I'm like, no.

SPEAKER_06 1:30:46

Yeah. Like I Which is why it's important when we for our little girls, we're not telling them, why y'all so loud? Why y'all so busy? Uh-huh. Y'all, you know, you know, and and and then when they stop being loud, yeah, and now they're being run over.

SPEAKER_07 1:31:03

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 1:31:03

Now they're being taken advantage of, now they're not thinking that they're ready for their promotion. So I think we have to be careful when we say those words.

SPEAKER_09 1:31:12

Yeah. And then if it is a time where it's like people are trying to focus or it's supposed to be a quiet time, then saying, hey, not right now. But as soon as this, you know, gets done, then da-da-da. Like letting them. Yeah, that's right.

SPEAKER_06 1:31:25

Sometimes like if we just hang it. And I, you know, I we as a culture, we are loud.

SPEAKER_10 1:31:30

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 1:31:30

We're playing games, we're loud. You know, we're talking. When we laugh, we're loud. We're loud and we run, you know, and it's like we have to be careful in when, you know, like I said, when we're out and we tell our young people to do that, you know, tone it down. That's not be careful because someone may tone it down for good.

SPEAKER_09 1:31:52

Yeah, and I think even you have to think of even if you have a friend group of people that maybe say that to you, that sometimes it's kind of like, well, is that that's your issue, not my issue. Um, so just being comfortable in in your own skin, um, I would say. And then even with that, like feeling more comfortable to say, no, I don't want to do that. Or no, we're not gonna go do that, but we will do this. Um, and then just being okay with not him and hawing. Like, no, like I'm not gonna say yes to everything. Hem and ha, ha, ha. Hem and hawn.

SPEAKER_06 1:32:35

Y'all know how the him and hawks. Him and ha, meaning him and ha.

SPEAKER_09 1:32:40

You know, when you're like afraid to tell people no. Okay, that's it. And so you're like the ha. So you're like, that's the him.

SPEAKER_02 1:32:47

Okay.

SPEAKER_09 1:32:47

And then the ha is when you're trying to overexplain to people on why you can't do something. And you don't owe anybody any explanation. If you don't want to, and you're gonna do with them. Yeah, don't haul with them and don't him.

SPEAKER_06 1:33:06

So Why you ain't talking to me.

SPEAKER_09 1:33:08

Oh so yeah, like I don't know if that's as you get older, you like, listen, um, but yeah, I I appreciate that. Being being able to be my whole complete self. And then I I think people should appreciate it. When people tell you no, they're not gonna do something. I would appreciate that than you to tell me yes, and then you don't do what you said you're gonna do, or you don't show up, or then you then when you lie, you got to come up with another lie and another question when you just should have been honest from the beginning. Say, no, I just really don't feel like doing that, not not coming by.

SPEAKER_06 1:33:44

Question, you said uh, you know, you being comfortable with yourself. Do you think that comes in stages where it's almost like a a will because we may re-enter into another stage where we're uncomfortable and f in doubt, you know, yourself, and then get comfortable again. You know, it's like I I'm in my I'm in my era. You know, I feel comfortable, I know who I am, but then there may be something else.

SPEAKER_07 1:34:10

I think it comes with your circle of people.

SPEAKER_06 1:34:14

So you think but I'm saying, do you think it sticks once you got it, you got it? Or do you think that it's one of those cyclical things that does happen all the time?

SPEAKER_09 1:34:24

Yeah, I think you keep I think you keep growing.

SPEAKER_06 1:34:27

Right. Yeah. So there's another moment that a person's gonna reach and say where where you can if you're reflective and open to being better.

SPEAKER_00 1:34:39

Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_09 1:34:40

Yeah, then I think you do. You just keep growing.

SPEAKER_00 1:34:43

Yeah.

SPEAKER_09 1:34:44

Yeah, I think so. And I I just think um as you grow and you realize, you know, your um your circle of individuals and surrounding yourself with people that um can help you to grow to what you are reflecting and are choosing to want to grow into, you're not you're not sitting stagnant or saying, this is how I am.

SPEAKER_02 1:35:11

Right.

SPEAKER_09 1:35:12

Right. Or or or the thing of like um becoming more secure. And I think with that you become more secure in yourself. Um, and then when you can feel yourself with your own positive self-talk, that when you hear other negative self-talk things from either that really sometimes comes from how other people view you, and you take in some of their negativity, then it becomes your negative self-talk. Um that once you start to to grow and you surround yourself with people who fill you up and fill your cup, then I think positively then you see that growth. Like for instance, I can't tell you how as growing up, how many people told me my voice was annoying. And then now as a trainer, um.

