The Refreshingly Normal Podcast with Kēfla and Cree

Family Drama, Open Marriage Ultimatums, And New Year Goals

• Kefla and Crecia • Season 1 • Episode 23

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Holidays can be cozy, chaotic, and clarifying and ours had all three. We kept the menu simple, savored a dressed-up Costco smoked turkey, battled through musical cups with championship-level energy, and used the quiet to talk about what matters more than leftovers: respect, boundaries, and what we refuse to carry into 2026.

First, we unpack a story that stings: a woman’s dishes are ignored at her in-laws’ gatherings then even her soda and carefully chosen coffee are shrugged off. When everything tied to you gets rejected, it’s not the recipe, it’s the room. We talk about reading behavior over excuses, what real partner support looks like in family dynamics, and how to set boundaries when hospitality becomes a weapon. The takeaway is clear: you don’t win people over by cooking harder; you reclaim your dignity by listening to the message and acting accordingly.

Then we tackle a relationship curveball: a partner who says he’ll only marry if the relationship is open. No warning, no alignment, just an ultimatum. We break down why core values like monogamy aren’t features to toggle, how “honesty” can still function as a test of your limits, and why leaving with clarity can be the kindest outcome for both people. Open relationships can work for those who choose them; they don’t work as surprise conversions at the edge of a proposal.

We also look ahead: daily run streaks, a 200-hour yoga teacher certification for mobility and mental health, and a new children’s book project shaped by real counseling needs in Title I schools. Add in some side-eye for USPS delays and sick shoppers without masks, plus music hopes for intimate venues and fresh collaborations, and you’ve got a conversation that feels like good gumbo, comforting, layered, and honest. If you’re craving community and permission to choose yourself, press play and sit with us.

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The Refreshingly Normal Podcast.

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Welcome back, everyone. Thank you for tuning in to the Refreshingly Normal Podcast. I am one of your hosts, Keith La.

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I am your other host, Lou Krisha.

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So today we're coming to you with uh post-Christmas joy. So hopefully you had a great holiday, a great Christmas. I know we did.

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Shaw did.

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Um the entire week was uh fun-filled, exciting.

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Relaxing.

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Yeah, yeah, very relaxing. Very, very relaxing. Um, simple menu and everything. So let's get into it.

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Get into it.

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So, Krisha, tell me how was your week?

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Um, my week was great. So, of course, y'all know our last day was Friday from work. Um, Saturday, we did a little bit of Santa Clausing. Sunday, I don't know what we did. Oh, well, we originally What was the party? That was Sunday. We originally had plans to do every year we do our Christmas uh dinner, brunch, dinner. But poor old Kimani had the flu.

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Again.

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Again. So I will yeah, last year he did. Well, it wasn't well, I don't know if he had last year or not.

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But anywho, yeah, he was sick last year when we got to do our dinner. No, last year was in Kansas.

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Oh, but but we we did it prior to Christmas. Anyways, but he was sick, so we didn't we went went ahead and canceled our reservations. Um, but my um niece, she had a Christmas gathering at her house. So almost everyone was there except the flu got quite a few people. Kimani didn't get to go. Jessica wasn't there. Yeah, great nieces and niece weren't there because they weren't feeling well either. And so, um, yeah, flu's been getting everybody, but it was a good old time. They had fun games and prizes and this one.

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This one. Oh my god. I told y'all last week.

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I am competitive. I did not deny that.

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She didn't cheat, though.

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I didn't cheat.

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She was she was diving on the floor, diving on the table when they was doing what's it called? Cup uh uh musical. Musical chairs. It's like musical chairs, but it's musical cups where you walk around the table and you gotta grab a plastic cup. This one diving all over the place. And but then the music got too good to her, and she was dancing a little too much, and by the time the music stopped, she was a little too slow.

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Yeah, I don't even need a prize. Just being the winner is prize enough for me. So we did that on Sunday. My in-laws came Sunday, they met us over there, and um, they stayed with us all the way till this morning.

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Yeah, they left this morning by 6 o'clock AM.

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Yeah, so uh I gotta call and make sure they made it in. Yeah, they are texting us sometimes. They made it in. They text me. Oh, they texted me.

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Yeah, see?

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Yeah, they texted me. They made it a long while ago.

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These my parents now. Texted her, but didn't text they took me.

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Oh, they did text me, and I already um sent the message back. And um, yep, and so the whole week was filled with we did a little bit of more shopping, um grocery shopping, yeah, Trader Joe's shopping.

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Yeah, I had to go to Trader Joe's uh Tradere's Joseph's.

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He loves Trader Joe's. Did that um Christmas um day was great. Um we did a dinner, just quiet dinner here. Um we didn't host this year. We wanted just to kind of keep it nice and mild. And well, originally he was maybe not even gonna be here right now, but um plans changed, and so he last minute plans. Last minute plans changed, and so um he was here. So that was one reason why we wanted to keep it simple too. But right, um, but yeah, and dinner was delicious. I'll let you share about dinner because our week was really mostly spent together.

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Together.

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Um, so anyways, it was a good week of holiday stuff, but still didn't feel too crazy. Some of the last minute shopping was a little bit crazy because we talked about the people driving crazy.

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Yeah.

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But uh bananas. Yeah, but other than that, it wasn't too bad.

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No, no, it was it was a it was a great week.

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How was it for you?

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It was it was not fast-paced. Uh got up when we wanted to get up. Um, you know, didn't, you know, cook breakfast and stuff like that. And I try to make sure my mom and dad set their butts down. Uh had one busy day that day when everybody had appointments and stuff. You that's when you went and got away.

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Oh yeah. Oh yeah. That was the big I had my mammogram.

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Hair appointment right now. Shutter hair appointments but we were working, I was working at my older brother's uh burning some uh you talking about no small piles. It was huge piles. We had to use like diesel fuel and everything. But we were we were out there like that one show, I think it's called Fire Country. I think it is. It's that's what I felt like out there. Yeah. I felt like smoking a bear out there. Only you can prevent forest fires. And I was out there preventing forest fires.

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Yeah.

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I feel like I've just been eating all week, like that one little lady that says, I'm just gonna sit, eat bread, and just get all fat and sassy. Sassy.

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That's how I bread desserts and sands.

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Bread to desserts and just get all sassy. Fat and sassy. That's how I feel. Fat and sassy.

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That's how we owe it to ourselves.

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But yeah.

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Because Thanksgiving, we we just had that one meal. We didn't have no leftovers. No. And but it was crazy because knowing that we were gonna have leftovers, I was like really making sure. Everything was cool. Oh, yeah. I was really flavoring it up this time. And it was very good.

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Yeah, Kimani made these yeast rolls. Yeah.

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Yum. They were so good. They were like about that big.

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They were huge.

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Yeah. They were huge. And then I made an amazing five-flavor pound cake that I got from Malachi's mom, Mrs. Brown.

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Malachi is the boy's garbage.

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Yeah, one of my closest friends. My BFF from Dallas. He and I used to sing in a choir together.

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The church choir.

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Yeah, we used to cut up in the choir together.

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They did, used to cut up together.

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Yeah. And um, let's see what else we did. Uh what else? That cocoa. Costco turkey was so good.

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Oh, yeah, we had that on.

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So look, if y'all look, don't sleep on that Costco smoked turkey. Get it. And then, you know, put it up. Dress it up yourself. Yeah, because we bought it before Thanksgiving. And um we had bought two. So one we took to Kansas and then we hit this one up. It was a 12-pound turkey. And like you said, we still got leftovers in there. Um so delicious. And then I also put my foot in my delicious greens, as always. You know. Um lobster mac and cheese.

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Mm-hmm. Uh and I did oh, I did the Mississippi roast.

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Yeah, she had a roast. I don't know how it tastes because I don't eat the road. Delicious.

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It was very good.

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Smelled good.

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It was very good.

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Yeah.

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So I added vegetables to it. They don't add vegetables to it on the recipe, but there are people who felt like, ain't no vegetables in it. You didn't buy no carrots, potatoes. The person who can't even eat it.

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You ain't buying no potatoes.

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But I'm a chef, though.

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But I'm a chef.

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I do know how to cook.

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So I added some vegetables to it, and they were good.

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That's right. It's supposed to be.

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Yeah.

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Yeah. So that's that's uh really good. Got some great gifts. Um the boys, you know, they everybody got clothes. That's when you know you're getting older, everybody getting clothes, practical items. Yeah. Everybody got stuff that we can go to work with, you know, uh, and work out in. So that's it. That's that's what my week was. And uh we got one more week left. Ooh, ooh, ooh.

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We don't have to go. That feels so good. It does, because Thanksgiving was like, well, we gotta go back on Monday. But we're like, nope.

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Now we got one more week with nothing to do. Yay. Like I got a doctor's appointment on the 30th. I think I got physical therapy one of those days. I might have to cancel, switch it. Because I think it might be on the 30th. Okay. But um, I don't know. And then that's it. And we're having gumbo for New Year's. Yeah. Gumbo for New Year's. And sit down and watch some football. It's no more Christmas shows. You can't watch Christmas shows, not Christmas anymore.

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You can watch whatever you want on the Christmas. No, you cannot. No, you can't, because he has all these rules.

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But they look, okay. If you could watch Christmas shows all year long, why don't they like just publicize them all year long?

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I mean, they're usually.

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They come out during Christmas time.

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Because it is Christmas, man.

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Exactly. So that means you can't watch them after Christmas. Once Christmas is over, no more Christmas shows. Okay. I was just telling you, that's it. So be happy about that. All right, what's next? You ready for your you got your stories ready?

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Oh, yes, I do have my stories ready. So the first story is believe it. Believe it, sister.

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Believe it, sister. All right.

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I missed it. All right, so believe it, sister. The story is there's a lady who is married, and she goes to her in-laws' house and um for the holidays, and she was bringing, I don't know if this was a second marriage or later marriage, but she goes to her in-laws' house, and you know, when you have your in-laws, everybody brings a dish. And so she would bring, um, she says she has great family recipes. And she, the first dish she brought was called like an upside down, upside down, excuse me, pumpkin pie. And she said it is very delicious. Nobody ate it.

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I don't think nobody would have aid it if she would have brought it to our crib.

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Okay, so then she was like confused, like, why didn't why didn't no one ate? No, why didn't anyone eat it? So then she brought it again the next year. Okay. Nobody ate it again. So she was like, Well, why would they not eat it? Because you would think maybe somebody ate some. It was like, oh girl, don't try that upside down pumpkin pie. It is disgusting, right? But they didn't even cut it, they didn't even cut the pumpkin pie. So then she's like, Okay, let me try it at work. So she took it to a work pot luck, and at work, the people raved about how good it was.

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This is delicate.

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Yeah.

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So she says, Okay, well, I don't know, maybe they just don't want to have something that I cook at the family function. So the next year she didn't make anything, she brought soda. They didn't even touch her soda. Somebody says, Oh, we need to go to the store to get soda, and did not even drink the soda that she brought. Then she was like, What? So maybe people don't drink soda. Like, she's trying to figure out why they won't touch anything that she brings to the family gathering. So the last thing she tried, because I guess much like my mother-in-law, if there's dessert, she has to have a cup of coffee. And she says her mother-in-law loves coffee. So she found like the coffee that she likes, the creamer she likes, high quality, things she knows they like, she brought. Nobody touched it. And in fact, the mother-in-law said she didn't like coffee anymore.

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So wait a minute, you forgot.

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What did I forget?

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A slice of pie.

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Oh, that was oh. Before the soda and the coffee, she tried her family, family's uh cheesecake recipe. And so she went and she was a little bit disappointed that it was only one slice cut, but that's better than nobody doing the other one. But then when she went to the trash can to throw away something, there was a slice of the cheesecake in the trash. So nobody made it. So somebody maybe was trying to make her feel bad.

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At least trying to.

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But they didn't even try to put nothing on top of the trees.

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Somebody probably told us, uh-uh-uh-uh, we don't do that. We don't eat her stuff. Yeah. Throw it in the trash now. But I like her. Uh put it away.

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Yeah.

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Put it away.

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So she's decided that now for the family function, she's not gonna bring anything.

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I'm gonna bring myself.

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Her that's what I'm saying. Her husband is like, you know, he understands why she wouldn't bring anything. But she's like thinking, should her husband do more?

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He should. What's up with all these stories with these weak men not saying something?

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Maybe they're mama's boys.

SPEAKER_05:

Well, they're still a weak man.

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Yeah.

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If you can't say anything to your parents, you know, that's and it's obviously insulting and infuriating your spouse or your significant other, that's weak.

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Mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_05:

I mean, it is just call it what it is, but that's weak, you know. You don't have to be disrespectful when you address it. Yeah. But you can at least say, look, I don't appreciate what y'all are doing here. And I love y'all and all this, but if if she doesn't feel welcome, you know, then it's almost like saying we're both not welcome.

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Yeah, to me, she was so focused on them not eating her dish or trying her dish, my immediate thought was they don't like her. I mean, because sh she stopped cooking.

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So whether you thought she was if she can't cook, I understand she can't cook and then the food.

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I've experienced that.

SPEAKER_05:

Yeah. But that's when you get the plate, you fold the plate and put it in the trash can. And you put the plate upside down in the trash can.

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Yeah, because we yeah, we that's when somebody's full of the case. I've experienced that. And then we all just get it.

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Yeah.