SPEAKER_06 1:36:10

But hold on, but you still, even though they told you your voice was annoying, you know, it's like somebody, I don't like this oak tree. This oak tree is too, you know, it's blocking out the shade. I don't, or, or, or it's just, it's dropping all these leaves, this oak tree, and they don't appreciate it. But even still, what's going on on the top is is different than what's going on on the bottom. So going on on the bottom oak tree, the roots are still growing, still getting stronger. So you had your mom, who you always said poured into you. Like your mom, even to this day, every time, look at my girl, she's so pretty. Yeah. Hey, y'all, this is my pretty daughter. You know, my mom don't ever say, This is my handsome son. She has a beautiful no she doesn't? No. Okay. But I mean, but I understand, you know, you don't. Yeah, you know. Yeah. But for your mom, it's this one thing that I always noticed. You, your, your cup was always being poured into, even though people didn't appreciate uh the glass that it was that was in it. I mean, that that all the stuff was in. You see what I'm saying? So they're seeing the out of you, and then it's like say they're telling you this, that, and the other. They're trying to destroy, they're trying to break that glass, but something on the inside was was uh much more desirable.

SPEAKER_10 1:37:29

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 1:37:29

Yeah. So that that that was very cool that you had that because somebody who didn't have it. If yeah, if I had that as a mama, they would have did what to their light? They would have dimmed it. Yeah.

SPEAKER_09 1:37:42

Yeah. So yeah, that is true. If I kind of heard that from uh peers, but then also heard it from your because people have mamas that are that way or family that's that way. Yeah, that's yeah, that's true. Um, so anywho, um now I'm a trainer and I hear people say all the time how um inspirational I am to them, and um that that they could hear me listen to me talk all day. Um sometimes I get a little um because I know I sound country, I know that. So, but that also makes me who I am.

SPEAKER_06 1:38:17

So who you are. I mean, dialect, dialect doesn't uh correlate with intellect, right? You know what I'm saying? So y'all can y'all gonna remember that if you want to.

SPEAKER_09 1:38:27

So, anywho, I know I sound country, and so sometimes I became self-conscious of that. And so even through this podcast, I would say, Oh, I sound so country. And I said, I'm gonna start talking to friends. And he goes, I told you. He told me not to do that.

SPEAKER_06 1:38:43

No, don't do it. We're we're refreshingly normal. Yes, that's who we are. We're normal people, that's right, and normal people are not identical.

SPEAKER_09 1:38:51

No, that's true.

SPEAKER_06 1:38:52

Normal living isn't identical.

SPEAKER_09 1:38:54

Yeah, you know, so anywho, what are you grateful for?

SPEAKER_06 1:38:58

Um I am grateful for ways and means and what I mean by that is like when you run into a snag, to get you out of that snag may not be the ideal situation, but is it is an uh it is a possible situation at the time. You know what I mean? Like if if example, if something happens and you don't have the cash flow to pay for that uh leak in the roof, but you do have a credit card. You don't want to necessarily use that credit card, but you do have it. That's those ways and those means, you know what I'm saying? And you take care of it. And then I'm just grateful that God gave us, like I said. Not always ideal situation, but he gave us ways to get out of it in that moment. And knowing that it's like he has a plan. That's what, you know, a lot of times it's like, dang, it makes me feel bad. But I said, you know what? I'm not worried about it because this wouldn't be like this if he didn't intend for it, you know, good, bad, or indifferent. Everything happens is is through God's divine plan. And yes, we do play a part in the appearance of it. But, you know, like when we say, Oh, you made a choice, you made a choice, but it in the divinity of it, like it's his plan. Like we don't see it. The faith part, we don't see that part. But the physical realm, we see that part. We see our what we did in it. When really that's still scripted. You know what I mean? And God is like a lot of people say, Well, so you mean telling me he mean mean to do this and mean for me to do that? It's like an audible, a playbook. Like he got scenarios laid out. So when he does this, this is what his life is gonna do, and then it's gonna click to hear to how I want it there. And then if he makes this decision, well, this is the plan I got for him to do there. Like a football coach, when they waiting on you to make that decision, okay, boom, boom, boom, now he goes to this plan. So football coach sees an uh offense or defense set up in something different, he calls an audible, meaning that another player he already knows about that can work against what you chose. You know what I'm saying? And so I'm I'm so thankful.

SPEAKER_09 1:41:34

Or even things that come up against you.

SPEAKER_06 1:41:36

Yeah. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_09 1:41:38

Same for football, same thing. Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 1:41:40

Yeah. I'm so thankful for ways and means, man. Um, especially in this time, and I pray that there, that people around us get uh or or find their ways and means, or or not even find it. I pray that ways and means find them.

SPEAKER_09 1:41:56

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 1:41:57

Because sometimes people don't know what to ask for or how to ask for. Or not in the position to ask for. You know, I could be like in today's time with the economy doing what it is doing, I can be the CEO or the the top supervisor of a uh financing company. But I'm one check away from being broke. So we're dividending, you know, putting things in where I dividing, I'm sorry, like where I want to put my light bill, gas bill, or help my son get surgery. You know what I'm saying? And he can't ask for help because he's like, how you gonna keep my business afloat if you can't keep your finances afloat?

SPEAKER_09 1:42:46

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 1:42:47

You see what I'm saying? And so some people don't have that ability to ask for or find their ways and means. You know, because they're they're now blind to it, as opposed to saying, well, no, if I do this, I can take care of this and handle this, and still don't have to tell nobody. So I'm I'm grateful. All right. Any last words? Ready to get out of here? Blow this popsicle stand.

SPEAKER_09 1:43:12

Blow this popsicle stand.