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And then everybody just kind of pick around and say, oh, and if you're my mother-in-law, you'll say.

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Mm-mm.

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Mm-mm. Mm-hmm. What you do to these?

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Ooh.

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What you do to these? These are nice.

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These are delicious.

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How'd you how'd you cook then? Where'd you get this recipe from? Yeah, we've heard that before.

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We've heard it.

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Yeah.

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But anywho.

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But I'm gonna put that, I'm I'm well, I'm the last to eat all always anyway, because I want to make sure everybody's, you know, even when I go to somebody else's place.

SPEAKER_02:

Also, he's very meticulous about how he does his plate.

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Yeah, because they don't want nobody pushing me. I have a vegetable plate, then a meat plate. But I'm really last because I just want to make sure everything is, you know, people get what they want. And then, but a plus to that is people that eat before me can say, I can look at their face.

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Oh, and 10.

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And when they eat some, they'll look around, they'll say, this right here. Don't get that. So then I left that one time I left that stuff off my plate.

SPEAKER_02:

Yeah, you left it off your plate.

SPEAKER_05:

I left it off my plate. But yeah, they don't like her because the soda. The yeah, stuff that she didn't even make.

SPEAKER_02:

Well, she just barred.

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They did not like.

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So anything that's a part of her, they had nothing to do with it. So her being so focused on that, I just feel like she never did say, I I don't think they like me. And I just want to see.

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But she knows.

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They don't like you.

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Yeah, she knows.

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Believe it, sister.

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That that that soda and the coffee solidified it.

SPEAKER_02:

Yeah, and I'm like you. Um, after the soda and then the coffee, and then I know you like coffee, and now all of a sudden you don't like coffee. You do not like it.

SPEAKER_05:

Okay, bet.

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I'm not going to another function.

SPEAKER_05:

Yeah, I'm good.

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That that I I'm sure she feels uncomfortable.

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I'm good.

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Yeah, that just, I mean, like, there's nobody. Like, there's nobody that is like, let me try uh Kathy's pie. Like, there's nobody that's going to like everybody's against her. What do you think she did?

SPEAKER_05:

Unless Kathy.

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She was the side chick, but now why not?

SPEAKER_05:

No, unless Kathy had uh some video or they got evidence of her animals crawling all on the countertop.

SPEAKER_02:

Okay, but that says for the pie, but what about for the soda?

SPEAKER_05:

The soda, they just don't like it. That's what I'm saying. That's what that's what solidified.

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Yeah, that's solidify it.

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Because that soda, God dog. Or, you know, unless you bought diet and they like, they don't like diet soda.

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Maybe.

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You know, but shoot. But she would at least say, I bought the wrong soda. You know, everybody, I forgot everybody bought, you know, they like soda. They like Pepsi products. Yes. But um, for them not to like, or not even not to like, for them to say, Oh, we don't have no soda, I'd be like, Yes, we do, we got this. Oh, nah, we don't drink that kind. Oh, okay. I'd have took my soda right then and put it in the trunk.

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Mm-hmm.

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And then say, oh, I don't like coffee no more. Oh, okay, bet.

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Mm-hmm.

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And uh, you know, I've been like, Well, what who who used the coffee pot? Mm-hmm. You know you want that coffee pot? I'll take it off your hands because I love coffee.

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Mm-hmm. I just, and th what's so unfortunate is that that was a lot of people's story this holiday.

SPEAKER_03:

Yeah.

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That they went places where people did not make them feel welcomed. And and I wonder why they don't like her. I wonder what happened.

SPEAKER_05:

Well, that could be a lot of things. It could be something she did, or it could just be, you know, there's some evil people in this world.

SPEAKER_02:

Yeah. Maybe it's a mama who is, you know her place is taken. Yeah. And she's having a hard time with that. Maybe because she's not um the most important person in her son's life.

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Yeah.

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And so she wants to make the girl feel welcomed.

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Remember that uh Love at First Sight, where that dude had that mama, and he was like, he remembered they was like, it was several years back, but he was a jerk to that girl. Um, and his mama was, he was like, everything was about his mama. I forgot that one, but it was huge. I mean, everybody was talking about it. But it was, I think she they were from this area or whatever, but it was love at first sight, and and his mama was everything. Oh love. I mean everything.

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Yeah, I can't remember.

SPEAKER_05:

It was a black couple. Uh I forgot, but he was a straight jerk to that girl. A straight jerk to that girl.

SPEAKER_02:

I forgot that name. Oh, I. Remember, I remember, um, dang it, I can't think of, and she, yeah, I felt so bad for her. Mm-hmm. Like, I don't know why he went on that show. But he was really acting like he was some something that he was right, right.

SPEAKER_05:

He was so cut getting caught up in his lies.

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And all his lies and all that. I remember that it was the one that was filmed here in Atlanta.

SPEAKER_05:

Yeah. He's straight jerk.

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I remember that. I felt so bad for that girl.

SPEAKER_05:

You know, but she, and mom wasn't, you know, yeah, that's my baby. That's this, that. Leave that alone. Don't even fight that battle.

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Mm-mm. So I hope that you all did not have to endure um in-laws or boyfriends, families that treated y'all terribly.

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Yeah.

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And if they did, you set your boundaries.

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Yeah. Wake up, new year, new you-boo.

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Mm-mm. Don't go next year.

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Mm-mm.

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You let them people know that you ain't the one.

SPEAKER_05:

Yep.

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Because they don't like you.

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Yep.

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And believe it the first time.

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That's right. Don't take, don't look, unpack your old suitcase.

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Mm-hmm.

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You don't take your summer suitcase on a winter trip.

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Mm-mm.

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You understand what I'm saying? That means that luggage that you, that old luggage, you don't carry it over to the new trip of 2026.

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Don't be like, you need to pack something new. Don't be trying to make it work because you want a man so bad.

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That's right. There's a lot of men out there.

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It sure is, whose families will love you.

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Uh-huh.

SPEAKER_02:

Vice versa. Same for the men.

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That's right. Leave them alone. I'll be done. You're not going me to my parents. Nope, they don't like me anyway. They never said that. They actioned it. That's what they did. They minded it.

SPEAKER_00:

Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_05:

Should have just put on some white gloves and said. Yep. You saw that?

SPEAKER_02:

I saw. That's right.

SPEAKER_05:

That was good. All right. What's the other story you had?

SPEAKER_02:

Oh, the other story was a girl that had been dating a guy for two years. They actually started talking about marriage. She was saying that she was Asian culture. And Asian culture, I guess, if you're dating so long that people begin to press you about marriage. And so she said he was the perfect guy.

SPEAKER_05:

So she's strong in that culture. That means the guy was probably Asian.

SPEAKER_02:

Uh-huh. She said he was the perfect guy. Um, he like checked all the boxes for her. Um, but then when they began to talk about marriage, uh oh no, something changed. And so she didn't realize there was an unchecked box.

SPEAKER_05:

Didn't check.

SPEAKER_02:

So he said for marriage that he's just not cannot agree to being monogamous, that for marriage he needed to marry someone if her that would be okay with them having an open marriage. Now she said that did not work for her because she never ever wanted to um be in a relationship where she had to share someone, right? She also said that that wasn't something that they dealt with when they were dating him, cheating, or anything like that.

SPEAKER_05:

That's what she thinks.

SPEAKER_02:

That's what she said that he wasn't a cheater. And so she said it wasn't something she wanted to do. So she said, well, then maybe this should be done. So she um was like trying to pack up and leave because they were like either had things at each other's houses or trying to break it off, and then he would switch from um you gotta let me have all the ladies, to no, I really want to be with you. No, please don't leave. This and that. And so then she kind of goes, Well, I don't know, maybe I should. And then they talk about marriage again, and then he goes back to that, you gotta be okay with me having other ladies, and then she be one ready to leave again, and then he say wanna pull her back in. Um, and she just know, I mean, she knows, like for her, she does not want to be in an open marriage, and she's wondering if she is if he's a perfect guy and he checks all the boxes, should she be okay with this open marriage?

SPEAKER_05:

No.

SPEAKER_02:

Because that box is not checked.

SPEAKER_05:

Yeah, I mean, first, first of all, for her saying that, for him saying once he's married, then he wants an open relationship. You know, that's you don't just start into something.

SPEAKER_02:

That's a huge He also said it was okay for her to date other people too. What one-sided, like they just still.

SPEAKER_05:

That's I mean, that's his, you know, that's his excuse for being fine with what he's doing. But and if he if if they've been engaged for a while and he hasn't pressed the issue, that's probably why he hasn't pressed the issue is because he was out there being open in in this relationship. You know, um, and the first time you bring that to me and say, okay, but when we get married, we gotta have an open relationship. Oh, we're done. Ain't no coming back and getting back because the last thing I want you to get what you want, we're together, and then all of a sudden I find out you're in this open relationship, and you be like, Well, I kind of I told you, I thought I was gonna be able to do it, but you know, to be monogamous, but it was just calling me, you know, it's just that kudo was calling me. I had to have it. Say, no, better gone somewhere.

SPEAKER_02:

Yeah, I just think he's he is very much um entertaining other ladies right now.

SPEAKER_05:

Oh, yeah. He over there, yeah. Um he's dibbling dappling.

SPEAKER_02:

Yeah, uh without a doubt, because I just don't know how you go to monogamous boyfriend girlfriend to not being monogamous married.

SPEAKER_05:

That's so backwards.

SPEAKER_02:

It is, it makes zero sense. Um, so I think she's a bit naive in thinking that right now he's not cheating, right? And so um that to me, if she if that is a red flag as big as the state of Texas that is flying right in her face.

SPEAKER_00:

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02:

And if she's that's insane, yeah, and you know immediately if you're that I mean, there are certain people that can do open relationships.

SPEAKER_05:

Yeah, that's yeah, it works. For some people, that's what they do, you know. Neo enjoying it right now.

SPEAKER_02:

Yeah, he's enjoying it. Um, but you know right now that that is not for you. So for you uh setting your boundary and saying no, don't let him with his little he knows that you are a prize as well. That's why he keeps saying that's why he won't let you all the way go let you go all the way go because he's hoping he can be manipulative and conniving enough to talk you into something that you don't really want to do. Yeah, leave him because he wants his cake and eat it too, is what he wants.

SPEAKER_05:

He's been eating it.

SPEAKER_02:

Mm-hmm. So um I would say, mm-mm. And as soon as he told me we talked about marriage, and he said he didn't want to be monogamous. That was a what you say?

SPEAKER_05:

Yeah, what you say moment.

SPEAKER_02:

Uh-uh.

SPEAKER_05:

All right. Thank you for telling me now.

SPEAKER_02:

Telling me now. I appreciate it. So that was she dodged a bullet.

SPEAKER_05:

Yeah. And then I would have took that next day off, moved all of my stuff out of there when you was at work.

SPEAKER_00:

Yes.

SPEAKER_05:

Or she was at work and been out of that camp. Being like, mm-hmm. What happened to such and such? You know, I thought they checked all the boxes, but then we went to the storage room and I seen a whole bunch of other boxes. No man. No man, a whole bunch of boxes.

SPEAKER_02:

Yeah, you just would have been miserable.

SPEAKER_05:

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02:

Um, saying yes to that. Because to me, that was really um when you get to a point of you just want a husband that bad. Um and then for sometimes people feel like, oh, I've been with them 10 years, I've been with them five years. Okay. I invested so much time. Girl, don't be a fool.

SPEAKER_03:

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02:

No. You know what you want, and there'll be somebody else that will check all of those boxes and will be willing to be monogamous and be exactly what you want.

SPEAKER_05:

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02:

So he was good for a time.

SPEAKER_05:

Yeah, you dodged that bullet. And it's a big thing. Well, I don't know if you dodged it or not. We just read the story. We don't know what you did.

SPEAKER_02:

Yeah, you might be with him.

SPEAKER_05:

If you out there, sugar bow and you hear this story, say, that sounds like me.

SPEAKER_02:

It is you.

SPEAKER_05:

And you need to leave him alone.

SPEAKER_02:

Show do.

SPEAKER_05:

Yes.

SPEAKER_02:

Don't be a fool.

SPEAKER_05:

That's right.

SPEAKER_02:

Mm-mm. Because you're gonna be miserable.

SPEAKER_05:

Right.

SPEAKER_02:

And I hope to goodness gracious that you did not marry him.

SPEAKER_05:

Yeah. I hope you didn't need.

SPEAKER_02:

Mm-mm. Because if you did.

SPEAKER_05:

I hope it's going well for I hope it's it' whatever the situation, I hope you got what you want. You know, or you learn to adjust to what it is that you like.

SPEAKER_02:

Mm-mm.

SPEAKER_05:

But if it's not what you want, then leave it.

SPEAKER_02:

Know that from the beginning.

SPEAKER_05:

Yeah. Yeah, you do you gotta do that. But sometimes people don't know.

SPEAKER_02:

They don't. And they rush to seal. They do, but when people tell you, like, I mean, I would say thank good, thank God he was uh honest.

SPEAKER_05:

That's correct. He told you.

SPEAKER_02:

So then you're able to make the best decision. He you didn't find out after the fact. So I thank goodness he was um honest.