SPEAKER_06 1:43:13

All right, I still don't ever know what that means. Blowing a popsicle stand.

SPEAKER_09 1:43:18

It is a statement. And although he did not believe me, one day we were somewhere and somebody else said, and I said, I told you.

SPEAKER_06 1:43:25

And I was like, I still don't like it.

SPEAKER_09 1:43:27

Blow this popsicle stand. I'll I'll ask my friend chat. I bet they'll tell me where that phrase came from.

SPEAKER_06 1:43:35

What you talk, Kansas? It was around when he came out.

SPEAKER_09 1:43:40

I'll tell y'all next time where that came from.

SPEAKER_06 1:43:44

Yeah, I yeah, that's what they're gonna say. Y'all heard what I said. All right. So we're gonna get out of here and we're gonna um so when is Christmas? What day? Thursday, 25th. Thursday. Okay, cool. I'll gonna say, so we might need to get another episode just in case, depending on what's gonna happen. Um, you know. So make sure we can record. I don't want to record on Christmas.

SPEAKER_09 1:44:06

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 1:44:07

You know what I'm saying? Because during Christmas, you know, bells would be ringing.

SPEAKER_09 1:44:13

Oh, you forgot to say you're grateful for the sangria.

SPEAKER_06 1:44:16

Your co your colleague made for us. One of my colleagues.

SPEAKER_09 1:44:21

And then we'll leave.

SPEAKER_06 1:44:22

He's from Puerto Rico. He he uh shared with me a bottle of his family recipe of sangria.

SPEAKER_09 1:44:32

O MJ. So good.

SPEAKER_06 1:44:36

We thought the best sangria we've ever tasted was in Tulum at that pricey restaurant. This sangria was made with vodka.

SPEAKER_10 1:44:45

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 1:44:45

Most times sangria is just wine and the juice. Too rum.

SPEAKER_10 1:44:48

Too rum is in there.

SPEAKER_06 1:44:49

Rum is rum is what he made this time. Rum is always made in regular sangria. I thought it was just wine and juice. That's what it says on the restaurant.

SPEAKER_09 1:44:56

They put a brown liquor in it.

SPEAKER_06 1:44:58

Now they uh uh what's that place called?

SPEAKER_09 1:45:01

Tulu.

SPEAKER_06 1:45:02

No, the pasta place.

SPEAKER_09 1:45:04

They don't put that in there?

SPEAKER_06 1:45:05

No. It says red wine and it has the fruits that's on it.

SPEAKER_09 1:45:08

No. Normally sangria has uh has a rum.

SPEAKER_06 1:45:11

It's the pasta place up there on Bear Parkway. Uh Magiano's. No. Any Magiano? Miguel's. Forget what it is. My brain went on. Donatello. Caribou.

SPEAKER_09 1:45:25

That's coffee.

SPEAKER_06 1:45:26

Carabella.

SPEAKER_09 1:45:27

I don't know what it's called. Okay, but anyway.

SPEAKER_06 1:45:30

Um, yes. When I tell y'all he made it with rum. He didn't tell me what rum. I said, man, I need this recipe. He said, Well, it's a family recipe. And then he gave me a recipe for coquito.

SPEAKER_09 1:45:41

Well, that is not a family recipe.

SPEAKER_06 1:45:43

Right. So I said, I didn't press him no more. I said, I understand. My dog don't want to share the recipe with me. And then he had a family coquito recipe, too, that he said his daughter just made something the other day. He said it was amazing. And he goes, he always does his hand like this. He's from the older cat from Puerto Rico. Um, he always gets the uh the best dressed teacher award for every year. He gets it from the kids. And um, and so he uh it's so good, y'all.

SPEAKER_09 1:46:14

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 1:46:14

It's so good.

SPEAKER_09 1:46:15

So we're gonna share it with my in-laws. However, my mother-in-law, she might take a little taste.

SPEAKER_06 1:46:22

And she's gonna like, it's so good. It is very dangerous. It is so good. It's it's it's dangerous because I haven't had nothing to drink till like, like I said, before October, sometime in October, I think. Maybe before the end. But and so I was just saying, okay, I'm not, I'm gonna wait till the holidays. And so he poured me about this much. Like literally about this much. And and I you know, I got a buzz, but I know y'all say, well, it's because you ain't drinking a minute. No, still. Like, this much, like it was, it was, and it wasn't strong. It was sweet.

SPEAKER_09 1:46:55

No, it's not strong at all. Sweet, delicious.

SPEAKER_06 1:46:58

So I'm telling you, it could sneak up on you so fast, and you will be done. Yeah. He said, Yeah, it's sneak up, and then you're gonna be, ah, laughing, my friend. You're gonna be laughing. In Puerto Rico, we make it like this, uh, my friend, you're gonna be laughing. I said, Yeah, okay, we'll see. And uh, yeah, it was good. We can't wait to uh share it with my my parents.

SPEAKER_08 1:47:22

All right.

SPEAKER_06 1:47:22

Um, so that's it. So, ladies and gentlemen, have a happy, happy, happy holiday. Holiday. And if you don't have nobody, just remember everybody's trying to figure out.

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