SPEAKER_05:

Yeah. So that you could make I you can't be mad at a person, well, you can be, but I'm not mad at a person that tells me honestly up front what they feel or what they do. Because now you've given me the chance to make the decision whether or not I want to continue on. And if I, if I whatever it is, if you say, look, you know, I really like you, but I like dating other people. And I don't think it's gonna stop. I'll be like, oh, okay, I appreciate you telling me that. And I can cut it off and I won't have no ill will towards you. I can bump into you at Kroger or Publix and be like, hey, what's going on? How's everything doing going? Yeah, okay, good seeing you, you know. All that good stuff. But if you try to trick me or lie to me, that's when we got a problem. You know, so but yeah, he he he told you.

SPEAKER_02:

He was honest.

SPEAKER_05:

Yeah, he told you he was honest about marriage.

SPEAKER_02:

Yes, he was honest about marriage. Now I think he's he is telling the tell about oh, it's gonna start at marriage.

SPEAKER_05:

Yeah, I don't think that's true. I don't think that's true.

SPEAKER_02:

Mm-mm. And then he's also being the now after he's told you all this and you leave it, now the games are beginning. And that trying to Yeah. Stay. I I stopped. I'm not gonna do it no more. Yes, I am back in. Yes, I am. I'm not gonna do it. You're like it.

SPEAKER_05:

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02:

Yeah. Do not get caught up in the game.

SPEAKER_05:

Yeah, yeah, leave that alone. Go ahead and go ahead and retire from that sport. Or play another one.

SPEAKER_02:

Don't let them do you that way, sister.

SPEAKER_05:

No, ma'am. Not not today.

SPEAKER_02:

Yeah, you gotta know your worth.

SPEAKER_05:

I know that's much.

SPEAKER_02:

Know your worth.

SPEAKER_05:

I'm worth a whole lot. A whole lot.

SPEAKER_02:

Oh, yeah. Tell them what your name means. What does Kifa mean?

SPEAKER_05:

It means worth dying for. That's right. It means worth dying for. So I'm worth a whole lot.

SPEAKER_02:

A whole life.

SPEAKER_05:

That's right. Oh, tell them what your name means.

SPEAKER_02:

Brings light.

SPEAKER_05:

That ain't what that what that song said.

SPEAKER_02:

It was It means. What is it? Okay, first of all, first of all, it it has a um like um Spanish Latin. Um it comes from there. And it does actually mean brings light. However, my mama got my name from a 70s rock and roll song. And it's like, Chris, the evil woman's child. And so I told so one time this lady sang it to me when I told her my name. I said, My mama got my mom got it from a 70s rock and roll song. She goes, Oh, I know that song. She's like, oh, she was singing it to me. And so I told my mom, I go, and so I looked it up. And I listened, I was like, what in the world? She's like, don't worry about what the song says. The name is beautiful. I just like the name, so that's why I chose it. So, anyways, but it was it's a crazy rock and roll song, so you should hear it's about this. I'm the I'm the daughter of an evil woman, and uh so, anyways, yeah.

SPEAKER_05:

This is a ladybug flying around.

SPEAKER_02:

It's not all those brown ones because they bite.

SPEAKER_05:

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02:

Oh, it is a brown one.

SPEAKER_05:

It's on the core. As long as he stayed on the core, we could. It's because uh the weather has been so hot here.

SPEAKER_02:

Yeah, it's been the weather.

SPEAKER_05:

Shorts on all day yesterday.

SPEAKER_02:

Everywhere it's been crazy because yeah, it's been um cold and hot. It's gonna be cold in a few days.

SPEAKER_05:

Yep.

SPEAKER_02:

That's just what the weather's like.

SPEAKER_05:

Thounding much know.

SPEAKER_02:

Don't even.

SPEAKER_05:

All right, so when we film our next one.

SPEAKER_02:

Yeah.

SPEAKER_05:

We're already being to the New Year's, right? When is the New Year's?

SPEAKER_02:

Yes, we will be. The New Year's is Wednesday.

SPEAKER_05:

Okay, cool. So, unless we film prior. Yeah. But um, what are you looking forward to for 2026? We're just gonna do like it's not we're not gonna go on. We're just gonna say Quick and Fast. Yeah, because we get we have the first episode of the year that we'll actually talk about, yeah.

SPEAKER_02:

Yeah, we actually talked about as a family yesterday, which was funny kind of to everybody kind of talk about what they're looking forward to or goals or things.

SPEAKER_05:

Yeah, we had what we said, a physical goal, mental goal, professional, professional, and spiritual.

SPEAKER_02:

Yeah. Um, you know, I thought about as we were talking about that when I was taking my shower last night. I was like, you know, people say, I don't I don't like to do um New Year's resolutions, yeah. Um, and you know what? I said, you know who said that who came up with that? Are people who can't successfully um do the resolution that we're gonna do?

SPEAKER_05:

Makes them seem like a failure.

SPEAKER_02:

Yeah.

SPEAKER_05:

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02:

Um, and so um, anywho, this year, y'all know one of my goals was to run every day. Um, so I just want to kind of continue on that path. So um I'm looking forward to um now taking my run into another goal. So extending that to marathons and different things like that, that's gonna be something I'm gonna be striving for for 2026. And then I am thinking about writing a children's book.

SPEAKER_05:

I've been wanting to write one for a long time.

SPEAKER_02:

Yeah, and uh as a school counselor, I really want to tap into thinking about when I was teaching a lesson and thinking about our babies that are in Title I schools, that sort of thing, what is not in the market that will connect to them, but also um books that um areas of counseling, areas of wellness for children where there's a lack of that needs some support. So that is where I'm gonna put my um focus so that by the end of 2026 that I'll have something out there to buy or publish.

SPEAKER_05:

That sounds good to me.

SPEAKER_03:

What about you?

SPEAKER_05:

Um man, okay. Just in a nutshell, 2026. Um I definitely want to complete my yoga certification. You know, my 200-hour yoga teacher yoga instructor certification. That's uh probably top on my list because that's gonna help with everything. Because the more I practice that, the you know, I'm gonna help my mobility mobility, it's gonna help with my mental wellness, um, you know, it help with the fitness component. Um, but it's, you know, and then it's other things like losing weight, I want to do. Um which I was doing well when I got hurt, um, because that, you know, helps on the joints, and it's just you know, now seeing our parents getting old and moving around, it just it's a reality check. You know? And it doesn't feel good because you see them and I was like, dang. You used to them being so vibrant and moving well otherwise, and then you really seeing the health um just not uh they're getting older. Yeah, I know, but you know, trying to say it positively or you know, but it's just it you know, they're just not moving as good as they used to. And that's that's sad because the reality to it is, you know, what it is. And so it's like just take care of myself as much as I can to be around as long as I can. Um but the two I think the 200 hours is uh probably one of the number one things. Um so probably more than anything would be fitness. Yeah. Um I I was running a little bit and I was doing good. And then, like you said, it was just a little little ear injuries here and there, but we'll see what I can do. We'll see. But I definitely want to do this yoga thing because once I do that, I'll probably uh teach some classes here and there.

SPEAKER_02:

You can go you're going into detail, but not detail, detail. Okay.

SPEAKER_05:

Yeah, because it remember we like last time we did all these things. Okay. Yeah. But it's like just you know, do that. I want to teach some classes and and um put out some meditation uh clips. So when you're driving, when they're listening to us now, they can also, after the episode over, they can say, Oh, let me calm down a little bit, because I was laughing hysterically. And then they meditate to my voice.

SPEAKER_02:

Yeah.

SPEAKER_05:

I need to figure out how to get rid of this hateration in her spirit for the 2026, for the 9 9 and 2026.

SPEAKER_02:

2026.

SPEAKER_05:

Yep. So, um what is one thing from 2025? Oh gosh, that what that's your stay in 2025.

SPEAKER_02:

What is one thing for 2025 that should stay in 2020?

SPEAKER_05:

I know you asked why people say, oh, leave that 6'7 mess now. Oh, yeah. That don't bother me. That's for kids, it's like, especially the little kids when they do it. That's funny.

SPEAKER_02:

I'll tell you what. I'm not gonna get political.

SPEAKER_05:

Yeah, leave that mess in 2025.

SPEAKER_02:

All of the foolishness.

SPEAKER_05:

Leave that, leave that in 2025. Regardless.

SPEAKER_02:

We can leave all the, yeah, just the discourse and hate.

SPEAKER_05:

Yep, leave it in 2025.

SPEAKER_02:

Division. Yeah, I wish for sure.

SPEAKER_05:

You can say you can come at me and you wanna, but leave it in 2025.

SPEAKER_02:

It's just really discourse, division, and and chaos and unintelligence. Yeah, uh ignorance. Yeah, and I I just want to into 2026 to bring that empathy and unity and um um intelligence.

SPEAKER_05:

Yeah, I want it to win hard too. Yeah, I want intelligence and good to win so hard that it just slaps the taste out of out of out of the uh ignorance uh that we are dealing with in this last part of the year. I'm trying to slap it just like that's a slap. Like really, like just you know what I mean.

SPEAKER_02:

Yeah, we just yeah. Um I don't know what I want to leave. Cause you know, I'm I feel like everything does have its purpose. Um and that's what allows people to grow or to wake up or to reflect on, oh, we I gotta do something a little bit different.

SPEAKER_05:

Yeah, but you also have the ability to hope.

SPEAKER_02:

Yeah. Uh-huh.

SPEAKER_05:

So what would you know, what would you hope for? Okay, here let me reframe the question. Going into 2026, you have the power to see anything, do anything that you want to do. Let's say, uh Entertaining wise, what would you like to see in 2025?

SPEAKER_01:

What do you mean, entertaining wise?

SPEAKER_05:

Like, say, ooh, I would love to to for Beyonce to come out with something of what kind of okay, let's go with Beyonce. If she was coming out with something in 2026, you know how everybody's trying to figure out what act three is. What would you want it to be?

SPEAKER_02:

I would want act three to be ratchet.

SPEAKER_05:

Uh who'd you want on there?

SPEAKER_02:

Ratchet, Ratchet Rap.

SPEAKER_05:

Who who you want? Who you want?

SPEAKER_02:

Uh Glow Rilla. Uh Meg the Stallion, Cardi Bean. Um Lotto, Ratchet enough. Oh, Lotto. Mm-hmm. I take Lotto. Um who else would I want to see Beyonce with? Um the guys. What would be the guys I'd want to see her with? Um I don't know the guys like that.

SPEAKER_05:

You want to see her with Gucci Man?

SPEAKER_00:

Nah.

SPEAKER_05:

What about Boosie?

SPEAKER_00:

Nah.

SPEAKER_05:

What about the plies for sure?

SPEAKER_00:

Nah.

SPEAKER_05:

What? Plies always come with something.

SPEAKER_00:

They old.

SPEAKER_05:

Yeah, but still.

SPEAKER_02:

Mm-mm.

SPEAKER_05:

Um Beyoncé old.

SPEAKER_02:

I know she old, but she's gotta have some appeal with the new and young.

SPEAKER_05:

Plies got appeal with the new and Gulwal got to appeal with new and young.

SPEAKER_02:

What's the one um African guy?

SPEAKER_05:

Um ratchet. Oh, you talking about uh that we was just watching which Martin was over here? But he ain't well, he can be ratcheted.

SPEAKER_02:

Oh, that'd be good.

SPEAKER_05:

Toby and Fat.

SPEAKER_02:

Yeah. That'd be good. Beyonce with them. I'd enjoy that.

SPEAKER_05:

Mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_02:

Yeah, I want to come out with something like that. I think everybody thinks she's gonna come heavy metal, hard rock. Um, I hope it's not that. I hope act three is not that.

SPEAKER_05:

Um I'm hoping it's something like she comes out with something young ratchet, we won't be able to hear what they're saying. Because they don't speak for everything.

SPEAKER_01:

They don't, but she, but her part would be.

SPEAKER_02:

Her part would be, but then I just think because she just naturally like has all that when she does some of the songs and the lyrics are fast, I just think it'll be good. I don't want to hear the rock. Um, but that's what I'm hoping is something like that.

SPEAKER_04:

All right.

SPEAKER_02:

Um I don't know. I'm wondering what it will be, but that's what I'm hoping it'll be.

SPEAKER_05:

What would be your give me three concerts? Three concerts you would like to attend if you knew they would if they were going on tour.

SPEAKER_02:

If they were going on tour, who would I want to see?

SPEAKER_05:

Um beaten path. So that's like not a Beyoncé, not a Janet, somebody off the beaten path.

SPEAKER_02:

I still want to see um Cleo Soul. Cleo. I still want to see Cleo Soul. Um, because she hasn't come everywhere. She just went to New York and to Calais.

SPEAKER_03:

That's right.

SPEAKER_02:

Um, so I still want to see Cleo Soul, and I want to see her in a uh Fox Theater sort of intimate sense.

SPEAKER_05:

Where did we see um Miss Tina?

SPEAKER_02:

That was uh Tabernacle.

SPEAKER_05:

Yeah, the Tabernacle.

SPEAKER_02:

Yeah, Tabernacle, Fox Theater, something like that is what um I would want to see her in.

SPEAKER_03:

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02:

Um, yeah. Um who else? I don't know. Who would you want to see?

SPEAKER_05:

Cleo soul. Uh Snow Allegra.

SPEAKER_02:

Yep, Snow Allegra, for sure.

SPEAKER_05:

And um uh let's see, let's see. On the guys in oh, uh Duran Bernard.

SPEAKER_00:

What does Duran Bernard think?

SPEAKER_05:

That's that skinny dude me and Kimoney was talking about.

SPEAKER_00:

Oh. I could be a freak. Until the dog. Until the dog.

SPEAKER_05:

Yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_00:

Yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_05:

I would like to see him.

SPEAKER_02:

You know, I want to see, but she's some she's been in big venues, but you've seen her in concert before. I've never, Erica Badu.

SPEAKER_05:

Yeah, yeah, yeah. Erica and Jill. I would love to see both of them.

SPEAKER_02:

I would love to see both of them. I I haven't seen either of them in concert. So I'd enjoy to see, I would enjoy seeing them. Um but in a smaller setting, I would want to see them in. Um, yeah.

SPEAKER_05:

Yeah, okay. All right, all right. All right. 2026. What would you want to see? Well, I guess we'll pour it we'll pour it into next week. We'll pour that into next week. Because we're going to talk about where would you like to travel?

SPEAKER_02:

Oh, cool.

SPEAKER_05:

You know, where would you like for your big trip to be and your small trip?

SPEAKER_02:

Oh, I'll be I'll be thinking now.

SPEAKER_05:

Yeah, your big trip and your small trip. Um and then like uh what else? What else? And you know, other little small things like that. Yeah.

SPEAKER_02:

I hope that you're ready. And make sure you have your cue cards ready so that you won't be having to um and hum and hem and haul.

SPEAKER_05:

Well, make sure you have some water to drink so you won't be.

SPEAKER_01:

Did I do that this time?

SPEAKER_02:

I'm working on that. I'm leaving that in 2025.

SPEAKER_05:

All right. So let's go to the side eye of the week. You ready?

SPEAKER_02:

You ready? Go then.

SPEAKER_05:

Oh, I gotta remember what I said it was gonna be.

SPEAKER_02:

I got a side-eye for the USPS Postal Services. I ordered my mother-in-law's gift December 6th. Did it make it? No, it made it the day after Christmas. So I don't know why USPS was so slow. I don't know if it has something to do with the days off that they were given at the last minute.

SPEAKER_03:

I don't know.

SPEAKER_02:

Um, because even the gift that my mama sent for us did not make it till the day after Christmas. And she definitely sent it in enough time for it to make it by. It's supposed to actually make it December 22nd. Um, but it did not make it. So I don't know what happened with the USPS. I know y'all are hard workers, and but this was the first time that has ever occurred.

SPEAKER_05:

Yeah, no, our stuff normally gets there on time or get to us on time, at least.

SPEAKER_02:

Yeah, so that was really strange.

SPEAKER_05:

Nail mail this time.

SPEAKER_02:

So I'm side eyeing whoever messed things up.

SPEAKER_05:

Yeah. We're seeing you, buddy.

SPEAKER_03:

Mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_05:

Yep. And my side eye was while I was out doing, you know, like even when we were at the grocery store, Trader Joe's, all those different places, Costco, everybody that came out sick. I'm side eyeing you. You knew you were sick.

SPEAKER_02:

We're a mask.

SPEAKER_05:

If you, you know, Moki said, well, what? They don't have nobody that can go and get the stuff they need to get. You can get a mask, or you can get up early or go later. But don't go when everybody else is in the peak of the time. And I mean, like just coughing without covering your mouth, sneezing everywhere. And so when I hear, because this is what me and Krida do, like, somebody'll coughing, I'll be like, go, go, go, go, go, go, go, go, go, go, go, go. And we be trying to run past all the uh the coughing germs that What's it called when you playing football?

SPEAKER_02:

Ju what you do. Juke them. Juke 'em.

SPEAKER_05:

We be trying to juke the germs. And I'll be like, go, go, go, go, to the left, to the left, to the left. And we would dip out, or I'd say, here, cut down this aisle right now. And we'll go all the way down another aisle because somebody right in front of us coughed, just so we can try to go around another way.

SPEAKER_02:

When I went to the shoe store, that little young man that was telling me.

SPEAKER_05:

Oh, yeah, you said that.

SPEAKER_02:

At first he was talking to me, and then he seemed fine. And then when he came over to help me, he started coughing. And then I said, Are you sick? And he looked at me and I said, Listen, I'm not trying to offend you. I said, My son just got over the flu. And I'm I said, Baby, I'm not trying to be sick. I said, Go, I got it. And so then when I came to the front, he asked the girl, can you put her her shoes in the bag? She don't want to be sick. And the girl said, Well, are you sick? I said, Yes. Y'all don't hear him. He is sick. And so I told him, I said, I'm not trying to hurt your feelings. I said, but I sure I hope that you um um don't get you know real sick. But he was sick. And then I said, Lord me. And I know people gotta go to work because they gotta make that them. But that that young man was sick.

SPEAKER_05:

But wear a mask.

SPEAKER_02:

Yeah, he should wear a mask. Wear a mask.

SPEAKER_05:

You know, everybody sells masks now. After COVID, you can find masks at McDonald's, probably.

SPEAKER_02:

Right.

SPEAKER_05:

You know, but everybody sells masks, so just wear a mask.

SPEAKER_02:

But so many people were sick, and so sick were people's babies were having to be rushed to the hospital. Like some of these. She had the flu and in combo with the strep, and she had a seizure. They had to rush her to the hospital in the hospital for 10 days. So, like this flu is like it's something different.

SPEAKER_05:

And it's gonna be worse when we get back, because you know, anytime the gathering of people, and then we go, because all the traveling and stuff, then we get back to school. Normally that second week, or let's say kids come on Monday or Tuesday, Friday, you'll start hearing a lot of sniffles. Yeah, next week, oh, those numbers are down. I'm talking about five and six kids per class that are that are absent. And you know, it just starts whooping people's behind. So, yeah, that's my side eye. My side eye is.

SPEAKER_02:

You don't have to be out, don't.

SPEAKER_05:

Yeah. All right, what are you um what are you looking forward to this week right here?

SPEAKER_02:

Being home.

SPEAKER_05:

Me too.

SPEAKER_02:

Um I I am looking forward to our gumbo. See, at first we bought uh, we did buy lump crab to add.

SPEAKER_05:

Because we were gonna do lump crab and shrimp.

SPEAKER_02:

Today I saw Brisha Webb. It's a web.

SPEAKER_05:

Yeah, Brisha Webb. She's married now, though, so it's Brisha Webb something. Something. But she's still Brisha Webb.

SPEAKER_02:

Yeah, anyways, I saw Brisha's uh gumbo and she had the actual crab in there.

SPEAKER_05:

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02:

Oh, it looks so good. So we're putting crab legs in it.

SPEAKER_05:

Uh the international market and see if they got some crab legs.

SPEAKER_02:

I mean, because it's just the four of us, so we don't have to eat. Wouldn't Nicole be back then? Maybe.

SPEAKER_05:

We'll see.

SPEAKER_02:

We just don't eat all that. So she don't eat crab leg?

SPEAKER_00:

Mm-mm.

SPEAKER_02:

She eats shrimp. Remember every time. Remember, every time we go to get the crab oil, we get her chicken wings. Oh, we do get a chicken.

SPEAKER_05:

Well, I could get her some with some chicken.

SPEAKER_02:

Anyways, I do want to add um crab to our gumbo. So I'm looking forward to um the gumbo. Um, and then um cooking some crab ribs. I'm also I'm also looking forward to finishing my goal of running every day for 2025.

SPEAKER_05:

You're also looking forward to seeing what's you're gonna be your final uh reward on your cooking.

SPEAKER_02:

Oh, yes. So on my Apple Watch. I don't know, but you know how you have a monthly challenge. I have got I have met my monthly challenge every month this year. I uh I'm done with December, but you know, you don't get the medal till the end. And I'm wondering, is there another medal for completing every challenge for the year? I don't know. I'm not gonna look it up because I want to see what will happen. I'm hoping it's another medal. I know it don't mean nothing because it's just a digital medal, but anyways, I want one. So I I hope Apple has one for when you accomplish every challenge for the whole year. Yeah. For every month. Anyways, those are the things that I'm looking forward to. Um, and then I was gonna share one thing I look forward to, but I gotta wait just in case somebody listens and I don't want to ruin the surprise. Oh, okay. So I'll share it next week.

SPEAKER_05:

All right. I'm looking forward to uh, like I said, this is a week of nothingness.

SPEAKER_01:

Nothingness.

SPEAKER_05:

But I wanna I wanna be productive in this nothingness. I don't just want to be like, do nothing. You know, I'm still gonna get up, shower, and all that stuff.

SPEAKER_01:

I do have things to do.

SPEAKER_05:

Um, I want to find something to do. Um I don't wanna be like, oh, I'm gonna just do a total, complete house clean. No. Cause that's what I'm gonna stress me. But some stuff I will get rid of, like some of those clothes we got.

SPEAKER_02:

I am gonna do my closet. That's it. That's my one task.

SPEAKER_05:

Um Yeah, I'll do that corner, all those shirts I got, tons of. I think I'm gonna throw away like all my coaching shirts and shorts that I've collected over the years. I think I'm gonna just throw all that stuff away. Because most of the stuff I work out in are the like fabletic shorts. So um, but I'm looking forward to, like you said, the the ability to relax. I'm gonna finish my book this week, too. The one that's called the uh Celestine Prophecy. And it's a very good book. So I'm gonna finish that one. I'm almost finished. And probably start another book trying to decide which one would it be.

SPEAKER_02:

Oh, I need to start our book that um Oh yeah. Yeah, I'll do that so I can talk about next week.

SPEAKER_05:

Yeah. And all right, so uh what are you grateful for?

SPEAKER_02:

Um, I am uh grateful. I'm gonna say I'm grateful for my nail lady, Miss Kimmy. She gave me these cute little Hold them up.

SPEAKER_05:

So you ain't gotta put your feet, they might try to seal your toes on OnlyFans. Miss Kimmy, even though um anybody gonna get the money from the OnlyFans, it's gonna be us.

SPEAKER_02:

So my um nail lady, Miss Kimmy, she um she won't let you buy her things, which is like, you know, normally when you have like my hairdresser, I would get her something, and I would try to give her something. She will not let you get her anything.

SPEAKER_05:

I wonder. I would love just sit down and talk to Miss Kimmy. Like just like a like outside of the business, just like talk.

SPEAKER_02:

Yeah.

SPEAKER_05:

And see what you know.

SPEAKER_02:

She would not, she won't let me get her anything. And so her birthday was just December 16th, and I wanted to get her something. She would, she told me to get her French fries from McDonald's and make sure to get ketchup and mayo. So I did get her that. Um, and I got a little$10 gift card for McDonald's, and she was mad that I did that. She said, I told you the French fries were enough. And so um, yeah, she won't let you get anything. So she got me these and some uh perfume and things and lotions, and so it smells, it's so sweet. Like she did that last year. She got me a robe for Christmas, and for my birthday, she got me um a Lancome perfume, and so she's just really sweet. She just says that me being her customer and always coming to her is enough. So um, I'm grateful for people who are grateful for me.

SPEAKER_05:

Yeah, that's good. I am grateful for this uh holiday season, you know. I had a chance to spend it with my my siblings. Um, it's always good to know, you know, being around my brothers uh and all our craziness, uh, even though he tried to work me like a doll.

SPEAKER_00:

That's because you're a dirty dog.

SPEAKER_05:

Right, oh dirty dog. But uh we got a lot of work done that day. Just, you know, and we went above and beyond because it's, you know, if it was somebody else, I would have he would have said, hey, y'all done if y'all want, I would have bounced. But since it was my brother, you know, I'm you know, hey man, getting your yard right. You know, let's let's do it, you know, help you while you got the help. And uh, but I'm grateful for the time spent with family. Um really brought a lot of uh drive back into me, you know, just to just keep moving. It's like, you know, when when we would go home, it just energizes you, you know, when you're around family, you know, because it's like that's where it all started. And uh I was grateful for that. So all right, ladies and gentlemen, we're gonna bounce up out of this thing. I don't know what we're getting ready to do because it's kind of early, so I'm gonna edit this out, put it out tonight. It's uh before you still gotta run, huh?

SPEAKER_03:

Yeah.

SPEAKER_05:

Okay. So she still gotta do her run. I'm probably gonna go downstairs and watch a little television. And uh go from there. So this has been the Refreshingly Normal podcast with Kifla and Cree. This mother changed her name.

SPEAKER_02:

My mama did that on my gifts. One gift said to Cree from the Mama Dad. Next said to Crisha from Mama Dad. Next gift said to Lou Crisha from Mama Dad. She they call it, I mean, listen. So if they did it, then I can do it.

SPEAKER_05:

That makes sense now. I see where she gets it, honestly. So that's the good part about it. But uh we really appreciate y'all for listening. And um, hey, make sure you take us into the new year with you. And not only do you take us into the new year with you, you take us and you share us with someone else.

SPEAKER_02:

That's right. You better do it.

SPEAKER_05:

Yes, do it. That's right. All right. So here we go.

SPEAKER_02:

What you gonna do? Sing a song?

SPEAKER_05:

No, get ready, get up out of here. Oh this has been Kifla and Lacretia, the Refreshingly Normal Podcast. See you when we see you. Peace.

SPEAKER_02:

Bye.

SPEAKER_01:

How long was that?

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Can you see on this thing? Why do I look down at that name?

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The Refreshingly Normal Podcast.